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Relationalplus-Adorn your life: A simple approach to relationship

2011-04-22T20:53:00.000+05:30

Relationalplus-Adorn your life: A simple approach to relationship

A simple approach to relationship

2011-04-22T20:52:00.000+05:30

Relating with people is not about getting entertained. Friends are not a substitute to our loneliness. Just as family is about sharing that bond of belonging so also is friendship. It is about bonding and adding color to our lives.

Pause a while and think of our pet dogs. Have you ever noticed their behavior in relation to their owners or with those around them? Their reaction to people are not the same with everyone. They expect love and attention of their owners. Their whining and animated barks tells us of their intimacy. The same goes with little children. They like those who bring them gifts, edibles and don't scold them. Attention is the watchword here. I guess we are not very different as adults too. All of us seek something from others.

One of the best option to treat people is on the merit of the individual. As human beings we are all different and inherent with shortcomings and weaknesses. Perfection cannot be found in anyone yet most often we try and blend with only those that serve purposes in our lives. Maybe that explains why we try and cater around only those in the line of our nature or like-mindedness. But the beauty of relating is in variety and to bask in that beauty one needs to blend the opposites. Just as the beauty of a music lies in the synchronization of different musical instrument so also is relationship. Don't use the same yardstick with everyone. Draw a line and demarcate the territory of your association with others. After all you don't enjoy a movie dreaming of your weekend picnic. When you are in the theater enjoy the movie and when you are playing get absorbed in the game. Relate with people for what they are and not what you want. If you want others to accept you as you are then accept them as they come.

Gloomy people are naturally avoided so try and be cheerful. We all carry our share of the burden of life. Don't carry about your load and erect walls all around you. Of course friends are there to share and lend but that is not how we should approach our relationship.

I believe that this simple attitude and approach to relationship will help us share a lasting bond with our partners too. Live the moment and share meaningful bond with those you come across. That's the beauty of life.

How to relate: a preview

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We are not living in a perfect world. You must be very clear with that when it comes to relating with others. There are people out there with different taste, nature and approach to life. Just as you may like others to treat you humanely so also do they. Respect and trust are the two keyword you’ll need, when relating with others. It is also very important that you have a fair knowledge of yourself; who you are and what you expect of the relationship? Also it is essential that you develop a liking for yourself and be compassionate about it despite the flaws in your life. If you don’t love yourself despite the shortcomings (mind you huh! Not that selfishness but gratefully accepting yourself for who you are despite your flaws) how can you have empathy for others? If you are to relate well to others, you not only need to understand and accept yourself; you also need to understand other people. One of the biggest hindrances to such understanding is assuming that the other person has the same insights and feelings you do. That's natural, but it may not be true for several reasons. Understanding that all of us are flawed in some way, and all of us are destined to make mistakes will help you better relate with others. This is where accommodating comes in, for you cannot better relate with others if you don’t give them space. It is not only about others falling in line to your point of view but you must also be able to accept theirs too. I am not the only one that has views and problems. We all have! Don’t be too judgmental about others. Before you criticize others, remember that most of the very idiosyncrasies which you seem to be criticizing in others may be within you. Others may have the same opinion about you. "Beware when you point a finger at someone, because three fingers are always pointing back at you."

We may all breathe the same air, walk the same earth and live our lives together but there are many things to life than simple comparisons. Please don’t have an opinion of others by the yardstick you use to judge yourself. All of us grew up in different environments, with different influences and experiences that has helped shape our opinions and views of life. Our birth place may be the same and though we may have grown playing in the same neighborhood and gone to the same school but we grew up in different conditions when it concerns parental, socio-economic condition and family environment. And it is for this reason that we have our own individual opinions regarding life and the things that are considered important and vice versa. We are social creatures therefore in spite of our differing views and opinions, it's important to realize that it is in connecting and relating with others where we will find happiness.

