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Now You Can Stop Your Break Up, Divorce or Lovers Rejection…Even If Your Situation Seems Absolutely Dire or Hopeless!

2013-01-02T16:30:00.000Z

Crash.....Bang! and then the sound of your Music system being thrown into a glass of the 3RD storey apartment window....followed by a ear piercing shrill and sobbing "GET OUT....GET OUT OF HERE NOW!"

If you hadn't of guessed already that was your significant other getting very angry about something you thought was long forgotton, or a situation that was just boiling beneath the surface and a chance remark or gesture that was swung it against your favor.

And he did go out the front door, since your partner was making this very serious threat, she had had enough of being taken for granted, and waiting on him hand and foot, although he was a good person she felt undervalued and under loved, he loved her very much but could not work out how to make her happy anymore, in spite of many attempts to make her happy, he didn't know how to wipe the slate clean....or just start over....

And this was the end for both of them...forever.....As is the case for so many other relationships....especially after we encounter the festive seasons, when patience is at a premium.

But what if it doesn't have to be like that ?

What if you could regain and recapture your ex-lovers Heart, Mind and Soul? Wipe the slate clean completely ? Even if you feel right now that your situation is hopeless and too far gone to be salvaged, or even just to damn complicated ?

I think we all know how difficult it is to wake up and fall out of bed in the morning, you never turn the radio on, just in case any song reminds you of your ex, and to eat in any of the resturants fills your heart with dread and heartache, and then to top it all you have to contend with family and friends who have decided to take "their side".

If you are in pain and confused?

Here’s some good news…

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse…even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!
There is hope…

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it’s okay…let me ask?

Don’t you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?…or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here’s the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec…

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…
“Couples reunite every day REGARDLESS of the situation!”

Seriously, Doesn’t that make sense? That if most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together…under even some horrible circumstances…that there could be somehidden recipe, or secret even, to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love?

Now…I am not saying they were holding some “secret love spell” book and doing weird chants…not at all…at the same time somehow, by MOSTLY accident they said and did the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME…and won back the heart of their lover…or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.

Allow me to repeat…they did this by mostly ACCIDENT!

Imagine…

What if? What they said…and what they did…could be “bottled” so to speak? And then you could “unbottle” it and put it to use? To erase old hurts…to reignite passion again…to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting.
Yes…A Magic Love Recipe…in a sense…

You see there IS a “recipe for love” as well as a recipe for winning back and keeping some ones interest, desire, passion, heart and love…

What they did by “accident” can be repeated over and over on PURPOSE!

And you know what?

If I were you…I would be somewhat skeptical right now…that’s totally fine! I am going to show you some concrete proof. Just bear with me okay?
Do you have these symptoms?

-Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

-Loss of appetite

-Binge eating for comfort

-Calling your ex several times a day

-Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)

-Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

-Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

-Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

-Feeling massively depressed

-Feeling urges to spy on them

-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get a hold of them, it usually turns ugly because without a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? P-A-N-I-C…defensiveness…arguments…and then it gets really nasty.
Do you make these mistakes with your ex?

-We try to convince them we are the love of their life

-We will apologize profusely for everything

-Promise to change for good this time

-Try to get them to see that it wasn’t really our fault

-Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

Yeah?

And it is really a shame too because what could be more important than love?..Cars?…Money?…Clothes?…ALGEBRA?

So why? Are there all kinds of books, magazines and help on fixing a car,managing money and all the latest fashions, yet very little USEFUL information on how to fix a broken relationship…manage your emotions or getting the love of your life back?

Crazy huh?

Well I urge you to buy The Magic of Making Up, its absolutely key to the foundation to getting your ex-back, and who wants to be by themselves when you truly love you other twin flame, the love of your life, the person who you adore - over a petty argument or a stupid comment. There is always a compromise so do not feel you need to give up, just read and take action points with The Magic of Making Up.

Your both deserve a second chance.

Click Here!
The Magic of Making UP.

Carrots Eggs and Coffee - Food for the Soul

2012-10-09T12:14:00.004+01:00

Kind of makes you think what and how we get in some bad places, this video is extremely good and thru the use of the images and words, it gives you time to reflect on how you think you perceived your own reality.

- Please Click on the Link below - And do please leave comments below.

Carrots Eggs and Coffee

Flu and Trapped Emotions continued

2012-09-28T10:42:00.001+01:00

Dr. Bradley Nelson is a world renowned Energy Healer and
Author, a holistic chiropractic physician and medical
intuitive. He is one of the world's foremost experts in the
emerging fields of bioenergetic and energy psychology.

He has lectured internationally on the natural healing of
chronic illness, and has successfully treated patients from
across the US and Canada who were suffering from a wide
variety of chronic ailments.

His book, The Emotion Code, is a distinct and authoritative
work that is destined to become an instant classic on
self-healing. It is rapidly becoming the most popular book
ever written on Energy Psychology.

In his book you will learn:-

-That your Heart-wall could be keeping you from allowing
abundance, love and joy into your life

-Find out if you have a Heart-wall (93% of us do) and
learn how you can remove it quickly

-That no matter how hard you try to "force" the things
you desire into your life, all of that effort will be
wasted if your Heart-wall is blocking the way

-How to sweep clear your path of abundance so that the
life you desire will come to you effortlessly!

and a quote from Dr Bradley Nelson - Author of The Emotion Code

The Emotion Code

In The Emotion Code, renowned holistic physician and lecturer Dr. Bradley Nelson skillfully lays bare the inner workings of the subconscious mind. He reveals how emotionally-charged events from your past can still be haunting you in the form of “trapped emotions”; emotional energies that literally inhabit your body.

Dr. Nelson explains clearly and concisely how trapped emotions can create pain, malfunction and eventual disease. In addition, trapped emotions can exert a dramatic effect on how you think, the choices that you make, and how successful you will be.

Perhaps the most important discovery that Dr. Nelson has made is that trapped emotional energies will often gather around the heart, creating a “Heart-Wall” that may block you from giving and receiving love freely.

The Emotion Code is a powerful and simple way to rid yourself of unseen baggage. Releasing trapped emotions often results in the sudden disappearance of physical problems, self-sabotage, and recurring relationship difficulties.

Filled with real-world examples from many years of clinical practice, The Emotion Code is a distinct and authoritative new work that is destined to become an instant classic on self-healing.

The Emotion Code has been created to give you new insight, to show you how trapped emotions can cause all kinds of problems, and give you the means to release them. You can take your life back, enjoy better health, and finally be free from the insidious and subtle forces that trapped emotions are exerting upon you.

    It has been a goal of mine for many years to teach people how to balance their own bodies and improve their own health as far as it lies within their power to do so. The Emotion Code is helping to fulfil this dream of mine. It is my sincere hope that you will read it and learn the powerful yet simple healing methods that I teach, put them into practise, and improve your own health and the health of your loved ones.

    I believe that each of us has a destiny to fulfil, and a mission to perform while we are sojourning on this earth. Illness can stop us in our tracks, and prevent us from living the life we could be living. It is a sacred calling to help those who are ill to recover, not only because of themselves. There is a ripple effect that occurs when someone is healed. Their life, lived fully, touches many others, and can spread out through time and space to eternity. Some of the greatest satisfactions in my life come from teaching people just like you, bringing out the healer in them, practising the healing art myself, and experiencing the joy that comes from helping others to be well.

    God bless you on your journey to getting well and becoming the healer you are inside.

    All the Best!
unquote

Here is interview on how Dr Nelson Bradley got the idea, and tells us the method he employs in removing the effects of trapped Emotions.

