You want to be expressive instead of trying to be impressive or try to impress.

Most guys try to memorize jokes, they memorize funny stories, they memorize routines, all to get good reactions, all to make the girl like them, all to get approval.

Whenever you are trying to impress a woman, you are looking for her approval.

You are looking if she likes you.

You are looking for her permission.

This is a beta frame to be coming from, where the girl has the power and you need her blessing.

And when you’re trying to impress a woman, you whip out all the routines and the circus act to make her like you. You’re not being truly authentic, you’re putting up a front to make her like you, and that can be tiring and exhausting. You’re not being the real you.

And it doesn’t work that well.

Women can tell when you’re trying too hard to impress them with stories and games and being nice. And girls may laugh or be entertained, but it doesn’t create that hard attraction that will make the girl want to chase you down and have sex with you.

And when you chase approval, you’re always chasing after those good responses. When you get a good response, you feel great. When you don’t you feel terrible. And you’re on this rollercoaster of highs and lows and THAT is tiring and exhausting. You drain of energy FAST when you’re approval seeking. And then you end up quitting and going home.

You can’t treat women like as if you’re on stage trying to get approval from the audience. You spend too much time and energy doing that, trying to get reactions.

That’s called “Entertainer Mode”. That’s called being an expert “Schemer” or an expert “Manipulator”. That’s called putting on a façade of happiness when underneath you’re all insecure and needy. And you’ll burn out fast doing that.

So instead of trying to impress and get approval from the girl to make her like you, approval should come from inside. You should be cool with all of your flaws and foibles and understand that women will be attracted to you for the real you and all of your defects.

Express Yourself – Don’t Try to Impress With “The Right Thing To Say”

Instead of trying to IMPRESS, you want to start EXPRESSING.

That means being LOUD, using breaking rapport tonality, telling the girl up front how you feel and that you like her… in other words being genuine. Tell her how it is, not hiding your intentions, smiling as expression.

It means telling her about what YOU like and what interests YOU the most, expressing THAT, and not trying to come up with what you think she’ll like to hear.

What most guys do, is they see a woman and they think about what would be the best thing to say. Or they have some conversational topics lined up already, or they’re trying to reach or calibrate to the situation for the “right thing” to say.

But that’s is actually pretty bad.

When you go up to a girl you want to have absolutely NOTHING in your mind, just a good feeling in your hear and body. NO preparation.

And this is really important.

Because if you’re thinking about what you need to say to impress the girl, it’s a subtle form of supplication. It’s a subtle form of kissing ass.

And the girl is going to sense on a subtle level, that you’re reaching for the right thing to say. That something is a little forced. That you’re not naturally who you are really being and you are trying to be someone slightly else to impress her or to kiss her ass, and she’ll sense that lower value from you.

Also, it just puts you inside your head. You’re reaching for what to say, you hesitate, and you come up with reasons not to approach and say hello, and your opportunity is lost.

Whereas on the other hand, if you just go in with NOTHING inside your head, you just approach, boom and it’s done.

Whatever comes out of your mouth, is valuable, purely because it’s coming from YOU.

Meaning, if you comment on the weather, you make the weather cool, because you are a cool guy.

If you talk about your taxes, you make taxes cool, because you are a cool guy.

That’s opposed to the other way. You’re not cool, and you need to say an over-the-top, exciting, prepared story that’s going to make you sound cool.

No you ARE cool, and anything that comes from your mouth is cool too, and you have self-trust in that.

For instance, I like oatmeal. I like putting different things into oatmeal. So I’ll talk about oatmeal a lot and cooking oatmeal.

And because I’m passionate about it, smiling, really engaging the girl, the girl gets interested in oatmeal too. I make oatmeal cool, because I am fucking cool as fuck. Period.

In other words, you’re speaking about what you authentically find interesting, what you authentically enjoy and the girl senses that. It’s genuine. It’s authentic. It’s spontaneous.

The only thing that should be in your mind when you’re talking to a girl, is not, “what can I say to impress her,” but “I want to see if this girl is cool, so I’ll talk about this, and she can enjoy my awesoneness.” See big difference in mentality there?

And when you aren’t trying to think a step ahead, and you just have that good feeling in your body, the girl will sense it. It will be smooth. It will be natural. You’ll be a “cool guy” that just talked to her very naturally about what YOU wanted and made it cool.

Whereas if you’re thinking ahead, and trying to have the right things to say, there’s no real authentic communication going on, it’s harder to connect with the girl as equals because you’re coming from a place of wanting to impress her, so you’re not really listening to what she’s saying.

So that’s the deal. Go up, with NOTHING in your head. And talk about whatever it is. It can be stupid. The weather. Your shoes. What happened to you that day. LOWER your standards for what you talk about, because whatever it is, it’s cool because of YOU, because you are a cool guy and make it cool.

Jack Black – Impressing or Expressing?

Take a look at this video clip from the movie “School of Rock” starring Jack Black.

Most guys when they go out to meet girls (like 99% of them) are like Principle Rosaline Mullins, played by actress Joan Cusack. She’s wound up tight, follows ALL the rules and procedures, sticks to the lesson plan, and feels pressure of the uptight parents wanting everything to be perfect which has made her into someone she never wanted to be: a wound up bitch.

Now take a look at your typical guy who goes out to meet girls.

His head may be packed with lines, theories and strategies, but he’s just like Principle Mullins. He’s wound up tight inside, wants to follow all the rules and routines of complex pickup schematics and “do it right”, feels stifled and choked inside, and is needy for approval and the blessing of all the girls he sees and talks to. The result: his game is stiff and stifled and he has massive approach anxiety.

That’s how most guys go out to meet girls; they’re just like Principle Mullins. But you won’t get laid if you’re like that inside.

Now take a look at Jack Black.

The guy is freely expressive and in the moment, almost to the point of self-delusion. He does a cool conversation “routine” but it’s spontaneous and in the moment so it comes off as genuine and authentic. He’s not after the children’s or parent’s approval, he’s just being himself, whatever they might think. And he’s LOUD. He’s physically loud and expressive, and his voice is loud and expressive.

In short, he’s everything that Principal Mullins is not.

You need a good dose of Jack Black in you when you go out. You need to be the guy that creates the party. You need to be the guy that talks nonsense and expresses himself physically without that needy approval seeking and self-monitoring.

If your voice is loud, if you’re body language is open and expressive, if you’re coming up with silly conversation nonsense in the moment, if you’re energy is positive and upbeat, then right there girls will want to be a part of that. Women will be opening YOU and following YOU around.

Why? Because it’s so hard to find a guy like that today. Everyone is stifled like Principal Mullins… including the girls themselves! The girls you meet want to be around a guy who is happy and free. They want to meet a guy who will take them on an adventure. They want to meet a guy who will give them permission to step out of their stifled Principal Mullins persona and into their Jack Black wild side.

But the girls need YOU to go there first. And if you do, they’ll follow you all the way to the bedroom.

An Expression Exercise

So as an exercise, you want to think of the very thing about yourself that would get the LEAST approval from a girl.

Try to think of something to say that would embarrass you.

For example that you like to read Dr. Seuss books.

Or that you like to watch Star Trek The Next Generation.

Or that you like to eat raw broccoli.

Or that you still have your Teddy Bear.

Or that you pee in the shower.

Or that you can’t always hit the toilet when you pee.

Or that you still live with your parents.

Whatever it is, something potentially embarrassing.

And go up to a girl that you want to talk to, and start a conversation about it. And start it by speaking very loudly, that embarrassing piece of information about yourself. And as you talk about it, I want you to keep adding to it so that it becomes increasingly embarrassing or elaborate.

Zero approval-seeking.

And women respond really WELL to that kind of opener because you’re being real, authentic, vulnerable, and it’s kind of funny when you lay out your embarrassing quirks. Women love it. And it’s not everyday that guys are being real instead of trying to subtly kiss the woman’s ass by trying to be impressive. By not seeking approval to be liked, you’ll actually do far better.

So that’s an exercise that can really help you be far less approval seeking and instead by EXPRESSIVE.

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Here are two threesome Lay Reports from Trevor of the VIP Lounge.  Notice how he seduces these young ladies with the help of his woman.

~ Jesse
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Lay Report #1: My Couch Surfing Threesome Experience

OK, so I met this girl on a website for travelers Couch Surfing.

It’s a great way to meet local people when you travel instead of staying in a boring hotel and doing touristy stuff. – but we don’t usually get to nail our couchsurfers.

A reminder about me – We’re a married couple meeting girls to have threesomes, and build a circle of girlfriends.

Anyway, she asked if she could surf our couch for a couple days.

Basically there was NO kind of Verbal Seduction Game, at all. Just having fun, making jokes and being positive. We took her out with a group of friends and went to a Hot Springs, then stargazing at the Perseid meteor shower.

So she was kinda “heartsick” because she had recently, in her traveling, met a guy she “was totally in love with” for 5 days, then he said he wasn’t super interested in her and she continued her traveling, but she was OBSESSED- constantly checking her FB and twitter to see what he was up to… We just let her talk and talk and talk, while my whole game was just Touch Escalation.

I had hugged her really big when we first met, and from there just found ways to reach out and touch, brush, massage her every time she got close to me. Turns out the guy she was crushing on hadn’t even made a move except cuddle/snuggled for a couple nights. This girl obviously needed help.

In the Hot Springs, I gave foot massage to my wife, then a female friend of ours, then gave her foot massage and kept coming up her calves to her knees. (Come to think of it, she probably got introduced to 5 of our female friends in the first few hours, that may have made her feel safe).

Then, we took her up on top of a big mesa to look for shooting stars with a group of our friends and My wife played guitar songs. Since it was cold, I grabbed a bunch of blankets from the truck and laid out on the grass. I simply told her to get close to me and use me for a pillow. My wife would play songs on guitar, then jump back under the blankets for a while, then play more songs. We kept our new friend in between us when my wife jumped in.

After a while, I was rubbing her hands, arms shoulders, belly – then since we were so bundled up in coats it was hard to tell what I was touching…Up to this point, it was just casual touch – then I just touched by her thigh by her knee and she caught her breath and trembled – I knew it was ON. SO I just kept teasing her thighs and belly while we watched for shooting stars and told stories.

Since she never moved my hands away, or tried to stop me at all, I just kept getting more and more sexual with my touch until I was just lightly rubbing her crotch through her jeans. She was just trembling and gasping. Then she seemed kinda tired, so I we packed it all up and went home around 2am.

At home,Our friends were still with us, and she was looking sleepy, so I told her, “How bout you go ahead and climb in our bed. We’ll all be keeping you awake out here.”

