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A year later....

2011-03-31T10:25:00.005-04:00

It's March 31st.

This day last year, I woke up with the worst cramps ever. Nothing helped. Had to go to the hospital, and they found something in my ovaries. Apparently, it had been getting bigger over time, and when it got to the size of a baseball, my nerves had wrapped themselves so tightly around it, that the pain became unbearable. I would scream if anyone or anything touched it. I couldn't stop throwing up. Nurses thought I was pregnant. Unless it was the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, it was not possible. The more they asked if I was pregnant, the more I started to believe I was. I was so relieved when they did the ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. (I am not trying to be on that Discovery Health show "I didn't Know I was Pregnant").

By this time, they had put me in the only room they could find: a room with cushioned walls. I kept looking at the nurse like, "I am in PAIN. I am not crazy." But she kept saying it was the only room that was available. My friends, Bunmi, Idia, and Gbenga, dropped everything they were doing to be with me. There was no comfortable way to lie down, because no matter which way my body was positioned, the pain kept getting worse and worse. The doctor came in and said the lump is a cyst that refuses to dissolve, and he would have to operate to remove it.

Operate. The one word I thought I would never have to hear. Til today that word makes me nauseous and sad. It was early afternoon, and the only time they could operate was at night.

So I would have to deal with this pain for another EIGHT hours?! Thank God for the people I had with me, because I know that I couldn't do it alone. No one should EVER have to be alone in ANYTHING.

I couldn't even cry anymore because the pain was just too much. My aunt in Indiana would later fly to MD to stay with me, and my other aunt in VA came as well. Nurse put me on morphine, but even that did not help.

(Turns out that they did not have a stand to hang the morphine, so the nurse draped it over the door, and that stopped the flow of morphine from reaching my arm. I was like this for eight painful, unforgettable hours).

Later, they took me upstairs to prep me for operation. The anesthesiologist told me how the anesthesia would work, and by this time, I just wanted to sleep, and wake up and everything would be okay. My aunt prayed for me, and some kind of peace came over me.

By this time, the anesthesia kicked in. Some amazing words were said that I would never forget, and three hours later I woke up in my room with my aunt from VA and my girl Nosizwe around me. I fell back asleep, and I woke up again with Gbenga and my aunt from Indiana there.

And the pain was gone.

It took me two months to be able to stand straight, as the scar had to heal (I still have it; it's like a C-Section scar with two dark marks where they put two cameras in. I also have a scar in my belly button. Needless to say, I felt like I just had a baby). Turns out that the cyst was actually a benign tumor that had ruptured, and the doctor had to cut some nerves to remove it. A year later, and I am just starting to get feeling there.

That day, and the months to follow showed me that I have to be grateful for what I have and what I don't have. I am grateful for my family, the people who dropped everything they were doing to be with me. Some flew last minute to stay with me for a few days (my mother was with me for a few weeks) to make sure I was well. Some people took off work to spend time with me. The love I felt during that time was and still is....indescribable. Unforgettable. Amazing.

I thank God that He kept me. It was His grace. If I had not felt the pain, the liquid could have killed me.

I may have slipped several times, but my Father was still there to pick me up and give me many more chances. I owe Him everything. My life is His.

Everyone needs that "Ah Ha!" moment to realize that you were born for a reason; I guess I can say - after 26 years - this was mine. I am still on that path of self-discovery, but I know that I am closer than I think to reaching that place that God wants me to be.

This week has been really depressing for me. I can safely say I have had my worst week yet in 2011. Nevertheless, I have had eye-opening moments, and I know now I can go nowhere but up. The Lord said, "Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life, which He has promised to those who love Him." (James 1:12).

It is well. :)

Oh, wanted to add: the hospital bills came to about $16000, and I did not have to pay a SINGLE CENT. It is all God and no one else.

Let's Talk About It

2011-03-06T22:55:00.002-05:00

My first video blog!! Eeek!!! I am quite excited. Hope you like it.

**Apparently, maximum size is 100 MB, and this thing is 148MB!! Can I live??? So I have uploaded the link for you to watch on YouTube. Enjoy**

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tjcrAYHclg

Happy Birthday to Me??

2011-02-17T09:41:00.009-05:00

It's my birthday!!!!

Well, in 4 days, I will be turning the big 2-6. Yay! I am so over being 25, trust me, that age is so overrated. It should be a relaxing weekend, surrounded by my very cool (and very razz) friends. There will be lots of eating, drinking, and laughter, and love...and that's all I need.

Now that I am going to be 26, some things have crossed my mind. Well, namely, marriage. At this point, I can say a handful of my friends are engaged or married. I look at them like they crazy. Cuz they are. Marriage is no joke. I mean, this is one person that you are going to be with.....

FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

Do people understand that? Not a few years, not a decade, but FOREVER. TIL DEATH DO Y'ALL PART. I am not saying I need a few years so I can date and have fun, no. It's just that you want to find that right person for you. Not perfect - cuz we KNOW that no man on this Earth is perfect. Like Bereola said on his website: "Your search for the perfect man is in vain. He died on the cross 2000+ years ago. Find God before you find a man". Homie was speakin' the TRUF!

