Reverse Tensionz

Stretching for Bondage

2012-02-08T17:56:00.000-08:00

Date & Time: Sunday, March 18, 2012 · 4:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Location:
The Erotic Heritage Museum
3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada
89109 (702) 369-6442
Cost: $20 in advance.
Dress code: Loose fitting clothing like you would wear to a yoga class or to work out.

Stretching for Bondage
15 minutes per day to a more flexible you.

Many people look at the Japanese style box-tie and dismiss any possibility of achieving this beautiful combination of bondage and yoga asana. In my own class “Building the Perfect Hug” I have shown how the box-tie can be modified by folding the hands in front, or adapting rope handcuffs to fit folks with less flexible shoulders.

This worked but I felt there had to be a better answer.

Flash-forward to ShibariCon 2011. My sciatica was acting up after sitting for class so I moved off to the side to began running through a gravity yoga routine that I have been using to keep that injury under control.

While I stretched I overheard one person tell their partner, “Wow, that guy is flexible.”
I thought to myself, “I didn’t use to be…”, and then the fireworks went off. People could use this simple collection of poses to achieve their dream of being tied into that box-tie they admire so much.

Here was something I could bring to the table that would help people do better, longer lasting, safer bondage. And best yet you only have to devote 15 minutes a day, 5 days per week to meet your goals.

Not Just for Bondage Bottoms
In addition to better bondage, there are benefits that will spill over into regular life as well.
Benefits such as:

• Increased Range of Motion
• Better Sleep
• Relief from Lower Back Pain
• Injury Prevention
• Increased Flexibility
• Better Sleep
• Better Circulation
• Better Posture
• Relief from Nervous Tension

Do you practice yoga? These stretches are designed to improve your practice by opening up your shoulders, hips, lower back, and legs.

Have you practiced martial arts for a few years? Are you feeling a little pain under your right shoulder blade? How about your elbow, and just under your thumb?

Flexibility is your whole world my friend. These stretches will help you continue to enjoy your art form for years to come.

In this class I will lead you through a 10 min pre-bondage warm up routine, followed by simple, powerful, and effective stretches that will give you fast results and are suitable for all levels.

What to Bring:
• Loose fitting comfortable clothes like you wear to a yoga class or to the gym.
• Yoga mats and a blanket, we will be on the floor for much of the class.
• Yoga Blocks, or Towels that we will use as props.
• Water and post class snacks to give you the energy to get home.

Due to the room limitations this class will be limited to 12 people.

Click Here to be taken to the fetlife event page.

This class will be RSVP only. Please contact me (Mateo) at nwmateo@gmail.com to reserve your spot.

Peace

Reverse Tensionz Newsletter !!Extra Edition!!

2011-11-20T23:39:00.000-08:00

Contents:

1. Extra! Extra! Read All About It!!
2. Reverse Tensionz Featured on Greydancer's Ropecast
3. Rope Dojo Registration
4. ShibariCon Registration

1. Extra! Extra!

Hey gang! A couple of things have developed that I thought you might want to know about. Thus the extra edition of the newsletter.

First a big thank you to everyone that came out to the November focus group.

To quote Willow:

What a fantastic meet-up that was! A smaller group, but no less lively than usual. Quite a few new faces (Welcome-welcome HUGS) and some familiar favorites! On a personal note, my suspending-someone-other-than-me cherry was popped! Still needs much practice, but my 2 victi...er volunteers were making happy noises and seemed to have a good time. :D OH! And the mini-pies! sigh Thank you, Miss Rachael. grin We made a nice donation to the EHM as a group, as well! Thank you all for coming out and having fun with us. Until next time, fair winds!

The next focus group is set for Sunday December 11th. Have a great Thanksgiving!

2. Reverse Tensionz Featured on Graydancer's Ropecast

Did ya know that we got featured on Graydancer's Ropecast? Yup, it's true Gray was in town for the Erotic Author's Association Conference and took time away from his busy schedule to visit our September focus group.

Gray interview's several familiar folks including Dorian Gomez, the curator of the Erotic Heritage Museum. All the while you can hear the happy sounds of a typical rope focus group in progress. Thank you Graydancer for such a positive look at what we have happening here in Las Vegas!

Follow the link to be taken to Graydancer's Ropecast and give it a listen, you can also find the Ropecast on iTunes.

If you like it be sure to head over to iTunes and toss Gray a good rating as well as a comment. He showed us some love, let's return the favor!

http://www.ropecast.net/webpage/vegas-baby-

I was really moved while listening to this. Once again I have been blown away with what a fantastic bunch of people make up Reverse Tensionz, and just how much progress we have made over the past few years.

I am amazingly proud of you! It is truly a privilege to rope with you guys!

3. Midori's Rope Bondage Dojo® Registration Opens Dec. 1st!

I just received word from Midori that registration for the next Rope Bondage Dojo® will open on December 1st at 8am Pacific time. This is my favorite rope event of them all and I highly recommend this intensive weekend to any ropester that wants to take his or her rope-work to the next level.

The next Dojo will be held Jan. 14th - 15th 2012 at the Citadel in San Francisco.

Catch all the details by following the link below.

http://www.ropedojo.com/

I hope to see you there!

4. Shibaricon Registration Open Already!

Its twue! Its twue! It is twue what they say! The granddaddy of all rope events is accepting registrations as we speak!

About Shibiricon:

Shibaricon is the world's premier annual exhibition and conference that focuses on education and information exchange among lovers of Japanese rope bondage. The goal of Shibaricon is simple; to provide an inclusive and supportive environment for the exchange of ideas, education, friendship and community. Since its inception in 2004, Shibaricon has become a treasured retreat where rope lovers from all over the world come together as a supportive community, learn new skills, and experience the joy of using those new skills to enhance relationships, both new and old.
Shibaricon is produced by lovers of rope, for lovers of rope. We welcome you to join us to experience the magic created when so many rope lovers come together. Attendee, sponsor, vendor, presenter, volunteer or staff each one of you brings something special and necessary to the success of the event. Please join us in 2012 and make the 8th Annual Shibaricon the best yet!

Get all the scoop by clicking the link below. Again, I hope to see you there! A Vegas morning coffee group would be soooo cool before classes begin.

http://www.shibaricon.com/

November's Newsletter

2011-11-07T15:39:00.000-08:00

Reverse Tensionz Newsletter

November 7, 2011

Greetings! You are receiving this letter because you signed up to receive more information about the erotic rope focus group Reverse Tensionz and the local BDSM scene in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Thank you for giving us permission to send you our newsletter. We promise never to share your e-mail address with anyone without your permission. If you feel you are receiving this notice in error, please reply with REMOVE placed in the subject field. We will promptly remove you from the mailing list.

Without the people on this list Reverse Tensionz wouldn’t exist, you are living proof that there is a vibrant scene here in Las Vegas and never let anyone tell you different.

Contents:

1. The Reboot
2. November Rope Focus Group
3. Private Play Party & Food Drive at the EHM
4. About Reverse Tensionz
5. Friends of Reverse Tensionz

1. The Reboot

Holy Catz can you believe it has been well over a year since I put out a newsletter? Well hold onto your hats as I am going to try to bring you a little rope news each month. The goal, as was before, will be to inform local ropesters about significant developments in rope news, and keep people up on events.

Thank you again,

Mateo

2. November Rope Focus Group

Our next focus group will be meeting at the Erotic Heritage Museum on Sunday November 13h at 4 p.m.

Thanksgiving is this month, how about a "food" theme? Have at it!! I hear rumors of pie coming in from Arizona.

Did you meet us at a party or demonstration? This is the best way to meet the local rope community in a relaxed and controlled setting. Our focus group is a peer to peer educational event where people practice their rope skills, share their knowledge, meet new people, and reconnect with old friends.

Rope bottoms come meet and get tied up by rope tops. Here is your chance to share your insights with tops and other rope submissives and switches.

Rope Tops come share your knowledge and tie up some rope bottoms!

Click Here to be taken to the event page on Fetlife.com

Event: Erotic Rope Focus Group
Date: Sunday November 13th.
Time: 4 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Who is invited: Members of the Reverse Tensionz Erotic Rope Enthusiast Group.
Cost: By donation, $1 to $20 whatever you care to donate. The money will be given to the Museum as a donation from the group as a whole at the end of the event.

3. Erotic Heritage Museum 1st Ever Private Play Party

The Museum's first private play party! This event goes along with Mr. Dark's canned food drive; I Like it in the Can!

We have our special exhibit equipment graciously on loan from gracious local kinksters. Feel free to bring your own equipment. Definitely bring your towys.

This is a private event so you MUST RSVP! Only those on the list will be admitted.

Potluck

Water, juice, ets. will be available at the EHM's cash bar.

