SHARE MY SHOULDER FRIEND

2012-01-07T14:50:00.000-08:00

As Carlos Drummond de Andrade - "No one is equal to one. Every human being is an odd stranger."

J: Mom, Joe has problems in his head?
Mother: No. ..
J: And I ...????
Mother: You did not!?
J: S. said I had problems in the head ...
Mother: The only problem you have in mind, is to be in love with B. !!!:)
J: Oh ... that's it!

♥ ♥ ♥

Happiness

2012-01-07T14:48:00.000-08:00

In the morning:
Mother, it's so nice to wake up happy in your house! :)
♥ ♥ ♥

Why evaluate? In order to evaluate? What to evaluate? How do you measure?

2011-11-23T10:05:00.000-08:00

I do not know whether to cry for the fall ... I do not know whether to laugh confrontalidade and the reality of things.

"The beginning of the academic year is always difficult to J. it has to do a re-adaptation to the school context. In the area of personal interactions is stable, with the exception of the relationship with Mr E. In the presence of which continues to manifest behaviors and excessive of imitation. receptivity to learning is irregular it is not always available or because the attention is dispersed or because he is apathetic. continues to denote great difficulty in abstract thinking mainly in terms of mathematical calculations. The acquisition of technical read / write is to be slow ... should be noted that this child has not benefited from or postponement of compulsory school retention, noting a greater lag ns skills to grade. "

Why evaluate? In order to evaluate? What to evaluate? How do you measure?

I understand that evaluation is essential to diagnose and describe the child according to age and its evolution within the activities and abilities in the classroom.

Central to this process is the teacher. And it's important for us parents to have a sense of their social growth, and individual engine. This assessment will allow work with the child in order to enhance the skills that are not as well mastered.

It is not easy to assess, especially children with special educational needs. I think at this point is that teachers put their skills to the test as a bridge to knowledge. But we have to consider an issue - children with special educational needs have their limitations and should only be evaluated within its means! Do not follow the pace of the class and therefore should not be compared, but have their individual appraisal.

Do not forget to have the same rights and there is a commitment to prepare them as best as possible for independent living and quality. They need to be independent and also prepared for the labor market, but it must be done carefully so as not to draw very high goals that can lead to frustration.

In our last query development, left to reflect all these points.

I love the expression of Dr IP - development that says:

- Do you have difficulty in math? Do not know how to add? Can not count the times tables together with the class? - That's what calculators are!

The most important is what you can learn and value the acquisition of this knowledge. Assess the learning situations that were offered and how they were used. Since then plan other activities that enrich and promote new achievements from what has been learned.

All this work has to be together with everyone to not be hindered in the learning process. And only with this work together you can achieve success in learning.

CONCLUSION:
Valuing the achievements!

Creativity without limits

2011-07-18T16:48:00.000-07:00

After undoing half - nothing more fun to start pulling on the line - and do not see the end! Left half of exit and there is now a roll of wire, all embarrassed.
Well, if there were socks, let's go throw it all away.
But after the game had only just begun!
He picked up the wires, made some 'balls' and put in the ears.
- Mother, look at me! Now I am Frankenstein!
I wanted to sleep that way, which is obviously not allowed.
- OK Mom, I'll save and go to school tomorrow Frankenstein!

Life Lesson:
"Make every moment of our life is beautiful. The least gesture is a reminder future!" by Claude Aveline

Inclusion: We will build a bridge

2011-07-18T16:40:00.000-07:00

I was given the opportunity to participate in a unique and innovative project for me. To participate, promote and pass a message to colleagues at the J. school so attractive theme INCLUSION. The idea came immediately, but soon led me to reflect on the importance of this issue and how the future can indeed be reflected in the formation of a less selfish, less self-centered and more tolerant.

