Sam's Advice

Fate

2011-10-05T14:40:00.001-07:00

Fate simply means the notion of predetermined events unraveling before your very own eyes. A super natural force that is working behind the scenes of our everyday lives as if we all are fate's little puppets. There is always a choice everyone has to either recognize and pursue a "moment" or simply Brush it off. The worst outlook in life is to believe that since there are an inordinate amount of opportunities in a concealed lifetime, there is an excuse to turn down one with an uncertainty of success. The regret of "not doing" weighs out more than living in regret of the past moment. The feeling of taking a risk, which is completely farfetched to the inner-routine lifestyle, supplies an inexplicable rush. A feeling that cannot be duplicated through story telling or second-hand visualization. People need to take risks out there and allow more chances of fate to sun-rise. There are instances when fate happens right before us, and one simply misses it under their nose. The reason why there are a lot of non-believers among us in the fate category is because fate has no proof of historical existence in a written documented form for reassurance. In reality, to have the confidence and belief that fate could be lurking before you at any given moment is all up to you. The recognition of such a peculiar instance gives one a sense of comfort and appreciation of something so special. A moment that can be grasped, built upon, and contorted in a way to change one's life entirely. It's one thing to finally believe in fates potential future arrival, but to sit back and Await fate to physically smack you across the face to relieve a feeling of doubt and hesitancy is preposterous. Go grab fate by the horns and control your own destiny. They say destiny can't be controlled and is inevitable, but the secret is every different path of fate = a new destiny. For example, a waitress can drop a pot of hot coffee on a random man, yet it's up to the man covered in hot coffee to take everything into perspective and wisely choose to act or not act upon the certain circumstance. Not every moment is fate, but any moment could be fate. One usually puts the pieces of the puzzle together that fate was present at that time, when everything pans out later on. The feeling of uncertainty in a situation shouldn't scare one away, but should motivate them to pursue and find out what could have been. When people say their life is boring, it's their fault for putting themselves in that position. No one needs to go to drastic measures to spice up a life. The spicing up of ones life can be easily obtainable with a few tweaks and minor (or major depending on situation) risks involved. The simplest procedure would be to Perform an "opposite" day, where your routine tasks composed daily are completely 180-ed. This is not to be taken as an obligation, but just to prove to one's self that the outcome of life is in his/her hands. Eventually that idea will sink in and one will have full control of what is possible rather than what is uncertain. The pleasure of sitting back, as you witness a moment of theoretical star alignments impacting your life before your eyes is remarkable. One major contribution to the single, dating, or relationship field is the fate factor. Everyone wants that fairy-tale ending and when one witnesses the "star alignments" up close and personal, then the belief of fairy-tales no longer exist as a tale, but as a reality.

The Past, Is The Past

2011-09-20T19:41:00.000-07:00

A great quote was once said that relayed the message of "living in the moment". whether this statement is true to the matter does not justify the fact that the past is the past. Everyone has a past, and either the past represents someone who you once were and strive to regain, or to simply dodge that essence of you and starting fresh. In theory, there is actually no starting fresh from the Start of the never ending-athlon of life , but a chance to start a new "event" out of the figurative athlon. The past seems to come up a lot in relationships. Whether the "good" past insinuates what kind of person you once were which helps establish a more positive relationship for the long run. But The past I'd like to refer too is the past in a negative connotation. The past concerning recent "destructive" current events/relationships/dilemmas . The problem is once the past is revealed it can be forgiven, but never forgotten. This seems to hurt relationships on the daily. If one were to find out that the past of current boyfriend contained supplements of cheating, then the current spouse would allude to the fact that this PAST situation has the potential to re-surface. This leaves the boyfriend, for this example, completely defenseless and cannot deny the past which means he would be denying the truth. Remember honesty is key throughout every relationship. While this problem arises, it also leaves the boyfriend questioning his passion for his so called girlfriend. Is it real what he has with this girl if the girl he has opened up his heart too cannot even look past the past and fixate her eyes on what this man has became? To sum things up, don't let the past be the foundation in ones relationship, but a revelation to one another of how far this person has come. Life is filled with positives and negatives. If one only looks towards the negatives, then the window of opportunity for a potential positive continuously shrinks after time. This leads to looking at life once worth half of an empty glass and slowly diminishes to a third and a quarter and before you know it. Your glass is completely empty. while the pro's motivates more to come and eventually you are adding up 1/2's of glasses half full that sooner or later start over flowing. This leaves you with over-flowment of a positive life and your "past" is now your outlook of life negatively.