She just looked at me and said OK, grabbed a tank top and tiny shorts from her suitcase and went off to our King size bed. I stayed up making jokes for half an hour, sent our friends home, took my wife to the shower, then we climbed in bed with our new friend.

We all cuddled innocently in the dark for about 2 minutes before I felt that my wife was squeezing her tits and the girl was just quivering and gasping for breaths already.

Then she tells us that she is really shy in bed ..?.. and has only had 3 orgasms in her entire life. I told her that was really, really a sad story and probably she was doing it all wrong.

We got her topless, but she didn’t want to take her shorts off, so we made her cum TWICE just touching her through her shorts. Then we all fell asleep in a big cuddle pile.

The next day,after sleeping til noon, we made her pancakes and took her sightseeing. We told her to stay a couple more nights and she changed all her travel plans. I kept teasing her about how SHE had seduced US – and MISinterpreting everything she said into an inuendo. Sitting around that evening, watching movies, she told us about her fantasies of being dominated and the kind of things she wanted to happen.

So I just scooped her up, dragged her off to the bedroom and tried being dominating, glipping her over, smashing her face into a pillow and nailing her from behind, etc etc.

She LOVED it, started screaming “FUCK ME, PLEASE, oh FUCK ME HARDER”. Somehow she had gone from a shy quivering pile one night to a screaming fuckslut the next. I guess we made her feel comfortable.

Anyway, we kept this up for a couple days until it was time for her to leave.

She kept saying how she had been “liberated” and “freed from all her sexual hangups”…etc, etc. and Thanking us over and over for the “amazing gift” we had given her.

So – recapping the keys to success -
1. Have Fun – be in a Positive Playful State
2. Just Keep Touching Her
3. Misinterpret whatever she says as Sexy
4. Just Tell her what you want her to do – Come here and cuddle with me, use me for a pillow, Go get in my Bed, etc.

Thanks for your help Jesse

Lay Report #2: Threesome With A Female Hiker

So, fresh off last weeks success… we are on a roll.

Living in paradise is great. Girls on vacation are not feeling their normal social pressure, so they will do things they’ve fantasized about.

This was a great learning experience for me – I usually go for cute, nerdy girls – not HOT model types. In the past, I’ve had girls who are very cute, but maybe were not so cute as teens – so they don’t have that stuck up hot girl attitude. This girl was smoking hot and all attitude.

So I met this girl (I’ll call her Carmen) at the end of a waterfall hike.

It was kind of hot outside, so I opened – “Hey give me your camera! I’ll take pictures of you in the waterfall.”

Then we had a big “argument” about if the water was too cold or if she was just a big chicken. She turned it around on me, so I just jumped in – which is what I wanted to do anyway. I told her if she wanted it warmer, she should come along with my wife and I to the Hot Springs. (I hadn’t planned on going there, but I acted like I was going there anyway.)

I had been hiking with some friends who wanted to go farther, but I feigned a swollen ankle and hiked back down with this girl, made her buy some wine and cheese (she should bring some treats, since we are taking her out), picked up the wife from work and next thing ya know we’re all soaking.

I just started touching her right from the beginning (finding things in her hair, brushing mosquitos off her, fondlng her jewelry – turns out she makes jewelry) Then I kept teasing her – every time she told a story about somebody else – I would accuse her of actually being the villain in the story.

I also kept saying how she had picked ME up and made me take her to the Hot Springs while I was innocently minding my own business just hiking in the woods – obviously she was trying to start something.

We got back home a little before dark – she was camping – so we told her just to grab her stuff and come stay in our extra room instead of getting rained on.

Back at home, I got on the laptop and put on music she said she had liked – (Spandau Ballet !?!- personally, I would rather shove an icepick in my ear, but when a girl tells you that it makes her “just get lost in the music” it starts sounding really good)

This got her on the couch with us, giggling, snuggling and telling stories.

Eventually, my wife went off to bed – she gave me that “Don’t Fuck her yet we barely know this girl!” look and left me on the couch rubbing this girls hair and listening to really bad music from the 80s. Around 5 in the morning I told her to go to bed and we’d have more fun tomorrow.

So we kept this going for a couple days.  Finally on the third day she was supposed to just stay overnight, but I made sure she missed her bus- Carmen just randomly started talking about everyone she ever heard of having a threesome. She was obviously very ready and couldn’t figure out why we hadn’t torn her clothes off yet. So I took her home, made her cook me dinner until my wife got home – then we peeled her clothes off in the kitchen.

Our rule (wife and I) is that we work together for a threesome. So we both have to be into it and agree before we go there. So far, this has worked out kinda well. The target girl kinda gets disarmed. I’m just having fun, teasing her, touching her and being really comfortable. It seems like the girl doesn’t put up a shield because I’m somehow ‘safe’ and she’s on vacation anyhow. I don’t make ‘moves’ that are sexual – just physical and fun.

I kept ‘tease arguing’ with this girl. She hit me, slapped me, threw drinks in my face… etc.

In the past, I would have gotten huffy and insulted, been pissy at the girl for this kind of behavior. I was too dumb to realize this is a kind of ‘foreplay’. Later that night, she showed me an Italian music video of a couple fighting, then making out, then fighting, then making out, then fighting – he put his hand over her face and threw her to the ground by her face. I commented on it and she took my hand and put it in her face, so I took it and shoved her around by it. She looked like she was going to cream herself.

Then we did our thing – great sex!

I remembered what Jesse had said about “just stay in the set”. A lot of things I would have interpreted as her blowing me out were really her way of seeing if I was ‘manly enough’ to turn her on.

So, the next morning, I made sure she got on her bus – she hugged me for like 10 mins before I told her to “get the hell outta here already.”

I was fondling her all morning and she left behind her toothbrush, shampoo, razor, lotion, a pair of jeans and bedding.
So I texted her -

“So, by now you must have a dirty mouth, greasy hair, stubbly legs, dry skin and realized that you’re down one pair of pants and a sheet. Are you coming back for all this stuff? or should we send you a package? “

She said she’d be back again soon.

So here’s what I think I learned,

1. Girls like being told what to do. Even if they argue, just keep telling them what to do. Seems like the more powerful and in control they are in normal life, the more they want someone to be in charge of them.

2. Just stay in the set. I just kept that attitude Jesse talks about – if she doesn’t get up and leave, then she’s interested. She would seem to get angry at me or put me down, then I just stayed cool and teased her back then she’d be really into me again a minute later. Her version of a Push/Pull.

3. Keep touching her. At first, I pretended to have reasons to touch her. After a while it was obvious that I just wanted to have my hands all over her and by then, she was cool with that.

OK, thanks for reading – I’m feeling really high and on a roll right now – I’ll try to leave some girls for the rest of ya.

Trevor

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Here’s a same day field report from ForeverMan of the VIP Lounge.   He met a Norwegian girl at the bookstore, and brought her to the bathroom where he did some very explicit things to her.  Turned out she was getting engaged as well.  Oops. 

Notice how he gets this girl: by taking action, strong eye contact, strong leading, touching her early on, changing her location, talking about sex, then onto extreme dirty talk, and finally doing her in a bathroom.

~ Jesse
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Lay Report By ForeverMan

I spotted a very cute blonde girl in the travel section of the bookshop.

I walkup touch her on the arm smiled and tell her how cute she looks. She smiles and says thankyou. Turns towards me and asks me where i am from. We share where we each of us are from.

I continue gazing into her eyes she remains locked into my eyes.

During the conversation she interrupts and says “you have such beautiful brown eyes i bet you turn girls crazy with eyes like those”.

I thanked her for her kind words.

After about ten minutes of talking I invited her for a coffee at the local starbucks. She agreed we sat down chatted more i touched her each time she laughed and slowly increased the frequency of my touching.

She said no man had ever approached her the way i did in Norway where she lives and she said she likes brave, confident men. She asked me whether i did this to other girls. I told her yes i did she giggled and continued chatting.

I slowly began to “sexualize” the conversation whilst holding her hand and gazing into her eyes. We slowly opened up about sex. I began sharing sexual fantasises with her and told her how one of my previous girlfriends confessed she loved to have sex with Angelina Jolie (i have never had a girlfriend but this was one of the fantasises that the girl i am seeing has). She said she doesnt find Angelina Joli that attractive and would never have sex with her. She thinks she is a bit screwed up in the head.

I shifted the topic back to normal conversation then went back to sexual stuff again. She went onto tell me that even though she loves sex she doesn’t sleep around and would not have casual sex with anyone.

I took her by the hand and we went for a walk outside. I placed my hand around her waist and began stroking her back then moved down towards her buttocks.

I asked what part of her body she loved to be touched on. She remarked my buttock cheek where you just touched your fingers.

I began massaging her butt cheeks she moaned under her breath.

I asked her to describe the feeling she told me each time i touched that area she would get a warm feeling in her pussy .

I spun her around and we began making out. WOW she was an amazing kisser so soft and gentle on the lips. The polish girl i am seeing was alittle too aggressive but this girl really knew how to kiss a man so gentle.

From the logistics point of view it was a 1 hour trek with 2 station changes back to my house. So I kept a cunning backup plan in place. Didn’t want to risk her losing attraction for me whilst we headed back to my place and not doing anything with her.

I had already had a plan in mind. There were two large disabled toilets in the area and a nappy changing room or what the americans call diapers for babies if i could get her into one of these rooms behind locked doors I could do the deal. Before leaving Starbucks I went into the toilet and swallowed some kamagra gel to give me alittle more confidence with my hard-on should we end up having sex.

I said to her come on and led her to a particular hotel area where the nappy changing room was.

I made a dumb excuse and said to her “i got a problem with my contacts”.  She smiled and i led her into nappy changing room locked the door and gave her a smile.

I pushed her hard up against the wall and told her she was my little slut my dirty little slut.

She moaned and said “yes”.

I repeated, “Well me you are my slut and i own your body i want you to say it”.

She repeated what I said then I grabbed her hair pulled it back and began making out with her. I told her i want to see her gorgeous wet pussy. She complied and pulled down her jeans and panties.

I began complementing her pussy telling how good it looked. I told her lie down on the floor. I told her it’s okay to let go and enjoy this moment it’s like an adventure for the both of us.

After lubricating my fingers i began giving her a g-spot orgasm. OMG her body was wriggling everywhere she moaning left right and centre. I checked in and kept asking her how it felt she said she loved it and was feeling so good. Each time i got her to describe the good feelings inside her body.

I pulled out my fingers and she moaned “fuck me fuck me now fuck me please”.  She spread her legs I dropped my pants wasn’t sure what to do but just went with the flow.

