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		<description><![CDATA[Men are always ready for sex &#160;There is a great percentage of men who think that they should be able to perform sexually in any given chance. This includes all “phases” from his erection to her satisfaction. Although every man on the planet would like to be able to perform sexually when he needs to, [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Men are always ready for sex</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1214" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="women touching a man sexualy" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/womens-hands-in-mans-boxer-shorts.jpg" width="350" height="204" />&nbsp;There is a great percentage of men who think that they should be able to perform sexually in any given chance. This includes all “phases” from his erection to her satisfaction. Although every man on the planet would like to be able to perform sexually when he needs to, we all know that bitter truth and facts say differently. Many factors, depending on the situation may negatively affect your sexual performance, i.e. stress, anxiety, guilt, fatigue, etc.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Men who live by this stereotype of <em><strong>“should always be ready for sex”</strong></em>, will develop more sexual disorders and dysfunctions than men who don’t. Sexual biorhythms are varying, depending on many factors. If you stress yourself to perform sexually you will have the opposite results than you’re trying for, plus the negative psychological consequences. Neither men nor women are always-ready sex-machines.</p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Daily sex</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Another common, yet false belief is that couples are having&nbsp;<img class="alignright  wp-image-1211" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="man holds his genitals" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/man-holding-crotch.jpg" width="157" height="253" /> (or should have) sex in a daily basis, which of course is far from truth. Researches shown, that most couples are having sex once or twice a week. Although it can’t be taken for granted, as it’s an aspect which depends on a variety of factors, there shouldn’t be any number to be considered more or less “normal”.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Latest results shown that only a 46% of men and a 58% of women, were satisfied from the frequency of their sexual activity. This simply means, the majority of men (54%) don’t have as much sex as they wanted to have, while the same percentage of women is satisfied with what they already have.&nbsp; The fact is, there is a gasp between expectations and reality, for both men and women… Not everything is black or white; there are –at least- <a title="The Official &quot;fifty shades of  Gray&quot; products" href="http://shop.relationsinharmony.com/sphinx_search2.php?ser_key=official+fifty+shades&amp;s_cid=all&amp;a=relations-in-harmony" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">fifty shades of gray</span></a>…</p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>He should make her come every time</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1210" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="sexual satisfaction, goal" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/man-gives-thumbs-up.jpg" width="280" height="225" />&nbsp;The female orgasm is not <i>“a solo play”.</i> No woman should depend on her lover only, to have an orgasm. Despite what some or most people believe, men are not sex/pleasure-machines. Yes, they might significantly contribute to your pleasure, but you have to be active and part of it, too. Even when you’re using your <a title="Your favorite Sex toys" href="http://shop.relationsinharmony.com/best_sellers.php?a=relations-in-harmony#showdvds=0&amp;grid" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">favorite sex-toys</span></a>, <b>you don’t just turn the switch on, spread your legs and wait for the …fireworks… do you?</b></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">You have to actively participate body and mind, and you know what I mean.&nbsp; No man can ‘force’ you to come, if you are not in the mood, if you are not enjoying it, if you are tired, if you are not relaxed, etc. For both men and women, any obsession with having an orgasm will lead to stress and discomfort. Many relationships have been ruined for such obsessions and wrong beliefs.</p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Sexual dysfunctions are mostly for men</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Well, the latest epidemiological data have definitely busted this myth.&nbsp;<img class="size-full wp-image-1227 alignright" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="sexual dysfunctions" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/depressed-woman.jpg" width="159" height="281" /> All recent researches shown that 40% to 50% of women of all ages will be facing at least one sexual dysfunction, opposing to men, where the percentage is significantly lower, about 20% to 30%. It’s just the fact that men can’t hide problems like erection dysfunctions or premature ejaculation…</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Continuing this mini-series, we will talk more about some of the most common sex myths in relationships. This is not a “true or false” style rather than a discussion. You don’t have to agree or accept anything neither take a side, but any justified argument would be appreciated. Homosexuality &#160;Homosexuality is thought to be a [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;">Continuing this mini-series, we will talk more about some of the most common sex myths in relationships. This is not a “true or false” style rather than a discussion. You don’t have to agree or accept anything neither take a side, but any justified argument would be appreciated.