Smile, Be Positive

Discover Your Purpose in Lfe

2015-10-20T08:18:00.000+04:00

Not many people really know, what they want to

do with their life . you need to ask yourself ?

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

“Beauty is the purest feeling of the soul. Beauty arises when soul is satisfied.”

― Amit Ray, Nonviolence: The Transforming Power.

'Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I need to listen to my life to tell me who I am,"

I would share with you few beautiful life changing lessons to learn from Khalil Gibran.hope to help to find your path of life purpose search.

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”

“If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember.”

“When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.”

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

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Book - Eat that Frog The ability to concentrate singlemindedly on your most important task, to do it well and to finish it completely, is the key to great success, achievement, respect, status, and happiness in life.
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Thinking outside the box

2013-06-20T15:40:00.001+04:00

Those of you who have even a slight mechanic’s mind will love this.
You don’t have to be an engineer to appreciate this story...

A toothpaste factory had a problem. They sometimes shipped empty boxes without the tube of toothpaste inside. This challenged their perceived quality with the buyers and distributors. Understanding how important the relationship with them was, the CEO of the company assembled all of his top people. They decided to hire an external engineering company to solve their empty boxes problem. The project followed the usual process: budget and project sponsor allocated, RFP, and third-parties selected.
Six months (and $8 million) later they had a fantastic solutution - on time, on budget, and high quality. Everyone in the project was pleased.

They solved the problem by using a high-tech precision scale that would sound a bell and flash lights whenever a toothpaste box weighed less than it should. The line would stop, someone would walk over, remove the defective box, and then press another button to re-start the line. As a result of the new package monitoring process, no empty boxes were being shipped out of the factory.
With no more customer complaints, the CEO felt the $8 million was well spent. At the end of the first month, he reviewed the line statistics report and discovered the number of empty boxes picked up by the scale in the first week was consistent with projections, however, the next three weeks were zero! The estimated rate should have been at least a dozen boxes a day. He had the engineers check the equipment and they verified the report as accurate.
Puzzled, the CEO travelled down to the factory, viewed the part of the line where the precision scale was installed, and observed that just ahead of the new $8 million dollar solution sat a $20 desk fan blowing the empty boxes off the belt and into a bin. He asked the line supervisor what that was about.

"Oh, that," the supervisor replied,"Bert, the kid from maintenance, put it there because he was tired of walking over, removing the box and re-starting the line every time the bloody bell rang.”

Law of Attraction

2013-06-06T21:08:00.001+04:00

Everything around us is made up of energy. To attract positive things in your life, start by giving off positive energy.” – Celestine Chua

The Law of Attaraction it gained popularity today from the book named "The Secret". Today you hear people talking about it as it is a new discovery,maybe it is.

The law of attraction is the name given to the belief that "like attracts like" and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative into their life.

For example you've even attracted reading this article!

There are really only three golden basic rules:
1. Ask - What you really want, put them on the paper.
2.Believe - You have to believe, you will have what you want.
3.Receive - Feel it and trust the universe thay your desire comes true.

A simple way to understand it is to focus on positive things you want and ignore what you don't want.

"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”~ Napoleon Hill.

The Seed Story

2013-06-06T00:46:00.001+04:00

In the Far East the There was once an There was once an Emperor from China who had no children and needed to choose a successor.

Thousands of children from across the kingdom came to the palace and were surprised when the Emperor exclaimed that he was going to choose one of them. He gave them all a seed. They were to go home to their villages, plant the seed in a pot and tend it for a year. When they return in a year, the Emperor would judge their efforts and choose his successor.

There was a boy named Ling who received his seed and returned to his village.

His mother helped him to choose a pot and put some soil into it.

Ling watered his pot every day.

Once a week, the children of the village would get together to compare their plants. After a few weeks, there were signs of life in all but Ling’s pot.

The weeks passed and Ling continued to water his pot every day.

After a few months, the pots really came to life. Some had trees starting to grow, some had flowers and some had leafy shrubs. Poor old Ling still had nothing growing in his pot, leading the other children to make fun of him.