I pulled out the condom out of my bag and somehow managed to get her to put it on for me.  As it was along time since i had put one on!

Couldn’t believe how wet her pussy was she was dripping like crazy !!  She maneuvered my penis into her pussy and we began fucking. It seemed like forever before I came but when I did there seemed to be like an anti climax.

We cleaned up got dressed. I gave her a hug and she said “thankyou” and began kissing me. I asked her what do you mean. She said that no man had put her pleasure first and i did and she loved me for that.

I could see tears coming from her eyes. I gave her a hug again kissed her and told her it’s okay.  I told her I enjoyed being so close to her in that moment.

We left and went to a bar and continued to chat. She told me that she was planning to marry this guy in January and she said she wanted to continue being friends with me. I said sure.  I told her that whatever happened today would be our little secret. She said she wanted to invite me to her wedding and have front seating so when we she walked down the wedding aisle. I could get a view of her backside and we could look at each and share a moment together with our eys before she made her vows.

Later that night i got two texts from her thanking me again.

UPDATE:  The norwegian girl texted me again saying she is coming over again next week for a few days and wants to see me again. I have told her from the start that i am not looking for a relationship so she knows where I stand.

ForeverMan

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Here are 13 reasons why I go to the gym every day!

What I’ve noticed is that the guys who are really good with women, the top guys, almost ALL of them regularly hit the gym. It’s just a tendency that I see a LOT. There’s a very strong correlation.

And I know that when I’m hitting the gym hard and I build momentum, that’s when I have spectacular results meeting girls. And when I stop hitting the gym, my performance with women drops off sharply.

This is how you know it’s been too long since you last hit the gym…

In fact, I don’t know how guys meet women without the gym. At this point it’s so integrated into my life and regulates my state and how I feel, amps my sex drive and my sense of entitlement that I don’t know how you guys that don’t workout hard do it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGAHbNulZkU

Some pre-inspiration before we get to all the reasons

And if you’re not going to the gym, you need to start with no excuses. Here’s why,

Why The Gym #1. “T-Buzz” or “Sledgehammer Arms”

After about 3 weeks of really pounding it in the gym, you build this momentum, at least for me and I’ve been doing this a while now, where I get this kick-ass, awesome testosterone rush or buzz after I kill the weights. Which just keeps me feeling energetic, enthusiastic, motivated, masculine and young throughout the day. It’s the T-buzz that you can only get by tearing up your muscles like a Spartan.

You get this feeling aliveness, of glowing, youth. You feel hot blooded, happy, grounded. Testosterone does all these things for you.

Sometimes I call it having the “Sledgehammer Arms” because I start to feel like my arms are these two huge, powerful sledgehammers that could break through a concrete sidewalk if I felt like tearing the sidewalk apart. And notes that my arms are not even that big, it’s more just a feeling I get.

Why The Gym #2. For Sexual Drive

Particularly if you are over the age of 30, like I am, sexual drive starts to wane. And you’re going to feel like lazy ass and sit on your couch if you do nothing about it, because without a strong sexual drive, you won’t have motivation. You’ll start acting more like a chick.

Testosterone is critical for sexual drive, and you feed testosterone production by hitting the weights hard. Period. And when you’ve got momentum, you can feel a buzz in sexual drive, almost as if you’re a big walking penis, and if a girl got alone with you, she’d be in real danger of being fucked hard for a good hour without mercy.

Why The Gym #3. Freedom From Outcome

When you get really sexually hot, what it does is you stop rating girls with your brain which causes outcome-dependency and therefore approach anxiety, and instead you start thinking with your dick, which is all about taking action now.

In a sense, your standards of what you want to fuck, lowers, it’s a bit like having beer goggles on, but the result is actually a pure positive, because not only are you far more eager to open all types of girls to build momentum, but the really hot girls don’t stun your brain out, because you’re not thinking with your brain, you’re thinking with your dick.

Working out fuels that “I don’t give a flying fuck feeling,” that sexual fury-driven feeling. Alpha, action taking, unreactive. Risk taking, rash, reckless. That’s what you need to open women. So instead of trolling around looking for permission which girl to open, you just step up the fuck, naturally.

Why The Gym #4. Giddiness

Giddiness to go out. Giddiness to go out to the bar or club or mall and talk to people. You know how normally you feel like a lazy ass and it would just be so much easier to stay at home and play videogames.

Well, when you smash your body with the weights, and you’ve got hot blood coursing through your veins, you don’t want to sit down. You want to blow off steam by meeting people, talking loudly, being social, showing off, riding that edge of chaos, having stimulation. You don’t want to stay at home.

You’re giddy to go out. You could call it enthusiasm or energy. For me, I like to think of it as Giddy, almost like a little child itching or giddy to go to the amusement park. I’m like a little child that just wants to go to the candy store.

And when I don’t work out, I don’t have that same kind of enthusiasm, I become more of a lazy ass.

Why The Gym #5. For Champ Posture

Most guys are walking around with shit posture, stooped over. It’s that subtle difference when you pull in your stomach and lift your just like with a puppet string here, that you started walking like a King, and girls notice that you carry yourself like the King.

For me personally what separates a hot girl, from a true 10, is often just her posture. Does she carry herself like a queen, like she’s physically fit in top shape. Are her muscles strong an taut to hold her body like a statuesque goddess. Posture is everything. So you want to stand like a champ.

But the fact is, if you’re not pounding it hard at the gym, DAILY, you’re not going to have champ posture, homey. Your muscles are going to be too weak to hold yourself up properly.

What the gym does, is that I’m continually in front of the mirror. And that’s when I continually correct my posture to stand like a champ. It’s when you’ve got the mirror right there in your face, and the blood rushing through your body, that’s when you start standing tall like Superman. And walk like a King. And when I stop going to the gym, guess what? My posture goes to shit again.

Why The Gym #6. To Feel And Stay Young

Back in high-school, I was bounding with energy. I did cross-country and I would run 3 to 5 miles daily, hit the gym, and still have plenty of energy left over for my school, homework, and program my computer.

And research shows that your teenagers years are your healthiest – when you’re a teen, you’re least likely to catch a cold or get a disease.

As you get older, your testosterone levels drop off. Once you hit your 30s, you slow down. You no longer have that manly, energetic, youthful “buzz” anymore.

Hitting heavy weights is the most reliable way to hold onto that feeling of youth. By hitting weights, your body gains muscle and becomes lean like a teenager’s. You feel bounding with energy and you have more physical and sexual stamina. You get hornier.

You don’t get sick as often. You feel good. You feel young and alive.

Why The Gym #7. Entitlement

Guys freeze up around the hot girl because they don’t feel entitled to have her. He may WANT her, but that’s different than trusting yourself to be “worthy” of her.

So most guys get scared or they come up with complex lines and routines to “try to impress her”. The girl senses this supplicative behavior and loses interest.

The gym however goes a long way to giving you core confidence. When you LOOK good, when you LOOK like you can hold that hot girl on your arm, then you feel ENTITLED to have her. It doesn’t mean being a Beefcake Hunk will make that fear of approaching go away, but it DOES take much of the edge off the anxiety.

After all, when you’re leaner, bigger, and more muscular, you feel energetic. You feel alive. You may even feel like a bad boy or beast or a titan. You feel like a Rock. You feel worthy.

So you’re far more likely to approach the girl *assuming attraction* and not giving two hoots how the girl reacts. You feel worthy to say what’s on your mind or say what amuses you, rather than what you think will impress her. You feel entitled to touch her and make eye contact.

And just having your posture and body eye-fucked by random girls passing you by doesn’t hurt either. I enjoy it when I get that wide-eyed “Jesse, please splay my legs and fuck me” look. It just feeds into that narcissistic fire and sense of deservedness.

Why The Gym #8. To Cut Through All The Crap

When you’re not working out, it’s easy to start over-intellectualizing pickup. It becomes all about tactics, impressing the girl, doing your song and dance, and how to “not be rejected”.

Once you get a bit of raging testosterone, all the intellectual crap is stripped away and what’s left at the core are your caveman instincts to fuck.

You FEEL that girls want to be approached and bent over and fucked raw like the primitive primates they are.

This makes you far more action-taking.

Why The Gym #9. To Regulate Your State

The gym helps prevent you from feeling too high, and helps prevent you from feeling too low.

Think of working out as a temperature regulator, much like the panting tongue of a dog. When you’re feeling the blues, lifting weights helps pull you out of it. And when you’ve got too much energy, the gym is a way to let off steam.

Why The Gym #10. To Build Good Habits

Meeting women requires discipline and dedication. It requires going out even when you don’t always feel like it. It means pushing through bad emotions sometimes.

Going to the gym requires this same discipline and dedication. You won’t always feel motivated. You won’t always feel great. But you go anyway to do what you know is right.

It’s that long term consistency despite negative resistance that makes you go from “average” to “awesome”. And you internalize the evidence that slow, steady progress leads to true results.

And it’s exactly those habits you need to nurture and cultivate to succeed with women. And when you can go to the gym consistently, you’ll go out to meet women consistently.

Why The Gym #11. Grounding Yourself

It’s good to have a manly physical activity outside of your job and outside of girls.

That can be anything that GROUNDS you in your masculine energy of glorious manliness.

Rock climbing. Dirty biking. Swimming. Wrestling.

Or lifting weights, which you can do in any kind of weather.

You’ll have a source of pride outside of just women. A hobby. An activity. So that even when there’s no girls around, you’ve got something that gives you satisfaction just for YOU.

Why The Gym #12. Become A Better Lover

It’s one thing to whack off to net porn for 20 minutes.

It’s a completely different deal to hard drill a real girl with animalistic passion for an hour without tiring out. Or handle two girls for a threesome. It’s as physically exhausting as it is pleasurable.

To go from “good lover” to “great lover” you need stamina. You can’t get tired after the first few thrusts. And women want a man with muscle, it’s a visual turn-on. You need that testosterone to give you passion.

You get all that working out at the gym lifting heavy weights.

Why The Gym #13. Be Healthy

Working out your mind with intellectual pursuits is all fine and dandy. But your mind’s function ultimately relies on the health of your body. And if your body goes to shit, your mind goes down the drain with it.

I don’t understand how people go through life not caring how their body feels or holds itself. Just walk through your local Walmart and take a look at the sad physical state of most human beings.

Particularly as men age and they don’t work out, they start to look like total and complete SHIT. As you get older, you should grow into your GLORY. Unfortunately, most guys devolve into feeble, bent, gnarled up messes. It’s because they don’t have enough muscle mass to hold their bodies together properly.

