In this article we will tell what men feel in some poses, but are shy to admit.

Cowgirl position

They write in journals that this pose is one of the most favourite man pose. Indeed you can relax and watch breasts and face of your excited partner, who rules the process. But in real life everything is different a little bit.

First, in this pose much depends on girl’s ability to feel her partner condition. Man can’t speed up or slow down, when he needs, he has to rely on the girl.

The third this pose is considered to be one of the most traumatic. One wrong movement of a girl can lead to big troubles for a man and it makes feel pressure.

Reverse cowgirl position

To all disadvantages above one can add a couple more.

A woman sits her back to a man and he got no almost has no feedback. He doesn’t see her facial expression and can’t estimate her condition. It can be said that he sees nothing interesting because to see her butt he must stretch his neck in uncomfortable way.

Besides in this pose penis enters vagina under completely unphysiological angle and it makes risk of trauma higher.

Spooning

Sex on a side is considered to take less energy. For many couples it is a good way after a hard working day. If one uses this position just not to spend much energy, everything is ok. But if the couple wants to have wild and passionate night, spooning is not the way. Active actions form man will lead to aches in hands and lower back. And all the action and strain goes to a man.

Missionary position

This position is the most common in the world. After having tried many positions many couples return to this one because it is easy. Nevertheless there is one serious disadvantage for men – they have to hold their own weight on their hands, and it takes good physical training. And if the process becomes longer, strength can go away.

Besides in this pose woman is not very active and man has to move all the time, it tires very fast.

Sitting position

Again moving in sitting position is hard for a man and gives much load on lower parts of the back. Besides he has to hold a girl and think how to make everything safe. On the other hand sex in this position gives a very close interaction. So you don’t have to refuse it, you just need to control the load, changing the positions of the bodies in time.

69 position

Despite effectiveness not many couple can get real pleasure in this position. Doesn’t matter who is up or under both have to control their movements and body position. It doesn’t let one relax and concentrate on pleasure which the partner tries to give you. Difference in height also makes everything harder. The bigger it is the stronger is discomfort, because one of the partners has to stretch his neck to reach the genitals and the other one has to contract his back.

Of course this position should be tried once or twice. Who knows maybe you are the lucky ones who can practice it really good. But if it was not successful don’t think that you are bad lovers. Just change the position.

Standing with a girl on hands

There is nothing to explain here: it’s difficult for a man to make sex holding his partner on his hands. Even if she skinny and light (and it means not less than 50 kg) even if he leans her against the wall (it can ease the burden a little bit)! Yes, you can have fun in this position for a couple of minutes but then it’s better to change it.

The couples where a man practices power sports can be exclusions. In other cases it is easy to traumatize a back and suffer from it for the whole life.

How to understand that you urgently need a good dose of sex? In this article we present several troubles that can be fixed with active sexual life.

You got PMS

One of displays of this unpleasant condition is pain. Aches in head, belly and back… For some women this time is so hard, that doctors prescribe them painkillers and hormones. But if these women tried to have sex during PMS, they would notice improvement of their state without any medicines.

Why does it happen?

First during sex endorphin is produced and it’s a natural analogue of morphine – the strongest painkiller that is addictive.

Second during the sexual intercourse estrogens are produced, which confronts another hormone – progesterone. And it is it that is the reason of nagging and lingering premenstrual pain in different parts of body and emotional condition swings.

You keep diets all the time but the weight doesn’t reduce

Of course you don’t have to think that sex can help to reduce weight dramatically. But if reasonable and balanced diet is added with regular sexual exercises, it becomes more effective.

One should pay attention at the fact that during sex act muscles of hips, buttocks and lower part of belly get the biggest strain. These parts are problematic for women. And sex is great and nice way to tighten them up.

And also intimate stuff affect positively on producing of testosterone. Although this hormone is considered to be a male one, it is also produced in female body in small quantities. It is responsible for strength and elasticity of muscles.