Above all, we think that our children see and understand what surrounds them differently and that not only have to adapt and respond to different teaching situations that they face daily. Every day is a process of mutual learning and enriching, because we also parents, children and professionals, learn to see the world differently. The family and school are the social dimensions with their own requirements with which our children have difficulty in coping adequately, because the basic skills to do it are changed. In relations with other children, especially in school, Raising awareness is important for their peculiarities so that they can learn to accept difference.

INTEGRATION: "1% of cooperation is more than 100% of compassion"
Integration is to enable people with 'disadvantages' can live as active members of their community, with rights and duties - to get each member of the community accept individual differences as inherent to human beings - is a basic condition for promoting the integration . The respect for 'diversity' is crucial. Recognition of the differences between people enrich any community.

WE ALL TOGETHER TO BUILD A BRIDGE
Children with special needs require a bridge to transit, since they are isolated from the world. Only his parents and a group of people can build it. An integrated school benefits not only children integrated, but also the entire educational community. The awareness of society face the fact that integration and accept these differences, building a room for ALL bridge in which there is a strong and secure in a solid foundation.

Strategies? Working in the classroom of education, together these 'concepts'.
We can avoid marginalization, giving opportunity to all children with special needs the ability to integrate into a center of education

The arguments in favor of inclusive education are not only educational. There are serious social and moral level are given. Integrated education can lay the groundwork for a more open society, to which all people and in which one is 'different' is accepted and valued as part of humanity. The inclusion in society of individuals 'different' begins with an acceptance of the first forms of socialization - SCHOOL. The inclusion allows students without special needs the opportunity to share with children with SEN in one or another way and learn to accept and respect these differences. On the other hand, children with SEN have the opportunity to become a part of the school community and get an idea of 'realistic' about the multifaceted and competitive society in which they live. It will strengthen them so that they can participate more fully in a society as adults.

Inclusion of children with SEN is a double process: preparing the child with SEN to become full part of society, while the company prepares to receive them.

2011-04-03T13:28:00.000-07:00

"I do not know if what I like about you is what differentiates you from meor what we have in common. Like it or not, I am pleased by two things. What is common comforts me, what is different Stimulates me ... "- JoanManuel Serrat

Kids 'different' are not inferior, though still seen as inappropriate and there is a tendency to be isolated by their families. But the family has a member with disabilities do not have to differentiate themselves from families who do not.

Autism Diagnosis

2011-04-03T13:21:00.001-07:00

I learned a surreal situation. Do not quite know the truth and whatis happening contours, but a doctor to diagnose a child who istelling the Autism Spectrum, when in reality is Autism Severus ...(???): little reason for this explanation exists to do for this childand the parents are not ready for the real diagnosis.

Do not know if it is possible that this is happening today, but it is true, I am outraged!

It never hurts to be worked out, these boys are a box of surprise!
I still remember in the early diagnosis of J. unable to get concrete answers, but I wanted answers and results! Never any doctor told me there was nothing to do! Simply, it was not possible to know!

Measures of 'treatment' undergo a long way!

They are intense and comprehensive programs that involve children, families and professionals, as indicated start as soon as possible.
Intervention programs to address the major symptoms in the social, communication and cognitive core symptoms of autism. The goals of treatment programs are plotted according to the difficulties and abilities of the child being taken into account the stage of development it presents itself. Generally, the behavioral intervention, speech therapy, occupational and psycho-pedagogical part of the program.

The methods of intervention are many and applied according to each child, but are applied. Nobody gives up a child, whatever their diagnosis!