Ling continued to water his pot every day.

A year passed and it was time to return to the palace to show what had grown and decide on the new heir.

Ling was anxious as his pot still showed no signs of life. “What if they punish me? They won’t know that I’ve watered it every day, they’ll think that I’m lazy.”

His mother looked him in the eye and explained that whatever the consequences were, he had to return and show the Emperor his barren pot.

Ling and the other children entered the palace gates. By now, some of the plants were looking magnificent and the children were wondering which one the Emperor would choose.

Ling was embarrassed as other children looked at his lifeless pot and scoffed.

The Emperor came out and started to make his way through the crowd, looking at the many impressive trees, shrubs and flowers that were on display. The boys all puffed their chests out and tried to look as regal as possible, hoping that they would be chosen as the heir to the empire.

Then the Emperor came to Ling. He looked at the pot then he looked at Ling.

“What happened here?” He asked.

“I watered the pot every day, but nothing ever grew.” Ling muttered nervously.

Then he grumbled something to himself and moved on.

After a few hours, the Emperor finally finished his assessment.

He stood in front of the children and congratulated them on their efforts.

“Clearly, some of you desperately want to be Emperor and would do anything to make that happen, but there is one boy that I would like to point out as he has come to me with nothing. Ling, come here please.”

“Oh no,” thought Ling. He slowly sauntered to the front of the group, holding his barren pot.

There was a boy named Ling who received his seed and returned to his village.

His mother helped him to choose a pot and put some soil into it.

Ling watered his pot every day.

Once a week, the children of the village would get together to compare their plants. After a few weeks, there were signs of life in all but Ling’s pot.

The weeks passed and Ling continued to water his pot every day.

Ling continued to water his pot every day.

A year passed and it was time to return to the palace to show what had grown and decide on the new heir.

Ling was anxious as his pot still showed no signs of life. “What if they punish me? They won’t know that I’ve watered it every day, they’ll think that I’m lazy.”

His mother looked him in the eye and explained that whatever the consequences were, he had to return and show the Emperor his barren pot.

Ling and the other children entered the palace gates. By now, some of the plants were looking magnificent and the children were wondering which one the Emperor would choose.

Ling was embarrassed as other children looked at his lifeless pot and scoffed.

Then the Emperor came to Ling. He looked at the pot then he looked at Ling.

“What happened here?” He asked.

“I watered the pot every day, but nothing ever grew.” Ling muttered nervously.

Then he grumbled something to himself and moved on.

After a few hours, the Emperor finally finished his assessment.

He stood in front of the children and congratulated them on their efforts.

“Oh no,” thought Ling. He slowly sauntered to the front of the group, holding his barren pot.

The Emperor held up the pot for all to see and the other children laughed. Then the Emperor continued, “A year ago, I gave you all a seed. I told you to go away, plant the seed and return with your plant. The seeds that I gave you all were boiled until they were no longer viable and wouldn’t grow, but I see before me thousands of plants and only one barren pot. Integrity and courage are more important values for leadership than proud displays, so Ling here will be my heir.” was growing old and knew it was time to choose his successor. Instead of choosing one of his assistants or his children, he decided to do something different. He called young people in the kingdom together one day. He said, ""It is time for me to step down and choose the next emperor. I have decided to choose one of you." The children were shocked, but the emperor continued. "I am going to give each one of you a seed today--one very special seed. I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from this one seed. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next emperor."

One boy, named Ling, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his mother the story. She helped him get a pot and planting soil, and he planted the seed and watered it, carefully. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other youths began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow. Ling kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew. Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants, but Ling didn't have a plant and he felt like a failure. Six months went by--still nothing in Ling's pot.

He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Ling didn't say anything to his friends, however. He just kept waiting for his seed to grow. A year finally went by and all the youths of the kingdom brought their plants to the emperor for inspection. Ling told his mother that he wasn't going to take an empty pot. But his mother asked him to be honest about what happened.

