Real Life Dating - Dating Tips Based on Real Life Experiences

TIP 4 MEN: How to get pretty online girls to reply to you

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 03:19:00 +0000

Ok, let's face it, pretty girls get tonnes (I mean tonnes) of emails or messages from dating or social networking sites. And most of them would sound like, "Hi, you're so pretty, and I really wish to get to know you better. I'm this...this..this...my number is this...keep in touch".

She'd go, BORING, BORING, DELETE!

Now, why don't you try, "Hey, are you sure that photo is you? I don't think so. What, did you go to the photo studios and get one of those artificial shots done with some PhotoShop effects on? Do you have a real picture? Ok, stop trying to fool all of us guys, and let's see what you REALLY look like..."

Chances are, she'll be saying to herself, "I'll show him", and she's going to send you a bunch of pictures and say, "No, really, this is me!". Then you'd have started the ball rolling....

How to approaching an attractive and ignorant girl at the mall

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:47:00 +0000

Sometimes, if you go to a mall, you'd notice some really gorgeous girls around and it just breaks your heart that you couldn't get the nerve or the right excuse to approach her. Now, if you've read through all my tips and guides and manage to get the nerve to walk-up to them, try this,

Scenario 1: Walk-up to her and say Hi. Is she stopped, ask if you could someday buy her coffee over your favourite coffee shop. If she declined (well most hot chicks will), then say "What? You worry that you might fall in love with me?" Then, she'd say to herself, "What the hell?" Later, she might say, "I don't think so". Then reply, "Well, if that's the case, then it's mutual. I just missed my favourite coffee so much and I thought maybe you'd like to take a sip with me". Remember to disengage before she does, by saying something like, "Oh look at the time, I really have to go now...so can I call you for that coffee?". That's it...
Scenario 2: Walk-up to her and say Hi. But she ignored you and kept walking. Then, say "Why? Did my good looks really scare you? (Only works if you're not that good looking). This should stop her. Then, play along say you just wanna be stricly friends, nothing more. And make sure you end the conversation first. Before you end, get her contacts.

Best practice is don't take the literature above LITERALLY. It's just a guide or an idea on what you could do. Practice it and use your own style to do it.

Pickup Lines: At the bars or clubs

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:40:00 +0000

Making fun of girl's outfits

If a girl is wearing a dress that too revealing, like one of those dress that's just a strap at the back, walk up to her and say, "Ya know, when someone wears that kind of thing, it can only mean one thing. It means you can't afford an entire dress shirt, and you were just hoping no one would notice since it's dark in here". Then she might get a little pissed off, but then you should further bombard her with tease lines like, "Why? Can't take a joke? (smiling). Well, at least you can afford to put on some nice makeup. Later she might laugh an say, "What, you don't like my dress?" and kind of pouted. So you say, "It's not bad, but it'd look even better on the floor of my bedroom."

How to use jealousy as an attraction tool

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:33:00 +0000

Jealousy is a very interesting emotion. Generally speaking, if a girl likes you and knows that you're seeing other girl, it will make you more attractive. Use jealousy to check if the other girl likes you. But you have to be careful as it could backfire. Cos jealousy can drive people crazy... If you make the wrong person jealous, they can turn into a stalker...

Cocky & Funny Lines: If She Asks If You're Single

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:30:00 +0000

"Well, I suppose I have room for one more girlfriend. Why, you're interested?"

or,

"Why, you wanna get married with me already?"

Cocky & Funny Lines: Meeting Girls At The Movies, Events, Seminars, Classes

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:24:00 +0000

How bout this one? If you're at the cinema or somewhere where you're sitting in rows of seats like seminar, events, lecture hall, and if a girl come to you and asks if the seat next to you is available, say something like,

"Sorry, you can't sit on my lap, but this seat next to me is empty"

TIP 4 MEN: How to get girls to notice you

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 02:01:00 +0000

Let's face it, human likes to get noticed. Even men and especially with hot chicks! Brother, don't you want that hot girl to notice you?

Here are some tips you can do to get women to turn their heads on you.