Don’t have preconceived notions about people it is very dangerous. Don’t think that somebody who has pierced his or her body means that he or she has a reputation to be avoided and cling on to those who are neat and tidy assuming that they are good. To relate is not to prejudge a person but in welcoming as they come packaged. After all how can you expect someone to pass judgment on your character when that person hardly knows you? As the bible says ‘you don’t know a person till you have divided an inheritance with him’. Let’s not judge others. Just let time judge them.

Be patient enough to lend your ears to relate well with others. It don’t cost you a thing except a little of your time. And in a way this will help you to better understand that person and aide you to deal with him/her adroitly. After all, relationship is not about going out only with the like minded but being able to blend with all alike.

Relationalplus-Adorn your life: Relationship is Not a Promise

2011-04-08T22:54:00.000+05:30

Relationalplus-Adorn your life: Relationship is Not a Promise: "It is easier to get committed than to maintain that commitment. That is why we have the adage; Promises are made to be broken.'' But relati..."

Romantic quote

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Love is of the heart and it needs its feeling to understand what it wants. The material world may present countless sparkling gems to wow the sight but the compatibility of the heart is determined by the feeling controlled by the heart. Allow the heart to express its need and life will itself wonderfully trot towards it end.

ABCs of you and me

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It is in harmonising contradictory minds into an agreeable term, where relationship will thrive. A relationship is not necessarily the abscence of opposing ideas but rather the blending of the opposites into a compact whole through understanding and acceptance of the differences and individuality of the other. To coterie around only those that falls within the line of our motives and interest, running after only the so called like-minded, is not relationship in the real sense of the term. It is rather an association, short-term or long-term, depending upon the nature and objective of fulfilment of the mutually accepted interest and goals. A relationship has far greater connotation than we take it to be, for it is not only in trying to relate to those with whom we share commonness, but in building an intimacy with the opposites through accomodation of the differences and bridging the gaps with common objectives. It is a way in which two or more people are connected and a sum total of their behaviourial attitude towards each other in their interaction.

Relationship entails contradiction, for it is the union of independent entities("I'm not like that" "but I'm different" "Why is he/she so like that" "I don't agree" "are you crazy"). But conflict of ideas does not necessarily portends enmity, rather it is a way of sharpening an individual's perspective by making a person wiser and imbibing healthier thoughts. Even like-minded and happily married couples do have issues. The problem is not really the issues but how to tag along together in the light of the given differences and still be within the ambit of an amiable term with each other. It is here that our emotions and feelings will come into play. The danger arises when we allow ourselves to be emotionally involved to the given contradiction and stick to our conceived notions and feelings.

We are all like wayfarers where we get to meet countless faces and from among them few get close enough to be within the ambit of our circle of friends. A closer scrutiny will reveal to us that it is not a case of a symbiosis of a buddy-buddy between an intro' and an extro' and the likes, ie, not a blend of complete opposites but a union among commons and equals (This aspect becomes more evident as an individual gets older and thus he begins to get lonelier). Maybe this explains why there is a growing number of unpatchable relationship due to self-conciously assertive individualism. The essence of a relationship lies in the acceptance of a person the way he/she is, despite the differences. A saying goes that 'a husband and a wife should argue sometimes to get to know each other better'. Does this makes sense? Ofcourse! Marriage is a union of two unique individuals with distinct personalities. And husbands and wifes get to know each other better in the course of living together under one roof. Thus it is only appropriate that they iron out their differences and get to know each better for a better understanding of each other and deal with each other in a more accomodative way. Being in love with each other and to be living together are totally different. For "if you love someone you begin to love even their pig sty". Ding dong! Courtships and romances can get very emotional and emotions can clog our eyes from seeing the reality. After all in trying to be impressive we present a different picture yet it is too much of an ask to continue what we are not. In due course of time our inhibitions eases off and we truly become ourselves. This is just the beginning of the end, the start of a whole new level of contrasting dimension that has to be lived with. Common destiny, shared dreams, life-long commitments ... yet several other factors like contrasting views, attitudes, natures, coupled with physical, spiritual, intellectual and material circumstances will come to play. Therefore, accomodation and acceptance of the differences, ironing out the contradictions, level of leeway to each other, and most important of all, the degree of trust and respect governing the relationship, these factors will regulate and influence the nature of the relationship.

