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Ghazal zindagi

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Sun, 23 Jul 2023 08:25:00 +0000

Zindagi

Kabhi khush to kabhi udas hai Zindagi
Kabhi saaz to Kabhi awaz hai Zindagi

Kabhi hasratoun mei sisakti hai Zindagi
Kabhi arzuoun mei sulagti hai Zindagi

Kabhi pyar to Kabhi ujaar hai Zindagi
Kabhi bolti to Kabhi khamosh hai zindagi

Kabhi Dil k tootne ka sabab hai Zindagi
Kabhi toot k simat jane Ka naam hai Zindagi

Kabhi bheer mei b tanha hai Zindagi
Kabhi tanhai mei b khilkhilati hai Zindagi

Kabhi muskurhatoun mei panapti hai Zindagi
Kabhi ansuoun mei doob jati hai Zindagi

Kabhi jeet k b haar jati hai zindagi
Kabhi haar k bhi jari rahi Zindagi

Kabhi dard se tarapti ha Zindagi
Kabhi dard mei panapti ha zindagi

Maut ki aaghosh mei jhoolti rahi Zindagi

Aur Mei Zindagi mei dhoondti rahi zindagi

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10 cleaning tips and tricks

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Wed, 10 Mar 2021 18:48:00 +0000

10 cleaning tips and tricks

We all are always in search of some tips and tricks regarding cleaning of our home, clothes, utensils etc.

I know some very good and effective tips that actually do work!!

#1 cleaning plastic glass stand

The base of the glass stands usually turn yellow after sometime. And they look old and untidy.

To get rid of these stains, spread synthetic white vinegar on its base, so that all its yellow stains are fully covered with vinegar. Leave it overnight. Next day, wash it with soapy sponge. Your glass stand will look like new.

#2 Grease stains on clothes

Worried about grease stains on clothes ?? No more worries!!

Take some mustard oil and apply it on your targeted area. Rub it generously and you will see how magically mustard oil cuts off grease. After that wash your cloth with your regular detergent and you are done!

#3. Cleaning white canvas shoes

Cleaning my children's white shoes always gave me tough time. Only after one time wore they looked old and untidy.

Now after trying and testing I have found a very effective tip to clean them.

Make a mixture of any white toothpaste and baking soda. Take equal proportions. Apply this paste with toothbrush and cover completely the shoes with this mixture.

After application keep the shoes in sunlight (if available) or let it dry itself. When it is completely dry. Clean it with wet cloth or wetting the old toothbrush and repeatedly washing toothbrush with water. Your shoes will be brand new.

Tip for Polishing white canvas shoes

When you use white liquid polish for Polishing, take a small quantity of water in a mug and dip a toothbrush into it and apply little amount of polish on your shoes on all sides and spread evenly with this wet toothbrush (wet your toothbrush multiple times as required). With this technique you will end up with a very good polish finish and less quantity of polish will be used.

#4 Removing color stains from colored clothes

When you wash few clothes together, it must have happened several times that color of one fabric have stayed on another. And after washing several times it wouldn't have gone either! So, here is the tip for cleaning color stains from your white and colored clothes both.

Take white toothpaste and mix washing detergent with it (Quantity as per your stain). Cover generously your stain area with this mixture and let it dry for the whole day. Next day wet that area and rub gently and then wash it with water. Hopefully you will get rid of your color stain in one go if it's not much. But if not, then you can repeat the procedure as required.

Additional tip

If you have small children, and you want to save your expensive and branded clothes from getting ruined with stiff stains, don't keep your kids stained clothes for next day washing. Wash the stiff stains area then and there atleast within two hours with dishwashing liquid (preferably) or any white soap. A little botheration will save your further tension and wastage of clothes. Because nobody likes to wear stained clothes!!

Common Stiff stains include (if left for a longer time)

Peach stains, Banana stains, Pomegranate stains, strawberry stains, Mango stains, Tea, coffee stains, chocolate stains etc.

#5. Cleaning rusted knobs, handles etc.

Take coconut oil and take a clean cloth. Dip ur cloth's corner in coconut oil and apply it on rusted area and rub vigorously. You will see rust cutting off and your affected area getting rust free.

#6 switchboards cleaning

You must be cleaning your switch boards with damp cloth and must be afraid also of getting electric shock. Use any wet wipes and clean them with it. You will see how easily they get clean with it and gives you a good shine too!!