* Applied Behavior Analysis - the well-known for short ABA - preparing the child to be in different environments with different people, social inclusion, educational and professional
* Training and Education of Children with Autism and Other Related Problems of Communication - shortening, known as the TEACCH - helps draw cognitive and behavioral strategies for the child to acquire skills. And fool yourself if you think it is a technique used only by teachers. Also you can use at home and work! Allows the child to organize and structure itself, through repetition and insistence. Work, work, work.
* Exchange Communication System of Figures - our friends PECS (Picture Exchange Communication System) - enables the child to communicate through cards with pictures. Again, you use at school, at home and even on the street. There are bags of transportation, a ribbon around his neck, a dossier, there are many way to be used, according to children's needs and its degree. Through these cards the child, with the help of all (!!!) begins to build your vocabulary and express their desires.
* Speech Therapy - not just for those who can not speak, although they may speak but have difficulty understanding and difficulty communicating. The main objective is the child learn to communicate in a useful and functional, is the area of spoken language, either by signs or gestures.
* Occupational Therapy - to make the child as independent as possible, adding a cognitive, physical and motor. You can go from learning to play, something as basic as the daily life of how to dress, eat or go to the bathroom. As part of the social, fine motor and visual perception.
* Physical Therapy - motor difficulties when there is a reason to have physiotherapy. But not only. May be to address the lack of muscle tone, balance and coordination.
* Monitoring of psychology - in order to develop learning techniques that facilitate such learning and primarily find their potential and develop that potential.

And someone said there was nothing to do for this child because the parents are not prepared?

A severe autism may never acquire linguistic communication (never come to speak), but can work seamlessly with a computer ... And we continue to say that there is nothing to do for this child, because parents are unprepared for the diagnosis?

"The light is only avoided by beetles, thieves and ignorant."
Paolo Mantegazza

Love

2011-04-03T13:17:00.000-07:00

"It's easier to move children our passions our understanding." (Baron de Montesquieu) - do it daily! Retribuida'm the best that can exist! delivery of their innocent caresses.
Wonderful! ♥ ♥ ♥

I'm autistic ... and what is your power? :)

2011-04-03T13:14:00.000-07:00

Living with autism

Many children with autism will grow slightly and be able to live their lives in an almost autonomous. But those with autism deeper will always need help. But let's not forget that all autistic children can have a happy life if they have the support and love from parents, siblings, family, doctors, teachers and peers.
Autistic children as all children are different in behavior and abilities. All children with autism have different symptoms, making it difficult to diagnose autism. A symptom may be easy to see a child and not see another.

On April 2 marks the World Day for Autism Awareness. The date established by the UN in 2007, aims to be a milestone in raising awareness and honoring all people and their families who live this everyday reality, often experiencing many difficulties and discrimination.

Sharing

2011-03-08T12:29:00.000-08:00

I share what I have shared with me. There are people in this profession for the love and dedication. So I leave here the words of Prof. J. shared with me. A THANK YOU is not enough!

"Our John is increasingly growing. Today I fell behind a little because I caught an accident C.O. (where I live) and John went to the same alone. Plays the morning walks with colleagues andalways very happy at recess. Yesterday I prepared a statement for him this afternoon to do alone, and went very well. I've also gives all the messages perfectly. I feel the happiest, and therefore wanted to share with you."

For all these reasons that we have reached and where we are going far beyond that! It is very caring and dedication of all that makes us get here.

Anthill

2011-03-04T16:04:00.000-08:00

Comment: Wait John, the mother is tingling!
After a few seconds, the feeling passes. John asks:
- It's past the nest?
- Yes! - tell her
- Ah! Ants in bed is not!

Query Development 2011

2011-02-10T06:58:00.000-08:00

February 4, Query Development

And here I am again talking about a subject that I know will raise controversy.

Ritalin

And there I went again to search the internet to know more information, more news ... but the controversies remain the same, and we really do have to examine each case every child, every diagnosis, and visualize us that no decision is taken lightly.

The decision was not taken from one day to another. And who follows this blog knows that I took over a year to accept the verdict of doctors. And doctors say, because they will never allow myself to own and J. made a diagnosis that is precipitated. Diagnoses were made in various contexts: family, school and outside school. But there were several symptoms that persisted and increased.

J. is accompanied by a multidisciplinary team fantastic, as they have said in other post's, ranging from pediatricians, child psychiatrist, psychologist, neurologist, and technical development of special education. And it was on gathering all the information provided by me and this team could once again reach the conclusion that was reached (with much sadness in my heart, with much frustration within ...) - INCREASED DOSE OF Ritalin

Before I raise the issue if not I think of side effects in the short and long term, or if I am to despise? ... I think my sadness and frustration answers that question.