Most often than not, we are like beggars, going around, seeking for the satisfaction of our spiritual, intellectual, emotional and sensual needs. So we end up hanging around those who fit in the scheme of satisfying our requirements. It really is selfish and deprives us of the beauty afforded to us by life. Life is lived by those who incorporate variety in their lives. It don't really cost much to everlook the wrong in others for we are all fallible and we do expect others to understand our mistakes. Keep it simple folks and stick to the basic.

If life is beautiful and living one of the most wonderful experiences then it is the company of friends that adds taste to our lives. Accomodation, trust, respect, positive approach, leeway etc are some important ingredients with which we can smoothly oil the conduct our relationships with others. In trying to understand the differences, we learn to value the uniqueness in each and we become accessible and friendly.

A Nutshell View of Life

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Life ultimately is the pursuit of happiness. Why am I doing this; Why do I do the things that I want to do; Why do I pursue certain goals or want to hang around with certain kinds of people only? Its because we believe that that will make us happy or give us happiness.

Life certainly is beautiful and living one of the most wonderful experiences. Yet most often than not we end up frustrated, angry, hurt and dejected because we happen to knock the wrong doors swayed by our conceited feelings, emotions and narrow fragmented belief's. Just look at married couples: Do you think that a husband who loves to spend maximum 'good times' with other women, find happiness with his wife? Or a wife wongs and wish that her husband could be like those other men around be contented? Just as there are more beautiful and finely curved ladies or more handsome, caring and loving man than a wife or a husband, the world offers countless attraction for us. We cannot achieve all everything or own all that we set our eyes on.

Just look up the night sky and ponder at the myriad mysteries hidden in all those galaxies of stars. Centuries of exploration can never unravel its mysteries. So also is life and romance and a lifetime is too short a time to unravel the mysteries each moment in life holds. If only a husband or a wife could explore together the hidden secrets of romance, their union will be more exciting a fulfilling, and so also will be our life.

We live in a society of different and distinct personalities, where each individual, irrespective of diversities and social standings, tries to salvage bagful of happiness for themself. As such there is bound to be conflict of ideas and issues, and even resulting in strain relationships. Now one of the beauty of life in our quest for happiness is relationship. Therefore estoration of any broken relationship will be a litmus test towards a fulfilling happiness otherwise we'll be trading a huge chunk of our happiness on the altar of our pitiful ego. Be the factor and bridge the crevice of hatred by letting go your feelings and for all the antagonism, mellow your adversary with love.

Learn to share and propound the value of service, for the grateful smile of a needful person is the real foundation upon which your happiness will stand for eternity. Create, co-operate and build a healthy environment for co-existence and therein you will be paid.

Twas not vain

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There you were, like the forbidden fruit of Eden ,

My heart playing rhythmic tunes like the serpent,

If my sin was to covet for such a beauty,

I will gladly trade this soul as a duty.

Certainly, t’is not another lonely night’s fantasy,

Yet truly, it had my heart leaping in ecstasy.

And surely, the aching of this heart’s not a vanity,

For honestly, it has jeopardize this mind’s sanity

Bear I will, a thousand life of tearful misery

If I be given to revel such a blissful mystery.

For of such beauty will our joy be, forever,

Yes die I will, but of such moment, will ever be.

A moment yes! But a lifetime’s treasure

Though she came and went at her leisure.

Relationalplus.blogspot.com: My Valentine Quote

2011-02-13T23:54:00.000+05:30

Relationalplus.blogspot.com: My Valentine Quote: "'The night sky has thousand stars to show The day but one yet it eclipses all The world has uncount beauty to spare Yet this heart aches for..."

