Reveiling Yourself

Struggling for the sake of Allah (swt) - Worth it! :)

2013-01-11T13:26:00.000-06:00

The struggles I’ve had with hijab were definitely more during the first few weeks of wearing it, but now I have gotten more comfortable with it and it has become a part of me, just like my actual hair. Which is something that I feel is very important. A lot of people say that just because a female wears a hijab, burka, niqab etc. and a male has a beard or wears Islamic clothing doesn’t mean they are perfect which, can be true and God only knows who we really are and what our hearts contain. But it also applies vice versa; if a male or female doesn’t represent himself or herself as a Muslim (by their outward appearance) doesn’t mean they are sinful, horrible people. First, only Allah (swt) can judge, and second, they could be very righteous, pious people, they may just keep their relationship with God personal & don’t feel like they have to dress a certain way and that’s totally fine in my opinion. That being said, me wearing hijab means that I am ready to let go of my worldly desires as much as I can and start working towards Jannah aka (afterlife/paradise/ heaven) if we work hard in this world, we will receive the fruits of our labor abiding therein eternally, in sha Allah. Alhumdulilah after truly internalizing this idea I finally understood the purpose of life. This illusion of temporary happiness. This test. all made sense. After that little things like straightening my hair or painting my nails became of less importance, don’t get me wrong it’s fun to dress up but there were other things that needed more attention, like my character and intentions in everything I did cause I finally had a wake up call that God was watching me this whole time, I can’t hide from him and I will be held accountable for my actions. Sorry to sound so serious but it is a serious topic and we often, feel like we have time to give to charity, make hajj, make up our fasts, pray, read Quran and anything else that we push aside because were too busy chasing our worldly desires. So that is why I started wearing hijab because taking that step on the outside helped me improve myself on the inside. Understanding all this made my struggles seem like a needle in a haystack. Feeling comfortable going out in public and remembering all the years I walked around with my long hair, curling, crimping, straightening it, leaving It natural, putting it up, down, sideways and everything in between was hard to get over, but at the end of the day I kept myself in check. Wearing hijab (which includes dressing modestly) is for our own good. Some may argue that point because yes, there are different view points on it but I feel it has saved me a lot of trouble with the opposite sex,-man you guys are getting the deep stuff lol. Anyways, now, my biggest struggle is something I wouldn’t even call a struggle, more of an annoyance….taking my hijab off to do wudu! Haha especially when I’m at school and I’m in a hurry but no matter what I always have to make time to pray and yea it takes a few minutes to take the pins out but life goes on.

Ruzina's Hijab Story

2013-01-11T13:23:00.002-06:00

As-salaamu 'alaykum everyone! Alhumdulilah I started wearing the “best decision I’ve ever made” hijab right before I started college and Alhumdulilah I wasn’t the only one starting alone, a few other girls in my town who have also posted on this blog, started at around the same time. Even though I didn’t interact with them daily it was still nice to know they were there walking around campus or just somewhere in Tyler in their cute modest outfits representing Islam with meJ. I too always knew I wanted to wear hijab one day and my ultimate reason was that I didn’t want to die without having my hair covered, whether it be at that moment while I was “uncovered” that I died or any other moment. I would feel a whole lot better facing my Lord if I had taken the big step before it was too late.

Alhumdulilah over the last few years I’ve learned sooo much about Islam, a religion I was just simply following the best I could by what I knew until I moved down to Tyler, Texas from Crystal Lake, Illinois about 3 years ago. It has been a whole process of learning, reflecting and acting, and today Alhumdulilah my iman has increased so much, but of course I’m still not perfect. I felt that if I believe in Islam which subhanAllah makes more than enough sense and I’m proud to be a Muslim why not wear hijab? Why wait until I’m married and have kids like it’s something I can only accomplish later in life. Another reason on the very long list of why I should wear hijab was that if little girls ages 11,12,13 and younger were wearing it, WOW good for them, if they can wear it I can wear it too. Also I was tired of going out wherever, whenever and having to always be conscious if anything was showing that I didn’t want to show or if my hair was okay, eventually I just worked up the courage and cannot thank Allah (swt) enough for helping me make this decision. My beautiful mom, may Allah (swt) reward her for being such a great role model, has been wearing hijab since 2001 and I have walked around with her for years in public next to her and thankfully she has never gotten any stares or rude comments in all her years wearing it. Also some of my best friends wear hijab and they are always an inspiration to me, may Allah (swt) reward them as well.

Over the last year or so I would try hijabs on and let me tell you it gave me the best feeling ever, a feeling of security and just pure happiness. I know every hijabi says that but honestly that’s the best way to describe it! And you can have so much fun with it as I’m sure some of you have already seen, its like a whole new world of fashion! But I try not to overdue do it and I’m still figuring out exactly what kind of styles are best for me, my closet is currently a collection of anything and everything….so yea.. it’s a work in progress!

I have worn it for about half a year now I can honestly say it is not that hard, yea there are little things that get to me sometimes but at the end of the day I still get to come home and take it off in the comfort of my own home or just around girlfriends knowing that every second I wear it I am pleasing my creator and that’s what matters the most:) If you are thinking to wear hijab do it for you and your Lord, don’t do it for anyone else and take your time, just as other girls have suggested, take baby steps and when the time is right in sha Allah, Allah will give you confidence and protection like the precious pearl you are!

Looking forward to posting more and reading everyone else’s stories! Take care!

--Ruzina

#TheStruggleIsRealllllll

2013-01-03T18:00:00.000-06:00

Salam and Happy New Years!

People always ask me what the biggest struggle was that I had to face when I first started wearing my hijab. Alhamdulillah I haven't faced any racial issues (yet) but I have had trouble deciding what hijab style suited my face. The way I treat my hijab is the same way I would treat my hair. If you can't leave the house with your hair looking ratchet, you shouldn't leave the house with your hijab looking ratchet! LOL JK, but really doe..

I remember pretty much crying to Sobia over Facebook and complaining to her about how I could not find a hijab style for myself. Staying up late at night watching YouTube tutorials never helped me because my hijab never turned out how it looked on the screen. Should I show my hijab cap? Should I not? Plus, I was introduced to SO many different hijab materials that I wanted to pull my hair out.

There were days where I would just sit in front of the mirror and just stare at myself. I thought that I would never find a hijab style that didn't make my face look fat, wasn't flopping everywhere and I most def would never learn how to wear it neatly. Not even going to lie, there were even some points that I thought that maybe juuuuust maybe I made the hijab decision a little too early. But I promise you that was the Shaitan talking!

Alhamdulillah after many MANY days and months of practice, I finally found for me. I wear the really thin scarves that I can wrap around easily around my head. They stay in place and are oh so comfortable.

Everyone has different struggles with their hijab and it's definitely not easy but Alhamdulillah it's worth it in the end. Remember, practice makes perfect and don't be afraid to try different styles out!

XOXO-

Ghina

Leena's Struggle with Hijab

2013-01-03T16:41:00.001-06:00

Salam everyone! :) this week's topic is: The Struggles I've Faced and Overcome with Hijab.

So far, Ive had my good days as well as tearful, stressful ones, but I've found ways to make myself feel better, boost my self esteem, and overcome minor obstacles since I started wearing a head scarf! I'll just talk about one of my biggest struggles this time. I hope you can relate and benefit from my advice :)

What on earth do I wear to the gym? Even before I started wearing hijab, this question haunted me and made me sick to my stomach. I love to exercise! I go to a lot of group classes at the gym where I have gotten to know my teachers and the regulars. I had nightmares of myself in a cardio class with my hijab flying across the room and my long sleeves dripping a puddle of sweat on the wood floor beneath me.

I already wore yoga pants to my classes so I started by wearing long sleeves to the gym (in the 100 degree summer weather I might add.) Even without a head scarf people made comments. "Aren't you hot?" I blew it off and told them I liked to sweat. What else was I going to say? "No I'm actually quite chilly, thanks :)"???

After I felt comfortable wearing long sleeves and pants to the gym, Ramadan was around the corner and I was determined to wear hijab. I was just going to have to make it work and stop making excuses. The first time, I threw a scarf around my head, and walked inside the gym until I got to the room where the classes are held. As I was setting up my equipment I casually undraped my hijab and we began the class. I just wanted people to see it and not be shocked when I actually did start wearing it for good. I was nervous and didn't know what to do. However I would not recommend doing that! taking off your hijab in public even if you really aren't wearing it yet confuses people and they don't understand what you're doing.