Herewith sex is an essential cardio workout, because pulse and breath is intensified twice and body get loads that can be compared with short distance run and weight lifting.

You catch a cold often

It means that immunity fails. But why? It’s difficult to answer. But we know for sure that blood of people who have regular sex has thirty percent more protective antibodies that those who prefer sexual abstinence or play hooky. Respectively sexually active folks suffer flu three times rarely.

Main thing is not to catch another kind of infection. But condom will protect you from them.

You don’t like the size of your breast

It can sound incredible, but regular sex can enlarge your breast. Of course it won’t enlarge it much, but a little bit. How does it work? On one side blood circuit is activated during sex. On the other side sexual hormones, production of which is increased during sex, affect breasts.

You complain on bad memory

It’s complicated for you to get new information, to deal with a new gadget or read the third page of a book. You don’t remember what was on the first one? It’s clear: you need sex urgently!

American scientists proved that IQ of women who have orgasms regularly is several points higher than those who prefer to have no sex. It’s all about blood circulation. Brain cells get twice more oxygen and nourishment during sex. It means that brain activity and ability becomes higher.  

The work of hypothalamus affect our cognitive abilities as it coordinates all hormonal system. Getting more oxygen this organ starts functioning in a more quality way and we get smarter.

You see signs of aging on your face

You won’t get away from getting old, but you can postpone it. With the help of sex of course. Because the hormones that are produced during sex positively affect on collagen, protein that is responsible for skin elasticity.

American researchers confirm: women who have regular sex (2-3 times a week) look 3-5 years younger than their sexually passive peers.

Besides sex normalizes progesterone balance what lets get rid of pimples on your face. Have sex and be beautiful!

You have insomnia

Problems with sleep is scourge of our times. Pressure, stress, large loads of information and plenty of things to do (that we don’t have time for) bother our sleeping. And do you know that during the orgasm hormones of sleep are made out? That’s why after sex men fall asleep. These hormones will be useful for you too: the sleep will be sweet and deep, and rest will be good.

You are always unsatisfied with yourself

Regular discontent with yourself, your appearance, character, your achievements says about low self-esteem. But if you feel desired and loved often, if you permanently get proof of your beauty and attractiveness with attention and caress from a man, your opinion about yourself will change. And you’ll be able to take yourself as you are with all you advantages and disadvantages.

But sometimes it happens like this: a woman is attractive, she cooks so delicious, and she is good in bed. But she doesn’t arouse any feelings in the man she wants. There is a lack of something. Some important part is missing, that can start a chain of chemical reactions and can set the fire of love.

Most of our readers already know that our feelings mainly depend on hormones. And hormones are nothing but physiology that can affected by different ways.

No we won’t teach you how to make a elixir of love. We’ll tell you how to make a man fall in love with you on the level of physiological processes.

His vision

Everybody knows that men love by their eyes. But not many ones know that this idea has proof. It turns out to be that in visionary perception of man takes one quarter of neurons more that it takes from women. It means that picture is important for men.

Clothes, haircut, make up, figure – all these things matter much for a man, even if he stays on the opposite. Man involuntarily estimates the appearance of a woman at first seconds of acquaintance and it can influence on the further course of events. Here we make a conclusion: watch your appearance and don’t let yourself be untidy and messy.

And one more little secret. Quite often a man chooses a woman who resembles his mother. Not the way she looks now, but in the way she looked when the man was a child. If you can look at photos your dearie’s mother when she was young, you can try to look like she.

His sense of smell

The meaning of smell was underrated for long time and only decades after scientists came to conclusion that it is smell that becomes the crucial factor of unconscious choice.

But it doesn’t mean that one should pour perfume on oneself. We talk about natural odour that everyone of us has.

First and foremost the state of immunity affects on a smell of a person. We choose a person with a strong immunity unconsciously. And it can be made stronger by simple means: tempering, sports, vitamins.

One more important part of our smell is pheromones. Their influence can hardly underestimated. The most important one is copulin. It is produced in a female body during ovulation. So this period is good not only for making a child but also for attracting the man you are interested in and starting relationship with him.

