Shainkeit

Time For A Change

2009-10-14T13:54:00.002-04:00

Since posting to this blog clearly hasn't been working very well (correction: the posting works great, it's the post writing that is the bottleneck) I've decided to try something new to help me stay of top of things. "What is it?" you ask that will make me post to this blog more often. Nothing.

That's because I'll be posting to a new blog. I'm happy to say that http://adailydoseofdavid.blogspot.com/ is up and running and that I have posted for two days in a row! My theory is that if I'm home every day with David, I should be able to post about one interesting thing that David or I does every day (weekday that is).

So check out the site and get your daily dose of David :)

What's in a Name?

2009-07-26T10:39:00.004-04:00

Several people ask for the explanation of David's name, that I read immediately following the brit. Here it is:

Our son, David Scott Shain, has the good fortune of being named for several people. He is named for my papa, David Weiner, who passed away in 2005; my grandpa, Samuel Shain, who passed away in 1992; and my grandma, Susan Shain, who passed away last October, during Sukkot. Scott is also a favorite name of Michelle’s grandma, Jean Smith, and the middle name of her uncle, Tom Smith. Tom never had children of his own, and we’re happy that his great-nephew will share his middle name (and with a little luck also his 6”4’ stature).

For David’s Hebrew name, we’ve chosen שִׂמְחָה דָוִד. דָוִד comes from the Hebrew root ד-ו-ד, which means “beloved.” It was my Papa’s Hebrew name and I would like to say a few words about my Papa at this time. He embodied the meaning of his Hebrew name as he was beloved by everyone he knew. I remember the extreme sense of loss I felt when he passed away. I was overcome with grief and I tried to understand why my sadness extended even beyond my deep sense of personal loss. Finally, I realized that at the root of this feeling was the fact that with his passing a force for good was gone from the world. Because that was what my Papa was. Good. Pure good. His heart was filled with the love of his family and the joy he felt at selflessly helping his family in every way possible was palpable. Whether it was walking the Ponkapog golf course collecting lost balls, singing songs in the kitchen or watching a Red Sox game, he wanted nothing more than to be with us and we returned this sentiment 100 fold. He never missed a family occasion, traveling frequently between his home in Florida, our house in Boston and my cousins in Chicago. My papa was a true mensch and while I can only hope that our little David will inherit my Papa’s love of helping others, I know that he will be just as beloved as my Papa was.

We chose the name שִׂמְחָה - the Hebrew word for joy or happiness– for David’s middle name because the name שִׂמְחָה begins with the same letter as my grandma’s Hebrew name, שׁוֹשַׁנָּה, and my grandpa’s Hebrew name, שְׁמוּאֵל.

During Sukkot, we often sing,
וְשָׂמַחְתָּ בְּחַגֶּךָ וְהָיִיתָ אַךְ שָׂמֵחַ

“You shall rejoice in your festival, and you shall have nothing but joy,” from דברים ט"ז, Deuteronomy 16. This past Sukkot, as my family mourned the loss of my grandma, we did not feel much joy. But a few weeks later, when Michelle and I found out that she was pregnant, we knew that joy had come to us from that difficult time. We also felt that this name was appropriate because my Grandma had a love of life that was infectious. Whether it was going out for ice cream or playing golf she enjoyed every minute of it. I will always cherish the memories I have of sitting with my grandma and grandpa learning how to play cards while eating chocolate covered graham crackers in their kitchen. Since the time I was born, my grandma always referred to me as adorable. Even towards the end of her life, as her memory began to fail, she would still call me adorable every time that she saw me. I know that somewhere she is looking down on this beautiful baby boy, who brings everyone around him such simcha, and can see just how adorable he is.

Weight Just A Minute

2009-07-23T13:37:00.003-04:00

I know that people are waiting for brit stuff, but first I want to write about something that strikes me as pretty surprising. As a newborn, doctors like to keep pretty close track over David's weight. He was born at 7lb 7oz and subsequently dropped to 6lb 12oz which is completely normal. If he had lost any more weight the doctors would have been concerned but by his next appointment, David was already up to 7lb 1oz.

Why do I share all of this information with you? Because today, a visiting nurse came to our house to weigh David and her scale said that he still weighed 7lb 1oz. The fact that David hadn't gained any weight in several days wasn't an emergency, but the nurse felt that we should see our pediatrician just in case. As you can imagine, this didn't give Michelle and I any warm and bubbly feelings. When we arrived at the doctor's office a nurse re-weighed David. Low and behold, David weighed 7lb 6oz.