But through the most painful, we realize all that your diagnosis is not an exaggeration, is not to be excessive, given the positive effects it has on J.

I'm in good conscience, which were made all appropriate diagnoses, which was raised all the necessary information in various contexts, there is no margin for error in diagnosis. Because for me it was very important to make sure it was not necessary and we could overcome all these difficulties without Ritalin. It was not only based on information supplied to me, however ...
Is not a first-line intervention. J. since diagnosis has behavioral therapies, which might have helped to 'manage' their hyperactive behavior, but unfortunately, although the hold, have not had the desired effect. And we're not talking about 6 months or 1 year. Already from the beginning to make the diagnosis!

Unfortunately, also the diagnosis J. Not only is attention deficit / overactivity. We are talking about a boy who has since the beginning and primary diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders.

There is controversy because there is indiscriminate prescription or not, I can agree with some situations, but we must understand that it is applicable to all! In J. the positive effects have been visible at the academic level and emotional balance. But this time, perhaps due to its growth, now goes to 8 years (!!!) the dose is not having any effect whatsoever. As a symptomatic treatment, has no curative effect (unfortunately), the action on the brain lasts only while the pill takes effect, this is not happening. Even after pill, J. remains unstable, restless, impatient ... is not to resolve or alleviate the symptoms characteristic of this diagnosis. As such, we are not able to increase their quality of life.

Controversy, polemics, but the truth is that dealing with this 'problem' is a daily dilemma! At this time the side effects are a lesser evil compared to what we have without the medication. I'm talking about school life and relational J. which is being ravaged by the lack of effect of the drug at this time.

Previously, J. did not take the end-to-week, nor in time of vacation, but even being a bit of chaos all around us (J, I and family), we could overcome! Right now, at least temporarily, is no longer possible also to give 'the medicine at the weekend. With a lower dose than during the school week, but this time is critical to your own emotional balance and its back to take the medication. Of course I do not see this solution with good eyes, but I can not ignore the good that did when he had the right dose, given its weight and age at the time.

There are associations and movements that were born to fight or defend the use or not use this medication.
'Save your children, DO NOT GIVE THEM Ritalin'- respect this opinion, this attitude, but do not point your finger, please!

http://www.ritalindeath.com/
http://forum.casa-indigo.com/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=455

J., as well as other children, school success can only (and not talking about big hits !!!!) - J. 8 years and have not read or write ... is not abstract notions of reality and various school subjects! - Without Ritalin J. simply can not be attentive, concentrate in the classroom .. and this time not in an activity on your taste - as simple as going to the movies! Worship and concentration we could, even without Ritalin, and now ... even something as simple as going to the movies is possible!

Before, I felt lost when researching on the subject. Today I feel that my experience as a mother, it allows me to feel calm in the decision. Frustrated and sad because he could not help J. by myself! But I have to accept it, because everything is very complex but it is a reality!

Continue with the therapy, but unfortunately they, too, by itself, is no longer the solution!

I wish I could be here to report that J. is simply a passing phase for their age, or is simply an ill-bred child. Long wanted to believe it! ... but it is not our reality.

If I do not trust the multidisciplinary team around the J, in which I believe included a neurologist, with as much knowledge as Dr. José Carlos Ferreira ... I trust what or whom? - Well, I'll answer this rhetorical question: TRUST IN ME AS A MOTHER!

NOTE: risperidone also had to be increased ...

What good man to produce more and more, is not known to share what it produces?

2011-01-21T05:24:00.000-08:00

If you offered me all the wisdom of the world with the condition to keep it to myself, without communicating to anyone, I did not want.

Mathematical form

2011-01-21T03:21:00.001-08:00

DOWNLOAD
Slowly, engaging and fun, I decided to try to 'untangle' the math.