Ramadan started and there was no turning back for me. Everything was going wonderful except for my struggle to find modest gym clothes. I tried wearing just an under scarf and pinning it so it covered all my hair, showing a little bit of my neck with a high cut shirt. It was so slippery that I was pulling it forward the entire class! It was beyond embarrassing! At that point I didn't even want to go back to the gym. But that made me feel fat and even more self conscious! So I spent an entire day figuring out a hijab style I could wear to work out. I finally found one that worked! I even ran laps around my house to test it out so I didn't embarrass myself again ;) This is what I do: I take a cotton hijab bonnet with the ties in the back and covers half your hair? Does anyone know what I'm talking about? If not, comment and I'll post a picture :) Then I take a cotton/viscose hijab (any other material will most likely slip) fold it in half and tie it around my hair like a bandana. I've found neutral colors suit me better and don't shock people as much. (We have to be gentle with the uncultured people who live around here hehe.) Also, I've found really cute and fashionable long sleeve workout shirts that are super thin material and made for runners. I found some at Athleta, Target and LuluLemon. They make many that zip up high enough to cover a little of your neck, so its perfect! Alhamdulillah, Allah has made hijab easy for me :)

Hope that's helped!

I also want to share an outfit of the day with you! I'm wearing lilac jeans from Ann Taylor, a chunky sweater from H&M and a bubble necklace I ordered on Ebay, my shoes are steve madden and my hijab is from Hijab House online! (my new obsession)

Uroosa's Hijab Story!

2012-12-31T20:00:00.001-06:00

Asalaam alaikum ladies! I look forward to guest blogging for Reveiling Yourself and sharing my experiences! My name is Uroosa, and alhamdulillah I started wearing hijab a few weeks before Ramadan 2012.

Growing up, I was taught that hijab was a beautiful blessing from Allah (SWT). I knew that I wanted to wear the hijab one day- I just didn't know when that day would come. In the perfect, imaginary world in my head, I always pictured myself starting hijab once I was older and had a career and a family.

Earlier this year, I dealt with the sudden passing of my uncle, who was less of an uncle and more of a father and best friend. The cliché saying of "I may not live to see tomorrow" became an all too intense reality. New questions arose in my head. What was I waiting for? I knew I wanted to wear hijab one day, why was I delaying not only something that I wanted, but something that would please my Maker? And I had my hijabification planned for a period in my life that I wasn't guaranteed?

I had tightly wrapped up the idea of wearing hijab with tons of excuses. Like I had excuses for days! I don't know how to wrap a hijab properly. It's too hot in Texas. I'm still young. I can still be modest without covering my hair. I don't want to start wearing it, then take it off. I don't want anyone calling me a (dare I say it?) hoejabi. I can't give hijab the justice it deserves or live up to its' responsibility. I had tons. Alhamdulillah these excuses quickly dropped like it was hot, one by one.

For weeks, I wore a hijab when running errands or going to work just to get myself accustomed to it. At this point, hijab became the center of all my conversations and thoughts- God bless my friends and family who had to put up with me! One day while I was out with a friend, I realized that I didn't want to take it off. Hijab was apart of me now. My parents were pretty surprised that I left the house normal (LOL jk... I've never been normal) and returned lil miss Muhajabah. ;)

When friends and community members caught onto my conversion (lol), I faced a lot of backlash. I received tons of "You sure you're not doing it for the attention?" "Let's see how long you last, I'll give it a month." "So..are you a Ramadan hijabi?" and my personal fav "Oh wow...you were the last person I ever expected to wear a hijab." Sadly, I expected these remarks. I had always kept my Deen very personal. I didn't care to come off as "religious," all that mattered was my intimate relationship with Allah (SWT). I kept my faith so private that my friends would be surprised when I prayed or recited in front of them. This was a problem. I realized that by keeping my faith on the down low, I had been hiding the most beautiful part of my life. I made very conscious efforts to make sure I accepted each comment as motivation to express my inner faith rather than as an insult, which was quite a test of patience for a hot head like me. Hijab blessed me with the opportunity to maintain my personal relationship with God while publicly expressing my faith in a humble manner.

Alhamdulillah with the support of my friends, family, and Allah (SWT), wearing hijab has been one of the greatest decisions of my life. It has brought me indescribably closer to my Deen and continues to everyday.

Peace and blessings,
Uroosa

The story of Ghina Siddiqui!

2012-12-26T17:28:00.000-06:00

Assalamualaikum lovelies! Ghina here and so excited to share with you guys the next few weeks :) First, a little bit about me. Born in Pakistan and raised in Texas y'all! I'm a first year college student with nursing as my major. Haha I know, I know. Nursing. Ew. But turn that frown upside down, I want to work with anesthesia. InshAllah Allah will make that possible in a few years :) I'm absolutely OBSESSED with the Dallas Mavericks and anything that is studded. Purses, shoes, shirts, pants.. Anything!

Now, everyone's personal favorite - THE hijab story. I started wearing the hijab about six months ago and I know everyone tells you that the hijab is one of the best decisions that they've ever made and I'm here to tell you that YES! It is very true! My hijab is such an amazing blessing that I can't even put it into words. Before I started wearing it though, I would come up with a billion excuses as to why I didn't want to wear it. And if you know me at all, you know how much I love my hair heheheee. Lol but I went to Pakistan this past summer and everytime we would go out, my cousins would cover up. I didn't want to be awk in front of them, so I covered myself up with them. My grandparents, uncles, aunts, mom and dad would always praise me and tell me how beautiful I looked in it. But isn't that what family members are supposed to tell you? Mm, yeah I still wasn't convinced. Then on the way back home from Pakistan to America, I made a pros and con list on the plane. The biggest pro that got me was that I would make Allah proud if I wore it. Of course I still miss showing my hair and whatnot, but I would leave all of that in a heartbeat and rather please my Lord. I honestly don't know what I would describe my style as because I can go out with jeans, a cute top, a blazer, some jewelry, and a cute hijab to top it off OR I can go out with a pair of sweats, a tshirt, Nikes and a hijab to match. I'm also so very motivated to help out any sister that is struggling with the hijab :)

XOXO--
Ghina

Also guys, tune in every week because we will a have a different topic to discuss with you guys! The gorgeous Leena posts every Monday, I'll have Wednesdays and Uroosa (whom I know you guys will adore!) will have Fridays. Toodles till next time!

Leena's Hijab Story!

2012-12-24T22:14:00.002-06:00

Asalamualaikum ladies! My name is Leena, and I just started wearing hijab this summer alhamdulillah:) Sobia has allowed a few of our other friends and I on the site as guest bloggers, and I'm super excited to start sharing with you guys! This week, get to know us as we share our journeys to hijab! :)

I can honestly say that wearing hijab is the best decision I have ever made.

It all started when I was a little girl. My mom is American and my dad is Arab. My mom converted to Islam when she got married alhamdulillah :) but I always wondered, why she didn't cover her hair? I was always told it was obligatory, so why were we not obeying what was commanded? I always knew I would wear hijab, the question was: when?

There was always an excuse. Living in the south, there is so much prejudice, and I was too scared when I was in high school. What would they think of me? If I started wearing hijab before my wedding day, how could I be a beautiful bride? What would I wear to the gym?

A month before my high school graduation, I made the decision. I would be starting college soon, and people could first meet me as a hijabi, and I could take all summer to prepare! I hoped I could influence my family, and inshallah my mom and sisters will wear it one day!

I started slow. First I started wearing long sleeves everyday (pretty much covering everything but my hair!) It was so easy! If I was to give advice for anyone wanting to wear hijab, I would tell them to do exactly what I did!

I bought a bunch of scarves from www.hijabpinswonderland.com and stocked up on pins and under scarves and all the needs of a hijabi! I even splurged on 2 bright colored maxi skirts! I discovered that there is an entire hijabi community on YouTube and Instagram, and people like Dina Tokio and Yaz the Spaz really inspired me and gave me the confidence to keep my goal!

I practiced wearing a hijab when we went shopping in a city 2 hours away from us. I didn't know anyone, so it was less intimidating! Then, after Friday prayers, I would keep my hijab on afterward when we went out for dinner with my family. I was so nervous I would see someone I knew, but these days of practice is really what helped me feel comfortable and ease into hijab instead of starting cold turkey!

I decided to start on the first day of Ramadan, but I was so excited that I actually started the day before! At first, the stares really bothered me, because let me tell you.. people where i live STARE like you're wearing a gorilla suit. I've been asked the most ignorant questions: "Are you a Nun?," "Is your head cold?" (really?) and someone even thought I had cancer! But I've realized they aren't always hateful, because I've gotten so many compliments from strangers! It was also really hard at first being the only one in my family, but they have been really supportive alhamdulillah.