As you can imagine, Michelle and I were pretty relieved. However, we were also slightly disturbed. In a situation where a couple of ounces can make a pretty big difference, not to mention guide a course of medical action, how can scales be that far off? Maybe they should include a margin of on these things and save us all a lot of worry.

David Scott Shain

2009-07-23T13:35:00.002-04:00

In case I forgot to mention.....

Our son has a name: David Scott Shain || דוד שמחה שיין

Pictures and thoughts on the Brit coming soon....

Nobody Mentioned That

2009-07-19T11:09:00.002-04:00

Babies should come with warning labels that read:

Caution: Caring for this baby may result in crystallized urine getting on your nose.

Not that anything like that happened to me....

Home

2009-07-17T16:59:00.005-04:00

We got home form the hospital yesterday and have been settling in with the help of friends and family. And by "settling in" I mean actually settling in, planning a Brit, planning a Shalom Zachar, going to the pediatrician and buying stuff that we probably should have bought beforehand. It's pretty much been a whirlwind and we are still learning how valuable naps are in the child-rearing process (both ours and his).

Some hospital pictures are now posted on facebook, but here are a few in case you missed them:

News! News! News!

2009-07-14T22:28:00.002-04:00

Extra extra, read all about it. Baby Boy Shain born today. Extra extra read all about it.

In a future blog post. For now I have to sleep.

Details and pictures to follow.

No News is....No News

2009-07-12T01:41:00.001-04:00

For those keeping track:

No baby yet. Due date is Monday so keep checking back for updates :)

Another Madoff Victim

2009-07-07T19:48:00.002-04:00

As the time before the baby grows short it's time to get my blogging muscles in shape.

And what better subject to address than that of the notorious Bernie Madoff. After he received a maximum sentence of 150 years the press has begun to turn its attention clients who could potentially asked to return "returns" that were in reality other people's money.

First off, let me say that I think asking people like Carl and Ruth Shapiro, who have lost over a half a billion dollars in the Madoff scandal and who are known for their generosity, to return money is silly. But if we are going to start asking people for money I would like to know why nobody has suggested that the IRS should return money to Madoff's victims. After all, the IRS collected money from victims on "gains" that didn't actualy exist, on income that Madoff didn't actually generate and on profits that Madoff's business did not actually earn. Maybe that would make more sense than asking people who have already lost millions to pay in a little more.

Moving On

2009-06-15T15:58:00.004-04:00

As the saying goes, "all good things must come to an end" and such is the case with our house-sitting arrangement in Newton. As many of you may know, Michelle and I are going to be renting an apartment next year in Sharon. It's a little farther away from work/school/friends in the Brookline area, but you get more bang for your buck in Sharon and the community has been extremely welcoming. The apartment is also conveniently only about 10 minutes from my parents house in Canton giving us easy access to both the swimming pool and babysitting help.

For those interested, our new address is:

63 Pond Street
Apartment #13
Sharon, Ma 02067

We'll get a new home phone number as well, but we aren't sure what it is yet. I'll let you know as soon as we hear.

As Innovative as a Rock

2009-05-20T08:43:00.005-04:00

In today's Boston Globe, Boston Mayor Menino was quotes as saying:
"We need different, more innovative tools to manage costs and diversify revenues at the local level"
In appreciation of a bill passed by the Massachusetts senate which allows cities and towns to increase the tax rate on hotel rooms and restaurant meals.

Having completed my first year of the MBA program at Babson I can confidently say that a tax increase may be a tool to increase revenue, but it's certainly not innovative (or creative for that matter).

Perhaps somebody should tell that to the Massachusetts state legislature (who voted to raise the sales tax 1.25% and lifted the sales tax exemption on alcohol).

Ask and Ye Shall Receive

2009-04-21T14:09:00.005-04:00

I'm in the process of writing a report at work, and in order to do the literature review, I needed 8 books from the library. I had asked this morning if any undergraduate research assistants were available to get them for me, but as of 2:00 this afternoon, no undergraduates had materialized. Then, just as I was whining to my office-mates that I was too pregnant to schlepp 8 books by myself, an undergraduate walked in the door and said, "Hi! I heard you wanted someone to go to the library for you."

It was awesome.