What we get now in the child
- A structure of thought
- Perform functions in everyday life
- Future Learning

Difference

2011-01-16T11:28:00.000-08:00

Deal with Autism every day is learning to live every day with a difference and try to reach the conscience of the world. ♥ ♥ ♥

Learning Math

2011-01-16T11:24:00.000-08:00

Learning Math - see the movie

Human development is very rich and diversified. Each child has their own characteristics, which distinguish them from others and its own pace of development that we must respect - I learned to do it.
What makes life worth it is this constant uncertainty about the next moment, that's what encourages us to invent, create, perform, trying to improve our world.
If they see the first films in this blog post, be able to see this development, it's very own John .. is what gives me strength to continue the fight!

Dance with D'Zrt

2011-01-10T15:44:00.000-08:00

Have you noticed that we do when we receive a gift that both wanted, or our club scores a goal, or we received news that makes us very happy? We jumped for joy, right? We do this because we are obeying an internal rhythm, our body moves to express that feeling.

Thus arose the dance: the need for man to lay out their emotions. Before trying to communicate with words, people have expressed themselves with bodily movements. So, dance is considered the oldest of the arts, and perhaps also the most complete, because who dance at the same time create a movement and expressed through the body.

An art that reveals all sorts of emotion without a single word ... ♥ ♥ ♥

The Neverending Story II - Top

2010-12-18T15:16:00.000-08:00

Be different - a minority that continues to confront the insensitivity of most "normal"

Write ultimately make life less burdensome. It's like going a little bit of weight they carry on their shoulders for all the people who read, or simply in the white pages, which are to be met. It seems that everything becomes lighter.

I want my testimony has never lost its roots, which are fundamental in my writing: to inform and enhance the positive side of life.

I liked that charming, that is emotional and that inspire with my words. I hope one more beautiful, more modern and more enlightening. I hope you are ready to have new experiences, sharing, feelings, emotions ...

It's my way of thanking the greatest gift I give: that side feel and be prepared to face the DIFFERENCE!

In the beginning was an idea. Once the idea gained name - SHARE MY SHOULDER FRIEND - then began to take shape. Always with a longing to make a difference. Create a blog, really made think about the real needs. Had the ambition to create a different blog, without taboos, who spoke on the theme that is part of the universe of many mothers, who want more for their children. The goal that I made seemed audacious - be different and make a difference. Dreamer! Maybe ... but what is life without dreams? What this meant time spent is difficult to translate the few lines that I intend to write here.

Many had stories to tell, but, essentially, to me showed me that this side had many real mothers and professionals wanting to share this dream and this idea. And that helped me shape it with your reading and the feedback they were giving me. And it's you that I want to thank this time. I promise that from now on I intend to get more special posts to you. Expect to spend the next few days trying to do my best to surprise you and, in my own way, make Portugal more caring and sensitive.

It is a sharing of emotions and feelings through a simple form. A blog of passion and friendship. I hope it's a blog of ideas. Ideas that make this space a welcoming place where people feel good. What is light, engaging and infectious.

THANKS TO ALL THOSE WHO HAVE FOLLOWED ME IN THIS ADVENTURE!

New online to download GAMES and PECS

2008-08-25T05:44:00.000-07:00

Finally I manage to get the games available for download!
With the help of a friend Luis Relvas - Trainer through Educational Games will have to download them.

I am very happy because actually, the requests are many and I have had the capacity to respond. For the reasons easy to understand? Many times I made the attempt to make the sending of games, and some because of its size, is returned.

In any case, always have my contact spaco@sapo.pt - Questions, sharing, which need!
As far as possible, I do not mind to customize the games, according to the needs of each.

All this was born of a need own, and therefore have an enormous pleasure to share.

Initially, the games available are without sound.
Over time will be improved.
Where there is this update, I notice that in their blog.

In this space will be recorded my experience, I find relevant and important in the evolution of John

The PECS also be made available in another page, more organized and therefore easier to find.

A hug to all.