#7 Bathroom buckets, mugs and stool cleaning

Put on your gloves and take harpic or sweep (mix sweep with little water as it's very strong and more effective) and apply it with a brush on the bucket (don't use sponge it will rotten away as sweep is very strong) and cover all areas with it. And leave for an hour! After an hour rub it with detergent using a sponge and then wash it with water. You will get a brand new bucket!

#8 Quick deep freezer cleaning

In Pakistan due to very hot temperature in summers and electricity shortfalls, we generally use refrigerators whose freezers get ice on all its sides , when ON. Like dawlance refrigerators.

For cleaning them we have to switch them off and let them stand for some time and wait for melting its ice and then clean them. In summers, ice melts quickly but in winters it takes alot of time. So, cleaning them with this small trick will definitely save your time.

Take your hair drier and melt your freezer's ice with it. And then clean your freezer.

#9 Removing Oil stains from clothes

To remove oil stains from your clothes, apply any talcum powder on that oily stain and rub powder with your fingers on the stain and press that area with hot iron carefully until the powder gets fully absorbed in the fabric. If stain is small n light it will disappear instantly. If it's more, then you can repeat the procedure for desired results. Also keep the fabric for a day or two, after pressing it with iron and then use it.

#10 Removing chewing gum from fabric

Press the affected area's backside of cloth with hot iron. Iron will make chewing gum dry and you can then scratch it with knife or any scraper easily from your fabric.

Also you can rub ice on chewing gum sticked to your fabric till the chewing gum gets completely hard. Then it will easily get removed.

Try these tips and tricks and do share your feedback through your comments.

Urdu Ghazal

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 19:44:00 +0000

Na Jaan sakenge

Na Jaan sake Hain na hi Jaan sakenge

نہ جان سکے ہیں نہ ہی جان سکینگے

Jo Dil mei ha hamare na wo suna sakenge

جو دل میں ہے ہمارے نہ وہ سنا سکینگے

Kitne sitam uthae Teri Yaad mei is Dil ne

کتنے ستم اٹھا ۓ تیری یاد میں اس دل نے

Baat ye laboun pe hum la na sakenge

بات یہ لبوں پہ ہم لا نہ سکینگے

Tum ne to bayan kardia apna haal -e- Dil

تم نے تو بیاں کر دیا اپنا حالِ دل

Hum is Dil Ka Kia karei Jo behla na sakenge

ہم اس دل کا کیا کریں جو بہلا نہ سکینگے

Jo Kabhi bhula b dia is Dil ne tujhay

جو کبھی بھلا بھی دیا اس دل نے تجھے

Teri chahatoun ka naqsh Kabhi Mita na sakenge

تیری چاہتوں کا نقش کبھی مٹا نہ سکینگے

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Two line poetry on dosti

Two line Urdu poetry on dosti

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 19:40:00 +0000

Two line Urdu poetry on dosti

Jisko Jana tha dost jisko mana tha dost

جس کو جانا تھا دوست جس کو مانا تھا دوست

Wohi dost tauheen e dosti Kar gaya

وہ ہی دوست توحینِ دوستی کر گیا

Samandar e dosti bhi ik shai ha ajab

سمندرِ دوستی بھی اک شے ہے عجب

Simt jiski namaloom Bahao ha jiska ajab

سمت جسکی نامعلوم بہاؤ ہے جسکا عجب

Youn dostoun se nazrei churate Nahin Hain

یوں دوستوں سے نظریں چراتے نہیں ہیں

Youn unko is Tarah se azmatay Nahin hain

یوں ان کو اس طرح سے آزماتے نہیں ہیں

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Two line sad Urdu poetry

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 14:20:00 +0000

Two line Sad Urdu poetry

کیوں دل کے ہاتھوں بک گٔے ہم

Kyun Dil k hathoun bik gae hum

گر کویٔ سوداگر دوسرا نہیں تھا

Gar koi saudagar doosra Nahin tha

تیری چاہت سے کیاملا ہے مجھے

Teri chahat se Kia Mila ha mujhay

اب تک تیری وفا کا گلا ہے مجھے

Ab tak Teri wafa Ka Gila ha Mujhay

نباہ بنیاد ہے یہاں ہر بندھن کا

Nibah bunyad ha yahan har Bandhan Ka

ناواقف ہے جس سے وجود انساں کا

Na waqif ha jis se wajood insaan Ka

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7 Qualities to look for in a Life Partner

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Tue, 01 Dec 2020 17:30:00 +0000

7 Qualities to look for in a Life Partner

A Life partner is the person with whom you are ready to spend your whole Life. Life Partners share Love, happiness, joy, sadness, troubles, thus everything! Also they stand for each other whenever needed.