<span id="more-1198"></span></p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Homosexuality</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1208" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="homosexual couple" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/gay-couple.jpg" width="170" height="279" />&nbsp;Homosexuality is thought to be a pathological behavior, a sexual diversion of human’s nature, an anomaly or even a disease of some kind. Since 1974, according to the American Psychiatric Association (APA), homosexuality is no longer considered to be a psychological disorder… The World Health Organization (WHO) has recognized, as a human right, the fact that adults should be free to choose their sexual preferences.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Regardless of what APA or WHO are stating due to the “politically correct” mainstream, homosexuality in its “natural form” of expression or tendency, in its preface, &nbsp;is definitely a pathological issue <b>in the majority of cases</b>. It has nothing to do with sexual preferences, because the specific “preference” occurs as the result due to genetic causes of hormonal disorders. Thus, a growing boy with testosterone deficiency, will most probably show effeminate behavior, which later on can be sexually expressed through homosexuality. This simply means that cases of hormonal disorders can be treated properly with testosterone administration for example, having remarkable and <i>curable</i> results.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Unfortunately, people still think of homosexuality as a taboo, so they never talk or ask for a professional’s help or advice. <b><i>They either condemn it or they embrace the idea of being sexually different.</i></b> This has always been a debatable subject and we cannot analyze it properly, in just one paragraph. Homosexuality (or gender disorder) can take many forms in different levels. Thus, every case should be treated differently, depending on its special characteristics and not generalize all cases under the homosexuality term.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="size-full wp-image-1206 aligncenter" style="border: 0px none; margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px;" alt="homosexuality, gay" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/dropping-the-soap.jpg" width="500" height="282" /></p>
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<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>The promising Sexual endurance</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1213" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="tired, frustrated man" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/muscular-male.jpg" width="185" height="240" />&nbsp;Many men believe that sexual endurance is the key-factor that women are choosing their mates and sex partners. This is totally wrong and any men who still believe that, will be very disappointed. Psychological researches came up with some interesting results. <b>Women do not care about your sexual records</b>, when they have to choose their mate, a life companion or a long term relationship with marital perspectives.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Their maternal natural instinct is so strong, that will lead them subconsciously to evaluate you as a future father. Are you “man enough” to support a family? All of your assets that have to do with parenting, maturity, security, etc. will be under her scope. Even if you have remarkable sexual performance, it won’t give you the credibility you’ll need as a future father. Of course the look and the appearance is a crucial factor for both men and women to choose a lover or sex partner. Researches showed that <b>men do care about the appearance and “beauty stereotypes”, more than women do.</b></p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>A new-born baby will revitalize your sex life</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1205" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="pregnancy and intimacy" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/man-kissing-pregnant-wife.jpg" width="181" height="303" />&nbsp;I really am not sure if there’s anybody who honestly believes that. Pregnancy itself may cause serious sexual problems to couples, as there may be a voluntary or involuntary abstinence from sex, depending on medical restrictions, religious beliefs, narrow-minded or uninformed women, etc. As the belly gets bigger in late pregnancy, sexual drive gets weaker or suppressed, at least for the future mother. So, before you realize it, you are a happy parent with a baby in your arms. A life changing fact in many aspects, new responsibilities, anxiety… Who has time to think about sex now?&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">From the man’s point of view, the weeks are passing by, and his lovely wife starts to shape up from pregnancy’s extra weight. He wants her more than ever, but she doesn’t have <i>‘the time’</i> for him. She has to feed her little angel, she has to change the dippers, prepare the bath, breastfeed the junior and so on… Any approach turns out to be unsuccessful, as all he hears is <em>“not now honey, you will wake up the baby…”</em> or <em>“we don’t have time for this, I have to feed him/her soon”</em>… Sounds familiar? So, how could possibly anyone thought that a new-born baby <b><i>will revitalize your sex life?</i></b> Unless this required privation of sex has woken up your primal <i>sexual instincts</i> or the testosterone has reached the “caution” red levels, I really don’t see how the revitalization is meant.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Statistical researches proved that after the first 8 months the new-born had became part of the family, a 50% of the couples said / admitted that their sex life was “bad” or not as “good” as before the baby, as well as they were seriously thinking of asking for professional help, if they haven’t already done so. The bottom line is that new parent-couples <b>have to ‘protect’ their relationship</b>.