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SLI 055: Beth Crittenden: Living in the Orgasm

Sat, 19 Jul 2008 02:00:00 -0000

My guest, Beth Crittenden, describes herself as a formerly well-behaved girl from a Southern town, who moved to San Francisco and found her orgasm. Beth has a background in psychology and biology, as well as a license in massage therapy. Beth is also an “urban monk”, living and teaching in community as part of “One Taste”, an experiential living environment committed to developing awareness that invites deep intimacy, sensuality and full connection with ourselves, our relationships, our spirit and our world. In a warm and sweet interview Beth and I talk openly about the nature of orgasm and the possibility of living, 24/7, in an orgasmic state. Listen in as we talk about quieting the mind, learning to “listen” to the body, and letting go of shame. And don’t miss Beth’s exercise in pleasuring your own hands.

SLI 054: Peter Rengel: Learning To Live In Love

Sun, 13 Jul 2008 00:30:00 -0000

Meet Peter Rengel: Workshop Leader for the Human Awareness Institute, Author of “Seeds of Light, Inspirations form my Higher Self” and “Living Life in Love, Integrating Western Psychology and Eastern Spirituality”, creator of the “Spiritual Awakening Workshop” and the “Art of Being” classes, and co-creator (with his wife Donna) of “Becoming Better Friends and Lovers.” Join Peter and I for a conversation about sexuality and spirituality. Listen in as we explore the notion of living one’s life in love, 24/7. Peter has an extraordinary ability to translate ancient Eastern mysticism into guidelines for everyday living here and now. And don’t miss Peter’s exercises for you to try at home.

SLI 053: Joani Blank: A Girl and Her Toys

Sat, 28 Jun 2008 04:00:00 -0000

Thirty years ago if a woman wanted to buy a vibrator to use to enhance her sex life, her choices were limited. Some men went to porn and peep-show shops and picked something out for their partner. Many women went to the local drug store and bought devices intended to massage muscle cramps (these devices were often surprisingly effective for clitoral massage, regardless of the photos on the box showing the device applied to a shoulder). For most women, it was all way too embarrassing. My guest, Joani Blank, decided to do something about this sorry state of affairs and, in 1977, founded “Good Vibrations”, the first woman-oriented, sex-positive, sex toy store (still in business today). Listen in as Joani and I talk about women and sex toys, men and toys, as well as men and their relationships with their partner’s toys. In an entertaining and informative half-hour chat you’ll learn a bit about how to find toys, how to use toys and how to make sure toys enhance your relationship. And, as always, don’t miss the exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 052: Satyen Raja: Empowering Passion, Sex and Love

Sat, 21 Jun 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Satyen Raja believes that relationship, your relationship, is a path to a divine state of bliss, power, self-actualization and, perhaps, enlightenment. Satyen is a living synthesis of Eastern wisdom and of Western practicality. Satyen is the Founder/President of WarriorSage Incorporated, He is a Shaolin Kung-Fu Master, an NLP practitioner, a holistic health practitioner – including Shiatsu and Chinese medicine, and the creator of and a trainer for the Zen-based Illumination Intensive and the Sex, Passion & Enlightenment workshops. Our interview looks into the reasons so many relationships fail – the trap of infatuation, the seductiveness of sexual polarity - and teaches some paths out of those traps. We talk about the yin and yang, masculine and feminine, and how they can enhance or deaden a long-term relationship. Listen in as Satyen describes the 3 stages of love and how to create a love-based relationship that calls forth and supports your highest self. And don’t miss Satyen’s exercises for you try at home.

SLI 051: Barry & Janae Weinhold: Understanding and Healing Co-Dependent Relationships

Sat, 14 Jun 2008 01:30:00 -0000

Doctors Barry and Janae Weinhold are mental health professionals who focus on identifying barriers to unconditional love and providing people with effective tools for removing them. Authors of “Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap” the Weinholds offer a radically different approach for understanding and healing the problems associated with co-dependency. In our conversation you’ll learn of the Weinholds personal struggle with co-dependency as well as the wealth of experience they have amassed in their more than 60 combined years of experience teaching, training and counseling. Listen in as they describe their twelve step systematic approach to understanding and breaking free of co-dependency that begins with trauma in our youth, is nurtured by cultural norms and stereotypes and often misdiagnosed as “illness”. And don’t miss the exercise at the end of our program for you to try at home.