We also got bad news for our readers. There is one thing in our smell that we can’t influence. Our unconsciousness chooses a man with a DNA that is completely different from ours. And it can be defined by our sense of smell. It means if DNA of a man looks like yours, you likely won’t get him despite all your efforts. Chemistry of love won’t start. But at the same time it’s great, the nature ensures highly diversified DNA for our children. It gives them opportunity to have strong health.

If the nature tells “no” to your relationship, you’d better listen to it.

His hearing

Although we women love by ears, don’t underestimate the meaning of hearing for men. Everybody is glad to hear a nice voice and melodic laughter. Yes, timbre of voice is born quality. You can and need to work at improving it.

Try to take away harsh and too high notes from your voice and laughter. Don’t be afraid of losing spontaneity: you’ll need self-control only in the beginning. Very soon you’ll have new voice habits.

And be sure to rehearse languorous whisper for intimate meetings.

His temperature sensibility

Scientists revealed an interesting fact: a person holding a hot cup of tea is perceived as close and nice more than one with a glass of a cold drink. You can use this knowledge trying to make a connection with a new man. Choose warm drinks for dates: latte, tea or maybe mulled wine.

Of course, in summer heat hot tea can be inappropriate. But if you drink coffee in well-conditioned place, this will be it.

The first kiss

The meaning of this moment can hardly be overestimated. Many receptors are used during a kiss – tactile, olfactory, sensory ones. Emotional part of the process also has a great meaning.

As is known, nearly sixty percent of men don’t try to continue the relationship if the first kiss was a failure.

What measures can be taken?

First keep hygiene of your mouth and don’t kiss after meal. Second don’t overuse lipstick. Third watch the state of lips’ skin. Fourth don’t tense, but relax and try to get pleasure.

That’s all – observance of these rules increase the chance that after the first kiss the second and the third will follow.

Pay attention: increase doesn’t mean guarantee. There is also subconscious that works at its’ own laws. But working on your body, voice and femininity of behavior is useful in any case. This is necessary not only for attraction of a man, but also for your own harmony and happiness.

So if you want to have sex with the person with whom you broke up, it can be an evidence that your feelings are still alive. It’s not strange cause you know each other very good and were together many times.

But before making the final step understand one thing: it’s just nothing more than sex. You’ll go to bed not with your loved one, it will be somebody completely different. You’ll have no love, nor affection, nor obligation – only sex. Are you ready for such kind of relationship? If it doesn’t frighten you and you are sure that you won’t poke your wounds, still don’t hurry and think about the next subjects.

Who initiated the break up?

If it was not your idea to break up, you still suffer and your wish to have sex is a hope to restore the relationship. It’s not the best idea! Sex with your ex throws you back and delay your movement. You need to abstract emotionally from the past relationship and move further, not to cling to your past.

Why did you break up?

It’s one thing if you broke up after a usual argument. And it’s another one if you had serious reasons or controversy. Do you really think sex will help? Leave your empty hopes and be honest with yourself. Do you want sex only or do you need a rematch?

Is your ex involved in new relationship?

First, trying to destroy with sex something that can lead to new love is immoral. The second, you must care about safety. The fact that you know each other for so long and trusted each other doesn’t mean that after the split up your partner didn’t have sex be it serious or a one-night-stand. Security measures must as serious as with a new partner.

Do you plan to forget everything connected with the past relationship?

If the split up was painful for you, you’d better forget about sex. Any reminder about the past will poke the wound and makes suffering stronger. The more place you give for your past, the less energy you have for new happy life.

Do you respect yourself enough?

You split up and you had reasons for it. In this case it doesn’t matter who wanted to finish the relationship, be it you or your partner. Hardly this man is worth of your attention, because reasons of split up are still actual!

What do you really want?

