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&lt;p&gt;When I asked "Paula" if she could get together Thursday evening she declined. She and her mother already had plans.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;A little while later I called "Dana" to see if she could hang out Thursday. You can imagine my shock when she said, "Sorry, I'm going to a dinner party at Paula's. You're not invited?"&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Ouch! I couldn't help but wonder why Paula felt she could not be honest with me. Dana said the party was small and Paula probably didn't want to hurt my feelings. I understood, but being left out and lied to really hurt.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;An uncomfortable knot sat in my stomach as I struggled with whether I should approach Paula or not.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We'd come to a crossroads in our friendship. I wanted to tell her, "It's okay you didn't invite me to your party but you didn't have to lie to me. And I forgive you, because 'a friend loves at all times.'" But I was too afraid.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;At times like this, I follow my mom's advice. "When you don't know what to do, that's your cue to pray." God reminded me that when a "friend loves at all times" it means we believe the best about each other and work through problems.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Despite both my mom's and God's wisdom, I'm sad to say I decided to just let it go; I was too fearful to caringly confront my friend.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Paula called me a few weeks later. She felt bad for lying to me, apologized and explained the dinner party. I also apologized for not confronting her. I should have known our friendship was stronger than my fears.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We ended up laughing about our insecurities, and ourselves, because we knew we loved each other and wouldn't intentionally hurt one another. She should have been honest and I should've been brave enough to ask her about it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Lying isn't supposed to be a part of friendship, but neither is fear. Every relationship will have its share of trials and mishaps. But it should also have its share of believing the best in each other and forgiveness.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When obstacles that aren't dealt with come between two people, they can eat at our hearts, little by little. When we allow it to build up over time, our enemy will use it to divide us.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Perhaps the Lord is prompting you to tell the truth to a friend you've not been honest with. Or maybe you're the one who's been told a lie. Scripture tells us, &lt;em&gt;"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (Romans 12:18 NIV 1984)&lt;/em&gt;. Whether telling the truth, or confronting a lie, it rests upon us to do whatever possible to reconcile with our friend.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You may be on the other end of a confession or confrontation that was not well received. I'm so sorry. I know it's painful to lose a friend. But we can rest assured, that once we've done our part, the Lord will continue to do His and heal the wound left.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;If you're at a crossroads now, wondering if you should confess or caringly confront, may I encourage you to pray and take the next step? I am so glad Paula called me. What we have is too good to allow hurt feelings and misunderstandings to ruin it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;God's Word tells us "a friend loves at all times." That may not always be easy, but in the end, it's worth it. In fact, I can honestly say our friendship is now even stronger than it was before.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Something Else:&lt;br/&gt; Visit &lt;a href="http://www.proverbs31.org/admin/sheseeks/sheseeksblogpost/8685/edit-plugin/9228/www.melissataylor.org"&gt;Melissataylor.org&lt;/a&gt; for more encouragement from Melissa.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Melissa Taylor. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/wzHlMfzRdFg" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/trials-friendship-2-2012-12/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/trials-friendship-2-2012-12/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>If Only</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/363QRKGfX3Y/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspirational entry on contentment}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;"But godliness with contentment is great gain." 1 Timothy 6:6 (NIV)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Have you ever lived in the land of the "if onlys"?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only I had more money, then things would be easier.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only I lost 10 pounds, then I'd be happier.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only they'd recognize my talent, then I'd feel more appreciated.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Not too long ago my husband and I were praying about his career. Not only did the answer not come, but every door shut that we thought would open easily. As time passed I started listing my "if onlys."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only we had clear direction.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only we could begin that dream God placed in our hearts.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;If only, if only, if only ...&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Soon those unspoken words steered my thought life. They crept into my prayer time. They tiptoed into my relationship with my husband.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One day these words from &lt;em&gt;King's Cross&lt;/em&gt; by Timothy Keller leaped from the page:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;The Bible says that our real problem is that every one of us is building our identity on something besides Jesus. Whether it's to succeed in our chosen field or to have a certain relationship—or even to get up and walk—we're saying, "If I have that, if I get my deepest wish, then everything will be okay.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Suddenly I saw myself. My deepest wish had shifted. Where once I longed for God, now my thought life and actions revolved around what I didn't have. What I couldn't control.