Ling felt sick at his stomach, but he knew his mother was right. He took his empty pot to the palace. When Ling arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other youths. They were beautiful--in all shapes and sizes. Ling put his empty pot on the floor and many of the other children laughed at him. A few felt sorry for him and just said, "Hey, nice try."

When the emperor arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted the young people. Ling just tried to hide in the back. "My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown," said the emperor. "Today one of you will be appointed the next emperor!"

All of a sudden, the emperor spotted Ling at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered his guards to bring him to the front. Ling was terrified. He thought, "The emperor knows I'm a failure! Maybe he will have me killed!"

When Ling got to the front, the Emperor asked his name. "My name is Ling," he replied. All the kids were laughing and making fun of him. The emperor asked everyone to quiet down. He looked at Ling, and then announced to the crowd, "Behold your new emperor! His name is Ling!"

Ling couldn't believe it. Ling couldn't even grow his seed. How could he be the new emperor?

Then the emperor said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone here a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds that would not grow. All of you, except Ling, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Ling was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new emperor!"

Life without Limits

2013-06-05T23:46:00.001+04:00

This book is a true inspirational, it deserves a read.

Life without Limits: Inspiration for a Ridiculously Good Life – Nick Vujicic

Nick Vujicic Despite being born with no arms or legs, Nick Vujicic lives an incredible life, inspiring and motivating people around the globe. This book tells his story of how he came to live a rich and fulfilling life and became a role model for those seeking true happiness. In this book he encourages the reader to accept what you cannot control in life and focus instead on what you can, in the same way he has had to.

Life is a Journey

2013-06-05T22:22:00.001+04:00

Someone has well said, “Success is a journey, not a destination.” Happiness is to be found along the way, not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it is too late. Today, this hour, this minute is the day, the hour, the minute for each of us to sense the fact that life is good, with all its trials and troubles and perhaps more interesting because of them. Robert R. Updegraff

Some men see things as they are and say “why”; I dream of things that never were and say “why not.” George Bernard Shaw

Optimistic vs. Pessimistic

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Pessimisti. vs optimistic Optimism is a mental attitude or world view that interprets situations and events as being best (optimized), meaning that in some way for factors that may not be fully comprehended, the present moment is in an optimum state. A common example used to illustrate optimism vs. pessimism is a glass with water,where the optimist is said to see the glass as half full, but the pessimist sees the glass as half empty. It's not that optimism solves all of life's problems; it is just that it can sometimes make the difference between coping and collapsing.LUCY MACDONALD, Learn to Be an Optimistic

Emotional intelligence

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Keeping Life Simple

2012-12-25T09:11:00.004+04:00

A simple life

Sometimes, it's the little things in life that are make us happy.

What are little things that makes you happy?

Entire Sea of Water Cant Sink A ship

2012-12-23T13:37:00.002+04:00

Wheel of Life

2012-12-16T09:08:00.001+04:00

Treat life like a ferris wheel ride....you must get past the fear to enjoy the view.

- Linda Poindexter

“Life was such a wheel that no man could stand upon it for long. And it always, at the end, came round to the same place again.”

― Stephen King, The Stand

Buddha Quote

2012-12-11T11:15:00.002+04:00

These are few my favourite quotes, I read them time to time to get positive kick.

Tactical thinking vs. Strategic thinking

2012-12-02T15:03:00.001+04:00

Do you know the difference between "Doing things right" and "Doing the right things"

Strategy is the goal, tactics are the steps

I like to think of strategy as "where you want to go" and tactics as "how you're going to get there"..

I talked about the difference between Tactical thinking and Strategic thinking. In a nutshell, Tactical thinking is “doing things right,” while Strategic thinking is “doing the right things.” Strategic thinking is typically leadership: creating the vision. Whereas Tactical thinking is management: implementing the vision.

What is a SUCCESS

2012-12-02T15:00:00.003+04:00

Success consists of doing

the common things of life

uncommonly well.

– Unknown

Many people wonder how they can become successful.

