Second Time Parenthood

Healing begins with…

2026-09-10T10:23:56.493+08:00

Hi folks! Healing can take many forms, and sometimes, it begins with simply allowing yourself to slow down. Pause, reconnect with your body, and enjoy a little time dedicated entirely to yourself. 🌺

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How to reduce worries and anxiety

2026-09-06T13:32:31.683+08:00

Hi folks! Sharing one of the quote I just heard and learn from one of Chinese cooking reality show 中餐厅： “ 只要自己的世界观放大了，心里的焦虑和忧虑就会减少” Once you broaden your worldview, your anxiety and worries will decrease. A reminder to myself and sharing to all of you who are reading this! May our every moment filled with more openness, broader mind, dare to dream and hope, and less anxiety and worries! Cheers!

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My recovery journal

2026-09-04T22:22:53.320+08:00

Hi folks, it’s been a long time since I update my blog. Today I just like to update the progress of my recovery journey. After getting the MRI report and hearing the advice from the Doctor, I have been diligently doing my physiotherapy session and exercise. However, yesterday due to my negligent and my habit of not getting help and support my pain came back. Tonight a voice came to me to remind me the following: Do not give up 不放棄 Do not overdo 不放縱 Learn to chill and relax 放輕鬆， Keep the mind and heart open把心胸放開打開 Set a role model, be the person you want to be, one step at a time 树立模范从小事開始加油cheers! Sent from my iPhone

Day 19

2025-01-19T23:15:00.000+08:00

Hi folks

A rather exhausting day for me both physically and mentally.. almost doze off at steering wheels … luckily I brought a pack of Ningxia Nitro with me… a natural caffeine which acts like an energy booster .. awesome for those who can't take coffee or prefer something more natural than those flavoured/coloured energy drinks! Perfect companion for this coming long balik kampung drive during the cny and school holiday!

Day 7 Start my day right

2025-01-07T08:45:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

It's so important to start our day right so that the rest of the day will be better…

I am glad I fulfilled my goal of doing my exercise this morning despite waking up a bit later than usual .. yet the day is smooth.. lunch pack is done on time and I get to go out earlier too!

Upon reaching office, I diffuse Bergamot, do you this oil is really good for our hormone as well as our mood! Awesome way to start my day couple with my yummy oats!

Oh ya, yesterday I managed to keep up my promise to restart my video making too with my rusty video making skills.. not pro yet but it's a platform to horn my skills, will you my dear reader willing to be my subscriber and give me some constructive comments or support? TIA!

https://youtu.be/7YQdzHGPVGw?feature=shared

Cheers to a great day!

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Day 4 & 5 of 2025

2025-01-05T06:53:00.001+08:00

Hi folks

Missed my Day 4 journal yesterday… I practiced telling good things over and over to myself yesterday morning and the battery kept me going entire day, believing I can persevere thru the day working on my goals and shutting down my limiting belief or old habits that no longer serve me.

Day 5, i want to listen to my inner voice and learn to quiet down my deep-rooted past belief. Believe there's a better way to lead my life.. stay open, stay grateful, stay creative and keep my composure, calm and knowing you and those who truly loved you will always give their blessings and support

Cheers! 你可以的！

Day 2 & Day 3 of 2025

2025-01-03T06:02:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

I missed journaling yesterday and I like to jot down what I practice and learn on Day 2. Kudos to myself to realized and stay firm not to do everything for others without them asking.. I am taking away their chance to be responsible for their own lives.

Day 3, I want to learn to accept all the goodness that Universe blessed upon me thru people, events or affinities/opportunities/inspirations. I am worth it. Learn to accept & receive with grace and gratitude.. letting others rejoice in their giving .. shall I rejoice in mine too! A balance harmonious cycle of give and take!

Cheers!

Day 1 of 2025

2025-01-01T23:21:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Happy New Year and may 2025 be a year full of blessings, joy, wellness and abundance of fulfilling memories and experiences for us all!