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;That night I confessed to my husband that I had not only moved into the land of the "if onlys" but had anchored there. I promised that instead of focusing on what wasn't taking place, I would began to treasure what I did have.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Today we have food. We have shelter. Our home is warm. Thank You for that gift, Father.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Today I hold a grandbaby in my arms. See her precious smile? I delight in that, Lord.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Today I sit in the living room and laugh with my husband. Thank You for joy.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Today and everyday I am Yours, Jesus. You are more than enough.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Godly contentment isn't passive, but an active faith that says God is enough. You and I are okay because our deepest wish doesn't revolve around losing 10 pounds, our career, another person, or whether we're noticed for our efforts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Are you living in the land of the "if onlys"? If so, are you willing to change your deepest wish from the "if only" to focusing on what you have and thanking God for it?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Visit Suzie Eller at &lt;a href="http://tsuzanneeller.com"&gt;http://tsuzanneeller.com&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/363QRKGfX3Y" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/if-only-3-2012-11/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/if-only-3-2012-11/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Just the Right Words</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/LkH2F464xco/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspirational entry on a heart's prompting}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Has someone ever spoken words that helped you see something valuable or unique about yourself that you had never seen before?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;That's what happened between Jill and Leanne. They met when Jill was coaching a Jr. High basketball team and Leanne's 13-year-old daughter, Shelby, was on her team. Years later, when she was in high school, Shelby got seriously injured and Jill reached out to her with encouragement, prayers and notes that spoke just the words that Shelby needed to hear.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One day, Leanne sent a letter thanking Jill for the difference she was making in her daughter's life. She described the qualities of a great coach she saw in Jill and called her a "bright light" that shined in many lives, including theirs.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Leanne didn't know that months later Jill would go home one night to an empty apartment plagued with doubt, questioning her purpose in life. Battling clinical depression and living under the weight of feeling worthless, Jill had contemplated suicide. That night as she pondered her fate, she opened her journal to write in it and a piece of paper fell out. Opening the note, she read Leanne's words again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;God used Leann's words to show Jill she did have a purpose and that life was worth living. They were just the right words at just the right time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When someone speaks encouragement into our hearts, the course of our lives can be changed forever. And when we believe in someone else, God uses us to build confidence and security in a heart that may have otherwise been paralyzed by doubt and insecurity.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I'll never forget my friend Janet thanking me for words I'd penned from my heart to hers in a thank you card. To me it was only a thank you, but to her it was more. God touched her heart deeply through something I said. And in response, she encouraged me to write more than notes. Her prayers and confidence inspired this insecure young mom to eventually write a Bible study.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And God used that tiny Bible study, written over 10 years ago, to uncover His plans and develop the future "writer" in me. He used a woman who believed in me more than I believed in myself to help me take the first step.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Just the right words at just the right time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Perhaps you need to hear them. If so, listen and let God speak them over you today through His promises:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;"But you are a chosen [woman], a royal priesthood, a holy [daughter], God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light." 1 Peter 2:9 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;"Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine." Isaiah 43:1 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;"For [you] are God's masterpiece. He has created [you] anew in Christ Jesus, so [you] can do the good things he planned for [you] long ago." Ephesians 2:10 (NLT)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;"In all these things [you] are more than [a] conqueror through him who loved [you]." Romans 8:37 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Just the right words at just the right time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When we read and believe God's promises, they settle into places in our hearts that need to know we are loved...by Him and others. I pray you receive and believe them today, and then ask Jesus how you might share them. Perhaps there is someone in your life who needs them now more than ever.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Visit &lt;a href="http://www.ReneeSwope.com/" target="_blank"&gt;Renee's website/blog&lt;/a&gt; where she shares practical ways you can position your thoughts to hear and live in God's promises every day. Enjoy a few of the &lt;a href="http://reneeswope.com/freeresources/"&gt;free resources&lt;/a&gt; on her blog like &lt;em&gt;Peace-giving Promises&lt;/em&gt; and &lt;em&gt;Promises to Personalize&lt;/em&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/LkH2F464xco" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/just-right-words-2-2012-11/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/just-right-words-2-2012-11/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Finish What You Start</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/ZWBHROgaMQs/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspirational entry on completion}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"'My food,' said Jesus, 'is to do the will of him who sent me and to finish his work.'" John 4:34 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I excel at starting projects. Especially those that include a trip to the office supply store, where I can stock up on new notebooks, file folders and pens. Optimism abounds at the beginning of something new. Then reality hits.