Riled Sedated Rants

Criminal Activity?

2012-01-03T16:23:00.001+00:00

is it such a crime that I prefer to hang out with boys more than I do with girls. A room full of testosterone can bring an involuntary smile to my face that a room full of oxytocin just cant induce.
Please dont get me wrong - I just like to be in the company of boys & contrary to belief, they dont just talk about sex & girls. Boys have so many more interesting things to talk about. I may not understand the "beauty" of football, the off-side rule or whats so special about being left-footed.. But i dont WANT to understand it. In my opinion, football is an escape that boys have, I dont want to pretend to understand it to look better in the eyes of a guy..
The same goes for COD. I SUCK at playing it, but I love to watch boys play it. I understand the weapons & Lords knows when you have an instant kill bonus when killing zombies I'm shouting at the screen..
I mean, im not a tomboy.. Yes I prefer lazying around in my trackies (but which girl doesnt find them comfortable) & I would rather stay up all night playing Tekken 4 & Streetfighter than shop online.
I grew up in a house full of boys (4 little brothers) & I'm the only girl, so when u see me surrounded by boys outside a club or the only girl in a house full of 6 boys dont judge me & look at me as if im committing a crime, I just need a certain amount of testosterone around me to feel comfortable.

Late Fashion Trends...

2011-12-30T16:25:00.002+00:00

I dont know who some people think they are. I'm not really into fashion, but I have a pretty good memory & i can spot when someone is copying something Ive seen somewhere else.
So, I've been on youtube last night and this morning watching hair tutorials.. Even though I dont have white people hair, I just find it interesting :).. Anyway, I just came across a tutorial called "Quick 2 Minut Updo" its from 2009, & the girl in in basically describes that her grandmother has just come from Japan & bought her a magazine & she found a nice hair style in it. The hair style is this swag that recently a lot girls have started doing. A chelsie bun or whatever its called, where the hair is in a bun at the front of your head - & the ends look like theyre tucked under the bun. Yeah. this video is from 2009 people. & people jumping on the style now as if its NEW.
There's so many incidents of this happening - people dont realise theres no such thing as originality. People are getting most of their fashion ideas from the 80s area nowadays. If youre going to jump on a trend dont hype & say its new, because your parents have probably been there, done that.
Sadly, this applies mainly to black people. Yes, I said it. Black people are so late to jump on trends. i.e, I used to live in New Zealand, from 2000 - 2006 & while I was there the hype was around Converses, namely, Chuck Taylors. But, I used to hang out with skaters, they wore Chuck Taylors because they were good shoes to wear & they would let them get messy. They didnt care about keeping them clean. Now, people are purposely wearing dirty converses.. Then, back to the point of black people, they will hype up the Converses & cry if a bit of mud gets on them. Grrr, these children just need to sit down.
People need to do some research if they want to follow a trend, find out its source, & dont just blindly follow the crowd.
Im gunna side-track but, I just wanna say, America is waaay behind on a time-scale, & yes its not their fault, but im just ranting anyway because I really dont like America. By the time it was Christmas here, they were still in Christmas Eve.. & Australia were already half way through Christmas! It pisses me off that everything has to be on Americas time, most things on the internet anyway. Online Sales, twitter etc..
But thats just my opinion, what do you think?

The Offside Rule for Women

2011-12-28T06:13:00.000+00:00

You’re in a shoe shop, second in the queue for the till. Behind the shop assistant on the till is a pair of shoes which you have seen and which you must have.
The female shopper in front of you has seen them also and is eyeing them with desire. Both of you have forgotten your purses.
It would be rude to push in front of the first woman if you had no money to pay for the shoes.
The shop assistant remains at the till waiting.
Your friend is trying on another pair of shoes at the back of the shop and sees your dilemma.
She prepares to throw her purse to you.
If she does so, you can catch the purse, then walk round the other shopper and buy the shoes!
At a pinch she could throw the purse ahead of the other shopper and “whilst it is mid-flight” you could nip around the other shopper, catch the purse and buy the shoes!
BUT, you must always remember that until the purse has “actually been thrown”, it would be plain wrong for you to be in front of the other shopper and you would be OFFSIDE!

amazing. I understand.

New Beginnings

2011-12-21T15:04:00.000+00:00

I've finally moved on. Sort of. I have some advice for you lot. Falling in love young isn't a mistake, but if you're going to do it, make sure that whatever happens you grow WITH the person. Attempting to put a relationship on hold until you think you're both mature enough, cos chances are that when you finally do decide to go back together, you realise that you don't know that person at all anymore & vice versa. All that time spent holding out for that person, refusing to get close to any other guy or girl has gone to waste and now, where you thought you had someone waiting for you, that person isnt the one for you anymore & you're all alone.

