Logic is Variable

With Love From BA

2026-04-16T14:10:00.005+05:00

Baba, it's high time. Your health and well-being are solely your responsibility, so take the responsibility and manage your BP and Blood Sugar. You are not the only one in this world going through all this. Let's embrace this with grace and live whatever is left.

May you seek refuge in Allah from grief, discomfort, pain, and disappointments from your wife and kids.

Cloy

2026-04-14T16:54:00.001+05:00

"Cloy" (verb) means to cause disgust or boredom through an excess of something originally pleasant, such as excessive sweetness, affection, or pleasure. It implies being satiated or surfeited to the point of losing interest. It is often used to describe overwhelming sweetness (e.g., "the dessert began to cloy").

2026-04-12T11:05:00.000+05:00

Happy Birthday - Shah Hussain

Medical Tests

2026-03-31T13:00:00.001+05:00

Doppler Test - 8 April 2026

Echo - 21 April 2026

2026-03-26T14:11:11.681+05:00

'Don't let your happiness depend on something you may lose'

Happy Aging

2026-03-23T11:26:00.001+05:00

Society pushes “stay active, stay useful, reinvent yourself” as the key to happy aging. The article argues the opposite often works better: learning to need less, sit comfortably without a defined role or new project, and stop warring with the natural process of aging. Freedom in later life comes from needing less, not doing more.

No Worry Zone

2026-03-18T11:40:00.006+05:00

A deliberate "no-worry zone" that starts at 6:30 pm each evening and lasts until you wake up the next morning - during which you're not allowed to engage with anxious thoughts, rumination, or overthinking [1].

Using Things Saved for Special Occasions

2026-03-14T11:34:00.001+05:00

Sophie Cliff, The Joyful Coach, positive psychologist and author, suggests, “Whether it’s cracking open a new notebook, lighting a candle, or spritzing your favourite perfume, using something you’ve been saving for best has several benefits. Firstly, you’ll get a hit of happiness from using something nice, but perhaps more importantly, you’ll signal to your subconscious that the average everyday is important and worthy of seizing.”

2026-03-13T14:25:00.002+05:00

I've tried it all, now let me try to be a good person.

A Man Asking for the Moon

2026-03-13T11:47:00.003+05:00

Peace – a haven where a man can unwind, conversations that resolve issues, and a partner who uplifts him with kindness.

Respect – feeling valued and appreciated for who he is.

Intimacy – the warmth of touch, affection, and emotional connection that makes a man feel seen, special, and cherished. 💕

2026-03-13T09:50:00.001+05:00

A father's worries may be endless, but when even asking 'Where are you going?' or protecting a nine-month-pregnant wife becomes an act of overreach or exposure, silence is the best protection.

This sin is enough for you (that) you are always arguing

2026-03-10T13:08:00.004+05:00

An argumentative spirit can quietly erode a marriage — not through one explosive fight, but through constant small battles. Many relationships end not from lack of love, but from too much correction, debate, and too little understanding. When every conversation becomes a debate or correction, the home starts feeling like a courtroom instead of a refuge.

2026-03-10T11:14:22.926+05:00

Allah Kareem does not like arrogance (Takabbur).

Walk in the Lahore School

2026-03-09T11:52:00.003+05:00

The Lahore School of Economics main campus truly lives up to its reputation as a peaceful, green oasis right in the city. With over 35 acres, more than 80% devoted to lawns, trees, and open spaces, plus those iconic peacocks roaming around, it's the perfect spot for a mindful walk. No wonder it feels heavenly; the lush greenery, shaded paths, and calm atmosphere make it ideal for soaking in those heart, brain, and mood benefits we talked about — better circulation, clearer thinking, stabilized energy, and that gentle sense of presence without any pressure to "achieve" anything.

As I stroll those winding paths (maybe past the red-brick buildings, open lawns, beds of roses, or under the big trees), it becomes my daily reminder to just be — no to-do list required. I breathe in the fresh air, notice the birds or the way the light filters through the leaves, and let the walk recharge me naturally. This is a beautiful way to tie together the permission to exist freely with the simple, compounding health wins from consistent movement.

I enjoy every step of these campus walks that are a real gift. If the weather's nice (or even if it's a bit misty/foggy like some Lahore mornings), it only adds to the magic.