It's been almost six months now, and I absolutely love wearing hijab. It makes me feel so elegant and dignified! I could never imagine myself without it! I would say that my style is

preppy and chic, and hijab hasn't stopped me from expressing my individuality! I can't wait to share my outfits of the days with you :)

I'm hoping I can inspire other girls who want to wear hijab, and give more confidence to those who already do! :)

Peace and Love,

Leena xoxo

Sobia Lodhi - Journalist Got it Covered

2012-12-12T11:10:00.004-06:00

SHARE MY STORY : https://www.facebook.com/sobialodhik

I know I have been away, and that too for a while. Needless to say, I've just been trying to focus on my career. This is exactly what I wish to speak to you all about today.

Many people have told me, "You have to pick between your scarf or your career." And I say, "What if I want both?" Being Sobia Lodhi, the girl who never looks away from a challenge I imagined I would make it okay to both wear hijab and be an on-camera reporter. But, It has become the battle I have been fighting for a few years now.

I graduated in 2010 from a very prestigious university with a broadcast journalism degree. As you all know, I had been striving even before then to change the dynamics of the newsroom by bringing in diversity. I knew it wouldn't be easy, but what I didn't know was that it was going to be nearly impossible.

I decided to apply for jobs, and after several failed attempted I thought maybe I needed more experience through internships to put on my resume. That is exactly what I did. The plot thickens, because even after that I am standing in a place where it's always implied that in order to get a job I'd have to choose between my scarf or my career. I recently interned at a place where by the end of my internship there were several job openings and somehow I still wasn't hired. I thought perhaps if I am dedicated enough I can make a change. Unfortunately, the news director refuses to return several of my calls and voicemails I have left, as well as emails.

However, Alhamdullilah, today we have people like Noor, who at such a young age of 19, wants to become a veiled anchorwoman, and is doing everything to make it happen. I pray that she doesn't face the setbacks I struggled with. I want to make sure that we are doing everything in our power to push for a fair chance in the professional field, so that we may be judged off of our skill set and not because of a decision to wear a scarf.

I'm sure media isn't the only field that is facing this problem. I definitely want to know if you are facing the same problem I am dealing with. I want to create awareness and make sure that we build a foundation so that people rarely have to deal with issues like these.

It hurts to know that the reason why I wanted a journalism career was to tell people's stories so that they may be liberated. And today, my own beloved journalism is taking those rights away from me. I feel as if I am paying the consequences of someone else's mistake. It's just a scarf on my head, which doesn't dictate my dedication, work ethic, achievements. All it is there to do is to represent that I am a modest Muslimah, and that I obey God's commands.

I have created a facebook page to document everything I am doing in my power to get a job, while hoping to create awareness at the same time. Please take out a little bit of time from your day and visit this page, as well as share it with as many people as possible. I'm working on a big project to shine more light on this issue --- so you can stay up to date about that project through my facebook.

facebook.com/sobialodhik or you can search Sobia Lodhi - Journalist Got it Covered

AS FOR MY BLOG PLANS:

I hope to be bringing three guest-bloggers on board very soon, who will be filling in and keeping you all updated with great hijabi trends and OOTD! I am excited because they recently started wearing hijab, and they are at the same place in their life where I was a few years ago when I started this blog. I think this will beneficial for all of us, and definitely very refreshing! :)

Mint Green is the New Black (for me)

2012-06-13T17:05:00.003-05:00

Here's a quick snap of me before I went out! :)

Candid and Unedited: Decision Not to Wear Hijab...

2012-05-17T02:46:00.003-05:00

Many of you who have been following my blog know that Mr. Rogers and I have been moving around like a bunch of nomads. We've finally settled down in our humble abode as a temporarily-permanent situation. What I mean to say is that we hopefully don't have to worry about moving around for at least another year, and that sounds fantastic to a couple who has moved 7 times within a year. We've definitely tested the extent of our patience, but Alhamdullilah have pulled through stronger than ever before.

The reason why I started off by talking about our living situation is because it's important one should know that we have moved to a decently-small sized town, in my opinion. Though there are plenty of Muslims, sometimes I feel like finding a job or being normal is a task within itself. Initially, we were considering to move to a town with a population of 900, so this is definitely a step up from that.

I have been requested in the past to be more forthcoming in my journey as a hijabi rather than continuing to show the ideal-hijab-situation. And, I'll admit I've had lows that I haven't posted about like I used to in the initial days of my blog, but that's because it's very personal. And, it literally takes less than a second for people to judge and for there to be a huge backlash. However, what's the purpose of representing hijab if you are only going to give one side of the story. This even goes against what I've learned in journalism school. Always, always provide both sides of the story, so here goes:

Moving to a small town made me realize that no would know me. I wouldn't have my in-laws' connections and or my own family's acquaintances to be answerable to. It was all kind of like starting over. So, why not take off hijab. It's tough being married, you know. Looking at all the girls who get married, wearing their beautiful outfits, figuring out how they want to do their hair and which earrings to pair. As a hijabi you definitely skip right through that entire process, and for someone who didn't wear hijab for the most part of her life, it becomes a very dark reality. Throw on a beautiful outfit, and at the very end just put on a hijab to make it go from glam to mediocre. Sometimes, that is what I feel...

I also feel or think....

Job is another issue within itself. When I decided to major in broadcast journalism, I had no idea what the future had in store for me. Only after graduating it occurred to me, they wouldn't hire a hijabi, much less have her be the evening anchor. I felt like my education cut short because of hijab. Welcome to considering an average, minimum paying job or getting a higher education.

Going to the gym was a pain, throw on five different layers of clothes only to sweat an abnormal amount. Who needs bikram yoga when you've got hijab? I couldn't even remember the last time I felt the breeze graze my ear. What did it used to feel like?

My hairline...what hairline? oh, you mean the one that's receding faster than Kim's divorce. You're "doomed" if you do and "doomed" if you don't when it comes to wearing undercaps. But, of course, you can't leave the house without it because rest assured your hijab will fall in every which way.

I may have gained weight, but hijab definitely doesn't make it easy in creating an illusion to look tinier than you really arent. I'm pear shaped, so naturally when I go to cover all areas of my body, I just look like a royal-hot-mess, lol. Yeah, I said it. Let's not forget, we have the "judgmentals," who will definitely make it a point to remind you that you aren't really a proper hijabi because of your dress sense. Oh, and the rest of the crowd that doesn't wear hijab and are "normal" won't give you the time of the day because you're probably too religious.

Of course last but definitely not least, the pent up anger and laziness you feel when you need to step out to get a gallon of milk or grab something pronto from a gas station. You would have to pay me to get out to do a task like that. I would have to change into something long sleeved, wrap a hijab which isn't crinkled, change my comfy pants because they are just too comfortably tight, and by then I'M REALLY MAD AT THE PERSON WHO DRANK MILK LAST.

Life's not supposed to be that difficult. So, let's see where I can start with actually physically not wearing hijab? Perhaps, at the small apartment complex owned gym. This is where I started my first steps to just feel what it really felt like to be NORMAL. In all honesty, since it's such a new complex there isn't really anyone ever there. So, even my rebellious nature was a little scrawny. It felt great the first few days. Then, it felt okay. But then....there came a point within a matter of two-three weeks where it didnt feel like me at all.

Sure, I still didn't take off hijab everywhere else, except just in my two-treadmill-gym, but it was a start. However, I immediately felt the poison spreading in my body. I started thinking about where this could lead, I could want to wear short sleeves, and soon it might not even matter how short my shirt is, how long before I digress?

I needed to make a decision, should I continue hijab or not? And, you know what, I sucked it up. I needed support from Allah Swt, my husband, my mom and a few old friends, and that's all it really took to jump right back into the game.

Bottom line is: I gave you a bajillion of things that mess with my head on a daily basis and make me cranky. I may even say everyday that this is it, I'm not going to wear hijab. However, it's like marriage or a relationship with your parents or siblings. You get angry with your loved ones, but you never separate. My mom told me with her wisdom, "Treat hijab like your hair, you would never shave your hair off, so why would you take your hijab off?" My husband told me that he would support me no matter what my decision was, but hijab was what he found me the most beautiful in. Allah SWT made me experience an imaan low,and taste normality for a few brief moments only to realize how sweet devotion truly is. Alhamdullilah.