&nbsp;<img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1207" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="neglected spouse" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/family.jpg" width="203" height="280" /> Spend more time together, show that you care and you love each other. Don’t neglect your partner giving too much attention to the baby. Of course it’s natural to over care sometimes, as maternal instinct can be very powerful, but you have to balance between being a mother, wife and a lover. The birth of a child is a blessing and should bring joy and happiness. <b>It can revitalize your life as a married couple, through the ‘changes’ that come along.</b> Being a parent should make you both more responsible, as there is an extra person in the family now, which you have to take care of.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Another false belief, of women usually, is that if their marriage or relationship has problems, they think that having a baby may or will make things better. They hope that a baby could change the father’s attitude… You know that is wrong. I have seen this happening so many times, that I can bet you on how it will end… Some women just keep thinking hopelessly that he will change magically somehow, after she gives birth to his child. Face the facts and make your decisions before it’s too late. An irresponsible man, will never become a responsible father. If he has a drinking problem, if he’s abusing you or calling you names, if he doesn’t love you, he will not change, no matter how many kids you give him. Some people are not meant to be parents or they are just not ready yet. Don’t give birth to a child, only to make its childhood and future life miserable…</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">This one is quite the opposite of the previous one. We have the fact of women choosing their mates based on how suitable as fathers they think they are, and on the other hand we have women who choose misery just to be close to the one whom they deserve less, despite the consequences or whatever the psychological or emotional cost is… Both true, both part of life’s contradictions.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[The myths about sex, relationships or sexual behavior, seems they’ll never end. As medical science, sex therapists, sex/relationships experts are gaining more knowledge about biology, physiology, human bodies, human sexuality etc., more and more beliefs about all aspects of sexuality are being revised or adapted due to the overall progress of civilization and culture. Each [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;">The myths about sex, relationships or sexual behavior, seems they’ll never end. As medical science, sex therapists, sex/relationships experts are gaining more knowledge about biology, physiology, human bodies, human sexuality etc., more and more beliefs about all aspects of sexuality are being revised or adapted due to the overall progress of civilization and culture. Each one of us has been raised with specific principles and ideas which were given by the family. <span id="more-1178"></span>Beliefs about what is wrong, what is right, what you should or shouldn’t do, what is considered as sin, what is natural, normal or abnormal… It’s up to you to reconsider, accept or reject the facts of human sexuality and its aspects.</p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Penis size</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1183" style="margin: 5px 10px; border: 0px none;" alt="penis' size myth" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/penis_size.jpg" width="224" height="165" />&nbsp;One of the most debated and discussed sex myths. Most men, usually affected by porn movies, are developing false, unrealistic standards of what is supposed to be ‘normal’ penis size. Besides the self-esteem and masculinity, the myth of penis’ size expands into the fields of pleasure and sexual satisfaction. So, connecting the dots, men believe that the bigger their “manhood” is, the better the pleasure of their partner will be. There are cases though, where there is an additional factor which makes men feel uncomfortable with their size and that is the “comparison factor” with their partner’s ex’s…</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Anyways, a very recent research came up with some interesting <img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1185" style="margin: 5px 10px; border: 0px none;" alt="penis's size comparison" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/comparing_sizes.jpg" width="213" height="350" />results. Only 21% of the participating&nbsp; women, answered that <i>“penis size is important”.</i>&nbsp; And of that 21%, only 1% thinks that penis’ size is <i>“very important”…</i> Another worth noticing answer for a 32% of asked women, was the <i>“penis’ thickness factor”</i>… So, three women out of ten, think that thickness is more important than length, while only two out of ten think that size matters.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">What do these percentages tell you? Stop worry about the “tool” itself and make the most out of its usage while mastering your lovemaking skills, as there is an almost 70% &#8211; 80% of women out there, who will appreciate it, as is and in addition to that, scientists say that penis’ length below 7 cm (2,7 inches, erected) can be considered as pathologically small. Also have in mind, that porn movie stars are selected through casting, <b><i>to fit the ideal modern sex symbols</i></b>, for both men and women and they don’t represent the average male or female figure.</p>