Romantic Quotes

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''I'll be the wind to make you soar
I'll be the water to quench your thirst
I'll be the hand to pick you up
I'll be the shoulder for you to lean on
I'll be the love your heart longs
For my love for you will never die."

"The night sky has thousand stars to show
The day but one yet it eclipses all
The world has uncount beauty to spare
Yet this heart aches for only one
You eclipse all that I see
And my life revolves around only you
So I take this day to say what you mean to me
And let you know how much I need You.
I LOVE YOU my sweet valentine."

''Girl if you were a flower
I would have plucked you from the root
And have you planted in my heart to let it bloom forever
Water you with my love and treasure you with my LIFE.''

Relationship is Not a Promise

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It is easier to get committed than to maintain that commitment. That is why we have the adage; Promises are made to be broken.'' But relationship is not about experimenting with our lives. It is about maintaining what has been started. Relationship is not about giving up but to take the association to another level despite the odds. In other words, relationship is an art of interacting with people. It is about blending the opposites, accommodating the differences, promoting the likeness and furthering the association. Therefore a relationship is not a promise but a union of different individuals.

Be very clear from the very beginning what you expect of from the other person. We come across many people in our lives but not everybody become a part of our lives. We decide on whom to get intimate with to share a meaningful relationship. Likewise others also choose us to be a part of their lives but even in those cases we need to understand what is expected of us. Only then can the friendship moves towards a definite direction and be fruitful for all the shortcomings that is in us.

Value your friendship. It's a tall ask for someone to completely fall within the line of our expectation. Just as you are incomplete with many short comings, so also are you friends. Just remember the reason you are friends with each other. Keep a friend within the bound of your expectation of him or her and value that.

Time brings change. Relationship is dynamic. You cannot maintain the status of the beginning till the end. Friendship needs to grow and develop over time. Now, the need to be specific with the nature of your relationship is to lead your friendship to a definite direction. But we have choices and it is up to you to determine where it should go next as every time intimacy develops and bonding takes place. Relationship is about maintaining and developing it. It is about maneuvering it towards a productive growth. That is why how to relate with others is an art. Relationship is a seed that must nature overtime to bear fruit. Therefore in order to foster a healthy relationship, we must interpret the changes and deal with them accordingly.
Little by little City sights may entertain you in extravagance but the sight of a rose in the bush will really let you savor its real beauty because the redefined impression of its beauty amidst its surrounding will provide you a romantic treat. If you really want to relish the taste of a dish then it is not on an extravagance laid table but in a single dish that you will get. Take a piece of chicken, put it in your mouth, chew on it slowly and try to relish its taste. Don't over eat it. Just eat a piece or two and you will really get to savor the real taste of a chicken. Don't begin your friendship with high expectation and demands otherwise you will end up getting disappointed though it may initially blow you away like the extravagant sight of a new city. Begin on a simple note otherwise when the dust had settled down you will feel the shallowness of such an experience. Don't envision an extravagant dish of your friend. Just let him/her unfold before you piece by piece (little by little) and see the bond of your friendship cement. Just don't go on a maximum overdrive. Slow down and be cool. Little by little HUH!
Know them better You are best equipped to deal with your friends better if you know what they are. And the best way to learn about your someone is by spending time with them. Don't nurture any pre-conceived notion about anyone. Try to get to know them better by spending time with them alone and in the company of your friends. Let things begin on a good note. After all you are going to relate with them with the first impression you have of them.
It is not hire and fire For all that is said about relationship, it doesn't make one, the director of a firm or company to hire and fire. They are simply certain guidelines to aid you share a productive relationship because relationship is the art of hanging on with friends. But those ill intent and harmful behaviour are best avoided.
Give them space and respect their rights. It is really annoying if someone were to show up every now and then. You will certainly feel an infringement on your personal rights and liberty. So also is with you friends, Just give them the needed space to breath. If you have rights, then so do they, no matter what they are. In exercising our rights we must learn to respect others right too.
Whether you are single, have a partner or is married don't be scared when you get attracted to those of the opposite sexes. Remember that we are all unique and different and not everybody perceive us equally. You may have a partner or is married but as there are many people far better and beautiful than you so also it will be otherwise. The reason why we find far better and beautiful people lies in our uniqueness and difference. But there will never be another you or another them. Therefore if you value your relationship don't commit yourself into something that you are going to rue over later.