I have continued to wear hijab, Alhamdullilah, but I never want to keep my audience in the dark. I wanted all of you to know what has been going on lately. I wanted to tell you my journey and my personal struggle. More than anything, the reason why I wrote this post is because I wanted people to know that you are not alone, we all go through the same struggles everyday. But, you've just got to be strong and create a good support system where if you even feel a little insecure, you can immediately rely on them to motivate you. THE BIGGEST REASON behind writing this post is so that people who want to know the truth about wearing hijab from an average girl's perspective could get an idea! I'm glad someone requested this kind of post, it really made me step outside of my writing element.

And, with this post, Insha'Allah I return to Reveilingyourself.com! <3

P.S. How was the built up suspense for a scare? Really got you there with the title and bullet points. Alhamdullilah for everything.

P.P.S (and yes, it isn't p.s.s. it's actually P.P.S, but that's for some other time) I didn't stop wearing hijab in any of this entire journey, except at my apartment gym, where there wasnt anyone usually. Even if i had stopped or anyone does, it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Give people room to grow and experience their own imaan highs and lows, especially since hijab is such a visible part of one's spiritual devotion.

Halal Nail Polish?!

2012-04-20T00:35:00.000-05:00

Recently, I found a New York Times' article mentioning a "breathable" nail polish, which allows water to penetrate to the nail. Imagine the excitement I must've felt. Although, on a closer look and doing some careful research, I've concluded that personally it might not be safe for me to apply this varnish. But, rather than making the decision for you, I will provide you with the facts so that you can make an educated decision. May Allah SWT guide us all on the right path, ameen.

This is an excerpt from the article, which mentioned two different nail polish companies. I firmly believe that the new scientific discovery only applies to the first nail polish called 02M, by Inglot Cosmetics, and does NOT apply to the latter:

"Inglot Cosmetics, a company from Poland, has a nail polish called O2M that it calls “breathable,” meaning that it allows oxygen and moisture to penetrate to the nail. This makes the polish something of an anomaly, since most brands don’t make this claim.

The Inglot nail polish, which borrows a polymer used in some contact lenses, comes in more than 45 hues, including unconventional ones like teal. The target audience? A woman who wears nail polish more often than not. “Traditional nail polish, wearing it day by day, week by week, isn’t necessarily healthy,” said Wojtek Inglot, the company founder."

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/22/fashion/22SkinOne.html?_r=2

I called Inglot Cosmetics and verified some information. A representative was kind enough to answer some of my questions. She said, "Scientifically, water VAPOR penetrates to the nail but actual water "drops" do not penetrate." I asked what is the difference between water and water vapor (in the company's opinion). She responded, "Water vapor is a different state/phase of matter than water in liquid form. In (water) liquid form, atoms have many nearest neighbors in contact, yet no long-range order is present and volume is usually greater. Where as, water vapor consists of the same molecules but the spaces between the molecules are very big. Water vapor molecules have very weak or no bonds at all. The molecules in "vapor" can move freely and fast. Essentially, the biggest difference between water and water vapor is that the amount of molecules differs, water has more and water vapor has less."
(I hope that I wrote down everything verbatim, but if anyone knows any differently about this process please feel free to correct me.)

Note: I have not called the company Butter, so if anyone wants to do independent research on that please feel free to. I am only posting in regards to Inglot Cosmetics' 02M nail polish.

I contacted a local imaam that is very knowledgeable, masha'Allah. This is what he had to say:

"As Salam alaikum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh

In the time of the Messenger of Allah (salla Allah alaih wa sallam), there was no nail polish, so it was not mentioned explicitly. Later generations mentioned things like wudu not being valid if you had dried up flour on a part of the body that needed to be washed or anything else that prevented water from reaching the skin.

At the same time, washing has been defined as at least one or two drops dripping from the limb being washed i.e. the limb in its entirety has to be wetted and at least one or two drops have to drip from somewhere on the limb.

Now the question is: Does the description of water vapor permeability of the nail polish fulfill the above requirements? Remember, the website claims water vapor permeates, not the water itself.

There is room for debate, and I do feel inclined to its permissibility?"

[ I responded with this:]

"Assalam Alaikum,

Jazaka'Allah khair for all the help and guidance. I just wanted to follow up, I did call the company and they gave me a breakdown of how it really works. They said that the nails are not completely submerged into water, however water vapor reaches it. I asked what the difference between water vapor and water is just to be specific. And they responded by saying, "Water and water vapor is the same thing, except there is a difference in the quantity of the tiny water molecules. For example, water has thousands of the same tiny water molecules, where as water vapor has a lesser quantity of them." I also asked how "water vapor" was reaching the nail and they said that it's a new technology that allows the vapor to reach the nail, which is called K2S. I also googled the exact definition of limbs, and I would imagine that drops of water would still drip since the entire arm is considered a limb. I guess I'm just trying to double check myself. But, this is the information I retrieved from the company, so I guess the question I have is....is water vapor reaching the nail still validate wudhu?

I'm sorry in advance if my email sounds confusing. "

[Imam's final response:]

"Have you tried Henna? That is allowed.
As far as the nail polish is concerned, I guess you can use it, but it would be closer to taqwa to refrain until a more water permeable option is available."

So, there you have it folks, it depends on your Taqwa! I couldn't have said it better. May Allah SWT forgive me for any incorrect information I may have passed along.

OOTD- Feeling Kinda Casual

2011-12-26T02:05:00.000-06:00

It was a slow day but Mr. Rogers and I wanted to go out and just chill. I got up and got ready in a jiffy, well, a jiffy in my terms of time. I paired a black dress, with the not so skinny jeans and boots. The hijab that I'm wearing is one of my absolute favorites, even if it's a triangle hijab.

I'm excited that winter has finally arrived, I can pull out all the things I bought in off season sales. If I was going to give any advice to my lovely readers it would be to buy essential pieces of clothing or must-haves during off-season sales. I promise you won't regret that decision, and I think you've seen enough of my previous posts to know that I definitely take advantage of it.

I hope everyone's enjoying their holidays. I'll be attending a few desi get-togethers this coming weekend, so you'll finally see some new Pakistani outfits on me! Getttaaa ready! :)

How are your holidays coming along? Are you going to be an early bird for upcoming sales?

Hijab Storage Idea

2011-12-25T03:42:00.000-06:00

I feel as if I'm in a crazy organizing/cleaning kind of mood lately. I just seem to be picking up anything I can find and figuring out an efficient way to organize it. So, why should I leave my blog behind, as you can see, I kept the old banner but added a few details to it. Very few can say that they are so content with their banner after several months have passed by. I can't seem to fall out of love with the simple yet sassy banner, so I decided to add a bit of a vintage touch to it. Also, since my favorite colors seem to be black and hot pink, I decided to incorporate them in the theme this time around. I hope you like what you see.

Now, I know I am a drama queen when it comes to organizing hijabs. When I say drama queen, I mean I've tried plenty of new ways of organizing them. If your memory serves you correctly, I was the one who came up with the shower curtain holders and hangers idea to neatly organize your hijabs. This time around I've gone a little koo-koo with putting them into a little cubbies. I bought this 9-cube shelf at Home Depot, since my husband dragged me to Lowe's and then at the register remembered that Lowe's hates Muslims, so he left with me right then and there. Can we say his "tube light" took a while to turn on? Anyhow, I color coordinated my hijabs and divided them into 9 colors for 9 cubes. (Before hand, I measured how wide and tall the racks in my closet were because that's where my hijabs were residing at the time.) Fortunately, 9 cubes were perfect this project, especially since even on my closet racks my hijabs were divided into 9 colors.

I then immediately drove to the nearest Dollar Tree and bought 9-10 different storage boxes which would've otherwise been $7 each. Folded all my hijabs neatly after taking them off from my built in closet racks, and transported them to my new found shelf, which now looks like a great furniture piece in my room and also counts as my new HIJAB STORAGE solution! At the top of my shelf, I've also added a small embellished jewelry box that was just sitting around in some corner, but now I've made it my ring holder. I obviously never remember to put on rings because they are always packed under tons of other jewelry, so this is the best way to immediately get a hold of my rings while looking super fancy sitting on top of a shelf! Cheers! I've posted some of the pic-chas (pictures) in this post for all of you lovely ladies! Enjoy! :)

Any of you have any new ideas on the perfect storage solution for your hijabs?

OOTD- Feeling Pretty in Pink?

2011-12-22T16:30:00.001-06:00

As of late, HOT PINK has been my new obsession. Two reasons, it's totally in fashion-wise, and Mr. Rogers loves that color. Once in a while, I try to please him by listening to him.