Sometimes its better to be alone. All this time I've been looking for a relationship - like I said, I want someone to cuddle & hold me, someone I can cook & clean for .. But as of yesterday, all of those desires went out the window.

I'm focusing on building my relationship with God from now on. Lets just hope its true what they say - when you're not looking for a partner, it will come to you.

The World is Such a Racist Place

2011-12-19T01:23:00.000+00:00

Of course it is. & how I know this? The most reliable source of information. The media. Because the media are always right. They always have our best interest at heart. The my tram experience video was all over facebook, twitter and Tumblr, but why was it so huge? & who found it. From that, so many other videos popped up. Some of them were recent uploads, but then some of them were from a few years ago, 2009 & stuff. Why didnt they blow up? I used to think Politics were so BORING, I never understood it & i still dont, but because I thought it was boring, I never paid attention.. But its so important and its everywhere that it would be stupid not to have at least a BASIC understanding. The most successful societies are those that have a strong upper-middle class that have an understanding of politics etc, because if the people are concerned and are informed about what is happening, then the government and people in power are less likely to fxck them over. For example, look at Africa. The Rwandan genocide in 1994 was a devastating tragedy, but at the time and even today, not a lot of people properly know what happened. The main problem was that the government was corrupt, like many countries in Africa, because the people dont have the knowledge to know if they are being "bumped" by their government or not. The Rwandan genocide arose from a "class" struggle that was tense for years. The "Hutus" were considered a lower class compared to the "Tsutsis" who seemed to be favoured by certain outsiders who were sticking their nose into Rwanda, they described them as having fairer skin, nicer hair and more European features such as small noses and long faces. From then, the tension built and soon, the government became so biased they started propaganda - calling the Tsustis "Cockroaches" on local radio stations and ordering the extermination of their kind... But you see, the real problem isnt racism, because it wasnt a hate of the colour of their skin - even though the Tsustis were said be fairer etc. after many years of intermingling and intermarrying, they became pretty much inseparable. But still, the genocide still happened.
So, why am i telling you this? The real problem isnt RACISM, the real problem is between increasing gap between the rich and the poor. The race card is dead! They have used it to distract you so long it's ingrained in your subconscious. It not about race in the country anymore. So quit believing that you are less fortunate because of the colour of your skin. Because only about 1% of the entire population are racist. Most others are just closet bigots. Racism stems from all colours and cultures. Get used to it. It's about CLASS people. Don't you see it, the haves, and the have nots. Because we are being brainwashed to think that the more material things you have, dictates your status on the social ladder. If you can't afford those things then you are going to get credit. They have brainwashed you to think that you are entitled to have all that shit they are trying to sell you that you can't afford. You know, LEXUS, ROLEX, IPHONES, IPADS, 50' FLAT SCREEN TV, GUCCI, ARMANI, SUV, NIKE, APPS FOR YOUR IPHONE. "Hey I got 500 channels on my TV man". Yea and only about 10 of them are watched on a regular basis. The 3G/4G phone. Most people don't even know what the G stand for. They don't know that LEXUS is made by Toyota. The difference between a Plasma, LED, or LCD TV. Why do you have a laptop and IPAD in the same bag. Buy, Buy, Buy, and in Debt, Debt, Debt. Now you are under control, control, control. Cause they own you!

Why White People Can't Party

2011-12-14T15:34:00.000+00:00

Lindsey Lohan

The answer is very simple. It's because they are the MAJORITY..
the fact that there are so many white people on this earth doesn't
necessarily mean they all like the same thing & this is where the
problem arises. One of the things that makes the party is the music.
So, since there are so many white people - there are so many different
genres of music that not everyone may like. Ethnic minorities don't
seem to have this problem.. & yes, there is commercial music
but not everyone necessarily likes commercial music as well..
& tbh, commercial music can be pretty annoying to dance to.
A party would be a lot better if everyone likes the same genre of
music & then when a really popular song from that genre comes on
everyone goes mental. This happens all the time in black parties.
For example - at a bashment rave, once Dutty Wine comes on,
that's it. Anyone who was standing in the corners or sitting around
is on their feet on the dancefloor. Everyones looking for a partner
& getting their groove on.. No alcohol required.
which brings me to the next point. In the words of the Kendrick Lamar
song I just posted "We aint gotta get drunk to have fun".
Imagine this scenario. Its party day .. The whole day a white
person will be getting hyped up about a party later that evening.
Then, they crack out the alcohol .. Drinking games ensue etc etc..
Now, at the party (which they have arrived to on time)
- even if the music is good, some people still
dont dance, either because they havent drunk enough or
they've drank to much.. So, the rest of the night is spent
standing around looking for the group of people that you came
with, & time has flown and the party is over. During which,
only 1 or 2 songs came on that made you stop. & its home time
& you're complaining about how shit the night was.
Black people dont have this problem. We can party anywhere
& have a great time. I had a party in a warehouse once. It was
massive, but it was so big it was cold. It was snowing & the
roads were slushy. People still showed up - the DJ was good
we had massive speakers & it was GOOD! no alcohol required.
though some people did bring their own drink, its optional.
majority of the people didnt have alcohol in their system
& before we knew it, the amount of people dancing around
quickly heated up the whole warehouse.
So in short.
White people need alcohol to party
Black people need music to party.
rant over.