Hope you enjoy

Flu and Trapped Emotions

2012-09-27T16:09:00.000+01:00

Flu....or Influenza A (H1N1) is a subtype of influenza A virus. H1N1 strains have caused a minor percentage of all human flu infection in 2005-2005. Other strains of H1N1 are endemic in pig (otherwise known as Swine Influenza) and birds (avian influenza).

Now what is an effective prevention, or cure if you have this particular illness.Could this particular illness be caused by a Trapped Emotional problem.In other words could an incident in your past that deeply troubled you, which in turn caused emotional pattern which never got resolved and this in some way compromised your immune system.

Let me introduce you to Dr Bradley Nelson, he wrote a book called The Emotion Code and is a self-help method that is quite often produces positive results and has wonderful benefits, both physical and emotional in nature.

What is a Trapped Emotion ?

How would we cope in this world with our emotion's ? If the sum total of all our experiences makes up your tapestry of your life, it is the emotions that you have experience that give you the rich meaning to your life.

Our Emotions really do give colour to our lives, what would our lives be if we didn't have an instrument to measure the highs and lows of what we hear,feel,see,taste,smell - it wouldn't be a life as we know it - a bland experience, almost robotic, without depth or sense of being - no arguments, no love, no hopes, no fears. It would be senseless to exist.

Much of our suffering though is due to negative emotional energy that has become 'trapped' within us. The Emotion Code is a simple and powerful method of find and releasing these trapped energies.

A number of people have found that when they free themselves of these trapped emotions they are able to live healthier and happier lives. One single trapped emotion can create both a physical and emotional problem.

For instance if you cannot move beyond your angry moment, or a temporary bout with grief and depression, this negative emotional energy can remain with our body, potentially causing significant physical and emotional stress.

Most people are amazed to find out that their ''emotional baggage'' is more literal than they had imagined. Trapped emotions actually consist of well defined energies that have a shape and form. Although they are not visible, they are very real.

This will be continued in a future blog post.

PSTEC - Breakthrough Therapy Revealed and its Free........!!!!!!

2012-08-30T14:53:00.001+01:00

Use This For Your Fears, Stress, Phobias, PTSD, Anxiety, Resentment, Compulsions, Depression, Confidence, etc.

How does PSTEC work?

A short explanation by Tim Phizackerley (Creator of PSTEC™) Understanding how PSTEC works is not necessary in order to get results. Most people will discover it works anyway and this can be determined by using the free process. This explanation is given mostly for therapists who want to understand why so many people find PSTEC so devastatingly effective.

How Does It Feel and What Is It?
Well of course when you try this for yourself you'll discover exactly what it's like and also how it works for you. Essentially though, your free therapy system was inspired by the Nobel prize winning research of Ivan Petrovitch Pavlov. His research related to conditioning responses by means of repetition. By mixing in sound and suggestion in a very particular way, a totally new form of therapy was created, and this is what you're getting.
As you can see this has really amazed a lot of people so expect success. What does it do for you? PSTEC is designed to target any of your unwanted emotions in order to remove them. Remember, you can use this for free so grab this chance to feel different.

You Can Use This For All Of The Following AND MUCH MORE:
- Phobias and Fears
- Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Anger and resentment
- Stress
- Confidence
- Unresolved grief
- Post Traumatic Stress
- Depression
- Nightmares
- Panic attacks
- Consequences of abuse
- Obsessions
- Behavioural Addictions
- Compulsions
- Self Hatred
- Low self esteem
- Jealousy and guilt - Work or health related anxieties
- etc...
I cannot stress enough how good this is, its a free download and has a lot more to offer.

Just try it on any negative feeling and thought, the key is to focus on your problem whilst doing these click and tap exercise. Also listen to some of the stories that are on his Tims website.

founder of PSTEC Tim Phizackerley Website here

Applied Kinesiology continued

2012-08-24T15:00:00.000+01:00

As previous to my article regarding Bruce Lipton and Rob Williams, I am expanding the subject matter so that everyone can understand a little of what is actually going on within the field of Kinesiology.

With Applied Kinesiology technique this provides feedback on the functional status of the human body, it is a system that evaluates structural chemical and mental aspects of health by using a method as manual muscle testing.

A manual muscle test in Applied Kinesiology is carried out by having the person resist using a particular muscle or muscle goups while the practioner applied some force. A smooth response is referred to as a strong muscle, and a response that was not appropriate is called a weak muscle.

Applied Kinesiology is not regarded by mainstream science as being a sound scientific tool as its been criticized on theoretical and empirical grounds. But Bruce Lipton a former Cellular Biologist has given his brief on how our minds and thought act out and clearly his version, when heard, appears to be on the forefront of the newly established science.

The most fantastic point in all this is from the quantum science aspect, which many people buy into, and that is that all matter is NOT - in other words we all belong to the non-material world. Material Structures moulded by some unseen force from trillions and trillions of atoms. Now as human beings, it’s believed that we are made up of 5 trillion atoms......now that’s a lot. So what is going on here? I would urge those of you who have any whim of curiosity to view Bruce Lipton’s and Rob Williams’s video.

In this world of ours, governed by a few megalomaniacs, we the people deserve to know the truth, we have lived in the dark for too long and faced hardships when those in control could have changed the fortunes for all, but chose to go down the path of destruction, and segregation. For as long as we bury our heads in this pop culture, do we all want to wake up to find we are part of the 1984 oppressed society. I clearly hope we don't go down this road of quiet desperation wishing we could have done something to alter the future for our children, our country, and indeed this world. Mother Earth has been ravaged by sheer greed, alternative energy which is free and cures for cancer been suppressed, so that those in control Gas and Pharmaceuticals companies can gorge themselves senseless on our feeble attempt at creating a decent life.

How many laws does it take for us to suddenly realise that our liberties have been taken, how many more countries have to take an invasion, how many people does is take for them to realise our finances are all awry.

Think honestly, just because we pay taxes doesn't make it right - we in this country (UK) pay 8.2 billion in aid to foreign countries, 13 billion to the European Union. Ask the question, when you have poverty in this country, and the government doesn't invest in jobs or careers - who should take the blame. Charity starts at home and that applies to all countries. We are all capable of managing our own affairs, we have to, so why do we entrust those in power to make decisions on our behalf. We are more moral, we are more capable. We are all exceptional human beings; we want what is best for our planet, our children, and our elderly. So whilst I’ve ranted on about what's unjust we need to take on more power for each and every one of us. Don't surrender your power to those who clearly don’t deserve it. Celebrate and be strong.

To get what we want just listen to what Rob Williams has to say. Your get the picture.

Be Happy

2012-08-15T16:15:00.001+01:00

Happy as You Want to Be

Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

I include this very long video which explores the aspect of why we create our own miseries and misfortunes, I beg you to watch this video as new information from a Professor of Cellular Biology Bruce Lipton has exposed the inner working of our cells and how we piece together our reality and how we sabotage our efforts through neglect of our sub-conscious drive.

Did you know that our conscious minds operates at about 2000 bits a second......

But did you know our sub-conscious minds operates at at 4 Billions bits per second.......

Who wins everytime.........a No-Brainer (a bad pun !!!)

Also there is a quick and easy way to eradicate bad programmes in our subconscious minds by Rob Williams - and install good ones.....Excellent video

Please Enjoy.

Stress Management In A Relationship

2012-08-14T09:26:00.000+01:00

Handling Relationship Stress

Stress management is part and parcel of growing in a relationship. This is an inevitable part of any relationship such that you need to learn how to effectively overcome them and enjoy the companionship of your partner.

There are several causes of stress in a relationship, regardless of what type of relationship might that be. The difficulty of this undertaking is even more complicated knowing that an individual is engaged in different relationships at one time. Relationship could be with your family, siblings, parents, friends or acquaintances, officemates, and your partner.