Not-To-Do List

2026-03-09T11:24:00.001+05:00

Today, it's okay if I don't accomplish everything. My worth isn't tied to output. I allow myself to just be without earning it.

How a Wife Without Empathy Can Ruin Her Marriage?

2026-03-05T14:08:00.006+05:00

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person, to see the world from their perspective, sense their emotions as if they were your own (while maintaining a healthy self-other distinction), and respond in a way that conveys genuine understanding and care. It combines cognitive perspective-taking (recognizing what someone is thinking or feeling) with affective sharing (feeling alongside them), often leading to compassionate support.

One of the fastest ways a marriage crumbles is when a wife loses empathy for her husband.

Empathy is not weakness or silence; it is the powerful ability to truly feel what your partner feels and convey, “I see you. I understand. You matter.” With empathy, even arguments feel safe. Without it, even love feels lonely.

Men need more than food, respect, and intimacy; they crave emotional safety. A husband wants to come home to understanding, not judgment; a partner, not a prosecutor. When a husband shares stress and hears, “You’re overreacting,” “Others are doing better,” or “Stop being weak and needy,” he shuts down emotionally. The marriage then bleeds quietly.

Though a woman without empathy may never yell, insult, or cheat, she destroys subtly: dismissing, minimizing, and ignoring his feelings. Exhaustion becomes laziness; worry becomes negativity; failure becomes endless reminders. This environment breaks a man rather than building him.

A broken man withdraws; he speaks less, shares less, and lingers longer away (at work or elsewhere) — not from hatred, but from feeling alone beside her.

True respect shows in handling his private struggles: offering support instead of refusal, partnership instead of division or blame over money and responsibilities.

The hard truth: refusing to “coddle” him may feel like strength, but strength without compassion turns to cruelty. Cruelty in marriage destroys slowly and thoroughly.

No one is perfect — both partners fail at times. Empathy turns failures into growth; its absence turns them into humiliation.

In short, empathy is the oxygen of a thriving marriage. Without it, even deep love cannot survive.

Blood Sugar Levels - 2026

2026-03-04T15:06:00.005+05:00

On 27 March 2026, the fasting glucose level was 178 mg/dL

On 26 March 2026, the fasting glucose level was 177 mg/dL

On 20 March 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 126 mg/dL

On 04 March 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 170 mg/dL

On 19 February 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 150 mg/dL

On 11 February 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 169 mg/dL

On 09 February 2026, the fasting glucose level in the morning was 180 mg/dL

On 03 February 2026, HbA1c was 7.4 %

On 03 February 2026, fasting glucose level was 119 mg/dL

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On 27 January 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 196 mg/dL

On 14 January 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 189 mg/dL

On 05 January 2026, the random glucose level in the afternoon was 181 mg/dL

People Everyone Needs to Forgive

2026-03-04T11:01:00.005+05:00

Forgive your parents 100 %.

Forgive others - everyone else.

Forgive yourself [X].

And forgive all of them every day.

2026-03-02T16:31:00.000+05:00

People say, 'Where were the Muslims when Imam Hussain (A.S.), the grandson of our Prophet (PBUH), and his progeny were martyred in Karbala some 1,400 years ago?' The answer is: 'This is exactly where they were.'

Learn NotebookLM

2026-03-02T11:31:00.000+05:00

Useful Things NotebookLM Could Do [1].

2026-03-02T10:44:00.006+05:00

The ring worn by Ali Khamenei, carried the Arabic inscription “إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي” (Inna Ma‘iya Rabbi), meaning, "Beshak, Mera Rab Mere Sath Hai."

2026-02-23T13:52:00.003+05:00

اللَّهُمَّ صل عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ

Iftar at Home

2026-02-23T11:00:00.004+05:00

Last night (22 February 2026), after many years, we had Iftar at home again.

For decades, it was tradition: dates, pakoray, fruit chaat, dahi baray, grato jalebi, and the quiet rhythm of breaking the fast as a family. Then, some years ago, my wife said it had become too much for her. I didn’t push; I moved everything to DeSOM. It worked, but our own table felt something missing.

Yesterday our son announced, “Iftar is at home tonight — and Phopho is coming too.” No discussion, just a firm decision.