I want to look 30 when I’m 40. I want to look 35 when I’m 50. And 40 when I turn 60. And getting younger hotties and feel like I’m 25 the whole time. Why not? All you’ve got to do is hit the gym consistently, eat right, and you extend your sexual life by 30 years.

You’ve got to be in that body 24 hours a day after all. You might as well feel good and be healthy.

So there you have it – that’s why *I* go to the gym. You may have your own reasons and motivations. But you need to find out what they are if you’re not already consistently going. And find out those reasons and motivations to go fast. Because lifting heavy weights at the gym, I’ve seen for myself and most guys, is INTEGRAL to their success with women.

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Ask yourself this – in your quest for glory, have you priced yourself out of the monogamous relationship market?

Put simply, as you become an increasingly high-value man, you will find most women to be less and less relationship-worthy, until you become frustrated at the low quality of 99% of the women out there.

Not only won’t you find girlfriend-worthy women, but you won’t be able to stay monogamous over the longhaul.

Take my own situation:

• I earn a very nice passive income. I don’t need to report to any boss. I don’t need to go to work.
• I’ve travelled all through South America, Europe, and Japan. I can hop on a plane and visit any exotic beach or country I desire, at any time, and run my businesses from a laptop computer.
• I’m 6 feet tall, hit the gym hard, and stay in excellent physical shape. When I dress well, women turn their heads.
• I know enough attraction “tactics” and have solid inner game so that I can walk into any bar or club, approach 20 women, and usually have a new potential girlfriend by the end of the night.
• I’m not a “nice guy” pushover, but can turn on that bad boy edge that excites women. I speak loudly, with breaking rapport tonality, and I’m not afraid to talk and get physical. Meeting new women is both fun and easy.
• I’ve bedded enough women to experience all shapes, sizes, and types – Asian, blondes, brunettes, thick ones, thin ones, curvy ones, leggy ones, etc.
• I weed out bad habits. I don’t drink, smoke, take any drugs, watch much television, or lose my temper and so on.
• I’ve worked on becoming a generally fun, easy going guy to be around.

These are high-value traits that women generally look for in a man and a sexual partner.

None of it happened by itself. I’ve focused *heavily* on self-improvement.

Why?

So that one day I could meet that “awesome soul mate”, a girl that had both a knock-out body AND had her head screwed on straight.

The High-Value Man’s Dilemma And Paradox

As I achieved more and more in life, I faced an unexpected paradox and dilemma.

Through the massive drive to build-up my value as an “awesome boyfriend”, I increasingly priced myself OUT of the monogamous relationship market.

A traditional, monogamous relationship with one girl became less and LESS desirable to me.

“Pricing Yourself Out Of The Market” – The World War I Example

Take this simple analogy.

From 1914 to 1918, millions of young men join the Army to fight in the European battlefields of World War I.

These young men had visions of honor, glory, and fame. Most had never left their hometown and it was a chance to travel. It was a chance to have adventure. Maybe they could escape 10 hour work days at the local factory. Maybe they could find a wife.

The reality was, they ended up in waterlogged ditches and ate terrible food. Disease was rampant. On orders, entire lines of men ran directly into machine gun fire. Like lemmings, thousands of men charged directly into the oncoming bullets to their immediate death.

Lines of infantrymen would run into machine gun fire armed with bayonets, only to be mowed down by the hundreds.

Could that same thing happen today?

NO.

Today, most Europeans and Americans have priced themselves out of the ditch-warfare market.

With big entertainment (movies, games, TV), a myriad of cheap food options (fast food, restaurants, sweets), convenient travel, comfy office work, paid vacations, and an Internet-educated public, most young men will simply NOT sit in a damp ditch for months on end. Most young men will simply NOT volunteer their lives to run directly into machine-gun fire armed with bayonets to their deaths.

Most young men in this modern age have TOO MUCH TO LOSE.

Your average guy lives more like an emperor compared to 100 years ago

They know what war is REALLY like from movies, television, and the Internet.

They won’t throw away their lives so carelessly like that.

Nowadays, armies need to pay young men to fight, and pay them well. And even then, most young men have no intention to join up for “glory”.

They’re priced out of the market for World War I ditch warfare. (That is a GOOD thing.)

It’s the same with monogamous relationships.

As you become an increasingly successful man with more options, more knowledge, and more experiences, you have more to LOSE by attaching yourself to a woman in a monogamous relationship.

Consider this,

#1. Most Women’s Outer Beauty Is Largely An Illusion

In the hometown I grew up in, even a slightly attractive young woman drove me crazy.

But once you travel all over the world and have met hundreds of women, you get spoiled. The girls that used to turn your head back home now just look “Meh”.

And once you’ve been in a few relationships with attractive women, you come to realize that “makeup and fakeup” accounts for most of their outer beauty.

Sofia Vergara with and without her makeup

Take off her high heel shoes, and the illusion is shattered. She’s short.

Remove her makeup, and the illusion is shattered. She has blemishes.

Just check out these “Before And After” photos of Victoria’s Secret models.

Take off her sexy dress, and the illusion is shattered. She eats poorly and has no muscle tone.

And if you’re a fitness fanatic like me, you realize that most attractive women actually have poor diets, don’t exercise, and are rife with bad habits.

2. Most Women Are Financially Needy

Most women are lost and don’t know what they want to do with their lives.

When you start dating a woman, you realize that she could use financial help or she’s unhappy with her work.

Sooner or later, you’ll feel like you need to help her out or help fix her problems.

So you feel guilty letting her suffer without help, and you feel even worse when you help and start to feel trapped into supporting her (money-wise or time-wise).

In other words, for successful guys, the vast majority of women look like financial or emotional vampires. They suck value from you, without offering much in return.

3. Most Women Are An Emotional Mess

Shit storms. Dumb drama. Emotional roller coasters. Overreacting.

“People major in the minor things of life,” as Tony Robbins puts it.

As you gain emotional mastery in your life (not repressing your emotions, but rather living in and expressing the better ones), you find you have less and less tolerance for the dark side of women’s emotionality.

You feel like you’re babysitting them through their bullshit and it’s a waste of your time and energy when you could be on an exotic beach somewhere meeting hotties.

4. Most Women Are Time Vampires

Girlfriends will waste your time like no other.

Without a relationship, you can travel all over and do what you want.

Now, your girlfriend wants you to do stuff you have no interest in like going out to dinners or going shoe shopping with her at the mall. In other instances, she outright wastes or disrespects your time.

If you’ve been in a relationship you’ve experienced this plenty.

5. Women Lose Value With The Passage Of Father Time

Women LOSE social and sexual value as she gets older.

Jennifer Lien, who played Kes on Star Trek Voyager, in 1995

Once she feels she “has you”, women almost universally begin packing on the weight. She lets herself go and she eats and eats.

Jennifer Lien in 2010 (Hat tip: Karea)

That slim waistline and fine curves vanish.

With the years, fine lines, rough skin, and graying hair makes her look less desirable.

At the same time, you, as the man, GAIN value with time.

Graying hair makes you look distinguished.

Your passive income rises.

And suddenly younger girls look increasingly attractive, AND they’re increasingly attracted to you.

So with time, your sexual-market value increasingly diverges from the woman’s. Your sexual-market value rises gradually while hers declines.

And you become increasingly unhappy.

6. Women Don’t Want You To Be Your Best Self

Women will always try to put the brakes on your success.

It is NOT in the woman’s self-interest for you to achieve your “full potential”.

A woman does NOT want a guy with tons of money, who can travel anywhere, and can attract and bed girls left and right.

Yes, a woman DOES want a “successful guy”, but only so far as that his success is invested in HER and HER progeny.

A woman wants a guy to bring income, but not to the point where he earns so much that other women would become attracted.

A woman wants a man to have freedom, but NOT to the point where he can jetset to an exotic beach every weekend with bikini girls on it.

A woman wants her man to be attractive, but NOT to the point where other women are throwing themselves at his feet.

A woman wants a man to be confident, but NOT to the point he can walk up to any hot girl and begin chatting her up.

Women DO want a man that will take care of the kids. But they DON’T want the “ultimate man” who is reaching for the sky. They want a man that is “enough”. And the problem for really action and success-driven guys is that they always find the woman trying to hold them back and put the brakes on their full potential.

The Result – Monogamy Looks Increasingly Like A Bad Deal

Again, with increasing life success and life experience, you come to realize that women are great for sex and fun… but that NO woman is worthy to be a “life partner”.

Monogamy starts to look increasingly LESS attractive.

It doesn’t mean that you don’t desire meeting that “soul mate” or “special girl”. You do.

But your eyes are open. And you can’t find a girl that you’d feel comfortable or happy devoting yourself to.

After all, if you can meet new girls every week, travel anywhere in the world to exotic places, work a 20 hour workweek from a laptop… why would you want to deal with all the downsides and restrictions that comes with monogamy with ONE girl?

Brazilian girls at the beach

You feel the you’d have to give up too much.

So with success and experience, you increasingly price yourself out of the monogamous relationship market. And at some point you reach a TIPPING POINT – 99% of women are simply NOT worthy of being your exclusive girlfriend.

They simply don’t add enough value to your life to justify committing to them.

Why So Many Celebrity Couples Break Up

Just take a look at celebrity couples.

Celebrity couples are almost always BOUND TO FAIL.

Take Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore.

Ashton is recognized. Walking into a bar, he’ll instantly have the attention of the hottest girls there. He’s got money, he’s got social proof, and he’s got that pretty face. He can go to any country in the world and party with models in Brazil, Italy or Miami.

The reality is, no woman can compete on his level. 99.9% of women will HOLD HIM BACK. As girlfriends, they’ll become needy, emotional, time-sucking vampires.

Ashton’s fling #1 – Sara Leal

And as Ashton ages, he only become more sexually desirable – more successful and more distinguished.

Ashton’s fling #2 – Brittany Jones

No woman, not even Demi Moore, could really tie the guy down indefinitely. Pushing 50, Demi Moore is aging and losing her looks. Ashton is not. He’s only rising.

That’s why he’s been philandering with 20 year old hotties, and Demi and Ashton have broken up.

Celebrity couples break up. Why? The guy is simply TOO POWERFUL… he has priced himself OUT of the monogamous relationship market! And after a few years with his Hollywood actress, he doesn’t want to be held back any longer. He wants out.

SO, Who DOES Benefit From Monogamy?

For most men, being monogamous with one woman IS a very GOOD thing.

And for most men, the pool of “desirable women to marry” is huge.

Let’s take hypothetical Average Joe.

Joe is overweight. Joe is short and stubby. Joe has a lot of curly, black body hair. Joe is not exactly pretty as a picture.