We need volunteers for the following:

Dungeon Monitors

Cleaning Help

Security

More info on the way.

Event: Erotic Heritage Museum's 1st Play Party
Place: Erotic Heritage Museum 2275 Industrial Rd, Las Vegas NV 89109 (702) 369-6442
Date: Saturday November 12, 2011
Time: 10:00pm to 2:00am
Who is invited: RSVP ONLY!
Cost: Suggested $5 donation AND minimum 1 canned food item.
Dress Code: Fetish & Fun

4. About Reverse Tensionz

Reverse Tensionz is a Las Vegas based Pan Sexual, Pan Orientation BDSM group with an emphasis on erotic rope bondage. We welcome all who enjoy the BDSM lifestyle whether you are an experienced rigger, lifestyle rope bottom or just discovering an interest in rope. How you identify yourself is up to you, what brings us together is an interest in erotic ropes, whether it’s a minor kink or a full on fetish.

Here is a list of links where you can find us online:

Blog: http://reversetensionz.blogspot.com

Twitter: http://twitter.com/ReverseTensionz

Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/11370

Yahoo Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Reverse_Tensionz/

Nawa Yoi Event Calendar: http://www.nawayoi.info/

Mateo’s Blog: http://www.bloggedbymateo.com

5. Friends of Reverse Tensionz

Being a group founded and based in the larger Las Vegas BDSM community you can find us at many of the local munches and venues attending classes, shopping, or just hanging out with like minded people.

Here is a list of local hangouts where you can find members of Reverse Tensionz:

The Erotic Heritage Museum:

3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109

(702) 369-6442

The EHM is host to our quarterly event, The Las Vegas Rope Social & Potluck, as well as a monthly Erotic Rope Focus Group. We also hold classes here.

The Power Exchange Las Vegas:

3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103

(702) 255-4739

The Power Exchange is a local club that has two play areas dedicated to the BDSM groups here in town. The Power Exchange also plays host to many of the classes sponsored by Reverse Tensionz. It’s a good bet that you can find a few of us here on a Sunday evening having a good time.

Local Munches:

There are many munches in the Las Vegas area. Those listed here are the groups dedicated to hosting all within the BDSM lifestyle regardless of orientation or sexuality. These munches are the ones that the B.O.D. of Reverse Tensionz attend, as well as the leaders and the members of other more specialized focus groups.

SinCity D/s Network:

When: Every Friday night 8-10PM
Where: The "PT's PUB" in the Sahara Pavilion Shopping Center at Sahara and Decatur (minimum age 21)

Las Vegas Fetish Stores and Vendors:

Are you new to the scene and wondering about leather and latex fashions, or gear? How about some new toys for you and your significant other? Here is a list of fetish shops in Las Vegas that are friendly to Reverse Tensionz.

Look for our event listings at these stores and let them know you found out about them from us.

Lady C Leather – Nevada’s Premier Fetish Company

4037 W. Sahara

Las Vegas, NV 89102

(702) 641-3834

The Fetish Boutique & P.E.S.- Innovating Human Sexuality Since 1986

1509 West Oakey Blvd.

Las Vegas, NV 89102

1-800-339-6953 or (702) 474-2991

The Rack of Las Vegas - Alternative clothing, streetwear, clubwear, novelty gifts and accessories

953 E Sahara Ave, #16b

Las Vegas, NV 89104

(702) 732-7225

Thanks Again...

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..for an awesome Sunday afternoon.

Once more this group has made me very proud of the Las Vegas Community!

The Rope Focus Group met again yesterday and I would like to thank everyone that came out. I met some new people, saw a wide range of rope styles and even heard some giggling (and maybe even some spanking).

...gasp...

Thanks to your generosity the group raised close to $125.00. We donated $100 to the Erotic Heritage Museum and our treasurer Willow will be hanging onto the remainder to be used for the group's benefit.

I would also like to thank Graydancer for taking the time to visit and I am looking forward to hearing some of the interviews taken for his kinky podcast:Graydancer's Ropecast.

Safe travels my friend!

Don't forget that RedheadWithRope will be teaching his class Going Beyond the Rope this coming Wednesday. This should be a great class on a topic that is close to my heart. Come on out and have some fun and show Redhead support as only we can!

If we do, maybe he will teach another...hint, hint.

C-y'all next month!

Peace,

Las Vegas Rope Focus Group Meets Sunday March 13th

2011-03-08T20:58:00.000-08:00

Sunday, Sunday, Sunday!!!

Hey, hey all you party people! The time has come once again to grab your gear and head on down to the Erotic Heritage Museum for a little Sunday afternoon fun.

Click Here to go to the Fetlife event page.

Click Here for the Rope Focus Group web page.

Last month we had a spectacular group, and y'all raised just over $125 to donate to the EHM. I am always floored by how generous this group can be, you make me proud.

Also, there was some bonus fun last time around. The members of the Shibari group were kind enough to donate their old bondage equipment to the museum to fill the hole that Gord left when he pulled out of the EHM project. Thank you Baron & Co. for making that possible!

With a little supervision we were able to open up the display area and make use of the gear. I am hoping we will be able to do so again.*

*That of course is up to the museum staff, and subject to change at any time.

Can't wait to see everyone there!

Peace,
Mateo

Next Rope Focus Group: Feb 13th, 2011

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Hey all,
Mark your calendars, the next Rope Focus Group will be on Sunday Feb 13th.

(We had scheduled it for Feb 6th, however that is Super Bowl Sunday.)

Click Here to go to the Fetlife event page, or Click Here for the blog page describing the event.

I am looking forward to seeing everyone again. I am also contemplating demonstrating how to tie a Swiss Seat for those interested. The Swiss Seat is a sit harness good for suspension.

Peace,
Mateo

Erotic Rope Focue Group This Sunday January 9th

2011-01-07T14:00:00.000-08:00

Hey all,

I just got off the phone with the EHM and we are all set to have the first Erotic Rope Focus group of the year!!

Once again it is time for kinky rope loving people to get together and have an afternoon hoot-n-any (that's a technical term).

Click Here for the event page.

Don't forget to bring some water and a snack for after play recovery. Also blankets and yoga mats are a good idea in case there isn't room on one of the carpets.

Peace,
Mateo

Erotic Rope Focue Group This Sunday December 5th

2010-11-30T08:58:00.000-08:00

Hey everyone!

Another month has come and gone, and we are staring the 2010 Holiday Season square in the face. Can you believe it?

Once again it is time for kinky rope loving people to get together and have an afternoon hoot-n-any (that's a technical term).

Click Here for the details.

Also, don't forget that Vixen has started up the 9th annual BDSM community Secret Santa Project to benefit the St. Therese Center.

Saint Therese Center is a non-profit, tax-exempt organization that
serves people of all faiths infected and affected by HIV/AIDS. For
more information about St Therese please click here:
http://www.sainttheresecenter.org/

If for some reason you are unable to attend Vixen's event on the 10th but would still like to make a donation you may bring your donation items on Sunday.

Reverse Tensionz will make certain your donation makes it to Vixen the following Friday.

The following is an excerpt from the event trailer:

Please bring NEW UNWRAPPED toys, new underwear and non-perishable food/personal hygiene supplies!!!!!!!

Suggested Items needed for the non-perishable food/personal hygiene supply drive: Sugar, Cereal, Coffee, Top Ramen, Sauces, Canned Meats, Cake Mixes, Soap, Shampoo, Deodorant, Razors, Toilet Paper, Paper Towels, Chapstick, Mouthwash, Kleenex, Lotions, Toothbrushes, Toothpaste, Dish Soap, Flour, Peanut Butter, Jello, Canned Fruit, Applesauce, Juices, Nutritional drinks, Soups, Rice, Pasta, and Beans.

All proceeds from this event to be donated to St. Therese Center.
Saint Therese Center is a non-profit, tax-exempt organization that serves people of all faiths infected and affected by HIV/AIDS. For more information about St Therese please click here: http://www.sainttheresecenter.org

STAFF AT ST. THERESE REPORT NEW UNDERWEAR FOR ALL GENDERS, AGES, AND SIZES IS DESPERATELY NEEDED!!!!!

Thanks everyone, and I am looking forward to seeing y'all again this Sunday.

Peace,
Mateo

Thanks for Comming!!

2010-11-08T08:12:00.000-08:00

Hey All,

I want to thank everyone that came to the focus group yesterday! We had many familiar faces, and lots of new ones as well.

I saw, and participated in several flavors of rope bondage, chatted with friends and had cookies. Hurray for cookies!

And with your amazing generosity we raised just over $180 to donate to the Erotic Heritage Museum this time around.

Holy Crap! You guys totally rock the house!!!!

Thanks again gang, without you it doesn't happen.