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What seemed fun at first is actually hard work. Discouragement sets in. Perfectionist tendencies stifle moving forward. And it's easy to give up rather than finish what I start.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of my problems is a lack of focus. There's so much I want to do that my thoughts are often scattered. I allow myself to be pulled in multiple directions, intrigued by the possibilities of a new and exciting project. Plus, sometimes I do things just because I can. This approach often leaves me with a to-do list that's seriously un-doable.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Finishing well requires discipline that doesn't come naturally. But it's key to living a life that's manageable and reflects God's priorities for me. So while my shelves include books on time management and productivity, the best role model of finishing well is Jesus.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Jesus is the picture of focus and discipline, especially in the midst of many people demanding His attention. In the book of John we read a story about Jesus sitting by a well while His disciples went for food. As He waited, a solitary woman came to draw water and Jesus engaged her in a life-changing conversation-not only for her but for her entire village.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;On this day, Jesus could have pleaded exhaustion or frustration. He'd been traveling, it was warm, and He was hungry. One of those challenges would have been enough to derail me. Instead Jesus narrowed His focus on one woman and finished the assignment God gave Him.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After reuniting with His disciples, they tried to get Jesus to eat. He responded: "'My food,' said Jesus, 'is to do the will of him who sent me and to finish his work.'" (John 4:34 NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Jesus knew what His Father had asked Him to do and was committed to "finish" this work. In this passage, Jesus models clarity of purpose, perseverance and compassion; all characteristics I want.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;If you feel like you are always starting things and never finishing, perhaps it would help to focus on only one or two things God is calling you to today. Don't try and tackle everything at once. Ask God for His priorities for your life, and concentrate on doing your best in those areas.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Changing life-long patterns of not finishing things will take time. I've learned when I submit my overwhelmed feelings to God, He gives me strength to persevere.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; Visit &lt;a href="http://glynniswhitwer.com"&gt;Glynnis' blog &lt;/a&gt;for simple habits you can practice that will help you finish well.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Glynnis Whitwer. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/ZWBHROgaMQs" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/finish-what-you-start-2-2012-11/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/finish-what-you-start-2-2012-11/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>But I Don't Have What It Takes</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/aub20ly8S9I/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspirational entry about on saying yes to God}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"You don't belong here, boy. You don't have anything worth saying to these people."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You'd think a pastor about to preach to thousands of people eagerly awaiting his message would feel confident and courageous as he walks to the pulpit. But as I stepped out on stage, I literally had to talk to myself aloud to drown out the voice inside me telling me I didn't have what it takes.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Have you ever stopped short of God's calling on your life because you felt almost paralyzed by your limitations and insecurities?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We often excuse ourselves from God's greater vision because we don't believe we have enough for God to work with. Maybe it's our insufficient experience. Lack of resources. Lackluster training. Awkward social skills. Maybe it's a busted up marriage or a job we're sure is meaningless.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Unfortunately, one of the enemy's most effective strategies is to fill our mind with thoughts about what we don't have and all the ways we fall short. But when we focus on what we lack, it can keep us from realizing what we have is more than enough for God.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You see, God has a history of using what little someone has in order to do great things that only He can do. When I hear that voice reminding me of my shortcomings and limitations, I've decided to say, "You're right. But my greatest limitation is God's greatest opportunity."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;All throughout Scripture God has shown this to be true time and time again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When calling Moses to lead the Israelites out of slavery from the Egyptians, God simply asked him, "What is in your hand?" (see Exodus 4:2). It was just a staff—a common tool used by a common worker for a common purpose. But God used it for something greater, transforming it into an extraordinary tool for the extraordinary purposes of turning the Nile into blood and parting the Red Sea.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When feeding the five thousand, Jesus didn't send the disciples to buy out McDonalds. He simply asked them, "How many loaves do you have?" Five loaves and two fish were more than enough (see Mark 6:30-44).