ALCOHOLIC ABERRATIONS

Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 17 Dec 2018 01:48:00 +0000

Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated. What's important to remember though is that you're a human BEING, not a human DOING w...

Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 17 Dec 2018 01:46:00 +0000

Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.: We have addiction limitations. They are worth befriending. They teach us a lot. They can show us what we most need to pay attention to and...

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 16 Dec 2018 06:16:00 +0000

Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to our devices, and to that 24/7 connectivity that has us always available and immediately...

Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 12 Mar 2018 08:56:00 +0000

Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement. Between six and 10 per cent of elderly hospital admissions are alcohol-related , and it is not just alcoholism that affects retirees. Prescription painkiller addiction is also on the rise, and many seniors suffering from addiction go unnoticed by loved ones and medical professionals alike.

It is easy to assume loneliness and isolation are to blame for elderly addiction, but it also has much to do with the brain’s reward system. Retirees, especially those who previously held high positions, no longer receive the natural dopamine release they were once used to and often turn to substances to achieve the same familiar high.

Experts say it is difficult to recognise addiction symptoms in those over 60 because medical professionals assume symptoms are a result of ageing and the declining health that naturally comes with it. This means the problem could potentially worsen if effective treatment is not actively recommended to those in need.

In the UK, one in 10 women in alcohol dependency programmes is over 60 years old, a 65 per cent increase in the five years .

Alcohol Awareness Week: How To Help A Loved One You Think Is Drinking Too Much

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 01:13:00 +0000

Alcohol Awareness Week: How To Help A Loved One You Think Is Drinking Too Much:

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Women's brains crave alcohol when estrogen levels are high | Daily Mail Online

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Wed, 08 Nov 2017 18:57:00 +0000

Women's brains crave alcohol when estrogen levels are high | Daily Mail Online:

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"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 06 Nov 2017 06:19:00 +0000

"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana:

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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

TV reviews: Louis Theroux: Dark States + Snowfall - The Courier

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 15 Oct 2017 04:55:00 +0000

TV reviews: Louis Theroux: Dark States + Snowfall - The Courier:

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Ronald Hiers looks back on viral video of overdose | Daily Mail Online

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 15 Oct 2017 04:48:00 +0000

Ronald Hiers looks back on viral video of overdose | Daily Mail Online:

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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Wed, 20 May 2015 03:58:00 +0000

A definition of interdependence is: “a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities."

The key word here is: "reciprocal."

Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party gives and receives from his or her own internal overflow. This is TOTALLY different than "codependence" which can be thought of as being "addicted to someone."

Another way to look at it, is this:

A codependent person makes someone else his or her Higher Power. An interdependent person knows that The Child Within is their Power and keeps their focus on that, while choosing to be in a relationship with someone else who is also looking to The Child Within to fulfil them.
You see, when we make someone else our Power, we are REALLY setting ourselves up for pain. This is a top cause of pain in recovery.

We are looking to someone else for something they can never give us, which is perfect and unwavering peace. There is only one place this type of unconditional peace comes from and that is The Child Within when it is acknowledged.

The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time. When we keep our eyes on The Child and surrender to Its will for us, we take everyone else off the hook for our happiness. We no longer seek to take compassion from them, but to show up from a place of overflow and give Loving Kindness to them.

This kind of relationship creates really great givers and FORgivers. This is the cornerstone of having an awesome and long-lasting relationship with ourselves.

Are you making a person your Higher Power?

Are you ready to take your eyes off of them and put your eyes instead toward The Child Within and accept Its perfect peace and contentment for you?

Now that we are on the road of recovery

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Tue, 19 May 2015 10:53:00 +0000

Now that we are on the road of recovery (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need alcohol to achieve a dissociated state, we understand The Ten Stage study course.

The fellowships force ourselves down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Tue, 19 May 2015 10:45:00 +0000

The Stages institute self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are simply a replication of the traumas done to us when we were vulnerable and innocent and powerless in our families as a child, We will not admit all the bad things that we have done to others, and not only that, we will not cement this list of our badness into place by admitting it to this externalised God (which we are not convinced is separate from the essence of us!) and to us who buy into this deluded and dissociative philosophy.

The fellowships force ourselves down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself.

To not aim for perfection, but rather express ourselves as we are, strong, scared and in human form.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 18 May 2015 15:44:00 +0000

No one is perfect. No one. Not ONE self-help person you look up to is the perfect image that you imagine them to be. In many ways, those of us who are the "Gurus" are the most messed up ones because we have come to teach what we need to learn ourselves.

The good news here is that we can now use our pain, our weakness, our shortcomings and our mistakes not as more reasons for us to be WRONG but we can now share them authentically and know that we are not alone.

In allowing our humanity, empathy and compassion to emerge, so does a sense of connection.

Life is messy. We mess up. We have great moments. We have horrible moments. We have brilliant moments. The goal is to allow and admit them all. To be willing to look bad, silly or goofy.

To not aim for perfection, but rather express ourselves as we are, strong, scared and in human form.

So, if you want to inspire someone, do it with who you are BEING, not what you are saying.

How can you do a better job of linking up what you SAY with what you DO?

The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 18 May 2015 15:40:00 +0000

The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often political, nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.

Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Mon, 18 May 2015 15:37:00 +0000

Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality but making the child withins darkness conscious

You cant cure measles by treating the rash

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 15:09:00 +0000

The fellowships admit that we don’t have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives, and that this is the reason – not all of our unresolved childhood traumas! – that our life has become so disturbed and dysfunctional. We admit that the root of our problem is alcohol, not all the trauma we experienced as children and cannot acknowledge, and that’s why we come to the fellowships. If only we can cure the symptom then everything will be okay! (So untrue!) You cant cure measles by treating the rash

Perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 15:01:00 +0000

Avoiding the deepest levels of pain is part of the fellowships mentality. They replace the depression of the alcoholic with the grandiosity and dissociation of so-called recovery. This is a spiritual step backwards . The Fellowships believes that full spirituality is attainable by simply admitting the damage you’ve done to others and making amends. This is untrue. Admitting your past wrongs does lessen the cycle of guilt and shame, but does not resolve your own traumas – the damage done to you by your parents. Traumas must be addressed and fully grieved and mourned for deeper healing to take place.

Any program, that thinks you can heal without fully exhuming, grieving, and ultimately healing your traumas is siding with your abusive parents and perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.

The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 14:56:00 +0000

The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members. But more so it protects alcoholics themselves from feeling their deeper pain, because anyone who learns the full truth of his parents’ cruelties is in for a horribly painful ride. Denying this truth may prevent some from relapsing, but it will prevent everyone from becoming fully recovered.

Alcoholics were not born so: they were created.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 14:52:00 +0000

Alcoholism is not the disease: the unenlightened family is the disease. Alcoholics were not born so: they were created. They drink themselves into oblivion not because of bad genetics but because of the traumas resulting from childhood abuse, neglect, and rejection. No one raised in a truly loving home – whatever his chromosomes – could become an alcoholic. No one who had full connection with his true self – a fully non-traumatised person – would ever even want to experience even the mildest of dissociative pleasures of drinking alcohol at all.
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The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 14:45:00 +0000

The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging, which is a vital step for everyone on the path to recovery, but its inherent limits as a program prevent its members from becoming fully recovered. The fellowships allows alcoholics a fellowship of peers, but it philosophy denies the full truth of the causes and effects – and thus cannot provide full awareness as to their recovery. As such, if its members go too far in expressing their true selves, they will not be accepted by the group.

Being in our recovery doesn’t mean we are a pushover.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sun, 17 May 2015 09:19:00 +0000

Being in our recovery doesn’t mean we are a pushover. In fact, many times in our recovery we need to set boundaries.

The key is balance. Too many boundaries and you close off; no boundaries and you lose yourself.

We have an innate desire to help other people, especially those who are down and out. We have to learn a valuable lesson: the boundaries of self-worth.

We can become so focused on others recovery and ideas that we are ignoring our own.

These are painful and crippling lesson for us to learn emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. We become bankrupt across the board. Of course it is in giving that we receive, but that starts with compassion for ourselves.

If we are not full of self-worth in our recovery, we will have nothing to give away. We learn that boundaries are very important. We learn that we had to make full contact with our child within before we could be fulfilling in our relationship with ourselves .

We have to learn this lesson through pain and suffering, which becomes a path of joy. Our ego hates the transformation from that dark place to our life, but each time our ego gets mad, my child within celebrates.

Now, We are living our true recovery. It started through self-love for my child, then grew from giving loving-Kindness away and is sustained by a balance of giving to myself and to others. We are experiencing more consistent joy in our live as a result of those painful years of abandonment of our child and we would experience them all over again if I had to, because on the other side, life is beautiful liberate and full of amazing answers..

Are you living your life for others and abandoning yourself in the process?

People pleasing. Not wanting to miss out on the fun. Restlessness. Overthinking. Scared to be me in company. Scared to be me alone. Frightened of offending someone.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Fri, 24 Apr 2015 11:07:00 +0000

People pleasing. Not wanting to miss out on the fun. Restlessness. Overthinking. Scared to be me in company. Scared to be me alone. Frightened of offending someone. Feeling on the periphery of everything. The Ten Stages might be what you require a gentle empathetic taught course to bring you into contact with your child within.

The Saltburn Recovery Community: NORTH EAST ENGLAND: Summer TEN STAGE COURSES ...

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Tue, 15 Jul 2014 07:23:00 +0000

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Revolutionary Sobriety.It does not matter what you label it – alcoholism, alcohol dependence, alcohol misuse, binge-drinking or whatever

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sat, 28 Jun 2014 10:22:00 +0000

It does not matter if someone you know drinks way more than you. If it’s causing you problems it’s causing you problems. And you will know when it is.

When you quit drinking alcohol, you will change.

noreply@blogger.com (Fraser Trevor) — Sat, 28 Jun 2014 10:19:00 +0000

Soberista

Let go of the fear that you’ll struggle to be YOU once you have lost your prop – you won’t be the person you were as a drinker anymore, it’s true, but that’s a GOOD THING! Without alcohol messing up your emotions and relationships and perspective on life, you’ll be free to be the person you REALLY are, underneath all of the booze-induced rubbish. Imagine you are clearing a tangled weeds to make way for beautiful flowers to push their way up, and allow the true YOU to emerge. Good things happen to good people, just as soon as you give them a chance to.