This quote explains what becoming successful means in

the most simple terms. Truly successful people have

integrity, a strong work ethic, a desire to succeed, and

tenacity to keep working even when it seems that things

aren’t going well. They don’t give up easily, rather they

keep moving forward regardless of the number of times

they are knocked back.

✤

Be honest

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Work hard

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Don’t give up

Self-Reflection Questions:

I. Do I always act in an honest way? Do I show integrity?

II. Do I give my employer an honest day’s work for what I’m paid?

III. Am I determined to succeed without giving up?

A Simple Life

2012-05-26T11:45:00.000+04:00

Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple,
and the simple thing is the right thing.
- Oscar Wilde

Life still is easy and it always will be but it all depend on how we see it and preseve it. To start positively say to yourself "I love simplifying my life". and I will make it more effective, less stressful,calmer,energetic and happier. simple as that. A commentment for a life.

1. Be kind. Be kind to other people and especially to yourself.

2. Stop worring. If anything can go wrong -- it will. - Murphy's Law.

3. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

4. The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.

5. Stop trying to impress people by being someone you're not because in the end, you'll lose yourself. (Anonymous).

6. Try new things;try to do one new thing, or try to do one thing differently.Just One Thing and have fun.try mind mapping.

7. Pay off your debt. Do everything in your power to be debt free

8. Set your priorities and find the time, to do them.

9. Stop complaining : BE GRATIFUL TO LIFE

How to Motivate Yourself

2012-05-23T12:53:00.002+04:00

1. Make a deal or a resolution with yourself. It is important getting things done. You can make small or large deal to yourself,or just start with 1% change concept, which is just do small changes till you are ready for big step change.

"For every person who doubts you, tells you, you will fail, try twice as hard to prove them wrong. ~ Anonymous"

2.Set your GOAL, do What Matters Most – Prioritizing your goals is very subjective. Many of us leave the least desirable tasks till the end, possibly avoiding them forever. If this seems to be your problem, start by asking yourself what really matters. If you have things you truly care about you must put those items first to be done.

"People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. ~ Norman Vincent Peale"

3.Make It a Habit – Research has shown that after 21 days something repeated becomes a habit. Meaning, that if you continually do something, eventually you will embrace it as a habit and will continue to do it.

4.Go at your own pace - this is your journey and nobody elses. Take your time and do what you have do.

"You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought, you are stuck with something below your true talent and potential."
Steve Garvey

Tae-ho the amazing kid

2012-05-06T14:51:00.001+04:00

Yu Tae-ho was born in the year 2000 in South Korea. He was born with congenital deformity and has no arms (just like Nick Vujicic). With 2 slightly deformed legs with 4 toes on each legs, Tae-ho has mastered most of the skills for survival and is a very positive child that most of us should learn from. Despite the hardship that he faces each day, he is still jovial and happy to be alive. In fact, he prefers to live an independent life instead of one that relies on the help of others around him.
he is very positive person living life for the fullest.

YOU CAN TOO

Oprah Winfrey Quote

2012-05-05T11:08:00.000+04:00

Oprah Winfrey:

“Don’t get confused between what people say you are and who you know you are.”

“The stories you tell yourself can make or break you — no matter who you are.”

“You can step out of your history and the past and write a new story for yourself.”

“Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.”

“You don’t become what you wish for, you become what you believe.”

“There is no life without a spiritual life.”

“We are all spiritual beings having a human experience.”

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Belive Nothing by Budda

2011-06-07T15:46:00.000+04:00

Funny Quotes I like.

2011-05-18T12:43:00.000+04:00

Here are few funniest quotes, i really like. hope you like it too.

• A man's got to believe in something. I believe I'll have another drink.

• Women are like Elephants. I like to watch them, but I wouldn't want to own one. WC Fields

• Everything is funny, as long as it happens to somebody else!!.Will Rogers

• Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.

• The man who doesn’t read good books has no advantage over the man who can’t read them. Mark Twain

• If a man smiles all the time, he’s probably selling something that doesn’t work.

