Secret Regrets™

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 26, 2012

2012-02-26T00:22:00.000-06:00

I regret giving myself permission to feel attraction for a man who isn't my husband. I thought the attraction was harmless - that I'd enjoy the feeling, maybe channel the energy it gave me into other areas of my life - but attraction is addictive, and it's toxic. I can't stop thinking about him. Now I feel lonely whenever I'm with my husband.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 25, 2012

2012-02-25T00:16:00.000-06:00

I regret not leaving my 30 year marriage before I ended up having an affair. I hate even saying the word. Im happier now then when i was married but I will never get over what I did. I know God forgave me but it was very hard to forgive myself. No matter what reasons I had or no matter how bad my marriage was, I should have left first.. before meeting someone. The only thing I can do now is learn from it, help others not make the same mistake, and become a better person.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 24, 2012

2012-02-24T00:13:00.000-06:00

SRE (SRP) - I regret that I still hate you so much for helping to ruin my family. I think about telling your husband (TLE) on a daily basis, telling his Mom K, his twin B, but I don't want to hurt your son like you helped hurt my two. Btw, he was with AM, Jenny, AG, and more. You were never special, you were just the only one stupid enough to leave her marriage for him. F/26

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 23, 2012

2012-02-23T00:09:00.000-06:00

i regret lying to myself about who i am, and keeping who i am from others. i am a bisexual, and as a catholic it is extremely frowned upon. i love God, and i love my religon, but i want to be accepted. i know that God has better plans for me after i die, but i can't wait that long. i need my friends, my family, and even my boyfriend to know so i can start LIVING being me, and everyone knowing it. my boyfriend deserves to know, and i know he wouldn't leave me, but i am so ashamed because his family is so traditionalized and he grew up 'the straight way' strict. my friends are unpredictable, i don't know how they would react to me liking both girls, and guys. and my family....well....they are the most judgemental people i know, and they have caused me to have major insecurities. only a select few know about who i truely am, and they all say 'be honest' about it, but how can you be honest about something you haven't even been honest with yourself about for so many years? i am in love with my boyfriend, and plans are being made for a future together. we have been together for so long, and so is it worth telling the world about? i will only be judged because of it. around here, if your not straight, your dirt. i already know i'll be with a man for the rest of my life, so why do i regret about not being honest about my sexuality? have i not been fully honest with myself and secretly desire to be with a woman instead of the boyfriend i am soon to call my fiance? i regret not knowing.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 22, 2012

2012-02-22T00:06:00.000-06:00

My dad has been caught before looking at porn. My mom found him watching it. It was at the time my mom and i moved out from my dads because of other reasons. We moved back in last feb. 2011. Things are okay, i guess.. they haven't always been great but my dad hasn't logged off his account on his computer a couple of times and i have looked in his history, I DID NOT EXPECT TO FIND THESE SITES for porn. I am so disappointed in him, i hate him. I can't believe he would do this again, knowing how mad she would be if she found out. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, should i tell my mom? should i confront my dad? make him come clean? my brother told me not to before. but she is my best friend and my mom. HELP

f/16 years old.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 21, 2012

2012-02-21T00:03:00.000-06:00

G, you lived near me for 3 years, not very far away. You worked with my friend. You were the most amazing, gorgeous, inspirational, beautiful guy I have ever seen in my life. And now you are no longer here and I regret that I did nothing about that. I could have and I should have because it is too late for me, and you now. I love you and will regret that always. RIP

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 20, 2012

2012-02-20T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret losing my virginity to a guy that i didn't care about. I wish i had been stronger and less stupid and should had walk out of the situation before it all got out of hand. I regret going out on that friday night and i regret meeting you. You are no good to me and i wished i knew the moment i walked into your house. I regret feeling this pleasure in such a meaningless way and trading my body for curiosity and carelessness. I regret not seeing more value in myself, and not being focused on the things that i had in front of me. I wished I hadn't been so stupid, and feeling so depressed about it now that I can't even function probably. I regret disobeying my God who was there for me from the start. I hope that one day he could forgive me and i could find a way to forgive myself.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 19, 2012

2012-02-19T00:01:00.000-06:00

My biggest regret in my life is neglecting my wife. Because I neglected her and we had no romance in our relationship or passion we have separated and I have currently lost her to another man. If I could go back in time for just 1 minute I would have slapped myself off the couch and told myself to talk more with her about our problems and grow some balls to get what I needed from work to take care of my family. I regret this everyday and I hope she and I work this out.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 18, 2012

2012-02-18T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret that you died instead of me. Every time i experience something that you didn't get to it hurts. You weren't there for my wedding or my divorce. For the birth of your two nieces. My older one, she knows your picture and that you're up in heaven. I wish that she knew YOU. I was 13 and Mom kept telling me that it should have been me that died. That she would rather have you than me. It has stuck with me all these years.. I can't ever forget that and I feel the same. I regret that I don't appreciate my life enough. I miss you so much big brother.

