Women Sexual Body Language

2010-03-23T21:51:00.000-07:00

Sometimes it can be hard to tell what’s going on with your girl: Is she enjoying herself? Are you doing it right? Is she satisfied? Women can be hard to read, especially when it comes to sex. Though, all in all, if she is getting off you are bound to know about it on some level. If you’re not so sure and need some reassurance, check out her more subtle signs -- her sexual body language.

She will show you -- hopefully in no uncertain terms -- how you’re performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she can’t fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance when there are so many variables. So, we've put together some general sexual body language signs that she's getting exactly what she wants from you.

Rapid breathing

Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of "inspiration" for breathing in, and "expiration" for breathing out. When a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, you’re on the right track. If you can feel her heart thumping, you’re well on your way. This is her sexual body language giving you signals that she's aroused. However, if she's breathing normally after having her "big orgasm," perhaps she’s a big faker.

General writhing around and body movement

If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances are she's probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you means that she's really getting into it. If she's lying there limp, then things probably aren’t happening for her. Try changing positions, or stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there.

Thrusting hips

When she meets your thrusts, you’re doing something right. It's pretty safe to say that if she's matching your body movements and is in time with you, then she's getting something out of it. Good sex is often very synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isn’t meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that she wants something else, so change positions and see how she responds.

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Sex, Talk and Expectations

2010-03-21T21:34:00.000-07:00

Dr. Roger McIntire

The latest reports show sexual activity among teenagers declining but not by much. Percentages are down from near 60 to about 50 percent - still the highest in the developed world.

Loose talk about sex seems to get more outrageous every day. Many parents find it unbelievable.

Brandon: "When are you going to come across for me, Judy?"

Judy: "Leave me alone. And don't talk like that, it's disgusting."

Brandon: "All your friends do it."

Judy: "Oh, I don't think so. And how would you know?"

Many girls face this kind of harassment everyday at school. Boys are not immune to it either as girls get bolder. This part of our culture encourages lots of problems - date rape, for example - and puts pressure on teens who see more and more approval of casual sex in movies and on TV. At age 15, one-fourth of the girls and one-third of the boys have had sex; two thirds of both genders have had sex by age 18, according to the Allen Guttmacher Institute.

One girl in four (about 5 million) contracts a sexually transmitted disease each year, and one million girls under 20 become pregnant each year - about 2700 each day. The cost in social services for these girls is about $7 billion each year, says the Urban Institute.

Alcohol creates much of the problem. Sixty percent of women diagnosed with sexually transmitted diseases say they were drunk at the time of the infection, according to a survey by the Advocacy Institute.

The under-20 set spends over $5 billion each year on alcohol, more than on all the soft drinks, milk, coffee and tea put together. College students average $446 each, more than any college library budget, says the National Household Survey on Drug Abuse.

The pressure is often not friendly. More than half of the girls under 15 who had sex were forced into it.

Parents are not always helpful with these problems either. The American Family Research Council surveyed 10,000 families and found that 52 percent of children between 5 and 17 have bedroom TVs and watch more than 7 hours each day on average. In contrast, conversation with parents averages only 38 minutes each day. Who's winning the influence competition here?

What can parents do to help their children and teens be safe and careful in times when sexually transmitted diseases can be deadly and pregnancy can change life courses in a single evening? Should I have said evening? Evidently I shouldn't have since teenage sexual activity, like teenage crime, peaks between 3 and 4 p.m. each day.

A parent can start, first of all, by keeping the high-tech out of the bedroom. TVs and computers should be out where the family can see what programs are being used or watched. Secondly, parents can review arrangements for supervision for after-school activities. And then, they should reserve time everyday for just family talk.

Parents can also take advantage of the many resources available. Every state has numerous resources available through its health departments, through the Commission on the Status of Women, and other organizations.

Sex, Beauty and Family Tips

Women Sexual Body Language

Rapid breathing

General writhing around and body movement

Thrusting hips

Sex, Talk and Expectations