Our next meeting is scheduled for Sunday December 5th at 4 pm. Can't wait to see you then.
Click Here for the Fetlife event page.

Peace,
Mateo

Erotic Rope Focus Group, Sunday November 7th

2010-11-03T12:07:00.000-07:00

Greetings all!

Just a note to remind people that we will be having our monthly erotic rope focus group meeting this Sunday.

There have been a lot of changes at the Erotic Heritage Museum as of late, and I wanted to let people know that we are still holding the focus group there.

Don't forget to bring a yoga mat or blankets to put down on the floor if you need them, and your suspension gear if you are planing to do some sky work.

Also water and something to munch on after you get done playing is a good idea. Power bars, Gatoraid, things that will give you the energy to drive home.

I am looking forward to seeing everyone there!
Mateo

date:	Sunday, November 07, 2010
time:	04:00 PM to 07:00 PM
where:	The Erotic Heritage Museum
address:	3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 (702) 369-6442 map

cost:	Free, Donations to the EHM are encouraged
dress code:	Fetish wear is welcomed and encouraged, no nudity please.

The Focus Group
Our intent is for this group to be a relaxed peer to peer educational event where people practice their rope skills, share their knowledge, meet new people, reconnect with old friends, and possibly rub shoulders with some well known names from the rope educational circuit.

This is also meant to be an opportunity for those who introduced themselves to us during the demonstrations we do at the Erotic Heritage museum to meet the community and enjoy a little rope fun.

Whether you are an industry professional or a raw beginner the Reverse Tensionz board of directors wants you to have a time to play with your ropes and partners with no expectations or pressure.

Rope bottoms come meet and get tied up by rope tops. Here is your chance to share your insights with tops and other rope submissives and switches.

Rope Tops come share your knowledge and tie up some rope bottoms!

This is a great chance to learn “that cool thing you saw at the party” from your peers in a safe and low key and semi-private setting.

Are you trying a tie from a book and are a little stuck with the particulars? You will have experienced riggers at your disposal to answer questions and give tips.

Look for us inside the Erotic Heritage Museum.

About Reverse Tensionz
Reverse Tensionz is a Las Vegas based Pan Sexual, Pan Orientation BDSM group with an emphasis on erotic rope bondage. We welcome all who enjoy the BDSM lifestyle whether you are an experienced rigger, lifestyle rope bottom or just discovering an interest in rope.

How you identify yourself is up to you, what brings us together is an interest in erotic ropes, whether it’s a minor kink or a full on fetish.

Here is a list of links where you can find us online:

Blog: http://reversetensionz.blogspot.com
Twitter: http://twitter.com/ReverseTensionz
Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/11370
Yahoo Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Reverse_Ten…
Nawa Yoi Event Calendar: http://www.nawayoi.info/
Mateo’s Blog: http://www.bloggedbymateo.com

Erotic Rope Focue Group This Sunday

2010-10-01T13:08:00.000-07:00

Hey All,

Click Here to be taken to the FetLife event page.

I'm dropping in to remind folks that the Erotic Rope Focus Group is meeting this Sunday. We are currently scheduled to begin at 4pm, though due to some changes at the museum that time might change.

I'll be stopping by on my way to work tonight to confirm everything with the folks at the EHM. Be sure to check back here for any last minute updates.

Don't forget to bring a yoga mat or blankets to put down on the floor if you need them, and your suspension gear if you are planing to do some sky work.

Also water and something to munch on after you get done playing is a good idea. Power bars, gatoraide, things that will give you the energy to drive home.

I am looking forward to seeing everyone there!
Mateo

date: Sunday, October 03, 2010
time: 04:00 PM to 07:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 (702) 369-6442
cost: Free, Donations to the EHM are encouraged
dress code: Fetish wear is welcomed and encouraged, no nudity please.

KinkyKarnival 2010 a Big Success

2010-09-29T14:47:00.000-07:00

This is a re-post from Vixen's SinCity D/s yahoo group.

The KinkyKarnival 2010 "Late to School event was an amazing success - thank you so much to everyone who participated!

When the people of this community get together and use their powers for good we can accomplish so much! Deepest appreciation goes out to all the members of the community for making this event happen. Special recognition especially to Ericka (and her lovely partner Karen) who took on the task of leading this year's event way late in the game, and did the most fabulous job.

This year silent auction was packed with all kinds of generous donations -and there were some serious bargains had. There were door prizes, all kinds of fun and prizes in the balloon pop booth, the opportunity to get an airbrush tattoo, a professional picture, to get flogged, to get arrested and bailed out, to donate change in totally unique wishing well, and to make all kinds of new friends!

SinCityDs had our traditional dildo ring toss year and thanks to generous prize donations of a silver and purple chain mail collar from Vampyre Knight, a gorgeous flogger from Lady C's Leather, and a beautiful black smooth as silk paddle from Donny (at the kinkygeek .com) the competition was fierce.

The Leather Uniform Club members seemed to have fun making getting arrested a fantasy come true for some people, and the beautiful Ladies of Vegas Domina's ran the kissing booth, There was a line to get to their table, but the wait was apparently well worth it. I myself was a repeat customer. The Las Vegas TNG 50/50 raffle was actually won by someone under 35- and she generously donated most of the money right back to St Therese.

This year, SNAPI Southern Nevada Association of Pride, Inc. (SNAPI) donated five hundred dollars in school supplies, so combined with the donations from the event attendees it was like a big ole mountain of paper, pens, backpacks, and crayons.

Thank you so much to each and every person who showed their support by donating items, working the booths, set up, take down, buying raffle tickets or auction items, and for showing up to have a great time! You can feel good about knowing you helped some very unfortunate children to be able to return to school with dignity, and with the tools they need to get an education and have a better life.

An event such as this one helps a very worthy cause, enhances the relationships and reputation of "the leather and bdsm" community with the general public, and serves to strengthen our community as a whole. Working together for a larger cause helps us to remember that there are some wonderful people among us, and that with a little respect for others we CAN have different groups that are unique andseparate, but still cooperate and collaborate with each other.

sending you love,
DarkMark's Vixen
SinCityDsNetwork

A Top's Guide to Bondage Bottoms

2010-09-21T10:18:00.001-07:00

I originally found this article when I first started topping with ropes. I have seen it posted in numerous places since then.

As a Top I find that I gain insight each time I re-read it, I also have novice bottoms read the article as well as it can help them identify their own interests. Of course the main goal is to better communicate with each other in hopes of enjoying mind blowing scenes.

The article is pretty much as written, I have re-formatted the text to better fit a blog entry.

Enjoy!
Mateo

A Top's Guide to Bondage Bottoms

1- Introduction

Why do people want to be tied up?
How do their preferences for bondage differ?
How do you recognize and accommodate their needs?
Why do bondage scenes sometimes "go wrong" and not work out?
How do you match up bondage partners?

These are some of the questions answered in this article. There are many resources with advice on basic bondage techniques, safety, knots, etc. There are also some good books devoting a few pages to the psychology of the scene.

I haven't seen much practical information, however, that acknowledges the many different kinds of bondage players, how to recognize them and how to best meet their unique needs.

While common sense and communication may work with experienced players, what about when one or more are new to the scene? What questions should be asked?

In my experience, there are several different "types" of players. The very best scenes happen when everyone involved is well matched or at least understand each other's needs.

2 - The Roles & Definitions
In the fetish world, people often use different words to describe the same thing. Just to be clear, here are some of my definitions as they're used here:

Bondage - The act of physically or psychologically restraining one or more people
Players - Those engaging in bondage
Scene - A specific play session (but many comments apply to an ongoing relationship or lifestyle as well)
Top - The one doing the restraining (Master, Mistress, Daddy, Domina/nt, etc.)
Bottom - The one being restrained (submissive, slave, boy, etc.)
Consensual - Everyone involved in the scene consents to what's happening and derives pleasure from it

This article isn't about why one person is top and another is bottom. Quite a bit has been written on that controversial subject. If you want more information, you can find some excellent references on the web and in books. I'm going to assume you're already comfortable in one or both roles (even if you're a novice).

If you're mostly or exclusively top, reading further will hopefully shed some light on selecting and understanding bottoms. If you're mostly or exclusively bottom, especially a novice one, you should be able to better understand your own interests and communicate them to a top. In either case, the point is to enhance communications making for a better scene.

3 - Basic Psychology of Bondage
You could probably write a book on why people are into bondage but I just want to touch on a few of the highlights. If you look up "bondage" in the dictionary, you might find definitions like "slavery" or "servitude" and indeed that's what the word means to some people. To others, it means simply being restrained in some way.

I like to think of it as "giving up some amount of control".

So why are people drawn to bondage? Some might oversimplify and suggest those into bondage want to submit and give up control. For many, however, bondage is just a bridge to take them someplace else they want to go.