Enjoy ur Valentine's day

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Remember dis Valentine 2 treat ur heart n not ur eyes. Da heart can only sense n feel 4 it doesn't have eyes. It suffers silently. It is its day so try 2 let it feast wholeheartedly. Don't worry ur head nor strain ur eyes. Just let ur heart feel da vibe n u bask in da richness of its find. Enjoy ur sweet Valentine.

Love quote

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I'll be the wind to make you soar
I'll be the water to quench your thirst
I'll be the hand to pick you up
I'll be the shoulder for you to lean on
I'll be the love your heart longs
For my love for you will never die.

How to relate with those of the opposite sexes if you are not single?

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Simply just don't make an issue out of it. They are not like the fruits of the forbidden tree in Eden. There is nothing wrong in associating with those of the opposite sexes. And there is also nothing wrong in getting attracted to them. We are simply designed that way; to impress and attract each other in term of our sexes. Just don't get swayed by your feelings and emotions. Of course, we must listen to our hearts but let us be sensible enough to make the right judgement with your mind. And mind you, love is not everywhere. Attraction may stems from different reasons; physical, personality, looks,wealth, charisma and so on but marriage is of the heart, mind and body.
All of us need friends irrespective of the sexes. After all our partners are simply not a complete package. Simply don't keep special secret friends. I know of a married lady who has a male best friend. She would simply praise his resourcefulness. Now one fine evening the husband and wife had a heated argument. When I went there the husband said to me, "What is my fault if most of my colleagues happen to be females... we call each other on work related issues or enquire of each others well being because bonding take place and they become more of an extended family..." I can very much empathise with his logic so I went to his wife to make her see sense. Indirectly I told her that he might have some resourceful friends like she has. "Don't question my friendship. I know better!" She simply hit me back.
Most of us are simply like that. Unreasonably very uncompromising! Its simply What I do is right and what you do is wrong. Sounds very complicated, right? But it simply is not so though it is something very selfish.
Most of us simply don't find anything wrong with ourselves in relating with those of the opposite sexes but expects otherwise from our partners. This is simply wrong and we must respect the individuality of each other and give enough space to our partners to be themselves. And if you cannot tolerate your partner associating with those of the opposite sexes then simply don't do it yourself. But that is not possible for we are not marooned in an island. Just take it easy! The simple magical solution to this is to let your partner feel special in front of them. This is also a confidence and trust building measure between a husband and a wife. Suspicion and jealousy are inborn but care and affection can manage them. Just don't be otherwise. Be as you are with them in the presence of your partner as when you are alone with them. If not something is not right in your motive after all. Just don't compromise in this if you plan to walk the miles with your partner. You need friends but your relationship with your partner is more important. Nurture it well.

Love Qoute

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"Romance has its fragrance, a fragrance so enthralling
And I'm fortunate to have you by my side
To bask in the sweetness of its fragrance forever.
The memories of yesteryears keeps me going
For the way your love add taste to my life
My life has become beautifully sweet
For the way your love tends my heart
To make my living wonderfully memorable."

"If I could built my dream in an empty space about us
I wouldn't have longed the way I do for you
Girl I seek for the love that's within you and its true
Its not a feeling I can fight cos you have me conquered."