It is that One person that is your whole world and everyone wishes same feelings in return from his/her partner.

Many of us have found our Life Partners and others are in search of them. Following are some basic qualities that a Life partner should have. These qualities will help you in finding out a good life partner or will help you to analyse your found one.

#1 Caring

First and foremost quality that your life partner must have is the Care for you! He/she should take care of your smallest needs, your smallest wishes, look after you when you are sick or upset, he should try to know why you are in a bad mood and also reason behind your happiness.

#2 Forgive and Forget

Life is not a bed of roses. Good and bad times come in everyone's life. But people who forget about bad things happened in Past and forgive others easily, really make good relationships. Life partner must anyhow have this capability to forgive and forget, otherwise your life can be a nightmare with a person dwelling on fights and disagreements of past!

#3 Anger management skills

Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you are becoming angry and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a productive way.

When two different persons live together then it is obvious to have arguments and some arguments lead to serious fights. In such situation, if your life partner have anger management skills then your life will be heaven on Earth!

#4 Honesty

"Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living and truth loving."

― James E Faust

An honest person can only make an honest relationship.

#5 Respect for you

Give respect and take respect is the one and only rule that implies in all relationships. It is really hard to live your life with a life partner who disrespects you, mock at you and leave no chance to led you down.

#6 Gives you Space

Loving each other and living together, doesn't mean in anyway to give complete authority and control over the other. We all need some space to do things with our own Will. Marriage doesn't mean to get a boss into your life who dictates everything to you. Each person has different hobbies, different leisure time activities, different likes and dislikes. So your life partner must be ready to accept them and happily gives you YOUR TIME.

#7 Trust

Last but not the least is the Trust that two persons necessarily have to do on each other. It's not a one person game. Trust includes not checking mobile phones of each other, believing in what other person is saying and telling you, trust is also knowing cell phone and ATM card passwords Lol!

So, deeply analyze these points in your To Be life partner and decide your future. And those who are already married can also analyze their existing partners and let me know through comments about your experience.

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Stages of a Girl's Life

Stages Of a Girl's Life

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 16:01:00 +0000

Stages Of a Girl's Life

Happy and twinkling eyes and hands welcoming the little angel into this world. First thing they prayed for her is good luck and fortune, in Urdu we say "Acha Naseeb". This Acha Naseeb/good luck prayer given by every single person welcoming her is the first step towards marking in BOLD LETTERS that the born baby is a GIRL. In case of boy you will rarely hear such prayers.

In our South Asian society particularly Pakistan and India, generally girls are considered to be a liability more than blessing. This girl boy difference that was sown on day 1 and regularly watered and provided sunlight and air, slowly and gradually turns into a strong and big tree.

Raised up with this difference the time comes for HER schooling. Priority of parents for selecting a school for HER is where ONLY Girls are there. If by chance didn't get admission in such school then they get her admission in co-education system with a heavy heart as nowadays education is very important otherwise SHE will not get good proposals. Girls are not allowed by family to keep friendship with boys in her class. Which although is not possible, since studying together brings HER in contact with everyone without discrimination of gender. All are HER class fellows and some are really good friends. But HER family norms don't even allow HER to discuss boys class fellows as friends.

When HER intermediate i.e. 12th grade is done, the biggest question arises. Should she get higher education and get admission in a high profile university. If parents are that liberal and understanding to say YES, someone older in the family comes up with Why are you getting HER admitted in university? She is a girl, what would she do of higher education? ultimately she has to get married and take care of kids and do cooking n dishes, that's it. Why to waste time and money on her! After a great hussle and bussle she gets permission to study in university. Life becomes beautiful and dedicated.

In teenage, every girl goes through crushes. Sometimes film heroes, sometimes young teachers and sometimes classfellows lol. But due to family restrictions she keeps her feelings limited to herself, if any boy wanted to be in a relationship with her, she hesitates to give green signal. She maintains a good distance from other gender.

When SHE turns 20, she finds every second person talking about her marriage. Aunties, uncles, friends, neighbours and every second person bringing her proposals.