Below are some stress management tips you need to learn about if you wanted to develop healthier relationships with these people in your life.

Analyze the Cause

The most important step in dealing with stress in a relationship is to analyze the cause. Some people might not even be aware of relationship stress since it is overshadowed by some other pressures in life. You must therefore accept and acknowledge the presence of stress before you can do something about it.

Do not put off solving problems that are causing stress in your relationship. This will only make the problem worse. Recognizing stress will enable you to identify a solution.

Talk With Your Partner

Another effective step towards stress management in a relationship is to talk it out with the person/s concerned. Constant communication will enable you to get rid of stress that you encounter on a day to day basis. In some cases, stress in a relationship is not directly rooted from it but only comes as an effect of some other sources of stress, such as in the workplace or school. Unless you talk it out, you will only make the person you're in that relationship with feel guilty or doubt themselves.

Attitude Changes

Once you trace the cause of stress and you have opened up about it to your partner, you can never make the necessary changes to your attitude or the way you deal with things that concern you both.

If you feel like a certain attitude of yours is the root of stress or problems within the relationship, then work on changing them. Only you can control your own behavior; hence, you need to take the initiative to do so. For example, if you tend to be a nagger towards your husband or boyfriend, then why not consider listening to what they have to say first instead of saying harsh responses to them. In the case of parent-children tension, why not consider changing how you approach your relationship? Parents can start by befriending their kids instead of scolding them often and inspiring rebellious behaviors.

Developing a Fresh Perspective in a Relationship

Dealing with a hectic schedule and lifestyle can take its toll on both your mind and body. So, you need to stop for a while and reconsider your priorities to have a change of perspective. When you are too busy, you often forget about some other important things in life, such as your relationship with your family or partner. They tend to become your last priority, when in fact they should be on top.

Remember all of the above considerations to facilitate an effective stress management approach in your relationships.

A home remedy to stop snoring - throat and tongue exercise!

2012-06-23T16:53:00.000+01:00

Recent reports on health relate snoring to chronic daily headache. It is because people who snore are either deeply bothered by it or is bothering other people. When a person snores, he could experience getting up in the middle of the night because of his own noise. And since sleep is the only time when the body recharges for new energy, sleepless nights can cause a lousy next day. Unable to rest well can also result to chronic headaches.

Because snoring already affects the health, it must be given remedy before its effects worsen. There are simple and easy to follow exercises which can help reduce or eradicate snoring. In view of the fact that snoring is an involuntary motion of the muscles in the throat, conditioning of these muscles while still awake will control its movement when already asleep. This practice could be done in place of medications and other treatments.

The tongue and throat exercises must be practiced regularly for a period of time until snoring is totally wiped out in your system. The exercises that will be revealed should be repeated for up to five times, twice in every day.

The first step should be opening and closing the mouth. This must be done to the full extent like when you’re shouting to the utmost and closing the mouth with lips tightly meeting each other.

The next mouth position is crease your lips as if you are about to kiss or when pointing at something else without utterance. Hold on to this position for about ten counts and then relax.

And then extend your lips into that big, big smile. Exaggerate it to as much as your lips can reach. Hold on to that position for another ten counts. Again, relax.

Repeat the procedures 2 and 3. Pucker, hold, smile and hold. Do this for another set of ten counts.

With your mouth wide open, pucker without closing your jaws. Hold on to that position and relax after ten counts.

To counteract that, press your lips tightly together. For the same counts, hold.

Follow that step by making a slurping sound just like when you are sipping your juice. Firmly, stay on that position with your lips closed.

Then, stick out the tongue the way kids do. But hold it straight out to your mouth, restricting it from moving to sides. Hold and relax. While pointing straight ahead, try to reach a farther distance each try. Repeat this step several times.

Try to reach the corners of your mouth by sticking out your tongue. Hold it in each corner and relax. Repeat for several times.

Using the tip of your tongue, try to reach your chin to the farthest extension that you can get. Hold.

Stick out your tongue, in and out of your mouth repeatedly and as fast as possible.

Flick out your tongue to the corners of your mouth. Then repeat this with more speed.

Finally, move your tongue in a circling manner. Make sure that your tongue is in contact with the lips.

This throat and tongue exercises will stretch and contract the tissues and palate in the throat. Thus, you can be relieved from snoring. The exercise can last from ten to fifteen minutes. It’s good to try it at home and can be as effective as the chemical medications! A diligent practice can help you get rid of headaches.

Finding the Right Body Detox Product to make you Clean Inside

2012-06-23T16:50:00.000+01:00

Are you 100 percent sure about it?

All of us are exposed to a host of chemicals and deadly toxins on a regular daily basis. Even though you may think that you are leading a healthy lifestyle, you are still subjected to many toxins that is found everywhere, even in your own homes. Toxins can be found in the water we drink, the food we eat and the air we breathe. We can not just totally eliminate those factors as those are the essential things we need to survive.

With the advent of medical science and the many discoveries in medicines, man has found ways to prolong life and eliminate painful symptoms that many diseases carry, but these same pharmaceutical drugs can leave traces of toxins in our body. Plus, sedatives and stimulants that we take do the same job as well, polluting our bodies. Also, man today has been consuming record amounts of processed foods and sugar that has never been recorded before. This just all add up to the toxins that lie in our body.

Why all the fuss about toxins?

All these toxins that are left uncared for can lead to indigestion, producing more toxins. As these toxins build up, they will eventually turn into parasites, small flesh eating monsters that could cause many diseases.

Although our liver and kidney may be helping out in detoxifying our body, our body is not capable of totally cleaning them out.

That’s why there is a need for outside help. Aside from the many diets and exercises plus the healthy lifestyle we may subject ourselves into to eliminate or at least decrease the amount of toxins in our body, we may resort to a body detox product to help eradicate all of those toxins.

Some of these body detox products come in the form of herbal medications which doesn’t leave any toxins behind, unlike the chemical drugs. These herbal body detox products may come in different forms, such as teas, mouthwashes, shampoos, capsules, softgels, chewables, liquid drinks an a host of others.

Each one of them targets an individual part of the body for detox. That is why it is imperative that before taking a body detox product, a consultation with a doctor should be done.

A lot of these body detox products could be found in the internet. While most of them would claim that they are truly effective and doesn’t have any side effects, a lot of scientists have also dispelled some of these body detox products.

Many people would go to great lengths to seduce you with their body detox products. It would be best to get a second, third or even a fourth opinion. A little bit of research would do a lot of good. You wouldn’t want to waste your money on just some useless drinks that only quenches your thirst and nothing more. You wouldn’t want to be buying something that might just add up to your toxin pile up.

So when you feel a little sluggish and you seem, to have lost a lot of pep, this could be because of a massive toxin build up in your body. Consult with a doctor immediately and see which body detox product would be right for you.

EXCLUSIVE FRIENDSHIPS

2012-06-23T16:44:00.000+01:00

An excellent and gentle man of my acquaintance has said, "When fifty-one per cent of the voters believe in cooeperation as opposed to competition, the Ideal Commonwealth will cease to be a theory and become a fact."

That men should work together for the good of all is very beautiful, and I believe the day will come when these things will be, but the simple process of fifty-one per cent of the voters casting ballots for socialism will not bring it about.

The matter of voting is simply the expression of a sentiment, and after the ballots have been counted there still remains the work to be done. A man might vote right and act like a fool the rest of the year.

