Real Time Development Strategies

We were paying attention coach…

rmckenna — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 16:35:26 +0000

As the father of eight and ten year old boys, I think a lot about the adults who are impacting them right now. I look at their teachers and feel a deep sense of gratitude for their investment in my sons and in all the kids in their classes. I’m thankful that they are good teachers, and most importantly, good human beings who are not there because it’s a job, but because they know they are supposed to be there…maybe even called. I’m thankful for every man and woman that volunteers every Sunday in their Sunday school classes. For no money and certainly not for their own gratification, they get up every Sunday morning at the crack of dawn to invest in the lives and character of my two sons. Who does that? All I know is that I’m thankful they do. I’m thankful for the parents of Aidan and Ryan’s friends, and for each time that one of them compliments or praises, or gives constructive feedback to my boys. Who does that? They do that. I’m thankful for my friends Sean and Rebecca, who don’t even live here in Seattle, but took the time on a short visit to Seattle to go to 3 hours of kids soccer just to see Aidan and Ryan play and hang out with our community of parents cheering them on. I’m thankful for my brother who sends my kids books that he read as a kid and who calls them and knows them, I’m thankful for my sister who doesn’t’ hesitate to tell Aidan and Ryan that she loves them every time she is with them and tells them what she means to them, and I’m thankful for my sister who has made each of them a quilt with her own hands that will drape each of their beds every night and remind them that they are loved deeply. And, I’m thankful that we live close to all four of their grandparents who invest more deeply in them than you possibly imagine. And, that is only the start of hundreds of people who, for no good reason, sacrifice their own agenda to make it about the growth and development of my two sons.

A few days ago, I was tucking my sons into bed and telling them about my experiences playing little league soccer for the Queen Anne Jets. I played on that team from 2^nd to 7^th grade. It is all very near to me now because I coach Aidan and Ryan’s basketball soccer teams. My coach for all those years was Coach Jim Locke. As an adult looking back, I know he was a really good man. He had all the right makings of a great coach. Coach Locke was a stocky and very athletic looking guy. Maybe it’s because they were at eye level for me as a second grader, but I’ll never forget the strength of coach Locke’s calves. I remember thinking, “That’s what a soccer players calves should look like.” He always seemed happy and full of an inner joy. He was always very clear with us. While I knew he cared about me and my teammates very much, he never hesitated to get very stern with us if we were messing around. He was a teacher of the game. He taught us the fundamentals of what it means to play soccer well. He loved his son Wes. That was clear to each of us, but he treated us all as equals on that team. He was on time to practice. He stood in the sun, rain, hail, and snow to lead a bunch of kids on a community soccer team. And for no pay or praise beyond a thanks from a parent (kids aren’t that good at saying thank you sometimes), he invested in me as my coach for six years, and in other players for at least three years after that. Amazing…..

I just learned that Coach Locke passed away this last September. As a coach now, I see that Coach Locke taught me what it means to be a coach, a father, and a leader. I know now that God has His hand placed gently over the life and legacy of Jim Locke. I didn’t know that as a kid, but I was watching. He represents what I aspire to be as a father, a coach, and as an adult in this world of children and adults. He modeled for me what it means to invest deeply in the lives of others through your time with them. He didn’t have to be my Coach, but he chose to be. I’m thankful to you Coach Locke. We were paying attention.

Hacking the World of Work

rmckenna — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 18:23:34 +0000

Hacking the World of Work

In March of 2010, I read an article in an airport about the all-hands hacking parties that Facebook does with all its employees with the intention of making Facebook better and better. Almost two years later, we launched a new class that all 70 to 80 graduate students in the Department of Industrial/Organizational Psychology at Seattle Pacific University would take and all 4 professors would teach. Last night was the start. It was amazing. Many of our alumni even came back to come to this event. I have to admit that after 17 years as a professor, something profound happened for me. I saw the power of letting go of my own desire to control how learning happens, and seeing the possibilities that emerge when you release the beast that is the leader and learner within each of us. It may have been the best classroom experience of my life, and all we did was create the “swimming pool” within which to swim, and then we jumped in. Our intention is to tackle the most interesting, challenging, and very real questions facing work, employers, employees, and real people in the coming years. We said we would measure our success by a few things:

The amount of buzz in the room.
The extent to which 2/3 of the people in the room loved it, and the other 1/3 hated it (hoping that the 1/3 changes each week).
And by the number of outsiders who aren’t even enrolled who come (given that 15 alums showed up, I think it was a good start).