<h4 style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><b>Masturbation</b></span></h4>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Another common myth is that masturbation is… unhealthy. This myth is “ancient history”. It’s been busted long time ago, as it was based on <a title="Masturbation Contradictions…" href="http://relationsinharmony.com/health/masturbation-contradictions/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">religious beliefs</span></a> and taboos, rather than medical or scientific data. While masturbation seems “normal” for some ages where boys and girls “explore” their sexuality, when we are talking about grown up men and women, things are seen differently.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1191" style="border: 0px none; margin: 5px 10px;" alt="masturbating man" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/man-with-hand-in-pants.jpg" width="224" height="168" />&nbsp;Many people falsely believe that when you are married for example or in a relationship, masturbation stops (or should stop), because there is a sexual partner. This is totally wrong, as masturbation and self-pleasuring can be quite complicated to fully analyze its aspects right now. The research showed that 60% of men and 40% of women did masturbate –at least once- during last year. When the sample was limited to people in relationship, marriage or having other steady sexual activities, the percentages of masturbation where even higher, with men reaching 85% and women 45%&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Don’t get me wrong on this, but when I say it’s ‘normal’ you have to think ‘normality within a context of common sense or acceptance’… I mean if you’re masturbating five times per day, this is beyond any normal justification and you should ask for professional help (the number is random, just to make a point on the abuse and exaggeration).</p>
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		<title>5 reasons for her to be unfaithful…</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Apr 2013 01:43:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A woman can be sexually unfaithful to her partner, for various reasons. These are just the five most important causes that will drive her to cheat on you, as they have been recorded through numerous Research Institutes and polls. Each and every one of them is just enough for her to look for “alternatives”… and [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;">A woman can be <strong>sexually unfaithful</strong> to her partner, for various reasons. These are just the five most important causes that will drive her to <strong>cheat on you</strong>, as they have been recorded through numerous Research Institutes and polls. Each and every one of them is just enough for her to look for “alternatives”… and make a <strong>cuckold</strong> of you. <span id="more-1158"></span>The more “reasons” she has (you give her), the more you have to be worried of adultery. So, read, think carefully, leave your ego aside, and revise your behavior to save your relationship before it’s too late. The order is random, as they are all equally important.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><b><img class=" wp-image-1164 alignleft" style="border: 0px none; margin: 10px;" alt="cheating couple" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/cuckold-2.jpg" width="227" height="313" /><span style="color: #0000ff;">1. She wants something that you don’t have or ever had</span></b></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">At any given time, she might be attracted to things that you don’t have. These “things” will not be necessarily material objects. Could be aspects of someone’s character, aspects of his social status, or his lifestyle or even a combination of all the above. I’m not talking about riches or just money issues (unless you’re miser like Uncle Scrooge or skint like Donald)… If she thought high of money and riches, she wouldn’t hang out with you in the first place, you just wouldn’t qualify… On the other hand, a man’s social power, his status, his maturity, always’ been like aphrodisiacs to women. Women need to feel secure in many ways like emotionally, economically, sexually… and if you don’t offer her what she is naturally expecting from you, she will look for them elsewhere…</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"><b>2. Disappointment</b></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">This could be related to the above or it could just be a solid reason of its own. Disappointment could be the result of numerous reasons and not necessarily related to sex. <strong>Everyone, either women or men, have some expectations from their relationships.</strong> These expectations differ among women, depending on their age, their “experience”, their culture, their social status and things like that. If you prove yourself inadequate fulfilling her expectations, or even worst, if you are being unconcerned or neglect her … then surely the odds aren’t in your favor. If you are just dating, she won’t give it too much thought or give you more than a second chance. If you’re married, she might be patient and tolerable for a while, but it won’t be forever, either. <strong>Emotional and psychological disappointment is worse than sexual.</strong> So don’t bet on the “stallion”… If there are children, they just buy you time but not for long. As soon as she realizes that you are not willing to change, it will be the <em>no-turning-back-point</em>, exposing and making herself vulnerable to any <em>male “predator”</em>…</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"><b>3. Attention – Interest</b></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">While men are looking for sex, women are looking for …attention. Their self-esteem, their pride, their<img class="wp-image-1166 alignright" style="border: 0px none; margin: 10px;" alt="no sexual interest" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/indifference.jpg" width="264" height="358" /> ego, is like children’s. They want to be the center of the world, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>YOUR World</em></span>. They just want you to notice the “details”, the changes, anything she does to get your attention, because she does it for you. Show some interest, tell her how beautiful she is, how gorgeous she looks with that dress, shoes, hair… <strong>She needs to overcome any insecurity feelings, so she is eagerly looking for your affirmation, a compliment, your admiration or appreciation.