It might be an occasional dash of spice in an otherwise vanilla sex life or a person's erotic world might revolve around it. In general, bondage is liberating in some way. It allows things to happen that couldn't otherwise happen. It's best viewed as a tool used to enhance sexual or other forms of pleasure.

There are many subtle flavors.

4 - Types of Bondage Bottoms
If people are into bondage for different reasons, what are they? Why does a particular bottom want to get tied up? It's a very fundamental and important question but one that's rarely asked and often difficult for the bottom to answer.

I've indirectly asked the question of nearly every bottom I've played with over the years. Most of the answers point towards a half dozen specific desires or kinds of players. I've put my own labels on each of these "types" as follows:

Submissive Slave - This person is mainly interested in submitting to the top. The act of submission is their main turn-on and the top is their main focus. They enjoy being "used" for someone else's pleasure (although most also expect to also receive pleasure themselves). For a serious submissive, physical bondage isn't all that important for most scenes, as the "bondage" can just as easily be psychological (i.e. the top orders them not to move from a given position).

Loss of Control Lover - This person is very different from the Submissive Slave. They don't so much submit to the top, as submit to the bondage. They want to feel as out-of-control as possible. They view bondage as the primary means for the top to make them feel as helpless as possible, rather than as an end in itself. They often love severe bondage like sensory deprivation and mummification. They might judge a hood or gag by its effectiveness not what it looks like or what it's made out of. They like the bondage inescapable and may play without a safeword to end the scene.

Bondage Enthusiast - This person enjoys being restrained above all else and often as an end in itself. They voluntarily allow themselves to be put into bondage and usually prefer to have some amount of control over what's happening. The type of bondage, position and aesthetics are often important to this person as they also enjoy the visual aspects of the scene. Many Bondage Enthusiasts are happy to be bound and left alone. The top is usually seen as more of an equal and they differ from the Loss of Control Lover in that it's often a more interactive and sometimes theatrical scene. They may struggle against their bonds but know they can easily gain their freedom. It's more of a game and one they sometimes play with themselves (solo bondage).

Gear Fetishist - This person has a fetish for specific gear. It might be boots, leather, rubber, rope, athletic gear, diving suits, uniforms, hoods, gags, sleep sacks, straight jackets, etc. They'll often get turned on at the mere sight of the equipment or clothing. For them, the interest is more in the gear than the bondage itself or submitting to the top. It's usually about how the gear looks, feels and/or smells that gets them going. Some enjoy solo scenes with their own gear.

Intensity Freak - This person craves sexual intensity. They're after the Holy Grail of sex. For them, bondage is a way to make sex more intense. Perhaps they into tickling and bondage allows them to be tickled far more severely than if they were free to stop it. Bondage is typically one of many things this person enjoys to enhance their sex lives.

Endorphin Pig - This person is subtly different from the Intensity Freak. They crave a very specific kind of intensity most of us call pain. They're unique enough to deserve their own category. For them, bondage opens the door for various pain scenes. For example, bondage may be required to hold an Endorphin Pig in place for a heavy whipping which in turn creates the endorphin rush they desire. The endorphins are what drive them while the bondage is often necessary to get there.

Few things are black and white and while you can categorize most bottoms into one of the above descriptions, they may fit one or more others. For example, a Gear Fetishist may also be a Bondage Enthusiast. Recognize that very different things often drive these players. Section 7 contains more details on each of these types.

5 - Matchmaking
So how do you know if someone is compatible with your interests? Many tops have a fair amount of flexibility but it only goes so far. If a top meets a Gear Fetishist and doesn't have the sort of gear they're into, things are not likely to turn out well no matter how hard the top tries. Likewise, some tops may not be willing or sufficiently experienced to inflict the kind of pain an Endorphin Pig craves. Compatibility is clearly important.

Too often, bottoms select a top based mainly on trust, appearances and personality with little regard for exactly what the top's into. For the Submissive Slave, that's probably OK. For some of the other types, however, it may result in both being disappointed. Matchmaking is obviously important in finding compatible play partners yet it's amazing how casually it's often done. You can trust your instincts for some things but that's only half the battle in finding a bondage partner.

Tops usually know what turns them on. They often started as bottoms and even if they didn't, have a good idea of what they're after. Many are still bottoms at heart who, for whatever reason, are mostly in the top role. For these tops, in particular, it's usually important the bottom be into their kind of scene. The closer the bottom's interests are to what they'd enjoy as bottom, the better the scene.

Some tops are genuinely versatile. They're unselfish and enjoy pleasing the other person. They can often accommodate most types of bottoms, but the more they know about the bottom the better the scene's likely to be. Many tops don't ask the right questions. I've often been asked something like, "So tell me about your interest in all this?"

Such an open-ended question usually leaves a nervous bottom at a loss for words. A few tops hit the other extreme and give the bottom a detailed questionnaire in advance. While a questionnaire usually helps define specific kinds of play I've yet to see one that cover why the bottom is into the scene in the first place. It's a question that's best asked in person (or perhaps over the phone) but often is never asked at all.

6 - Figuring Out Your Bottom
So let's say you've just met a prospective bottom online or in a bar. Can you figure out which type they are? It might seem obvious to some, but in my experience a lot of players seem to gloss right over many important clues (or they're horny enough not to care).

Without even asking any questions, you can often spot a couple of the types:

Does the bottom seem to be mostly interested in you more than the specific play? Did he (or she) address you formally (i.e. as "Sir")? If their world seems to revolve around you, they're likely a Submissive Slave.

Does this person seem to have any obvious fetish with specific things? Did you meet him or her on Rubber Night at the bar? Do they keep mentioning a particular kind of gear or fetish? If so, they're likely a Gear Fetishist and you'd best have what they want or keep moving.

Does he or she seem to like things on the intense side? Do they ride a fast motorcycle, go sky diving or otherwise live on the edge? If so, you may have an Intensity Freak on your hands.

If none of the above are obvious (and even if they are), you should start asking some easy-to-answer questions:

What started their interest in the scene? Look for clues in their answer. For example, if a bottom started out playing mutual bondage games as an adolescent they're likely a Bondage Enthusiast. People change, however, so this question is just a start.

What attracted them to you? If it was that single-tail whip you wear on your left side, you may have an Endorphin Pig on your hands.

What do they think about when they masturbate? This is an especially good question for novices or those with little bondage experience. The answer should hold some strong clues. If they fantasize about being mummified and unable to even wiggle their fingers, they're probably a Loss of Control Lover.

Do they read any bondage magazines or watch bondage videos? Their interest in porn can be revealing. For example, if they love Bound and Gagged or Zeus videos, they're likely a Bondage Enthusiast.

What's the one thing they crave most in a scene? This can be the hardest of these questions to answer but if you push hard enough, the answer will usually point you directly towards their main interest.

The above five questions can go a long way. All of them are easier to answer than, "Why are you into this scene?" Use these, or similar questions, to start a comfortable dialog and find out where a bottom's coming from.

7 - Play Suggestions
Once you've got your partner figured out, how do you cater to their needs? Experienced players know the brain is the greatest sex organ of all and if a bottom's head is in the right place, their body will follow. Bondage can go a long ways towards creating the right kind of head space.

It can be symbolic (a collar around the neck) or very real (total immobilization). It can create strong visuals for the bottom either literally or in their mind's eye. It's a powerful tool and you should know how to make the most of it given the person(s) you're playing with.

Experienced players can usually draw from their past experience, but a novice cannot. They haven't tried most things and may not even know many of the possibilities. So what to do as top? If you're a bottom and like surprises, you may want to skip this section.

If you're a top and looking for ideas, here are some things to explore either verbally beforehand, or to actually try during a scene with each of the types defined earlier:

Submissive Slave
Remember bondage is usually secondary to this bottom but symbolic bondage can be very welcome. For example, you might try locking a collar on them from the beginning. They're mainly into being told what to do and knowing they're pleasing the top.

The verbal aspect of the scene is usually important. Some are into humiliation, being treated like an animal, etc. Most are into being used sexually in one way or another. Others want to be tested and pushed--proud of having pleased you and living up to your expectations. Bondage can be useful when pushing their limits (consensually).

It may help them psychologically give into what's happening. It can also be used for punishment or enforcement.

Loss of Control Lover
This person wants to feel as helpless as possible. It's best for the top to take control physically, mentally and verbally from the start of the scene. Sex may or may not be involved. Consider taking the bottom into the scene blindfolded (or hooded) so they cannot see their surroundings and are kept guessing as to what's going to happen. Surprise them--try to guess what they're expecting and do something different.

The bondage should not only be inescapable but oriented toward making the bottom feel as helpless as possible. Consider mummification with saran wrap, restraining the head, binding fingers and toes together with duct tape, etc.