F26

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 17, 2012

2012-02-17T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not walking away from you after your husband found out that we had slept together. You are a married woman and i was a woman in a struggling relationship. I could see that you were so torn and confused, but i had fallen in love with you. I Regret the pain i have brought to your family and to "him". I will never regret you. The other women i have been with cannot compare to the passion i felt with you. You said i was your poison and in many ways i was. i hope you can forgive me.

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2012-02-16T12:31:00.000-06:00

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SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 16, 2012

2012-02-16T00:01:00.001-06:00

My biggest regret is not treating her like the Navajo princess I used to call her. She deserved a lot more than what I gave her. I hit rock bottom and took her with me. I made a beautiful woman feel insecure and feel she would never be enough. I let her down, my kids down, and I let down my family and friends. I lied to her and to myself. I gave someone else a chance to steal her heart.

I broke someone who was most precious to me, and now I spend every day trying to help repair her and show her how much she truly means to me. As much as it hurts to know I may not be her first choice and her heart may be with someone else, I’m still not going to give up. I’ve grown so much in the last two years and learned a lot. I hope and pray one day she’ll see me for who I am now and not for who I was.

I love you Cathy,

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 15, 2012

2012-02-15T00:41:00.001-06:00

I regret ending my first significant romantic relationship on bad terms. I had the option to leave things peacefully, but I allowed myself to speak from a place of anger. Several years have passed but I still regret this choice. Cutting someone off and acting like it never happened is not only rough on them - it is rough on your heart and I wouldn't make this decision again.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 14, 2012

2012-02-14T00:01:00.001-06:00

I regret never trying to get you back after the two years we were together. I regret sending you that text message saying things were to stressful. I regret walking out of those doors and coming back home because I didn't realize that would be last kiss I ever got to give you. I regret not fighting harder, and not being honest about the way I really felt. I regret not giving us our space that we needed and I regret not become close with your family until things were over. I regret not doing things the right way, and letting everything get out of control based on a stupid misunderstanding. I regret not telling you I'm sorry, not trusting you, not being there all the time, and not being able to open up because I was afraid. I love you, and I regret saying you were a regret. I hope I get you back one day. Until then, I'll live with my regret.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 13, 2012

2012-02-13T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret being pulled into the hype of the internet in 8th grade. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, but I think that was my biggest. Instead of being out with friends or enjoying life, I spent everyday inside on the computer talking to people I didn't know. I met men and almost left my home with a 19 year old run away because I thought I was "in love" at 14. I could have been killed. I'm glad my mom called the police before he could get back on that Greyhound bus headed for my state. I was really scared.

17/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 12, 2012

2012-02-12T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not have the strength to jump. Things would be a lot simpler if I had just finished things then and there. I would not be left having to grieve over you and I would not be so overcome with regret and guilt. I regret feeling this way and despising you. I regret being jealous that you are gone and I regret hating you for leaving me here, even though I was going to do the same. My biggest regret is not telling you how sorry I am while I had the chance. Rest in peace baby, I love you with all my heart and I still pray for you daily and thinking of you every second, I miss you xo.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 11, 2012

2012-02-11T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret that I couldn't fix him. It hurts even more knowing that he is "fixed" for her, from what I hear. She knows what he did to me, and she doesn't believe me. My ex told me his g/f assaulted him, and at the time I believed that, and being out now I realize that wasn't true. Now I am sure he is going around telling people I abused him, but why did he hurt me in the first 2 months of the relationship? After 7 months I finally left. Why is she with him for 6 months now and nothing has happened? Why did a night in jail change him? I hear abusers never change, but from what I hear, he has. I guess I regret ever telling her about him because she has a big head thinking it won't happen to her, and she thinks I'M the bad one. I regret buying all of his lies because looking on the outside, I know that's all he does, so why hasn't he hurt her yet – and why doesn't she believe me? I just want them apart and for her to see him for what he really is. But as of now he has changed. And I would do ANYTHING to go back to him.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 10, 2012

2012-02-10T00:01:00.001-06:00

I'm 16 years old, I'm a guy and I'm in love with another guy. I regret not doing what my heart wanted me to do, I regret from not giving him the chance to love me, I regret from not listening to my heart, so this boy has a girlfriend now and it hurts like hell. I regret not building up the relationship he wanted to build. The only reason why I said no to him was because of my parents and family, but I did not realize that my happiness counts too, and now I'm feeling really miserable and lonely.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 9, 2012

2012-02-09T00:02:00.000-06:00

My biggest regret is staying with my husband after he had an emotional affair with one of his co-workers. If he had just slept w/her I'm sure it would be easier to "deal with". The fact that he shared my deepest darkest secret w/her, was / is such huge betrayal. I wish I had the strength to leave him...

There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about the "other" woman. I was inches from her a few weeks ago and she didn't even notice. How can you break up someone's home that way and have no remorse.