PECS

2008-08-25T05:37:00.000-07:00

It is not my intention here to be with theories. There are many sites with all this information. More difficult is to material, mainly free.
Again, I say, my intention is to share everything we have and that is useful for others as it has been for me.

Who has a child with autism, knows that the PECS are of extreme importance. Both the level of communication and of organization.

The John uses the PECS both in therapy, at school and at home.
For John that already uses the language, the PECS essentially help in the organization.
They are attractive, fun and help reduce their anxiety. The key to your balance.

Who is also very like Jose! What now also starts to use the PECS to put some order into their routines.

The PECS, with imagination are very easy to make and use.
I always with colors, because they are more attractive.

PECS - see for download

TEACHING MATERIAL - Games

2008-08-25T05:30:00.000-07:00

I want to make available the games to download, but do not know of a free way :o((
As such, I will provide the images and make available to my mail, for those who are interested, I can send the complete game.

All games are with sound, many images, colors and movement.
Only must have PowerPoint installed.

I am not the best mother in the world, but I am the best mother I know!

And as the discovery encountered immense material available to help mothers with children as John, I want to contribute the same way.

What can I say about the games?
In the case of John the results are visible!
In such a short time a very large developments.

He is very interested in the computer games, and all other activities that do for him on paper.
Is it because the mother to do?
I think not ... I think it is because it allows a more direct contact with the mother and those he likes. With much praise by half, strengthen our ties, our relationship parent / child.

The results?
The best possible ....

I hope the same happens with you!

Note that all these games are not just for special children!
They are targeted for CHILDREN! Only this ... CHILDREN!

So, as promised here.

The sending of the games is done by mail.
Request for: spaco@sapo.pt

WITHOUT ANY COST!
... something difficult in most visited sites that ...

Adult Autistic

2008-08-16T17:48:00.001-07:00

I see the film ... Not because we thought that learn something, or you think you could apply in Jonh ... But the truth is that when I talk with people, I see only one concern - Autistic children! But autistic children grow! Where are these children? Where is the adult autistic? ...

And here yes ... encountered me with a reality ... Autistic they continue ...

Snow Cake - Trailer

Director Marc Evans
Actors Alan Rickman, Sigourney Weaver, Carrie-Anne Moss, Emily Hampshire
United Kingdom, Canada - Drama

History of love and friendship that has been nominated to Golden Bear of the Berlin Film Festival last year.

Elsewhere in winter in Ontario, Alex (Alan Rickman) has decided, with some resistance, to lift the young and energetic Vivienne (Emily Hampshire), not imagining that the world will turn it from the inside. During that fateful trip, suffer a terrible accident, car and Vivienne is instant death. Alex visit Vivienne's mother, Linda (Sigourney Weaver), and discovers that she is autistic. Despite understand what happened, Linda does not show any emotion. But little by little, Alex begins to understand and feel affection for Linda, but as the funeral of Vivienne is approaching the dark secrets of the past by Alex come to the surface. With the help and understanding of seductive Maggie (Carrie-Anne Moss), and the vision of Linda in the world, he can reconcile itself with its past and eliminate the sadness that had within it.

This was the film's opening 56. Of the Berlin Film Festival and is a fascinating story of love and friendship, although not very conventional, based on excellent interpretations, including Alan Rickman deserves emphasis.

INTRODUCTION

2008-08-16T16:42:00.000-07:00

I will not write about what is autism. Much information exists in this world of computers.

I will not describe how it all happened ... My great ambition is to share what we live with this boy and a daily struggle against prejudice, the difficulties and how in the end, with hope and hard work, leaving winners of this battle.

Today I find myself to read "Autistic, who ...? I?" - of Ana Martins.

I had to stop after reading the first 5 pages ... those words ... I seem to write! It was I who wrote this? No... was a mother with an equal to my boy!

How do I identify in this book.

By the way says the colors.
- What color is strawberry?
- Of Benfica!
- What color is Benfica?
- Benfica is called Red!

Porto is called Blue.
Sporting is called Green.