Cheaters Never Prosper

2011-07-05T20:22:00.000-07:00

Relationships are tested day in and day out whether it's obstacles involving social, political, or economical issues. The saying "sticks and bones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is not a valid statement for this instance. To hear the words "I cheated " can melt a heart and sometimes it can never freeze back up again to its full potential of a full heart. It could be permanently damaged for any future encounters. Cheating needs to be looked at carefully because some cheating predicaments are forced upon while others, are planned and so secretly planned to a tee that no clues are available to opposing lover. A cheater may think he/she's accomplished something by being sneaky and keeping it from the other, but whether or not the cheat ever surfaces is up in the air, personally to the cheater, what goes around comes around and eventually dues will be repaid. The saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater" is not necessarily correct. A cheater can stumble upon the epiphany of cheating being morally wrong and change their ways. Sometimes there are a few in the pack that actually rely on living on the edge and cheating in their lives. A cheater can twist up a concoction of potential heartbreak that is deadlier than radiation in the long run. The only advice when dealing with a cheater is second chances are allowed, but third and fourths may seem like "I am sucker" move. Nobody wants to get played in this so called "game". The only playing that should be consumed in this game, is the enjoyment of good times between a pair of connected people.

Trust Issues

2011-06-24T22:02:00.001-07:00

It's tough sometimes to live the dating life because it may seem like everythings perfect then as time wears out. Some connections wear out and it's sad to see them go. Doesn't one ponder whether that whole relationship was a waste of time? Well I'm here today to show that no relationship is a waste of time and either one takes and learns something about himself or the playing field. One should always take something out of a relationship, healthy or not. The main concept of each relationship, once looked beyond the looks and what actually thrives a relationship, is about trust and connection, or compatibility. To relate, I once went out with a girl that was a real thrill seeker, she was off the walls climbing walls, base-jumping, sky diving. Now this wasn't my suggested life style, obviously If I'm not daring as her, I might be concidered as a wuss to her due to the fact that I did not risk my life as equivalent as hers. Compatibility is key, but trust Is the main piece to the bermuda triangle of a successful relationship (connection, compatibility, and trust). Trust is something committed into the care of another. The ability to lose someones trust is as easy as sipping a glass of water. The point of each relationship, if one wants to maintain a sufficient one, then one needs to look back on the past relationships and come to the conclusion that even though the last relationship ended, atleast one goes up a higher step on the ladder of trustworthiness. Once trust is lost it Is hard to gain it back because of the fragility.

About Sam

2011-06-15T11:56:00.000-07:00

I wouldn't be here today if I hadn't gone through the struggles and obstacles presented in my love life. I felt as if all my experimentation led me to the genius I am today. It's not about learning to play the game, but letting the game come to you. Any inordinate amount of issues can arise, but the main attraction of each obstacle is if overcoming the obstacle is worth the reward. I am Sam, the same Sam that had his heart played like strings on a violin, but the key factor is not being persistent, but being consistent. Anybody can put a title of themselves as the love doctor, but from proven success, I am a success. Sam the success I am will not be shy and keep his wisdom to himself. It's an ongoing dilemma from the age of stone to the age of now. The prosperity of healthy relationships can be achieved throughout any will. If there's a will there's a way.