I have a few pics from random events of me wearing pink. One is a Christmas party at this amazing local restaurant called Noodle Wave. And, the other picture was taken this past Eid. So, enjoy the pictures and I hope they give you some kind of inspiration. As well as, enjoy reading my brief babbling that always accompanies my "picture posts"

Begins babbling...

I think I'm getting closer to mustering up enough courage to make vids again and put up some tutorials that I have been promising for like year(s), even though it hasnt been a year since I began blogging. I love to be dramatic, so there you have it. More than having enough courage for making tutorials for my readers, I'm getting excited and ready to start my series on "How to Find the Perfect Hijab Style." This series will be more about a journey I will go through myself to figure out what kind of hijab styles look best on me on a daily basis, at extravagant events, in different ethnic clothes, and more over on my face type. I'm not sure how beneficial it will be for everyone, but I know it'll help me out tons.

OOTD - These Boots are Made for Walking

2011-12-19T21:47:00.002-06:00

The Perfect Boots I have been waiting for my whole L-I-F-E!

I have been looking for boots which fit my calves for, gosh, i'd say 5-6 years. I always look ridiculous in boots, but this weekend Mr. Rogers [ the hubby ] took me out to buy two pairs of boots, one pair is gray and the other is brown. Brown boots have by far taken the front seat in my life, I love them. I would totally wear them anyday and everyday, which is exactly what I've been doing.

I also lost 12 lbs in a month and a half, so this is how I've been looking lately, Alhamdullilah. I meant to lose 25 lbs, but this time around I'm losing weight to keep it off and make it a long term goal rather than a once in a while type of goal. This dress is like seriously 4-5 years old, so I was excited to definitely see that I didn't have fat hanging out when I wore it, CHEERS!

I paired a long-sleeved white undershirt with my retro looking dress, which has nice loose short sleeves. I wore black leggings/tights (whatever you want to call them) with boots.

I wore a brown sequined hijab, which was involuntarily donated to me by my aunt.

Note: I experimented and started wrapping my hijabs all the way so that there is no flap hanging at the end. I'll explain further about why this suits my face type so much in the ["FINDING THE PERFECT HIJAB STYLE" POST-SERIES.] Stay tuned for those posts! :)

For now, here's how my boot-look looked:

A Plea to Help Find Aisha Khan [MISSING]

2011-12-18T08:14:00.000-06:00

At approximately 11:58 A.M on Friday, December 16, Overland Park Police officers responded to a report of a missing person in the area of the Kansas University Edwards Campus at 12600 Quivira Road. The missing person is Aisha Khan, a 19-year-old female. She is also a student at Johnson County Community College. She last left a voicemail on her sister's phone saying how scared she was because there was a drunk person approaching her. When her sister found the spot Aisha was sitting in studying for finals she found only Aisha's backpack and ipod there, but not Aisha.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EoDS3sM0x9I

My Personal Request:

Before fajr as I got up to get ready for my first prayer of the day, the words from my prior conversation with my husband dwindled in my mind. The khutbah this Friday was about how numb we were towards everyone and everything, hiding behind technology, securing every moment with mindless engagements. He said, "In this time we are so numbed by facebooking, tweeting, watching Netflix that we actually can't genuinely feel a single emotion towards someone else's pain. We've got so much to deal with in our own lives that we'd actually rather be desensitized to other people's pain."

This conversation reminded me of something once my mom said to me. She said, "Times have changed, beta [darling]....Gone are the days when my pain affected you and your pain affected me. They say that in this time even our blood has changed it's own color from being red to white." I'm sure this saying makes more sense in Urdu, but the point to the saying was that we are so numbed by society and their pain that even the color of our own blood has altered. We can't even call it blood because it's so desensitized. Back in the day, people cared about each other, your sorrow was my sorrow and my sorrow was your sorrow --- today, we are so addicted to numbing ourselves just to run away from this lifelong battle with pain that we'll do anything just to avoid something that will consume us in in the slightest way. Or, at least, we'll do anything to make sure we don't get bothered by it, because one more problem is just not what we need right now or ever.

That's my attitude towards life as is probably yours. I can't handle another situation --- I've dealt with family and friends' problems, grandparents dying, seeing abusive relationships, people cheating on each other, divorces, heartbreaks, financial problems, and honestly, my heart is so broken that perhaps another catastrophe that big might just consume me. I think I numb myself so that I don't get sucked into a black hole, even if it means that it's taking away from the mere essence of life.

This morning I woke up and scrolled through facebook testing to see whether I was so high off of my own problems to actually be able to physically avoid reading into the Aisha Khan case which has been all over facebook. Jittery and feeling like I hadn't had my dose of drugs, I forced myself to watch the news interview Aisha's sister gave about how she listened to her sister's last voicemail moments before Aisha had been abducted. Half way into it I realized why i'd rather be numbed, because it just hurt too much. It just was too much for me to take on. I began imagining getting that dreaded call from my very own sister, or reminiscing to the days when I was in university just a year ago and was just like Aisha studying at school. I didn't want to read, hear or think about it because it was just too much to think about it... where she would be right now and in what kind of conditions?

However, in that brief moment where I slipped up by watching this news and putting myself out there completely vulnerable without my numbing drug... I felt human again --- I felt pain --- I felt insignificant --- Insignificant enough to raise my hands in front of Allah swt to make dua [prayer] with a heart that felt like it was seconds away from just bursting out of my chest. I was actually human enough to even shed a few tears for a girl I knew nothing about except how serious her situation really was.

I actually made dua for someone else instead of thinking that Allah swt was Santa Claus and I could only call on Him when I needed to superficial things like that SLR camera, or I could only call on Him when I wanted to immediately fix a completely out of control situation.

This was possibly the first prayer in my life that I started and ended the prayer continuously thinking about how much I wanted a young sister, daughter, wife and Muslimah to be found. I managed to reverse the process of desensitizing my soul, for 2 minutes today I actually felt pain and I felt insignificant. It hurts like no other and has stolen my sleep, but which would you rather be --- the one who never felt enough pain in your heart to make dua or the one who couldn't sleep at night because there was so much pain in the world that needed your attention.

This isn't just a plea to help find Aisha Khan, rather it's a humble request to open your hearts and feel vulnerable and realize that humans weren't made to be desensitized. Use your emotions and pain to call out to Allah swt, to find Him closer to you, and to find yourself closer to Him.

(If anyone has seen Aisha Khan, a 19-year-old female from Overland Park who has been missing since 11am, Fri. Dec. 16, please make sure to contact the number on the poster. Facebook link is provided here: Help Find Aisha Khan Facebook Page)

Finding the Perfect Hijab Style [series]

2011-12-09T14:48:00.001-06:00

Getting ready to go to an extravagant wedding and you decide to experiment with your hijab to see if you can miraculously look different and beautiful, only to realize through the pictures that in retrospect that was a HUGE MISTAKE. It's true, over 75% women have not found the perfect hijab style that will make their features shine.

I know I'm not the only one that has gone through a long journey of trying to figure out which hijab style suits best on me, plenty of girls have gone through this struggle. Case in point, the story above has happened to me every time after a wedding or event. Truth be told, I'm still going through it. Admit it, many of you have tried styles that look so appealing on others and when you try it on it just never looks the same. Point being, ever since Dina Toki-o hit the market with her graceful and effortless hijab style everyone began to experiment with hijabs, but more than that every girl experimented with wearing hijab the way Dina sported her hijab.

Truth, most of us look like idiots attempting to get the same hijab style as beautiful as it looks on her.
Some of us can't get the "point" she creates around the forehead right, some of us stack so much fabric on our heads to get that volume...it almost looks like we're wearing a sari on our head instead of a hijab.

I'll be the first to admit, been there and tried that --- and it worked some places but some places it didnt. For example, just because Sophia Bush's hairstyle and pout looks amazing on her does not mean that it'll do justice to me, even though I would love to look like her. Similarly, some colors will look gorgeous on you and on the next person it might just look down right ridiculous. This note is to all the ladies who just haven't found "the one."

I'll hopefully be writing a series on different hijab styles i'll be trying so that i can finally figure out which hijab suits me and my face type. Hopefully this will help all the sisters out there with different face types/structures find the hijab of their dreams, lol. As well as at least this way I'll never have to guess again what my daily hijab style should be ---- i can maybe even MASTEERRR in perfecting it!

How many of you have found yourself in the same rut of not being able to get your hijab style to be THE ONE for you?Also, are there any particular areas you want me to tackle more specifically? [For example, if the forehead is too big which hijab style looks best on that kind of face type.]