Eye for the John and I have both pride in it!
What he was and what it is ...

The diagnosis: Delay in Development of Autism Spectrum with only spent 6 months ... but I can say that there is a before and after!

They say that John is a good boy to be working.
Speech and already looks in the eyes when asked.
Already playing to make account!

Risperdal and therapy in APPDA-Lisbon, with Ana

I have days that I do not feel so proud, so happy ... When John has its crisis is desperate. I feel powerless. But time passes and we learning with each other how best to be felt well in this World ...

I must admit that the balance is positive.
When I see a smile.
When I hear a phrase more elaborate.
When I hear a word that perfectly ...
When I feel an argument ...

The John is being pulled this World and is able to integrate themselves in a positive way.

I feel that John is becoming a happy child!

And feeling that he is happy, I contribute to a better harmony in the home the three of us: myself, and John, Jose.

The more I know this issue, the more I am informed about this problem, I am most distressed.
I realise major problem and I am afraid.
I feel that now I became a mother-hen. Something that I have never been so far! I only protect the John of everything and everyone.
From all that surrounds and may pose a danger and all that it can cause malaise.
When I did not do in suffering ... It causes malaise which is around me. This to be back with him. Even the feel secure. And that safety always going to be next to me, because I know what you think, what they feel and what I do!

It is a great confusion of feelings!

At school the John is to integrate well. The school is making a huge effort for the integrated John feels the best.
All the therapy made in APPDA is being extended to school and at home ... And that is already bearing fruit!
Parents corner of the John are not informed about the situation. But I have not had any problem with them. The friends of the school realize that the boy John is a different, and are always to protect it. This will not create a bad environment in the room. Its difficult to concentrate destabilise is that the work of the room, which means often end up destabilising the work of other friends and educator.

But the effort, patience and dedication of all is in sight ... Just look at the John ..
I hope that with time all these signals decrease in intensity and John can go forward.

As John so small, yet I am hopeful that everything not pass a wrong diagnosis ... How can I explain what I write? What all this work being done with John, it can leave this diagnosis and that can be independent in its minimally emocial and social life.
I know that I have a vision for the very front, you can not have with these children.

Each day is one day, each step is a step ...
But I can not lose this hope.
While I have this hope, I have strength for this fight. A fight in which I know I am not alone, but the "characters" are the main John, Jose and me.

Often I am alone this fight ... I am without ground!
But do not miss the strength!
I NOT QUIT!

... ...

But in the end is very gratifying to see developments, see the differences and essentially live and feel the moments and emotions, only that these children can give us, forward, to see, feel and live!

If on the one hand, is when the crisis, shows the whole turn of aggressiveness on the other hand, can give us a disinterested and true love, able to make me smile, even when my great wish is crying.

Often stop by me and I think that is a privilege for me and to Jose, have a boy as John in our lives.

Since John began to therapy and taking medication, the very relationship with brother has changed! If it was not possible before the address Jose him off, because a simple gesture of Jose was able to place John in the state of your biggest irritation, now the Jose became a model for imitation for John.

And if on the one hand I am happy with that, VERY HAPPY, on the other hand, give me the angry by the two forming the nonsense. The Jose serves as a model for both for John and for evil! It is very funny ... Very funny ...

See John playing the ball with his brother:
- Moves the ball to me!
See it in a special boy as John .. It is an achievement!

It is amazing how these experiences in our life make us give importance to small things.
In a simple phrase that perfectly, a simple Thank you correct the situation, a simple kick the ball, ask to make a race, play the hidden, is able to make me feel the best mother in the world and that I am able to fulfil my mission.

As it is worth continuing, because I am rewarded in the best way I can be ...

...