Learn How To Hold Eye Contact Longer than Her
If you see a woman that you find attractive, and she looks back at you, DON'T LOOK AWAY. Most guys become very self conscious and lookaway as soon as a woman notices them looking. This is a HUGE mistake. If you want to communicate all the rightthings, you need to show IMMEDIATELY that you'renot afraid, and that you're not at all self-conscious about the fact that you are checking herout. A good practice is to walk through a mall for a few hours and look DIRECTLY at woman you see. Walk into every store, and look directly into the eyes of every single woman you encounter...and DON'T LOOK AWAY UNTIL AFTER SHE DOES. Don't try to smile or be too near (arm's length) to them, cos they might think you're a stalker....This is very important. Remember to practice, practice and practice.
Use Confident Body Language & Posture
Simple. when you walk, suck in your stomach, hold your head up (not too high up) and back, pull your shoulders back, arch your back...something like having an invisible string tight to your head and hanging you from the ceiling.
Move Slower and Use Slower Gestures
If you remember how James Bond acts, you know what I mean. He's so cooolll, or in other words, he NEVER acts and behaves nervously. And girls are sucker for that. Think about it in the opposite way. Have you seen women that acts this way? Don't you find them very attractive? Same goes to men.
Be Confident in Your Speech
Don't speak too fast, too soft or squeaky. Learn to speak with more confident, such as slower, clearer with a more bass on your voice. Pause a little when you want to emphasize something. Change the tone a little too. Don't speak with a monotonous tone. The best way to learn this is to relax.

Always remember to practice the above whenever you have the chance. It might take a while to master them, but the rewards will be noticable.

There she goes, there she goes again...texting me again...

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:30:00 +0000

Alright, it's Saturday and yes, she texted me still, just to tell me she just emailed me the contract draft. This is the first time that a business associate would text me so many times over a simple contract draft. She could just email it to me and save the $$$ on her phone bills. So, I replied her with a simple thank you. I have to reply once a while, right? You should to, if this is your situation.

I'm just playing to my rule - Never shit at where you eat! A famous Chinese proverb, and a very true one too! Meaning, don't mix business with pleasure. Well, at least, try not to! For my case, I'm not interested with her since she's 3 years my senoir.

Remember, don't go overboard, if you feel the business is more important than the relationship that you could strike with her.

TIP 4 MEN: Take rejections like a man

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 13:26:00 +0000

Hi guys,

Do you remember the last time you got turned-down by a girl for a date? Sucks doesn't it? Then, you'd start wondering why she refused to go out with you, you start questioning yourself and herself......the list of negative thoughts goes on...

Now, the next time you got rejected again, take a deep breath and start thinking, "So What!". There's still plenty of chances I have to get her out, OR there's still plenty of girls out there. As a matter of fact, THERE ARE!

You got to think positive about these rejections. Never show to women that you take these rejections personally. Show to them that their rejections means nothing to you. Just say, "Sure, no problem...next time you're around my place, just give me a buzz". This also shows you're not insecure or being needy. Remember my other rule about never being needy or insecure?

Yup, she SMS me today

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 23:18:00 +0000

She sounded very business-centric, "Sorry, too bz today n forgot to email you our contract. Will email to you tomorrow." Now that SMS came in before even lunch time. Is she on me..? No, she's just being a workaholic? Yes, she couldn't get me off my mind, thus, created a reason to SMS me just to get a reply from me? Did I reply? Hell no!

$10 bucks says she will SMS me again tomorrow, after she emailed me the contract.

What do Women Want in a Man

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 13:28:00 +0000

The Six Things That Attract Women

Financial security (some women call it MONEY!) - Being a provider to them, buying them things
Power - Ability to provide safety for them
Fame - Who doesn't want this
Looks/Height - If you don't have the looks, height will suffice
Personality - Funny, creative, romantic, smart
Older age - If you mix no. 6 with no. 1, what you get is a mistress!

FYI, the above are not ranked in priority order. Some women like men for different things. Some prefer financial security, some prefer personality, some just simply height or being older than them. So, it doesn't mean that you MUST HAVE all 6 to attract women.

Most asian girls I asked about what they want in a man, 10 out of 10 would say, the man must be taller and older than them. And of course, being a caring provider is always essential.

Boy, was I wrong...she's a fox!

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 07:11:00 +0000

A female business associate, whom I never met, called me today sounding very very friendly and very very eager to meet me. First thought that crossed my mind, this girl must be ugly and fat!
So confident was I, I took a bet with a colleague of mind that this girl, in worse case scenario, would be fat and ugly! The bet is on!!!

Come 6:30pm at Starbucks, this tall, slim and attractive girl walked into the shop. Quickly she opened her handbag looking for her phone. I was there watching her for a minute or so, then, the thought of "this could not be her" crossed my mind. Taking my chances, as usual, I voiced the name, "Christie?!". Damn, it is her...there goes my $10!