Joe Rules

Joe doesn’t exercise and Joe has bad habits like drinking, losing his temper, and emotional eating.

Joe works in an unexciting, unchallenging low-end office desk job.

Joe gets tongue-tied and nervous around attractive women. He’s too nervous to approach them. More than that, Joe’s not curious about learning how to do it either.

Joe has problems following through on projects, and lacks the drive to really excel. Joe’s happy watching television and eating high-calorie foods after work.

There’s nothing terribly wrong with our Joe. He’s cool to hang out with. But on the dating market, Joe’s just… average.

And being so average, the vast majority of women would certainly be a great catch for Joe.

Even a homely-looking, emotionally unstable woman willing to take Joe as a husband would give Joe,

• Sex.
• Companionship to fill in the otherwise passive-entertainment emptiness of his free time.
• A guiding voice to steer him clear of his bad habits and be a moderating influence.
• A woman to protect and provide value for (providing value or “giving back” brings purpose happiness).

So for Joe, a man with few sexual options, any woman, even if she’s homely looking and has her own slew of problems, even if she’s a time vampire and emotionally unstable… is a very GOOD CATCH.

THAT is the kind of guy who should snag a girlfriend and stick with it.

And even if you’ve got a lot more going for you than our Joe (you make a good income, you exercise, you don’t drink like a fish, etc), the balance will probably tip toward having a girlfriend is a GOOD THING. The benefits of having a relationship will outweigh the negatives of it.

The Outlier’s Pyramid

The problem is really an outlier’s dilemma.

Outliers are those guys who have *extraordinary* options and choices on the dating market.

Take a look at the Outlier’s Pyramid below.

On the bottom rung of the pyramid are people with few to no relationship options. The very old, the mentally ill, people with extreme social phobias, hard core drug addicts, people with no sex drive, extreme eccentrics, the woman with 25 cats, and so on.

In the second rung rest the vast majority of men and women. They largely follow the cultural trance and mediocrity is the general norm. For example, a single divorced woman who is 40 years old, somewhat chubby, earns $10 an hour, and doesn’t apply herself. She has limited attractiveness, but the dating pool of equals is large.

On the third rung (about 1 in 25 to 1 in 50 women) we find the “hot girls” or the “8s, 9s and 10s”. These are the kinds of women that can put on high heels and turn heads.

Women with higher dating-market value than the general population.

All the men on the second rung desire to get with women on the third rung, but they have little chance. Instead, they usually end up marrying a homely-looking women from their own rung, the second.

On the fourth and top rung are the male outliers – men who are real go-getters, have weeded out bad habits, exercise, look good, are well traveled, bank income, and have tight game. This is the most rare group of people.

The surprise is, pretty girls far outnumber the male outliers.

The Outlier Male

For every 1 male outlier, there are 100 “hot girls” from the third rung that would like to fuck him, catch him, and keep him.

And that’s where his “quality problem” regarding monogamous relationships comes in – there are too many sweets in the candy store to tempt him away.

The Male Outlier’s Dilemma

A male outlier DOES want to meet that “one special girl”.

And yet in every budding relationship you start to feel TRAPPED.

You feel the girl is holding you BACK.

You feel the girl is more trouble than she’s worth.

You feel you’re babysitting her emotions.

You feel you’re missing out on everything else you COULD be having and experiencing.

Men who are outliers feel torn.

They have this fantasy of meeting a WORTHY girlfriend with the body and the brains that doesn’t cause the drama and bullshit or get fat down the road.

And yet they enjoy the adventure and excitement of traveling, of building a business, and of meeting eager, new women.

It’s Lonely At The Top

Here’s the thing. It’s LONELY at the top.

The more you achieve, the more you’ll pull away from the masses.

And the closer you reach the moon, the smaller and the girls look.

By expanding your life’s options to ridiculous levels, you largely price yourself OUT of the monogamous relationship market.

So… What Does It All Mean?

It means that, (if you’re ready to swallow this), you’re better off NOT committing to any one single girl.

You’re better off ditching monogamy.

It means wearing, what I call, “The Black Hat”.

Where instead of seeking to be “the provider”, you accept being the “bad boy” that girls want to hook up with and you accept the abundance of opportunities in your life for what it is.

That’s actually a hard reality for most outliers to swallow, as they weren’t born outliers.

They only grew into it with life experience and taking massive action. And as cultural conditioning teaches us that we need to find “the one” and “settle down”, it can be tough to make that transition into accepting a life of true sexual abundance.

In actuality, this website will be of help to three groups of men.

• Group #1. Guys who are at that Outlier Level and want to learn to have fun and be fulfilled without getting obsessed about “finding the ONE girl to complete me”.
• Group #2. Outlier males that DO have a girlfriend or wife and want to minimize the drama and bullshit and keep their woman sexually desirable for years to come.
• Group #3. For guys on that second rung of the pyramid who want to break out and take it to the next level.

This site is for all men who wish to reach the top, but also for men already at the top – and how to meet women and navigate relationships to work for YOU. Even if you’ve essentially priced yourself out of the monogamy market.

Jesse out

P.S. If you’ve got an opinion on this (and you almost certainly do), be sure to leave a comment below. I’d like to hear it.

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Spend enough time with a girl, and she’ll want you to be her exclusive boyfriend. And that’s when the drama starts – you want to keep her as a “friend with benefits” but she wants your soul.

Especially when you start juggling multiple girls and have Multiple Long Term Relationships, the jealousy and possessiveness can get VERY thorny very quickly.

So how do you juggle multiple girls or girlfriends without making them get jealous, catty, or go emotionally nuts “wanting something more” from you?

Senior forum member AKM has the answer I his 10 points program for managing multiple girlfriends.

~ Jesse
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“Gunslinger’s guide to Emo. control”
By AKM of the VIP Lounge

If a woman feels she has “something” with you, it is only at that time that she can perceive loss.

Thus it is in a man’s best interest when running Multiple Long Term Relationships game to minimize the very thing that will serve as the catalyst for an emotional explosion.

Here are a few items I would recognize as high points. These are not deal breakers if one does not follow them, but following each of them have been shown to lead to better statistical averages regarding female emotional flare ups in Multiple Long Term Relationships scenarios.

#1. Be Honest About Your Intent

The first opportunity comes in one’s statement of intent. Women want to know one’s intentions as well. The line “I like being single” is fantastically straight forward and from my perspective sums up what one would wish to strive for when conveying his initial intentions.

If a man wished to customize his own line he would be best served to build it upon this rock solid foundation.

Once you state your intent remain congruent on it. They will try to push you off from it with questions regarding everything from loneliness to cuddling. This shit test will determine whether or not she’s willing to accept your frame. Be prepared.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control.

#2. Avoid The “Provider frame”

Simply avoid future framing boyfriend girlfriend stuff. Avoid saying shit like, “I like to hang around on weekends with a girl I love and watch movies while we scrapbook,” just to get laid. This backfires as far as emotional control.

Don’t set her expectations that ANY PART of your future relationship will be anything but an adventure into the unknown and risqué world of pushing boundaries.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#3. Avoid Too Much Kissing

Kissing is a great intro to getting with a girl. It escalates our bond and get’s us between the sheets. However one may choose to rule out kissing early in the relationship.

The reason is that it will silently maintain your relationship status from the moment you stop. It is not uncommon for a man to kiss a women the first night of seduction and then stop.

The lack of kissing clearly defines the parameters of the relationship being physical and being about sexual gratification.

IF an man is doing something extraordinary in the bedroom his lack of interest in making out is simply overlooked.

“I just wanna fuck….YOU…..we cant be kissing an’ huggin’ girl you got a husband who loves….YOU….you got to give him yo’ quality time” ~ some rapper. Dr. Dre?

It turns the dynamic of the relationship on it’s ear and forces the concept of sexuality. You won’t miss “the make out session” part of your interactions with women because that has now been upgraded to “The blow job” section of your relationship.

And she’s automatically less clingy. You get pulled back into the house for more sex, not “One more kiss” “Bleaah!” ~AKM

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#4. What To Say After Immediately Sex (Post coitus)

There’s a thread of mine out there that covers this so I’m not going to re invent the wheel. Essentially it covers some of the best things to say post coitus.

Essentially, “That was FUN. MAYBE we should do it again sometime.”

Make notice of the words both fun and maybe. One is a lighthearted view of what you’ve just done to her the other implies that the possibility of the “FUN” happening again is up in the air.

NO perception of commitment =emotional control

#5. Choose Not To Cuddle

One should be aware of the power of cuddling. It imparts the sense of connectedness between the two parties especially for the woman.

Emotional control is about remaining disconnected to a large degree.

Want to avoid emotionality completely? Get up within 1 minute tops of cumming and take your ass to the shower. Hopefully you’ve performed well enough that she’s not talking or walking very well at the moment so she can’t give chase mentally or physically.

Wash your balls, and go put your cloths on if you want to get really hardcore with this.

Fantastic to be fully clothed ten minutes after sex and she’s still naked and quivering saying nonsense phrases while you stand over her bed. Then tell her that she makes no sense and that you’re going to have to leave because she’s being an idiot. HILARIOUSE!!! Don’t believe me? Try it yourself.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#6. Limit your availability

Let’s pretend that the woman is a burglar and is trying to steal your prized possession. In this case it’s your community.

Essentially the more time you give her inside your house the greater the statistical likelihood that she’s going to find it.

Limiting the time available to her makes it more difficult for her to get you into an inextricable position which is exactly the time she will get emotional and for lack of a more succinct word “Bitchy”.

Lesser amounts of time are better. Use the concept of false time constraint here where needed. Get in, get out.

This applies especially post coitus/sex. The longer one hangs out after the deed or allows her to hang out will only strengthen the bond she has with you.

Remember…

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#7. Make Her Bring You Gifts

When an old mentor told me this part of the craft I was certainly hesitant but given his tenured player status (in his fifties) I tried it out.

The idea is that any woman who comes to your house should adhere to the common cultural moray of bringing the host a gift.

Large or small, they should bring SOMETHING. I didn’t think they would. MAN WAS THAT OLD MAN RIGHT!!! I became flooded with shirts, high dollar bottles of my favorite whiskey, other party favors, food, cigarettes, flasks, beadwork, clothing and so on.

THEY LOVED THE IDEA OF BRINGING ME GIFTS JUST LIKE THE OLD GRIZZ SAID!!!!

And yes, It does feel like prostitution and the women do mention it at times. And no, it never bothered me.

Would you get all emotional when you found out your favorite stripper/hooker gave a lap dance to someone else?