SLI 050: Johanina Wikoff, PhD: Tantra and the Yoga of Love and Transformation

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 03:30:00 -0000

What is “Tantra”? We see the word used to describe a wide variety of classes, trainings and practices. But what is it, really? Meet Dr. Johanina Wikoff, a lifelong student and teacher of traditional Tantra and the transformative power of love. Johanina is a master at interpreting, for the western mind, the esoteric Eastern texts and teachings known as Tantra. Her Tantra is about revealing essence, peeling away conditioning and revealing the jewel of our essential nature, sharing the exquisiteness of being, the play of pure energy. As Johanina explains it, Tantra is the subtle understanding, the consciousness of this. Tantra gives this a particular language and form. The various teachings of the different schools of spirituality give different flavors of this experience. Tantra is the yummy path in the school of consciousness. And don’t miss Johanina’s two tantric exercises for you to try at home.

SLI 049: Alison Armstrong: Making Sense of Men - Part 2

Sat, 31 May 2008 04:00:00 -0000

This is part 2 of a two part interview. Welcome back Alison Armstrong, author of “Making Sense of Men: A Woman’s Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men” and "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about how women can be strong without scaring away men, how to move past blaming each other and towards seeing each other as “wonderful”, how women can get men’s attention, affection, and love. And keep listening for a terrific exercise that might transform your love life.

SLI 048: Alison Armstrong: Making Sense of Men - Part 1

Sat, 24 May 2008 01:00:00 -0000

This is part 1 of a two part interview. Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Here is an opportunity for women to rediscover men, while also increasing your self-esteem and potency. In part 1 of a two part interview, Alison Armstrong, author of “Making Sense of Men: A Woman’s Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men” and "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about a fundamental misunderstanding of how men communicate has created conflict and confusion in relationships. And keep listening for a terrific exercise that might transform your love life.

SLI 047: Dr. Patti Taylor: Expanded Orgasms!

Sat, 17 May 2008 22:00:00 -0000

Have you ever had a really great sexual climax, then spent days, weeks, or even years trying to figure out exactly what you did, so you could repeat it? That’s exactly what happened to my guest, Dr. Patricia Taylor, author of Expanded Orgasm, (now in its seventh printing). Dr. Patti is the host of the Expanded Lovemaking Show, here on the Personal Life Media Network, as well as the creator of the bestselling sex education DVD, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, an explicit, how-to guide for bringing a woman into a state of full-body, full being over-the-edge orgasm. Join Dr. Patti and I as we talk about her life work discovering and refining sexual practices that expand orgasm, and her own ongoing intensive practice - having had 3-5 extended, ecstatic Expanded Orgasms per week for over 15 years. In our interview we talk about how couples’ sexual experiences can get hotter and juicier over time. Dr. Patti talks about how often sex "ossifies" or dries up, but it needn't be that way. As we look at the reasons sexuality often slows down, we talk about what people can do to prevent that, and how to make it get ever better. And, as always, there’s an exercise for you to try at home that will add spice to your sex life.

SLI 046: Dr. Arthur Aron: The Science of Intimacy & Love

Sat, 10 May 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Interviewing Dr. Aron was like having a conversation with your favorite college professor about the psychological research being conducted around the subjects of love and intimacy. Art Aron is an internationally acclaimed research psychologist. He is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and serves on the editorial boards of Personal Relationships and the Journal of Personal and Social Relationships. He is a fellow of the American Psychological Society and Principal Investigator on a major National Science Foundation research grant. As we talked, Dr. Aron offered insights and answers that help in the understanding of attraction, relationship satisfaction, the psychological benefits of being in relationship, understanding altruism, defining the nature of self, looking at the concepts of merging selves and losing self. We talked about the psychology of unreciprocated love and the motivations for intense romantic love. And Dr. Aron gave me, and you, a great exercise we can do at home to help avoid the danger of relationship boredom and improve relationship quality.

SLI 045: Michele Newmark: Letting our Bodies Do The Talking

Sat, 03 May 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Meet Michele Newmark, Reichian Therapist and teacher for more than thirty years. According to Michele (and Reich), we humans spend an enormous part of our energy holding back basic needs and feelings which we've learned were not OK. Unreleased rage and/or psychosexual energy produce physical blocks within muscles and organs that act as a “body armor”, preventing the release of that energy. Reichian Therapy is a non-verbal "breathing" therapy. Whereas "talk" is a great way to avoid what you're feeling, there is no way to avoid your feelings while breathing during a Reichian Therapy session. Over time, chronically stiff and hard muscles that are blocking sensation and energy flow will soften. Eventually, the rage we hold in our muscles will surface, giving way to more feelings of pleasure, freeing blocked energy and sexual dysfunction. Join Michele and I as we delve into this fascinating therapy, and don’t miss Michele’s exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 044: Mary Roach: Revealing the (often amusing) Secrets of Sex Research