I was reading this funny, yet eye-opening article by Tracy McMillan. I mean, I felt like homegirl was sitting opposite me and reading my mind. Yes I have been "the liar", I have been "selfish", hell, I even thought I was not good enough (what in the world made me think that? Pray for me y'all). The advice she gives in her article is ummmm...let me put it this way, I'm a stubborn girl. Shooo, I want a tall-ass, fine-ass, rich-ass chocolate lookin' brotha, and I may not get fine-ass or even rich-ass...but what is wrong with a 5'10 girl wanting to be with a man who is 6'1?? WHY would I want to be with a short person? Physically, it don't look good, and let's not get into what it would be like in bed...oooo chile.

But bottom line is that once you admit that you do want to get married, and stop being too shallow (I mean, you have to have standards, but if you are that picky to the point of how his nose should be shaped/how wide her hips should be, ma'am/sir...), things may get easier. So rethink your priorities. Just know that personality is what matters. Looks fade, but personality remains the same...well, if your personality changes, then methinks you should check yourself into some kind of psych ward.........................................joking....................................well, not really.

Here's a way you can see what you should look for in the opposite sex: write down all the physical attributes on one column and personality traits on another column. Then go down each column and rate each trait on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being "it doesn't really matter" and 5 being "I will die if this person doesn't have this". That should make you rethink what is important and what isn't.

So, on that note, ladies and gents, I hope you have a fabulous weekend...I know I will.

Happy Birthday to meee!!!!

this love right herrre....

God Did It.

2011-02-01T15:29:00.007-05:00

Yes, that is my quote of the year.

Happy New Year folks!! Hope your December/January was as amazing as mine. I have to say that I have missed blogging. So much has been happening. And it's February.

yikes.

I have been going through quite a bit emotionally. Just trying to figure things out. I'm almost done with school (halfway through this class, and two left...I canNOT wait..Sept 11, 2011, and I will never go to another class. EVER.), and the next step is:

Where am I going to work? Am I staying in the States, or will I be going somewhere else?

At this moment, I don't care where I go. Just as long as you are giving me money worth a Bachelor's in Mathematical Statistics and an MBA, and it's not in some podunk area, then we good. I need high rise buildings and black people.

My cousin had her traditional engagement over Christmas, and it was so much fun, but from that LONG night, I have concluded that:

1) 1000 people will not be coming to my engagement/wedding. I don't know 1000 people, so I don't see why I should be having 800 strangers at one of the most important events of my life. So all you random wedding crashers, best believe, you will not make it past the entrance. So don't waste your clothes and/or time.

2) my mother better not try anything silly by inviting people I don't know or remember, i.e. all the women who have known me since I was ankle high. Look woman, I don't KNOW you, so stop.

3) I don't like extravagance. I can't do it. All the extraness, not necessary. But I may have to holler at Uche Majekodunmi for decorations. Loved what she did at my cousin's engagement.

4) my husband better know how to dance because....those nights, we will not sit down ONCE.

5) the DJ better kill it...I don't need to hear "Oleku" more than once. There are many other songs in this WORLD that I will be dancing to. DJ Preview and DJ Zimo, save the date...whenever that is.

6) the food better be ON POINT. I eat. A lot. So, all you budding caterers, holla in a couple years.

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This year, I believe that God is in control. He has been in control from January 1, 2011, and He will be in control through to December 31, 2011...and beyond. Amen.

I went to a Prayer Retreat over the weekend (shoutout to Jesus' House DC), and one thing I know I will be doing is that I will be doing a lot more praying and more PRAISING. The miracles that will be happening this year. I am excited because I am expectant.

I hope to blog more this year, because in 9 months, I will be FREE from school work, so more random thoughts coming your way.

Remember: God did it. And He will keep doing it until there's nothing else to do. :)

Stay blessed.

P.S. It's my birthday month!! 20 days until the day the world changed 26 years ago. I love birthdays, but that will be another post. :)...apparently, I am an Aquarius now, thanks to the new sign. Ummm, all you astrologers Imma need for you to move thatta way *pointing to the left* ...I am Pisces, and your stupid new sign will not change it. Thanks and bye.

Who is REALLY the Sexiest Man Alive...?

2010-11-19T14:45:00.008-05:00

Cuz it sure ain't Ryan Reynolds. Don't get me wrong, the guy is hot (I remember the scene from "The Proposal", when he just came back from exercising, and he took off his shirt..........yes Lawd, he is blessssed), but there are sexier guys in this world. And here are my choices (in no particular order)

*side note: they are not all actors...I'm trying to understand how People magazine makes their choices. You said Sexiest MAN Alive, not Sexiest ACTOR Alive...get it right dammit**:

1. Guchi Onyewu

I mean, just look at that. This dude embodies sexy - inside and out. He is so down-to-earth, funny, God-fearing guy, and just COOL....now why isn't he on the list???? If you think this picture is fire, wait until you see him in person....and I am almost afraid to think that he doesn't know he is THAT fine.