</strong> Tell her how you feel, don’t lie to her. Show that you care for her as much as she cares for you. To avoid any misunderstandings, it is supposed that you care for her and your relationship, right? I just urge you to overcome any shyness …… or anything that might hold you back and you are not paying her the proper attention. Truth is, that even with casual attire and a bit of makeup, <em><strong>she can be noticed, courted, flirted, complimented or flattered by someone else…</strong></em> In that case your attention might no longer be so significant. Compliments of other men are going to raise her self-esteem, her ego, lower her insecurity and finally, your <i>seeds of indifference</i> will come to fruition, with her thinking that <em>“cheating is… never say never”</em>…</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"><b>4. Lack of enthusiasm</b></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">When every day is like the day before and tomorrow is nothing more than a predictable routine… your relationship lacks enthusiasm. You are lagging, whether you realize it or not. You should never let this happen to your relationship. You, the man, should do something about it, before it’s too late, and you know what they say <em>“better late than never”</em>… or <em>&#8220;better safe than sorry&#8221;</em> &#8230;if you prefer. Don’t let her get bored; don’t make her feel, that you or this relationship has nothing else to offer her. If you do care, avoid lagging and lack of enthusiasm, by all means. It will cost you your relationship, sooner or later. A good and ‘<i>evergreen</i>’ advice is to <strong>be exemplified by the first month of your relationship</strong>. How excited you were, how resourceful, how original, how different… The things you did to impress her, to show her your love and your interest, should always be your foolproof guide. Nevertheless, you must know her better by now, than the first month of your relationship. You know what she loves and what she likes, so it shouldn’t be so hard for you.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"><b>5. Sex</b></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">An eighty five percent of men will commit adultery just for sex, with the odds in favor of the percentage to be higher. As women think differently than men do, regarding sex drive and their sexual satisfaction, committing adultery for sex is ranking low on their list … Don’t be fooled though, or rest assured because <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>IT IS</strong></span> on their list… Unless you have sworn celibacy, don’t let her “<i>flower</i>” …unwatered, or someone else will happily end the “<i>drought</i>”, to her satisfaction…</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-1162" style="border: 0px none;" alt="cheating spouse" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/cuckold-1.jpg" width="600" height="490" /></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Well, you may have noticed that all five reasons are related and connected, more or less, with each other. So, if you are <em>‘positive’ to any of those “toxic” reasons</em>, then you have just saved yourself some money, because you really don’t need a fortune-teller to tell you how your relationship is going to end up… <strong>If you are not a cuckold already</strong>, then you will be, even sooner than you might think.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">As you can see, it’s mostly about how she feels emotionally, how <strong>YOU</strong> make her feel. The more combined reasons she has, the more the chances are to cheat on you or even worse, to leave you. Don’t take anything for granted, especially people, and do your best to save your relationship (and your ego) while you still can.</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Mar 2013 20:24:10 +0000</pubDate>
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;">Did you know that <em><strong>sex positions</strong></em> actually have “names”? Of course you do! No matter how senseless this question might sound to many of you, there are many people, who regardless their active sexual life, don’t know that sex positions do have names…<span id="more-1141"></span> This kind of “knowledge” is gained mostly by reading. Either in books, magazines, articles, reports, printed, digital or on the internet, tv or cinema, the access to information we have today …might sometimes be a little hard to handle… or even more than we can handle.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">So, why do sex positions have names, and why should anyone know about those names? No particular reason, really. As long as you do it or know how to do it, there is no need or any reason why should you name it. You and your partner are free to develop you own “code”, based on your likes and as long as you understand each other, it’s totally acceptable. Nature made sure that our sexual instinct will guide us through and bodies will find their way, regardless position names or sexual terminology. I mean, you don’t have to feel bad or less competent if you don’t know how the Kama-sutra positions are called. You probably have already tried most of them, even if you don’t know their names. Besides, it’s rather uncommon –if not freaky- to know all position’s names, along with their variations…</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-1150" style="border: 0px none;" alt="man on top position" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/missionary-3.jpg" width="500" height="250" /></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Although, you may be familiar with the “<em>doggy style</em>” position, as it can be easily visualized even if you haven’t heard the name before, some position names are not so obviously figured out. What about the famous <strong>“missionary position”</strong>? What kind of name is this? Regardless the bizarre name,<em> it’s the most known, familiar and most used sex position, ever!