Sat, 26 Apr 2008 02:00:00 -0000

The study of sexual physiology—what happens, and why, and how to make it happen better—has been going on for centuries, behind the closed doors of laboratories, brothels, Alfred Kinsey's attic, and, more recently, MRI centers, pig farms, and sex-toy R&D labs. My guest, Mary Roach, author of Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex (2008), spent two years wheedling and conniving her way behind those doors to bring you the answers to the questions Dr. Ruth never asked. Can a dead man get an erection? Testicles: if two are good, would three be better? Does orgasm boost fertility? Is vaginal orgasm a myth? Is the clitoris a tiny penis? Why doesn't Viagra help women—or, for that matter, pandas? Join us for a fun and informative interview, and don’t miss Mary’s exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 043: Kat Calderon: Breaking Through the Shame Around Sexuality

Sat, 19 Apr 2008 15:00:00 -0000

How’s your “erotic intelligence”? How can you increase your capacity for pleasure? My guest Kat Calderon is an extraordinary trainer and workshop leader, teaching ordinary people to have extraordinary sex. In an open and candid style Kat talks about her own journey and sexual awakening. Listen as Kat describes how she breaks through her sexual blocks, how she incorporates Tantra, communication, a sense of adventure into her sexuality, how she makes sex into the peak experience it was meant to be. And make sure you try Kat’s exercise in openness for your own relationship.

SLI 042: Cheri Huber: From Awareness to Compassion to Love

Sat, 05 Apr 2008 02:31:00 -0000

About 20 years ago, I was looking around a bookstore that specialized in “spirituality/new age” fare and a little book titled “The Key and the Name of the Key is Willingness” by Cheri Huber, jumped into my hands. I opened to a page at random and discovered it was not set in type, rather it looked hand-written. The words were direct, simple and clear, with no jargon and nothing “woo-woo” or “airy-fairy”. The writing immediately gave me insight into some of the sources of my suffering and showed me a path out. My guest, Cheri Huber, has been a student and teacher of Zen for over 30 years. She is the author of 19 books including There Is Nothing Wrong With You; Be The Person You Want To Find; Sex and Money…are Dirty, Aren’t They?; The Depression Book (she has been acknowledged as the country’s foremost expert on depression and spirituality); When You’re Falling, Dive; and her most recent, Transform Your Life: A Year of Awareness Practice. Join Cheri and I as we talk about the processes of learning to love yourself, developing unconditional self-love, living in compassionate awareness, and transforming our sense of separate-ness into connection. Listen in as Cheri talks about relationship as a path of spiritual growth and awareness. And don’t miss Cheri’s lovely exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 041: Karen Finch: Listening to the Messages From our Bodies

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Too often, when we talk about “couples therapy” we mean “talking about our problems, pain, anger in the hope that talking will make it go away”. Meet Karen Finch, a marriage and family therapist specializing in Somatic Psychotherapy - an interdisciplinary field involving the study of therapeutic and holistic approaches to the body, the practice of mindfulness, body-oriented experiences, and the embodied self. Listen in as Karen explains how individuals and couples work through childhood traumas and relationship obstacles in order to embody full adult sexuality, negotiate sexual boundaries in their relationships, communicate about sexual longings, and access their “Sensual Self.” And remember to listen for Karen’s relaxing and restoring somatic exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 040: Brian Swimme: Love in the Cosmos

Sat, 22 Mar 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Most of us have some basic knowledge of the “big bang” theory – that billions of years ago there was a singular event, the big bang, that created all the matter and energy in the Universe. My guest, Brian Swimme has a doctorate in gravitational dynamics and is an expert on the mathematics of gravity. But unlike most scientists, Dr. Swimme sees and articulates the relationship between these scientific events and the role of humanity in the unfolding story of Earth and Cosmos. Currently a professor of Cosmology at the California Institute for Integral Studies (CIIS) Brian is a passionate and fascinating speaker who believes that the fundamental force in the Universe is “love” and we humans are here to make the Universe aware of love, to bring consciousness to love. Please join us for a completely unique and hopeful view of the power and glory of love. And don’t miss Dr. Swimme’s awe inspiring exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 039: Jamison Green: How Do You Know What You Are?

