Connecting is a skill. Accessing the Connected State is foundational in generating truly ecstatic experiences - for yourself and others. Humans are social creatures - we connect naturally. All you really need to do is learn to let go so that you're available for the connection right in front of you. Once you learn to do this, your senses open up to whoever you're with and you'll notice signals from your lover that most everyone else has missed. See Episode #17 - The Kelly Revelation for more on the Connected State.

For those of you who think i've forgotten about the sexy - don't you believe it. Whether you recognize it or not - we're thick in middle of it. The truth is that where i really want to go, you've got to be a little more well-versed in human consciousness than, "when do i stick it in?" And whether you realize it yet or not - the Default State is the sexiest. It is THE state to learn.

Everything starts with the Default and when you've made that true for yourself - you're in a world of...well, something before and beyond pleasure. And you'll stimulate that in others too.

The Default State is the baseline state for every person when they're at rest and it's the baseline state of you. When you are stabilized in it, you are both structurally and functionally well formed. The trick is that, for most people, being truly at rest is something they haven't done in so long they don't really know what the hell that phrase even means.

Completely at rest?

Yes. Completely. All autonomic functions working perfectly and very little other activity.

When you've released everything…the Default State remains. This is like having a Restart button on your metaphoric OS. And once you've reset, once everything of who you are is at rest, the filters of your experience are simply in a state of readiness, aligned to express You in perfect accordance with the living blueprint of who you are. Like this, learning occurs naturally, and everything you engage in comes to you more naturally. Orgasms are fuller, longer, and all-around better and you only make the best decisions that put you near and in bed with the lovers that are perfect for you.

So, for those of you ready for the real adventure - start by learning the configuration of your Default. Then start using it. Use it all over and if you have questions - let me know. This is my main passion and i'm happy to go further into with you. I'll be posting a lot more on the Default as well as the two other main states i want you to know both here and elsewhere. (i'll let you know where.) And don't worry - we'll be getting back to our regularly scheduled sexy time soon - but deeper and more intimately.

Learning how to access and "run" the Default State is critical to state control, being an unforgettable lover and succeeding as a hedonist. The Default State is based on the Generalized Desired State or G.D.S. which comes from my mentor, Dr. Joseph Riggio's, Mythogenic® Self Model. Check back next week for more on the Default.

Here's what i want you to do:

Watch this video and allow the image that you see in the video to become anchored to the experience you have watching the video. This will come into use a lot in upcoming episodes so the better you do it (the more intense and pleasurable you make the experience) the better it's going to feel and work later on. Believe me, this is going to be really cool, but you've got to work it to get the most out of it.

So, watch the episode, allow yourself to experience the best part of the deepest love you've ever known, deepen it, and then intentionally associate with that image, making the decision that every time you see that image it will cause you to access
that deep love.