Keep it Simple and Easy

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As the beauty of a rainbow stems from its colours so also do people of different taste, personality and nature adds colour to our life. Keep them that way. Let the red be red, blue be blue and green be green. We simply don't need all the available ingredients that we can lay our hands on to make a chicken curry delicious. Rather, it will result in the chicken losing its real flavour. To really savour the chicken, mutton, fish or whatever, spices are just seasonings to make them tastier. So also is with friends. Let them be them and if you really want them to impact your life then deal with them accordingly for what they are in your life. Otherwise trying to treat all equally with the same degree of intimacy will result in you getting hurt and at the same time hurting others too. We cannot take a bite from all the eating joints and rastaurants available when we go out on a dinner. We simply cannot expect the same from all of our friends. Therefore it is very important that we club them according to their personalities, traits, professions etc so that we have a list of options to choose from when the need arises depending upon their availability and our preferences.
This in no way give you permission to treat them like a commodity and grant you the license to be aloof. But you must always remember that you need to be adaptable and instantaneous. Otherwise you will end up being avoided as an eccentric. You must be flexible and shed that rigidity to be welcoming. Club them as to how you want to relate with them but enjoy their company as they come.
If you are not single, take it to another level but still keeping it simple and easy. Relate with them the way you have related with them earlier but keeping in mind as to how you are going to feel if your partner does the same. Don't do something you wouldn't want of your partner.
No double standards
Remember that you are, if not always, mostly conscious of how your partner behaves or reacts with the opposite sexes though you may or may not be fully conscious of it. Therefore don't expect otherwise. Therefore it is very important that you are what you are with them in the presence of your partner or otherwise. This is not a tall ask and it is how you try and relate with your friends even if you are not single in a simple and easy way.
Now just don't worry your head over what your partner is going to think the next time you face such a situation. Simply be yourself to your partner when your friends are around and relate with them as you would normally do. But remember that your every move is being scrutinised. Just be clean and confident and give your partner the due importance and attention he/she deserves. Life is to be lived and relating with others must be a source of happiness.

Determine the nature of your association with others

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Most often we find that relationships loses the flavours of their much hyped beginnings. When this happens the relationship becomes passive and it is left to occasional Hi's and Bye's. This can be the result of us expecting to be entertained. This is not wrong however selfish it may sound when it comes to friends. After all friendship is suppose to add taste and give the needed flavour in our lives. But we must also remember that they are not litters to be discarded like waste of our lives. It is simply that they have become like that old movie which you had loved so much once but due to over viewing you have lost the taste.
We must understand that variety adds taste and colour to our lives. But that doesn't give us the right to pick and discard people at our whims and fancy. Nobody is perfect and if we go as such then we will never be able to share a stable and lasting relationship with anyone. That is why it is very important that we treat each individual differently and deal with them accordingly. This is what relationship is all about. It is in relating despite the differences where a relationship will thrive. It is how you relate with them that will define the course of your interaction with them.
It is very important that we define the nature of our association with each, draw the line and accordingly establish our relationship with them. Sounds hard but very practical as it allow us to treat each other within the ambit of the allocated space in our lives. This is specially so when it concerns the opposite sexes. Whatever be the association; professional, emotional, interest based, common goals and objectives or for that matter even a physical one, the problem is not about what the association is all about but how each try to relate to each other within the ambit of the defined nature of friendship. We must be clear as to how a person relate to us. This way we can seek each according to the need and demand of the existing circumstances.

Dearly Tarry My Love

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Afar yonder the mystic heights
Snuggled inside cosy fury weights
Sweetly dream away this chilly night dear
That tomorrow lovely thoughts you bear.

For though distance may keep us apart
This heart will never from thee depart.
Lovely memory of us dances all around
To fill my voidness within, they surround.

Season changes but faithful to come again
For nature's treasure trove to richly gain.
"Hello"and "Bye" we wish and we bade
But not for the love within us to bade.

As in a parched land, a farer weary
Hunger and thirst for my love, dear tarry
So the union of our souls greatly sweetened
And the fragrance of romance both a gladdened.

Priceless

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Again the night has the world in darkness

With myriad stars dotting the sky in brightness

Nowhere is there a trace of the day that’s gone,

A time to reflect on the things that’s been done.

Oh! This darken night so mysteriously beautiful.