So, a suppose-to-be 1 hours casual meeting ended up being 4 hours. She's 1 hour of business talk, 3 hours of personal talks. As I was playing my cocky and funny role, she ended up sharing almost everything to me. From the recent accident she had to how a woosy her ex boyfriend was. She even opened up her clothes to show me her scars from the accident. Well, she only pulled-up her jeans to show me the scars on her legs. Pitty you...BTW, did I say she's 32?

She just ended a 2 year long relationship 2 months ago, and I bet she must be looking for a rebound. So, as I played along teasing and making jokes about her (I even told her the bet I have with my friend) but she just won't wanna leave, until I said so....after 3 tries!

So I managed to send her to her car and just bout the time I reached my house, she sent me an SMS saying "Nice meeting you today. Hope to see you again soon.".

So far so good I guess...let's see how things would turn out next..my bet is she would SMS me again in next few days..we shall see.

How do you know if a girl is ON to you?

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 13:32:00 +0000

Here are few guides you could follow,

She's trying to like the same thing you like: Example, if you're talking about certain types of music that you like, and she tries to give a positive opinion despite that she doesn't really listens to it, then you're scoring man!
Body language: E.g, does she crosses her arms? No is good. Does she brushes her hair round her ears? Yes, is good. Does she leans forward to the table when talking to you? Excellent!
She laughs at your stupid jokes: Clear sign of attraction
She tilts her head when talking/listening to you. You got it going man!
Touches you lightly when talking/kidding with you . What can i say more..!

Chris, is good at number 1, 2 and 5.

Finally, I fell in love with her cleavage

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 12:38:00 +0000

Today, I've went out with Chris (a she) for the 4th time, and this time I'm out with her, I can't stop staring at her cleavage. Well, the first time I'm out with her, I can feel that she keeps trying to show off her cleavage to me, by grabbing her jacket's collars away from her middle "exposure" of her breasts. She literally did that at least 4 times, RIGHT IN FRONT of me! Only a 5 year old kid would not noticed what she was doing!

Well, 2nd time, we were having dinner with another friend. Her cleavage was out from the cage again. But it didn't struck as I was sitting beside her. 3rd time was at a nearby club, with 4 other friends. Too dark to see anything..

Now, this time, woohooo..I think i'm in love, with a cleavage. How I wish I could bury my face down that water fall..

I bit more about her, Chris is another business associate of mine where we met at a press event. She's average looking who sometings talks too fast. She has a enterprenuel mind. In fact, she just quit her job to start her own thing, and wanted to start something with me. Should I go or should I stay? If I go, there won't be anymore business to talk about, or worse no more friends..I reckon she's looking for a long-term relationship. But I'm not ready to go long with her...

TIP 4 MEN: How to tell if a woman is ready to get physical?

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 00:34:00 +0000

The single most obvious way to tell if a girl is ready to get physical with you is "Do a Proximity Check". How comfortable is she when you're close to her? Does she always try to draw a distance between you and her, even when you're walking beside her? Or she doesn't mind even to accidentally rub her breasts on you. Some of the things you could try are,

When you're having dessert say ice-cream, offer one spoon to feed her. Does she accept your feeding?
When you're in the cinema, does her shoulder rub against yours? If yes, ask her if she's feeling ok, by gently touching her hand. Observe her reaction
When you're alone with her, try caressing her hair near her ear.
When you guys are having fun and talking about jokes, try pitching her nose. How did she react? Did she back-off, or she, in fact, moved forward to let you pitch her.

I once was at a pub drinking with some friends and there was this girl whom is a friend of a friend. We hardly talked when we were at the first pub, since there was a friend sitting between us. But at the 2nd pub, there was a moment that she was kinda standing close to me. So, we began talking....and drinking...and next thing I noticed was she was very close to me. In fact, her face was very near to mine (there was no music at the back since it's almost closing time). The first thought that came to my mind was, "Hey, this girl is ready to get physical". And baaaammm, I went for the kiss and it worked!

From kissing we ended up making out in her car. The car was too small for us to go beyond kissing and petting. She was still pretty much sober, while I was pretty drunk. Anyway, we ended up in bed on the next day, after a romantic dinner over wine.

Met a girl named Vanesse at a club today

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 12:59:00 +0000

I was at a club called The Sanctuary and it was really packed! 9 of us couldn't get any tables. So while I was trying to find a place for us, I noticed this two lovely girls at this little table. So, what's the best excuse to approach these two girls? Ask if we could share the table, of course.

So, there was I trying to chat with them while trying to convince them that I'm just there for the table. Then, my friends found a table enough for 9 and I have no more excuses to stay there.