This tech is for long term harem/MLTR management and multiple relationship with NO LTR component as I have used it successfully both ways.

It puts you in a consistent one up while creating a hot dynamic for her as she is always struggling as the one down which causes her brain to see you as dominant thus hot.

The fact that she’s essentially buying a ticket for sex through her gift does a number on female perception which cements your status as the one up and thus controls emotionality.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#8. Don’t Give Her Gifts

Gifts can easily be misinterpreted by the relationship hungry female mind to mean far more than they are.

One will get himself in trouble giving them often if at all.

Especially if what he wants is an emotionally cool sexual relationship.

Gifts convey that you were thinking about them outside of a situation where they were pleasing you.

This makes a girl think there is a possibility that those thoughts could gain traction and momentum in your mind and gives HOPE to the concept that you will settle down with her.

Not only does a gift indicate the above but a gift (especially a non perishable gift) can serve as a constant reminder of the possibility of the above mentioned “HOPE”.

Do yourself a favor and don’t let her dance around her living room with the teddy bear you foolishly gave her.

EVERY second she thinks about you in a non sexual way gives neural ammunition to your enemy “commitment emotion”.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#9. Don’t Accept Gifts Which Manipulate Your Home Environment

As attractive as it may be don’t let her clean your house, pick up your kid, baby sit your kid, replace your curtains, dust your nick knacks or style your hair.

If it makes any significant changes to your environment and doesn’t fit into the concept of fucking…….. forget it.

Once the female mind moves a few pieces of furniture it gains confidence that it has some order of influence over YOUR environment and will then seek a board position!!!

Politely decline telling them that they are very considerate.

NO perception of commitment = emotional control

#10. Be Sexually Dominant And Make Her Orgasm

If it hurts her and she asks you to stop, then stop.

If not railroad your own sexual wishes.

Assuming that one knows how to satisfy a woman ten orgasms any way they’re had are still ten orgasms.

As long as the numbers work out in her favor fuck it. She doesn’t change the music, the position, the rhythm, NOTHING.

As long as you’re doing your job.

If you’re not get with it!!

If you can do your job then there is no reason you can’t insist on being left alone to do it your way which also happens to be the right way (said orgasms).

This dominance which Jesse has many wonderful materials to help support you will lower the probability of emotions running wild.

When a woman is that satisfied the game is yours to lose.

By maintaining sexual dominance one remains the “one up” and statistical chances of an emotional upheaval are less probable.

I think that any man interested in emotional control can get a good start with these categories. We can continue, but that’s all I have today.

My best to you,

AKM

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Here’s some qualifying lines I use a lot and that hot girls ALWAYS seem to fall for.

Qualifying women simply refers to the idea of throwing tests at her that she has to pass in order for her to win your approval.

She’ll be looking for your acceptance of her. The only way she can get her social value back is by winning your acceptance and winning your attention and respect.

That means if you start qualifying her and testing, she’ll be eager to pass your qualifying tests to win your acceptance.

For example, you could say to her, “You know I like you, but you’re not a stalker are you? You’re not the type who checks her messages five times a day, will call me in the middle of the night are you? Will I be safe around you?”

When qualifying a woman, you establish that YOU are the chooser and that SHE is the chaser. She must work for and win your approval and acceptance of her.

You can qualify a woman on just about anything, but what often works best is screening her based on completely trivial qualities.

For example you could say to woman,

“I can just tell you would be so much trouble for me. I can see it in those eyes. You just look like a handful. How do I know you won’t just drive me up the wall?”

Or you could say,

“You look young for me. Hmm, what else do you have going for you that would make up for that?”

The key is to sound playful and not too serious. Wear a smile on your face. If she already likes you somewhat, she’ll start trying to prove her value to you.

You can also qualify a girl for qualities that you’re seriously looking for. For example, perhaps you want a bi-sexual girl that will eventually have threesomes with you. You can tell a woman, “I only date bi-sexual women.”

Or tell her,

“I only date highly creative and intelligent women. Are you creative?”

Or say,

“Do you work out? I like to be with women who take care of themselves.”

The hotter the chick, the harder you may need to qualify her. On an extremely hot girl, don’t be afraid to pummel her with screening criteria. Qualify HARD.

As long as she feels that she had to WORK for and EARN your approval and attention, she’ll have dopamine hormones flooding her head – the hormone responsible for love, desire, and wanting to chase a reward.

How Make Her Quickly Qualify Herself To You

If you’re passed the hook point and SHE wants the conversation to continue, she’ll start giving you reasons that she’s unique – in effect, she’s trying to make you LIKE her MORE. She’s gaming YOU by qualifying herself to you.

Of course you can qualify a girl right off your opener, by going up to a girl and telling her,

“Hi there! You’re absolutely adorable. But do you have anything more going for you than your looks?”

But qualifying HARD really shines, really has its full potential AFTER the hook point and the girl is already investing in you and investing in the conversation.

And the hotter the chick, the more you’ll want to qualify her. On an extremely hot girl, don’t be afraid to pummel her with qualifying criteria. Qualify her HARD. Really make her work to game you hard. Make her work hard to win you.

And the funny thing about hot women is, that they are so used to being chased by the guy, that when she does start gaming you, by asking you questions and qualifying herself to you, she’ll fall for you even HARDER – because it’s so rare for her to do that, so rare for her to actually game the guy. That’s why in their own way, extremely beautiful women can fall HARDER for you than you’re typical woman.

Also qualify the girl based on your personal standards. Maybe you don’t like girls that smoke. Qualify her on that. Be open and authentic about it, challenge her on it, tease her about it, don’t hide it just to try to impress her. Be a challenge based on your personal standards and challenge her. Speak your mind. Have the balls to the show the girl what you like and what you dislike. And stand behind what you say.

So that’s it – qualify her, qualify her, qualify her. And sit back, and let her do her portion of the talking. Make her work for it, make her invest, make her game you. And you’ll get that second date outside the club.

After She Qualifies Herself To You, Accept Her

After qualifying, it’s critical to ACCEPT HER.

You see, at some point after fighting for your approval, the girl has to feel that she’s proven herself to you. But she’ll only feel worthy of you if you ACCEPT her for passing your tests.

So if you say, “I only date bi-sexual women,” and she starts telling you about how she’s thought about being with a girl before, that shows she wants to win your approval. That’s good behavior on her part.

Reward her for her good behavior.

You: “I only date bi-sexual women.”

Her: “Oh… you know, I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a girl.”

You: “Wow, so you don’t listen to all the stupid rules society places on women. See, I knew you were cool. We can hang out then.” (squeeze her hands)

RAPID ACCEPTANCE is when you reward a woman right away for her good answer. For example,

You: “What’s your favorite show on television?”

Her: “Desperate Housewives”

You: “Wow, I *love* that show. Oh my god, I can just imagine us ten years from now fat as cows on the couch watching marathon reruns of it.” (hug her)

You can also use DELAYED ACCEPTANCE.

With delayed acceptance, you drag out the qualifying process and make her really work for your approval. You leave her hanging in suspense for your acceptance.

For example, I met this cute girl at the bookstore the other day. After talking a bit I found out that she was a fundamentalist Christian. I started to GRILL her about her beliefs for 20 minutes straight, questioning everything she believed in.

Once I realized she wasn’t going to budge I said to her,

“Wow, you know what… you actually stuck up for yourself. That’s really amazing. I thought you would have folded right away. Most of the girls I meet are really flaky… but you’re not like other girls. You are SO awesome.”

Then I gave her a hug.

At that moment when I hugged her and accepted her, after the heavy qualifying, she was practically in love with me. She invited me to a party and gave me three phone numbers to reach her at.

When I met her at the party, she introduced me to about twenty of her cute friends and stuck to my side like glue. She had that starry look in her eyes whenever she looked at me.

All this from a girl whose beliefs dictated I would probably rot in hell… all because I made her work – and wait – for my delayed acceptance!

You can also delay acceptance by STACKING qualifying criteria, and giving her acceptance only at the very end.

For example, you can give her five or six qualifying tests she must pass all in rapid fire succession – that she lives too far away, that you don’t want to get involved with a girl unless she’s devoted to you, that you don’t normally date girls you meet in clubs, that she’s probably the jealous type, that she will probably stalk you, and so on.

Then, instead of giving acceptance on each individual point, reward all of her good answers with a grand, universal acceptance at the very end once she’s jumped through all of your hoops.

Tell her,

“You know, when I first met you I thought you were just like all the other girls. But you’re not like other girls. You’re x, y, and z. I’m so glad I met someone like you… I feel like there’s a special connection between us.” Then hug her or squeeze her hands. “Doesn’t that feel awesome when you meet somebody like that?”

Not too long ago I qualified my honey-hot hairdresser HARD. She worked out two hours a day and it showed – she had the tightest legs in a mini-skirt I’ve ever seen.

I kept qualifying her and she kept trying to win my acceptance but I wouldn’t let her. Whatever her answer was, I didn’t act overly impressed.

After my haircut was finished she talked with me in the sitting chairs for an extra 15 minutes trying to win me over. Finally, she told me what great massages she gives. I told her that I didn’t believe it. She offered to prove it by giving me a massage at her place in the nude.

It’s not that rapid acceptance is better than delayed acceptance of visa-versa. Both work and compliment each other. Use them in combination.

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I want to give you a little formula for attracting women. And it’s this.

Momentum lead to entitlement. Entitlement leads to indifference. And indifference leads to attraction with women.

So if you want to be attractive, you’ve got to attract women, you start with momentum, which builds entitlement, which leads to indifference, with is what attracts girls.

So let me explain that cascade of cause and effect.

Stage #1. Momentum

First with momentum. When you start out your night, you’re going to feel kind of cold, shaky, nervous, stale, out of your groove.

So you want to start out the night relatively easy with no pressure on yourself. Your only “mission” is to open girls and say hello, and be purely social. You’ve got nothing to prove, you have nothing you’re trying to get from the girls, you’re not trying to impress them in ANY way. It’s just, “Hi, my name is Jesse,” smile, and say whatever comes to your mind at that moment.

And getting blown out is perfectly fine, you’re just being social. No pressure and no pressure to avoid getting blown out.

What you’re doing here is building momentum.

Stage #2. Entitlement

Now after about an hour of just being social and building momentum, what’s going to happen is that you start to build a sense of entitlement.

That’s the second step in the cascade, entitlement.

Once you’ve opened like 10, 20 girls just to be social and saying hello, you start to build momentum, it’s like you get this bit of a rush, where you feel entitled to open more girls.

Like whereas before momentum was against you, it was really hard just to say hello to that first girl, now it feels like an unseen force is pushing you FORWARD to open more girls, like you get on this kick.