One of the habit I want to continue or be more consistent of for 2025 is to do so my gratitude journal.

Tonight I picked 3 oils for my nightly ritual:

A hormone balancing oil as my #selfcare #selflove routine especially vital for ladies my age!

Acceptance blend to learn to #accept what I couldn't change.. the goods and the not so pleasant to move on #joyfully each moments in life..grateful to be #alive

May Joy accompany me in every journey in 2025!

Cheers!

I wish for a peaceful Christmas

2024-12-25T22:16:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

In Mandarin.. Xmas is named as 平安夜， which literally means a peaceful night … that is what I hoped for today…

Though it is not an easy day when you are with your closed ones which might push your buttons..

What could save the day is the heart of gratitude and abiding the "let them" theory by Mel Robbins. Grateful to have listened to her podcast daily during my meal preparation .. which gave me the much needed motivation and armour to face the challenges ahead!

May the coming days and 2025 be a peaceful and joyful one at heart for everyone!

Cheers!

Reflecting 2024 - January

2024-12-24T06:27:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

So fast the year has quickly entering its final phase..

Looking back, there are a couple of things I glad I did in 2024:

January 2024 - Joined a group of like-minded friends in an Abundance Challenge 101 where we would journal our daily gratitude items, apply essential oils along the way to help reprogramming our old beliefs .. what a great way to start the year!

I would love to do it again to kickstart my 2025!

Guess I have to write and rest more

2024-11-26T20:56:00.001+08:00

Hi folks,

Sharing this wise quotes with you as well as for my own reference and practice:

To improve your writing, read more.
To improve your thinking, write more.
To improve your storytelling, present more.

To improve your energy, rest more.
To improve your understanding, teach more.
To improve your network, give more.

To improve your happiness, appreciate more.

When we can’t take over

2024-06-10T11:58:00.000+08:00

Hi folks!

In life, there are many things, events, journey and adventures that are lined up for us based on the seeds we have planted and the choices we have made knowingly or unknowingly.

We can neither ask others to "experience" it for us nor can we help others to go through the process as each are tailor made for us to learn the lessons we meant to learn.

Lately, I have learned more deeply about this truth .. that we can never take over the pain, suffering of others .. all we can do is be there for them, support them, listen to them and perhaps indirectly able to help to ease or reduce the pain slightly or even make the person who to go through the journey feeling they are not alone.

When my dad called for me when he's feeling cramp, itchy, pain, etc… I couldn't help him to endure the pain …. I can only take certain steps like lifting his help, applying some oils or cream etc to reduce his suffering ….

When any of my kids might be feeling sad, disappointed or even in pain… I couldn't take over their experience for them .. as there's a lessons behind every episodes or experiences for them.

Same goes for our own experience and journey in life .. no one can take over for us, so all the more we should practice self-love, self-care and truly make the right decisions and choices in life to make the experience a better one and a more positive and fruitful one.. make it worth it!

Just my own personal and humble opinion and feelings that I wished to journal down at this moment in time.. thank you for reading and sharing this moment with me.

Wishing everyone a fruitful day and Happy Dumpling/Dragon Boat Festival!

Cheers!

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Crying, is it bad?

2024-06-03T06:51:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Lately so many things happened and so many emotional roller coastes as well as learning to be done that I have yet to have chance to pen down my thoughts….

If you haven't read the recent episode I have shared, can check on this post:

http://secondtimeparenthood.blogspot.com/2024/06/experience-with-dengue-fever-as-mom.html?m=1

There's a saying that goes, "A lady became strong when she becomes a mom.", and there's another commonly misconception that says, "Boys don't cry!"

But truly, is crying really bad such negative connotation that it felt even sinful or shameful to cry for many people?

Having attended many emotional healing and emotional release workshops and talks, I learnt that emotional health directly affects our physical health. A lot of physical condition comes from unhealthy or emotional stress that builds up within.

So crying is not something evil or bad … it's one of the ways to release the pain, imbalance, sadness, stress, etc. It's not a show of weakness nor is it a bad omen.