Here is just a small taste of the questions we addressed at the start…..

What is the psychology of the consumer of the future?

Is Social Networking changing everything?

What do we do when 80% of the workforce are contract employees?

What happens when China and India are the biggest world economies?

What does the world look like if 75% of all employees are overqualified and over-educated for the jobs they have?

Which is more important—character or competence?

What if doing the right thing doesn’t increase your ROI?

Should work be fun?

Can you speed up how fast a person learns?

What do faith, hope, and love have to do with ROI?

What does online gaming have to do with how I behavior at work?

How can I be effective when work is more complex than I can ever understand

What are you willing to sacrifice to make your organization succeed?

Been there, never done this. How does I/O Psychology make a difference in 2015?

Where will we go next? Come and join us and check it out. We will all learn something. You can decide if you fall into the 2/3 or 1/3J

I’m thankful for many things on this birthday.

rmckenna — Fri, 27 May 2011 18:56:35 +0000

I’m thankful for childhood friends from Queen Anne and Bellevue who still take the time to say happy birthday even though they knew me as the juvenile I was (and still am in many ways).
I’m thankful for my high school friends in Kentucky for their birthday wishes, because they accepted me at a time when was a long way from where I started.
I’m thankful to my college friends and their wishes because they put up with my mullet and tennis shorts that were so tight it’s surprising my voice ever changed, and because they were there to help me grow up a bit.
I’m thankful to my graduate school and 20’s friends because you watched me discover who I was, and who I was becoming, and you helped me gain the confidence to become an adult (whatever that means).
From North Queen Anne, to Bellevue Christian, to Jessamine County, to Seattle Pacific, and to Claremont…thanks to all of you.
I’m thankful for my church community through Eastlake and their wishes because we are now doing life together, raising kids, serving together, and trying to figure out how to be obedient and closer to God while being human.
I’m thankful for the birthday wishes from my friends who are a part of our community in Kirkland, and the opportunity to do life together, support and love our kids, and for the opportunity to coach your kids in basketball and soccer.
I’m thankful to the friends who have been around through big parts of all of that, knew me as a pressured teenager looking to get into a little trouble (from bottle rocket wars to naughty things with mail boxes and snowmen, from dorm room games to cemeteries, and from the Red Door to the 318, and from Jalisco’s to Targies to the High Brow). You have had my back for decades and because of that, I’m so thankful.
I’m thankful for the wishes from those with whom I work. You impact my life every day. Work has been very good to me. I can’t believe what I get to do and who I have had the opportunity to work with. From SPU to Boeing and Microsoft, from Heineken to Foster Farms to the Free Methodist Church, and from RTDS to Bad Bobby and beyond. My work life is filled with people who are amazing at what they do and deeply invested in architecting hope and possibility into the lives of human beings.
I’m thankful to my students and former students who took the time to wish me a happy birthday. Sometimes it’s good to be reminded that what you do and say matters. From Azusa, to Degree Completion, from OB to I/O…thanks to all of you.
I’m thankful to my extended family and friends of family. You have imprinted on my life in ways that I cannot fully understand in such powerful ways. Thank you for your birthday wishes.
I’m thankful for the birthday wishes from my wife Jackie. Enough said….
I’m so thankful for the warm birthday wishes from my sons…they do love birthdays! And for the annual gift of sharing my birthday with Ryan. What an awesome thing.
If I missed any of you, it’s not because I’m not thankful for you, but because I’m still the same guy you have always known who doesn’t catch every detail, but I’m thankful for you and your wishes.
I haven’t always invested in the facebook birthday wishes, but today it made me realize how good it made me feel that even though some of you saw me through some really awkward times, successes, failures, and even mistakes, you still took the time to send birthday wishes. Anyway, thanks y’all. You had an impact on me today.

Dominican Update…

rmckenna — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 23:10:30 +0000

Here’s an update on the work I’m doing with the team from HL2.

