SelfGrowth.com articles for Trust

Love is All You Need... Could it be That Simple?

karen@karenschachtermsw.com — Sun, 8 Aug 2010 12:00:00 am

"Fear will stop your love; Love will stop your fear" (Morcheeba) We all long for connection, validation and understanding ("love") in our relationships, but often times, something triggers an old fear or ...

4 Commonly Overlooked Ways To Make A Relationship Work

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 2:52:11 pm

Ups and downs are part and parcel of relationships. It’s usual for two people to start seeing each other as they are content with each other. But it’s not always easy to keep the happy times forever in a relationship. It’s not easy to make a relationship work sometimes, but with the right ...

How To Apologize To Your Boyfriend - 6 Easy Ways

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 11:43:48 am

Exactly how do you go about apologizing to your boyfriend once you realize it's necessary? Apologies imply fault, and for many people, the two hardest things to do are to admit they were wrong and say they're sorry. These steps are designed to help your boyfriend overcome whatever issues he's ...

5 Crucial Elements Of Moving On After An Affair

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 4:08:52 pm

Forgiving an affair is a real challenge Few events in your life will be as devastating as learning that your partner has been cheating on you. Many couples will decide to end the relationship at that point, but those that decide to try to stick it out and make it work may find themselves in a ...

5 Steps To Healing The Hurt Of Infidelity

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 4:08:53 pm

There are not many things you'll experience in life as painful as your partner cheating on you. There are ways to deal with the pain of infidelity if you choose to forgive it. Right now, the pain you're feeling is probably overwhelming. Believe it or not, there advantages to forgiving someone ...

Don't Let A Big Fight with Your Boyfriend Ruin Your Relationship

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 4:02:16 pm

Did you and your boyfriend get into another fight? Was it over something trivial? Or was it heavy, like catching him with another woman? Fight with Boyfriend Tip #1 Check out the reason for the fight. Simple things require only simple remedies. If he's constantly late, find out why. If ...

“How honest should I be about my past?”: Relationship Advice for those Tricky Situations

susie@collinspartners.com — Thu, 8 Jul 2010 3:34:15 pm

Jake was a party guy in college. He stayed up late, was the life of every social event he attended and was never without a date. In fact, Jake had a lot of dates and sexual partners during this wilder time in his life. Now, 5 years later, Jake has settled down a bit. He still lives life to ...

Recognizing Resistance

renee@right-line.com — Thu, 8 Jul 2010 12:15:31 pm

After my Mom’s partial hip replacement in late July 2009, I recognized the resistance I was relying on while engaging with her. Mom’s default position when she experiences tough times in various forms is to want to die. “You know what I want. I want to be dead,” is her mantra. In response, I ...

Living With Integrity

best4writing@aol.com — Sun, 4 Jul 2010 12:00:00 am

What it means to live with integrity To be trustworthy in all of life’s situations is to have integrity. To have integrity is to maintain the kind of character and reputation that leads to personal success, happiness and peace within oneself and with other people. A person who chooses to ...

Freedom & Commitment in Relationship: Either / Or?

sonika@loveworksforyou.com — Wed, 9 Jun 2010 12:00:00 am

When my wife and I work with people about relationships, one of the most frequent concerns is freedom. Or rather, the fear of losing freedom inside of the relationship. This shows up for singles wanting a committed relationship, but unable get past the fear that it will be the end of freedom. It ...

Erase Negative Memories Responsible For Fears of Abandonment

drnick@telecoaching4u.com — Sat, 29 May 2010 12:00:00 am

Do you know how you find it difficult to open yourself emotionally to others because of the fear they may one day abandon you? Do you know that those fears are the result of old negative memories of earlier abandonment experiences living inside you which are blocking you from ever being able to ...

Are You Leading With You Scars?

pastorlgc@aol.com — Fri, 28 May 2010 12:00:00 am

Are You Leading With Your Scars We all know physically attractive people have an edge in life. How people react to attractive and unattractive people has been studied, even with babies reactions to certain faces. The question today is, do you believe you are helped or hindered by your ...