&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When the prophet Elisha was approached by the desperate widow in 2 Kings 4:1-7 he simply asked her, "Tell me, what do you have in your house?" She said she had nothing at all, "except a small jar of olive oil." It turns out, one jar of oil isn't a bad place to start. God supernaturally multiplied that one jar of oil until she had enough to pay her debts and live with her sons on what was left.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And how did these miracles start? They started with something that seemed to amount to nothing.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;These examples remind us we need to take inventory of what's right in front of us. Use that. Be obedient right there.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Start saying yes to God right where you are. Instead of focusing on your limitations and insecurities and saying, "I can't," start praying, "God use what I have. Take what little I have and make it overflow."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Indeed your greatest limitation is God's greatest opportunity.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; Are you ready to open your imagination to the possibility that God has a vision for your life that is greater? &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://greaterbook.com" target="_blank"&gt;Click here&lt;/a&gt; to sign up for Pastor Steven Furtick's "Pray Greater For 4 Days" Challenge to help you take your faith to the next level.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Pastor Steven Furtick is the pastor of &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://www.elevationchurch.org" target="_blank"&gt;Elevation Church&lt;/a&gt;. You can be inspired with his teachings more at &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://www.stevenfurtick.com" target="_blank"&gt;stevenfurtick.com&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Steven Furtick. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/aub20ly8S9I" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/i-dont-have-what-it-takes-ss-2012-10/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/i-dont-have-what-it-takes-ss-2012-10/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Criticism</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/gq3aLIC7zyk/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspirational entry about critical yuck}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge but the mouth of the fool gushes folly." Proverbs 15:2 (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It was one of those voicemails that left me rubbing the sides of my head wondering, "Why me? Why today?" I was blindsided by the criticism and felt this would be the perfect time to find a hole and crawl into it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Criticism hurts. No matter who you are, how many people are encouraging you, and how happy you felt before you got "that call" or "that email," one drop of critical yuck spreads fast and furious.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Oh how I wish I had a little "criticism antidote" to make it all better. I don't. But I do have a little sermonette I preach to myself when criticized.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When someone criticizes, I've got to quickly discern if they are trying to help me or hurt me.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No criticism is fun, but it can be helpful if it is from a wise person speaking words that are truly intended to help us. Proverbs 15:2a says, "The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge ..." To me, a wise person is someone who:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;• Cares enough about me to get their facts straight and isn't speaking out of assumption.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;• Has talked to God and reflects a gentle, caring tone in their communication.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-left: 20px;"&gt;• And wraps their criticism with grace and humility.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This kind of criticism is given with the intent of sharing helpful wisdom that is constructive rather destructive.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;If the criticism is destructive and hurtful, I must remember the second part of Proverbs 15:2b, "... but the mouth of the fool gushes folly." The definition of folly is a "lack of understanding or sense."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We need to remember this kind of harsh and unnecessary criticism says a lot more about their insecurities than our inadequacies.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We can't fix whatever hurt caused them to lash out. But we can decide to stay calm and not compound the hurt. "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1 NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No matter what kind of criticism we get—helpful or hurtful—it still stings. And we might not feel like being calm at first. When I returned the call that left my heart racing and my head pounding, I didn't feel like being calm. I had to choose to be calm despite my feelings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I'm learning that staying calm is as much of a gift to myself as it is to the one criticizing me.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; We'd love to share a chapter of Lysa TerKeurst's newest book &lt;em&gt;Unglued&lt;/em&gt; with you! &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://www.ungluedbook.com/" target="_blank"&gt;Click here&lt;/a&gt; to read a section of this life-changing book and hop over to the &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://www.ungluedbook.com/" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Unglued&lt;/em&gt; website&lt;/a&gt;. It's a great resource to help equip you in making lasting changes.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Lysa TerKeurst is the president of Provbers 31 Ministries and is leading women on the adventure of faith. For more encouragement from Lysa sign up to recieve her blog posts at: &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://lysaterkeurst.com/" target="_blank"&gt;www.lysaterkeurst.