Casual Relationships

2011-11-28T02:17:00.000+00:00

Couple kissing

dont you ever just want to casually date? A relationship doesnt always mean I want to stay with you for the rest of my life.. & dont lie & say you want to spend the rest of your life with me because we all know after a while we get sick of people...
at this stage in my life, I'm kind of confused .. These days I've realised that I WANT to be someones wife. I actually want to cook & clean for someone.. But then at the same time, I dont want a serious relationship. They require to much time & effort & since ive JUST started uni, I havent got the time & the effort to give you.
Is it too much to ask for? To be seeing just ONE person, with mutual feelings. Is there when I need them.. You know, somewhere to go to when I feel like.. But it's not about the sex, its about being in the presence of them & just chilling. watching cartoons/films.. I might cook something or we can just sleep the whole day..
The only problem is, one person always gets more attached than the other. hmmmmm, does no-one casually date anymore?

Its Over

2011-11-28T00:46:00.000+00:00

I told you I dont care,
but all you did was stare,
eyes glaring at me from
under a dirty, smelly hoody.

We engaged in a war of words,
a risky endeavour as words are
YOUR strongest weapon.
my one bullet was retaliated by 4..

Now the 5th bullet was fired.
A bullet that did not need to be shot.
NO-ONE CARES…
go & lie down in a field & tell your
sorrows to the stars..
Because I still dont care.

Not All Guys Are Jerks

2011-11-24T13:19:00.002+00:00

There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. Most men cannot balance on that line and therefore fall to one side or the other. Women are attracted to a confident, strong willed man. Cocky jerks get more women because even though they think of themselves more than anyone around them, they still have confidence. Men who fall to the other side are so emotionally wrapped up in the whole "he man" thing that they don't feel they are man enough to get the women, and as such, women read that in them and don't feel attracted.

Us women cant help it - from an evolutionary perspective, we are prone to be more attracted to the "bad boy" because (1) women seek a man who can look after them (2) confidence translates as they wont be afraid to fight for you..

The saying that "all men are the same" seems to be thrown around a lot.. But why is this? What makes a guy a jerk - is it that you let him hit it & then he up & left? Or maybe he doesnt give you as much attention as you would want? Maybe he has a girlfriend & you're his little bit on the side..

None of these are the guys fault.. its 2011 & theres plenty of sources out there telling you that when a guy gets hard, his brain is no longer in control. So why are you moaning when he fucks you & then leaves? you knew it would happen. Why are you complaining that hes a jerk, because hes cheating on his girlfriend with you - why are you a sideline hoe in the first place...

The problem is mainly because of the message portrayed by the media.. When we watch films - especially the Disney films, or films like Their Eyes Were On God, or Friends With Benefits.. Any guy that falls short of being perfect is a jerk.. Not all guys are mind readers, they dont know what you want - but females WANT a guy to just KNOW what they want. You dont want to give them any hint.. because in reality females dont know what they want anyway.. The media portrays roses as being romantic, but what if a girl doesnt like roses? Now youre both in a dilemma because neither party know what the female wants..

The media representations of what a perfect guy is is hard for a guy to live up to. Then, when they do manage to do something - i.e. write you a poem or love song we turn around a criticise them & call them "weak" & "not a real man" ... What about the middle man? Not all women are perfect, yet they feel that they DESERVE a perfect man.. WHAT MAKES YOUR PUSSY SO DIFFERENT? you have to bring something different to the table other than good looks & good sex. Once you achieve this THEN you will deserve the perfect man.

rant over.