Your Emotions Are Your "Truth-o-meter"

Roseanna@roseannaleaton.com — Thu, 13 May 2010 12:00:00 am

There are many ways in which one may be deceitful and every single person will have succumbed to its shadowy presence to one degree or another. In a strange and mysterious way we are usually more deceitful to ourselves than we are to others. We have the ability to kid ourselves into thinking ...

Confront Jealousy in Your Love Relationship or Marriage

susie@collinspartners.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 12:00:00 am

When Jeff sees his girlfriend, Tami, flirting with another guy, he gets jealous-- really jealous. It can take every ounce of restraint that Jeff has to not storm over and confront the other man, and Tami too. But Jeff has promised himself-- and Tami-- that he won't let his jealousy take over ...

Our Words Define Us More Than Our Actions

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Tue, 18 May 2010 11:51:36 am

We think that our actions define us more than our words. But the reality is exactly the opposite. Our actions are important, but our actions are psychologically used to verify the truth of our words and not the other way around. Be careful what you say. This article attempts to prove that your ...

Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get “Unstuck”

info@startingovernow.com — Sat, 1 May 2010 12:00:00 am

Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because they can’t seem to get the issues that haunt them out of the way. The ...

Next?? Who Else Wants To Become The Magnetic Leader Team Members Never Leave?

apayne03@hotmail.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 10:51:10 am

If your idea of being an irresistable team leader/sponsor is pushing cold calls, hosting boring presentations and revving up the compensation plan, then you're probably wondering why your team members seem to be either stuck in the mud or just flat out dead in the water! In the world of Network ...

Why Many Marriages Fail - Expecting Too Much and Not Trying Hard Enough

leonard.rosmarin@ymail.com — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

It is not necessary to be a keen observer of the social scene to realize that the marital relationship as we know it is floundering and, in many cases, sinking. The divorce rate is astronomical and shows no sign of slowing down. Intelligent and experienced people rush into matrimony with the ...

In Praise of Marriage - How to Stay in Love and Joyously Married

leonard.rosmarin@ymail.com — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

Marriages are going down the drain at an alarming rate. Many of those that seem to be surviving are fraught with terrible tensions and anxieties. Thus, it seems foolhardy on my part to sing the praises of what some people refer to contemptuously as "an institution." Yet, despite all this damning ...

Trust is an Essential Factor in True Leadership

synergyinmotion@comcast.net — Tue, 18 May 2010 10:51:11 am

A basic element in leadership is trust. To trust means that you have confidence and faith in whomever or whatever you are trusting. Trust is in fact, essential for almost every facet of our lives. When people talk about trust, they talk mainly in terms of gaining, earning, or reclaiming ...

Your Relationships Reflect Your Relationship with You

Valery@MoxieTherapy.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 11:51:38 am

"Each relationship you have with another person reflects the relationship you have with yourself." - Alice Deville. You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in your life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. You ...

Money & Couples - to Share or not to Share?

ancaforum@yahoo.com — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

One of the features of the “modern relationship” is financial separation, although the couple is married, each of them is earning and spending his own money separately, without consulting the other, without sharing the money or managing it together. One of the reasons of financial separation ...

Does Power Lead a Faithful Man Astray? Cheating Prevention Tips

susie@collinspartners.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 12:00:00 am

We read about it all of the time. Wealthy men in positions of power who cheat on their wives. Some of them have multiple affairs. Even if you aren't married to a man who is rich and powerful, you might be concerned that someday the corrupting influence of power-- or an aspiration for ...

Fairy Tales Do Come True

dougandkaren94@yahoo.com — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 12:00:00 am

"The best place for him, Karen, is the feedlot - he's too far gone; he's so scrambled that he's not coming back". A trainer's comments seven years ago, after he watched while I tried in vain to stop my then 10 year old gelding, Lukas. "Downward transitions" were accomplished by veering ...

How to Tell if someone is lying-Hints & Tips

cuttheflufff@yahoo.com — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 12:58:44 pm

Adrienne Rich said “Lying is done with words and also with silence”. The self always shines through and there are many little hints & tips that if you are aware of can show big lying indicators in someone. Signs of lying can be everything from voice tone, body language, changing the ...