2. Denzel Washington

Why did this man only make the list once??? And Brad Pitt was on the damn list like twice or 3 times. I mean, this is DENZEL...if I had my way - in another world - he would be the father of my babies! Does anyone not understand this? This man has not made ONE bad movie. He's funny, a great family man, and an AMAZING actor (if you haven't seen "Training Day", slap yourself, over and over again).

3. Eric Dane

I get soooo happy when I watch McSteamy on Grey's Anatomy EVERY Thursday. Last night's episode when he went to get water to drink and he was shirtless....that scene did some things to me...things that I cannot write down on my blog...but this man is just hot. Another great actor, and from interviews, he seems like a cool down-to-earth guy. Damn you, Rebecca Gayheart...DAMN YOU!

Now out of these 3, People couldn't pick any?! I mean, Ryan Reynolds though? Then there's Common, American President Barack Obama (y'all cannot say that this man does not possess some type of...I hate this word, and I cringe as I type it...swag, especially when he's with his wife and kids...nothing like a good father and husband, and he's running a country...power in a man, when used right, is sexy as a mug), contender Patrick Dempsey (he truly is McDreamy), etc.

So, fellow readers, who do you think should have been the Sexiest Man Alive? And if you think they made the right choice with Ryan Reynolds, why?

Talk to me.

These Are My Confessions....

2010-11-19T10:47:00.006-05:00

Now this gon' be the hardest thing I think I ever had to do (not really), got me talkin' to myself askin' how I'm gon' tell you...

I'm sitting at work, and instead of me to be doing some spreadsheet they want me to do (they will be VERY alright), I have decided to write a post about very random things about myself. I got this idea from one of my favorite bloggers VSB, and decided to start mine.

**Oh yeah, I know I haven't been blogging much, but trust me, this school/work thing ain't for babies...it's a grown a$$ person's world out here mayne...I will try my best to blog more...I say this all the time, I know, and I mean it**

Here goes:

1. One of my biggest fears is that I will be fat. Not like extra curvy, but like morbidly obese. This makes me shallow, and surprisingly evil, but it scares me. If I weigh more than 175lbs (and this is after I have kids), I think someone will have to take me to Fat Camp, or y'all might as well kill me.

2. I can't match my clothes. Like I have to wear at least 5 colors at a time.....AND, I still look put together..that's cuz I got it like that (3 snaps for the kid)...right now, I am wearing grey skinny jeans, a black and grey striped shirt, a brown and gold pashmina scarf, with purple smokey eyes, and I STILL look good. So when I see Nigerians at a wedding wear yellow lace, with yellow shoes, yellow bag, and yellow gele, I want to cry. That will DEFINITELY not be the case at my wedding.

3. I love to dance. Not like "go to a club and get my groove on" dance, but like "let's make up a dance routine" dance. I can watch a music video like 5 times, and then do the routine.

4. Another one of my fears is that I will die and go to some miserable place. I know I am not the best Christian in the world, but I am trying so very hard, cuz I don't want to end up in some dingy place while all my friends are partyin' it up in a place made out of gold and drinkin pimp juice out of gold pimp cups. Does that even sound right? No?

5. My mother and my brother are who I live for. That is all.

6. I am all for making Nigeria a better place, but living there? No thank you. So how I will help make Nigeria a better place from where I am is still a mystery to me.

7. This will contradict #6, but I am a PROUD Nigerian.

8. I HATE shopping. Omg!!! I can't stand malls. How people can walk from one store to another baffles me. You walk around looking at clothes, only to come out 2 hours later with NOTHING...lemme find a friend take me out, and she don't get nothin'...I will cut a.......*sigh*....Anyway, I do all my shopping online. Luckily I know my body well enough to know what fits me, and if it don't fit (which is rare), I return it for FREE.

9. The way I love to eat, even my boyfriend worries about me. I can eat breakfast, brunch, lunch, evening snack, dinner, and STILL be hungry for a midnight snack. Where it goes, I don't know. Thank God I love to workout, otherwise I would be on the fast track to Fat Camp by now.

10. My left hand is completely useless. Like I can't catch, snap...I can't do ANYTHING with it. I think it is just there so I can look like a normal human being.

That's all I can think of. Oh ye friends, what are some random things about you? C'mon, talk to me.

"Born To Run"

2010-10-19T12:15:00.007-04:00

Today is my father's 24th anniversary.

Twenty-four years ago, the man I called "Daddy" was killed by a letter bomb. How heartless can someone be? We will get to that later.

Pulitzer-Prize winning journalist Dele Olojede wrote a book about my father. "Born to Run - The Story of Dele Giwa" was written in 1987 and it gives details about him that I never knew about. I read about what he went through growing up, and how he got to be one of the most famous men in Nigeria.

The book was very interesting to read. I loved how the writers made you feel like you were part of the events. The conversations my father had with his best friends, with the ladies (did not know he was suave like that...lol) - especially my mother, and with political leaders.

It's funny to see how he was friends with IBB (he was president at the time, and suspected of killing my father), but when the "truth"got out, IBB turned on him. Too much power is not good for anyone.

I was one year old on October 19, 1986, but I don't remember anything. All I know are the stories my mother and everyone else tells me, the pictures that she gave me, and from the book. I strongly believe that I am alive for a reason. I could have been in the study with him and his friend.