Life becomes uncertain for HER. Questions revolve in her mind, what will be her fate?would she be allowed to complete her university education? Would she be asked before fixing of marriage? How would be her soul partner? If she likes someone she don't get the courage to speak about it to her parents. Thus, relying on her fate as written by Almighty and decided by parents, she is asked for her consent just for formality purpose. Obviously, she says yes to her parents decision.

If she gets good husband and in laws then also people in surroundings poke out negativities and try to discomfort her. And if really she gets a mismatch then her life becomes miserable. And it's just the beginning of miseries.

After deciding everything for her, she is the one who is to be blamed for her fate. She is the one who hears people WITHIN and outside family gossiping like look at her husband how rude he is, look at her in laws how old fashioned they are, look at her sister in laws how cunning they are! Lol , after deciding everything by family and relatives SHE is the one who bears all such things of our society.

Compromising is what she has to do. If compromising doesn't work then she is the one who is never welcomed BACK by parents and siblings who decided her fate.

Marriage creates a boundary between a girl and her parents. Within a day her 24 to 25 years (on average) that she spent with her parents becomes worthless. Her position and status changes in few moments. She is audited for everything. Parents give her money on occasions (on Eid, on wedding of sibling, on birth of child, etc.) She is never welcomed in Family decisions. Generally hears from her paternals that give your statements and make decisions in your own home.

If her husband don't bear child birth expenditure (due to any reason) she is the one who listens to statements like, it's their child they (in-laws/husband) should bear the expenditures and they should look after HER.

I am simply clueless with such behaviour of parents in our society. SHE is YOUR daughter like your son , you gave birth to her, you raised her with all your love and affection, but what happens to your love and relationship when you send her to another home? Instead of increasing,as she departs from you, it brings so much difference in your attitude and dealing. For your daughter in laws ( the wives of your son) you are ready to spend, ready to hear, ready to give authority but in case of your own DAUGHTER you become so judgemental. This is the most bitter truth of our society.

Now, the girl becomes a wife and a mother. She is in the most delicate and precious relations. She puts her heart and soul to do justice with all her relationships. If her husband is not financially sound, she works to support him in running house. And simultaneously fulfills all her household duties too. If she is in joint family then an additional responsibility she carries of looking after her in laws among which heavy responsibility is of mother in law and father in law. But she fulfills all with honesty and full responsibility and care. Now if she is lucky enough then she will be appreciated and if not then life becomes slowly and gradually a nightmare for her.

Well, bringing up children in itself is a full-time job. She is the cook, teacher, driver, mentor, feeder, doctor, nurse thus everything for her children.

She has raised respectable citizens and good humans for society. Children generally give credit to their mothers for their every success. But till they are single. After their marriage everyone is busy in their lives. But although SHE is getting older and weaker, Her works and responsibilities are increasing. She has to find best matches for her children. Get them married. Taking care of her grand children so that her daughter and daughter in law can do jobs. Thus so on and so forth, her never ending responsibilities goes on.

Time flies and She is physically weak and dependent now. Growing older and older. She needs more attention, care, time and rest. If she is lucky enough she gets some care and time in return which is though very rare.

And in the other case she hardly gets care, love and time from her loved ones for whom she dedicated her whole life. Her eyes fills with tears remembering how much struggle and hardships she faced to nourish her relationships.

The children for whom she lived, now are waiting to get rid of her. As they don't have time and money to spend on this useless soul. Her sons fight on her responsibilities. Who will keep her and look after her and how long she will stay at one's house? These are the questions her sons and daughters discuss. Daughters are helpless generally in our society because of their in laws responsibilities and husband. They can't keep HER!

Thus, after long and tiring discussions and fights. It's finally decided that SHE will stay two months at each son's house. She thinks twice before to complain about her pain, she thinks twice before asking for visiting a doctor, she thinks twice before asking for finished medicines, she thinks twice before eating fruits from fridge !! If she is hospitalised, she is not worried of her health, she is more worried if someone has came to see her, she is more worried when will her son take her back home? Will he or not !!

Ahh!! What a fate SHE ends up with!

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Neem tree uses for common skin and mouth problems

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Tue, 10 Nov 2020 11:47:00 +0000

Neem tree uses for common skin and mouth problems

Neem tree is very popular for its usefulness and medicative effects. It's leaves, seeds, bark,flowers, root and fruits all are used in making medicines for different sorts of diseases like stomach upset, skin diseases, intestinal worms etc.