The socialist who is full of bitterness, fight, faction and jealousy is creating an opposition that will hold him and all others like him in check. And this opposition is well, for even a very imperfect society is forced to protect itself against dissolution and a condition which is worse. To take over the monopolies and operate them for the good of society is not enough, and not desirable either, so long as the idea of rivalry is rife.

As long as self is uppermost in the minds of men, they will fear and hate other men, and under socialism there would be precisely the same scramble for place and power that we see in politics now.

Society can never be reconstructed until its individual members are reconstructed. Man must be born again. When fifty-one per cent of the voters rule their own spirit and have put fifty-one per cent of their present envy, jealousy, bitterness, hate, fear and foolish pride out of their hearts, then socialism will be at hand, and not until then.

The subject is entirely too big to dispose of in a paragraph, so I am just going to content myself here with the mention of one thing, the danger to society of exclusive friendships between man and man, and woman and woman. No two persons of the same sex can complement each other, neither can they long uplift or benefit each other. Usually they deform the mental and spiritual estate. We should have many acquaintances or none. When two men begin to "tell each other everything," they are hiking for senility. There must be a bit of well-defined reserve. We are told that in matter solid steel for instance the molecules never touch. They never surrender their individuality. We are all molecules of Divinity, and our personality should not be abandoned. Be yourself, let no man be necessary to you. Your friend will think more of you if you keep him at a little distance. Friendship, like credit, is highest where it is not used.

I can understand how a strong man can have a great and abiding affection for a thousand other men, and call them all by name, but how he can regard any one of these men much higher than another and preserve his mental balance, I do not know.

Let a man come close enough and he'll clutch you like a drowning person, and down you both go. In a close and exclusive friendship men partake of others' weaknesses.

In shops and factories it happens constantly that men will have their chums. These men relate to each other their troubles they keep nothing back they sympathize with each other, they mutually condole.

They combine and stand by each other. Their friendship is exclusive and others see that it is. Jealousy creeps in, suspicion awakens, hate crouches around the corner, and these men combine in mutual dislike for certain things and persons. They foment each other, and their sympathy dilutes sanity by recognizing their troubles men make them real. Things get out of focus, and the sense of values is lost. By thinking some one is an enemy you evolve him into one.

Soon others are involved and we have a clique. A clique is a friendship gone to seed.

A clique develops into a faction, and a faction into a feud, and soon we have a mob, which is a blind, stupid, insane, crazy, ramping and roaring mass that has lost the rudder. In a mob there are no individuals all are of one mind, and independent thought is gone.

A feud is founded on nothing it is a mistake a fool idea fanned into flame by a fool friend! And it may become a mob.

Every man who has had anything to do with communal life has noticed that the clique is the disintegrating bacillus and the clique has its rise always in the exclusive friendship of two persons of the same sex, who tell each other all unkind things that are said of each other "so be on your guard." Beware of the exclusive friendship! Respect all men and try to find the good in all. To associate only with the sociable, the witty, the wise, the brilliant, is a blunder go among the plain, the stupid, the uneducated, and exercise your own wit and wisdom. You grow by giving have no favorites you hold your friend as much by keeping away from him as you do by following after him.

Revere him yes, but be natural and let space intervene. Be a Divine molecule.

Be yourself and give your friend a chance to be himself. Thus do you benefit him, and in benefiting him you benefit yourself.

The finest friendships are between those who can do without each other.

Of course there have been cases of exclusive friendship that are pointed out to us as grand examples of affection, but they are so rare and exceptional that they serve to emphasize the fact that it is exceedingly unwise for men of ordinary power and intellect to exclude their fellow men. A few men, perhaps, who are big enough to have a place in history, could play the part of David to another's Jonathan and yet retain the good will of all, but the most of us would engender bitterness and strife.

And this beautiful dream of socialism, where each shall work for the good of all, will never come about until fifty-one per cent of the adults shall abandon all exclusive friendships. Until that day arrives you will have cliques, denominations which are cliques grown big factions, feuds and occasional mobs.

Do not lean on any one, and let no one lean on you. The ideal society will be made up of ideal individuals. Be a man and be a friend to everybody.

When the Master admonished his disciples to love their enemies, he had in mind the truth that an exclusive love is a mistake. Love dies when it is monopolized. It grows by giving. Your enemy is one who misunderstands you why should you not rise above the fog and see his error and respect him for the good qualities you find in him?

Exercise And Sleeping Better

2012-06-23T16:36:00.000+01:00

The amount of physical exercise that you exert during
the day is one of the key ingredients to helping you
get a good sleep at night. The more active your
body is during the day, the more likely you are to
relax at night and fall asleep faster.

With regular exercise you'll notice that your quality
of sleep is improved and the transition between the
cycles and phases of sleep will become smoother and
more regular. By keeping up your physical activity
during the day, you may find it easier to deal with
the stress and worries of your life.

Research and studies indicate that there is a direct
correlation between how much we exercise and how
we feel afterwards.

You should try and increase your physical activity
during the day. The goal here is to give your body
enough stimulation during the day so that you aren't
full of energy at night.

Your body requires a certain amount of physical
activity in order to keep functioning in a healthy
manner. It is also important to note that you should
not be exercising three or four hours before you go
to bed.

The ideal exercise time is in the late afternoon or
early evening. You want to make sure you expend
your physical energy long before it is time for
your body to rest and ready itself for sleep.

You should attempt to exercise at least three or
four times a week for a period of 30 minutes or so.
You can include walking or something simple. If
you prefer, you can include strenuous activities
such as running as well.

The goal here is to increase your heart rate and
strengthen the capacity of your lungs. By adding
a regular exercise activity to your daily schedule
will help you to improve your overall health and
help you emotionally as well.

Along with running and walking there are several
other physical activities that you can add to your
daily life to increase your level of physical
activity. If you are battling not sleeping, you'll
find aerobic exercise to be the best.

Your goal with exercise is to increase the amount
of oxygen that reaches your blood stream. Overall,
there are many types of aerobic exercise for you
to choose from. The activities include running,
biking, using a treadmill, dancing, and jumping
rope.

There are some non aerobic exercises that you may
find beneficial to help you solve your amnesia
problem.

Yoga
Yoga is an exercise that has a stimulatory effect
on your nervous system, especially the brain. Yoga
utilizes breathing techniques and yoga postures to
increase the blood circulation to the brain, promoting
regular and restful sleeping patterns. The regular
practice of yoga will help you to relax as well
as relieve tension and stress.

Tai Chi
Tai Chi is an ancient art of breathing and movement
that was developed by the Chinese monks. The
movements involved are slow and precise, which is
ideal if you have joint pains or you are unable
to participate in high aerobic exercises. Research
has shown that Tai Chi can help with insomnia by
promoting relaxation.

If you discover that you don't have any time to
exercise on a regular basis, you should try to
sneak moments of activity into your schedule.
Whenever possible, you should take the stairs instead
of the elevator, as little things like that will
do wonders for your body.

You should also park your car around the corner and
walk that extra block or two to get to your
destination. As you may know, there are many small
things you can add to increase the activity in
your life. Your overall goal here is to have a
healthy and well balanced life - with plenty of
sleep.

A Bug Free Mind continued

2012-06-19T14:25:00.000+01:00

This revolutionary approach to Personal Development by Andy Shaw, shows all of us how some of our thoughts are destroying our efforts to ever succeed in life.

In his book 'A bug free mind' he offers a rare insight into how we can rid us of our viruses that continually overwrite any new healthy programs that we try to install in our lives.

To put this into context I will briefly describe a situation where you mind is like a computer with a very nasty virus which spirals out of control the older you get. When your born you have clear mind (tabula rasa - born without built-in mental content and that their knowledge comes from experience and perception) and as you get older you become more adept to life's challenges, well maybe up to the age of 7.