I Could Be Governor

2009-04-20T20:27:00.005-04:00

In case you couldn't tell from the picture below (the one outside of Grauman's Chinese Theater) I am contrasting the size of Arnold Schwarzenegger's hands and feet. If you look closely you can notice that his hands are a good deal larget than mine (no surprise there) but his feet match up with my size 8.5's!

Next Year in...Hollywood?

2009-04-19T13:48:00.003-04:00

Adam and I went to Los Angeles for the first half of Passover this year. We had a lovely time staying with our good friends Suzanne and Marcus in Pico-Robertson, L.A.'s most Jewish neighborhood. And we managed to fit in a little touring amongst all the holiday and Shabbat festivities.

At the La Brea Tar Pits, with friends Mike and Yael from Jerusalem, who were also enjoying Passover in L.A.:

Resting with Mickey Mouse on Hollywood Boulevard:

Outside Grauman's Chinese Theater:

I would like to put in a good word for Shilo's kosher steakhouse, where we had a really excellent dinner last Saturday night. Why can't Boston have a kosher steakhouse like that?

Twitter What?

2009-04-17T11:31:00.003-04:00

Many of you may have noticed that most of the recent posting on this site has come courtesy of Michelle. Ok, maybe that's been true for a long long time. But in the last month or two, my inactivity on the blog hasn't meant that I'm not posting anything online. Where, you may ask, am I posting then? To my twitter account of course.

I've been aware of twitter for several years, but only recently decided to join up. From now on, if you want to know what's going on in my day-to-day life you can either follow me on twitter, or check the new box in the top right of this blog. It will always show my last 5 posts. You can also see a longer history of my "tweets" by visiting www.twitter.com/adamshain (you don't need to sign up).

Enjoy!

Plans Take Shape

2009-04-04T20:50:00.004-04:00

Pregnancy brings with it many surprises, among them the infamous "nesting instinct," which can kick in as early as the fifth month of pregnancy. The nesting instinct motivates expectant mothers to clean and organize their homes in preparation for the baby. It can be funny to watch this instinct at work -- I remember one of my friends dusting high shelves like a maniac when she was close to delivery.

For someone like me, already slightly compulsive about neatness and organization, it's difficult to tell whether I am experiencing this nesting instinct or just my usual drive to bring order to the chaos. But I've definitely been feeling wholly, irrationally unsettled about the fact that Adam and I didn't know where we would be living next year. So I'm happy to report that we finally have an answer!

We will be staying with Adam's parents for ten weeks this summer while the family for whom we're house-sitting is back in their house; but they will be returning to India, and we will be returning to their house, in August. So I won't have a nursery where I can stencil ducks onto the walls, but as people keep reminding me, the baby won't care about that. And I feel much better having everything settled, with actual moving dates. Hooray for house-sitting!

I love craigslist!

2009-03-29T18:22:00.000-04:00

Adam and I bought a crib today!

We found it on craigslist. A single-child family in Winchester bought it several years ago at Boston Baby (now defunct) and kept it in beautiful condition. It's a sleigh crib by Pali, a higher-end baby furniture manufacturer that we would never have considered at retail prices. Solid hardwood with a lovely cherry finish. The best part? The crib, plus a good crib mattress by Colgate, cost us less than half of what they would have cost new!

Double Trouble

2009-03-29T10:31:00.001-04:00

I threw my first baby shower last Sunday, for my good friend Lauren, who is exactly 10 weeks further along in her pregnancy than I. I did a bunny theme, with bunny ears, bunny prizes and carrot cake. We played silly baby shower games, like "Celebrity Baby Names" and "Nursery Rhyme-Down", and we ooh-ed and ahh-ed over the cute baby gifts.

It was lots of fun, although there's a part of me that can't quite believe we've reached a place where maternity leave policies, life insurance and the relative benefits of cloth versus disposable diapers are normal topics of conversation.

Baby Bump

2009-03-18T18:08:00.002-04:00

Conventional wisdom holds that you should never assume a woman is pregnant based on her body shape. After all, if you comment on a non-existent pregnancy, you could really insult someone. But over the past few weeks, strangers have started asking about my baby. And since it's so obvious, I thought I would post a photo of the bump for all of you who don't see me regularly!

"Very Superstitious"

2009-03-11T18:22:00.003-04:00

Now that I'm in my 22nd week of pregnancy, I've been thinking a lot about superstitions. In the Jewish community, superstitions about pregnancy and babies abound. Most couples keep the news that they're expecting private until at least the end of the first trimester. When they do finally go public, the traditional response is the Hebrew phrase "B'Shaah Tovah," which means "in good time." You're not supposed to say congratulations or mazel tov over a pregnancy -- it's tempting fate.