• The reason they call it the American Dream is because you have to be asleep to believe it. George Carlin

• “There’s nothing wrong with being gay. I have plenty of friends that are going to hell.” Steven Colbert

• Men want the same thing from their underwear that they want from women: a little bit of support, and a little bit of freedom. Jerry Seinfeld

• “Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company.” Mark Twain

• “God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time.”. Robin Williams

• Here's all you have to know about men and women:women are crazy, men are stupid, and the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. george carlin

We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up. Phyllis Diller

One of the lessons of history is that Nothing is often a good thing to do and always a clever thing to say. Will Durant

Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invaribly they are both disappointed. Albert Einstein
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. Sacha Guitry.
Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day.unknown.
Why is it that as soon as politicians get elected they believe our money belongs to them?
Good sex is like good Bridge: if you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand." Mae West
"When I was in school the teachers told me practice makes perfect; then they told me nobodys perfect so I stopped practicing. Steven Wright.
“You know the world is going crazy when the best rapper is a white guy, the best golfer is a black guy, the tallest guy in the NBA is Chinese, the Swiss hold the America’s Cup, France is accusing the U.S. of arrogance, Germany doesn’t want to go to war, and the three most powerful men in America are named ‘Bush’, ‘Dick’, and ‘Colon.’ Need I say more?”

If you any funny quote, please, share it.

Texting can go wrong!

2011-05-14T13:08:00.000+04:00

Life Skills

2011-05-09T14:22:00.000+04:00

What is life skill? World Health Oragnizaton defined life skills as, "the abilities for adaptive and positive behavior that enable individuals to deal effectively with the demands and challenges of everyday life". Life skills helps adolescents translate knowledge, attitudes and Values into healthy behavior.

1. Don’t worry too much.

"Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry: Worry never fixes anything." Ernest Hemingway

We all In life once in a while, we have to face some problems and difficulties. However, this does not mean that one must dwell on it and stop going on with their life. These problems and difficulties are resolved easier with the help of a positive thinking. Smile, Be Positive.

“Ninety percent of the things we tend to worry about we have no control over, so why worry about them?"

“What were you worried about this time last year? Can't remember? “

2. Be Happy : Nobody is happy all of the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled. Happiness is a state of mind. You can change your state of mind in many ways including; You know what’s make you happy and do things that make you happy. Be happy.

"What is past is past ... and now you know the fourth great law of happiness and success ..."

Use wisely, your power of choice.
Choose to love ... rather than hate.
Choose to laugh ... rather than cry.
Choose to create ... rather than destroy.
Choose to persevere ... rather than quit.
Choose to praise ... rather than gossip.
Choose to heal ... rather than wound.
Choose to give ... rather than steal.
Choose to act ... rather than procrastinate.
Choose to grow ... rather than rot.
Choose to pray ... rather than curse.
Choose to live ... rather than die.

3. Be Grateful For Life : Take time to appreciate the fact that you are still there, standing, breathing and seeing all those things around you. Think of how lucky you are for still having another day to live.

4. Critical thinking skills/Decision-making skills – Critical thinking clarifies goals, examines assumptions, discerns hidden values, evaluates evidence, accomplishes actions, and assesses conclusions."Critical" as used in the expression "critical thinking" connotes the importance or centrality of the thinking to an issue, question or problem of concern. "Critical" in this context does not mean "disapproval" or "negative." There are many positive and useful uses of critical thinking, for example formulating a workable solution to a complex personal problem, deliberating as a group about what course of action to take, or analyzing the assumptions and the quality of the methods used in scientifically arriving at a reasonable level of confidence about a given hypothesis.

Source (http://en.wikipedia.org/) Decisionmaking/ problem solving skills and information gathering skills. The individual must also be skilled at evaluating the future consequences of their present actions and the actions of others. They need to be able to determine alternative solutions and to analyze the influence of their own values and the values of those around them.