Recently, I had a meltdown, yes I had… I have been strong and tried to be strong during my own self healing process, caring for my dad and then my daughter, seeing her crying and in pain .. I felt really helpless that I couldn't help any of them or even myself to relieve the pain or suffering.

Thus, I played the music on my phone while crying silently with tears flowing and pouring down while at my dad's house and my daughter is still alone at the hospital. I felt really helpless, and really sad and down.. but at that moment I was stopped by an almost angry voice from my mom and almost shouted at me and asked me to stop. Don't cry, cry your tears and go wash your face now!

At that moment, I felt as though I am doing something wrong as a small kid.. that crying and trying to release my emotions is something I forgiven or even permitted to do. I felt really bad and worse and I said ok.. I will go cry in my car. At that point of time, I don't understand the big reaction from my mom.. I washed up and made sure my dad had his meals, fixed his cramp leg and did whatever I could do before bidding farewell and make my exit.

I wasn't angry at my mom or anything. I even asked if she likes to drink half pack of Ningxia Red I have fed my dad.. and she shakes her head. So I drank it all as I don't want to waste it and i think I truly need some booster before making my well to the hospital to visit my daughter.. yes I am acting like a superwoman, morning visiting my daughter as a mom.. before making my way to my parents house as a daughter before noon and rush back to the hospital in the evening to accompany my daughter … I numbed myself from any discomfort on my back and knee…

I also numbed my sadness and alarmed feeling from the way my mom reacted at my crying moment in silence… later I felt I could understand why she reacted that way.. maybe to her .. as many elderly folks felt, crying when your parents are still alive and not at the last moments of their lives is not a good sign… thus I was asked to shut and stop it.

I can understand her feelings from her long and behold "pantang larang" which I couldn't understand… and I respected her reaction but I told myself I wouldn't do that to my kids… it's too damaging and hurtful .. I would want them to feel safe, supported and respected to show their truest feelings when they are with me.

Crying is not a bad thing … is not a sin. And it's not shameful.

Period …

IF crying can make you feel better and stronger .. why not?

Yes, for those of you who are reading this.. I want to say it to you.. you are loved, you are uniquely you and you deserved all the happiness and good things in life.

Cheers!

Experience with Dengue fever as a mom

2024-06-02T08:25:00.000+08:00

Hi folks!

Dengue is on the rise, I personally had been admitted to hospital for 6 days due to dengue fever many years ago.

Recently my own daughter was admitted to hospital due to dengue just a week before her ballet dance competition. It has been a heartbreaking news to her when doctor shared she might able to discharge but wouldn't be her best form to participate.

I can totally feel her pain and disappointment after preparing for the event for months… I just told her to focus on recovery and leave the rest to God. I prayed and I did all I know to be there along her recovery. It hasn't been easy as I had to also look after my dad who's not feeling well every weekend. So I have been running here and there .. and thankfully my younger sis took over one of the weekend so that I can be with my daughter as her reading wasn't looking too well.

Her platelet went down to 25 on 3rd day after she was admitted. From 81>67>51 and then 25….and doc said she would need to moved to ICU if it's going lower. Luckily, the next test results shows it remained at 25.

So we did all we can, taking papaya leaf (bottled and raw ones from friends who had papaya tree near their house), coconut water, small bitter gourd juice, lots of Ningxia Red (2-3 sachets a day), oiling her with thieves and other protocol shared by the aromatherapist…

On the 5th day, doctor said is moving up to 30, but not at a comfortable level to be discharged… so we asked what would be the reading that can be discharged and doc said at least 50..

So we load up again on the bitter papaya leaf twice a day, Ningxia Red and oiling her..at the end of the 5th day, at 7.35pm, her reading shows 50, the minimum number that allowed her to be discharged but still needs to go back up to the normal range of 150-400 to be on the safe side.