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The third day of our trip to Dominican Republic brought another set of amazing experiences for our team. Half of us baked bread to be shipped to Haiti and the other half built a second concrete floor for a family in the same neighborhood as the first, known as Pueblo Nuevo. In this case, the floor was built for a family with many children, at least one of whom attends the Children of the Nations (COTN) school there. The mother was known in the school because of her faithfulness and contributions to the school and surrounding community. While we were there working on the floor, we learned that the mom had passed away recently of Hepatitis. The father and remaining nine children were so grateful for the new concrete floor. We, on the other hand, were so grateful for the master contractor (Manuel) who provided all the technical expertise we needed to make sure the floor was exactly as it should be. To sleep on a dirt floor in the Dominican culture is very symbolic of poverty and your economic level in society. More specifically, sleeping on the ground often leads to worms that burrow into the skin of the kids. We saw evidence of the scars caused by these worms on many of the kids we got to know. To have a cement floor not only is a step up from severe poverty, it is also a really important step in helping the overall hygiene of this family.

We also saw some really interesting gender dynamics during the day. Because both the men and women on our team were involved in the mixing of the cement, shoveling sand and dirt, and carrying cement, we caused quite a stir in the neighborhood. Apparently in the Dominican culture it’s not considering appropriate for women to do that kind of manual labor. While that didn’t keep any of us from engaging in the work, we all found the differences in cultures to be profoundly interesting. Not to mention the fact that we got lots of stares from the local men as they watched the women on our team get right into the heart of the manual labor. The greatest part of the experience outside of the reality of the much needed floor was the chance to once again hang out in the heart of a Dominican community, playing with the kids, and getting a chance to build relationships and make connections with so many people here.

Those of us in charge of baking bread had a very different, yet equally rewarding day. We showed up to the cocina (kitchen) of the school to spend the day baking 2800 loaves (let’s call them rolls) of bread to send over the Haitian border to the relief camps. While our contributions paid for all the supplies necessary for the 2800, we were disappointed to only get through 400. We didn’t like leaving the team at the school (of which all had amazing stories themselves) with all the work to finish our objective over the course of the next couple of days. Who would have known that all that mixing, kneading, rising, baking and packaging would take so long. Not to downplay the 400 rolls we were able to make it was, once again, the connections and relationships throughout the day that made it most meaningful. As we baked, word spread around the school and the village that we were there. Peering through the bared windows and doors were crowds of kids wanting a chance to interact, to play with us and our cameras, to bridge the language barrier or just to simply have us hold their hands. While we waited for bread to rise and/or cool, we had plenty of opportunity to play with these delightful kids with impromptu games of tag or (as you see in the photos) fun photo sessions that they got such a kick out of. As we were told over and over again in planning for this trip, they just want us to “be” there with them rather than focus on “doing” something for them. It’s a culture based on relationships that trumps getting the job done and something we took a lesson from.

Once again, we are so thankful to have the opportunity to do this work as a team and this shared experience has been profound. More to come…”

For more, go to

http://www.facebook.com/bill.irish?ref=nf#!/HL2seattle?ref=mf

Lessons from the Dominican Republic continued.

rmckenna — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 01:41:09 +0000

If you haven’t been following the events on facebook, here’s the link.

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/HL2seattle?ref=mf

So far the lessons for me are many, but here’s a sampling.

It’s not about giving up everything you have, but about being aware of what you think you need, and thinking first of what you have. Haitian kids who had lost limbs and had very little food or water and still were smiling, taught me that lesson.
Dominicans have a different way of thinking about time. It is more important to take the time to have a conversation with you on the street than be on time to my next meeting. Relationship matters here. That said, that may contribute to some of the economic issues the country faces.
The last 500 years have taken this country through many peaks and valleys and impacts how Dominicans perceive their world.
Strong-connected leadership matters everywhere. The concept of differentiation and sacrifice matter for the leaders I’ve worked with here too.
Leaders must set up boundaries and take the heat for it.
Ph.D. programs in psychology should still require a second language like they used to.
I miss my wife and boys so much on this trip.
The dislike and mutual fear between Haitians and Dominicans runs deep, but this tragedy brought them closer. The language barrier plays a huge role in that. Because they don’t understand each other, it makes trust very difficult.
The children in the Bateys (Haitian villages with many refugees) were the poorest of the poor, and they broke me in half. I fell in love with them. These kids have nothing, nothing, nothing, by western standards..and they were still joyful.
When we entered villages, I was approached by certain kids right away. It made me wonder whether the same big 5 characteristics show up here too. Ironically, the two boys that my wife and I will be sponsoring were both completely introverted (3 and 6 years old).
The people here are thankful when they have good work. The idea of doing what I love first and foremost is not the first thing you think about when jobs are scarce. Proving yourself a trustworthy worker comes first. If you drop the ball, you lose your job.