Later on, I manage to return to their table to offer them some drinks, but they kindly refused. But slowly, I managed to get her number. Sometimes, I have this issue bout myself, where once I managed to get a girl's number, I'd just fly away and leave her alone. I don't think that's right. In fact, I should be building better rapport with her. That way, chances of she wanting to go out with me later would be better.

TIP: After getting a girl's number or email, try hanging around to get to know her and she knows you better.

TIP 4 MEN: Never use the word "Anything" or "Anywhere"

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 13:20:00 +0000

Hi,

Girls tend to prefer the man to lead. So, if she ask where do you want to go for dinner, try not to say Anywhere. She's asking you to make a decision and she does expect you to make one. Girls gets turn off to guys that can't make decisions, as this shows a lack of self confidence.

What you should do is that suggest a few things, like...ask her if she likes Japanese, Chinese, or Western. And if she can choose one, then suggest some nice restaurants that you know of. If she can't choose anything, then i suggest you just go for your feel and choose somewhere generally people in your area would go for a date.

Don't be suprise if after you suggested someplace, she suddenly suggests another. Then, I'd suggest you follow her choice.

I once went out with a girl that actually lets me choose a place, and then asked us to leave the place for another place, after sitting there for few minutes. go figure....

TIP 4 MEN: Never go Dutch with an Asian girl

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 13:17:00 +0000

Never EVER go DUTCH with an Asian Girl! At least not on 1st date! Even if she insisted on paying. If she insisted, just tell her next time you pay. Then u got a chance to go out for another date with her Never forget this rule.

Asian girls tend to expect guys to be more financially stable than her and do gets very attracted to financially stable guys. Not that they are money-face, (some are), but it's more of a matter of security.

Don't think of them as money-centric, as most Asian guys tend to think that way. I found out the truth the hard-way. But, once you get to know them...or being a couple with them, some do try to share the financial load. Some don't...especially the pretty ones. So....u gotta learn to discern...

Try to be more generous with the girl you're dating. If you're trying to be stingy, she'll start telling her frens that you're a stingy person. Later, once you guys broke-up, don't be suprise that your stinginess is one of the factor she dumps you....

Two of my friends actually broke-up with their boyfriends over reason that the guys were cheap. So, try not to be a cheapskate, ok. If you're not willing to pay, then don't date. Period. It's sad but it's true. Anyway, you gotta put in some investments, to get the girl that you want, right?

TIP 4 MEN: Never Show Neediness & Your Insecurity

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 13:25:00 +0000

Insecurity And Neediness Are Your Two Worst Enemies.

If you called a girl and she didn't pick-up, never SMS her asking her why she didn't pick-up your call. Or worse, next time you call her and she picked-up, you asked her why she didn't pick-up your last call. Yeah yeah, you may say you were worried about her. But, if you're not interested with her, would you do that?

Women hates that! Nothing scares a woman off faster than a guy who ‘leans’… physically or emotionally.

Or, you trying to hard to impress her or to get her attention - That's Insecurity

Being too sticky is also a clear case of insecurity.

If you tend to be that sort of person, their getting rid of those negative traits by building your self-confidence.

So, the next time you think you're being needy or insecure, STOP! And think about what you just did. Then, slowly do the opposite.

TIPS 4 WOMEN: What do you do if you fall for a guy

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Sat, 07 Jul 2007 13:21:00 +0000

Hi,

Well, in today's 21st century, TELL HIM of course! But....it's how you tell him that's important. As a guy, I find it nice to know that some likes me and I sincerely do respect girls that directly tell me that they have feelings for me...But, not all guys are like that. You may show them a sign of neediness or desperation. So, this is what i think girls can do,

-Show signs to him that you're attracted to him. Like laugh at his silly jokes, sms him some nice cute text messages once in a while. Not everyday ok?!
-If you want to communicate with him, NEVER ask for his number. Instead, find ways to give him your number
-If you need help, ask him to help. See how's his response.
-Find chance to go on a one-to-one date with him. E.g: Hey, since you're my only fren that likes My Chemical Romance, there's this concert going on in town. I'm looking for someone to go with. You wanna go?

Once you've tried, tell me about it

Melv.

How to start your dating adventure?

noreply@blogger.com (Mike Welsh) — Thu, 01 Feb 2007 13:15:00 +0000

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http://www.askmen.com/dating/datingadvice/index.html

Mostly written by the Dating Guru - David DeAngelo. This guy means business...i have a set of DVD about a seminar he conducted in the U.S. He's the real deal.

If you wanna be happy and successful with your love of your life, please read and TRY to apply...