But alas! It has flung challenges in bountiful,

And this feeble mind’s embroiled in countless thoughts,

For a helpless struggle against emotional current flowed.

The pangs of my emotions etched so deep within,

Confined to the cocoon of my pain; walls so thin.

Marooned with this vast nothingness all around,

Will the tearless cry of my heart wet the ground?

A drop of tear slid my cheek and fell down.

You are priceless dear not an item to be pawned.

Oh! In this painful darkness remorsefully I search

Your presence dear. Forever in my heart perched.

Dozen flowers can never be treasured my dear

I have but one (priceless) don’t leave my heart in tears.

One Facet of A Relationship

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Busy as we are, it's only those with whom we share common interest, likes and dislikes, professional needs or for that matter bridging our emotional vacuum that comes within the purview or radar of us staying actively connected. Relating to others get based on the motive and purposes, depending upon what we seek for. Of course it is a different story when you are relating with different people based on the merit of each.
Initially when you have joined a college, workplace, club or has moved to a new location, just about anybody is on your radar. But as time passes by when intimate relating begins, the number goes down. Bonding takes place as new relationships begin to be forged. The degree of intimacy and the nature of relationship starts dictating your interaction with those around you. Life begins to roll in a new perspective and yet with the passage of time your intimacy with those around you is trimmed. Some relationships gets cemented into a strong bonding, some fades out and new faces get added into the list.
This relationship cycle continues. And in a fast paced competitive world we have only time for the like minded and those that help serve our interest. The rest unconsciously fades away though not entirely cut off. They are still there yet circumstances and the challenges of life defines it thus. Life must go on.

Missing you's

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"Ican't close my eyes cos I can fight this pain of being apart
I wasn't ready for this, to feel the way I do without you here.
But now I've realised what you mean to me girl
Love is God's gift and you are my gift
You make whole my life."

"Ever since you became mine many a flower has withered
And this eyes seen many lights.
Time has tamed many a thing, except this longing that I feel
Whenever we are apart.
It only gets stronger and stronger the longer I'm away from you.
Missing you deeply."

Love qoutes

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"I cannot see beyond what my heart can feel and the only thing that my heart can feel is you"

"Spring blooms
summer warms
Autumn (Fall) bares
And winter chills.
The year has different seasons
And season many faces
Yet I have only one face and only one you. I love you."

"Dear seal me ever in your heart
Never be weary to wear me in your eyes
Carry me always in your sweet thoughts
Weave me in your dreams and let fly our love."

How to choose your partner; A simple and easy tip

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Getting committed is not simply, "I love you, will you marry me?" "Yes I do!"
1 Marriage is of the heart, mind and body. Know and understand each other better by being friends first. Check out your compatibility for you have many miles to traverse together.
2 Love is the essence of all relationship. Many factors come into play but at the end of the day it all comes down to love.
3 How to choose your partner if you are a man? Look for someone you love.
4 How to choose your partner if you are a woman? Look for the one who loves you.
5 Financial status plays an important role.
*A comprehensive and a detailed account on this topic is coming out very soon. You will be notified.

Romancing & Relating

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Romancing & Relating

Love is ageless. It is not about how old you are but how receptive and willing your heart is. Its essence lies in our desire to experience the ultimate end product to being alive. It is not a routine or a schedule to keep. Romance is as mysterious as the mystery of the night sky. Centuries of study and decades of exploration has done little to assuage our curiosity. On the other hand it has only serve to sparked our curiosity to know more and understand the hidden secrets of the vast expanse of the universe around us. Romance has also its own share of hidden secrets and mysteries waiting for willing hearts to explore. It is an adventurous journey for our hearts to unravel the many secrets and create treasureable memories.

But the essence of romance is determined by the nature of relationship shared. If love is ageless than romance demands compatibility, and the way we relate will determine the degree of compatibility between two people. Therefore it is very important to understand what relationship is, because if romance is about two people sharing a special bond than relationship is about balancing that bond amidst the intimacy of other people in our lives. Life is not simply you and me but him, her, them and us.