Indeed we are counting our blessings and grateful that she can finally be discharged and rest at home as for anyone who has stayed in hospital before, it's not easy to rest well.. all the constant "visits" by nurses to give you medication, change the drip, draw your blood for tests and measure your temperature and BP, not to mention all the beeping sounds makes it almost impossible to really have a good sleep which is the very thing our body needs to do its healing and recovery.

We brought along diffuser and diffuse oils like Joy, Believe and Orange to cheer her up and it helped a lot. Even the nurses who enters the room find it really nice scent and vibes.. everyone is happy to step into the room.

There's so much lessons to be learned at each encounter and journey in our life… let me share more in another blog post as part of my journal and record of my life as a parent, a mom..

….to be continued ….

Cheers and stay safe and well folks!

Sunday affirmation

2024-04-21T10:58:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Happy Sunday! May everyone have a blessed and wonderful Sunday and weeks ahead.

Sunday

April-21-2024

I am becoming more centered.

I allow healing energy to flow through me.

I am filled with gratitude.

I embrace the magic of flow.

The answers show up just when I need them.

I am having an awakening moment.

I allow events to happen naturally.

I am on the path of least resistance.

I have all the guidance I will ever need.

Cheers!

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Affirmation for the day

2024-04-11T09:30:00.001+08:00

Hi Folks

Time flies, one quarter of the year has passed. How many New Year resolutions have we all been working on and making them happened?

One of my goals this year is to get back my mobility, strength and energy after my fall from the ladder which greatly affected my mobility and strength in doing many daily tasks and activities in my life.

During the entire year of healing process, I am forced to slow down… as in literally slow down ..as I couldn't walk as fast I did, drive as fast I used to rushing from one place/event to another and strength to sit/on duty as long as I needed to.

So in many areas of my life, I needed to make choices and priorities to focus on the essential and necessary. Bare minimum to get everything still moving.

I took time to rest, visualise and listened to podcast and took time to do my affirmation and meditation while I rest my back.

Today, my affirmation is:

I have time, all the time I needed to accomplish what's truly important and meaningful

I have resources, all the people, financial, guardian angels needed to accomplish my goals and dreams of a higher purpose

I have patience and love as well as perseverance to make healing and strengthening happened at its own timing with daily practice and exercises

I have assistance from the Creator who created us and the Universe…sending all the right people, event, tools to make me learn and grow in my life daily to the person I meant to become

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Cheers to another fulling and purposely day!

No time

2024-04-10T07:35:00.001+08:00

No time

Hi folks!

It's been a long time since I last share a post.

It's been a long journey of self learning, healing and understanding about myself.

When we don't have time for ourselves, we lose a part of us…

Think to the bright side, we don't even have time to fall sick.

Being a mom, a daughter and a team player in whatever organisation we are in, we played so many different roles and bear so many different responsibilities that we just don't have time to slow down or make time for ourselves.

Until our body gave up and force us to rest. So don't wait till this day happened to truly make time to rest and recharge. Be fair to this engine of life.

Just a short note as my own reminder!

So glad and grateful for the Raya break! Selamat Hari Raya to all who are celebrating and reading!

Stay grateful and be happy! Cheers!

Breathe in and out

2023-10-03T18:22:00.001+08:00

Tuesday

October-3-2023

For the next few moments, set aside logic.

Take a few deep, slow breaths and release all thoughts about "what", "how", and "when".

Simply let yourself believe that everything will fall into place at the right time.

You don't have to shoehorn your way through any circumstance.

Believe that it will all happen with ease.

Our need for certainty can feel too overwhelming at times.

Sometimes, you just have to let go of the need to control every outcome and embrace the possibility of miracles and unexpected opportunities in your life.

Love this reminder from:

https://www.dailymotivation.site

My Financial Affirmation 2023

2023-02-04T09:36:00.001+08:00

I find joy in organizing my finances.

I am protecting my financial future.

I take responsibility for improving my financial situation.

I am good with money.

My financial plan ensures stability and profitability.

I have a plan for protecting my wealth.

I am becoming more financially stable.

I am grateful to have a job that I love.