"Exposeing Smuts"

2011-11-23T00:31:00.001+00:00

Jenna Marbles

so its started again… Facebook is getting a bit out of hand now..
Ever since facebook updated the layout and made it possible to see almost EVERYTHING that people were going - even people that you didn’t know - it’s becoming a bit dangerous.
Now there’s a new page - “exposeing smuts”, & right of the bat it’s obvious how this is dangerous. “Exposeing” - no-one is educated anymore.. -__- but that’s a different story …

Basically, it’s a profile on facebook with the purpose of exposing “smuts” - hoes, slags, skets, w.e you call them. There have been some before, but they were city-based (& from what I can see, more of a UK thing) because that’s the furthest it would reach. The way they operated was that people would inbox the profile that was run by some anonymous person or group, and they would update statuses exposing the hoes and in very rare cases there would be a photo or a video… There were some cases were the people that were selling out their friends were exposed too on a different profile - shame.

But NOW, because everyone can see EVERYTHING, this page that was started in America has just been started but already caught a lot of attention. People tweeting about it, some even making videos. & these stupid ignorant Americans that thing their the “bees knees” think they’ve just made the best thing since sliced bread.. No dahlins, you need to go sit in a corner because Britain has been there and done that…

This page is really bad cos whereas in the UK it was just statuses - usually without a lot of evidence - this is mostly made up of PICTURES and Videos… It seems to me that the girls who are on it have fallen for the line guys use

“Send me a picture, no-ones gunna see it”

Stupid idiots. Yes, in all fairness, take pictures if you want, thats your business - but i am strongly against any form of media in that part of my life.. There are some pictures that have been taken in changin rooms, and the worst one.. at a chicken & chips shop.

Most of the videos though have been taken by the guys.. & there are a few pics of girls with cum all over their faces but the majority are photos that have been taken in a mirror. & tbh, i have no sympathy for them. They were stupid enough to send anyone dirty pics in the first place.

The only thing I dont agree with is that not all of them are hoes. Yeah fair enough, I don’t know how these American girls roll, but in the UK version a lot of the females that were supposedly being “exposed” weren’t hoes. Most cases, there was one guy who they had done something with and the guy & hes called her a hoe.

I get really angry with the topic as you would know if youve seen any of my other Hoe-related posts - I was put on one of these pages a couple of years back. I used to talk to this guy & there was a day when he txt me & he said “tell me a dirty story” or something like that, so I sent him one (like an idiot) .. & then a few months later he told the facebook profile.. When I saw it I started laughing - So, because I sent someone a dirty txt Im a hoe now. Okay :) - & it was even more funny cos I knew exactly who had sent that in..

I had been on another one as well (There were a few of them in my city) - This one was one of the first ones made as well I think - I was one of the first girls put on it - they tagged me in the status and everything. It was because, I was throwing a party & I didnt wana a certain group of individuals there because they always managed to ruin parties. I was kl with a one or two of them but I really didnt want them there so I called them and told them it wasnt on - They showed up anyway because they heard it was back on again. One of them approached me and said, why did you lie and say it wasnt gunna be on.. blah blah blah - long story short, The status said something along the lines of “Sharin is such a dirty sket, her pussy has been ragged out by bare mans, and it stinks” something like that & when i saw it I laughed! Everyone suspected that the people who made it were that group of individuals i didnt want at the party because it was made a couple of days after the party and there were so many angry statuses directed at me..

So the point of those stories was that most of the girls on these pages arent hoes. Theyll be called out for having given head or being batteried (having several men at once) but there wont be any evidence. & even though this new page has pictures, the girls taking pictures may not necessarily be hoes just because theyve taken pics of themselves…

The thing that pisses me off the most about is that its always females as well. There are plenty of guys who send around pictures of their body & dick pics. But no-one thinks to make a profile exposing these idiots do they - but then again, males cant be “hoes” can they.. kmt.

This post is getting a bit long now so I’m gunna leave it at that.

Rant over.

Tattoo Epidemic

2011-11-21T02:26:00.006+00:00

tattooed, sexy female

is it me or are a lot of females jumping on the tattoo band wagon nowadays. I have 2 tattoos myself, but they mean something to me.. It seems to me that girls are saying they NEED to get tatt’d up.. for what? or rather the question should be, for who?
is it because guys are saying they find girls that are “tatt’d” up sexy? Really. This isn’t a reason to get a tattoo. you should get a tattoo when you actually WANT one, not because it will make your pictures get likes..

Just a personal opinion really.

& yes, this isnt ALL girls, i know a few girls that have tattoos that actually mean something to them, but if you say, “i want a tattoo” & i ask you, “of what” & you respond “I dont know”, i dont think you should get it then…
& another thing - we are not the first generation to have tattoos. Look at how many grown folk have tattoos, you are nothing special. Just saying.