God has a plan for everyone. I believe the only reason he died that day was because his purpose had been fulfilled: he left behind five beautiful children, a magazine that did VERY well, and a legacy that NO ONE can touch. To think that this happened twenty-four years ago, and looking at the condition Nigeria is in, I really don't see a difference.

Here is an example:

I read about Cecilia Ibru, the former managing director and CEO of Oceanic International Bank Plc, and how she was arrested for so many crimes, that if I start, I won't stop. She gets six months. SIX MONTHS. There is something very wrong with this. We all know that she will not stay there six months, because she will get out in four due to "good behavior", or a "deteriorating health condition". Bernie Madoff got 150 years. That is just wrong.

And the fact that IBB is running for President in 2012................................................................................I'll leave it at that.

How do you kill someone??? With a letter bomb?? WHY? HOW do you sleep well at night, knowing that you were involved in murder? Call me naive, but maybe I just have a conscience and I have the Holy Spirit dwelling in me, because it really blows my mind the way people think sometimes.

When my father's case went to court, IBB refused to testify. How does that work? Shows that Nigeria has a LONG way to go. All we can do is pray. Pray that justice is done. Pray that Nigeria becomes a better country. Pray that all the wrong people in power will one day pay for every single thing that they have done. Pray that God has mercy on us as a country, because we have SO much potential.

Daddy, I wish I had the chance to meet you and get to know you, because knowing the respect and love people still have for you after 24 years is amazing. I hope you are proud of your children and what we have become and I hope that you are having a great time in Heaven with God because I know that is where you are. Also, I just wanted to say that it's not over. The people who did this WILL suffer, and your death will not be in vain. Continue resting in peace Daddy, and I love you.

Sumonu Oladele "Baines" Giwa

(March 16, 1947 - October 19, 1986)

"another a$$ pic?" "no, that's my stomach"

2010-09-14T18:07:00.001-04:00

That's what my friend said to me when he saw my BBM picture. And that did something to me. Although he didn't mean what he said, it made me think twice about my gymming, or lack thereof.

Ever since the surgery, I have been so lazy with my workout regime. My two-a-days have become three times a week. I love the treadmill, but I need motivation. I see gorgeous Naomi Campbell, stunning Selita Ebanks, beautiful Gisele (who has a child by the way, and she still looks like that), or even Ms. Halle Berry (by the way, apparently some of these women have never stepped foot in the gym) and I think "what if?" what if I push myself, will I lose the 15 lbs I have been tryin to lose since April? What if I just stop working out, what would happen? Ok, that's a stupid question. But still...........

In my family, all the women are full-figured. They are real African women - the hips, the butt....and as sexy as that sounds, when they are in excess, it's not as sexy. I love the women in my family, but I don't want to reach that point. I CAN'T reach that point. Even if it means working out for the rest of my life. Now to find different types of exercise, because I gotta stay lookin' good.

Now a lot of y'all might think I'm insecure (I'm not), and I shouldn't worry about it (I should), and I look good (I know). But I have to be careful, otherwise I will have the hips and ass - in excess.

I love my curves, I know that I will NEVER be stick thin. This a$$ is not going anywhere, that's for damn sure.

VMA Madness

2010-09-13T11:43:00.003-04:00

Hello all!

It has been a while, I know. I was busy with school, two internships, moving....a whoooole bunch of stuff. But now, I can semi-breathe and talk to y'all.

So like, y'all know, the 2010 VMAs were yesterday. Personally, I was ready for some crazy stuff, but the whole thing just left me so *blah*. So let me get into what I liked, and didn't like, and what I thought was just plain random:

-Nicki Minaj, PLEASE what in the name of ass injecting, Bjork pink hair, stupid ASS song hell were you doing at the pre-show? First of all, I didn't understand what she was talking about (I don't think I ever will), and then you bring Will-I'm-Not on the stage....looking like he spent 12980983474598739873475353 days on the beach...homie was BLUCK, not blAck, BLUCK...I think he's talented, but that performance...in short, that just left me with a -_- face.

-Chelsea Handler, I was expecting so much more from you!! I think Ellen Degeneres' ONE joke when she presented "Best Female Video" was better than her hosting. Come to think of it, why didn't they pick Ellen? She had some funny parts (tryna remember some, and it's JUST not coming to me). It's cool that it was the first time in 16 years that they had a woman host the show, but I'm sure even Sarah Silverman could have done a better job......and she's not funny.

-The stage setup this year was CRAZY...

-Were we supposed to be surprised that Rihanna performed? I wasn't. What was she wearing? She needs more people. And Jesus.

-Jersey Shore...the fact that MTV has blown these 8 trashy, overtanned NFA (no future ambition) lamos to epic proportions still boggles my mind. Yes, I do watch Jersey Shore, cuz it just makes me feel better that these 8 trashy, overtanned NFA lamos exist, and I know that I am destined for much better things in life.

-I liked B.o.B's performance. Nothing to write home about, but it was aite.