Sat, 15 Mar 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Are you a man? Are you a woman? How do you know, what makes you so certain? Meet Jamison Green. For as long as he can remember, Jamison has “known” he was a boy. But Jamison was born possessing a female body. ”The technical term is “transgendered” and Jamison is a fascinating and articulate advocate, author and activist in the field of transgender policy, theory and education. Join us as we talk about his journey and his book “Becoming a Visible Man”. And, we end with an intriguing exercise to help you discover your gender assumptions.

SLI 038: Toni Bentley: Talking about Taboo Sex

Sat, 08 Mar 2008 02:00:00 -0000

As a child, my guest Toni Bentley, developed a passion for dance, ultimately landing a place in George Balanchine's New York City Ballet. In 1982, when she was just 21, her book ''Winter Season: A Dancer's Journal'' was published to wide acclaim. When a hip injury forced her off the stage, she found a new career as a writer. After 4 successful books, Toni had a life-changing sexual experience, which became the source for her memoir “The Surrender: An Erotic Memoir.” In a direct and forthright manner Chip and Toni talk about anal pleasuring and sex. Toni offers insights into her experience, which she describes as “transcendental.” Join us as we talk about the forbidden, the taboo, the dance between surrender and control. And stay with us for Chip’s exercise for you to try in the privacy of your own home.

SLI 037: Heather Corinna: Sex, Gender and Feminism for Young Adults

Sat, 01 Mar 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Sometimes it feels like the world is spinning madly out of control, one generation to the next. What was “naughty” in the nineties is “normal” in the aught-ies. Questions that never got asked in the sexy sixties are the ho-hum topics in today’s “blogosphere”. Meet Heather Corinna, freelance photographer, self-portrait artist, author, sexuality educator and activist, and author of “S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College.” Heather and I spend a lively half hour or so discussing sex education, the young feminist community, gender identity and politics for teens, “queer-ness”, and a host of ideas that your average teenager thinks about everyday. And don’t miss Chip’s provocative exercise about gender identity and roles, for you to try at home.

SLI 036: Dr. Deborah Anapol: The Natural Laws of Love

Sat, 23 Feb 2008 03:00:00 -0000

According to my guest, Dr. Deborah Anapol, a new paradigm for LOVE is emerging at the dawn of this New Millennium. As we search for love in our lives, we often feel as though we’re on a journey without a compass—or even worse, with a faulty map. We are programmed from our earliest childhood experiences with scores of assumptions about love. We’re taught male and female roles, and ways of seeing ourselves, that may lead to separation, fear and mistrust. These many fallacies and misconceptions lead us to associate love with disappointment and pain. Join Chip and Dr. Anapol as she provides a warm, simple and universal guide to the principles that are common to all loving relationships. Dr. Anapol distills love down to its basic essentials and reminds us that love is not just a good idea, it’s the law. And be sure to keep listening for Dr. Anapol’s exercise that will reawaken the love and passion in you.

SLI 035: Dr. Rachel Herz: Scents and Sensibilities

Sat, 16 Feb 2008 03:00:00 -0000

Smell. Why do some people like a certain smell and others hate it? Is smell personal or cultural? How does smell affect our choices and our daily lives? Of the five senses, smell is the one we have the fewest words for. And yet, our sense of smell, and our reactions to and interpretations of smell, is essential to our physical and emotional well-being. Meet Dr. Rachel Herz, psychologist, researcher, faculty at Brown University, author of “The Scent of Desire: Discovering our Enigmatic Sense of Smell”, and one of the foremost experts on the sense of smell. Join us for a lively and interesting conversation about this little talked about area of human experience. Dr. Herz has great insights into how our sense of smell functions, what purpose it serves, and shows how inextricably it is linked to our survival. And don’t miss the great exercise Dr. Herz has for us to try at home!

SLI 034: Daphne Rose Kingma: The Future of Love

Sat, 09 Feb 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Why do more than half of US marriages end in divorce? Why are there now more single heads of households than married heads of households? What is “The Future of Love”? Meet “the Einstein of Emotions.” My guest, Daphne Rose Kingma is an expert on transformation and matters of the heart. In her book, “The Future of Love” she writes “…our greatest desire is to have our relationships return us…to the transforming and beautiful experience of love that first inspired them…” Join Daphne and Chip as we explore love and the power of bringing soul into our relationships. Listen in as we talk about the 10 qualities of a soulful relationship: self-awareness, aliveness, realism, honesty, generosity, empathy, forgiveness, thanksgiving, consecration and joy. And don’t miss Daphne’s deep, soulful exercise that you can do at home.