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/gq3aLIC7zyk" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/criticism-2-2012-10/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/criticism-2-2012-10/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Unexpected Grace</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/zecC-L0xruI/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspriational entry about experiencing His grace}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;He appeared out of nowhere. Blue lights burst on right about the time I laid eyes on his intimidating, unmarked SUV.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Immediately I checked the speedometer. It confirmed what the officer knew: I was speeding. A sinking feeling knotted my stomach as I prepared to receive the punishment for my inadvertent disobedience of the traffic laws.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I watched in my rear view mirror as the police car crept up behind me. With driver's license and registration in hand, my fingers tapped in irritation on the steering wheel. My scowl deepened as I impatiently waited for the policeman to walk to my window. "Ma'am, I stopped you for speeding. Driver's license and registration please."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Then it happened. The unexpected. The unwarranted. The undeserved.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The policeman glanced into my car and checked out my passengers (including my three deer-in-the-headlights kids in the back seat). Then he startled us all by blurting out a big ol' Southern "Hey!" to my husband, calling him by name.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Apparently they had grown up in church together and proceeded to spend a couple of friendly minutes reacquainting. He handed back my license and registration and gave me a smile. "Slow it down please, and have a good day."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We sat stunned and breathed a collective sigh of relief as I drove away - slowly, I might add.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I had not paid attention to the guidelines set forth. My guilt was obvious, and I had no excuse. I deserved to suffer the consequences, but instead I was given grace.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Grace is undeserved favor or pardon. We can't earn it or buy it. It's something the giver bestows out of the goodness and love in their heart. The Bible tells countless stories of people who received grace, including prostitutes, unfaithful marriage partners, deceivers, thieves, liars and more. Their sins deserved a punishment, but when they asked God for forgiveness, His grace wiped their guilt away. They were treated as pardoned offenders - just as I was.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In today's key verse, Paul is reminding the people of Corinth that despite their sin, God is good, and the Giver of grace. It serves as a reminder that God not only offers grace – He offers it in abundance. The more we need, the more we get.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Although God hates sin because it separates us from Him and ushers pain into our lives, His grace is available no matter how big our offense may be. And when we receive the pardon that was paid through the sacrifice of His Son, and begin a relationship with Jesus Christ, we receive grace, forgiveness and mercy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As much as I appreciated the grace extended to me from the officer that day, it paled in comparison to God's grace. You see, the officer's grace was one of kindness, but not one of redemptive love. It was a grace of compassion, but not the life-saving grace Jesus gives.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The truth is, I deserved a speeding ticket that day but grace was given. In the same way, although we deserve punishment for sin, God's forgiveness and favor are offered anyway… through the gift of His unexpected, unwarranted and undeserved grace.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something Else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; "God's law was given so that all people could see how sinful they were. But as people sinned more and more, God's wonderful grace became more abundant." Romans 5:20 (NLT)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Tracie Miles is an author and speaker who just released her newest book called &lt;em&gt;Stressed-Less Living&lt;/em&gt;. &lt;a href="http://www.proverbs31.org/store/product/stressed-less-living-finding/"&gt;Click here&lt;/a&gt; to order and be encouraged by this message!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Tracie Miles. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/zecC-L0xruI" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/unexpected-grace-2-2012-10/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/unexpected-grace-2-2012-10/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Define Yourself</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/K-EuZdExq68/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;{an inspriational entry about worth}&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"Define yourself through the hands and eyes of a true artist."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I closed the stall door in a public restroom, that slogan caught my eyes. It was from an advertisement for a plastic surgeon. Reading those words, I knew this doctor was tapping into longings every woman has: to be beautiful, loved and accepted by others.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But for most women, this is not reality. We don't see our beauty or worth. We look in the mirror and only see faults. We allow others to define us.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Sometimes it is our culture. But oftentimes it is the very people we love...our parents, a friend, or spouse. Their words deceive us into thinking we are unworthy...a failure as a woman and even as a child of God.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Yet God created us to be women of strength and beauty, each with a divine purpose planned by Him before we were born. God alone has the right to define us. No one else.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is only One true artist and His name is God.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;God is the Creator.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After reading that advertising slogan, I felt a burning desire to know a woman's true identity. The Truth I found in His Word was powerful and life changing. Rather than posting these truths on the back of a bathroom door, I wanted to share them with you.