5. Live a Healthy Life :The trick is to make small changes in your daily live; taking more steps, adding fruit to your cereal, eat Food that is low in fat content,having an extra glass of water, sugar content is another plus.. Sucrose is the bad kind of sugar and Glucose is the good kind of sugar these are just a few ways you can start living healthy without drastic changes.
6.Emotional Intelligence :Emotional intelligence is a different way of being smart. It includes knowing what your feelings are and using your feelings to make good decisions in life. It's being able to manage distressing moods well and control impulses. It's being motivated and remaining hopeful and optimistic when you have setbacks in working toward goals. It's empathy; knowing what the people around you are feeling. And it's social skill—getting along well with other people, managing emotions in relationships, being able to persuade or lead others," (O'Neil, 1996, p. 6).

Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, developed a framework of five elements that define emotional intelligence:

1.Self-awareness is a person's ability to understand and be aware of their feelings and moods. Self-awareness helps a person keep an eye on their thoughts and emotions so they can better understand why they feel a particular way.
2.Managing emotions This skill helps people display their emotions in socially appropriate ways. It helps one control anger, sadness, and fear.
3.Motivation helps a person use their emotions to reach their goals. It helps them hold back their impulses and delay gratification to reach these goals.
4.Empathy is the ability to understand how a person feels. It is different from feeling sorry for someone. It is feeling like "walking in their shoes."
5. Social skills are dealing with others in social situations. It is the ability to carry on a conversation and deal with other's emotions. It is being socially competent.

7. Gain Knowledge:The importance of gaining knowledge is to be open to new ideas, new skills, practical knowledge which are essential to overall growth and thus make your life a lifelong learning experience.

8.Relaxation:stands quite generally for a release of tension.

Mr. Fox

2011-05-04T14:40:00.000+04:00

A fox looked at his shadow at sunrise and said, “I will have a camel for lunch today.” And all morning he went about looking for camels. But at noon he saw his shadow again-and he said, “A mouse will do.” by Khalil Gibran

Mind Map

2011-04-27T13:34:00.000+04:00

A mind map is a diagram used to represent words, ideas, tasks, or other items linked to and arranged around a central key word or idea. Mind Mapping is an important technique that improves the way you record information, and supports and enhances your creative problem solving. It also, used to, visualize, structure, and classify ideas. The way to use mind map is that start with the main idea, and then figure out the “branches”.

Uses of mind mapping are Note taking, Brainstorming, Problem solving, Studying, memorization, Planning, your creativity.

How to use it ?

for a meeting/note taking:

1. Write the main idea in the center box.

2. Write each agenda item in the circles linked to the outside of the main idea.

3. As the meeting progresses, draw lines pointing to sub-thoughts, ideas, facts and figures.

4. Draw pictures and interlink items with or without arrows.

For Problem Solving, see the below picture.

there is no wrong or right process to use to draw, you can start to draw mind map on a piece of paper.
to suggest you start with a "How to make your mother in law happy", may be u can share it with us, once ur done.

Check th the blog of f IQ MATRIX with many of cool mind map examples :

http://blog.iqmatrix.com/mind-map-image-gallery

Try free online software :
SPCIY NODOES http://www.spicynodes.org/
Bubbl us :Brainstorm online with bubbl.us. Easily create colorful mindmaps to print or share with others

Tony Buzan wrote a very good book about mind mapping. called

The Mind Map Book: How to Use Radiant Thinking to Maximize Your Brain's U…

Comments from Tony Buzan
Start in the centre with an image of the topic, using at least 3 colours.

Use images, symbols, codes and dimensions throughout your Mind Map.
Select key words and print using upper or lower case letters.
Each word/image must be alone and sitting on its own line.
The lines must be connected, starting from the central image. The central lines are thicker, organic and flowing, becoming thinner as they radiate out from the centre.
Make the lines the same length as the word/image.
Use colours – your own code – throughout the Mind Map.
Develop your own personal style of Mind Mapping.
Use emphasis and show associations in your Mind Map.
Keep the Mind Map clear by using radial hierarchy, numerical order or outlines to embrace your branches.