Try to answer as honestly as possible. It’s unlikely that you need sex so much that you are ready to have it with just anybody, even with the person who hurt you. In any case remember: sex with your ex won’t return your past relationship and won’t resurrect your love.

Of course there are situations when sex with your previous partner can be a good idea. For example if you parted on good terms, without arguments and stayed good friends, keeping positive attitude to each other. It’s also possible that both of you realized that you lost your temper and want to give another chance for yourselves. In this case sex won’t be enough: you’ll have to discuss and realize the reasons of your break up.

Once again: making a decision, be honest with yourself and your partner.

Nevertheless many couples refuse to try it, thinking that it can hurt their health. We are sure in the opposite and confirm: anal sex is useful in many aspects. In which ones, you’ll learn in this article.

Sexual diversity and new experience

Even those couples who practice anal sex, don’t do it often. Every time is like a celebration. That’s why anal sex is never boring and doesn’t become routine.

This kind of sex gives completely new emotions to both of partners. Man feels a really tight girth of penis, which is especially pleasant during frictions. Women can learn to feel anal orgasm, feelings of which differ from clitoral and vaginal ones.

Also one shouldn’t forget about psychological part of the process. Anal sex is pronounced male domination. The very idea of such domination is really exciting for many ones.

Ability to have sex during the period

Once a month all women of child-bearing age are out of action. And it’s good if the unwilling interruption takes 2-3 days. But some women have period for a week or more. So one has to stop having sex.

But abstention is for couples who didn’t try anal sex. Because period is not an obstacle for it. Also some gynaecological nuisances, when vaginal sex is prohibited, won’t bother it.

The main thing is strict hygiene. Beside it’s better not to have sex during the time when menstrual bleeding is abundant (happily it takes 1-2 days)

Anal sex and small penises

Those who have small penises often feel embarassed, because many people think that only a big cock can give a pleasure to a woman (we don’t share this opinion, but we talk about another subject now).

Not many women can let a big penis into their most tender hole. But if the partner has a small penis, this idea won’t recollect fear and resistance. So a man with a small penis has more chances to get what he wants and feel himself a great lover. To give anal pleasure you don’t need king size.

Anal sex and hemorrhoid prevention

Not many ones know that women who practice anal sex don’t suffer hemorrhoids. It happens because this kind of entertainment is a good massage that prevents stagnation in this part of body and improves venous circuit. But it works only if they have anal sex due to all rules, without fuss and rush.

Anal sex as a remedy for impotence

As it was said above, the very idea of anal sex is really exciting. And if a man got troubles with getting excited thinking about vagina, try to offer the alternative. In many cases impotence will vanish without a trace!

Key rules of anal sex

One must strictly comply with the following rules to make anal sex useful:

• use a high-quality lubricant
• comply with the rules of hygiene before and after sex
• use a condom
• change a condom switching from anal sex to vaginal one
• if one doesn’t use a condom, he must wash his penis switching from anal sex to vaginal one
• don’t make sudden moves especially in the beginning of the intercourse.
  

The first reason can be thrown away as unlikely one. As for the second one – yes, it happens. But these are not the only possible reasons. Quite often behavior of a man depends not on sex itself (experienced men and women understand that the first sex act doesn’t always bring extravaganza). It depends on how much a woman talks. Yes, everybody knows that after sex girls can be really talkative. But there are situations when it’s better to keep silence.

So which phrases should not be said?

Is that all?

If woman is very sexy, man can have troubles with restricting his feelings. Especially he had no sex for a long time. But even everything was too quick, the phrase “it that’s all?” will give no further prospects.

If sex was too fast, the man will worry himself. Give him some time and he will find the way to give you pleasure. You can help by giving him a cue, letting improve the situation.

Forbidden phrases are also: “you are out of shape today”, “it was no good this time”, “why so quick” and etc. They are unacceptable not only after the first date, but if you are married for 15 years.

Men are very vulnerable, when their sexuality is criticized. Such phrases can give them fear, which will make them bad lover. And there are less men than women!