The Difference Between Jealousy, Covetousness, and Envy in Relationships

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 2:16:27 pm

Many relationships have been destroyed over the jealousy issue. However, sometimes it isn't so much jealousy but envy and covetousness that is the real root of the problem. Here is a brief definition of each before we get into a lager discussion of these. Jealousy - The fear of losing ...

You Can Heal Yourself: Trust and Relationships

kelly@addinsights.com — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 2:40:51 pm

For many of us trust is not necessarily an easy thing. It can be a big word - loaded with disappointments and few happy memories. We hesitate when we are faced with the desire or need to trust someone and are not comfortable when they trust us. We fear what may happen by making ourselves that ...

Making and Keeping Good Friends

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 1:03:00 pm

There are many reasons why people struggle to make friends. Here are a few: Insecurity Selfishness Pride An Introvert Personality Fear of People Overwhelming and dominate personality Depression But whatever the problem is, it needs to be addressed and ...

Getting over the hurdles in life:

info@kaushalaras.com — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 4:49:57 pm

Life indeed throws a curve ball at us every now and then, doesn’t it? You can never predict what's going to happen next, unless your level of awareness matches that of the 'Sages of the Ages' exclusive club members. But for an everyday Joe or Mary or Svetlana (I like that name, and I had to use ...

Creepy and Deadly: The Dating Game Serial Killer and other Sexual Predators. 5 Tips for Avoiding Victimization.

junewrogers@comcast.net — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 11:31:00 pm

As suspected serial rapists or killers, people like Phillip Garrido (accused in kidnapping of Jaycee Dugard), Rodney Alcala (aka the Dating Game Serial Killer), and Philip Markoff (aka craigslist killer) are getting a lot of attention these days. From repulsion about what was done to their ...

What Is a Real Friend?

publications@fitlyspoken.org — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 5:22:39 pm

For most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well ...

What is the Higher Self?

building@buildingselfworth.com — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 9:24:00 pm

Are we just a body with a personality? From my understanding, we are much more than that. Each one of us has a higher aspect. This higher aspect has been typically called the Higher Self. If I am not wrong, others have also referred to it as the oversoul or overself. Who and what is the ...

Get Gossip Out of Your Life

kristin@brioleadership.com — Fri, 5 Mar 2010 7:38:41 pm

Gossiping can suck the zest out of your spirit. Gossip is mean-spirited and little-minded; its goal is to make the gossipers feel superior to the gossiped-about. It is seductive, addictive and a way of bonding with other gossipers, all while pulling you down to the lowest spiritual common ...

OMG--He's a Sex Addict!

nnelson@dr.noellenelson.com — Mon, 1 Mar 2010 1:22:00 pm

You storm into the living room, where your honey sits hunched over his laptop, TV blasting, after-work-beer close at hand. “What’s this?!” you exclaim, waving a magazine at him. “Huh?” Honey replies. You grab the remote, power the TV off with a jerk. You tap your foot. You glare. He sees the ...

Delete the Fear of Abandonment Before it Destroys Your Relationship

drnick@telecoaching4u.com — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 7:08:38 pm

Do you worry, perhaps even go into a panic at the thought that your partner might leave you. Does this evoke powerful or devastating feelings of abandonment? Well then would it surprise you if I said that you have been pre-programmed to have your abandonment fears become a self fulfilling ...

How You Can be Sure You Share a Healthy Relationship

number1@selfdefense-4-women.com — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 3:18:46 pm

A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect. This is true of all types of relationships; your family, you friends and your co-workers. You can't choose your family or, in most cases your co-workers, so you hopefully learn to get along with them. Your friends you can choose. You can choose ...

The Secret to a Successful Relationship

daniellaremy@hotmail.com — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 4:37:45 am

Human Relationships can be enlightening and supporting but can also cause drama and trauma. This is also and especially the case of male-female relationships. You can see such a relationship as a special kind of interaction where two different physiologies and two different biological strategies ...

Follow These Three Easy Tips to Survive your Breakup

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 7:29:30 pm

Few times in a man's life are as miserable as when he realizes his relationship is about to be destroyed. Men being men, this is often the first time that they actually love her - the moment they realize that she'd going to leave. Men are commonly not expected to have great skills in managing ...

