SelfGrowth.com articles for Teenagers and Parenting

Four Things That Matter Most in Parenting

Kathy.Slattengren@PricelessParenting.com — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 5:30:41 pm

What four things matter the most in parenting? Could they be the same as the four things that matter most in life? It is likely they could be the same since our relationships with our children are some of the most significant ones we have in our lives. The Four Things That Matter Most In ...

Back to School Already? How to Set Your Child Up For Success

erin@erinparenting.com — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 3:44:52 pm

Even though children may be enjoying their summer, parents are already thinking about “back-to-school” and everything that needs to get organized. What’s the stress-free solution to setting your child up for a truly successful year? Routines and organization. Every household benefits from ...

Ways to Raise Confident Children

judy@artichokepress.com — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 2:27:10 pm

When children learn to be compassionate, caring and learn they may not be the centre of universe they become more confident. They need to realize that they are an important part of the earth, but it does not revolve around them. When we teach our children to give service, and care about ...

Help Children Make Friends - Playground Politics

judy@artichokepress.com — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 2:27:11 pm

Teasing is universal, its a fact of life. In my classroom when I ask any person if they were teased as a child the answer is always the same. Yes. Then I ask who they were teased by, there are a number of answers I get: siblings, the kid down the street, their teacher, or even their family. ...

But, You Don't Know My Ex!

selfgrowth@complexfamily.com — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:00:00 am

This is one of the most common comments heard when talking with people about an Ex. Those of us who are parents and inside a Complex Family often have an Ex, and we normally believe it is near impossible to get on with them. Let's face it, it didn't work when we were married or partners, so why ...

World peace? How about Home Peace first...

selfgrowth@complexfamily.com — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:00:00 am

We are all inspired at one time or another to embrace the vision and dream of world peace. We love what opportunities this brings and we dream of a world where we move beyond a fear and engage in the concept of difference not being judged, but rather celebrated. We become excited by the chances ...

Financial Crisis ... What do we tell our kids?

selfgrowth@complexfamily.com — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:00:00 am

When the rest of the world is reporting financial doom and gloom, what do our teens think? In a generation which we see more and more young people struggling with hopelessness, is this media frenzy really helping? As parents, especially inside a Complex Family (those who have been touched by ...

Pit Bull Stops Bullying

coachjaynine@dreamcatcher-lifecoaching.com — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 4:19:43 pm

Miss Savanna is my very friendly blue pit-bull. She normally lies on the floor beside my desk or she can be found looking out the window. Miss Savanna delights in occasionally chasing a cat. But, she also lets those same cats rub up against her and occasionally snuggle up with her on her bed. ...

Filter Foul Language

helpingmyteen@gmail.com — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 12:45:31 pm

Are you aware of the fact that some movies, songs and school subjects have a little dog poop in them? There was a mom who's really disappointed to her children after reiterating to them not to watch explicit shows and listen to songs with bad words. When her son arrived one evening from ...

How to Spend an Incredible Summer With Your Kids

erin@erinparenting.com — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 2:48:22 pm

With school out, parents either feel two things. 1)"Wow, I can't wait to spend more time with my kids!" or 2)"Oh, boy, here we go. How will we fill their time?" Parents who work outside the home have no choice but to send their kids to camps or daycares during the day, but stay-at-home moms or ...

How to Keep Your Teenager Alcohol & Drug Free

amy@amycrowell.net — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 2:38:42 pm

20 External Assets for Developing a Healthy Teenager Who is Alcohol and Drug Free “40 percent of those who started drinking at age 13 or younger developed alcohol dependence later in life. Ten percent of teens who began drinking after the age of 17 developed dependence.” “Teens that drink ...

Teen Help Situations

teensolutions@gmail.com — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 2:38:43 pm

It is considered that million of teens in the United States are being affected every year by teen parenting. This matter includes as well boys and girls. Other statistics show that there are actually about 500,000 babies born to teens each year. Although this rate has steadily declined, this ...

Choosing to send your Troubled Teen to a Boarding School?

teensolutions@gmail.com — Fri, 9 Jul 2010 3:48:44 pm

Being a teenager is quite often a rough time in life for many kids. It is a time of transition, when one is not quite a child anymore, but also not an adult. There is still a lot of growth that needs to occur, yet teenagers often feel that they should be able to be self sufficient as well. ...