If you want long and happy relationship, just admire him. Even if this time was not good enough.

No, we don’t want you to tolerate bad sex: one should work at improving it and talk about problematic subjects. But the conversation shouldn’t be started after sex and it shouldn’t have critical mood. It should sound like a wish: dear, I would like this or that…

Come on! Don’t stop!

Demanding to continue after man had an orgasm means contradiction with his physiology. After rapture men can’t continue howsoever a woman asks for it. And in this situation woman’s perseverance causes irritation instead of erection.

Man needs to take some time, drink coffee or beer, take a shower and recover. During this time you can do something useful: take a shower, make coffee or sandwiches for both of you. And his power will be recovered much faster.

Did you like it?

Didn’t you notice it by his behavior, breath and sounds? Such question won’t raise positive emotions. And do you really want to know the answer? Maybe this time you were no good. Do you think you want to know an honest response?

Just be attentive to his behavior, facial expression and then you don’t have to ask stupid questions.

I am in hurry!

Jumping out of bed and running away just after sex can hurt anybody. Would you like it when your partner started putting on his clothes having just climaxed?

If you spent some time for sex, then try to find additional 10-15 minutes in your busy schedule just for lying together. These moments of intimacy are priceless for both, because exactly this can make new relationship possible.

You know, my ex…

It doesn’t matter if want to talk about ex-lovers in a negative or a positive way. Just remember: any reference about them must be forbidden. And even if you have strong associations or want to remember something funny or interesting, let’s settle it: not here and not now.

We need to talk

Well… after this phrase many of us just feel uneasy and we don’t’ expect anything good of this conversation… Do you really need to discuss your matter right now? Try to find time for it some other day. And now just enjoy the moment!

When will you call back?

Don’t put any pressure on him, it can cause opposite result of what you expect. Even if you want to get certainty and even if you fell in love, give him some time to think, to estimate the situation and to make a decision.

If he is interested in you, in our age of digital technologies he will find a way to contact with you. And no case, no trial.

Seems like quick sex demands neither rules nor preparations. But if you want to get pleasure instead of bunch of troubles, you’ll have to pay attention at some things. So here we go…

Rule one: choose place and surface correctly

Quicky rarely happens in bed. More often desire gets you when you’re out of your bedroom. Before you rush to each other, take a critical look around. Sex in a meadow looks romantic at first sight. But in real life you’ll get many problems like ants, mosquitoes, mites and other little insects. Not to mention roots and prickly cones.

Speaking about surfaces like tables, armchairs and washing machines, one must be sure that they are solid and safe. Check if your lovebed is reliable and doesn’t electrocute you. In short, try to estimate all risks and profits and make a right decision.

Rule two: quick sex must be safe too

Wherever you are, a condom must be with you. Unplanned pregnancy or a disease will surely spoil all pleasure you get.

Rule three: use a lubricant

If you think this rule is not important, you’re wrong. Quick sex demands fast actions, so there is not enough time for a prelude. Therefore girl stays dry. And it’s not gonna be pleasant for her (and for you).

You don’t want to carry a tube of a lubricant with you? Actually you don’t have to. One can buy a little one-time pack of a lubricant, it has the same size as the condom pack. Really easy as you see!

Rule four: napkins must be at hand

There may be no water in the place of your rendezvous. But you’ll need to freshen yourselves up. Sex is, as we know, an exchange of liquids that can drabble your clothes and attract attention of others with the smell. The easiest way to rid off trails of whirlwind love is a napkin.

Rule five: act fast

In bed you can spend as much time as possible for kisses, caress and orgasm retention. If you decided to make quick sex you should act as fast as possible. Until passers come, wasps bite you and something else happens that can spoil the joy.

Rule six: respect law and order

Laws of our country don’t forbid making sex in public places. But all in all the police can detain couples. And if children witness you, you’ll get serious troubles. Child abuse is really serious stuff! Especially you should be careful in foreign countries. Traditions and laws can be more strict than the Russian ones. Sex in public places can cause a serious fine and even a prison term. Read the laws of the state which you want to visit.