</em> It’s the first position anyone tries, most probably the position that cost you your virginity. The name might be unfamiliar, but you surely have tried it. It’s the famous<em><strong> “man on top” position</strong></em>.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1148" style="border: 0px none; margin: 10px 15px;" alt="man on top position" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/missionary-2.jpg" width="240" height="352" />It is said that medieval <em><strong>Christian missionaries</strong></em> taught and recommended this position to the natives, as the only acceptable position for procreation, that wouldn’t be considered as vulgar sexual act, before God’s eyes … That has been called a myth, amongst some scholars. They say that the term <em><strong>“missionary position”</strong></em> was first used by <strong>Alfred Kinsey</strong> in his <em>“Sexual Behavior in the human male”</em>, published in 1948. Kinsey referred to this position by several names as <em><strong>“the matrimonial position”, “the Mama-Papa position”, “the male superior position” and “the English-American position”</strong></em> (for being the preferable position of Americans). Kinsey, discussing <strong>Malinowski&#8217;s</strong> records <em>“The Sexual Life of Savages in North-Western Melanesia”(1929)</em><i>, </i>wrote that the natives used a variation of the “English-American position”, which they referred to it as “the missionary position”…</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Sexologists and lexicographers agree that there hasn’t been found a term like “missionary position” to be used elsewhere, prior Kinsey. But even this point of view has its debates. Some scholars believe that Kinsey misinterpreted and misunderstood Malinowski’s records, as he wrote that he saw an engaged Trobriand couple holding hands and leaning against each other, which the natives described as <strong><i>misinari si bubunela</i></strong> — the <strong><em>&#8220;missionary fashion&#8221;</em></strong>. Kinsey combined facts the wrong way and he came up with a new phrase, believing that he was reporting an old one&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Since then, the “story” of the name’s origin has been retold so many times that became used and accepted. Writers began to use this term for intercourse in the late ‘60s. In 1976 the Oxford English Dictionary endorsed and spread the term “missionary position”, gradually replacing any other older terms.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Regardless the name or its origin, “missionary” is a position of high intimacy. Lovers can look each other’s eyes/expressions, can be kissed, hugged and caressed. There could be a full body contact, being more sensual and erotic. This position allows the man to better control the force, the depth, the pace and the rhythm of his thrust. The woman can passively enjoy it or she can control the level of her pleasure by moving her hips/pelvis simultaneously or even against her partner’s rhythm, pushing her feet against the bed. She can also squeeze him closer or deeper with her arms and legs.</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">There is another term known in the Western world, the <strong>“vanilla sex”</strong> which usually refers to the missionary position. The term “vanilla sex” has the meaning of a standard, ordinary, conventional sexual behavior. Like vanilla is the basic flavoring for ice cream, which by extension means <em><strong>“plain”</strong></em> or <em><strong>“conventional”</strong></em> (sexual expression). In a (sexual) relationship, the less sexually expressed partner is often referred as the<em><strong> “vanilla partner”</strong></em> or<em><strong> “vanilla-minded person”</strong></em>…</p>
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;">I really am not sure as to how to start this article. In fact, this isn’t about masturbation. This is about how some “<i>narrow-minded” </i>people, Christian conservatives, with any given power or authority can affect the lives of thousands or even millions of others.<span id="more-1079"></span> This is not something new; this was, still is, and will be happening as long as there will be humans that have their judgment mutilated or manipulated by <i>Churches</i> or <i>Religions</i>. Fanaticism of any kind cannot and will not help humanity to step forward. &nbsp;As for the term “narrow-minded” that I used, it’s up to you to decide that, when you finish reading this.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1085" style="border: 0px none; margin: 10px;" title="Young John Harvey Kellogg" alt="Young John Harvey Kellogg" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/John_Harvey_Kellogg_-_aged_about_29.jpg" width="150" height="253" />In the 26th of February of 1852, <b>John Harvey Kellogg</b> was born. He grew up, lived and died in Battle Creek, Michigan, at the age of 91 (1943). John Harvey Kellogg studied medicine and in 1875 got his medical degree. J. H. Kellogg became known while he was chief medical officer in <b>Battle Creek Sanitarium</b>. Kellogg was a <b><i>“Seventh-day Adventist”</i></b> until 1907. The Seventh-day Adventist Church owned the “Battle Creek Sanitarium” he was working at. The Church run the Sanitarium based on health principles like vegetarianism, abstinence from tobacco and alcohol, compositing physiologic methods comprising hydrotherapy, phototherapy, thermotherapy, electrotherapy, mechanotherapy, dietetics, physical culture, cold-air cure, and health training&#8230; &nbsp;Along with the exercises, Kellogg was using holistic methods, focusing on nutrition and enemas. He also held classes on food preparation. His patients were having (more than frequently) enemas of water, followed by enemas of a yogurt solution, as he believed that yogurt replaces the intestinal flora of the bowel, helping that way to eliminate harmful pathogenic bacteria that reside in the intestines and producing toxins that poison the blood, during digestion.