Very effective gags such as inflatable ones or those that hold the jaw shut can be employed to prevent the bottom from communicating with words (never leave a bottom unattended even for a few seconds with a gag that can interfere with their breathing or cause choking).

A safeword (or signal) to indicate a problem the top is unaware of is always a good idea (i.e. an arm going numb, etc.) but otherwise consider a "no-way-out" kind of scene. Consensual kidnappings are another option.

Bondage Enthusiast
Bondage is the main theme here. Bondage Enthusiasts may be more interested in bondage than sex and some don't want any sexual contact.

Especially with a novice, consider using classic kinds of bondage such as spread eagle, hog-tying, chair bondage, etc. The position can mean a lot and perhaps try several in one session. Some are into challenging positions like being forced up onto their toes as a test of endurance. The act of being put into bondage itself can be a big turn-on so have everything ready to help the scene flow smoothly.

Bondage Enthusiasts may like to see themselves and having one or more mirrors in the play area can be useful. Others may get off if they know they're being video taped and get to watch it later. The look and feel of the bondage can be important as well. Keep in mind even if they can't see themselves, they'll likely be imagining what they look like so aesthetics and symmetry can be important.

They often like to struggle hard against their bonds so take that into consideration. Can they hurt themselves or break anything? Some like to be (safely) left alone or kept in captivity. Reading Bound and Gagged magazine provides a lot of insight into their mindset

Gear Fetishist
You have to find this person's "hot buttons" and play them. They may have fairly wide interests in many things or very specific interests in primarily one area -- i.e., being covered head to toe in rubber.

In general, they all like trying new things within their area of interest. They love new gear and experiencing new things. It's best not to tell them about everything in your collection in advance and only introduce new things once they're already in bondage (or even save some for future scenes). The visual and sexual aspects are very important to some and less so to others. Ask lots of questions in advance.

Intensity Freak
Here you want to use bondage as one of your tools to push their
limits and take them to new places. It's hard to make suggestions because it all depends on what the bottom's into. They often crave going a little bit further each time and setting new "personal bests".

Variety and creativity are very important. Controlled breathing, being "milked" for multiple orgasms or being kept on the edge but denied orgasm for an extended period are all examples of intense kinds of play that usually require bondage to accomplish.

Likewise, immobilization and/or sensory deprivation can also be very intense but may not be what your particular bottom is after. They usually expect at least one mind-blowing orgasm.

Endorphin Pig
It takes special skill to safely play with most of these bottoms. They're after a chemical high that can require administering fairly heavy pain to induce. Some get off on many different kinds of pain, while others are into more specific things-- whipping and flogging being some of the most popular. The bondage should generally allow for some freedom of movement, as the bottom will often use body language (knowingly or otherwise) to communicate with the top. A heavy endorphin scene can go far enough to where the bottom is largely incapable of intelligent speech. It's beyond the scope of this article to get into the details of really heavy pain scenes. They're best left for experienced players. Sex is usually not part of a heavy endorphin scene.

The above are just some ideas for each type of player. Obviously, the possibilities are almost unlimited. Variety is the spice of life and creativity will usually be rewarded.

There are many resources on the net and in print regarding play ideas, specific techniques, etc. Try to put yourself in the bottom's place, envision what they might be thinking and act accordingly. If you also have experience as bottom, and they share your interests, you can often simply do what you'd enjoy most as the scene progresses.

Pay attention to their feedback during the scene (verbal and otherwise) and discuss the scene with them afterwards (even if you don't think you'll play again). There's something to be learned from every scene. This is as much an art as a science.

8 - Have Fun!
Hopefully this article has given you some new insight into the various kinds of players. Sometimes it's the subtle things that matter most. Consensual bondage is all about you and your partner(s) enjoying what's happening. Talk about it, ask questions, look at pictures, share past experiences, try new things, check out other resources and above all have fun!

Its a Rope-tastic Weekend in Las Vegas!!

2010-09-10T15:18:00.001-07:00

Hey guys!!

How is it that these things all seem to stack up into one gloriously busy weekend?

So here is the scoop, click the links for full details on the fetlife boards:

Saturday Night:
Party at the EHM. Reverse Tensionz will have our interactive living display areas set up. Members are welcome to bring a little rope and try their hand at creating a little Shibari-Art. Keep in mind that there will be lots of Vanillas about to we are keeping it towards the artistic and light play side of things. Hope to see you there.

Sunday Early Afternoon:
Intermediate Rope Bondage Class at the Las Vegas Power Exchange.
Click the link for full details. Class is $15 and we will be looking at practical applications and confidence building.

We will be drilling our skills in a set up that is friendly to the less experienced among us, and will let our advanced nawashis test their artistic and practical skills. Everyone can gain from this class.

I am sensing a lot of rolling around and having fun, don't miss out!!

For class you will want to bring enough rope to do a chest harness, a hip harness, and four column ties.

I suggest as a minimum:
3 ropes 25' - 35' in length for the harnesses
4 ropes 12' - 15' in length for the column ties.

You can never have too much rope!

Also you will want to bring something to act as a blindfold. Scarves, blindfolds, flat braid ropes, etc etc.

I will have a few scarves available as well as extra rope if you need it.

Sunday Late Afternoon
Fall Edition of the Las Vegas Rope Social & Potluck Dinner

We are trying a couple of new things with this Rope Social. First it is being held at the Power Exchange which means we can be just as naughty as we want to be!
Bring your favorite fetish/bdsm gear and find us in the downstairs dungeon areas.

Lets shake up the Power Exchange like only we can do and give them some love for being so kind to the kinky and bdsm loving people in Las Vegas.

Also new this time around, as a way to encourage people to bring a dish we are offering a $5 dollar discount to anyone with a dish. That brings the cost of the Social to $15, and if you bring food to share $10.

Note: if you come to the class before you can stay for the Social at no charge. Also coming to either or both of these events entitles you to spend the evening at the Power Exchange once the club opens.

Please ask if you have any questions. I am looking forward to seeing the rope family again.

Peace,
Mateo

Summer Pool Party!!

2010-08-10T14:04:00.000-07:00

Hey all you ropesters and bunnies!

Currently in the planning stages is a Summer Pool Party!!

Stricturism has graciously offered to host a pool party for the members of Reverse Tensionz.

Full details are on the way. I did want to get the basic information out so y'all can get the party on your calendars.

This will be an RSVP only event for current members of Reverse Tensionz. Full details, directions and rules will be emailed directly to the guest list.

Event: Reverse Tensionz Summer Pool Party
Date: Sunday August 29th
Time: 2 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Who is invited: Members of the Reverse Tensionz Erotic Rope Enthusiast Group.

Please send your RSVP to Sricturism@yahoo.com

Since this is a private Reverse Tensionz function there will be no "Event Page" set up here on Fetlife. All information will be handled through this page, our yahoo group, and the newsletter.

Keep an eye on this thread for more information and updates.

Peace,
Mateo

Erotic Rope Focus Group, Sunday August 8th

2010-07-31T08:39:00.000-07:00

Hey folks,

This is a reminder that the next Rope Focus Group will be Sunday Aug 8th at the Erotic Heritage Museum.

Look for the group inside the museum proper in the area where we hold the demonstrations for the EHM parties.

Ministries are set to begin at 4 p.m. doors open at 3:45.

Date: Sunday August 8th, 2010
Time: 4:00 pm - 6:00 pm
Where: The Erotic Heritage Museum

702-369-6442
Cost: By Donation

Dress Code: fetish wear is encouraged, please no nudity.

Click Here to go to the Fetlife event page
Feel free to use this thread to look for a play partner and give us positive feedback.

This is a by donation event, we will set up the donation bag where you can donate what you wish. $1 - $20, please no loose change. After the fun all donations will be given to the Erotic Heritage Museum as a gift from Reverse Tensionz.

All skill levels are welcome, as are cookies and brownies....

Last time around we had lots of floor work happening and at one point I believe we had 3 suspensions running.

Also on tap for this meeting we will be starting to chat about the next Rope Social.

Peace,
Mateo

The Cost of Things: a Response

2010-07-29T10:37:00.001-07:00

This was originally a post on a local yahoo group, I am re-posting it here because I think it may answer some questions that folks have concerning the $25 ticket price for our events.

Peace,
Mateo

--- In *****@yahoogroups.com, *****wrote:
$25 is way, waaaay, too much cost for a weeknight lecture - which really should really be a "social" with a cost of $10 max, and attendees bringing some treats to share beforehand.