Secret to Losing Weight.

2011-12-08T13:28:00.000-06:00

In the spirit of weight loss, I guess I must've really wanted to lose weight because I ended up getting food poisoning. After a trip to the ER and lots of throwing up, I managed to lose 5 lbs. in four days
which otherwise would've taken me a good month to lose. Oh, happy days! (Warning: I do not support purposefully getting food poison, my husband just turned out to be a bad chef.)

So, this is the secret people have been asking me nonstop since last year when i first lost 25 lbs for my wedding. I didn't post about it earlier because I was a little apprehensive this time around. I waited until I made sure that last year wasn't just a fluke.

This year, I think i've lost anywhere between 10 lbs since I started a month ago including A TOTAL CHEAT-WEEK where I stuffed my face with brisket, turkey, chicken pot pie, ice cream, mashed potatoes, rolls and everything I SHOULD NOT HAVE ATE. Don't worry, even though I was panicking about not doing my daily gym routine, I definitely still managed to work out 4 times that week. Two days that week I did half an hour of brisk walking and jogging (which by any means in my mind was not enough.) The other two days I managed to get back to the gym and do some hardcore workout! I in fact pushed my own limit and it felt HELL-UH good!!

Unfortunately, because of food poisoning I haven't gone to the gym nor have i followed my proper diet, in fact, I was told that i was only allowed to eat WHAT I FORBADE MYSELF FROM EATING IN MY DIET: CARBS!

SECRET:

*No CARBS - (maybe 1 (max) 35 calorie bread a day. No pasta, rice, bread.
*ONLY PROTEIN. Only chicken and fish --- beef stays in the stomach for about two weeks.
* Doesn't matter if you run, jog or just brisk walk -- you must do an hour a day without pause.
* Exercise 7 days a week, even if you can do weights only 5 days a week, you need to do the cardio above everyday.
* NO SODA (only water)
* only grill and bake the chicken/fish, avoid breading of any sort. You can season it a lot but not breading.
*Eat fruits/veggies/salads.
*As much as you want to avoid it, check your weight on the first day you start this diet, because i promise if you follow the routine it'll be your last day at that weight.
*Don't ever check your weight after working out, you've got too much water in your body.
*Eat a chocolate protein bar to avoid chocolate cravings and replacing a meal if you get tired of meat.
*Try to eat the same food in the same routine everyday because it makes the weight loss a lot faster.
* Workout at the same time you do everyday.
*Check your weight on the weighing scale at the same time in the day everyday.
*Do weights on upper body and lower body on alternate days. Don't try pushing too many weight because you don't want to bulk up.
*Try getting more active during the day because it just burns a whole lot more calories.
*If you're ever craving ice cream, just buy a fruit parfait, it's only 160 calories and it's amazing!

The only thing I remember hearing the personal trainer tell me in the 30 mins he ever spoke to me was:
NO CARBS WHAT SO EVER AND CARDIO EVERYDAY and you can actually lose 25 lbs. in two months safely.

MY ROUTINE:
Checked weight in the morning
Breakfast:One sunny side up egg in the morning with half a cup of coffee and one slice of 35 calorie bread.
lunch: salad with chicken or fish
Snack: canned (not recommended) fruit. You should eat regular fruit instead of canned, but id just get annoyed with it so i'd eat canned.
dinner: baked chicken or fish
Workout: 1.5-2 hours of gym everyday around evening time. 1 hour non-stop cardio split up like this: 10 mins stairmaster, 50 minutes brisk walking on 3.5-4.0 speed. Crunches/and medicinal ball sit ups everyday at least 40. Upper body and lower body weight machines on alternate days. If anyone needs to know those machines i can try to give the details on them just email me on the side - no promises though. (The gym doesn't seem so unbearable to stay in for 2 hours anymore, because you spend one hour just doing cardio and the next doing weights.)
SLEEP!

voila, i must've skipped 5 million different things that can help and you should do, but forgive me I'm still recovering. Also, do research - for example, doing a zumba class helps you lose more weight than staying on the cardio machine, so you might wanna do zumba and cardio at the same time. Also, the machines will not help you get abs in a day, you have to lose fat from doing cardio and then sculpt your body with machines. 1lb =3500 calories, cut out a 250 calorie soda a day and lose 250 calories a day through workout, and by the end mathematically you should be able to lose at least 1 lb. a week.

Good luck, let me know how it goes! :D

Losing Weight is a lot Harder than Gaining it!

2011-11-17T15:07:00.001-06:00

Soooooooooo, another reason why ive been MIA (excuses, excuses, EXCUSES) is because I am definitely on crunch time for losing weight. And, i want to return to blogging after my finished look, aka 20-25 lbs lighter. I'm down 5lbs, but it gets tough trying to eat healthy and working out EVERY FREAKING DAY.

Last year, right before my wedding I went on a turbo diet/ extreme workout regimen, and i ended up losing exactly 25 lbs in 1.5 months. After which, of course, i gained it back because i was so blissfully married, and just thought I could live off of pepsi and chocolate, lol.

Just like last year, I am trying to lose weight again, but why in such a hurry -- one would ask? BECAUSE, my parents decided to drop news on me recently that they've confirmed my plane ticket to Pakistan for my cousin's wedding. And get this, they decided to tell me exactly 1.5 month before the wedding, and coincidentally the wedding is the same day as my anniversary. So, i am once again scrambling to pull myself together just like last year. Except this year, I'll have to quit my gym two weeks in advance, 14 DAYS! so, im a little more stressed.

I wouldn't recommend anyone attempting this kind of crazy weight loss, because not everyone is so obsessed about short term goals as I am. I don't think i would've kept up with it if it was a lifestyle change, because I will tell you ive been having major headaches from carbs, caffeine, and sugar withdrawals.

Anyhow, with my strict diet and daily 1.5 hour workout, i have now added P90x. I am not sure if im pumping too much iron and exercising too much, but ill have you know sometimes it feels darn right amazing --- that is, after I have worked out. I really hope clothes look amazing on me this new years, because I sure am working hard as hell.

It's quite Ironic, how common courtesy lacks only amongst us Muslims in the "weight" department. We'll never lie to anyone about how thin they DONT look, of course, we also wont observe the rule if you dont have something nice to say then dont say anything at all. Muslims let other Muslims know without any reservations or hesitations about how one has gained weight, or how they look HEALTHY! hahaha, yeah, that term "healthy" soooo does not mean healthy anymore! I'm so glad for the Pakistani "dress" or " A-line" style that has saved me from looking like i've gained weight this entire year, so i decided before that fashion runs out and people realize where I've been hiding those extra lbs, i should hit a gym ASAP!

Is anyone stuck in a rut working out or trying to lose weight? Any of you attending weddings but finding yourself feeling obviously overweight? Any of you dont even want to bother going out to gatherings because of how ideal everyone else's figure and weight seems?

What's in for this SEASON (in case you're looking for EID?)

2011-10-25T17:48:00.000-05:00

Mint green (pistachio green) totally in fashion right now!

You know, I've been monitoring this season's colors pretty closely and I can't help but notice there are a few colors that are really making rounds. In the traditional Pakistani attire, we have the pistachio green (mint green), hot pink, and nude color that's setting every outfit ablaze. These three colors can be seen in almost all kinds of outfits whether it's for an extravagant event or just a casual get together. Also, if you are sad that maybe you were behind in catching the train for wearing the "dress style" shalwaar kameez (no pun intended) then you are in luck, you still have time to buy a "dress style" outfit and wear it without looking so last season. Some of the benefits of wearing a dress style shalwaar kameez is that you could have muffin tops hanging and drooping all over, chicken arms, a butt the size of J Lo's, and thighs like Church's Chicken and still look dang good in this outfit. The aforementioned details of one's body could easily be identified as the state of my own body right now, lol.

The reason why "dress" style shalwaar kameez is so appealing is because it clenches only at the smallest part of your body which would be right under your bust, and it opens up like an umbrella from that point on --- which means that your waste, hips and thighs have room to breathe, which wasn't the case in the past seasons' fashion. Not only that, it is complimented with "pants" not shalwaar, so you have these wide legged pants that only enhance the illusion that one is tall and slender. The usual case with these outfits is that the sleeves are long which also coincidentally give an illusion that you arms are long. This trend has definitely gotten quite a few people asking me how I lost so much weight. The secret was to wear an outfit that was in trend and just so worth the money.