I was quietly surprised, and honestly, a little moved.

The table looked like old times. Pakoray frying, familiar smells filling the house. Phopho arrived with her gentle energy and Eid gifts. For those minutes before the azan, we were once more the family I’d almost forgotten.

I know this wasn’t for me. If I’d asked, the answer would likely have stayed no. But our son asked—in his quiet, grown-up way—and the answer was yes.

After more than forty years of marriage, that says everything: the deepest current still flows strongest toward the children. Not obligation, but elemental love that answers first to them, even after learning to say no to me.

I’m not hurt. I’m grateful to see it so clearly. It reminds me how faithfully that quiet loyalty has run.

Alhamdulillah for the evening, the old tastes, Phopho’s presence, and the reminder of where the true centre of this home lies.

And for the bittersweet gift of seeing, clearly now, that in this long marriage the truest centre is not really me.

It was always them.

How Long Can You Really Live After 72? 5 Hidden Body Signs That Predict Longevity

2026-02-21T11:44:00.003+05:00

The following is the transcript of the video provided in the sources, which features a geriatric physician at Johns Hopkins discussing signs that predict longevity after the age of 72:

Introduction and the Five Signs "I watched my father die at 68—heart attack, gone in minutes. My mother made it to 94; sharp mind, steady hands, walked every morning until the week she passed. Same family, same genes. So what made the difference? For the last 22 years, I've been a geriatric physician at Johns Hopkins. I've examined over 8,000 patients past the age of 72, and I've discovered something the medical textbooks don't tell you: five body signs predict exactly how long you'll live after 72. Not your cholesterol, not your blood pressure—five signs you can check yourself right now in under 10 minutes."

"Mrs. Patterson came to see me last year; she was 73. Her daughter brought her in worried, 'Mom's slowing down, Dr. Chen, I think she's declining'. I examined Mrs. Patterson, ran the usual tests, and everything came back normal. But I checked her five signs; four out of five were failing. I told her daughter, 'If nothing changes, your mother has maybe three years'. The daughter started crying, but Mrs. Patterson looked at me and said, 'What do I need to do?'. I taught her five exercises, five minutes each day. That was 11 months ago. Last week, Mrs. Patterson walked into my office alone—no cane, no daughter. She'd driven herself 40 minutes. 'Dr. Chen, I feel 50 again,' she said. What changed? She fixed her five signs."

"Before I reveal these five signs, you need to understand something: after 72, your body doesn't fail randomly; it follows a pattern, a specific sequence. Most doctors miss this because they're looking at individual organs—heart, lungs, kidneys. But your body is a chain; when one link weakens, the whole chain collapses. These five signs tell you which links are weakening right now. Fix them before they break, and you can add 10, even 20 years to your life. Ignore them, and you'll be in a nursing home within five years."

Sign Number One: Grip Strength "Sign number one: your grip strength. I know what you're thinking: grip strength? That's it?. But listen to this: a study from the University of Michigan followed 6,000 seniors for 15 years; those with weak grip strength at 72 had four times the mortality rate by 85. Why? Because grip strength doesn't just measure your hand; it measures your entire muscular system. When your grip weakens, it means muscle mass throughout your body is declining—your legs, your core, your heart. Yes, your heart is a muscle too."

"Let me tell you about James. He was 74, a retired accountant who came in complaining about fatigue. I asked him to squeeze my fingers as hard as he could and barely felt it. His grip strength was 15 kg; normal for a 74-year-old man is 35 to 40 kg. I knew James had maybe four years left if nothing changed. Here's how you test your grip strength at home: take a bathroom scale, stand it upright against a wall, and press your palm into it as hard as you can. The number that shows up is your grip strength in kilograms. Men over 72 should hit at least 28 kg; women should hit at least 18 kg. Below that, you're in the danger zone. James started doing hand exercises with a tennis ball for three minutes twice a day. A year later, his strength was 38 kg. He's 76 now, still drives, still golfs, and still opens his own jars."

Sign Number Two: Walking Speed "Sign number two: how fast you walk. Not how far, how fast. There's a specific speed that separates the people who live to 90 from those who don't make it to 80: 0.8 meters per second (roughly 1.8 mph). A study from the University of Pittsburgh found that those who walked faster than 0.8 m/s at age 75 had an 85% chance of being alive at 90, while those who walked slower had only a 35% chance. Walking speed matters because it measures three critical systems at once: your cardiovascular system, your nervous system, and your muscular system. When walking speed drops, it means all three systems are failing together."

