Secret Regrets™

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2012-01-28T10:56:00.000-06:00

Do you have a regret about being doing something that has devastated your family or loved ones? A major national talk show is looking for Secret Regrets fans who would be willing to talk about your regret, and the impact it had on their families. If you are interested, email me at Kevin@SecretRegrets.com with your contact info and brief description of your regret. Thanks for helping us out!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 28, 2012

2012-01-28T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret missing the kids party this weekend. I should have been honest with you and told you that is is very difficult for me to be around kids when my husband and I have been trying to conceive for 10 months. I just didn't have the energy to pretend everything was ok. I have been having a very difficult time lately but I should not have been selfish and kept it to myself. But sometimes being honest out loud makes it that much truer and it's a truth I don't want to learn yet. I regret not calling you the day after to explain. But I'm tired of hearing myself. And sometimes I need the peace and quiet in life to keep me from going into a deep depression. Hope I speak to you soon and have no more regrets

35/female

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 27, 2012

2012-01-27T00:01:00.002-06:00

My secret regret is allowing my stammering prevent me from having my dream career and instead settling for something less, I wish i had more confidence

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 26, 2012

2012-01-26T00:01:00.000-06:00

About a month ago I stole a ring from my grandmother and sold it for a 50 bucks. It was easily worth quadruple that, but I just wanted cash fast. I wish I could go back and change what I did. But I cant. And I know I need to confess to my grandmother what I did, but I cant seem to find the courage.

I've made a lot of mistakes in my 22 years on this earth. I've stolen things from other people, but never from my family. Now I have to live with this weight on my shoulders. I wander if I will ever be able to tell my grandmom what I did?

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 25, 2012

2012-01-25T00:01:00.001-06:00

I don't regret marrying you. I don't regret loving you. I think I still love you, and in many ways I will always love you. I don't regret that for a second.

I don't regret that, as of today, we are almost assured to get a divorce. Not because I want it, but because it is inevitable. As our first kiss was inevitable, our first date, the first time we told each other we love the other, the first time we made love, that we devoted ourselves to each other, I don't regret it. I can't. It was inevitable.

I do regret that I couldn't be the one to help you through what you need to work through. I don't know how to reach you anymore, but you have things you need to work through, and I wasn't the one to do it. I failed, not because I didn't try, but because I wasn't enough to truly make you understand what you need to be in life. As much as you failed me, I failed you. The monetary debts you racked up, the bullshit friends you now have (and they are bullshit), the stupid job you have that you already know you weren't advanced in because you can't be trusted, I could have been the one to get you through it. I should be the one to get you through it. And I won't be. I regret that.

I've been smart enough to figure out so many things in life, but not this one thing that should be so simple.

M, 25

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 24, 2012

2012-01-24T00:01:00.000-06:00

My biggest regret... is being too afraid to get the help I need. Being too afraid to let the people closest to me, know that I am hurting, and I am not okay... Because everything has just gotten so much worse, and I don't know how long I can keep pretending to people.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 23, 2012

2012-01-23T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret that I totally and completely hate my life. I hate everything in it. I hate the way my kids turned out, hate my relationship with my husband, hate the career path I chose, hate how I look, hate my relationship with the rest of my family and hate that I have to be fake with my friends. Every day I think about getting in the car and driving away from my life. Every single day. I regret being born. I hate life.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 22, 2012

2012-01-21T00:03:00.000-06:00

I have very few regrets in life. However, I truly regret not pressing charges against the teacher who molested me when I was 14 years old. Only years later, when I was an adult, did I discover that he had molested many other students and athletes. I wish I had had the courage and strength to press charges. If I could go back and change it, I would. I wonder how many other young women suffered due to my lack of courage.
f/40

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 21, 2012

2012-01-21T00:01:00.000-06:00

regret letting myself be unhappy for over 11 years. You are not a bad man, but you're not the right man for me. I regret keeping you from being with someone that could've made you truly happy. I regret that now we have 3 kids that will forever be effected by the decision yet to be made. I don't regret having our 3 beautiful children, just that I can't protect them from the pain they are going to experience. I regret that I let peers get to me and talk me into marrying you almost 12 years ago. You are a wonderful man, but there is a better woman out there for you. I'm sorry....