Cheers

Blessed 2023

2023-01-01T03:08:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

May angel be with everyone witnessing our growth, supporting our worthy dreams and cheering us on in 2033!

Cheers!

A season of gratitude and reflection

2022-12-25T07:38:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection.

Winston Churchill

Truly, life encounters & events provides the lessons we need to learn in life

This year I have many such encounters that reminds me of such lessons

I am often on my move from one place to another

Not one who are used to moving slowly

Yet when your ankle is hurt, you have no choice but to move slowly and be more gentle on yourself

Let others help you out when you can't do many of the stuff you are so used to do it yourself

At the same time, do all you can to recover and allow time for it to heal

This is the very least we can do

Never give up and never lose trace of the lessons to be learnt

Merry Christmas to everyone who's reading this!

May the coming year brings abundance of happiness, wellness and peacefulness inside out to us all!

Cheers!

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Pre-loved toys for charity

2022-12-21T19:47:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Do you have any pre-loved toys?

From now until 14th January 2023, drop them off at any BECON outlets. Join them in giving the gift of play and hope to children in need, alternatively we can also purchase stationery and drop them off at thwir charity box .Toys and stationery collected will go towards the setting up of community Toy Libraries at;
*RKK Cheras
*PPR Communities
*Orang Asli Village
*Shelter Homes

This is a community service in collaboration with Play Unlimited Malaysia #beconcares
*please ensure that all donated toys are cleaned, packed and labelled

The Re:Play Toy Bus will make a special appearance at Becon @ Bandar Puteri Puchong on Saturday, January 7th, 2023, and Becon @ USJ Taipei on Saturday, January 14th, 2023, from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. to collect all the generous donations.

We can also bring our kid to the toy bus for an amazing experience!

Let's bring some cheers and smiles for the children ：）

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Off day

2022-11-24T12:11:00.001+08:00

Thursday

November-24-2022

It's okay to have off days. Some days you just feel terrible, no matter what you do.

Feeling down is totally normal. It doesn't mean that you're weak or your efforts toward healing are futile.

In fact, off days help you to build your resilience and patience. Embrace your negative emotions with compassion.

This practice becomes a bit easier when you remind yourself that emotions are temporary, and you won't always feel like this. You will feel better again soon.

And, you will feel a sense of pride knowing that you have the courage to work through difficult emotions and regulate your emotions effectively.

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Patience

2022-11-19T11:57:00.001+08:00

Saturday

November-19-2022

Wonderful things are unfolding around me.

I can achieve a balance between planning and surrendering.

I practice patience every day.

I allow divine timing to guide me.

I give thanks for all of the amazing things in my life.

I trust the timing of my life.

Everything in my life happens at exactly the right moment.

Things are becoming clearer to me.

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Learn to love yourself

2022-10-28T17:46:00.001+08:00

Hi folks!

Today is a day of reflection for me …

No one owes me anything ..be grateful for every little things that someone offered/provides/gave at free will

I don't owe people anything (oh well at least not this lifetime & the mortgages), don't need to feel sorry for not saying Yes to every request, demands, etc

I don't need to be answerable to someone else's anger or bad emotions

They have their own agenda and baggages to carry

I am busy enough fulfilling my own life duties and chasing my dreams

I don't have time to spend on petty quarrels or squabbles..it's not worth it

Stay focus on my ultimate goal .. always do better than you did yesterday

You are your own best friend

Show others how you like to be treated

Do not step on yourself as this is how others will treat you too!

Mommies, I know many of us are guilty of this…we always save the best for others and leave none to ourselves, be it time, money, food, opportunities, dreams

Then one day when people we cared about left us, we became so empty, so depleted that we find it hard to carry on living our own lives

We ought to show the kids how one should live and not merely doing blindly, kept postponing own dreams for others …as this is truly not how I would like my kids to be so I will not do it myself

I like my kids to see their mom is still striving on my dreams while working towards fulfilling theirs ..

The end ..thx for reading!