SLI 033: Catherine Rose: Exotic Dance and Women’s Sensual Movement

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 02:00:00 -0000

There was a time, not so very long ago, when it seemed like no self-respecting woman would admit to knowing what a pole-dance or lap-dance is. But these days we see exotic dancing on TV, in the movies, at dance competitions, as well as at “Gentlemen’s Clubs”. Meet Catherine Rose: Teacher, performer, expert in the art and magic of exotic and erotic movement, pole dancing, and lap dancing. Join Chip and Catherine as we talk about this fun and exciting way to spice up a relationship. Catherine is an interesting and articulate advocate for every woman’s right to be sexy, to be juicy, to be – dare I say it?- slutty. And, of course, don’t miss Catherine’s simple, easy-to-understand exercise you can do at home to bring out your inner sex goddess.

SLI 032: Al Link & Pala Copeland: Hot, Emotionally Rich, Spiritually Evolving Relationships

Sun, 27 Jan 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Meet Pala Copeland and Al Link. Sacred Loving is what they do, full time, both in their living together and in their working together. Al and Pala are relationship experts who teach committed couples how to create a lifetime of love through workshops, books, personal coaching, public appearances and their blog. In our interview we find out what Al and Pala mean by “Tantra”, “Taoist Sex Practices”, “Kama Sutra”. We talk about the difference between “falling” in love and “creating” love to last for a lifetime or more. After more than 20 years of Tantric practice and more than 10 years as teachers, Al and Pala have great things to say about keeping the flames of passion burning indefinitely in your relationship. And don’t miss their sweet, simple exercise for you to try at home.

SLI 031: Linda Marks: Healing The Male and Female Heart Wound

Sat, 19 Jan 2008 22:00:00 -0000

Perhaps the biggest obstacle to creating meaningful long-term relationships between Men and Women is the cultural conditioning that seems to wound us and has us feel guarded and untrusting of each other. Meet Linda Marks, psychotherapist, life work counselor, social architect and author. Listen in as Linda and Chip talk about the emotional burdens associated with being male or being female in our culture. Based on extensive research, Linda has formed powerful theories and insights into the possibility of of what she calls "soul centered relationships." And, as always, stay tuned for Linda's sweet exercise at the end of the interview.

SLI 030: Barry McCarthy, PhD: Sexual Health for Men

Wed, 02 Jan 2008 02:00:00 -0000

Here's at little true/false test, written by this episode's guest Dr. Barry McCarthy, for and about men: Penis size is the most important factor in sexually pleasing your partner.______ Men are supposed to lead, to run the sex show. _____ The best sex happens when you're single. ________ Women control men with sex, that's just the way it is.______ "Real" men are always interested in sex.______ Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, is a certified marital and sex therapist. With his wife Emily McCarthy, he has coauthored 8 books on relationships and sexuality, including /Sexual Awareness/ (2002), /Rekindling Desire/ (2003), and /Getting It Right the First Time/ (2004). Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy have authored /Coping With Premature Ejaculation/ (2003) and /Coping With Erectile Dysfunction/ (2004). How many "true"? How many "false"? Dr. McCarthy says...all false. Join Chip and Barry as we blow away a lot of the myths and misconceptions our culture promotes about men. Listen in as we learn "the truth" about viagra, etc. And don't miss Barry's great exercise to boost your sex life.

SLI 029: Dr. Irwin Goldstein: Specialist in Sexual Medicine

Thu, 13 Dec 2007 10:27:00 -0000

Ever wanted a half-hour or so to talk to your doctor about sex, health and aging? Meet Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a staight talking, informative expert in the field of Sexual Medicine. Dr. Goldstein has been involved with sexual dysfunction research since the late 1970's. Author of more than 350 publications inthe field of sexual dysfunction, Dr. Goldstein has been a pioneer in the nascent medical discipline of Sexual Medicine, creating the first Department of Sexual Medicine in a major US hospital (AlvaradoHospital in San Diego). Chip and Irwin fill an interview with hundreds of fascinating medical facts about sexual desire, performance, and health. And keep listening for Chip's sexual health exercise formen and women.

SLI 028: Esther Perel: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

Mon, 03 Dec 2007 12:49:00 -0000

Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? Esther Perel, psychotherapist and author of _Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence,_ takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. And don't miss Esther's deeply insightful exercise during the interview.