Boy Tease vs. Female Tease

2011-11-21T02:25:00.004+00:00

I am a self-proclaimed tease… I like being a tease, I do it in a playful way or in some cases to get you angry, cos in all honesty rough sex is amazing most of the time..
& I KNOW that a lot of females teases out there are ANNOYING but BOYS! YOU CAN NOT BE A TEASE .. why do you do it?
you never do it right - it just fucks with a girls emotions & although you may think it makes us want you more - all it makes us do is go home & BITCH to our friends, then we don’t wanna see you again & you just ruined any chance of getting with us..
The worst kind of tease is the pull away kiss. You are about to kiss me & you pull away - that is the most frustrating shit in the world..

please. stop it.
rant over

Females Making The First Move

2011-11-21T02:25:00.003+00:00

I’m tired of the stereotype that guys should make the first move..
Say you’ve just been out to a rave and you got someones number or pin - why does the guy have to call, txt or ping you first? Things like this can be easily forgotten & anyone that takes offence from that needs to wisen up. I bet you cant name all the people in your contact list. You know them ones where you scroll through your phonebook & you see someones name you didnt even know you had. Guys are only human, so, if you want to holla dont be held back by the fact that he hasnt called or pinged you yet.

Same as with asking guys out - in all of my relationships, I’ve been the one to ask the guy out .. & if you havent done it before, you should try it sometime, its quite an exciting feeling, as soon as you ask the question you’re on the edge of your seat to know what the person will say..

So, thats my point of view on it.. what do you guys think?

Au Natural

2011-11-21T02:23:00.005+00:00

What does it mean to be “natural” - no weave, no make-up? Or does it mean more than that.. If your hair is relaxed your not natural anymore, are you? No, because your hair isnt in its natural state..
Have you shaped your eyebrows? Then you’re not natural..
Have you got your nails done? Your legs shaved, your moustache shaved, your chin hair plucked, your armpits shaved - then you are NOT natural..

Make-up, false eyelashes, hair extensions.. STOP HATING..

Females love to hate on eachother.. A phenomenon I’m still trying to find a valid explanation for - psychological or not. But the next time you see a girl with messed up weave & you remark “ew, look at her crusty weave” look at yourself first. I’ve had my fair share of weaves, and done countless things to my hair, relaxed, coloured, bleached, straightened etc, weave is just another form of making yourself up - because we all know that if we NEVER did anything to ourselves and went “au natural” half the pretty girls you see all over your dash wouldnt exist…

rant over.

Gentleman

2011-11-21T02:23:00.004+00:00

Gentlemon

Growing up we all wanted a gentleman;
open the door, pull out a chair.
Growing up we all wanted a sensitiveman;
tell us how he’s feeling, cuddle instead of feening.

So they turned into gentle men;
gentle and SENSITIVE men,
those men who write poems
& aren’t afraid to cry.

we turned around & remarked!
“are you gay”
“he’s too clingy”
“I want a REAL man”

So now we’ve grown up we dont want
a gentleman.
we want a real man
a read-my-mind-and-fuck-me-right kind of man

So they went out to get practice;
because they need practice to fuck you right,
they learned pick-up-lines to speed up the process
& they fucked anything with 2 legs
all for some practice.

we turned around & remarked!
“he’s a player”
“he only wants to fuck”
“I want a GENTLEman”

the real difference between men & women

2011-11-14T03:19:00.001+00:00

apart from obvious biological differences, I think one of the things that seems to be hidden in plain sight is how we love.
a woman, falls in ~~love~~ "lust" very quickly. She may not show it, but she'll be complaining & moaning to her girlfriends & the guy, usually oblivious to his "wastemanish-ways" usually wont realise...
Now, if the female doesn't get too frustrated to the point where she gives up on him, because he isnt giving her what she wants, they may initiate a relationship..
& after a while, the novelty will wear off & annoying habits will eventually grind on her nerves or for some other reason, the relationship will end. A few tearful conversations with her bestie & a couple of hours of bitching of how "he doesnt deserve you anyway" & she will have moved on.
For guys, they are slow to fall in love.. I think it may be because while women have the skill of giving attention to a lot of different things at once (multi-tasking), guys put a lot more energy in doing one task at one moment in time, therefore, once a guy sets his mind to something, he does it with his whole being. A man has to know that you are worth his time & being, & once he has "fallen in love" with you, the bond is usually very hard to break.
Following a break up, a man could be down for weeks, months, even years - & in the words of Shania Twain - the first cut is the deepest. The pain a man felt from his first heart-break will deter him from falling in love again & in immature men, love & settling down is the last thing on their mind..
so... rant over.