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">History, will remember John Harvey Kellogg also as a passionate <b><i>advocate of sexual abstinence and masturbation </i></b><b><i>repugnant</i></b>. He believed that many types of sexual activity, even within a marriage, were against nature (defined as &#8220;sex for anything beyond reproduction&#8221;), and therefore <i>“extremely unhealthy”</i>&#8230; He claimed that <i>“neither the plague, nor war, nor small-pox, nor similar diseases, have produced results so disastrous to humanity as the pernicious habit of onanism&#8221;. </i>Kellogg felt that masturbation destroys not only physical and mental health, but the moral health of individuals as well. He also believed that the practice of this &#8220;solitary-vice&#8221; caused cancer of the womb, urinary diseases, nocturnal emissions, impotence, epilepsy, insanity, and mental and physical debility and &#8220;dimness of vision&#8221;, just to mention a few. Among other condemnations for the <i>masturbator,</i> he warned about masturbation related deaths, where <i>“the victim literally dies by his own hand”</i>&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">As he devoted many parts of his educational and medical work to discourage sexual activity, he worked on the rehabilitation of masturbators, with extreme measures -even for his time- such as mutilation on both sexes&#8230; As a skilled surgeon, he often promoted circumcision to young boys to prevent them from masturbating, or burning off the clitoris of young women, applying carbonic acid &#8230; In one of his books he writes:</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><i>A remedy which is almost always successful in small boys is circumcision, especially when there is any degree of phimosis. The operation should be performed by a surgeon without administering an anesthetic, as the brief pain attending the operation will have a salutary effect upon the mind, especially if it be connected with the idea of punishment, as it may well be in some cases. The soreness which continues for several weeks interrupts the practice, and if it had not previously become too firmly fixed, it may be forgotten and not resumed.</i></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">Elsewhere:</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><i>&#8230;a method of treatment [to prevent masturbation] &#8230; and we have employed it with entire satisfaction. It consists in the application of one or more silver sutures in such a way as to prevent erection. The prepuce, or foreskin, is drawn forward over the glans, and the needle to which the wire is attached is passed through from one side to the other. After drawing the wire through, the ends are twisted together, and cut off close. It is now impossible for an erection to occur, and the slight irritation thus produced acts as a most powerful means of overcoming the disposition to resort to the practice&#8230;</i></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="size-full wp-image-1090 aligncenter" style="border: 0px none; margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" title="Kellogg's Corn Flakes 1961" alt="Kellogg's Corn Flakes Ad 1961" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/KelloggsCornFlakes1961.jpg" width="500" height="688" /></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">In <b><i>Plain Facts for Old and Young</i></b> (1888), Kellogg issued a warning on the evils of sex. Of the 644 pages, 97 address &#8220;Secret Vice (Solitary Vice or Self-Abuse)&#8221;, its symptoms and results. Included are 39 signs indicating someone is masturbating, such as general weakness, cyclothymia, instability, audacity, stiffness, love for spicy foods, acne, epilepsy and more. He also recommended, to prevent children from this &#8220;solitary vice&#8221;, bandaging or tying their hands, covering their genitals with <b>patented cages</b> and <b>electrical shock</b>. In his <i>Ladies&#8217; Guide in Health and Disease</i>, for nymphomania, he recommended:</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><i>Cool sit baths; the cool enema; a spare diet; the application of blisters and other irritants to the sensitive parts of the sexual organs, the removal of the clitoris&#8230;</i></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">John Harvey Kellogg, as an advocate to vegetarianism and healthy diet, patented a process for making peanut butter. He was ardent supporter of the nutrition value of nuts. He created a kind of biscuit from oats and corn, baked in cookie form and cut into small pieces, which he called <i>&#8220;granola”</i>. Later, he developed different kinds of whole grain cereals, including the famous <b><i>corn flakes</i></b><i>. </i>Kellogg experiments his new recipes with Battle Creek Sanitarium patients, serving them as <i>health, ready to eat, <b>“anti-masturbating” breakfast</b></i>&#8230; to replace the typical late-nineteenth century breakfast centered around meat, eggs, and other <i>heavy foods</i>.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="size-full wp-image-1096 aligncenter" style="border: 0px none; margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;" title="man sleeping in cereals" alt="man sleeping in cereals" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/man-sleeping-in-cereals.jpg" width="300" height="200" /></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><b><img class="alignleft  wp-image-1088" style="margin: 10px; border: 0px none;" title="Will Keith Kellogg" alt="Will Keith Kellogg" src="http://relationsinharmony.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Will_Keith_Kellogg_Portrait.jpg" width="154" height="176" />Will Keith Kellogg</b> was John’s younger brother, an insignificant broom seller, before moving to Battle Creek to help his brother run the Sanitarium. Will Kellogg helped John to produce their dry flaked cereals, and in 1897 they founded the <b><i>Sanitas Food Company</i></b>. Will, thinking like a businessman, wanted to keep the production of the recipe a secret, but John allowed anyone to watch the process. <b>Charles William Post</b>, a John’s patient, copied the process and started his own rival company<i>, <b>Post Cereals</b></i>, which later became <b><i>General Foods</i></b>.