Lessons about myself.

My heart runs deep for children.
I am more than committed than ever to developing leaders in the toughest of times, meaningful times.
Leadership is soooooo important. Our work will continue in urgency.
I must continue to be vulnerable, and take risks for the sake of those I am accountable for.
I am so thankful for my job, my wife, my students, my children, my life….for you.

More later. I will see you all soon. Lead on. I apologize for the typos….

Rob McKenna

A lesson from Haitian kids

rmckenna — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 16:30:20 +0000

Felt convicted yesterday about how much I focus on what I need as opposed to startingwith what I have. Haitian kids who have lost limbs and still were laughing and smiling taught me that.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=714520862#!/album.php?aid=381920&id=91923395047&ref=mf

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Leadership Live!!!!

rmckenna — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 03:00:41 +0000

Once a year, my students come to class ready and get an assignment that’s a little odd. They get the next 4 hours to find a leader to interview about the job of being a leader, and they have to come up with something that will be helpful to the leader. It’s always a pretty powerful experience, because they do this cold, and they do it quick. It’s amazing how quickly this leaders share there challenges and excitements in a matter of moments. Here are some of the stories.

An ad agency, a humanitarian organization and a leadership consultant…

rmckenna — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 03:29:07 +0000

at happens when you put together a humanitarian organization that serves the needs of the children of the world, a dynamic advertising agency, and a leadership development consulting firm? You get the trip I leave for right now. Leaving for the Dominican Republic tonight with a team from the Seattle based ad agency… known as HL2 to serve with Children of Nations. This is one of the coolest things I’ve had the opportunity to be involved in as it’s a team effort between HL2, Children of Nations, and Real Time Development Strategies to respond to the need in the DR, and in the process, help this team be intentional about learning from the experience. See you soon.
http://www.cotni.org/
www.hl2.com
www.realtimedevelopmentstrategies.com

What questions changed the trajectory of your life?

rmckenna — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:23:55 +0000

I’ve been fortunate to have people around me who are willing to ask me the tough questions. What’s interesting is that the questions fit into one of at least three categories. 1) They were questions that I can answer in highsight, but really couldn’t begin answer when I was asked, 2) they were were funny to me, or 3) the qeustions are remember all involve major transitions in my life, and crossroads where I knew that discovering the answer might cause some pretty deep and significant change to occur in my life. For me, the list includes:

Are you still committed to working here?

Are you going to eat that?

Who has your back?

What would you die for?

Do you believe that you are worthy of being loved?

Who are you investing in?

What would you do next if you weren’t afraid?

What are you hiding?

Will you take this woman?

Are you going to make a decision or just stand there?

Do you know how fast you were going?

Will this be on the test?

I must admit, I’m not proud of all these questions or that someone had to ask them, but they stand out in my mind. The fact is that the questions were important? They may have told me something about what I knew, who I was, who I wasn’t, what I needed to be, how I could get clear, or why I was doing what I was doing. But, the fact is that the questions were important. Do you have questions you’ve been asked that stand out in your mind? If so, what are they?

Meaningful Conversations, Not Meaningless Ones

rmckenna — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:18:08 +0000

What are the most meaningful conversations you are having right now? What conversations are happening in your life that after which you are changed in small or large ways, forever? I’m not sure what they look like for you, but for me, these types of conversations are sometimes brief and sometimes take place over time. In many cases they come out of nowhere, or from people that I least expected to make an impact on me. These conversations are real. They are conversations where I’m called out and asked to stop being an imposter in my own skin. These conversations are often intentional. They point me toward being or doing something different in my life. These conversations are encouraging and challenging in the same moment. They remind me that I have value and that I’m in process. Finally, these conversations are real time. They are connected to the things I’m doing and being today.

Along with you and others, I want to create spaces where leaders of all kinds, from parents to presidents, can get real about the things that are pushing them to the edge, the things that excite them, and get feedback from trusted mentors, peers, and from those following them about where they are going and why. Those who are contributing to this blog are leaders, emerging leaders, parents, and even volunteer leaders who are interested in changing the world of work and leadership by having the conversations you used to have over coffee or a drink, but now rarely have the time for.

This is not only a place to get the conversations going for you, it’s also a place to remind yourself that there are hundreds of emerging leaders who need you to start the conversation for them, or at least be willing to help them know where to start.

So, if you are a leader or emerging leader of some kind, let’s start the conversation…