SLI 027: Wendy Maltz: Healing our Sexuality

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:01:00 -0000

What is "healthy" sex? Chip interviews Wendy Maltz, licensed clinical social worker, licensed marriage and family therapist, and certified sex therapist with more than 25 years of clinical experience. Wendy is the author of The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, coauthor of Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies, editor of two poetry anthologies which celebrate healthy sexual intimacy: Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure. Wendy and Chip talk about the distinction between unhealthy and healthy sex by exploring the differences between obligation and choice, shame and self-esteem, power and empowerment, having sex and making authentic love. Wendy is eloquent as she describes the path from sexual abuse survivor to having a fulfilling sex life. And don't miss Wendy's terrifically heart-centered exercise.

SLI 026: Dr. Karen Gail Lewis (pt. 2): Can Men and Women ever REALLY Communicate?

Mon, 19 Nov 2007 17:04:00 -0000

Dr. Karen Gail Lewis, has written six books and three ebooks and has more than 36 years experience as a family therapist. Join us as we talk about men and women and communication. Dr. Lewis offers insights into the different approaches to intimacy that often leave women feeling unheard and men feeling unappreciated. Talking in easy-to-understand language Dr. Lewis unravels some of the stylistic and biological differences in male and female approaches to intimacy, shame, approval and love. And don't miss the sweet exercise that you can try at home.

SLI 025: Dr. Karen Gail Lewis (pt. 1): A Different view of Being Single

Tue, 13 Nov 2007 15:39:04 -0000

Dr. Karen Gail Lewis, author of _With or Without a Man: Single Women Taking Control of Their Lives_, has written six books and three ebooks and has more than 36 years experience as a family therapist. Listen in as we discuss single women and how they can take control of their lives. This is NOT a show that approaches the single status as a problem, rather this is a show that helps women, and men, face the reality that, no matter what your dreams and plans are about relationship, at some time in your adulthood you are likely to be single. Learn some of the "tasks" we can undertake to create a fun and fulfilling life, alone or with a partner. This interview will give you hope and tools for making great life-choices. And stay tuned for Karen's exercise at the end. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode025-karen-lewis-different-view-of-being-single.html

SLI 024: Francesca Gentille: Sexual Shamanism and Relationship

Tue, 06 Nov 2007 10:38:00 -0000

Meet Francesca Gentille, host of "Tantra & Kama Sutra" on the Personal Life Media Network, teacher of Tantra and Sacred Sexuality, and self-described "Diva of the Devine". Listen in as Francesca and Chip talk about incorporating ritual and role-play into lovemaking. Francesca is an exciting and effervescent personality who talks openly about her own journey out of "addictive" love behaviors into a healthy, joyous sexuality. With insights drawn from Assanas, Breathing Techniques, Chakras, Kama Sutra, Mudras, Pujas, Quodoshka, and Tantra, Francesca's honest and candid conversation will give you some great ideas to try for yourself. And remember to listen for Francesca's exercise that you can try at home to help awaken your inner sexual shaman.

SLI 023: Gay Hendricks: Conscious Loving

Tue, 30 Oct 2007 22:46:32 -0000

In the 1980's, as I was struggling to create the loving life-partner-relationship I so wanted, I found an amazing writer, teacher, healer named Gay Hendricks. His books - The Centering Book, Learning to Heal Yourself, Conscious Loving - all helped me redefine what is possible in relationship. Now it's my pleasure to bring a taste of Gay Hendricks to my listeners. Join us as we talk about "relationship harmony" and some of the steps to achieve it, as well as the power of wishing. Dr. Hendricks speaks with clarity about ideas like "Spirituality", "Consciousness", and "Genuine Love." And don't miss the exercise for you to try at home. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode023-gay-hendricks-conscious-loving.html

SLI 022: Michael Gilbert: What Darwin Teaches US About Men, Women and Relationships

Tue, 23 Oct 2007 21:26:10 -0000

According to my guest, Michael Gilbert, "The everyday male is in trouble. It seems that manhood no longer requires preparation. Boys stumble without a map onto the pathways to masculinity, forced to learn by their own devices the essential traits and qualities of authentic manliness." And women aren't faring any better, "...women have been propelled into unfamiliar territory, encouraged or forced to support themselves and build careers in today's long stretch between puberty, marriage, and beyond. The contemporary woman has become a hunter as well as a gatherer." Listen in as Michael and I talk about the evolutionary forces that shape relations between men and women, discuss our current situation and reaffirm the need we all share for effective, nurturing, loving partnerships. And don't miss the exercise at the end of the interview. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode022-michael-gilbert-darwin-and-relationships.html