Hi *****,

I do understand your frustration since we decided this morning that we are not going to be able to go due to the price for two, but I think you were are being a little harsh. ReverseTensionz has been sponsoring some really great events lately, and some of them are free, so I think they try to have something for everybody. Unfortunately it takes $$ to bring in someone from out of town and find a good location and sometimes- as in this case schedules conflict or things change and you have to adapt. I am sure RT and Lee Harrington will do everything they can to make it a great class, and I hope they continue to try to host a variety of events.

love & hugz to you,
****

Hey guys,

Thanks *** for the kind support. Yes we are indeed trying to provide a range of events.

This turned into a wall of text, apologies in advance.

Peace,
Mateo

Focus Groups Parties and Socials
The Rope Focus Group will be meeting monthly. The next time we will be getting together is on Sunday August 8th at 4 p.m. This get together is by donation. I put up a donation bag in a semi private spot and attendees can donate from $1-$20, whatever they can afford.

This focus group is a low key chance for people to practice, learn, and share in a peer to peer setting. I will also be using this group as a way to prep folks for upcoming classes that are more advanced.

I have to say the last Focus Group was fantastic and raised a good $84 collectively. That money was donated to the museum, and they were stoked at how generous the group was.

The Social and Potluck is a larger version of the monthly Focus group.
For the Social I usually try to provide a class in addition to the gathering and potluck. The class is in no way mandatory to attend the Social and is just a bonus round for those that choose to attend. The cost of the class will depend on if I am teaching or Reverse Tensionz is featuring a speaker.

The next Rope Social & Potluck has tentatively been set to be on Sunday Sept 12th at The Power Exchange. This event has an entry fee of $10 which will cover entry to the venue, and includes your evening at the Power Exchange should you decide to stay. I am still working out the details with the folks at the PE, more information will be forthcoming.

Food and treats are always welcome at any events. :-)

About Classes:
Way back in the day (a couple of years ago or so) when I first started to study Shibari Art I would take my vacation time and travel to attend the classes I wanted.

I went to San Francisco, Chicago, and even Montreal once for a Midori Rope Dojo.

SinCity D/s, TNG, MAST, LUC, and many other Vegas groups do a fantastic job of highlighting local educators, and bringing in teachers from nearby communities. Many of these classes and events are held in private homes. This is awesome, and is working wonderfully and I totally support their efforts.

Heck, it was Vixen that convinced me to start up my own group and teach about rope bondage. Reverse Tensionz is a direct outgrowth of SinCity D/s and Las Vegas TNG and I will work hard to maintain those ties.

Anyhoo, as I attended these classes and events I began thinking that since I was coming into contact with educators on the international circuit I might have the unique opportunity to fill a gap I perceived in the Vegas area. I could bring these speakers to Las Vegas for my friends to enjoy.

The Costs
Because these Speakers are using their skills to put food on their plates and pay their mortgages there is some overhead involved. In my humble opinion these people are providing a service and therefore deserve to be paid for their time.

The ticket sales break down like this:
$10 is the negotiated price of entry into a venue, The Power Exchange for example. This usually covers entry into the venue for the evening in addition to the class.

$10 goes to the speaker, often times there is a minimum requirement which comes out of my personal pocket if the class tanks.

$5 goes to Reverse Tensionz and is used to cover expenses like class supplies, transportation to and from Vegas, and class supplies.

Thus $25 for a ticket.

As far as what the people in Las Vegas will pay for, I have found that class attendance will be in the range of 18 to 25 people at a cost range of $15 to $30 per ticket.

I chose $25 because it is the lowest cost I can offer and still have the best chance of the event breaking even, with the possibility of raising the start up money needed for the next event.

My most successful classes were a sell out at $30. The biggest attendance I have seen for a local rope bondage class was Twisted Monk at the EHM (not my event), and tickets for that were $50.

I do not expect everyone to attend every event, and I am not trying to compete with other groups.

I would like people to pick what they are interested in, further their education, have the chance to try something new, and meet some of the authors and educators they wouldn't otherwise get to see.

My hope is to provide a wide range of topics, and I tend to choose speakers that can teach on more topics than simply rope bondage.

I also hope to help grow our numbers by attracting new members with well known educators like Lee Harrington, Midori, and Boss Bondage.

There are people in Las Vegas who know of these educators and want to interact with other locals but have no clue there is actually a scene in their hometown.

I was once one of those people. I am choosing to help change this and leave a big kinky dent in Las Vegas.

I hope this helps explain my choices.

Thanks again for all the support and I hope to see y'all out at a few classes.

Tonight: Erotic Pain Processing with Lee Harrington

2010-07-29T08:23:00.000-07:00

Greetings Folks,

Tonight Lee will be presenting his Erotic Pain Processing class for us at the Power Exchange.

Tickets are available at the front desk of the Las Vegas Power Exchange and are $25/ person. Doors open at 7p.m. and we will have you on your way home early enough to not be too sleepy at work tomorrow.

Don't miss out, the smaller class size means more personalized attention for those who brave a mid week class.

If you feel you would enjoy a little Thursday evening playtime your ticket covers an evening at the club.

Thank you Lee for taking the time out of your busy event schedule to teach for us here in Sin City.

Have a great day,
Mateo

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing
This class is now on Thursday July 29th. Doors to open at 7 P.M.

Participatory Lecture
Each of us processes pain and intense sensation in different ways. Some of us scream, some go silent, and some laugh with glee. Some focus on the connection we have with our partners and go stoic, while others dance, write and squirm to let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques we will discuss how different individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.

date: Thursday, July 29, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Power Exchange Las Vegas
address: 3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103 (702) 255-4739
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to The Power Exchange for the evening.
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

2. About Lee Harrington
Lee Harrington is an eclectic artist, spiritual and erotic educator, gender radical and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience-including “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” and the “Toybag Guide to Age Play”.

He has also worked as an anthology editor on such projects as “Rope, Bondage, and Power.” Well known for his fun and informative approach to education, he approaches sexuality as yet another art to master, or simply an art to enjoy to its fullest! He has been an active part of the international kink and sex positive communities for over 14 years, and his stories make people laugh while showing you that eroticism can be as serious, sexy, or silly as you make it.

Lee’s writings and photography have appeared in numerous anthologies
including “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path” (also under his previous pen name, Bridgett Harrington), and his image has been seen everywhere from PlayBoy TV to the pages of Skin Two Magazine. To learn more about Lee visit www.PassionAndSoul.com.

Head and Face Bondage Class Tonight!!!

2010-07-28T08:26:00.000-07:00

Hey all,

Tonight at the Erotic Heritage Museum Lee Harrington will be presenting his Hair and Face Bondage class.

Don't miss out, the smaller class size means more personalized attention for those who brave a mid week class.

Tickets are available at the front desk of the Erotic Heritage Museum's gift shop and are $25 / person. Doors open at 7p.m. and we will have you on your way home early enough to not be too sleepy at work tomorrow.

Don't forget that Thursday at the Power Exchange Lee will be presenting Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional.

Have a great day,
Mateo

Playing with the Head: Hair and Face Bondage at The Erotic Heritage Museum.
This class is now on Wednesday July 28th. Doors to open at 7 P.M.

Hands On Class
We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of play, and a hot way to get someone’s attention. We will focus on making rope blindfolds and gags, simple and complex hair bondage, woven head harnesses and more.

Bring a 15-20ft piece of 2-4mm parachute cord (hemp, silk sash line- whatever works for you) for head harnesses if possible, but standard 6mm line will work for blindfolds and gags.

date: Wednesday, July 28, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 (702) 369-6442
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to the Museum
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing
This class is now on Thursday July 29th. Doors to open at 7 P.M.

Participatory Lecture
Each of us processes pain and intense sensation in different ways. Some of us scream, some go silent, and some laugh with glee. Some focus on the connection we have with our partners and go stoic, while others dance, write and squirm to let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques we will discuss how different individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.

date: Thursday, July 29, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Power Exchange Las Vegas
address: 3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103 (702) 255-4739
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to The Power Exchange for the evening.
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

2. About Lee Harrington
Lee Harrington is an eclectic artist, spiritual and erotic educator, gender radical and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience-including “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” and the “Toybag Guide to Age Play”.

He has also worked as an anthology editor on such projects as “Rope, Bondage, and Power.” Well known for his fun and informative approach to education, he approaches sexuality as yet another art to master, or simply an art to enjoy to its fullest! He has been an active part of the international kink and sex positive communities for over 14 years, and his stories make people laugh while showing you that eroticism can be as serious, sexy, or silly as you make it.

Lee’s writings and photography have appeared in numerous anthologies
including “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path” (also under his previous pen name, Bridgett Harrington), and his image has been seen everywhere from PlayBoy TV to the pages of Skin Two Magazine. To learn more about Lee visit www.PassionAndSoul.com.