And you just feel this naked, raw feeling of entitlement to open girls.

When you feel entitled to the girl, you stop caring how it’s going to go, because you’ve already talked to so many girls you get a feeling of abundance. You know you could get with this girl, or if not her, the next girl, and if not her, the next girl. Because you’re seeing it with your own eyes, you’re actually doing it for real, and it’s an established fact in your brain, just as you know the sun will rise the next morning.

Stage #3. Indifference

And then following, entitlement comes indifference.

Indifference is when you see the hottest girl in the club or bar, and you go up and talk to her, just as if she was like any other girl.

You can now talk to her like it’s nothing, because you’ve already been chatting everyone else up, you’ve already talked to 10 or 20 other girls, and as a result of that you’re far more indifferent to the outcome.

Stage #4. Attraction

And the girl, will the feel attracted to the indifference. Because you’re going up to her relaxed and with momentum and entitlement behind your back, and you’re not like any other guy she’ll meet because of that raw, entitled energy you’ve got.

How To Build Momentum

Now in your first approach you ever do, you’re going to be nervous talking to the girls, no matter what. You’re going to be nervous and it’s going to feel like lightning is coursing through your veins.

And most likely you’ll eject after a minute or two, leave the set, feeling pretty awesome about yourself.

And most likely, you’ll have spent weeks and weeks walking around trying to work up the nerve to do that first approach or spent weeks and weeks in preparation thinking you need a perfect gameplan, so that you’ll never be rejected.

And you put a lot of expectations on that first approach.

But that cannot last. You eventually want to be meeting women every day. And you can’t make every approach perfect or prepare for every approach, that would be massively counterproductive, just put you inside your head, and make you go insane.

That’s why you’ve got to think in terms of the first approach as a warm-up approach that doesn’t count. You just dive in.

A warmup approach is just to get you started.

You’re not caring about the outcome.

You don’t care what she looks like, who she’s with, or what you’re going to say.

Complete flying blind.

And the only criteria for success is to do that first warmup approach.

It doesn’t matter if it goes well, or if it goes badly, you don’t care about the outcome positive or negative. Only the approach matters!

And once that first approach is out of the way, man does it make things SOOO much easier.

It gets your mouth moving. It gets your juices flowing. It gets the blood pumping. It floods your brain with serotonin and the body with testosterone. And it pulls you out of your head, you build some social momentum, and the approach anxiety melts away as you state changes from doing the approach.

It’s that warm-up that makes all the difference.

You can even start off with a dumb opener question that breaks all the rules of opening, like “Do you come here often.”

Something really lame and cheesy. Just something. Really lower your standards.

You’re just warming up, just building momentum.

Even, “Hey my name is Jesse. And you are?” Is a great opener just to get the social juices flowing.

You can use situational openers, like “Hey what’s up with the red dress. You’re the only one in here wearing the red dress. I like it. What’s your name?” And the conversation is started.

Or, “You look bored.” Or “You look lonely.” Those will work too.

And as you build up, you can start to feel the fury of your sexual intent and move onto more direct openers, like “Hey, you’re cute!”

And remember all of these work better if you’re using breaking-for-rapport tonality. Again that’s really the key to making any opener work.

Instead, “Uh, uh…. You look bored??” like you’re asking her a question and looking for her approval or her permission to talk to her…

ANY approach will come off as very alpha if you say it with break-rapport tonality. “Hey girl, you look bored!” Like that.

And as long as you use breaking for rapport tonality, pretty much any line will open the girl.

Again, on the warmup, don’t worry about breaking for rapport, it’s a warmup, technique and results don’t natter. With a little momentum, THEN you’ll find your stride and naturally fall into breaking rapport.

But on that first opener, your focus is purely freedom from outcome. You don’t care about the results, positive or negative. You don’t care about what happens. You’re not thinking, you’re not inside your head, you don’t have any methods or techniques, or tactics. Pure going on blindness.

And then, introduce breaking for rapport tonality.

And that will make your day of talking to girls much easier and simpler and get you better results.

Attraction Isn’t Hard

We don’t have, in our lives, any role models of guys who really get crap loads of hot girls. Most likely, none of your friends, or work colleagues, or anyone in your family is a real lady’s man that pulls girls home every weekend.

So the most easy conclusion we have is that attracting women has to be really hard, and complicated, and complex. Getting girls has to be this skill you have to spend years mastering all the tactics to impress the girl.

But really getting good with girls is actually far more counter-intuitive.

You’re not so much adding new skills, as you have to let go of a bunch of old programming, letting go of years of social conditioning and bad thought processes and misleading mindsets.

Like the first kinds of questions that you ask yourself are questions like,

“How can I make girls like me?”

“What is the right thing to say to them to impress them?”

“What should I wear to get approval from girls?”

“What kind of nonverbals do I use to be liked?”

“What’s the specific best action for this specific situation to get acceptance?”

“What indicators of interest am I looking for to have permission that it’s okay to talk to the girl?”

The problem is, all of these kinds of questions or mindsets, are obsessed and worried with getting acceptance, being liked, positive outcomes, getting permission – all the act OPPOSITE of indifference.

A bad boy, a cool guy cares NOTHING about any of these things. No, he’s indifferent.

And to get really hot girls, that’s the thing.

You can’t care.

You can’t give a damn about making her like you.

You can’t give a shit about having “the right things to say”.

It’s paradoxically, when you’re indifferent to being in front of beautiful woman and the actions you take on her, that you feel fully entitled to do what you want and take what you want and say what you want and touch what you want – complete, bonafide indifference – that you get the BEST results.

And momentum gets you there. Momentum by opening lots of girls, moving your way to entitlement, and stepping into indifference, which is what makes you extremely attractive.

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As a dating coach, I’ve noticed a lot of pretty clear-cut patterns with guys who are just coming into meeting girls and doing approaches. These are mistakes that guys who are new to the game tend to make, but mistakes that you can fix really easily in a snap and you can easily address which will immediately lead to better results.

Dating Mistake #1: Playing Chess Inside Your Head

The typical guy is playing chess inside his head. He’s lost in thought inside of his head thinking.

At a party, he’s thinking and he’s planning.

He’s thinking, what is the next thing he’s going to say, and how is he going to direct the conversation.

He’s thinking, “what’s the best way to approach this woman.”

He’s thinking, “If I approach, what is the best thing to say to this woman.”

He’s thinking, “When I approach her, how will she react?”

“If I approach her, will this woman accept me and not blow me off?”

He thinks, “And what if everyone else sees me?”

He’s also thinking about which girls to open.

“Is this girl going to accept my approaching her or will this one?”

“Does this girl already have a boyfriend, and if she does is it okay to approach?”

He’s thinking that this girl to his left is too hot for him, and therefore too difficult and will blow him out, but this other girl to his right, well, she’s a little bit ugly and not what I imagine my dream girl would be and not up to my standards.

He’s looking at this one girl and thinking to himself, “Damn she looks pretty serious… bitch shield, baby!”

And he’s looking over at this other girl who is laughing and giggling and thinking, “Man she has really high fun energy. Man, if I just go in there low energy like I am nervous, I’m for sure going to get blown out.”

The typical guy is playing a huge chess game in his head with all the imaginary moves.

And what it does is cause total, complete analysis paralysis. It would for me. And nothing happens.

Dating Mistake #2: Looking for Permission

Number two, the typical guy is always looking for permission to act as well. For example, the typical guy is always looking for Indicators of Interest – IOIs – like eye contact from a girl or a smile from a girl before he feels like he as permission to go up to her or say hello or to open.

He’s nervous about what the girl’s friends might think of him if he goes and approaches the girl. He has a permission mindset, he wants permission from the friends.

There’s a random guy already talking to the girl. He’s nervous about what the other guy might think, maybe it’s her boyfriend, or maybe this guy will get angry. He wants the other guy’s permission before he’ll go and talk to the girl.

He thinks to himself, “If I go up and talk to her, what will the other people in the room think of me?” Will they think I’m a player? What happens if I get blown out, will they see me? So he’s looking for permission from everyone else in the room in general.

And because he’s peretually seeking permission, from the girl herself, he wants IOIs, a smile, eye contact, he wants permission from her friends, what will they think? He wants permission from the other guy talking to the girl, what will he think? He wants general permission from everyone in the room, to go talk to the girl.

What happens is, he just never approaches. Or if he can barrel through all that thinking in head, all that permission seeking anxiety, if he can go up to a girl despite himself, he’s anxious, he goes up with extreme anxiety, he goes in weakly, he goes in with apologetic neediness, basically like a huge apology, “I’m sorry for talking to you. I’m sorry to your friends, I’m sorry to the guy, I’m sorry to the room. I’m sorry for thinking I had a dick.” He comes across as week.

Dating Mistake #3: Resisting the Situation

In addition, your typical guy when he goes into a club for the first time, is he’s resisting the situation, he’s resisting whatever’s right in front of him. He’s at a bar, club, party, he’s never really happy with the situation. He resists it.

He thinks, number one, “There’s just not enough girls here. Not enough girls!”

Or, “There’s too many guys here. There’ too many guys. Two guys for every girl. So, it sucks.”

Or, he’s thinking, “The music is too loud! And I don’t want to speak so loud. It’s going to fuck up my game.”

Or he gets there late in the night. The party is already going and he’s like, “Damn! The energy here is too high.”

Or conversely he gets there early in the night, things haven’t picked up yet. He’s like “Fuck, this sucks… the energy is too low!”

Or he thinks to himself, “Damn, the line is long for this place, I’m going to have to wait there for 30 minutes.”

Or he thinks, “Damn, I didn’t get a good parking space. Damn, there’s a 20 dollar cover… that cover is too much.”

Or he sees the girls around and he thinks, “You know I really like younger college girls, all the women here are in their 30s, that’s too old for me.”

Or he looks around and sees a bunch of teenie boppers and he thinks to himself, “Ugh, young girls are so flippant, they’re so spacey. They’re not mature enough. This sucks, I want older women.”

So he can always find something wrong with the situation, which is a symptom of being stuck inside his head and thinking, thinking, thinking. Analyzing. Playing chess with the big picture of things.

He’s fighting the flow of the situation, it just is what it is, you can’t change those factors, but he wants to fight them by being inside his head. He’s resisting, wishing that the situation in front of him was different in some way.

So, the typical guy is there at the party physically… but he’s not there mentally. He rejects the here and now, he’s unhappy with it. He wants to be farther up the trail on the hike, but when he gets to the next mountain peak, he’s just as unhappy because then that too will be exactly where he is, and there’s another peak in the distance to be reached.