SLI 021: Kelly Bryson: Communication as a Path to Intimacy

Tue, 16 Oct 2007 16:37:12 -0000

Does this sound like you? "One minute we're just talking and then suddenly we're in a fight." "All I'm doing is trying to tell you my feelings and you won't listen." Meet Kelly Bryson, psychotherapist, marriage and family therapist, author of _Don't Be Nice, Be Real_, and expert in an extraordinary communication technique called "Non- Violent Communication", also known as "Compassionate Communication". Join Kelly and I as we examine the ineffective and sometimes tragic ways that people use to communicate. Discover new techniques and approaches to communicating and listening to feelings and experiences. And don't miss Kelly's two exercises to improve communication in your life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode021-kelly-bryson-communication-as-a-path-to-intimacy.html

SLI 020: Bill Noble: Poems and Stories about Sex, Love and Intimacy

Tue, 09 Oct 2007 20:45:31 -0000

From the first time heard my guest, Bill Noble, reading poetry I was immediately transported by his his way with words and I think you will be, too. Bill is an award winning writer and poet (National Looking-glass award for poetry, nominee for the Pushcart prize), a Sex Educator, and an editor at CleanSheets.com, one of the finest websites for literary erotica. Bills poems and stories are sometimes soft and sexy, sometimes hard and fun, sometimes tender and sweet, and always interesting and entertaining. And don't miss Bill's exercise that you can do at home. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode020-bill-noble-poems-and-stories.html

SLI 019: Anne Watts: Finances and Intimacy

Tue, 25 Sep 2007 19:48:27 -0000

When you ask social workers, therapists and family law attorneys why so many marriages end in divorce the two most common answers are - Sex and Money. Yet how few of us are comfortable really talking about money and finances with our most beloved. We argue and accuse, but rarely find love or intimacy in things financial. In this episode Anne Watts, a workshop leader and counselor in the areas of Sex, Love and Intimacy for more than 20 years, talks about the intersection of finances and intimacy. Listen in as she describes and discusses her workshop called "Financial Intimacy and Freedom for Couples." And don't miss Anne's exercise that you can do at home to enhance your financial intimacy, at the end of our interview. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode019-anne-watts-finances-and-intimacy.html

SLI 018: Barbara Musser: Mothers and Daughters Talking about Sex

Wed, 12 Sep 2007 02:39:44 -0000

Teenage sex may or may not be more commonplace these days but it is certainly more noticed, studied and reported on than ever before. Babies are having babies. Twelve year old girls are acting and dressing like professional sex-workers. All the experts agree that what's needed is more education, more communication, more adult supervision and input. It would be nice if our schools could do it for us, but they can't. When will parents ever learn how to talk about sex with their kids? Meet Barbara Musser, workshop leader and creator of "A Day for Mothers and Daughters" a workshops for mothers and daughters to talk about sex, sexuality, biology and what it is to be a woman. Barbara shares her insights and teachings from years of talking to women of all ages. And don't miss Barbara's exercise that you can do at home, at the end of our interview. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode018-barbara-musser-sex-talk.html

SLI 017: Alison Armstrong: Creating Peace in the War Between The Sexes (part 2)

Tue, 04 Sep 2007 04:48:57 -0000

Ever feel like you just don't understand the other gender? Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? In this second part to their interview Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Here is an opportunity for women to rediscover men, while also increasing your self-esteem and potency. Alison Armstrong, author of "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her insights into men - what men want, need and desire. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about how "feminism" and a fundamental misunderstanding of how men communicate has created conflict and confusion in relationships. And stay tuned for a terrific exercise for men that might transform your love life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode017-alison-armstrong-war-between-sexes-part-2.html

SLI 016: Alison Armstrong: Creating Peace in the War Between The Sexes (part 1)

Wed, 29 Aug 2007 00:33:31 -0000

Ever feel like you just don't understand the other gender? Ever wonder why relationships between men and women so often start out like a fairy tale and end up like a horror story? Join Chip and his guest Alison Armstrong and learn more about what gets in the way of having the relationships we so deeply desire. Alison Armstrong, author of "Keys to the Kingdom", and creator of the "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshops describes her own amazing journey from being a "frog-farmer"-a woman who turns princes into frogs- to becoming a world renowned expert on understanding the conflicts and ending the separation between men and women. Listen in as Chip and Alison talk about the conflicting desires and expectations that men and women bring into relationships and learn how to develop meaningful alternatives that actually enhance our relationships. And stay tuned for a terrific exercise for women that might transform your love life. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode016-alison-armstrong-war-between-sexes.html

SLI 015: Dr. Debra Mandel: Searching for Love in all the WRONG Places!