Nuances of Relationship and its Importance.

2010-11-02T10:28:00.000+05:30

Nuances of Relationship and its Importance.

If getting intimate is about sharing common values, ideals, goals, taste, likes, dislikes then the question of intricacy and complexity of bonding with others will not arise. In as much as the individuality of a person's character demands the needed space and necessary respect to blossom and develope to its desired potential, contradiction will arise. Each individual differs from the other and there is no set of nature or character that can be clubbed into a single entity. For me to be myself is for the other to be himself. This is where balancing the opposites in order for the equals to blend together amidst the differences arises. After all, interactions cannot simply be touch and go. Exception may be entertained in some cases but there are areas where this concept can never find experimentation.

An orchestra is a collection of differerent sets of musical instrument sounding differently, yet the beauty of its melody is the result of a blend of totally different pieces played together. Different sets of people add taste and flavour to our otherwise monotonous life. Our differences is the fragrance of our lives. We best relishes the exquisiteness of a cuisine when it is not abundantly available. Same sets of routine, schedules, cuisines, faces etc will make living a tasteless duty. It is in variety that life finds flavour. A team needs different sets of individuals with different skills, ideas, techniques, personalities etc. Society needs people with different professions, skills, abilities etc to meet its requirement of running its machinery and to march ahead.

Challenges abound in boundiful. It will be a tall ask to keep dodging and running away from them. After all life is meant to be lived by accepting the challenges along the path and make the most of what comes our way. In trying to get too choosy and picky we will end up denying ourselves the real ingredients and flavours of life.

Of course we cannot be expected to accept whatever stands along our path. Not everybody can find accomodation and space. And even those that are accepted, conflicts and contradictions in most cases will take centrestage in the course of our interaction. And it is in trying to balance the differences despite the odds and hanging on to each other through accomodation and adjustment where we'll share relationship. It is more than just trying to get along with people as long as the road is smooth. Relationship is about weathering the rough weather amidst the contradictions and move ahead in acceptance of the other.

Giving up is not an option nor a choice because relationship is simply about how to maintain the intimacy by balancing the differences. Generally what normally happens is that when things don't work out we go for a replacement to fill the vacuum created by the exit of one. Now this is pure selfishness in so far as the need to relate stems from the desire to have somebody. There are millions and we can choose and reject people at our will. But that is not how it is. If it were that simple there really wouldn't be wars, conflicts etc. You cannot expect yourself to change your workplace almost everyday or change residence daily. That is not how things work and that is where the question of relating with others despite the differences become important.

As an artist or a poet that tries to find beauty amidst the pains and miseries, life must be lived by trying to focus on the positives because that brings hope and serves to motivate us in living a purposeful life. Our approach and attitude towards life in general determines the nature of our personality and help shape the course of our conduct with those around us. We must understand and define the nature of our relation with each individuals and deal with them accordingly. Relationship is like an art and we must determine and categorise the place each individuals occupies in the set up and draw up a boundary line so that each individual interact accordingly. It is up to the interacting individuals to determine the nature of their intimacy. Afterall we cannot share the same level of professional, intellectual and emotional relationship with everyone we meet on an equal note. We must learn to club all those we come across into different category depending upon the nature of association and the purpose each will serve in our lives. This is specially all the more important when the association is between people of the opposite sexes.

Now there is nothing wrong to get attracted to each other because that is a natural and a universal phenomenon. Each individual is differently and uniquely presented to us; look, nature, personality, talent, name, fame, wealth etc. Any of these may get us intimately attached. Therefore the nature of us getting attracted to others will vary but we cannot share intimacy with all. We must understand that the need to associate with others stems from the need to fulfill certain needs either mutual or self. Most of our association with others stem from our professional, emotional, intellectual need or to nurse our loneliness. That is why we need to define the nature of our relationship and this is specially true for ladies who treasure the relationship for its merit.