"Margaret was 72 and took 24 seconds to walk 20 feet—that’s 0.25 m/s, less than a third of the survival threshold. Her brain wasn't processing balance signals fast enough, and her heart wasn't delivering enough oxygen. To test your walking speed, mark out 13 feet in your hallway and time yourself walking at your normal pace. If it takes more than 5 seconds, you're below the threshold. Margaret started walking exercises—short bursts of faster walking—and within eight weeks, her speed doubled." Sign Number Three: One-Legged Balance "Sign number three: how long you can stand on one leg. This test reveals whether your nervous system is aging faster than your body. Balance is about your brain communicating with your feet in real-time. After 72, this communication system starts breaking down. A study from the Mayo Clinic found that seniors who could stand on one leg with their eyes closed for 10 seconds or longer had half the mortality risk over the next decade compared to those who couldn't."

"Thomas was 73 and kept falling. He couldn't stand on one leg for more than 2 seconds. To test yourself, stand next to a wall, lift one foot, and start a timer. If you can hold it for 10 seconds with eyes open, that's your baseline. Now try it with eyes closed; if you can't hold it for at least 5 seconds, your nervous system is aging faster than it should. Thomas practiced balance exercises while brushing his teeth and waiting for coffee; after three months, he could hold it for 12 seconds with his eyes closed, and his falls stopped."

Sign Number Four: Sitting-Rising Test "Sign number four: whether you can get up from the floor without using your hands. This is called the sitting-rising test. It predicts mortality better than almost any blood test. A Brazilian study showed that people who scored eight or higher (out of 10) had a much lower mortality risk than those who scored three or lower. Getting up from the floor requires strength, flexibility, balance, and coordination all at once—it's a full system test." "Helen, 74, hadn't sat on the floor in 20 years because she couldn't get back up. After practicing sitting and standing exercises every morning, she eventually could do it using only one hand for balance. Six months later, she was back on the floor playing Legos with her grandson."

Sign Number Five: Sleep Quality "Sign number five: how well you sleep. Not how long, how well. Your body repairs itself, clears toxins from the brain, and heals damaged tissue during deep sleep. After 72, many people stop reaching deep sleep stages. A UC Berkeley study showed that seniors getting less than 90 minutes of deep sleep per night had brains aging 30% faster due to accelerated cognitive decline." "Robert, 73, slept 9 hours but woke up exhausted. His environment was sabotaging him: a TV in the room, a phone on the nightstand, and a warm room temperature. We changed it to a completely dark room, phone in another room, and the temperature at 67°F. Within two weeks, he felt refreshed, his energy returned, and his memory improved."

Sign Number Six: Purpose "Sign number six: whether you still have a purpose. This is the one nobody talks about, but it might be the most important. Seniors who feel their life has purpose have half the mortality risk of those who don't. Purpose isn't about grand achievements; it's about mattering and being needed. When you retire and have nothing to do, your brain decides you're 'done' and your body starts shutting down. Margaret, who felt unneeded after her husband passed, started volunteering at a library. Six months later, she looked younger and moved faster."

Conclusion "These six signs—grip strength, walking speed, balance, floor mobility, sleep quality, and purpose—tell you everything. If you're failing even one, your body is telling you something. Mrs. Patterson, who I thought had three years left, is now hiking and volunteering 11 months later because she improved these signs. You have the same opportunity. Test yourself today and start improving one sign at a time."

"My father died at 68 because nobody told him this. My mother made it to 94 because she accidentally did most of these things right—gardening for grip, walking fast, practicing yoga for balance, sleeping in a cold room, and having a purpose. Your body is sending you signals right now; the question is whether you'll listen before it's too late."

Ramadan 2026

2026-02-17T14:12:00.009+05:00

No anger.

No complaints.

No arguments.

No observation like Gas On, Lights On.

No assumptions.

My Goals: Ya Allah, make each moment of my life sin-free, pain-free, and complaint-free, and give me the strength to practice Let It Be.

Related: Note to Self