I also happened to buy my Eid outfit from a high-end boutique in Houston, Texas and am super content with it. I didn't need to go to 7 different stores, when i walked in it definitely had the colors i was looking for (Hot pink and black) and it was also dress style. When i set my eyes on this mannequin out of the other fantastic mannequins, i knew this was the outfit i wanted for Eid. It looked classy, sophisticated and completely in style. My first thoughts were since it's a mannequin along with the other mannequins with expensive outfits displayed on them, it's definitely gotta be out of my budget. Then i thought it's everything I wanted and it just looked so exclusive --- i figured surely it must not be my size. After going through a few outfits, i walked around the mannequin and asked about the size and price--- and amazingly both were PERFECT! I tried the outfit and I never wanted to take it off. It was like the fitting and style was tailored to all my requirements. Hence, I bought it. And, i cant wait for my audience to see it on Eid.

Hijab, shoes, and jewelry? I'm probably going to buy fabric from the fabric store and try to sew a matching colored, silky hijab for Eid. I'll probably buy some kind of matching colored pair of earrings that will be make-shifted as a teeka. I'll sport the usual bangles and rings. Fortunately, my outfit has a nice big brooch in the center of my shirt, so it's definitely hijabi-friendly. Shoesssssss --- i think im going to get budget friendly hot-pink heels.

I wonder how everyone else's Eid preparations are going? Don't forget to enjoy chaand raat, that's where all the fun is at --- putting on mehendi, meeting people, getting all psyched about waking up the next day! :D

How it Feels to See it Vanish

2011-10-09T03:18:00.003-05:00

Hello my lovely ladies,

After all the 5,443 times that the new apartment furniture has been rearranged, all 30 days of fasting have been completed, family reunions have been taken care of, and the initial visits by everyone and anyone have been made to see our new apartment and city, I'm a little more sober and content. Content enough to write. I'll definitely be doing a few product reviews, Alhamdulillah for these companies that keep approaching me to write reviews for them. These business ventures have been such a blessing in revolutionizing wearing hijab.

Okay, wow, i just deleted the first sentence 5 times, and spelled the word sentence with an S instead of a C. That's how long it's been since i last updated my blog. I wont be foolish enough to make any promises to commit to blogging on a daily basis, maybe not even 6 times a week, but i will definitely try to blog when my heart feels like writing. I began blogging about a year ago almost to the day because I wanted to sort myself out, and before I knew it it became something other people loved to read too. And, i guess, when I knew people were relying on me to write and entertain them, it no longer seemed like something I was doing for myself. Writing is the one thing I want to do for myself, and it would be an added bonus if people enjoyed it as well. So, with that disclaimer and alibi, I'll progress to a story that I remembered and would be the sole reason behind this post.

I must've been in the 9th grade, freshmen and all, chilling in my BCIS (computer) class. I suppose if i recall correctly I was looking for books to read, I've always been a nerd like that. I love to read, especially on road trips. I'd always purchase books right before heading out for a trip so that I could read a book cover to cover without any interruptions.

As usual, i was looking for my particular taste in books: Indian/Pakistani, fusion, and light hearted. When I began to search for books like that i immediately lucked out in finding books such as "Life isnt all Ha Ha He He", "Koyal Dark and Mango Sweet", and "Born Confused." I know the first book's title doesn't really do justice to the very engaging story inside the covers. As I was searching for my next "IT" book, I was clicking on all relatively close links online, and somehow I landed on this blog which was called "BBCD" which stood for British Born Confused Desi. I thought to myself now now, what's this? Let's have a look.

One look is all it took for me to be hooked. This was a new world for a small town girl like me. This blog was documentation of a girl/woman who fascinated me. She was outgoing, western yet cultured, and completely open to events that were so artistic in nature. She wrote about her journey as the unmarried, working woman who had to deal with prospects and their families coming to check her out to see if she was potential wife material. She had a witty tone to all her stories. I even appreciated seeing her life through her eyes via pictures. I realize years later that things that i enjoy to embrace now such as Sufism was something she had already discovered way back then. I remember seeing colorful pictures (back when cameras were expensive) of stage shows such as Sufi musicals that she had attended. I didn't get how she could afford to see all these cool and original things.

The highlight of my day literally would start off with that BCIS class. I would walk into class, switch on my computer, type in her URL and feel my heart do a dance when I saw she had posted. She was very consistent and a complete reader's delight. Her humorous stories and rather unique approach on life was so refreshing, such as how suitors and their families would come to examine her like she was some piece of meat in a market. Her style of writing was like she was talking to you, and sometimes it was almost as if you were her, living life through her.

One day, I routinely visited her website, but this time she wrote a note to her audience saying that her existence on the internet was going to vanish forever. I was devastated. She was such an integral part of my life now, and I didn't even know her name. How could I reach out to her? I couldn't. A little time went by and most of her posts were deleted periodically by her, all that was eventually left was the URL where once upon a time her stories resided and used to inspire people. It would let people like me live a totally different life.

I have always longed to know who that girl/lady was that would write about her experiences. I have wondered where she worked, because most of her posts were written during work while she sat right across from what I recall her saying was her "hot" boss. Her audience never saw a picture of her, never caught her name, but definitely still could tell you a lot about her life. I wish I could find her.

Since I cannot find her, I decided to write this post and dedicate it to her. I only thought of her because I realize how disappointing it can be when someone stops posting about their life, especially when you feel so close to them. Most of the time I don't think anyone even bothers to read this blog, but I've realized over time that there are in fact a lot of you out there that are "silent readers" and I appreciate that. I suppose my intentions in writing this post was to say that I don't promise to post everyday, and I don't even promise to continue to blog eternally, but what I will say is I realize both sides of the story now. How hard it can be to display your life out on a canvas for everyone to view and then have to delete it --- and also, how difficult it can be to be an audience and have to leave a perfectly great blog that made you feel at home.

So, what I will promise is that I will try my best to continue to be a part of your life by letting you in my life. And, I hope my rather long anecdote helps make up for the missing time :)

CHEERS :D

Outfit of the DAY! Ladiessss!

2011-08-11T01:38:00.000-05:00

Salaam Ladies,

Yes, as promised, I'm posting pics! Sorry for the lack of activity on this blog, so much happening these days. Work, Ramadan, Hijabis Got Swag, and just married life in new a apartment :) Alhamdulillah for everything. I thought I'd share a few snaps of me! :) Enjoy! The top is from Forever 21, of course! Accessories are from different places, hijab is from Ladecence hijabs. :)

My Dear Ladies

2011-07-14T07:08:00.000-05:00

Oh Dear Ladies,

I'm Mia, i know, i wont deny it.

I've dropped the ball and i dont feel like picking it up, but ill tell you why.

These days im focused on starting a new youtube channel with the most beautiful Dina Tokio, Vintage Head (Thanna), and M.H. Hijab (Hannan) ---Yes, the youtube channel is called Hijabis Got Swag. We've been promoting it nonstop for the past week and have already reached over 1k fans! :)

Hijabis Got Swag on Facebook

Below are a couple of pictures of us doing our thang in pictures! Check out the fanpage to keep yourselves updated with what's going on! This is going to be big GIRLS!

Sixteenr.com Hijab Review and Interview with Owner (pictures included)

2011-06-22T17:01:00.003-05:00

Now that I am getting into the rhythm of posting again (fingers crossed) I needed to do what I've been delaying for a while now. Sixteenr.com is a cool, spunky and on the edge kind of company, which sells hijabs. You know, we've come a long way from wearing those white, navy blue and black colored, lace, triangle hijabs --- and, sixteenr.com is proof that we have truly turned over a new leaf.

I was honored to write a review for Sixteenr.com and so I chose to review this very beautiful coke-can colored red hijab. Now, if you look at these hijabs they may seem like the same old bulky pashminas, but wait, what is that that you see on one side of this scarf? Yes, it's a design. Mine is super edgy, it has buildings printed in black on one side of my hijab. It's like the signature for this company. Who would've thought that we would start designing on hijabs with chic and edgy pictures. I love the color red, and black has indeed always been a favorite of mine. Naturally, the combo of these two colors on my new hijab from SixteenR.com really brings out the edginess in me.