-Lady Gaga...Lady Gaga...Lady Gaga....how many times did I call your name? The VMAs might as well have been the "2010 Lady Gaga VMAs". Did she not win like every category except Best New Artist (and that was because she wasn't on the list...)???? And she wore MEAT. I think I'm going to become a vegetarian.

On second thought, no one will make me turn away from my steak, chicken, or fish. Sorry.

-And finally, the reason why everyone watched the show: Kanye West. His performance left me speechless, and I'm still trying to figure out if that's a good thing or a bad thing. The ballerinas were just there to occupy space. His song was funny. The guy from the Clipse was still trying to prove to everyone that he is still relevant.

I think that's all I have about this year's show. All in all, I would give it a 6. Not bad, not good. Just there.

Readers, what were YOUR favorite and not-so-favorite moments?

I will be blogging more often. I know I say that a lot, but I have 3 weeks of doing nothing, so you will hear from me a lot more.

What's Goin' On?!

2010-07-14T20:56:00.003-04:00

Hey people,

A lot has been going on...I started summer school, I got back on my #exercisefreak tip (I am SO happy about that), and other things I do not wish to put on blast on the Internet.

But outside of my own lil' unimportant life, the most random things have been happening/have happened:

The World Cup is over!!! Now what am I going to do? It was fun for that month watching all the matches, and screaming at the TV with my bro and boyfriend. One second, they are just dribbling around and the ref is making stupid calls (That referee from Mali.............................enough said); the next second, two goals have been scored. I am going to miss all that. Something needs to be done. Maybe I need to start getting hype about Manchester United again....*drums fingers on table*

Lebron James is now on the Miami Heat. Personally, I really didn't care. But it was amazing just watching the whole world hold their breath on who Lebron was going to choose. Homie even had an HOUR on ESPN to talk about his decision. Shoot, I need to be famous so that the whole world can stop because of ME. Even Dan Gilbert was mad as all hell...people need to calm down. You should be happy for the guy. You were clearly looking out for yourself...LOL..it's okay Dan.

...and while this was going on...

Oscar Grant's killer is guilty for only involuntary manslaughter. After watching the video, I didn't know what to say. Screw procedure. Homie did not have a gun. Johannes Mersehle, you killed someone. That's someone's child. An apology will not bring him back. The jury found Johannes Mehserle guilty of involuntary manslaughter, and not guilty of both the second-degree murder and voluntary manslaughter charges. From Sean Bell to this, when will it stop?

...and still going on...

BP needs to step their game up.

Christina Milian and The-Dream separated. First Halle Berry, then Christina Milian...ummm, is there any hope for us women? I mean, money and talent can make ANY man hot and can take him places. But a woman's looks can only go so far. If you don't have the brains to go with it, the man will find it somewhere else...all about the whole package.

...and then the most random thing...

A "picture" of Nigerian artist Wande Coal leaked out. It was so bad to the point that he was #1 trending topic on Twitter. I had to ask my boyfriend if he died, because I don't understand why a picture that may not be him was such a big deal. Whoever the chick is, go to school, get a job, in fact, GET A LIFE. That's all. And Wande Coal, if that IS you, it's not by force to sleep with all your groupies...smh. Girls are crazy. Rub them the wrong way, and you just may see a naked picture of yourself online.

As you can see, so much important and unimportant stuff has happened. I promise to blog more often.

ADG™

World Cup Madness!!

2010-06-25T10:42:00.005-04:00

The World Cup is back!

This is the time for women to get into one of man's favorite sports. Your man would love you even more. But don't force it. If you can't get into it, here are some rules you should follow:

1. Between 11 June and 11 July 2010, you should read the sports section of the newspaper so that you are aware of what is going on regarding the World of Soccer, and that way you will be able to join in the conversations. If you fail to do this, then you will be looked at in a bad way, or you will be totally ignored. DO NOT complain about not receiving any attention.

2. During the World Cup, the television is mine, at all times, without any exceptions. If you even take a glimpse of the remote control, you will lose it (your eye).

3. If you have to pass by in front of the TV during a game, I don't mind, as long as you do it crawling on the floor and without distracting me.

4. During the games I will be blind, deaf and mute, unless I require a refill of my drink or something to eat. You are out of your mind if you expect me to listen to you, open the door, answer the telephone, or pick up the baby that just fell on the floor....It won't happen.

5. It would be a good idea for you to keep at least 2 six packs in the fridge at all times, as well as plenty of things to nibble on (excluding your body parts), and please do not make any funny faces to my friends when they come over to watch the games. In return, you will be allowed to use the TV between 12am and 6am, unless they replay a good game that I missed during the day.

6. Please, please, please!! If you see me upset because one of my team is losing, DO NOT say "get over it, it's only a game", or "don't worry, they'll win next time". If you say these things, you will only make me angrier and I will love you less. Remember, you will never ever know more about football than me and your so called "words of encouragement" will only lead to a break up or divorce.

7. You are welcome to sit with me to watch one game and you can talk to me during halftime but only when the commercials are on, and only if the half time scores is pleasing me. In addition, please note I am saying "one" game; hence do not use the World Cup as a nice cheesy excuse to "spend time together".
8. The replays of the goals are very important. I don't care if I have seen them or I haven't seen them, I want to see them again, Many times.