Tue, 14 Aug 2007 19:55:18 -0000

I saw the title of Dr. Debra Mandel's latest book and knew we just had to talk! - /Dump That Chump: From Doormat to Diva in Only Nine Steps-A Guide to Getting Over Mr. Wrong/, is scheduled for release in September of 2007, published by Harper Collins. Dr. Debra, relationship expert and renowned psychologist with more than 20 years of experience, is also the author of /Your Boss is Not Your Mother: Eight Steps to Eliminating Office Drama and Creating Positive Relationships at Work /(Agate, 2006) and /Healing the Sensitive Heart: How to Stop Getting Hurt, Build Your Inner Strength, and Find the Love You Deserve/ (Adams Media, 2003, and Airleaf Publishing, 2005). Dr. Debra and I talk about techniques for finding the love of your life, building successful relationships as well as identifying and ending "dead-end relationships." We explore the "dos and don'ts" of relationship including having healthy boundaries and healing the wounds we often carry into each new relationship. We talk about cheating, and how to rebuild the trust when infidelity enters your relationship. And listen all the way to the end of the interview so you don't miss Dr. Debra's terrific exercise to help you find and keep love. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode015-debra-mandel-searching-for-love.html

SLI 014: Dr. Terri Orbuch: A Visit with the Love Doctor

Thu, 02 Aug 2007 03:36:40 -0000

This episode Chip visits with Dr. Terri Orbuch, a.k.a. "The Love Doctor". Nationally known research scientist at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, psychologist, and Oakland University professor, author of 5 books on relationship, Dr. Terri Orbuch has studied the marriage and divorce and romance and relationship patterns of thousands of individuals nationwide for over 20 years. Listen in as Dr. Terri shares the insights from her decades-long study of hundreds of couples. Dr. Terri has great insights into the keys to successful relationships, and unlike so many in the field, she has the research to back up her ideas. Our interview covers Dr. Terri's wisdom a bout how to recreate passion in a long term relationship; what to do to re-establish trust when one partner lies to or cheats on their spouse; and, how to keep conflict from tearing relationships apart. And don't miss our end-segment where you'll learn an exercise you can practice at home to improve your own relationship. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode014-terri-orbuch-the-love-doctor.html

SLI 013: Dr. Brenda Schaeffer: Is it love or addiction?

Thu, 26 Jul 2007 03:48:09 -0000

You hear it talked about in all the popular and tabloid media. "Sex Addiction." "Love Addiction." "Romance Addiction." My guest, Dr. Brenda Schaeffer, D.Min., M.A.L.P., C.A.S., is a licensed psychologist, a certified addiction specialist, and holds a doctorate in spiritual psychology. She has extensive training and experience in a number of psychologies including but not limited to child development, sexual addiction, and trauma. She is the author of 5 books including: Love or Addiction: The Power & Peril of Teen Sex & Romance and Is It Love or Is It Addiction?. Listen in as we try to discover if love is ever actually addiction or is that "addiction" label merely a way for one person to judge another person's feelings, behaviors, and desires. Dr. Brenda demonstrates a great ability to help us understand when love or romance descends into disease and offers her insights on the difference between healthy infatuation and obsession. If you've ever wondered whether there was something unhealthy about the way you "fall in love" don't miss this show. And stay tuned to hear a great exercise you can do at home. More details on this episode go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode013-brenda-schaeffer-love-or-addiction.html

SLI 012: Alissa Kriteman - Understanding Women, Men & "Lovership"

Fri, 13 Jul 2007 02:24:55 -0000

My guest this episode is show host, author and entrepreneur, Alissa Kriteman. Alissa appeared as The Dreamer on ABC’s reality show How to Get the Guy and is the author of Meet the Dreamer: Alissa’s Four Cornerstones for Living Your Dreams available on www.Amazon.com. Alissa brings a sassy and bold approach to all that she does. With a background as a Professional Life Coach and Relationship Expert, Alissa brings a wealth of insight and knowledge to her latest venture as the host of the hot, new podcast show, Just For Women: Dating, Relationships and Sex distributed by Personal Life Media, Inc. Join us in a fascinating and funny conversation about understanding men: their needs, wants, desires. Alissa has great insights into how women can avoid "turning Princes into Frogs." And we'll also talk about understanding women, helping women take responsibility for their femininity and sexuality. And don't miss Alissa's insights into what she calls "lovership", that place between "just dating" and "big-R-relationship". And stay tuned as Alissa leads us in a transformational exercise from her book. More details on this episode go to http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/sex-love-intimacy/episode012-alissa-kriteman-understanding-women-men-lovership.html