Lots of people also avoid buying things for the baby before he or she is born. Some couples will bend to expediency and buy a few necessities, like a car seat and some diapers, while other couples literally buy nothing, sending family and friends running to the stores after the delivery. Baby showers are generally avoided. Jews of Eastern European descent won't name the baby after a living relative, lest the angel of death become confused and take the baby when he comes for the older person. For months, my mother-in-law's favorite phrase has been "Kain ein horeh,"which is Yiddish for "No evil eye." Her mother says it, too.

It all traces back to medieval European Jewish folk traditions, most of which were frowned upon by the rabbis and scholars of mainstream Judaism, but which nevertheless survived. These traditions involved angels, demons and other spirits, and people invented ways to protect themselves from the demons and evil spirits. Remember the spitting in Fiddler on the Roof? Warding off the evil eye.

I have to say, after a few months of intense exposure to this stuff, I've come to have a bad opinion of it. It was really hard for me to keep my pregnancy a secret from most people during the first trimester -- I was going through a lot, and it was lonely keeping it to myself. And as someone who prepares for change by gathering lots of information and generally being prepared for eventualities, I really feel the need to buy baby gear before the baby comes.

Maybe the whole superstition thing has to be ingrained early in life. I don't know, but I am officially rejecting all of it. (Kain ein horeh.)

Purim 5769

2009-03-10T20:23:00.001-04:00

Last year, Adam and I were on vacation for Purim. We spent the day walking around in the warm Jerusalem sun, delivering mishloach manot to our friends. This year, Purim was a regular work day for me and, even worse, an exam day for Adam. But we still managed to have some fun. A few highlights:

Purim night with the Washington Square Minyan. We dressed up as Antony and Cleopatra. (Cleopatra had two children with Marc Antony, so the pregnancy bulge did not spoil the costume!)

Daytime megillah reading with the Newton Centre Minyan before work. Don't ask me what time I woke up.
Matanot l'evyonim through Yad Chessed, an amazing local organization that runs a Purim program where needy families in the community get certificates to the Butcherie (a kosher grocery store in Brookline). Thanks to Brandeis Hillel for organizing this!
Mishloach manot put together with items from BJ's, the wholesale club of the east coast. Wouldn't it be great if Israel had BJ's? 24 perfect little packs of peanuts for under $10! It's amazing!
Seudah (festive meal) with Meg and Eli and Taam China, the finest kosher Chinese food in Boston!

It's a Boy!

2009-02-23T17:13:00.002-05:00

Adam and I had our "Level II Ultrasound"/"Fetal Survey" today. Below is a picture of our structurally perfect SON! Who, apparently, sucks his thumb.

What Do You Think?

2009-02-20T14:05:00.002-05:00

Things have been busy of late. School. Work. Other non-blogging obligations. But stay tuned, because soon we'll have some really blog-worthy news. At least if you think the gender of our unborn child is news-worthy.

That's right. We should hopefully know boy or girl on Monday!

So this is your last opportunity to make a prediction. What do you think - Girl or Boy?

Quickening

2009-02-09T19:20:00.004-05:00

I can feel my baby moving around! It started this weekend and continued today. It took me several times feeling that popping/fluttering sensation to become convinced, but now I'm sure it's the baby. It seems to happen if I'm sitting still, and it is the most amazing feeling in the world!

Not-So-Relaxing Sleep

2009-02-09T19:11:00.002-05:00

My pregnancy book, Sears Parenting Library's The Pregnancy Book, told me that pregnant women spend more time in REM sleep and consequently are more likely to dream and more likely to wake up and remember the dreams. I've found this to be very true. The night before last, I had an incredibly vivid dream in which Sasha and Malia Obama had been kidnapped, and I couldn't locate them, although locating them seemed to be my job.

A few days before that, I woke up at 5:30 in the morning having dreamed that I had taken my baby to services on a Shabbat morning and put him (yes, we had a boy in the dream) in a baby playground swing. Then I went inside for services, totally forgetting about the baby until several hours later, when I was ready to walk to lunch. In the dream, I panicked as I remembered the baby and rushed toward the baby swing. I could see that his little body was there in its little blue sleeper, but before I could tell if he was okay, I woke up screaming.

Did any other women out there have unusually vivid dreams while pregnant?