9. Tell your friends NOT to have any babies, or any other child related parties or gatherings that requires my attendance because:
a) I will not go,
b) I will not go, and
c) I will not go.

10. But, if a friend of mine invites us to his house on a Sunday to watch a game, we will be there in a flash.

11. The daily World Cup highlights show on TV every night is just as important as the games themselves. Do not even think about saying "but you have already seen this...why don't you change the channel to something we can all watch?" because, the reply will be, "Refer to Rule #2 of this list".

12. And finally, please save your expressions such as "Thank God the World Cup is only every 4 years". I am immune to these words, because before and after this comes the Champions League,Premier League, Super 14, Spanish League, KPL, Grand Prix, Tri Nations, hell, even WrestleMania, etc.

P.S. By the way if you get stuck on the road call 911 or RAPID RESPONSE SQUAD cos I won’t pick my phone

I love football (soccer is so....American), and I can watch it all day. You don't know what could happen...one minute they are passing the ball, and then, someone scores. Always so exciting. And the misses (a.k.a. lago) make my day. The goal was wide open, but you couldn't get it in. Yakubu.

Watching the games give me a reason to wake up early, to shout at my TV (more than usual), and to run around like a crazy person (again, more than usual). Football is just so...fun. And plus there are some foine players on the field, which just makes it even more interesting.

This year, though, I have to say that the World Cup goes to anyone. Brazil always bringing their A game (not surprised), Argentina is still in top form (they better be with Maradona for a coach), Germany is...ehhh *tilting hand back and forth*, Netherlands still show up at their games, USA, surprisingly, is trying (watching the World Cup in the States though is one of the worst mistakes you can make. As you're watching a game that doesn't involve Team USA, commentators are blabbing about "Team USA"...). On the other hand, you have teams that should be part of the final 16, but just didn't show up like they should. France. Cameroon. Nigeria (should we be surprised though?). Italy.

I wish all the teams the best. Hopefully, you don't get act stupid and step on someone's thigh. Kaita.

ADG™

Rape-aXe: anti-Rape or pro-Murder?

2010-06-25T10:14:00.004-04:00

When you look at that, what do you see? I see torture. I see one BIG mistake. Don't get me wrong, rape is WRONG WRONG WRONG, but if this is the way to catch the perp, ummmm...you are only pushing the man to kill the woman.

And clearly, this is only for male rapists. There ARE female rapists out there, but I guess for Sonnette Ehlers, she is protecting the women in South Africa - where this was created.

This is Rape-aXe, an anti-rape condom worn by a woman like it is a tampon. If she is attacked and the perp is trying to escape, the razor sharp barbs will attach to the penis, making it extremely painful for the perp. He will not be able to walk or pee, and it has to be surgically removed by a doctor.

So much sounds so wrong there.

1) Razor sharp barbs????!

2) Surgically removed by the doctor????!

3) Razor sharp barbs?????!

I don't even have a penis, and all I can say is OUCH!!! So this doesn't even PREVENT rape, it just stops it from the guy doing it a second time. They were handing this thing out during a World Cup match y'all!!! I don't know what I would do if I saw it. The woman can't even remove it herself, she has to go to a doctor. But wait...a woman puts it on, walking around with this thing. I mean, where is she going to go get raped? I know NO ONE asks to get hurt (unless you stupid), but it's like wearing Rape-aXe you are daring someone to hurt you. Like whaaa....? I don't even know what to say about this anymore.

On the website's Q&A section (her responses stay crackin' me up..."He will have some explaining to do to his wife or girlfriend how he encountered those scars"...LMAO), someone pointed out that HIV/AIDS could spread, and Ehlers said that the sheath of the condom protects any leakage into the woman. First of all, call me ignorant, or just plain stubborn, but I refuse to believe that. Are you serious??? Should the woman worry about AIDS when she's probably gonna be dead after the guy has killed her?!

I'm still trying to get past the razor sharp barbs.

I know some people will have some things to say about this new contraption. So comment.

Oh and if you like, check out the Rape-aXe website.

ADG™

The Other (Wo)man

2010-06-14T23:58:00.009-04:00

I know it has been a while since I blogged. I have been a busy bee with school. And now that it is over (got my A!!), I am gonna be all over this blog like white on rice. There's quite a bit to talk about, so bear with me as you see a plethora of topics.

Going back to something I blogged about a while back, I have decided to continue on that subject. When the husband cheats on the wife who has decided to stay with him, the woman he is cheating with is what we black folk call a "home wrecker". Don't get me wrong, this word is unisex, because women cheat too. But I will be speaking from a female point of view. This "home wrecker"...well...wrecks homes. She comes into a "happy" home, and starts sleeping with the husband. As time goes on, the husband starts to come home late, pick unnecessary fights with his wife, and just generally abandons his family. The home wrecker has taken the wife's place.

But does the woman not realize that it will happen to her? I mean, what made her think she was special? If they were meant to be together, I'm sorry, but he would have been with her in the first place. Now, men don't even wait for their divorces to be final before they are seen with other women. Homegirl can't even wait.