When the diagnosis was made by John .. is collapsed around me.
I felt an enormous weight of pain, as I have not felt much to.
The last time that I felt so, it was in my file for divorce!
A anguish, sense of angry, an empty ...
It was a very difficult period.
Being with John in the sessions, the diagnoses, hear what I said without spare me the details ... And always alone! When alone to listen and to assimilate all the information. At least was trying to ... Often my thoughts mixture with the voices of doctors!
I just wanted to come out to run. Exit door outside the office. Turn back to the institutions and seek more views! Surely there that a doctor who me say:
What nonsense! The John is just a naughty and rebellious boy!

But of all doctors who corrected, nobody told me that ... Only were confirming the initial diagnosis.

I hold the tears ... But they keep on falling.
I do not want to cry, I do not want the John being aware that I am crying! I can not ...
But in fact those tears for John had no meaning!
So it was fun to see her mother cry! For all the emotions he went to the side!
It was so indifferent and unconscious, that at school, often draw the dolls to girls of his room only to see the shouting and crying!
That for him was a joke! It was very funny and laugh themselves hence.

Alone, was alone I had to roll up our sleeves.
But if it was very difficult to overcome that period, today feel a great pride for myself.

I am able! We are achieving!

And today I look at the John, and their way, John is a normal boy!
It is special because it can teach me a lot, to show me the beauty in small achievements. The John can get the better of me and it makes me very happy ... And with the strength to continue this fight and show the world, to our mediocre society, that they too have rights, they can be happy in a way different from ours, but there is no need to be excluded! They can do a lot ... And I am proud to have this privilege and I am proud of the show at all!
Part of me just wants to protect the John of the evil that exists all around the our reality, but never had, I have shame or John never had the will to hide the world.

Actually there are embarrassing and unpleasant situations.
When John, without apparent reason, decided to throw to the ground what's around it, begins to beat who approached him and send silence anyone who attempts to interfere. I recognize that often seems to be a naughty boy, but it is not! If we take care, instead criticizing the first scream we heard that child, we understand that it is not a naughty boy, but a boy who is eager for some reason. We should not, we can not just point the finger ... But everything we write, for now, is only understood by someone who passes or already have passed the same as us.

Our society is very ill-informed and trained to deal with a difference.
Everything that "exception to the rule" is considered abnormal!

But much in this society frightens me!
How will the integration of John in school?
I speak not in school where you are now! But in the future ...
I do not question that John often the university, but I would like to have the same opportunity. If not often higher education that decision by itself and not because they have the capacity.
Maybe I do not express the best way ...But I think it is understandable what I try to convey.
The company has to give opportunity to these boys to the same extent and according to its capabilities.

Often stop to think and imagine how it will be the future of John
I know it is not possible to know, imagine ... But it is inevitable.

It will be the same John had to attend a state school with rooms Teacch? Or have the opportunity to attend the private college of his brother?
I feel I am more secure in relation to Jose, but John and? It will be the better for it? Has the college capacity and conditions to receive a boy like John? These were not my plans! I wanted my boys andassem both in the same school! But Jose will get the fair where the college is doing their friendship to a state college, because that is where there are better conditions for John? And as I have sure that John will be well treated?

I recognize that I have the best views of state schools. When toei in state schools, public transport and walked alone, but the times were other! Today we live in a society more evolved, but with these developments come at the other consequences of growth. The violence, aggression, insecurity ...
How do I to protect my child?

As a mother I find important and essential for the development of John be integrated into normal education, the opposite also think crucial for children who attend the school live with normal boys like John The Julie can learn from the other children, but it is not only he who wins! Children learn to accept difference, to respect and be supportive.

The John attending a nursery and is swimming on Sunday, where his brother, also attend. The John is always a great excitement to go to the pool. However, when the class takes place in large pool, it merely sitting on the edge of the pool . It has always special attention of Professor Fernando and another instructor accompanying him during the whole class.

The John is growing. And with all this monitoring is visible throughout its development. It is such that sometimes I question me about your diagnosis. We often say things very certain, but in truth ... Indeed go phrases that are listening and repeating. Sometimes uses the expression in the right context, sometimes not ...

With my testimony also want to contribute with examples of exercises, therapy sessions and we can do.

... in one way or another ...
WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!