Five Easy Steps to Getting Her Back Through Self-improvement!

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 4:52:34 pm

Women realize that the impressions that people have of us, and the judgments they make about us, are based on our appearance - indeed, our appearance often is a determining factor when someone's deciding to get to know us better. Most men are not nearly as attentive to their looks as are women. ...

5 Signs Your Girl Might Give if She Wants You Back

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 4:50:40 pm

How your ex has conducted herself since you broke up may give you an idea about whether or not she wants to come back to you. It’s a pretty sure bet that she’s not going to be direct and tell you this plainly, but rather you can tell through her actions and behaviors. They only suggest that ...

Saving a Relationship can be as Easy as 1-2-3!

cterao.advertising@gmail.com — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 11:50:46 am

To begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ...

I See You

tkdmommy@comcast.net — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 4:12:42 pm

I See You...a Timeless and Powerful Message In the movie, Avatar, released in 2009, the Navi greet each other with the words, "I see you" expressed in their native tongue. This simple phrase translates into a more profound message of mutual respect and regard for one another as if you are ...

***Marriage, Divorce, and Pre-Nuptial Agreements

Doctors@SuccessfulMarriageReflections.com — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 9:15:55 pm

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said it before and we now say it again – the divorce rate in the United States of America is NOT 50%! It is more likely, closer to 40%, perhaps, slightly less, according to some estimates. Here are the facts. According to Brad Wilcox in ...

What Smart Women Learn in the Recovery Room

Joy@SmartWomenSolutions.com — Fri, 8 Jan 2010 6:38:00 pm

A few weeks ago, I had surgery to remove one of my healthy kidneys in order to donate that kidney to my husband Greg, whose kidney was failing, so that he would enjoy a more vital, healthy life. On December 1, we both were admitted to UCLA Medical Center. Everything went well regarding the ...

Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship

gregorysmith1964@yahoo.com — Mon, 4 Jan 2010 10:20:00 pm

Dealing with jealousy in a relationship can be an incredibly challenging endeavor because jealousy is among the ugliest of emotions, and can cause the worst of behaviors in people. Your best bet is always to recognize jealousy early in a new relationship, and then immediately address that ...

Caring Citizens Deserve Credit

safeneighborhoods@gmail.com — Mon, 4 Jan 2010 7:02:00 pm

I read with great interest the article "Despair is up — so why isn't crime?" (Dec. 22 – Contra Costa Times, CA) The so-called experts are "scratching their heads over why crime has ebbed during this recession." A former Los Angeles police chief gives credit to tracking, analyzing numbers and ...

Are you “Abandoning” yourself in your relationships?

mzale@hotmail.com — Mon, 4 Jan 2010 10:47:00 am

Often I see couples or hear the sadness of friends who commonly complain about their mates and wish for a paradigm shift. I hear them echo “If they can only be this way” or “If they were more like that.” When I pose the question: ” Why are you in the relationship?”, the answers vary but they are ...

Is It Possible To Salvage Your Marriage After Infidelity Has Occurred?

admin@marriageafterinfidelity.net — Sun, 3 Jan 2010 9:24:00 pm

The emotional wreckage that comes after the discovery of an affair, makes it tough for couples to work towards rebuilding their marriage after infidelity has occurred.However your marriage after an affair can also become a relationship that is stronger and more loving than it was before. Read on ...

What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage

selfgrowth@excelatlife.com — Tue, 11 May 2010 1:02:39 pm

WHAT IS IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY? Frequently, I am asked how to handle irrational jealous feelings. Usually, the individual recognizes that her feelings are unreasonable with no valid evidence but feels incapable of controlling the jealousy. In addition, the person usually recognizes the ...

Peeling the Onion vs. Cutting Out the Core

elissa@foreversouls.com — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 11:18:00 am

A few years back…well actually more than a few… I practiced traditional therapy. I used to call it peeling the onion. It took months, even years to slough off layers of denial, misinformation, myths, fears and get to the often forgotten root cause of an issue. Although my clients’ efforts ...