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You are:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="padding-right: 20px;"&gt;• Created in the image of God. (Genesis 1:27)&lt;br/&gt; • Fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)&lt;br/&gt; • Precious and honored in His sight. (Isaiah 43:4)&lt;br/&gt; • Redeemed and forgiven. (Ephesians 1:7)&lt;br/&gt; • A new creature in Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17)&lt;br/&gt; • Holy and blameless before God. (Ephesians 1:4, 1 Corinthians 1:30)&lt;br/&gt; • Chosen by God. (1 Peter 2:9)&lt;br/&gt; • God's masterpiece. (Ephesians 2:10)&lt;br/&gt; • Created with purpose to do great works for God's Kingdom. (Ephesians 2:10)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You are God's creation - beautiful, strong and created with a unique plan and purpose.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I don't want you to rest your head on a pillow tonight without knowing and believing who you are in Christ.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I have prayed that God would reveal to you who you really are - not who you are in the world's eyes, but that you would know who you are in YOUR FATHER'S EYES!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something Else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; Read Ephesians 2:10. Do you believe you are God's masterpiece? If not, spend time in prayer asking God to show you the lies you believe about yourself. Then personalize this verse, pray it and invite God to make it a reality in your life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Wendy Blight is a woman seeking to live out God's Truth. Visit &lt;a href="http://www.wendyblight.com" target="_blank"&gt;Wendy's blog&lt;/a&gt; for more encouragement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="font-size: 10px;"&gt;© 2012 by Wendy Blight. All rights reserved.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/K-EuZdExq68" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/define-yourself-2-2012-10/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/define-yourself-2-2012-10/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Directionally Challenged</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/8KO1nWpWjTI/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;{an inspirational entry on the course of life}&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We were off the beaten path for about an hour when we realized we were lost. I pulled the car into a small motel to ask for directions. There were two elderly men sitting behind the counter with their feet up, watching a small television set.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Clearing my throat to get their attention, "Excuse me. Can either of you direct me back to the interstate?" I asked. They just looked at me with a blank stare. So I returned to the car and gave my friend the bad news. "Well, we're lost and we're going to die."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"No, we're not," she said in a comforting way. "Look! There's a gas station across the street. Maybe someone in there will be able to help us." There was hope in her voice, but not in my heart.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;To me, the shady, rundown building across the street looked like a hang-out for serial killers. The paint was peeling and the shrubbery was overgrown. Nothing about the store said, "Welcome." There was no way I was gonna walk into a nest of potential murderers willingly. However, my friend persuaded me otherwise. "We won't talk to anyone," she promised. "We'll just go in and buy a map."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Once we were inside the creepy, timeworn building, I scanned the place for our killer. When it appeared to be safe, we got our directions and got out of the store.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And eventually, we made it home. But not without learning a great lesson: Life is full of dead ends and confusing directions that can lead us off course.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;From time to time we can get lost spiritually if we don't look to God as our source for answers and guidance. When it happens to me, there are certain signs. Life seems dull, scary, uneventful and without purpose or clear direction.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Sadness sets in and my days look lonely, cold and dark. I lose confidence in decision-making, too. Without seeking clear directions from God, it's easy to become confused about which way to turn. Eventually I can start to feel like I'm lost.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It doesn't have to be this way. We can turn to God for help.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;"I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go: I will counsel you with my loving eye on you." Psalm 32:8 (NIV)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;God makes this promise: &lt;em&gt;"I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go: I will counsel you with my loving eye on you."&lt;/em&gt; We don't have to go it alone as if we're feeling our way through the darkness. God is there to light our path.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No matter how intentional we are about staying the course, without God's direction we'll end up in a place we never intended to go. Whenever we need direction — whether it's raising a strong-willed child, changing jobs or dealing with a difficult relationship — God will faithfully provide the counsel we need. And we can find God's counsel in His Word, through prayer and by relying on the Holy Spirit to pave the way before us. Practicing these principles is the only way we can be sure of reaching our destination.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It's true. There will be obstacles along life's way and, at times, the path we take will feel unknown, but God wants to guide, equip and lead us each day as we learn to depend more and more on Him.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something Else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;a href="http://www.proverbs31.org/do-you-know-jesus/" target="_blank"&gt;Do You Know Jesus?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.proverbs31.org/store/product/an-untroubled-heart-finding-faith-that-is-stronger-than-my-fears/" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;em&gt;An Untroubled Heart: Finding Faith that is Stronger than My Fears&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt; by Micca Campbell&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Micca Campbell is a woman who is helping other women to live more and fear less. Visit &lt;a href="http://www.miccacampbell.com/" target="_blank"&gt;Micca's blog&lt;/a&gt; to be encouraged.