Few remember the times when you were trying to walk, but a part of you struggled to learn, but after a period of time you did learn, and learn you did. Did some part of you say I cant do this,or did you have that feeling that you could do it ?

Learning will always be part of what makes us human, but why is it after a certain amount of years we fail to understand or grasp opportunities or gain new skills that come our way.

Well look at this way - have you seen Granny struggling to come to grips with a remote control, or as in my case teaching my parents on how to do a simple knot (bowline actually) it took me 2 hours to explain it and they still got it wrong.

So what does this mean to all of us. Well, the simple answer is that we have acquired a lot of bad mental programmes when we travel through our lives, bad advice from our Family and friends, schools.....(in my case caning - a superb remedy for young children who had problems with learning,that is a bad virus to have installed in your brain plus it shows how people physically control children. Diabolical!! and trust me I had a few bouts with the cane. Those who are British and in their 50s know exactly what I mean.) institutions,colleagues,goverment,doctors and the list of those who have installed mind viruses is endless.

Now I have outlined some of the ways our minds can inflict problems by virtue of the fact that we dont know how to keep our minds clear of viruses. In his book 'A Bug Free Mind' Andy Shaw comes up with his first solution to this quest to clear the mind of negativity, which I shall briefly go through with you.

This is very simple to go through, all that is needed is to focus and bring about a memory that is emotionally rich and fully visible in your mind's eye - now you will take 15 seconds to fully immerse yourself in this daydream. When I started to do this, and Andy himself in his book and videos says he could only do it for about 4 seconds. Well, guess what you may have to persevere a bit, but I do recommend doing this exercise,but only bring about happy and joyous life events from your past. It will work wonders. The rest of the exercises are in Andy's book.

Its really of no surprise that all of the self-help industry fails with so many people, since you are trying to programme yourself with excellent programmes but are restrained with a few nasty viruses swilling around your brain - and if you have a computer you know exactly what its like to have a virus on your machine as it slows down and has the reactions of an arthritic striking slug.......!!

Anyway, please take a visit to Andy Shaw's Website, he has 9 excellent videos to watch, and I cannot recommend his books enough.

Andy Shaw's Website link

Power through the people

2012-06-16T11:45:00.001+01:00

Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can't see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.

1. Be genuine. Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be. To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.

3. Laugh out loud. I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don't forget yourself. In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness. You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends. Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality. Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident. Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control. When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships. Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you. In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.

This book, although it is small, it is full of powerful information. It provides a guide toward self-perfection. When I say this, I am talking about the human mind and spirit. The body is a reflection of the mind and spirit, so even if one is interested in the physical, working on one's mind and spirit is actually the key to success.

A Bug Free Mind

2012-06-15T16:16:00.000+01:00

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

I recommend an absolutely BRILLIANT book by a guy named Andy Shaw - I'm currently half way through - it is a book that does what it says on the tin. No frills, but pure and simple instructions on how to alter the way we think, and become successful in all our ventures, our hopes, and our dreams

2012-06-13T20:44:00.000+01:00

Super Food

You Truly Are Exactly what You Eat Current dietary study has actually found 14 different nutrient-dense meals that time and again market great general wellness. Coined "superfoods," they have a tendency to have fewer calories, much higher degrees of vitamins and minerals, and also numerous disease-fighting antioxandants.

What are Super Foods

Beans (legumes), berries (particularly blueberries), broccoli, green herbal tea, nuts (specifically walnuts), oranges, pumpkin, salmon. soy, spinach, tomatoes, turkey, entire grains as well as oats, and also yogurt could all help prevent as well as also alter disorders such as hypertension, diabetes, Alzheimer's, and some kinds of cancer. And where one may have an effect on a particular part of the body, it is able to likewise affect the wellness of additional body features and performance, because the entire body is connected. With these 14 meals as the base of a balanced, sturdy eating plan, fat burning tricks as well as other unreliable programs can turn into a thing of the past in your life.

What are the effects on Not using Super Foods.

Alternatively, the ill-effects of an unbalanced eating plan are many and varied. Low energy, state of mind swings, tired all the time, weight issues, awkward or clumsy are just a couple of indications that your eating plan is unbalanced. An unbalanced diet plan could cause problems with maintenance of body muscles, growth and also health advancement, mind and peripheral nervous system operation, along with issues with bone and muscle systems. Manifestations of dietary deficiency include absence of energy, irritability, a weakened defense system resulting in recurring colds or allergic reactions, and mineral depletion that could cause an assortment of health and wellness concerns including anemia.

Spiritual and Body connection.

Since the body is linked to the spirit, understanding that an undesirable body may generate an unhealthy spirit only makes sense. When we nurture our body with these super foods as well as complement them with other nutrient-dense foods and also eating healthy fresh meals, our spirit will definitely be vitalized and a healthy and balanced body as a direct result.

A few modern-day diets based upon packaged fast foods are without supplements and minerals, which can impact our psychological capacities which includes irritability, confusion, as well as the feeling of 'being in a haze' all the time.

This is a superb book on Super Foods and an excellent guide to helping you understand the world of nutrition and good food to eat.

Energy - The Source of Life.

2011-08-15T21:39:00.001+01:00

Just a quick note to everyone, I apoligise for my long absence but I have been so busy that I've neglected the subject I hold very dear. Hopefully I will press on with further blogs and keep you upto date with cutting edge techniques for self-development and self-awareness which will be of great value in these rather troubled times.

I would gratfully appreciate any comments that would add any new information to current thinking of self help and aid to all of us.

Remember we're all part of the Earthship and as crew we have a duty to clean our ship and support each other.

Until the next blog

Take Care
Mark

Why Coaching is the Way to Go in Team Management

2011-04-19T21:57:00.000+01:00

When you hear the word “coach”, what comes first into your mind? Do you picture a basketball team with a man/woman shouting out directions? Or perhaps a football team with a man/woman pacing to and fro and calling out the names of the players?

Coaching is no longer reserved to sports teams; it is now one of the key concepts in leadership and management. Why is coaching popular?

Coaching levels the playing field.

Coaching is one of the six emotional leadership styles proposed by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, it is a behavior or role that leaders enforce in the context of situational leadership. As a leadership style, coaching is used when the members of a group or team are competent and motivated, but do not have an idea of the long-term goals of an organization. This involves two levels of coaching: team and individual. Team coaching makes members work together. In a group of individuals, not everyone may have nor share the same level of competence and commitment to a goal. A group may be a mix of highly competent and moderately competent members with varying levels of commitment. These differences can cause friction among the members. The coaching leader helps the members level their expectations. Also, the coaching leader manages differing perspectives so that the common goal succeeds over personal goals and interests. In a big organization, leaders need to align the staffs’ personal values and goals with that of the organization so that long-term directions can be pursued.

Coaching builds up confidence and competence.

Individual coaching is an example of situational leadership at work. It aims to mentor one-on-one building up the confidence of members by affirming good performance during regular feedbacks; and increase competence by helping the member assess his/her strengths and weaknesses towards career planning and professional development. Depending on the individual’s level of competence and commitment, a leader may exercise more coaching behavior for the less-experienced members. Usually, this happens in the case of new staffs. The direct supervisor gives more defined tasks and holds regular feedbacks for the new staff, and gradually lessens the amount of coaching, directing, and supporting roles to favor delegating as competence and confidence increase.

Coaching promotes individual and team excellence.