No

2011-11-07T20:48:00.005+00:00

no - just another word in the english language
but it holds so much meaning..
short & to the point.. what is no?

no is one of the first words we learn,
no is the opposite of yes,
no can mean nothing
"No answer"
no can mean yes
"Do you like him" - "No, I really like him"

No.
Such a simple word.
not a word I use very often,
that way you can get the full impact..

hate is such a strong word?
NO is such a strong word.
& you have the audacity to continue
your foolishness after I have SHOUTED
no.

well then, in that case;
I hope that you know, that no-one
gets away with not noting my no,
because now, I hope you know
that not no-one knows, & you
should watch your back..
because I said, no.

The Lighty Curse

2011-11-06T19:10:00.001+00:00

Being mixed-race isnt as glamorous as some make it or perceive it to be.
Yes, there are advantages, but in my eyes, the disadvantages outweigh them...

Tibyan Sanoh - pretty little lighty.

ADVANTAGES

1. Best of both worlds
One of the best advantages in my eyes is the benefit of growing up with more than 2 cultures. Im half German & half Nigerian - I grew up in Germany, & then when i moved away at 7, I was immersed in the Nigerian culture. Its great to be able to relate to more than one culture, it makes you feel like you belong, which is usually a huge problem..

2. Male/Female Attention
I don't really agree with this, but it clearly is one of the "advantages" - Light-skinned people are universally seen as more attractive.. In London, "Lighty's/Brownin's, Mixed-race girls" often catch a lot of male attention, & even more so for males, mixed race boys are often more desired, & even if some arent sexually attracted to them, they cant deny that they dont think they are attractive..
this pisses me off in a way .. Just because you are LIGHTSKINNED doesnt instantly make you beautiful. Ive seen A LOT of beautiful dark girls, but they never get the attention they deserve.

DISADVANTAGES

1. Problems fitting in
You can never truly belong in a group, even in a group of mixed-race people, because you can still come from different cultures. I had a lot of problems with this in the past. Not so much now, because ive learnt to become more independent, & in a way, I have always been quite independent, but even this isnt always a good thing. Sometimes, you just want to have ONE group that you fully belong to, rather then 7 where you sort of belong but you are never properly accepted. This problem is magnified for mixed-race people because of the multi-culture background, in some cases, they will find a group where they belong, but then another group that has different views they may also belong to, & as soon as you start spending some time with that group, the problem begins, because now you dont FULLY belong to a group anymore.

2. Peoples preconceived attitude towards you
People seem to have a preconceived idea about what mixed-race people are like, they main one being that we are "Stush/stuck up"... One bad apple in the basket spoils the rest.. There are mixed-race girls that think they're TOO good for anyone. Walking around with their heads held high. We are not all like this.
Another thing people associate with mixed-race people is that we are promiscuous... Again, this is not true.. There are promiscuous people, but its not like the majority of them are mixed-race. In my opinion, i think its extremely difficult for "pretty people" to NOT be promiscuous.. For 2 reasons. Firstly, if you do get a lot of attention, some people who have low self-esteem will take whatever comes their way for approval.. & you can debate this, but its true in some cases. Secondly, if you do have a lot of attention, there may be some people that get through to you, make you believe they really like you, when really they're only after one thing, & once trust is established ... the rest is history.. Now once again, this isnt ALL mixed-race people, but, the bad apple spoils the rest of the basket. & yes true, some people may just like sex.

3. Black & Mixed-race are the same thing in employers eyes
This may not be as true in this day & age, but ive noticed since moving to Kent where the majority of the population are Caucasian - job prospects aren't as good. Employers are supposed to give everyone an equal opportunity by law,however, i dont feel this is upheld as much as it should be. For example, who is black went into a shop & asked if there were any vacancies in early September. The lady she spoke to said no, they had already hired everyone - fair enough.. She then asked if there were any vacancies for Christmas, & the lady replied saying, no they have already hired... In September? She was blatantly lying. So, the next day, she asked her flatmate, who is white to ask, & miraculously, there were now vacancies... Now, the moral of this story is that, it doesnt matter if you're light-skinned or not, employers see it all the same way..

"Hoes" are Vital for Society

2011-11-05T03:14:00.000+00:00

sluts

Yes, Its another post about hoes/skets/walking gonorrhoea, w.e you wanna call em..
People are quick to bash hoes & criticise them, but life would be pretty boring without them.

If you're not a hoe, you dont necessarily need to like them but they are vital for society..
heres a few examples:
1. It would be pretty boring - no drama or hype because "Shaniqua"
fxcked your girls man ...
2. Hoes make the mistakes for you, so you can learn from them
without having to cause harm to your own temple.
3. They teach the boys how to pleasure them, which means you wont
have to teach them as much as you would have..
4. For those of you that are against giving head, a hoe will gladly suck
your mans dick so you dont have to :)

Even in the old days, females were expected to be virgins until they were
married, while men were allowed to be as promiscuous as they wanted,
surely, there had to be hoes.. & in fact, there were women, usually slaves
that would provide this role..