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SheSeeks/~4/8KO1nWpWjTI" height="1" width="1"/&gt;</description><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/directionally-challenged-2-2012-09/</guid><feedburner:origLink>http://www.proverbs31.org/she-seeks/directionally-challenged-2-2012-09/</feedburner:origLink></item><item><title>Is This News or Truth?</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SheSeeks/~3/qiEckF5JDqY/</link><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;"Jesus answered, 'I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" John 14:6 (NIV)&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;News and truth aren't always one and the same. I'm learning this through a medical situation I've faced recently. I had a diving accident that severely damaged nerves inside my left inner ear. As a result, I have hearing loss and a horrible screeching sound that hasn't stopped since the accident weeks ago.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It's been very hard. I know in the grand scheme of things, I could be dealing with much worse. I know that. And it makes me greatly empathetic for anyone facing a chronic medical diagnosis. It's scary when doctors shock you with test results and you don't know what the future holds.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I've been honest about my fears with my friends. They've been so faithful to stand beside me, pray for me and send precious notes of encouragement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the emails I received was from my friend Shaunti. It contained a line that stirred me: &lt;em&gt;"Lysa this is news. This is not truth."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Wow.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I've always thought of news and truth as one and the same. What the doctor gave me was news. Honest news based on test results and medical facts.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But what I have access to is a truth that transcends news. What is impossible with man's limitations is always possible for a limitless God.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So, I find myself looking at the word impossible a little differently today.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Impossible, when looked at in light of Shaunti's note, could be completely different if I just stick a little apostrophe between the first two letters. Then it becomes I'm-Possible. God is the great I AM. Therefore He is my possibility for hope and healing.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I'm-Possible is a much more comforting way to look at anything that feels quite impossible.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I suspect many of us have things in our life that feel impossible. Maybe you just got some bad news. News of an impossible financial situation. News of an impossible job situation. News of an impossible friend situation. News of an impossible medical situation.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Whatever news you just got or will get, I pray Shaunti's advice helps you too.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;This is news.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And &lt;em&gt;this&lt;/em&gt; is Truth:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I AM THE WAY AND THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE.&lt;br/&gt; &lt;em&gt;"I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."&lt;/em&gt; John 14:6&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I AM FOREVER FAITHFUL.&lt;br/&gt; &lt;em&gt;"He is the Maker of heaven and earth, the sea, and everything in them-He remains faithful forever."&lt;/em&gt; Psalm 146:6&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I AM WITH YOU.&lt;br/&gt; &lt;em&gt;"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."&lt;/em&gt; Isaiah 41:10&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I AM HOLDING YOU.&lt;br/&gt; &lt;em&gt;"Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand."&lt;/em&gt; Psalm 73:23&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I AM YOUR HIDING PLACE.&lt;br/&gt; &lt;em&gt;"You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance."&lt;/em&gt; Psalm 32:7&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;If there is any comfort for me during this tough time, it is knowing that somehow God will use this for good. And that God will be my possible in the midst of what can sometimes feel so stinkin' impossible.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Of course, I still have those less spiritually secure moments where I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. And cry. And pitch a little hissy fit.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Oh how thankful I am for my praying, encouraging, note-writing friends who help me focus on truth and not just the facts. I'm asking Jesus to send some your way today. And every time that word impossible creeps up and starts to steal your hope, see the words I'm-Possible and hold on to Him.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Something Else:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; Lysa and her friend Shaunti Feldhahn paired up to offer young women the truth that it is possible to find lasting satisfaction in God. &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://lysaterkeurst.com/made-to-crave-for-young-women/" target="_blank"&gt;Click here&lt;/a&gt; to order your copy of &lt;a style="color: #1c89a0;" href="http://lysaterkeurst.com/made-to-crave-for-young-women/" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Made to Crave for Young Women&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Power Verses:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br/&gt; Psalm 25:4-6, "Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long." (NIV)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Lysa TerKeurst is the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries. Her new book &lt;em&gt;Unglued&lt;/em&gt; recently hit the New York Times bestseller's list! Connect with Lysa more at: &lt;a href="http://LysaTerKeurst.com"&gt;www.LysaTerKeurst.com&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
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