Excellence is a product of habitual good practice. The regularity of meetings and constructive feedback is important in establishing habits. Members catch the habit of constantly assessing themselves for their strengths and areas for improvement that they themselves perceive what knowledge, skills, and attitudes they need to acquire to attain team goals. In the process, they attain individually excellence as well. An example is in the case of a musical orchestra: each member plays a different instrument. In order to achieve harmony of music from the different instrument, members will polish their part in the piece, aside from practicing as an ensemble. Consequently, they improve individually as an instrument player.

Coaching develops high commitment to common goals.

A coaching leader balances the attainment of immediate targets with long-term goals towards the vision of an organization. As mentioned earlier, with the alignment of personal goals with organizational or team goals, personal interests are kept in check. By constantly communicating the vision through formal and informal conversations, the members are inspired and motivated. Setting short-term team goals aligned with organizational goals; and making an action plan to attain these goals can help sustain the increased motivation and commitment to common goals of the members.

Coaching produces valuable leaders.

Leadership by example is important in coaching. A coaching leader loses credibility when he/she cannot practice what he/she preaches. This means that a coaching leader should be well organized, highly competent is his/her field, communicates openly and encourages feedback, and has a clear idea of the organization’s vision-mission-goals. By vicarious and purposive learning, members catch the same good practices and attitudes from the coaching leader, turning them into coaching leaders themselves. If a member experiences good coaching, he/she is most likely to do the same things when entrusted with formal leadership roles.

Some words of caution though: coaching is just one of the styles of leadership. It can be done in combination with the other five emotional leadership styles depending on the profile of the emerging team. Moreover, coaching as a leadership style requires that you are physically, emotionally, and mentally fit most of the time since it involves two levels of coaching: individual and team. Your members expect you to be the last one to give up or bail out in any situation especially during times of crises. A coaching leader must be conscious that coaching entails investing time on each individual, and on the whole team. Moreover, that the responsibilities are greater since while you are coaching members, you are also developing future coaches as well.

This is a very good way to understand not only yourself and why we feel and do the things we do, but also this helps to understand those around us. This is a very good video on developing yourself and managing the coaching expectations of those you wish to lead.

ONE-MAN POWER.

2011-04-14T22:33:00.000+01:00

Every successful concern is the result of a One-Man Power. Cooperation, technically, is an iridescent dream things cooperate because the man makes them. He cements them by his will.

But find this Man, and get his confidence, and his weary eyes will look into yours and the cry of his heart shall echo in your ears. "O, for some one to help me bear this burden!"

Then he will tell you of his endless search for Ability, and of his continual disappointments and thwartings in trying to get some one to help himself by helping him.

Ability is the one crying need of the hour. The banks are bulging with money, and everywhere are men looking for work. The harvest is ripe. But the Ability to captain the unemployed and utilize the capital, is lacking sadly lacking. Your man of Ability has a place already. Yes, Ability is a rare article.

But there is something that is much scarcer, something finer far, something rarer than this quality of Ability.

It is the ability to recognize Ability.

The sternest comment that ever can be made against employers as a class, lies in the fact that men of Ability usually succeed in showing their worth in spite of their employer, and not with his assistance and encouragement.

If you know the lives of men of Ability, you know that they discovered their power, almost without exception, thru chance or accident. Had the accident not occurred that made the opportunity, the man would have remained unknown and practically lost to the world. The experience of Tom Potter, telegraph operator at an obscure little way station, is truth painted large. That fearful night, when most of the wires were down and a passenger train went through the bridge, gave Tom Potter the opportunity of discovering himself. He took charge of the dead, cared for the wounded, settled fifty claims drawing drafts on the company burned the last vestige of the wreck, sunk the waste iron in the river and repaired the bridge before the arrival of the Superintendent on the spot.

"Who gave you the authority to do all this?" demanded the Superintendent.

"Nobody," replied Tom, "I assumed the authority."

The next month Tom Potter's salary was enhanced, and in three years he was making ten times this, simply because he could get other men to do things.

Why wait for an accident to discover Tom Potter? Let us set traps for Tom Potter, and lie in wait for him. Perhaps Tom Potter is just around the corner, across the street, in the next room, or at our elbow. Myriads of embryonic Tom Potters await discovery and development if we but look for them.

I know a man who roamed the woods and fields for thirty years and never found an Indian arrow. One day he began to think "arrow," and stepping out of his doorway he picked one up. Since then he has collected a bushel of them.

Suppose we cease wailing about incompetence, sleepy indifference and slipshod "help" that watches the clock. These things exist let us dispose of the subject by admitting it, and then emphasize the fact that freckled farmer boys come out of the West and East and often go to the front and do things in a masterly way. There is one name that stands out in history like a beacon light after all these twenty-five hundred years have passed, just because the man had the sublime genius of discovering Ability. That man was Pericles. Pericles made Athens.

And today the very dust of the streets of Athens is being sifted and searched for relics and remnants of the things made by people who were captained by men of Ability who were discovered by Pericles.

There is very little competition in this line of discovering Ability. We sit down and wail because Ability does not come our way. Let us think "Ability," and possibly we can jostle Pericles there on his pedestal, where he has stood for over a score of centuries the man with a supreme genius for recognizing Ability.

A great video that explains confidence by becoming aware.

Gaining Confidence: Silfan - 4.06.10 from Balanced View Trainers on Vimeo.

Love and Faith

2011-04-12T22:33:00.000+01:00

No woman is worthy to be a wife who on the day of her marriage is not lost absolutely and entirely in an atmosphere of love and perfect trust; the supreme sacredness of the relation is the only thing which, at the time, should possess her soul.

Women should not "obey" men anymore than men should obey women. There are six requisites in every happy marriage; the first is Faith, and the remaining five are Confidence. Nothing so compliments a man as for a woman to believe in him nothing so pleases a woman as for a man to place confidence in her.

Obey? God help me! Yes, if I loved a woman, my whole heart's desire would be to obey her slightest wish. And how could I love her unless I had perfect confidence that she would only aspire to what was beautiful, true and right? And to enable her to realize this ideal, her wish would be to me a sacred command; and her attitude of mind toward me I know would be the same. And the only rivalry between us would be as to who could love the most; and the desire to obey would be the one controlling impulse of our lives.

We gain freedom by giving it, and he who bestows faith gets it back with interest. To bargain and stipulate in love is to lose.

Perfect faith implies perfect love; and perfect love casteth out fear. It is always the fear of imposition, and a lurking intent to rule, that causes the woman to haggle over a word it is absence of love, a limitation, an incapacity. The price of a perfect love is an absolute and complete surrender.

To give a man something for nothing tends to make the individual dissatisfied with himself.

Your enemies are the ones you have helped.

And when an individual is dissatisfied with himself he is dissatisfied with the whole world and with you.

A man's quarrel with the world is only a quarrel with himself. But so strong is this inclination to lay blame elsewhere and take credit to ourselves, that when we are unhappy we say it is the fault of this woman or that man. Especially do women attribute their misery to That Man.

And often the trouble is he has given her too much for nothing.

This truth is a reversible, back-action one, well lubricated by use, working both ways as the case may be.

That form of affection which drives sharp bargains and makes demands, gets a check on the bank in which there is no balance.

There is nothing so costly as something you get for nothing.

And here is a video that is so very special to me.

To my late wife Claire
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The Secret of Physical Tone

2011-04-09T11:21:00.000+01:00

"In the healthy body every cell is polarized in subjection to the Central Will. Perfect health, therefore, is orderly obedience, government and harmony. Every cell is a living entity, whether of vegetable or animal potency, and wherever disease is, there are disunion, error, rebellion and insubordination; and the deeper the seat of the confusion, the more dangerous the malady and the harder to quell it." J. C. Street.