So, dont hate on hoes, they make life easier for you, & they will eventually
catch something anyway...

rant over.

In The Night

2011-11-02T01:50:00.001+00:00

In the night, when half of humanity is sleeping

& the other half is working – lonliness is your only companion

the presence of silence is haunting

& your mind begins to ponder & wander.

First it takes baby steps, evaluating the day,

the confused weather, grey & blue.

The late night films to be watched

at your own discretion…

until you start dissecting the world

It is a gloriously, beautiful bastard.

Your eyes demand sleep, but your mind

does not let you, you are too deep in thought

The world is a dangerous place & the

shelter of your mother & fathers house

can no longer protect you

Its time for you to spread your wings

& although the anticipation is positive

the closer it gets, the more daunting it becomes

having lived in the system since birth

school, college, university. Always someone there

making the tough decisions

Will you be part of the system when you leave?

did you learn enough? Did you pick up the skills to survive,

in the white mans world?

& this is where your mind wanders in the night

& before you know it, the birds are awake

& the absence of silence allows you to finally,

slumber.

I Dont Care

2011-10-27T04:08:00.000+01:00

Yeah we've been drifting & we don't really talk
but in all honesty, I dont really care.
And yes I don't say "Hey" or text you all the time
but in all honesty, I dont really care...

I'd warned you from time - "Dont get attached"
put on the red light & stopped coming round
but you couldnt take the hint

Too engrossed in your own selfish needs,
you never cared about if I got home late
& got a telling off from my mother
talking bout "you miss my company"

Girls are nothing but a mere distraction
something to keep your mind from wandering
how much youd messed your life up

a distraction to keep you from reminiscing
on the different paths you could have taken
that ironically, a girl stopped you from going

And yes, fair do's, you can pleasure a girl
make her feel special with compliments etc,
but anyone who has done their research will be
able to achieve such a thing..

I laugh in silence at your simple minded ways.
You want the whole world to eat out of your hands
but you dont want to provide the food..
because for such an achievement you must first
learn how to cook.. or gradually save up
to do some food shopping.

I never open up & say whats on my mind
a defense mechanism developed over time
Listening is my greatest skill & i will remember
EVERYTHING you say...

I tried to cut you off because I knew it would come to this
told you that I loved another but you would not listen
& yes I am cold-hearted but its just another double standard

Males have the ability to turn off their feelings for girls
& me, being the odd individual that I am can too

So, when you phone me crying, in anger & frustration
I am not silent out of fear or nervousness ..
I want, most of all, for the conversation to end ASAP

because I have shit to do today, & I dont need
your negative energy bringing me down
Because I have shit to do today, & all you have
is time to think & be bored ..
no job, no uni to go into, & you want the world
to offer its self on a plate ..

What did you want from me..
I wanted so little from you .. a title
A title you could not give me & from that
moment the thought of you disgusted me more &
more everyday..

Until eventually, your mere essence made my lip curl
your stench made it impossible for me to kiss you
wasting my time sittin on a bus for an hour, illegally
to waste my time sitting in your presence...

But i should have KNOWN..
it was in the name. he was JUST another guy.
another who would eventually fail in giving me what
I wanted for his own selfish reason. A title.

so with that I tell you.
I dont care.

Lesson 3: Don't Believe Everything You Hear

2011-10-27T01:43:00.000+01:00

You will always have a friend whos every word you believe. DONT always assume they know what they are talking about
& this advice doesnt just go for friends, but with anything really. Like statistics, the media, even your own family ... Where are they getting their information from?

Furthermore, if you want to know they are a good friend - challenge their statement. If they are a good friend, they shouldnt get offended.. You may think agreeing with them will make them happy, but a good friend will appreciate it more .. Because if they say something stupid & you agree, they will now be able to say someone has agreed so it must be true. Eventually, someone will correct them & they will feel like a dickhead & though they may not say anything to you, for a long time they will be thinking that you are a prick for not correcting them when you should have..

anyway, just keeping it short & sweet .. just thought I would give you guys something since I havent blogged in so long..

BTW - Halloween is rapidly approaching, I bet a lot of you are excited.. but I will write about that in a few days.

rant over

Lesson 2: Don't Hate Others On Someone Else's Behalf.