But if you decided to go Guadalahara (Mexico) you can take a risk: the law here doesn’t prohibit public place intercourse. Only in case if people around don’t complain about your actions. So try to make everything cool to get applauses instead of complains!

Rule seven: respect people around

Sex in airplane toilet is a great idea! But what if there are not many toilets and there are many passengers? To make others wait is inhuman! Besides it can damage somebody’s health by making them wait. You don’t want to become a reason of others’ problems, do you?

Rule eight: don’t do it when you’re drunk

When we are drunk we can do stupid things that we would never do when we are sober. So try to realize – having sex when you are drunk is not a good idea. Drunk people are those who forget about safety, contraception, make sex in dangerous places and get traumas and troubles with the law.

That’s all folks. As you see there’s nothing complicated: reasonable caution, minimal preparation and fast action, and it shall be given to you!

“It was my first serious relationship and the sex was great, but I was always careful and used a condom.”, says Janette.

“I get so frustrated when I hear my other girlfriends tell me that they don’t use condoms because their boyfriends don’t like it. When I ask them what’ll happen if they get pregnant, they’ll just shrug their shoulders and say ‘Bahala na’. They don’t want to use the pill because they’re afraid of its side effects and are wary about consulting a OB-GYN about it.”

One of the advantages of having a serious relationship at a later age was that Janette learned from the experience of her friends. She had seen too many friends who had pregnancy scares or worse, got pregnant suddenly all because she couldn’t convince her boyfriend to use condoms.

Janette swore to herself that she would be different.  She actually thought she was being smart about her sexual health having the condom talk with her boyfriend before they started having sex. She even had condoms in her “kikay kit” just in case she and her boyfriend needed a spare.

And then one day, their condom broke. “I actually didn’t notice. It was my boyfriend who thought he saw a hole and leak at the side of the condom after we had sex.”

Though they weren’t exactly sure that their condom broke, Janette wasn’t going to take any chances. “We had only been going out for a few months, I wasn’t going to ruin everything by getting knocked up.”

For all her sexual health savvy, Janette found herself at a loss. “I knew about the morning after pill because I had read about it in a  foreign magazine, but I also knew it was not available here.”

Janette’s friend referred her to  Likhaan, a women’s health clinic which specializes in providing reproductive health care services and counsel to women.

“Honestly, I didn’t know if they [Likhaan] could help me with my problem. My friend wasn’t sure either, but I thought I should give a try —  by then, I was desperate.”

“Of course I was nervous.”, confesses Janette. “Asking for help would be equal to admitting that I was sexually active. I was a bit uncomfortable with that because I was afraid that I was going to be reprimanded for having sex without being married.”

She called Likhaan and over the phone was given private counsel on emergency contraception.

“They asked me for my name, but also told me I had the prerogative not to give it. I told them that our condom broke and all they asked was when it happened. “  says Janette, recalling the experience.

“They proceeded to explain emergency contraception to me. I was so surprised at how easy and simple the whole procedure was.”

Dr.Junice Melgar, Executive Director of Likhaan tells SAS that emergency contraception, which essentially involves taking regular over-the-counter birth control pills in higher dosages 12 hours apart immediately after unprotected sex acts to prevent a pregnancy and is perfectly safe and legal.

“Like regular contraceptives, emergency contraceptives prevent fertilization and cannot end a pregnancy when the pregnancy has begun. It is information that everyone should have access to.”, says Melgar.

Emergency contraceptives may be taken five days after unprotected sex, but work best when taken immediately after.

As for their policy on client anonymity and privacy, Dr. Melgar says, “ It is not our [Likhaan’s] place to reprimand the women who come to us. Nor is it our right to punish or judge them for choices that they’ve made.  It is our simply our duty to help them.”

After calling Likhaan, Janette and her boyfriend bought the pills.

Janette had never been so happy or so relieved to get her period almost a week later.