</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Will suggested adding sugar in the product but John refused. This was the main reason that the two brothers split their business and personal relations. In 1906, Will starts his own company, the <i>Battle Creek Toasted Corn Flake Company</i> that later became the <b><i>Kellogg Company</i></b><i>. </i>John forms the <i>Battle Creek Food Company </i>developing and marketing soy products. John Harvey Kellogg was also an advocate of racial segregation. In 1906, J.H. Kellogg, Irving Fisher and Charles Davenport, found the <b><i>Race Betterment Foundation</i></b><i>, which</i> became a major center of the new eugenics movement in America. John Kellogg never had children of his own. He and his wife were sleeping in different bedrooms and they raised over 40 children together, and 7 of them were legally adopted. Although he had adopted a number of black children, he believed that immigrants and non-whites would damage the gene pool.</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">John Kellogg as an active member of the <i>Seventh-day Adventist Church</i>, promoted a practical and a common sense religion. Some Church members objected and at the <i>17th Annual Session of the General Conference of the Church</i>, he was proposed to comply with the Church’s doctrine, demanding of him to make <i>his sentiments known&#8230; upon the harmony of science and the Sacred Scriptures. </i>His beliefs about divinity seemed like pantheism (God is in everything) to many Adventist Church leaders. In 1902 the Sanitarium is destroyed by fire. Kellogg opposes to the Church and decides to rebuild it. Finally, in 1907 he gets “disfellowshipped” by the Church. The Battle Creek Sanitarium was purchased by the U.S. Army during World War II and converted into the <b><i>Percy Jones Army Hospital</i></b>. The facility later became the <b><i>Hart-Dole-Inouye Federal Center</i></b>.</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">Well, that was the story of the Kellogg brothers and the origin of <i>Corn Flake Cereals</i>, as we know them today. It’s quite remarkable though, the contradiction&#8230; We already know that masturbation was seen as deviant behavior, in the 19th century, even more inappropriate for women than for men, since women were believed (and taught) to be free from any form of sexual desire. <a title="Hysteria: The need of inventing the Vibrator" href="http://relationsinharmony.com/health/hysteria-the-invention-of-vibrator/" target="_blank"><i>“Female Hysteria”</i></a> is the new <i>“disease”</i> of 19th century, symptomized by insomnia, irritability, nervousness, or &#8220;excessive moisture inside the vagina”. Physicians treated hysteria performing <b><i>“medicinal massage”</i></b> inserting a finger and gently rubbing the woman&#8217;s genitalia. This led to <a title="Hysteria: The need of inventing the Vibrator" href="http://relationsinharmony.com/health/hysteria-the-invention-of-vibrator/" target="_blank"><i>&#8220;paroxysm&#8221;</i></a>, a sudden outburst in the patient which doctors (being men) believed was not orgasm, since women were thought incapable of orgasm. <b><i>&#8220;Physician-assisted paroxysm&#8221;</i> </b>&#8230; became popular among patients, but for doctors, it led to pained, sore fingers and wrists&#8230; Another doctor, <b>Dr. Joseph Mortimer Granville</b> invented later the <a title="Vibrator’s History – Photo Tribute" href="http://relationsinharmony.com/health/vibrators-history-photo-tribute/" target="_blank"><i>electric vibrator</i></a> allowing treatment, which had taken as long as an hour (and often failed) to be completed in mere minutes (and virtually always successfully). In 1952, more than half a century after Dr. Granville&#8217;s death, the <b><i>American Psychiatric Association</i></b> concluded that female hysteria was a myth, not a disease&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">Let’s see the facts for a minute. We have scientists like <b>Dr. J. H. Kellogg</b>, who performs male circumcisions and burning off young women’s clitoris to prevent them from masturbating themselves&#8230; We have scientists like <b>Dr. J. M. Granville</b>, who invents electrical vibrator to masturbate clinically women suffering from “Hysteria”, with notable success and progress&#8230; Within that time frame, we have another scientist who will leave his mark in history, the father of psychoanalysis, <b>Dr. Sigmund Freud</b>, known for his tendency to trace nearly all psychological problems back to sexual issues&#8230; Do you see the contradictions that people had to grow up with? Can you imagine the impact, all these contradicting “theories”, had on people’s psych or the prejudices and complexes they created?</p>
<p style="text-align: justify;">I’m not defending masturbation here, neither am I opposed to it. <b>This is a debatable subject worth to be discussed separately</b>, if you wish. I don’t doubt the nutritional value of cereals of any kind. I don’t have anything against <i>Kellogg Company</i> or its products and by all means, I never intended to defame them. The point was to realize the contradicting theories and practices of that era, and how that affected people’s sexual behavior and beliefs thereafter&#8230;</p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;">For those of you who like to read more (and have the stomach for it), the following link will lead you to <i>Gutenberg Project</i> page where you can download Kellogg’s book&nbsp;<a title="Plain Facts for Old and Young by John Harvey Kellogg" href="http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/19924" target="_blank">Plain Facts for Old and Young</a>. You may also download <a title="The Battle Creek Sanitarium system : history, organization, methods" href="http://archive.org/details/battlecreeksani00kellgoog" target="_blank">The Battle Creek Sanitarium system : history, organization, methods</a>.</p>
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