2011-10-06T16:04:00.000+01:00

Imagine this scenario... You have just moved into your new flat & naturally, you get to know your housemates. Let's assume you get close to one of them but soon enough there's someone that they don't like. We've all experienced this in school, one of your friends doesn't like someone, so, on their behalf you "dislike them too", you ignore them & everything they seem to do begins to annoy you. This is not a good idea... Rather than conforming to your group & "disliking" this person who has done nothing towards you, you should get to know them & see whether you like them or not. You don't have to but, they haven't done anything to you.. Yes, you may have some instinctive behavioural inclination to protect those that are close to you. You've heard they did your friend wrong & you dislike them for this reason. But you have no reason to do this. If your friend is encouraging you to dislike them then maybe you should consider whether they are a good friend or not. Anyway, back to the scenario. We are assuming that you have just met this person & you are disliking someone on their behalf already - do not make this mistake. First of all, you have no idea what your "new flatmate" is like. More often times than not, they will have had a disagreement with this person & they may eventually compromise or agree to disagree and become good friends. Now you are left looking like an idiot..

WHY WE FEEL INCLINED TO DISLIKE OTHERS ON SOMEONES BEHALF
There are many reasons why we may hate someone, here's a few I can think of.

1. Self Protection
in some cases, if we hear that someone has done something towards someone that we know - for example, I knew a girl once & one of her "friends" slept with her boyfriend - she then said "Yes, I wanted to prove that I could get any man I wanted" ... She had no shame, she wasn't even sorry. Quite a few people, including myself were completely shocked & she lost a lot of friends. If you hear something like this, its not the actual act towards to victim but the fear that that person may do the same to you. In this situation, they were very close friends & when she did what she did, that showed everyone that it didn't matter if they were friends or not - what would she do to you...

2. Protective Instincts
If you are close to someone & you hear someone has done something to do them its instinct to "protect your own"

cba writing anymore so, rant over.

Lesson 1: If You Have Nothing Positive To Say, Dont Say Anything At All

2011-09-26T12:51:00.000+01:00

Sooo, I am now officially a Fresher.
& after a week of drinking non-stop, though I don't want Freshers week to finish I'm kind of glad it has to let me liver restore itself.
If you didn't know already, I'm at the University of KENT. The campus is breathtakingly beautiful & green, & the people are extremely friendly.
The accommodation is really nice as well - & my new flatmates are like a real family. We cook dinner every night & sit around the dining table. I didn't even do that with my own family!

So anyway, every week I'm going to write about what I've learnt. & my first lesson is If You Have Nothing Positive To Say, Dont Say Anything At All. A simple life lesson we've all been told at one point, but last week I learnt the true impact of words. & rather than me being the one to say the wrong thing, it was someone else. Which also reminds me that you should always try to learn from OTHER peoples mistakes. I won't repeat what was said, because that AINT MY BUSINESS. but just watch what you say. Especially to house mates cos you'll be living with them for a whole year...
With that said, I have to go into town. My loan came through today so I'm going to buy a diary to organise myself.

Rant over.

Who Are You To Judge?

2011-08-31T23:01:00.000+01:00

WHO are you to judge?
look at this picture...

Man riding a bike

what if I told you he was black? What are the first assumptions that come to mind. What if I told you he was white? What would you think then? Why does this even matter? The other day I was in the car with my mum and she saw a black man riding a bike, his hair was unkept & he was wearing a beenie. Out of nowhere she said "druggie"... I was infuriated by her remark. Who is she to judge his life and to say that he is on drugs. Because he's riding a bike? Because his hair is unkept. She has no idea what is going on in this mans life, & within 5 seconds of seeing him from a distance she judges him. He may have been having a rough day - in todays economic climate everyone is struggling & he may be right at the bottom of this vicious cycle. But then again, now I'm judging...
Why do we as humans are so quick to judge others but then be in denial of our own situation?

There was a psychological study conducted on the factors of addictive behaviour, namely on attributions
(internal or external - what they blame their behaviour on). A group of smokers were asked to describe WHY they still smoked & they blamed it on other things such as the environment or peer pressure. Then they were provided with 4 fictitious scenarios of other people who smoked. The same participants were then asked why these other people still smoked. They blamed the people & said they had "low self-control" ..

The amazing thing that this study revealed was how people judge others. When asked to evaluate their own situation they were quick to blame it on something outside of their control (external attribution style) but when asked to judge other people in the same position as them they blamed the person & said they had no self-control (which would be an internal attribution if they were to blame themselves). It's a defence mechanism, "saving face" - something I've talked about before.

Don't be so quick to judge others - everyone may not have gone through what youve been through, but everyones still had shit happen to them in their life.. Even those little posh white kids that were raised in countrysides with multi-billionaire mummies & daddies & their own horse named Bob.

rant over.