Because of that resistance, it causes your typical guy to feel anxiety, he feels at unease, he is inside his head, it can even cause a mild feeling of depression inside him, extreme negativity.

So that’s the basis of why 99% of the guys who get into this will fail, they will quit, because they have this thinking, inside-their-head mindset, they’re seeking permission at every moment, they’re resisting the situation at every moment.

Dating Mistake #4: Scanning the room

In regards to bars and clubs, is when the guy first enters the room is he starts scanning the room with his eyes, and he gets whiplash turning his head everywhere. And he scans the whole room looking for a girl to talk to. But of course, every girl is in sets with other girls or other guys, and it’s really easy to think of a million reasons not to approach and you quickly psyche yourself out.

So instead, you just want to get to the bar or club and for the first hour, or really two hours, just relax, chill out. Get used to the environment. No pressure. And just introduce yourself to people, really no pressure on yourself, the interactions can last 2 minutes, until you can build a little social momentum.

Dating Mistake #5: Talking from a distance

The next rookie mistake is the guy who is the Distance Talker. This guy goes up to the girl but he’s like 3 feet away and he tries to talk to her. But in a club or bar, you’ve got to be right up to the girl’s head for her to listen to you. So you’ve got to get comfortable being close.

Dating Mistake #6: Staying in one spot

Next mistake is just staying in one spot the entire interaction. But the reality is, girls get more attracted to you the more you move them around. So instead of talking in one spot for an house, move her to the dance floor. Then back to the bar. Now take her outside. Now chill back at the bar. Now go get something to eat. You’re leading her, and by changing location a lot, it makes it feel like she knows you.

Dating Mistake #7: Orbiting the girl you want to talk to

This is the guy who has decided to approach the girl, but he’s not committed to the action. So instead of going straight for the girl, he sort of orbits around her in a meandering circle, half-deciding whether to go in or not. And he gradually approaches until he gets up to the girl and gives her a really timid opener. And it can freak the girl out a little because there’s a certain level of timidness and creepiness to that.

Instead, you just want to go straight up to the girl and nothing will come between you and her and she can feel that. You move with dominance and you move with purpose, and let her see that you’re the kind of guy who goes for what he wants.

Dating Mistake #8: Not physically escalating

I don’t care how much the girl likes you, and how much you like to yap off routines, but you can only have a friendly conversation for so long before it starts to get BORING. And when you don’t physically escalate with the girl, she feels that you’re too SCARED to escalate. So you talk for an hour, guy doesn’t escalate, and girl and guy go their separate ways and the girl feels that you don’t like her. Escalating physically is everything in creating hard attraction.

Dating Mistake #9: Interviewing the girl

This is where you just ask the girl a bunch of interview questions and you’re pushing her to carry the weight of the conversation right off the bat. But what’s attractive to the girl is when you go first and you let her follow your lead.

So instead of asking the girl, “Uh, what do you do?” You just lead by making statements about yourself first, like “I’m really into videogames!” And then she’ll reciprocate by telling you what she’s into. So don’t start off as a reporter, instead lead the conversation by putting yourself out there first.

Dating Mistake #10: Not communicating sexual interest to the girl

Next mistake is not communicating your interest in the girl. A girl isn’t going to be sexually hard attracted to you, or even like you until she knows that you like her on some level. So you’ve got to tell her that you like her, either verbally or physically. So it’s critical to tell all girls you like in the interaction, “I like you,” or “you’re hot”, or “you’re an angel” or whatever, so that she knows that you’re a sexual guy and you don’t get thrown into the “let’s just be friends” zone.

So go out, make the mistakes, and then when you’re back at home write a list of what you did right, and a list of what you might have missed. Because there’s no way you’re going to get everything right going in unless you’ve got a lot of nights under your belt, a lot of approaches under your belt, and you continually keep a list of what to improve.

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So you want to meet women in a foreign country, but you don’t speak the native language… how are you going to get laid if most of them don’t speak any English or very little English?

Is it possible to do day game or clubs and bars in these foreign countries, and attract women that you can’t communicate a word to?

Or if you want to learn a little bit of the local language, what’s the fastest, most efficient way to do it for the purposes of meeting women and pickup?

So those are some of the questions I’m going to answer in this lesson, and having travelled a good deal myself, I think I have some good tips in this area.

Be The Bad Boy

So let’s say that you land in a foreign country and you don’t speak one single word of the language.

The first instinct is not to approach any of the women or talk to any of the women, because you don’t speak the language right? You can’t communicate them? And if you talk, you can’t attract?

But actually you can generate a lot of attraction even without being able to speak any of the words, and probably more than you would back home with English speakers.

And the attitude you should have is, “I’m not going to try to speak their language. But THEY can try to speak to ME if they want!”

And then you just go up to a girl and talk to her in English, and you don’t even try to communicate with the girls in a way that they can understand.

So you don’t speak slowly, you don’t slow down, you’re not speaking in a way that they can understand you, you just speak normally with smiling, eye contact, and breaking and neutral rapport tonality, and you just go on and do a lot of the talking in English.

And you use pushing and pulling, and get physical with them. Spin them around, grab their hands, hug them, and pull them into you. Dominate them. Just like you should run game normally.

Because in English, you have so much control of the language that you will sound competent and alpha which is attractive to the girls. And you just need to SOUND confident and SOUND comfortable.

And you try to get the GIRL reacting to YOU an trying to understand YOU and keeping up with YOU. So even though she can’t understand you, SHE’S the one reacting and YOU are the one leading. And pretty soon the girl is the one chasing you for an outcome.

And some girls will not go for it, but a lot of girls, particularly is they can speak a FEW words of English will really go for it. So you’re going to get zero or one responses, but when you get those positive responses, the girls will really like it and start chasing you down and be really into you.

So the answer is, that if you don’t speak the language, do what you normally would do. Dominate them. Speak with break rapport. Get physical. Make them try to keep up with you.

Why Language Is Important

But still, there are some good reasons to learn the language anyway.

Like, let’s say you meet a girl like this, it’s still better to pull her aside one-on-one, and vibe with her in some word exchange, even if it’s just sharing different words and exploring the language together.

That is bonding and connecting with the woman, and it will make you feel like a real person to her. And for that, it’s very useful to know like a 100 commonly used words in the language. And it will allow you to feel more connected to the girl.

Also, I know that MOST guys are purely low-key and conversational when they meet women. They don’t come in particularly strong, and they’re too afraid to get physical.

And with that style, if you don’t speak the language at all, you’re going to feel really intimidated and probably not approach any women.

So, if you are gaming purely conversational, then knowing some of the local language is going to be essential.

Learning The Native Language

Okay, so in either case, you DO want to learn some of the local language before you go.

So here’s how to learn enough to get by and woo the women in the most effective and efficient manner.

Now, I hate learning languages. In high school, I think it was my least favorite subject and I pretty much blew it off. I ended up taking Latin instead of Spanish or French because we could do a lot of goofing off in Latin class.

BUT classroom learning is, in my opinion, the very old-school way to learn a language at the beginner level.

The Pimsleur Method

The way to go now, is to use the Pimsleur courses.

So pimsleur is basically a set of audios that you listen to, there are 90 lesson in Spanish, 90 lessons in Portuguese, 90 lessons in Russian. And each lesson is about 30 to 45 minutes long.

And you just listen to these lessons, and you repeat back what they tell you to say, and by the end you’ll have a pretty good working use of the language. It’s very painless, a very organic way of learning in the same way that young children organically learn a language, and there’s no studying, no homework, and no real tough brainwork.

And Pimsleur teaches you just to SPEAK and UNDERSTAND, NOT to read and write. Which is perfect, because this is just for speaking and understanding girls in conversation. You don’t need the language to write essays or book reports or something.

So by focusing ONLY on speaking and understanding, Pimsleur focuses only on the part of language you need to meet girls.

And what you’re going to learn is every-day language to meet people, to greet people, to order food, to ask for directions, to travel around comfortable in a foreign country, and to communicate in everyday situations.

You will not be able to read or write, but again that’s not what you need. You just need some conversational fluency.

And with pimsleur, you’ll learn about 300 to 400 words and be able to use those words, really, really well and quite surprisingly fluently.

And really, you don’t need that many words. In the English language, if you know 1,000 words you can read a newspaper, and if you know 2,000 words, that’s up to 80% of the words used common use.

So with Pimsleur, with 300 to 400 fluently under your belt, it’s a pretty damn good start. And you just do 1 45 minute lesson a day for 90 days, and you are there. Enough to easily hold very decent conversations with women.

And the best thing I like about the Pimsleur programs is that they’re really, really convenient. You are listening to an audio, and just repeating back.

So I do it while I’m outdoors taking walks, when I’m driving, when I’m at the beach with my MP3 player. So I can fit in learning new languages without having to schedule any new time for it. I just fit into things I’m already doing, and it’s like I can kill two birds with one stone. Get some outdoor exercise, AND learn Spanish or Russian. Easy. Simple.

And then it’s great, because you have enough language to open a girl and have her easily understand you, and then you can vibe with her, and you’ll know enough to talk, but still stumble around a little, and it’s really CUTE to the girl that you’re speaking her language with your sexy foreign American or British or Australian accent, and foreign girls really fall HARD for that.

The Rosetta Stone Method

Okay, now Rosetta Stone. It’s a popular teaching program. Basically you sit in front of the computer as Rosetta Stone is a computer program, and you do little games that match pictures with words.

Now I personally don’t like Rosetta Stone because it forces to sit in front of my computer, and needing to do a lot of writing already, I don’t want to be in front of my computer extra hours.

The other thing is that you learn a bunch of vocabulary words with Rosetta Stone, but you don’t really learn how or practice using the words in sentences, and how to speak conversationally with them. So it’s like you just learn a bunch of random words, and a lot of the words you use aren’t really useful for meeting women. Like learning the word “garden plant” and “fire truck”, you know you can of waste a lot of time memorizing words that aren’t particularly relevant to your goals.

So my recommendation is to do the 90 lessons of Pimsleur first, so that you can speak the language conversationally. And it’s the easiest and most fun, and really all you need for the purposes of meeting women in foreign country.

And then, once you’ve exhausted your Pimsleur lessons, if you still want to learn MORE of the language, like you have friends now or a girlfriend that speaks a different language, THEN you turn to Rosetta Stone to expand on your vocabularly so that you can get from the 300 to 400 words mark up to the 800 to 1,000 words mark. Rosetta Stone is a great vocabularly builder in other words to build on your Pimsleur foundation.

So there, that should equip you to speak to girls in foreign countries, girls that don’t speak any English. And you’re all set.

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