Female, 34

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 20, 2012

2012-01-20T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret causing my family & friends so much pain, heartache & worry. I regret letting my eating disorder and depression take over my life and wasting about 6 years of my teenage life - the years which are supposed to be all about fun and friendship. Instead I spent them alone, starving myself, harming myself, & medicating myself with alcohol & drugs. I regret all the times I woke up In ICU, all the terrible phone calls my parents received from hospitals/police/worried friends. I regret trying to kill myself. I regret losing my first baby when I was 18 weeks pregnant, which I believe was a result of all the years of abuse on my body.

Today, I am so glad to be alive, healthy, happy, have an amazing husband and new baby son, all because I have turned my life around.

Female/21

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 19, 2012

2012-01-19T00:01:00.000-06:00

In looking back in time, why could I not see you as the blessing that had been given to me. At the time, seemed like there was all the time in the world. Guess I thought I could just pick up where I'd left off. I didn't realize that you were growing up and becoming a man. Wish I could go back, and know the things that I know now. I know you are the one of my children that needed me the most. Why couldn't I see that the things that I was living for, were just not that important. The grief tears my heart from end to end. All the things I missed, not getting to see you grow up. Now you are married and the father of your own children. Now you are facing your second deployment, to a place where there is talk of war being a huge possibility. If you are reading this. Just realize that your children are you. Hold them, love them and teach them all of the things that you can. Realize that you only have today. We have no promise of a tomorrow. If you waste this blessed opportunity on selfish things. One day in the not to distant future, the past will be a ghost that you cannot get rid of. It will follow you to your grave. I should know. I live with it daily.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 18, 2012

2012-01-18T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not really getting to know you while you were alive. I wish I could take back all those times I was mad at you over something stupid and trivial and we didn't talk for a week. I would give anything for a chance to talk to you for five minutes now. You died too young, Momma. I wasn't ready. I never thought you wouldn't be in my life. There are so many stories that I am trying hard to remember. I regret not marking everything you said to me down in my heart. The kids miss you. I miss you.

Female/36

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 17, 2012

2012-01-17T00:01:00.004-06:00

I regret that I loved you for so long.You were not worthy of it.You abused drugs , cheated , lied and hurt so many people.Still after your death I love you. You died of a drug overdose. You left me with a daughter to raise . You rarely spent time with us. I saw in you all the great things you could be and all the goodness in you, but you chose to run with users and whores. You used me and those that loved you and I'm hurt and angry. You didn't know what you had when you had it. Still I love you even in death.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 16, 2012

2012-01-16T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret becoming a mother. I have three sons and they have all grown up to be disrespectful, self-entitled, selfish, unproductive, takers. I didn't think that was the role-model I was presenting as a single, working mother who never took a dime from either of their fathers. But I did something, maybe everything wrong, because I truly can't stand to be in the same room with any of my boys. Sometimes I remember back when they were babies and toddlers and how much I loved them, they were my blessings. Now, I'm 53 and have a broken heart that feels like a huge black aching hole.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 15, 2012

2012-01-15T00:01:00.003-06:00

I regret not telling you that I love you. I wished I had the courage to tell you. But I was afraid of what my family would think. Now I heard you from your brother that you joined the Air force because you feel that there is nothing left for you here. I wish I told you before you joined. Now I might not see you again because you said you weren't coming back. I will never be able to tell you how I feel. I love you Kevin and I am sorry I never told you.

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SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 14, 2012

2012-01-14T00:01:00.000-06:00

i regret going with you last night because no matter how much i pushed away and said no and even though we didn't actually have sex you still got what you wanted out of me i still felt used and disgusted and then you laughed when i had a panic attack. i regret not telling you how much i hate you.i regret not listening to my friend when he tried to get me to stay away. but most of all, i regret that i will probably call you again.

female 19

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 13, 2012

2012-01-13T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not taking the opportunity to kill myself when I had the rationality, freedom and sense to do it. I regret playing with the idea, mentally and physically instead of weighing out the pro's and con's and realising I have no real option. Now, because of my procrastination, I am stuck in a limbo of life waiting to get any independence back, following the rules until they think I'm sane enough to spend a minute, an hour alone. I regret ever existing and ever wasting their time.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 12, 2012

2012-01-12T00:01:00.000-06:00

Can 3 months turn into 13 years that mutates and folds and shimmies itself into a 30 year regret?
Yep.
Can it be possible that the impossibility of hurting your partner would keep you plugging away? Smiling, raising children, attending dinner parties and birthday parties and folding laundry and filling the tank with gas on Sundays ? Your smile has become something you consciously wear, like a stiff cotton shirt.
Maybe you tried to leave a few times.
Maybe you met someone with whom you knew you could be happier .
Maybe you verbalized how unhappy you were to your husband and that maybe you'd like to move on and he...
fell apart.