How To Find Help For Parents of Troubled Teens

teensolutions@gmail.com — Fri, 9 Jul 2010 3:48:44 pm

As a parent of a troubled teen, there can be a lot of guilt involved. Parents often wonder where they went wrong to have their child act and feel this way. Or what they could have done differently. They sometimes feel like they have failed as a parent somehow. There are all kinds of resources ...

Parents: The 3 Most Catastrophic Mistakes Parents Make And How To Avoid Them

onestepaheadparenting@gmail.com — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

In all the years I have been working with children and parents, I am amazed at just how many parents believe they can tell their children what to do and their children should just “do as they are told”. Well I am here to tell you: nothing could be further from the truth. Most of these ...

Parents and Backtalk: Five Stunningly Simple Ways to Turn Backtalk into Communication

onestepaheadparenting@gmail.com — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

If you think backtalk is something you have to endure as a parent or have to control with strict limits and consequences, you are mistaken. If you follow 5 simple steps in the proper order you will dramatically reduce backtalk and become closer with your child than you ever ...

Into the Woods: Helping Troubled Teens Way Off the Beaten Path

julia@cfreer.com — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

We rise at first light and kneel before each sleeping teenager. They have set up shelters and are nestled deep in their sleeping bags. We listen to them snore softly and watch the rise and fall of their chests. If they have rolled off of their sleeping pads, we gently nudge them back on. We ...

Bullying and it’s Impact on Kids

muslimkidauthor@gmail.com — Mon, 7 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

This is a major problem kids are facing now days. Kids are committing suicide due to bullying. Our world is facing a major issue, and I think we need to bring more awareness to bullying. Who is Phoebe Prince? I am going to share with all of you the story of Phoebe Prince who was a 15 ...

Could My Child Be Sexually Abusing Other Children - Juvenile Sex Offenders

judy@artichokepress.com — Thu, 3 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

It is not the strangers who manipulate and prey on their sexual victims, it is someone who is usually known and respected by the family. Sexual abuse is often first committed by juvenile family members who are loved and trusted. As hormones begin to surge and if they have not been taught how to ...

Why the Word “No” Sets off an Oppositional, Defiant Child

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Fri, 4 Jun 2010 1:30:14 pm

Many parents of children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder feel hopeless and alone. They live in homes that become like little prisons as they deal with kids who are absolutely out of control and unmanageable. They don’t like their child any more, even though they still love him or her. And ...

"Anger with an Angle": Is Your Child Using Anger to Control You?

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Fri, 4 Jun 2010 1:38:40 pm

Have your child’s angry outbursts worn you down so much that you’ve simply learned to give in? You should know that this is not a phase or a behavior that will “just go away on its own.” Read on to discover 5 things you can do to stop your child from using “Anger with an Angle” today. Anger ...

Can Meditation help with school bullying?

jball@tm.org — Sat, 29 May 2010 12:00:00 am

A recent report of frequent bullying in American schools has brought national attention to the stressors commonly faced by teens—stressors that many parents and teachers are unaware of. Society is struggling to understand how 'atypical' adolescent peer pressure has escalated into vicious student ...

Do Your Part: Help Your Teen be Self-Reliant and Confident

julia@cfreer.com — Fri, 28 May 2010 11:28:08 am

Take a moment to reflect on your interactions with your children today. What was the general tone of the day? What emotions predominated for you? Were you calm, listening, curious, frustrated, angry, or impatient? What message do you feel your child will take to bed with them tonight? One of ...

Is It an Adolescent Phase—or Out-of-Control Behavior?

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 11:56:26 am

“Every teen goes through this!” You tell yourself these words, but in the back of your mind, you wonder if your child’s disrespect, acting out and destructive behavior really is normal. How do you know if your child is going through an adolescent phase, or if his out-of-control behavior is here ...

Angry Child? Fix the Behavior, Not the Feelings

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 12:00:06 pm

Many parents make the mistake of assuming that since their child’s behavior is connected to their feelings, fixing the feelings will fix the behavior. Unfortunately, nothing could be further from the truth. It’s critical for parents to understand that processing your child’s feelings while they ...