I'm not going to lie, I totally feel as cool as a motorcycle kinda girl. I always wanted that image, but never could put it together, this hijab totally did the trick for me. Honestly, I feel like in a few years hijabs won't be your average red, blue, green or orange, instead they'll be designer. You'll hear girls on the streets or events whispering in each other's ears, "Did you see she's wearing Hijab House, SixteenR, or Vela, [insert designer]?" Each of these companies have managed to have a signature look about their hijabs, and SixteenR is by far one of the more edgier looks, of course being totally halal. My reason to take on this review was because I feel like ladies should start looking into designer hijabs because sooner or later the prices will go up when they reach the peak of their popularity, and you don't want to be saving up money for the rest of your lives to be able to get one of these class act kind of hijabs. Right now the prices are just right! :)

All I know is, give it a few more months and people on the streets will stop me or whilst chit chatting with someone, they will see the design on my hijab and will immediately ask, "Is that SixteenR?" And I'll nod with joy that sisters are finally recognizing true fashion! Fashion with a modest background of course, this hijab is pashmina, so there is no room for it to lack coverage, it gives you as much coverage as you need, neck, back and chest inclded!

I've been sporting this hijab lately, and even Mr. Rogers (my hubby) was shocked by the print on my hijab. He was all like, "You have something on your hijab and it's black. Oh wait, that's....buildings...omg, it's a picture! Wow, that looks really awesome!" Yeah, really that was his exact reaction. He thought it was pretty innovative and expressive considering that hijabs have always been epitomized as a non-fashionable platform. I don't want to do much more talking on how amazing this 100% pashmina is with even more amazing printed designs on it, but I think I'll let my pictures do the talking. Also, following my cool pictures sporting Sixteenr.com's hijab --- make sure to check out an exclusive interview with Nancy, the owner of Sixteenr.com. I think you guys may remember sixteenr.com was one of the sponsoring companies that gave away some cool free stuff at Hijabi Fashion Week!

Please Check out Sixteenr.com -- pretty soon people will be able to recognize what designer hijab youre wearing!

Online store: http://www.sixteenr.com
Blog: http://www.sixteenr.com/blog
FB: http://www.facebook.com/shop16R
Twitter: http://twitter.com/sixteenR
Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/user/sixteenr

Who is Nancy Hoque? And what does she have to do with sixteenR.com?

I'm Nancy Hoque, the CEO of sixteenR.COM. I source and design all scarves on the site. I run everything 16R with my husband managing the sales/business side of things.

I started sixteenR because I was inspired by how Muslim women incorporate the scarf into fashionable and stylish looks. Also, I started wearing hijab right after 9-11 in college in CA. I faced a lot of stereotypes as a hijabi, and instead of having the hijab make me feel less confident and insecure, it made me feel empowered. Thus the purpose of sixteenR.COM is to create "scarves that empower". You are not just wearing a scarf, you are wearing a statement.

our philosophy: http://www.sixteenr.com/philosophy/

I am also a mother of 2, working as an electrical engineer, happily married.

What are your expectations from this company?

I want my company to change the perception of how scarves are perceived. Women from around the world are having interest in sixteenR and how to wear the scarf stylishly. I expect my company to become a global brand for scarves and then eventually have a place in the Muslim Women Fashion world.

How is it different from other companies?

SixteenR is different because it has a strong philosophy for the basis of the company. We strongly believe that the scarf is a tool of empowerment and when worn as a head or a neck scarf, it has the ability to transform a woman's appearance. We try to play the creative angle with scarves and encourage design ideas from our customers (the 16R survey can be found here) . Without my philosophy, I wouldn't bother having this company.

Where do you see your company 5 years down the road?

As time goes by, I intend sixteenR to become a global brand providing one-of-a-kind, unique, boutique scarves and to create a community including "the scarf" in fashion. I want to collaborate with other designers to include their scarves in sixteenR collections, so we become a one-stop shop for fabulous scarves. If everything goes well, maybe begin a clothing line too. And ofcourse, make women feel empowered!

What kind of products do you intend on adding?

To start with more scarves. We will be adding more fabrics which are light, comfortable, and very high quality, such as silk, cotton, etc. We will also create cool headgear, inspired by classic 1920's-1940's looks. And just build from there. I keep having all kinds of ideas..it's too early to tell. :)

Where did the name sixteenr come from?

My family and I use to live on 16th and R street in Washington DC, several blocks down from the White House. This is where the idea of 16R started.

What is wearing the scarf for you/ why do you feel empowered by it?

In modern day society, it is not typical to wear the scarf as a headscarf, especially in non-muslim countries. It brings with it a lot of negative connotations and also un-spoken expectations based from people who are perceiving you. So instead of feeling that enormous pressure for dressing different, I feel that you are empowered because you are building self-confidence in how you want to look, based on your beliefs and your individuality. By wearing the scarf I became a stronger person and have had experiences in life which has taught me very valuable lessons. With strength and wisdom, we can only be more empowered.

Advice to people who wear hijab and sometimes feel down about it?

First, don't think of yourself as "I am a hijabi, named so-and-so." Instead think that "I am so-and-so, who wears a hijab". Always keep your identity strong. Don't over analyze why you wear the hijab and the things that make you feel down about it. Accept it as part of your lifestyle and do your thing.

Best advice on how to look fashionably modest?

Layering helps a lot. And imagination. Don't be afraid to be different and creative! You set the style girl!

Biggest pet peeve about people and their fashion sense?

My biggest pet peeve is when people don't have any fashion sense. I think this quote is so true: "There are no ugly women. Only lazy ones".

Something you can't walk out the door without? (Fashion statement)

Earrings! I love them.

What's in right now? What is your favorite in-thing? And, how should one incorporate Western fashion with a modest attire?

Colors are in! Mixing and matching fabrics and prints are in!. Just look at Prada's spring/summer collection 2011. The colors are amazing! The best way to to incorporate western fashion into modest attire is to let in inspire you and give you ideas. Also you must be creative. i.e. if a dress is short, don't think "I can't wear it", instead wear some skinny jeans under, or leggings, and then its yours!

Delayed Postcard?

2011-06-19T23:27:00.001-05:00

Some of you (the hand full) that read my blog are probably wondering where in the world I vanished.
Yeah, so, I kind of should of told you all.

Maybe sent a postcard?

I basically went on a roadtrip and met up all my college friends and did the most randomest stuff ever! Did I take pictures you ask? I attempted for the first day, I failed miserably because I was having too much fun, so I dropped the idea of carrying a camera. I still managed to click a couple of shots, not anything grand, so checks it out!

Girls, a roadtrip with your best friends really makes a person's chaotic life so amazing. I basically went with one HUGE carry on, but yeah, i managed to make it an entire week in multiple cities with just that carry on suitcase. I slept around at my friends' place like a gypsy, and usually I'm really skeptical about doing crazy stuff like that, but all of these girls were really close to me && I wanted to experience what a guy feels like when he just heads out with a backpack. I guess my massive carry on equals a guys backpack, lol.

So yeah, I wanted to apologize, for some reason i kept feeling guilty not updating all of you, enough to drive me to write this post at this hour.

So, in other news, I also have found a new cute apartment to move into, we insha'Allah will be finalizing details soon!

I ALSO GOT A JOB! No, I'm sorry it's nothing like Dina Tokio's job as a customer service rep, where she probably responds by saying, "This is Dina at such and such company's customer service department, YOU'RE ALSO SPEAKING TO THE NEXT BIG DESIGNER!" (When I cracked this joke with Dina the other day she was like rolling laughing, I figured you guys would appreciate my boring sense of humor!)

Anyhow, I got a job in my field, BROADCAST JOURNALISM! It's not quite reporting on breaking news, but I'll be working as an radio host or (radio jockey) for a radio station here where I just moved! Yeepieeeee! So you can swing by and holla at me whenever you please! How fun is that? I'm starting work tomorrow 9 IN THE FREAKING MORNING! I dont even know what it feels like to actually coherently speak around 9 am let alone work, so im slightly nervous!

cheaaaaaaa, so that's the rundown on my life --- I'll give you more details as they develop. If you've seen Dina Toki-o promoting Social Muslimah then I suggest you get on it. There is gonna be some amazing stuff happening on this website, insha'Allah! I'm not benefiting in anyway by creating this website, but it's just a way to talk LIVE with your favorite bloggers, designers, youtubers and Muslimahs. Chat Live or post in the forum on this website and get connected with all the girls you follow! I (test-launched) it yesterday, not to everyone as of yet, but wanted to share it with my audience. I'll be recruiting tons of amazing sisters, you girls watch out, this spot is gonna be the next hot spot! There's going to be some huge plans for it and you don't want to miss it!

For now, here are my pictures --- and following this blog post you will be getting another blog post where I will be raving about sixteenr.com's hijab!!! I have pictures of how I sported it --- so just wait a few minutes you'll be able to see those pictures. It's the least I can do for being so MIA! These pictures are from my friend's graduation party, which I attended during my spontaneous road trip!