The thought of the above quotation does not mean that the insubordination is necessarily conscious to the diseased individual, but that it surely obtains within the physical arena of his life. Because it is not the outcome of his deliberate choice, the case is not hopeless in the nature of things, but is open to better conditions. The deeper self which has intended no rebellion against the laws of bodily well-being may now distinctly intend harmony, and so lift the body to a higher plane.

And the last sentence in the quotation does not mean that you are to undertake a vast amount of hard work, assuming that you are not in perfect physical condition. You are, rather, just to begin and go on thinking yourself in a real way as in harmony with the Central Will, which is our White Life, and to hold steadfastly in the deeper self the ideas, Affirmation and Realization of Splendid Personal Tone.

Some of the meanings of these powerful words will be unfolded later, In the meantime, as all things are subject to law, let us observe a number of the general conditions to three-fold health, that of body, mind and the inner self, regarding their totality as the atmosphere, so to speak, in which courage most easily and perfectly thrives.

Fear in man is a result of repeated suggestion, to which low health-tone is a natural invitation. Health is the primary tonic against fear. Perfect physical health is mere strength. Perfect mental health is mere brain sanity. Perfect soul-health is the whole of the man at his best. When the body is buoyant, the mind clear and inspired, the soul harmonic with all existence rightly in the universe, then is the impulse of fear easily mastered and the habit of fear finds no encouragement. There are, indeed, courageous invalids who have not come into the secret of right thought so far as health is concerned, and fearing atheltes and scholars who have neglected the secret of courage, and timorous saints who have failed to possess themselves of the confidence of goodness. Nevertheless, the eternal law is evident that the one great enemy of fear is The White Life in Harmonic Mind in Buoyant Body.

A person who affirms and realizes these conditions must, in the nature of things, be possessed of perfect health. In the tone of such health courage is inevitable.

That you may come to this ideal, you are invited to observe the following instructions. Health is a trinity, and we may begin our studies with its natural basis:

The general tone op health.
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The word "tone" means, "sound in relation to volume, quality, duration and pitch," then, "peculiar characteristic sound as of a voice or instrument," then, "characteristic style or tendency, predominating aim or character, tenor, strain, spirit."

Hence, in the sense of health, tone signifies "the state of tension or firmness proper to the tissues of the body; the state in which all the parts and organs have due tension or are well strung; the strength and activity of the organs on which healthy functions depend; that state of the body in which all the normal functions are performed with healthy vigor".

We thus see that health-tone involves the whole personality, physical, mental and moral.

But the truth of the matter hides in a deeper region than that of mere material flesh or organ. Matter is a form of the Universal Ether, so far as science seems to declare, or, at least, matter presupposes the ether in a state of vibration. Your body is a "field" in which etheric vibrations are constantly taking place. All its reality and all its activities involve such vibrations. The brain, regarded as the organ of conscious life, of thought and feeling, and the entire nervous system, involve such vibrations. And as your thought and feeling constitute the foundation of your moral character, the latter also becomes a matter of movements in the ether.

In the case of heat, light, electricity, etc., differing kinds of such vibrations determine the kinds of phenomena. We may say, then, that there is one general kind of ether-movement for matter, and another for thought and feeling, and another for the moral life. Each individual, however, presents variations of these general kinds of vibrations, a particular variation for his body, and for his mental person, and for his right or wrong self-spirit. We individualize the ether, Or, we are individualized as we use the ether.

The tone of a person's health is determined by the state of the etheric movements characteristic to himself.

If the vibrations underlying the body life are full and harmonious according to their individual character for a person, his organs are all sound and active. He possesses physical tone. If there is a similar fullness and harmony within his mental life, he must exhibit health of mind. If a corresponding condition obtains in the moral personality, the highest health of the deeper self prevails.

Here is a short video which examines our posture, and as nearly half of the world is hunched over a computer I think you can appreciate how we all should correct our posture and stance.

SYMPATHY, KNOWLEDGE AND POISE.

2011-04-07T22:01:00.000+01:00

Sympathy, Knowledge and Poise seem to be the three ingredients that are most needed in forming the Gentle Man. I place these elements according to their value. No man is great who does not have Sympathy plus, and the greatness of men can be safely gauged by their sympathies. Sympathy and imagination are twin sisters. Your heart must go out to all men, the high, the low, the rich, the poor, the learned, the unlearned, the good, the bad, the wise and the foolish it is necessary to be one with them all, else you can never comprehend them. Sympathy! it is the touchstone to every secret, the key to all knowledge, the open sesame of all hearts. Put yourself in the other man's place and then you will know why he thinks certain things and does certain deeds. Put yourself in his place and your blame will dissolve itself into pity, and your tears will wipe out the record of his misdeeds. The saviors of the world have simply been men with wondrous sympathy.

But Knowledge must go with Sympathy, else the emotions will become maudlin and pity may be wasted on a poodle instead of a child; on a field-mouse instead of a human soul. Knowledge in use is wisdom, and wisdom implies a sense of values you know a big thing from a little one, a valuable fact from a trivial one. Tragedy and comedy are simply questions of value: a little misfit in life makes us laugh, a great one is tragedy and cause for expression of grief.

Poise is the strength of body and strength of mind to control your Sympathy and your Knowledge. Unless you control your emotions they run over and you stand in the mire. Sympathy must not run riot, or it is valueless and tokens weakness instead of strength. In every hospital for nervous disorders are to be found many instances of this loss of control. The individual has Sympathy but not Poise, and therefore his life is worthless to himself and to the world.

He symbols inefficiency and not helpfulness. Poise reveals itself more in voice than it does in words; more in thought than in action; more in atmosphere than in conscious life. It is a spiritual quality, and is felt more than it is seen. It is not a matter of bodily size, nor of bodily attitude, nor attire, nor of personal comeliness: it is a state of inward being, and of knowing your cause is just. And so you see it is a great and profound subject after all, great in its ramifications, limitless in extent, implying the entire science of right living. I once met a man who was deformed in body and little more than a dwarf, but who had such Spiritual Gravity such Poise that to enter a room where he was, was to feel his presence and acknowledge his superiority. To allow Sympathy to waste itself on unworthy objects is to deplete one's life forces. To conserve is the part of wisdom, and reserve is a necessary element in all good literature, as well as in everything else.

Poise being the control of our Sympathy and Knowledge, it implies a possession of these attributes, for without having Sympathy and Knowledge you have nothing to control but your physical body. To practise Poise as a mere gymnastic exercise, or study in etiquette, is to be self-conscious, stiff, preposterous and ridiculous. Those who cut such fantastic tricks before high heaven as make angels weep, are men void of Sympathy and Knowledge trying to cultivate Poise. Their science is a mere matter of what to do with arms and legs. Poise is a question of spirit controlling flesh, heart controlling attitude.

Get Knowledge by coming close to Nature. That man is the greatest who best serves his kind. Sympathy and Knowledge are for use you acquire that you may give out; you accumulate that you may bestow. And as God has given unto you the sublime blessings of Sympathy and Knowledge, there will come to you the wish to reveal your gratitude by giving them out again; for the wise man is aware that we retain spiritual qualities only as we give them away. Let your light shine. To him that hath shall be given. The exercise of wisdom brings wisdom; and at the last the infinitesimal quantity of man's knowledge, compared with the Infinite, and the smallness of man's Sympathy when compared with the source from which ours is absorbed, will evolve an abnegation and a humility that will lend a perfect Poise. The Gentleman is a man with perfect Sympathy, Knowledge, and Poise.

ONE-MAN POWER.

2011-04-06T22:27:00.000+01:00

Every successful concern is the result of a One-Man Power. Cooperation, technically, is an iridescent dream things cooperate because the man makes them. He cements them by his will.