Parenting Teens with a Beginner's Mind

jodi@connectingwithteens.com — Sun, 2 May 2010 12:00:00 am

Beginner's mind is a Zen expression asking us to look at everything as though we're seeing it for the very first time. As adults, this can be quite a challenge. We typically don't stop to look at something afresh, but instead rely upon what we already know from memory to form opinions, make ...

Teenage Parenting: 3 Useful Ways of Helping Teens

joshuanyamache@yahoo.com — Tue, 8 Jun 2010 5:30:35 am

Teenage parenting is challenge since teens are naturally curious. They are in adolescent stage and have many friends who influence them. This is the stage in which they’re prone to trying things without considering the consequences there after. They are likely to be addicted to alcohol and ...

Creating Bullies

eraymondrock@aol.com — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 4:10:55 pm

The first thing you want to do is scream at your kids. That makes them afraid and teaches them to become pushy themselves, connecting verbal abuse with authority and influence. (Never use compassion or loving kindness - that will make girlie men out of them). If you are dead, so to speak, ...

Christian Relationships: Saying No to Your Boyfriend’s Sexual Advances

angie@heavenministries.com — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

Most young women “give in” to their boyfriend’s sexual advances because of peer pressure and fear they will leave the relationship if they don’t give in and have sex. This is precisely why young people today should NOT ALLOW their emotions to lead the relationship. Let me ask you this. If you ...

Establishing Rules For Your Children

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 4:10:57 pm

Learn how to properly establish rules for your children. Done right, you can avoid anger and resentment when you are forced to enforce your rules. Done right, your children won't fight your discipline. One of the methods that I use with my own children is contained in this article. Setting ...

The Importance of Presenting a United Front Before Your Children

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 4:10:57 pm

Conflicting authority is the largest contributor to rebellion in children. When parents--authority--conflict it can cause rebellion in your children. You, as parents, need to have a united front for your children. Here are some tips on how this can be done. Rebellion is the result of ...

Your HS Student May Not Be Ready For College

The4Realities@aol.com — Fri, 9 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

Before parents decide to send their High School graduates off to college, they should carefully consider their student’s chances for college success. As they told me during my own freshman orientation, “Look to the right! Look to the left! One of those two students won’t be here for ...

The Look of Love

GlennBerger@glennberger.com — Fri, 9 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

Ask any parent what they want for their children and they will say happiness. But what can parents do to insure their child’s well being? Imagine a scene. Soft warm lighting, gentle sounds. A close up on two faces. One, a mother, the other, her infant. Mom holds baby securely in her arms and ...

"My Kid Will Never Change." When You've Hit a Wall with Your Child's Behavior

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 4:14:34 pm

Have you ever listened to parenting advice, all the while thinking, “That won’t work with my child—nothing does. He’s too difficult; no one can get through to him.” If you’ve ever felt this way, stop what you’re doing and read this article. We sat down and talked to James Lehman, who explains ...

Healing and Transformation through Love

ohtodream@aol.com — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 8:35:43 pm

In a special room in my house, I have the following saying framed, “Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I need it the most.” I almost cried when I found this piece, knowing that I have been both the one who needed to feel loved, and the one who needed to share love with someone ...

Communicating With Your Children

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 5:28:00 pm

When communicating with children it is important to keep your goals in mind. The younger the child, the more difficult it is to reason with a child. A very young child won't be able to give you the reasoning for his actions. "Why did you hit your brother?" you demand. "Because I hit him?" ...

The Past to the Present

loraine@learnbrightgroup.com — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 5:29:11 am

THE PAST TO THE PRESENT Carl Jung named the personality types in his book Psychological Types and gave rise to an industry that specialises in the assessment of peoples abilities to work in a specific style; this was called psychometric testing, they were used to describe the character of ...

7 Tips for Helping Your Children Cope With Stress

RomeyLman@aol.com — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:37:20 am

Raising children has never been easy, but some parents think it's even harder today. They have always had to deal with providing - food, clothing and shelter as well as a supportive and loving environment where their offspring can grow to their full potential. Today, in addition, mom and dad are ...