This has been happening for years, but no one has been talking about it. A spouse cheats, and people look the other way (like my mother's generation). And then we have the celebrities who feel like because they have money, all sense of morality is gone. From Gabrielle Union (never liked the chick anyway) to our favorite "Superwoman" Alicia Keys (my respect for her has gone from up there to negative infinity), these women think that it's okay. Dang, wait for the divorce to be final!!! Sheesh...fair enough, it looks like Dwyane Wade's ex-wife is on some other crazy ish, but still don't make it right for Gabby to just screw someone else's man. Alicia on the other hand....girrrrrl, for that child's sake, I hope you are the last baby mama/wife. Cuz poor baby got three other half- brothers and sisters, and 3's a crowd, don't you think?

I have been the home wrecker before. Back in my naive days. When I had no care in the world but my own. I was dating a guy who had a girlfriend, and after some time, he left her for me. I was so happy because I felt so special. Here I was thinking that we would be together forever. A few months later, he meets someone else, and I was left alone. I tell ya, Karma didn't have mercy on me. That b*tch bit me HARD in my toosh. And it hurt. So anyone who decides to take upon that role of "home wrecker", beware, it may feel and look all good and sweet in the beginning, but it never ends well. You may end up with the man, but trust you are not special. He will do it again. And trust me, I have no bit of bitterness. It's just the truf.

What say ye, readers? Please comment.

ADG

Is It Your Body...?

2010-05-19T00:59:00.002-04:00

People who know me, know that I am OBSESSED with the gym...they know that I love the treadmill, and I will do boot camp classes everyday if I had the money (I can't wait to be rich, first thing I pay for is a year-long gym membership...packed with different classes to take..I canNOT wait!!)

Anyway, I digress. I went to dinner with a couple of friends, and they were telling me how good I looked, that I had put on weight, and I looked "healthy". Anyone who is conscious about the way they look know that "healthy" is just a nice way of saying "fat". I got curves now, I'm 5'10, and I don't look fat. In fact, I am not fat. Fair enough, when they saw me a couple of months back at a restaurant, my cheekbones were protruding like I hadn't eaten in days (I had just eaten before going to the restaurant! Yes, I love food..and what?!)

After they said that (we were at Nando's, I got two pieces of chicken, fried rice AND mashed potatoes), I started to think about my goals health-wise. What did I want to look like? How much do I want to lose? etc. blah blah. yaddi yaddi yadda.

Fair enough, the surgery really set me back about 15 pounds. I couldn't work out for a MONTH, and all I did in that month was eat like I was going to prison for life and I was never going to see good food again (random comparison, but hey, you get the point). Now that I am working out, I am really trying to get back into the swing of things. I used to go to boot camp sessions, I think I am going to start that again, because I do not like the way I look. I want to lose 10 pounds (AND KEEP IT OFF), I want those nice abs I had before. I want my thighs to shrink a couple inches. The body I have now is the body I want after I have kids. I have no children, I should not be looking like this. Call me crazy, but I am not. I am not anorexic. I KNOW I am not bulimic, don't believe in that crap. Those girls are crazy. I still love to eat, but I also love to work out. I just need to work out more. But I can't push myself just yet. Hopefully in the next month or so, I have stepped my gym game up and I am back to how I used to look.

Let's look at Naomi Campbell. Imagine if she put on about 30 pounds. She wouldn't look nice. And if you look at Crystal Renn (who used to be skinny, but is now a plus-size model), she didn't look nice when she was skinny, but she is STUNNING and "healthy" now. So it depends on the person, and what they are comfortable in. I know I will be comfortable in a 155-160 pound body.

See that picture of Naomi Campbell? Add about 12 pounds, and that's what I want. I will get there. Watch me.

Okay, going back to this paper. Hope you guys are well. How I miss blogging. Will get back to it in 3 weeks. Hopefully, I am inspired to blog.

Happiness Projects

2010-05-14T12:36:00.002-04:00

Hey guys, it's been a while I know. I have been sooo busy with school, it's not even funny.

BUT...

I still take time during the day to reminisce about the GOOD things that happened to me that day. And I do it on my Tumblr page. I have decided to save this blog for more important thoughts.

So I encourage you to go to my tumblr page and just take a look at the random things I find.

Enjoy.

ADG

Happiness Project, Day 20

2010-05-10T23:57:00.001-04:00

Did two-a-days…I’m getting back on my gym grind!! :)
Got two pairs of sandals in the mail…no more having to wear heels..for a while anyway :)
Devotional today was OFF THE CHAIN (check quote about taking the initiative)…making moves!! LET’S GO!!

Happiness Project, Day 20

2010-05-10T12:58:00.000-04:00

Happy Mother’s Day to the best mother EVER…if I came back as another person, I would still come back as me, not only because I am that GREAT ;), but because I still want her as my mother
Watched Iron Man 2 with the bruv….great times as usual
Got to walk again :) I miss it…
Talked with my baby allll day, even at the movies…hehe…yes, it’s called multitasking..u should try it.