Due to the current economic situation, I can't afford to leave. It hurts so much every day, to look at the man who "loves me" knowing that I have no feelings form him and no way out.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 8, 2012

2012-02-08T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret everyday meeting you online. I regret even more lying to you about who I was because I was to ashamed to be me. I regret sending you pictures of girls who were prettier, skinnier, and better than I could ever hope to be. I regret the 5 YEARS I have led you on. I regret telling you I had to move to Norway which is why I could never see you. I regret you being the first and only person I have ever fallen in love with. I regret not being honest because sometimes I think we were meant to be together. I regret that everyday I think about you, even though you now know I'm a liar and fraud. I regret not being the one to tell you, but instead you finding out my lies. I regret that still, I try to tell you I am who I'm not. I regret that because of you, I can't love anyone else. I regret that this is my biggest regret.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 7, 2012

2012-02-07T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret NOT regretting that we let our friendship get as intimate and deep as it did. I am a married woman and sometimes I wonder if I regret getting married. All I know is, you were always around...an acquaintance on the fringe of my friends...and then BOOM. You and I became so close, so quickly. We are "best friends." A man and a woman who are secretly in love with each other and so obviously attracted to each other it is ridiculous. Meanwhile my husband accepts our friendship and is gracious about it. Would I be so gracious if his best friend was a woman that he spent so much time with? I cannot help the simple fact that I am, after 2 years of being your best friend, in love with you. I hate myself for it. What would I change if I could? Would I have stayed single? Would I have ignored the beginning of a beautiful and deep friendship? I regret not knowing the answer. I regret this constant heartache. I regret being in love with two men.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 6, 2012

2012-02-06T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not helping a girl who was being bullied. Last year during school, I witnessed a girl get bullied to the point of sobbing, screaming, and throwing things at the tormentors outside. The teachers had to have heard or seen it happening, but they did nothing, and neither did anyone else. They just watched it go down. I had wanted to be her friend for a while, and I knew she had been bullied a lot before. I will always regret not trying to stop them or for not trying to comfort her. I can't imagine having something like that happening to me with so many people watching, only to have them do nothing. It still upsets me when I think of it. I'm so sorry.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 5, 2012

2012-02-05T00:01:00.000-06:00

People have always told me not to live your life in regrets. Though unfortunately I have a handful that I forever will carry with me. I would like to share here my regrets in allowing my crippling social anxiety to prevent me from ever having the balls to share my voice. I have been singing and writing music since I was about 7 years old, but once public school choir ended, I've been too afraid of the world to come out of my soul and share. I regret that though my body aches to stretch my vocal chords, the thought of standing before an audience makes my brains want to splatter within my skull. Maybe one day this will change, but for now it is just an awful regret.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 4, 2012

2012-02-04T00:01:00.000-06:00

I'm not sure which I regret more...loving you or leaving you. At 14 years old, I met you, became involved with you, and fell in love. 13 years later, we've been married, and now divorced. I can't stop thinking about the way we left everything and how bad these last few months have been. After hearing stories of your lies, cheating, drug abuse, and many other things, I know that I am better off not being your wife. That doesn't make it hurt any less. I haven't seen or spoken to you since that day in court, but I wish I could every single day. I miss you terribly. I miss little things you'd say to me, corny jokes you'd make. I don't understand why I still care, but I do. I sincerely hope that you'll find yourself someday, get help for the drugs, learn to be honest with yourself and those you care about. I will never stop loving you, despite the wrongs you've done me. I only wish that I could be at peace with the end of our marriage.
27/f

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: February 3, 2012

2012-02-03T00:01:00.000-06:00

I regret not fighting to save my baby...

I regret giving up on him before he even had a chance. I regret not being the kind of mother who would have been able handle his disabilities. I regret drinking every day before I found out I was pregnant...maybe it was the alcohol that caused all his disabilities. I feel guilty that I was relieved when he died. I regret making the decision to end his life. I regret being relieved when they told me there was no heartbeat because I felt like the decision was already made for me... I regret not fighting to see him "after", or demanding to keep the "remains", I regret with all my heart that I didn't get to bury my son because I didn't think about it at the time, I was so numb. I regret allowing him to be discarded as medical waste. I regret that I let strangers throw him away.I regret not holding him for the first or last time. I regret that I never felt him moving inside me. I regret naming my second child with the same name we had picked out for you. only you. (I still think it's funny how I found out I was pregnant with my second child on the day you were supposed to be born) I regret that in a way I kind of justified your passing because if I had you, I wouldn't have gotten pregnant with the perfect, healthy child I have now. I regret pushing you into the back of my heart because I don't know how to deal with the loss of you. I still think about you, and I want you to know that your Daddy and I wanted you so bad. We planned for you, prayed for you, and we were so happy when we found out we were going to have you... I'm sorry we gave up on you...we knew we weren't strong enough to go through caring for a disabled child... I wonder if that is why you left this world before the day they took you out... because you knew we didn't fight for you? I'm so sorry. I just wish I got to hold you at least once... F/26