And you just can't take that.
He's been so loving and kind and he loves you.

You are a lovely, golden , handcuffed hostage who's responsibility is to be loyal to those that love you most.

Maybe you met another man.
You had desperately wanted to try a relationship and he knew you were married and he could " never be a home wrecker " so , finally , he just started ignoring you.
Of course, nothing happened between the two of you except chemistry and flirtation and, in the end , anger and even MORE regret because now you just feel like you were being pursued , used and discarded because you're a " good girl" and that wouldn't be the right way to end a relationship or start another one. And honestly, why not just ignore me? I'm married and texting me and teasing me was just what I asked for , right? No harm done, no real damage... Just go on back to your life like a good wife.

And so the regret creeps in of taking care of someone else's feelings ,
everyone else s feelings ,
And the stupidity of wanting something, someone , so badly, who never had any intention of wanting more than an amusement.

And now so much time has passed and there's nowhere to go and I feel utterly broken and exhausted

Cue dryer - cycle
Cue empty gas tank,
Cue added birthday candles,
Smile.

My biggest regret is my loyalty.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 11, 2012

2012-01-11T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret only one thing- not telling my best friend that her husband suggested that we have an affair. I have done a lot of stupid things, but that is the only thing that I regret. I knew that no matter what happened my friendship with her would be over (even though nothing happened) and I chose the easy way out. She deserved to know what her 'perfect' husband was up to.

31, F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 10, 2012

2012-01-10T00:01:00.001-06:00

I regret not putting up a fence around my spa. I regret my 22 month daughter drowning while I assumed she was playing with her 6 year old sister. I regret not watching her every second of the day. I regret not taking more photos of her. I regret losing the photos I had. I regret not filling out a baby book about her first tooth, step, word, food etc. I regret giving her tough love instead of hugging her to sleep. I regret telling her to go play with her sister while I tried to do house work. I regret the CPR not working. But now I regret Christmas and taking out my pain on my other kids. I regret being sad and snappy to my other kids. I regret saying yes that day to having them, when my X was supposed to. I regret pretending I'm strong to the world when really I am a fraud.

Share your Secret Regret on a major national talk show!

2012-01-09T07:44:00.000-06:00

I was contacted by a network producer looking for Secret Regrets fans who want to share their regret-related story. This could be your chance to get help, and help others as well! Email me at Kevin@SecretRegrets.com with your contact info along with a brief description of your regret. They are looking for stories about family/relationship/conflict regrets, regrets about keeping or revealing a secret, or other heartfelt regret stories to share with their national audience. Thanks so much for considering this!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 9, 2012

2012-01-09T00:01:00.001-06:00

My ignorance has served me a life sentence with you, and that I will always regret. If i could keep my identity as Anonymous I'd leave you, and start again, fresh and unknown to the world. I hate my life, but so many others desire it. If only they knew how gladly I'd trade my cage for freedom.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 8, 2012

2012-01-08T10:08:00.000-06:00

My secret regret is not telling my family that i am HIV positive. I am missing out on their support but I cannot stand the look of disappointment they will have if I tell them this....

Cool anti-bullying project!

2012-01-07T12:55:00.000-06:00

My daughter just completed this collage about bullying for her high-school class project, featuring headlines from current magazine articles. Items on the left represent the negative aspects of bullying, and items on the right represent positive ways and ideas and attitudes to overcome bullying. So proud of her!!!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 7, 2012

2012-01-07T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret letting you bully me every day, and being too humble to tell anyone. I regret not asking my math teacher for help because I'm too proud

Most of all, I regret the day I just stopped caring.

Female, 13