Updated Information: Lee Harrington Classes

2010-07-16T15:17:00.000-07:00

Reverse Tensionz Special Notice
July 16, 2010

Contents:
1. Date Change for Lee Harrington Classes.
2. About Lee Harringtom

1. Date Change for Lee Harrington Classes.
Due to a shift in Lee’s schedule the dates and times for these classes have been changed. After talking with Lee we decided that we would rather move the classes than cancel them outright. My apologies to those that will be unable to attend a mid week class.

My hope is that those who normally can't attend a weekend class will take the opportunity to attend.

Peace,
Mateo

Playing with the Head: Hair and Face Bondage at The Erotic Heritage Museum.
This class is now on Wednesday July 28th. Doors to open at 7 P.M.

Hands On Class
We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of play, and a hot way to get someone’s attention. We will focus on making rope blindfolds and gags, simple and complex hair bondage, woven head harnesses and more.

Bring a 15-20ft piece of 2-4mm parachute cord (hemp, silk sash line- whatever works for you) for head harnesses if possible, but standard 6mm line will work for blindfolds and gags.

date: Wednesday, July 28, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 (702) 369-6442
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to the Museum
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing
This class is now on Thursday July 29th. Doors to open at 7 P.M.

Participatory Lecture
Each of us processes pain and intense sensation in different ways. Some of us scream, some go silent, and some laugh with glee. Some focus on the connection we have with our partners and go stoic, while others dance, write and squirm to let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques we will discuss how different individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.

date: Thursday, July 29, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Power Exchange Las Vegas
address: 3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103 (702) 255-4739
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to The Power Exchange for the evening.
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

Newsletter, July 2010

2010-07-06T12:25:00.000-07:00

Reverse Tensionz Newsletter
July 5, 2010

Contents:

Boss Bondage Follow Up
New Event: Erotic Rope Focus Group
July Classes with Lee Harrington: Erotic Pain Processing & Head and FaceBondage
About Reverse Tensionz
Friends of Reverse Tensionz

1. Boss Bondage Follow Up
The Reverse Tensionz board of directors would like to say thank you to Boss for coming
out this weekend and sharing his knowledge and intensity with us this past weekend. I
know some perceptions of how rope bondage can be used as a tool in your Sadistic
BDSM tool bags were radically changed.

Awesome!!!

Willow had this to say about Boss’s Piercing Like a Pro class:

Boss shattered a few preconceived notions and gave us all some new things to
think about. It was SO great to watch first time piercers/pin-cushions explore this
new form of fun! The giggles, gasps, cheers, and moans left a huge smile on my
face...and that's just from a spectator's point of view! I'm thinking next time I
won't be so quick to volunteer for door-duty!

Both classes proved to be a success with a nice mix of our core group members and new
faces. So to our membership, thank you so much for the support and I hope we can
continue to challenge you and push your skills as Tops, Bottoms, Switches, Sadists,
Masochists, and all the other orientations you can think of.
To the new folks, welcome home! If you have any questions or ideas please feel free to
contact any board member for information or to give us some feed back. If we don't have
the answer to your question we can direct you to someone that does.

2. New Event: Erotic Rope Focus Group
Reverse Tensionz is excited to announce the creation of a brand new event for our rope
family. This Sunday, July 11th we will be kicking off a monthly focus group for erotic
rope enthusiasts.

Our intent is for this group to be a relaxed peer to peer educational event where people
practice their rope skills, share their knowledge, meet new people, reconnect with old
friends, and possibly rub shoulders with some well known names from the rope
educational circuit.

This is also meant to be an opportunity for those who introduced themselves to us during
the demonstrations we do at the Erotic Heritage museum to meet the community and
enjoy a little rope fun. Whether you are an industry professional or a raw beginner the
Reverse Tensionz board of directors wants you to have a time to play with your ropes and
partners with no expectations or pressure.

Rope bottoms come meet and get tied up by rope tops. Here is your chance to share your
insights to tops and other rope submissives.

Rope Tops come share your knowledge and tie up some rope bottoms!

This is a great chance to learn "that cool thing you saw at the party" from your peers in a
safe and low key and semi-private setting.

Are you trying a tie from a book and are a little stuck with the particulars? You will have
experienced riggers at your disposal to answer questions and give tips.

Look for us in the Erotic Heritage Museum's Chapel Area.

date: Sunday, July 11, 2010
time: 04:00 PM to 07:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 011.702.369.6442
cost: Free, Donations to the EHM are encouraged
dress code: Fetish wear is welcomed and encouraged, no nudity please.

3. July Classes with Lee Harrington
Reverse Tensionz and Las Vegas TNG will be teaming up to bring you two classes with
Lee Harrington.

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing
Participatory Lecture
Each of us processes pain and intense sensation in different ways. Some of us
scream, some go silent, and some laugh with glee. Some focus on the connection
we have with our partners and go stoic, while others dance, write and squirm to
let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other
thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques we will discuss how different
individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in
transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.

date: Saturday, July 24, 2010
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: The Las Vegas Power Exchange
address: 3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103 (702) 255-4739
cost: $25/per person, includes admission to The Power Exchange for the evening.
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

Playing with the Head: Hair and Face Bondage
Hands On Class
We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in
every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with
smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for
many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of
play, and a hot way to get someone’s attention. We will focus on making rope
blindfolds and gags, simple and complex hair bondage, woven head harnesses and
more.

Bring a 15-20ft piece of 2-4mm parachute cord (hemp, silk sash line- whatever
works for you) for head harnesses if possible, but standard 6mm line will work for
blindfolds and gags.

date: Sunday, July 25, 2010
time: 04:00 PM to 06:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 (702) 369-6442
cost: $25/per person at the door, includes admission to the Museum
dress code: Comfy Clothing like you might wear to work out or go to a yoga class.

About Lee Harrington
Lee Harrington is an eclectic artist, spiritual and erotic educator, gender radical
and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience-
including "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," "Shibari
You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé" and the "Toybag
Guide to Age Play". He has also worked as an anthology editor on such projects
as "Rope, Bondage, and Power." Well known for his fun and informative
approach to education, he approaches sexuality as yet another art to master, or
simply an art to enjoy to its fullest! He has been an active part of the international
kink and sex positive communities for over 14 years, and his stories make people
laugh while showing you that eroticism can be as serious, sexy, or silly as you
make it. Lee’s writings and photography have appeared in numerous anthologies
including "Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path" (also under his
previous pen name, Bridgett Harrington), and his image has been seen
everywhere from PlayBoy TV to the pages of Skin Two Magazine. To learn more
about Lee visit www.PassionAndSoul.com.

4. About Reverse Tensionz
Reverse Tensionz is a Las Vegas based Pan Sexual, Pan Orientation BDSM group with an
emphasis on erotic rope bondage. We welcome all who enjoy the BDSM lifestyle whether
you are an experienced rigger, lifestyle rope bottom or just discovering an interest in rope.
How you identify yourself is up to you, what brings us together is an interest in erotic
ropes, whether it’s a minor kink or a full on fetish.

Here is a list of links where you can find us online:

Blog: http://reversetensionz.blogspot.com
Twitter: http://twitter.com/ReverseTensionz
Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/11370
Yahoo Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Reverse_Tensionz/
Nawa Yoi Event Calendar: http://www.nawayoi.info/
Mateo’s Blog: http://www.bloggedbymateo.com

5. Friends of Reverse Tensionz
Being a group founded and based in the larger Las Vegas BDSM community you can find
us at many of the local munches and venues attending classes, shopping, or just hanging out
with like minded people.

Here is a list of local hangouts where you can find members of Reverse Tensionz:

The Erotic Heritage Museum:

3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109
(702) 369-6442
The EHM is host to our quarterly event, The Las Vegas Rope Social & Potluck, as well as a monthly Erotic Rope Focus Group. We also hold classes here.

The Power Exchange Las Vegas:

3610 South Highland Drive Las Vegas, NV 89103
(702) 255-4739
The Power Exchange is a local club that has two play areas dedicated to the BDSM groups here in town. The Power Exchange also plays host to many of the classes sponsored by Reverse Tensionz. It’s a good bet that you can find a few of us here on a Sunday evening having a good time.

Local Munches:
There are many munches in the Las Vegas area. Those listed here are the groups dedicated
to hosting all within the BDSM lifestyle regardless of orientation or sexuality. These
munches are the ones that the B.O.D. of Reverse Tensionz attend, as well as the leaders and
the members of other more specialized focus groups.

SinCity D/s Network:
When: Every Friday night 8-10PM
Where: The "PT's PUB" in the Sahara Pavilion Shopping Center at Sahara and
Decatur (minimum age 21)

Las Vegas Fetish Stores and Vendors:
Are you new to the scene and wondering about leather and latex fashions, or gear? How
about some new toys for you and your significant other? Here is a list of fetish shops in
Las Vegas that are friendly to Reverse Tensionz.