I Love Having Teenagers

bill@singledadstown.com — Mon, 8 Mar 2010 2:31:11 pm

I can’t tell you the number of people, who when I tell them that I have teenagers, say things like “Wow that must be tough” or “Good luck you will need it”. I don’t care, I love having teenagers. I really do. I can still remember what my life was like as a teenager. I can remember when I was ...

Adolescent Sleep Patterns: 8 Tips for Improved Sleep

vmcray@yahoo.com — Tue, 2 Mar 2010 2:54:00 pm

Adolescent sleep habits are enough to drive any parent insane. As any parent can tell you, as children get older they find it more difficult to pull themselves from bed in the morning. Most young adults need several nudges before they will drag themselves from the covers. Even when they are up, ...

Help! My Tween's Room is a Warzone

daoustsylvia@gmail.com — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 3:34:35 pm

Tweens' bedrooms have a reputation for looking like utter chaos. The mass of clothing and papers littering the floor can cause frustration for any parent. Most tweens are very busy running from one activity to the next and tend to just "drop and go". They have also accumulated an assortment ...

Stress Management for Teens - Tips for Parents on Surviving the Awkward Years

jill.rheaume@yahoo.com — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 6:42:08 pm

Stress management for teens can be tricky, especially if their stress is displayed by aggressive behavior or through withdrawing from family or friends. So before you approach your teen about their stress, or go overboard in punishing them for the way they display their stress, take a step back ...

Dear Moms, be Careful to not turn your Daughters into Substitute Spouses

MalinakSE@aol.com — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 4:38:23 pm

Moms can feel alone in or out of a marriage for a number of reasons. Fathers can be absent because the marriage ended or because they simply aren’t present to some essential degree within the family. Even with something as simple and seemingly harmless as a mom being primarily responsible for ...

Enabling v Empowering

tracy@coaching4teenagers.com.au — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 8:44:01 pm

All parents want their kids to feel good about themselves and at the same time develop inner resources so that they can make good responsible choices when you are not around to guide them. The distinction that I would like to draw on in this newsletter is enabling v empowering. Enabling ...

9 Ways to Support Your Teen

sales.pitchrate@gmail.com — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 3:25:18 am

For many years at SuperCamp, parents would ask us if we could start a program for them, to help them learn what their child is learning at SuperCamp. A few years ago we started Parent Weekend, an intensive three-day parent program that coincides with the final three days of a 10-day Junior Forum ...

Young Kids Acting Out in School: The Top 3 Issues Parents Worry about Most

nso@legacypublishingcompany.com — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 4:17:19 pm

If you’re the parent of a young child who acts out at school, you’ve probably asked yourself, “If my child is out of control now, how will I be able to deal with him when he’s ten—or a teenager?” Once a toddler or kindergartner becomes known as a child who “plays too rough” or “always has to ...

Joe’s Top 10 “New” Years Parenting Thoughts

joe@JosephGandolfo.com — Thu, 4 Feb 2010 3:18:51 pm

Joe’s Top 10 “New” Years Parenting Thoughts by Joe Gandolfo, M.A., LPC Another New Year. A time for personal renewal and making a change. Most people make a sincere effort to alter a behavior, which when changed, will improve one’s life. Sadly for many, the behavior change lasts only a ...

Narcissistic, Needy or Normal? What is really going on with my teen's behaviour?

tracy@coaching4teenagers.com.au — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 8:13:00 am

Teens by definition are narcissistic. They are at a time in their life where narcissistic behaviour is both natural and can be healthy. Unless of course you are seeing amoral or criminal behaviour on an ongoing basis. What is being experienced by you, the parent is typical teen self ...

Financial Education - Who should be teaching your children?

d.j.britton@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 10:35:00 am

The current financial crisis has sharpened the focus on the need for better financial education across all segments of the population. Just as information and guidance on healthy eating and exercise can prevent a lifetime of obesity, effective financial education, when started at an early age, ...

It's Not Your Child's Temper - It's Your Child's Temperament!

theageofattraction@gmail.com — Fri, 8 Jan 2010 3:13:00 pm

It has happened to all of us at one time or another: our child does "one of those things" that absolutely drives us crazy, and we wonder why? Perhaps it was to stand at the head of the class on that first day of school and blatantly challenge the teacher. Perhaps we struggled in the kitchen ...