Happiness Project, Days 18 &19

2010-05-09T12:01:00.000-04:00

Finished my Power Point and transcript…might as well have done the paper, but I’m happy it’s done!! :) Thanks to the two people who helped me
Spent the day with my baby :)..thought I wasn’t going to see him till next week, but nope… :)
My bff graduated! and my brother turned 19!
my brother came in from Boston
Went to dinner…very delish!
Spent the whole day with my king, my friend, my love :) BLISS!

Happiness Project, Days 16 & 17

2010-05-06T23:54:00.001-04:00

Went to the gym
Cooked up a STORM…asaro, fried rice, beef/oxtail stew, chicken stew. My mother has taught me well. #imbad #wifelyduties
Worked some more on my presentation…looks like it’s gonna be a long night.
I only have two slides left!!
Watched Grey’s and Private Practice…I can NEVER get tired of those two shows…Shonda, you rock!
Wasn’t hungry all day today, but I had to eat…is that a good thing or bad thing? Hmmmm

Happiness Project, Day 15

2010-05-05T00:37:00.001-04:00

Got a fair amount of work done…gonna be a long night! :)
Got an A in the interview I did two weeks ago :) :) Thank You Jesus, and thank you baby
Gym is going along great :)
Went grocery shopping today!!! Can’t wait to cook up a storm tomorrow

Happiness Project, Days 13 &14

2010-05-04T13:08:00.000-04:00

Went to church w/ my king…couldn't have gotten any better.

Ate at TGIF, full rack o’ ribs…whatttt????

Went to the gym…wanted to do two-a-days,but I got one in :)

Did some reading..today I go hard :)

Happiness Project, Days 11 & 12

2010-05-01T23:24:00.001-04:00

Went to the doctor for a follow-up...all is well...thank God :)
Got my nails done...needed to reward myself
Went to the gym..feels good to be getting back in shape :)
Went to the first annual Spring Fling (Art of Seduction) hosted by PartyAddicts, good times
Went to Ping Pong restaurant in DC w/ my king...great 1-on-1 time w/ my love...y'all should go, I LOVE IT!! :)
My king got me a present!!! :) I love you...thank you :)
Submitted my 750-word assignment...DONE AND DONE!! :)
Found this new texting app on my BB, called crunchSMS...y'all should get it if you have a BB...it's pretty cool :)

This "happiness project" thing is amazing...it really makes you stop and think about the good things that have happened...the bad things are so unnecessary and so unimportant. Thank God for God, and thank Him for the great little things He has given to us.

Happiness Project, Day 10

2010-04-30T01:48:00.001-04:00

Got to speak to one of my closest friends in Geneva…talked for nearly 3 hours…happy birthday girlie! :)
Did most of my 750 word writeup…just need to tweak it a little bit..thank God for progress
Spoke to my king today…he is so amazing! I love you
Watched Grey’s and Private Practice, and Pete & Addison won (yay!!), even though I pitied Violet after a while…Shonda Rhimes is an amazing writer I tell ya!
Had the most amazing time talking to God…I feel peace in my heart, even though there’s so much craziness around me. Thank God for that inner calm.

Gossip Girl...or Boy...

2010-04-28T23:26:00.003-04:00

We are all guilty of hearing some kind of gist and spreading it. Maybe it's to look "cool", because we want to know everything and have people come to us and get the 411 on everything/everyone. Maybe we don't like the person, and we want to see the person generally suffer. Maybe we just don't like ourselves.

Last weekend, a friend of mine FROM LONDON text me and told me that there were some things about ME going round. The things she told me made me laugh SO HARD because I was expecting something worse.

How did my personal life reach London? Like, WORD? People need to find better things to do. And please leave my name out of your mouth. I like that you talk about me, but if they are not good things, please SHUT UP and go kick rocks with an open-toe shoe.

At a certain point, I found myself trying to DEFEND MYSELF, saying it wasn't true. And I had to pinch myself, and remember that I answer to NOBODY. God has forgiven and forgotten my sins, so WHO ARE YOU AGAIN? .......................................*silence*...................................thought as much.

I digress.

I won't lie, gist is "sweet"...it's interesting to hear what people say about other people. And I won't lie, I have been a victim of spreading too...I'm not perfect. Very far from it. So starting from today, I am going to make a conscious effort (through my physical actions and more importantly, PRAYER) to STOP...I don't get anything from talking about people. It does not add, but it definitely takes my TIME away. Time I could be using to do more important things.

I recommend everyone does this. Easier said than done. Fair enough, the world would be a bit dry, but everyone's business remains THEIR business and no one else's.

Happiness Project, Day 9

2010-04-28T23:22:00.000-04:00

Mummy got home safe...thank God for journey mercies :)
Walked all the way to the bus stop...fast...and I didn't feel like passing out
I was PRAYING that I hadn't missed the bus...Just as I was walking to the bus stop, the bus came...God, You are too good :)
Gave a presentation BY MYSELF on Dress Code, and I KILLED IT!! Even the prof said it was a job well done.
Saw my king today...the more I see him, the more I fall in love with him :)
Ate a bacon cheeseburger from the diner across the street from me..OFF THE CHAIN!
I am just generally happy. And I have God to thank for that :)