Robbie's Opinions

Nice guys finish last or do they?

2012-03-30T06:35:00.000-07:00

I havn't got any comments since my last post so I will answer a question I hear all the time: Why don't girls ever date the nice guys or more commonly, why do girls always go after the douchebags? The girls don't go after them because they are douchebags or disregard you because you're nice. That isn't what they are responding to. They are responding to whether or not a man has confidence. Unfortunately, 9 times out of 10, it is the douchebag that looks like he has confidence. The traits that make him look like the wrong person to you like the cocky demeanor and the arrogant personality are also the traits that are drawing the girls in. This is why the nice guy loses because compared to the douchebag, it looks like he has no confidence. You can be the nicest guy in the world but if you don't have any confidence, you will never get any girls. There is some good news though, the girls do say they want a nice guy most of the time. You're thinking they say it, but they don't mean it. They do mean it. It's just they want a nice guy not a doormat. Don't be the guy asking what's wrong all the time. If you can tell something is genuinely wrong, that is the time to ask. Don't do what you think will work. It hasn't gotten very far in the past. Respond to what she does by acting like yourself not what you think she wants you to act like. If you act like yourself and show confidence in yourself, the girls will respond to you. You don't have to be a douchebag to get someone. All you have to do is be yourself. When I say be yourself, I don't mean keep doing what you're doing because that is bound to fail. I mean be your best self. If you show the person you truly are in the best way you can, you will have a better chance. What this blog is basically saying is the main thing that attracts women is confidence. If you have no confidence, your odds will drastically drop. But if you show that you have confidence, you will have a better chance with women.

If you like this advice and want a question of your own answered, comment below.

First Anonymous Question

2012-03-29T23:04:00.003-07:00

This is what I just got as a comment on my last post:

Ok, so here is the deal, tell me what you honestly think I should do. I am putting your advice giving skills to the test. So throughout all high school I was obsessivly in love with a friend of mine, I went over and spent time with her, and been a friend, but I would always do something stupid like push myself on her more or whatever. I went to the point of where I actually wrote a letter to her admitting how I felt about her and everything at the time. Well after a while I decided that it would be the best for both me and her, if I just started dating other people and everything. Well now we are in college, we became pretty good friends, and now that I am single again for a while, those feelings have started coming back and I am scared and not sure what to do. I want to be her friend and her not to think bad of me because of this, but yet I know that my feelings will never change and so I don't know what I should do.

This is the first true advice I'm giving on this blog and I will do my best so here it goes. You asked me to be honest so I will tell you that it looks like you got friend-zoned (at least in high school). What you can do now is one of two things. 1. Admit to yourself that it might be better to just stay friends especially if she wasn't sending back any feelings back in high school. or 2. You try to see how she acts towards you now. She might have forgotten that you pushed yourself on her back in high school. If she did, never bring it up again even as a joke. You might lose any chance at her. If she acts like she likes you now, go for it but ask her to go on a casual date not some big ordeal and definitely don't tell her you've been obsessively in love with her. if she says yes to the casual date, act normal. Subtlety is the key in this situation. You can't go over the top with your emotions on a first date. If the first date is good, ask her on another one and see where it goes. If she doesn't act like she likes you or she says no, just remain friends with her and stop trying with this one girl. Try to move on and look for someone else. If you are hung up on this girl, you won't be able to find anyone else so if you know there isn't any chance with her, you might as well forget any romantic things with her. If you move on and find someone else, those feelings will change about her and you'll see that it wasn't worth getting worked over. Long story short, see if she likes you by the way she acts. If she seems like she does, ask her out on a casual date. If not or if she says no, try to find someone else simple as that.

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What is love?

2012-03-29T21:53:00.002-07:00

My friend Kyle just posted this question and as tempted as I was to write "Baby, don't hurt me" I will write seriously about it. It is hard to describe love as it is different for everyone. It is one of those things where if you have experienced it, you understand it completely but if you've never experienced it, you will never understand. I will try to explain my best though. For me, love is when you let your heart make the decisions and you aren't upset by it. You actually enjoy it because it is one of the best experiences you will ever feel. Love is when you would give up everything for that one person because you can't give them up and nothing else compares to them. Love can make you feel the best you ever have and also the worst. It can be a cruel temptress but it can also be your best friend. It is the one thing religious and non-religious people can agree on. In the bible, it says it is the most important thing in the world but non-religious people can think that as well. Love is something that binds but its not a bad thing, you choose to let it happen. Some people are afraid of love but it isn't anything to fear once you feel it. Because once you feel it, you now know why it is out there and why people try so hard for it. You will try your hardest for love because that one person is the one thing that is always worth your best effort.That effort isn't attainable without love because love changes you for the better and even if you lose love, you still know it was good for you because of how you felt when you were in love.It isn't easy to understand because everyone is different and everyone's emotions are different but that is what I think love is. If someone likes this advice and wants a question answered, just comment below.

First Post

2012-03-29T20:57:00.000-07:00

This is my first blog post here on Blogger, so I will make it short and sweet. We don't want to bore anyone with a first post and I really want people to like my blog. This blog is to help people by giving them advice. I will answer questions I receive in the comments of my posts. I will answer any question within reason and say what I believe and how I feel. I know I can't really show how good I am at advice without any questions and this is why the first post is so short. The second post will be longer as I will answer the first question I receive.