Look for our event listings at these stores and let them know you found out about them
from us.

Lady C Leather – Nevada’s Premier Fetish Company

4037 W. Sahara
Las Vegas, NV 89102
(702) 641-3834

The Fetish Boutique & P.E.S.- Innovating Human Sexuality Since 1986

1509 West Oakey Blvd.
Las Vegas, NV 89102
1-800-339-6953 or (702) 474-2991

The Rack of Las Vegas - Alternative clothing, streetwear, clubwear, novelty gifts and
accessories

953 E Sahara Ave, #16b
Las Vegas, NV 89104
(702) 732-7225

Boss Bondage Weekend Follow Up

2010-06-28T10:45:00.000-07:00

Hey all,

The Reverse Tensionz BOD would like to say thank you to Boss for coming out and sharing his knowledge and intensity with us this weekend. I know some perceptions of how rope bondage can be used as a tool in your Sadistic BDSM tool bags got radically changed yesterday.

Awesome!!!

Both classes proved to be a success with a nice mix of our core group members and new faces. So to our membership, thank you so much for the support and I hope we can continue to challenge you and push your skills as Tops, Bottoms, Switches, Sadists, Masochists, and all the other orientations you can think of.

To the new folks, welcome home!
If you have any questions or ideas please feel free to contact any board member for information or to give us some feed back. If we don't have the answer to your question we can direct you to someone that does.

Without willing students none of this would be happening, you folks are walking proof that there is a vibrant scene here in Las Vegas, never let anyone tell you different.

Looking down the road we will be having the first of our monthly Rope Focus Group meetings on July 11th at the Erotic Heritage Museum. SinCity's First Church of Rope Ministries will be meeting at 4pm in the EHM's Chapel Area.

Later in July Lee Harrington will be in town teaching two classes. On Saturday July 24th, for the larger BDSM scene will be Lee's class Pain is inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing
Sunday July 25th Lee will be presenting Playing with the Head: Hair and Face Bondage to the rope enthusiasts in the area.

In September for the Fall Edition of the Las Vegas Rope Social, Willow and I will be taking up the reigns to teach a beginning to intermediate rope class geared for building confidence and rope handling skill levels.

Look for details to be posted in the next few days.

Once again, thank you all so much for coming out to play with us.

Peace,
Mateo

Please consider this permission and encouragement to re-post this on other appropriate board where people can benefit from the information.

Las Vegas Rope Social & Pot Luck

2010-06-09T09:00:00.000-07:00

With Special Guest: Boss Bondage

date: Sunday, June 27, 2010
time: 03:00 PM to 06:00 PM
where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
address: 3275 Industrial Road Las Vegas, Nevada 89109 011.702.369.6442 map
cost: $10 per person at the door, free if you are attening the Sadistic Ropes class earlier in the afternoon.
dress code: Fetish wear is welcomed and encouraged, no nudity please.

Hey folks,
Can you believe it is already time to get the family together once again? It's time to burst down the Erotic Heritage Museum's doors, mess up the furniture, and get all funky Rope Enthusiast style.

The Rope Social
Reverse Tensionz is proud to announce the Summer Edition of the Las Vegas Rope Social. Come on out and spend an afternoon enjoying good food, great friends, and of course, Erotic Rope Bondage.

This Social is a relaxed peer to peer educational event where people share their knowledge, meet new people, reconnect with old friends, and possibly rub shoulders with some well known names from the rope educational circuit.

Special Guest: Boss Bondage
Boss Bondage will be in town teaching two classes and hanging at the Social to meet fans and sell some of his products. Click the links to find out more information on his classes.
Piercing Like a Pro - an introduction to needle play.
Saturday 7pm - 9pm at The Las Vegas Power Exchange

Rope Torture The Way of the Sadist.
Sunday 1pm - 3pm. Attend this class and your entry into the Social is complimentary.

Everyone Is Welcome
Interested in learning something new?
This is a great chance to learn "that cool thing you did at the party" from your peers in a safe and low key and semi-private setting.

New to rope?
We want to welcome you to our local rope family, everyone is welcome no matter what kind of rope play you are into.

Eastern Style, Western Style, Natural Fibre or MFP, slow and sensual or fast take down, it is all good to us.

Reverse Tensionz
Reverse Tensionz is a Las Vegas based BDSM group with an emphasis on erotic rope bondage. We welcome all who enjoy the BDSM lifestyle whether you are an experienced rigger or rope bottom or just discovering an interest in rope.

The Pot Luck
This event is also a potluck so feel free to bring your favorite dish or desert to share with the group. We will have power available for those who need to plug in a crok-pot or warmer.

Already have an idea? Not sure what to bring? Check out the Reverse Tensions board to brag about what you are bringing, or see what might be needed.

Bringing food is not required, just encouraged.

Boss Bondage In Vegas 2

2010-06-02T07:04:00.000-07:00

Reverse Tensionz Presents:
"Rope Torture - The Way of the Sadist"
With Special Guest: Boss Bondage
Keeping Ropes Sadistic Since 2002

Date: Sunday June 27th, 2010
Time: 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm
Where: The Erotic Heritage Museum
Cost: $25 per person

About This Class
For hundreds of years the world has given us stories and images of capture and torture with rope bondage. We in the BDSM lifestyle often play around with these images, these stories and these ties, and use them in our erotic life. But do we hold true to the original intent of rope bondage, or do we dance around it?

We see many images of erotic bondage today, but have we lost the connection to the torture of rope bondage that holds that dangerous appeal that attracted us to it to begin with

This class explores the theory of rope bondage as a scene unto itself, using rope in the way it has been intended for hundreds of years, as rough capture and restraint as well as a use for the application of pain to the body.

We will discuss, demonstrate and practice using rope to create Pain to purify the body and the mind, creating catharsis. Please bring some hemp/jute rope in 4mm-6mm diameter for the hands on portion. Rope will be for sale at the class.

About Boss Bondage

BossBondage has been involved in the BDSM community for over a decade. He is the founder and president of The West Coast Assholes, an edge players advocacy group that focuses on edge-ucation within the community.

He also serves as the vice president of the Portland leather Alliance. Boss recently received mainstream attention, working as the bondage consultant on the music video for def jam recording artists Electrik Red.

For almost 4 Years Boss has operated His own professional dungeon The Asylum. Born from his love of hemp bondage rope, He started BossBondage.com in 2004, where He produces his own line of Hemp Bondage rope.

Boss has been a body piercer since 1995 and currently operates PlayPiercingKits.com which sells play piercing kits and medical kink accessories. Boss does not get too tied down to titles and just considers Himself to be bondage artist.

In the last several years, through intensive performance of bondage, in particular suspensions, He has developed a unique style. He is self taught .

Boss was the winner of the 2006 In The Woods Bondage contest, and has been nominated for a Pantheon of Leather award. He has taught at such events as In The Woods, COPE, Truly Bound, Octroperfest, Kinky Kollege, Kinkfest, the Folsom Fringe, Spanksgiving, Shibaricon and MVK in Vancouver, Canada.

Boss is a proud sponsor of Shibaricon 2010 and will be returning for his third year in a row as a Shibaricon instructor.

Please Note: The money generated by this event will be used to support the venue, and cover teaching costs and supplies. Any extra revenue will be used to help create another educational event for the Las Vegas area.

Boss Bondage Comes to Las Vegas

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Reverse Tensionz presents:

“Piercing Like a Pro"

With Special Guest: Boss Bondage

An Introduction to Needle Play

Date: Saturday, June 26th, 2010
Time: 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Cost: $25 per person
Where: The Las Vegas Power Exchange
Phone: (702) 255-4793

About This Class
This is a class on temporary piercing that is heavily influenced by the techniques of permanent body piercing.

Boss is a licensed body piercer who has been piercing since 1995, and will be teaching play piercing from the point of view of a body piercer.

This class will guide You through the traditional elements of play piercing. Including some of the different techniques and and materials commonly used.

Boss will also cover some of the instruments, needles and materials used in permanent piercing that can be used for temporary piercing. Together we will go over cleanliness and sterilization, as well as how to set up and break down a station.

This will be a hands on class and You will have an opportunity to put your newly learned skills to use. We will talk about how to combat blood borne pathogens, and how to adapt a routine of cleanliness that you can carry into all your piercing play.

Boss's company playpiercingkits.com is donating all the supplies you need for this class. This class is limited to 24 participants.

About Boss Bondage

In the last several years, through intensive performance of bondage, in particular suspensions, He has developed a unique style. He is self taught .

Boss is a proud sponsor of Shibaricon 2010 and will be returning for his third year in a row as a Shibaricon instructor.