But find this Man, and get his confidence, and his weary eyes will look into yours and the cry of his heart shall echo in your ears. "O, for some one to help me bear this burden!"

Then he will tell you of his endless search for Ability, and of his continual disappointments and thwartings in trying to get some one to help himself by helping him.

Ability is the one crying need of the hour. The banks are bulging with money, and everywhere are men looking for work. The harvest is ripe. But the Ability to captain the unemployed and utilize the capital, is lacking sadly lacking. Your man of Ability has a place already. Yes, Ability is a rare article.

But there is something that is much scarcer, something finer far, something rarer than this quality of Ability.

It is the ability to recognize Ability.

The sternest comment that ever can be made against employers as a class, lies in the fact that men of Ability usually succeed in showing their worth in spite of their employer, and not with his assistance and encouragement.

If you know the lives of men of Ability, you know that they discovered their power, almost without exception, thru chance or accident. Had the accident not occurred that made the opportunity, the man would have remained unknown and practically lost to the world. The experience of Tom Potter, telegraph operator at an obscure little way station, is truth painted large. That fearful night, when most of the wires were down and a passenger train went through the bridge, gave Tom Potter the opportunity of discovering himself. He took charge of the dead, cared for the wounded, settled fifty claims drawing drafts on the company burned the last vestige of the wreck, sunk the waste iron in the river and repaired the bridge before the arrival of the Superintendent on the spot.

"Who gave you the authority to do all this?" demanded the Superintendent.

"Nobody," replied Tom, "I assumed the authority."

The next month Tom Potter's salary was enhanced, and in three years he was making ten times this, simply because he could get other men to do things.

Why wait for an accident to discover Tom Potter? Let us set traps for Tom Potter, and lie in wait for him. Perhaps Tom Potter is just around the corner, across the street, in the next room, or at our elbow. Myriads of embryonic Tom Potters await discovery and development if we but look for them.

I know a man who roamed the woods and fields for thirty years and never found an Indian arrow. One day he began to think "arrow," and stepping out of his doorway he picked one up. Since then he has collected a bushel of them.

Suppose we cease wailing about incompetence, sleepy indifference and slipshod "help" that watches the clock. These things exist let us dispose of the subject by admitting it, and then emphasize the fact that freckled farmer boys come out of the West and East and often go to the front and do things in a masterly way. There is one name that stands out in history like a beacon light after all these twenty-five hundred years have passed, just because the man had the sublime genius of discovering Ability. That man is Pericles. Pericles made Athens.

And today the very dust of the streets of Athens is being sifted and searched for relics and remnants of the things made by people who were captained by men of Ability who were discovered by Pericles.

There is very little competition in this line of discovering Ability. We sit down and wail because Ability does not come our way. Let us think "Ability," and possibly we can jostle Pericles there on his pedestal, where he has stood for over a score of centuries the man with a supreme genius for recognizing Ability.

Unlock Your Self Improvement Secret Power

2011-04-02T12:36:00.000+01:00

When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we try to take it a little further, we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement power. Until then, something can be staring us right under our nose but we don’t see it. The only time we think of unlocking our self improvement power is when everything got worst. Take the frog principle for example –

Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in his environment – the water’s temperature. Then try Frog B: place him in a luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and told her he hates her. Anna stays the same and doesn’t mind her what her friends says. The next day, she learned that Kim and John also abhors her. Anna doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth has fallen off. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life – and we are all going to eventually unlock our self improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.

Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the need for self improvement. Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that “its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds like computers.

Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher tell the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jen believes. She believes its her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would troop over their house, in school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believed in her story, she lived it.

Jen has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story post around her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if we look at things in a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at porn will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind. And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things light and become happy.

Acquire Power Through Self-Development - The Secret of Wealth files

2011-03-31T17:07:00.002+01:00

Its is mandatory right that every single human being on this planet has the right to be happy, and not embroiled in the problems that of other peoples making.

Happiness is a product of wisdom, in other words through learning your mistakes and feeling permanetly unhappy, a blister of understanding seeps though into your life that says if you keep the same behaviour up, you will ALWAYS get the same results.

To realise and learn completely the relationship of human beings to each other, is to put an end to suffering and evil that perpetuates our Society. So wisdom is our understanding of our internal thoughts which percieves the world and its workings.

Why do we suffer in Life ?

In the grand scheme of things we are all being forced forward in our technical evolution/revolution and lack the spiritual illumination that lights the way and enable us to move safely among the various obstacles that lie in front of us.

It is as though we must pass through a long, dark room filled with furniture promiscuously scattered about. In the darkness our progress would be slow and painful and our bruises many. But if we could press a button that would turn on the electric light we could then make the same journey quickly and with perfect safety and comfort.

Usually we do not see or even suspect the presence of trouble until its suddenly leaps out in front of us. One day our family life is complete and happy, and a week later a death occurs and joy is replaced with emotional agony.

Today we have a tried and trusted friend, and come tomorrow he becomes an enemy and we fail to understand the reason. A little while ago we had wealth and all the material possesions we could ever need,then a sudden change and we are living in poverty and misery and yet we seek in vain for a reason why this should have happened.

There was a time when we had our strength and health, but they leave us and no reason appears. Apart from the greater tragedies in life, there are a so many lesser consequences which bring their miseries and minor heartaches.

We try in earnest to avoid them and we never see them until they strike us. We lack the spiritual illumination that enables us to look far and further, finding the hidden causes of human suffering and revealing the method by which they may be avoided; and if we can but reach illumination the evolutionary journey can be made both comfortably and swiftly.

The old method of education was to store the mind with as many facts, or supposed facts, as could be accumulated and to give a certain exterior polish to the personality.

The theory was that when a man was born he was a completed human being and that all that could be done for him was to load him up with information that would be used with more or less skill, according to the native ability he happened to be born with.

The theosophical idea is that the physical man, and all that constitutes his life in the physical world, is but a very partial expression of the self, that in the ego of each there is practically unlimited power and wisdom, that these may be brought through into expression in the physical world as the physical body and its invisible counterparts, which together constitute the complex vehicle of the ego's manifestation, are evolved and adapted to the purpose; and that in exact proportion that conscious effort is given to such self-development will spiritual illumination be achieved and wisdom attained. Thus the light that leads to happiness is kindled from within and the evolutionary journey that all are making may be robbed of its suffering.

Why does death bring misery? Chiefly because it separates us from those we love. The only other reason why death brings grief or fear is because we do not understand it and comprehend the part it plays in human evolution. But the moment our ignorance gives way to comprehension such fear vanishes and a serene happiness takes its place.

Why do we have enemies from whose words or acts we suffer? Because in our limited physical consciousness we do not perceive the unity of all life and realize that our wrong thinking and doing must react upon us through other people a situation from which there is no possible escape except through ceasing to think evil and then patiently awaiting the time when the causes we have already generated are fully exhausted. When spiritual illumination comes, and we no longer stumble in the night of ignorance, the last enemy will disappear and we shall make no more forever.

Why do people suffer from poverty and disease? Only because of our blundering ignorance that makes their existence possible for us, and because we do not comprehend their meaning and their lessons, nor know the attitude to assume toward them. Had we but the wisdom to understand why they come to people, why they are necessary factors in their evolution, they would trouble us no longer. When nature's lesson is fully learned these mute teachers will vanish.

And so it is with all forms of suffering we experience. They are at once reactions from our ignorant blunderings and instructors that point out the better way. When we have comprehended the lessons they teach they are no longer necessary and disappear. It is not by the outward acquirement of facts that men become wise and great. It is by developing the soul from within until it illuminates the brain with that flood of light called genius.

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