Neem tree is anti fungal and anti bacterial. Today, I will tell you five very simple and magical uses of neem tree.

#1 Neem leaves for getting rid of head lices

Take Neem tree leaves and wash them thoroughly. Take water for boiling in a pot and add these leaves in that water and boil the water till it changes color to dark green. Cool it and rinse your hair with this water after shampooing your hair. This must be the last water to be used on your hair so that it can remain in your hair. This water has toxic effect on insects and lices. Use thin lice comb in wet hair and all of your nits and lices will easily come out. Use this water daily for severe issue of lices. And for protection in future keep on using it atleast once a week.

#2 For using as ointment for allergic skin itching and irritation

Take Neem tree leaves and wash them thoroughly. Dry them and crush them in mortar and pastel (imam dasta/ khal batta). After crushing them put this mixture in a thin cloth and squeeze it's water. Now mix this neem leaves water in preferably mustard oil. Keep it in an airtight bottle. Apply it regularly on your body or any infected area only. Leave it for an hour or atleast half an hour. Do this before shower. Believe me it's a magical treatment.

#3 As a remedy for dandruff

Make a paste of neem tree leaves in mortar and pastel and add a pinch of Turmeric powder (optional) and a few drops of lemon. Apply this paste on your scalp and leave for 30-40 minutes. Rinse with water and apply shampoo and conditioner. Repeat this procedure twice a week for best results.

#4 Neem twig as a tooth brush

Neem tree twig has anti fungal and anti bacterial effect. Use fresh twigs as a tooth brush twice a day and get rid of mouth bad odour and it will prevent tooth decay and your teeth will be in good condition for long time. Also it will whiten your teeth.

#5 For facial Acne treatment

Make neem tree leaves paste with a pinch of Turmeric powder. Apply it on face and leave it till it dries. Rinse with water. Use it daily for quick results. As Neem has a bitter taste and toxic effect on bacterias and fungus, it will not let acne to aggravate and will minimize it.

You can also make paste of neem leaves and squeeze its water and add in any facial soap to make neem soap.

Melt the facial soap and add paste, pour it in any mould and give it shape and let it dry. In this way you will get neem soap bar. Use it daily for face washing.

Neem tree has vast benefits and uses. Few of which I have shared with you. Try them and feel it's magical effects and get rid of your problems and do give your feedback. If you want tried and tested home remedies for common illnesses like cold, cough, tooth ache etc. you can check these links.

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Identify signs of Jealousy In you and Around you

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 09:56:00 +0000

Identify signs of Jealousy In you and Around you

You must have heard the word “JEALOUSY” as commonly as the word LOVE in your life. But have you ever tried to dig it a bit deeper and understand this word, its feelings and behavior associated with it? Most answers will be NO! It is such a common word and feeling that every person is living with and don’t even bother to give it a thought if it's ruining your peace of mind and content of life.

What jealousy is?

Jealousy generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, and concern over a relative lack of possessions or safety. It strikes people of all ages, genders, and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. The threat may be real or imagined.

Many people take it lightly by thinking it to be a sign of love. But in real it is not! It is in fact a sign of insecurity. Jealousy and insecurity move side by side. It is a negative emotion that stems from both desire and insecurity, but not love.

10Home remedies for common illnesses from kitchen

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Fri, 09 Oct 2020 19:51:00 +0000

10 Home remedies for common illnesses from kitchen

Home remedies are the most safe and easy things that you can use in your common illnesses. For common health issues or illnesses in our daily lives like cold, cough, nausea, stomach ache, diarrhea etc. I will tell you solutions right from your kitchen. You don't always need to visit doctor, just try these out and get your problem solved 99%.

So, let's start can't wait to tell you my tried and tested home remedies.

#1 Home Remedy for COUGH

If you have a prolonged dry seasonal cough and you are fed up of trying all sort of totkas, home remedies and using cough syrups then your problem is solved guaranteed.

Take one TSP of honey, add 3 to 4 drops of ginger juice and add a pinch of black pepper, mix it slightly.

Take this TSP daily before sleeping. It should be your last treat of the day. Nothing over it you have to take. Use it daily, you will start seeing it's results within two to three days. Use it regularly till your cough vanishes.

Additional Tip:

Make tea of dried figs (injeer) and drink it hot daily.

#2 Home Remedy for Nausea

This is what I always do when I feel nausea. Remedy right from your kitchen.

Take 1.5 cup of water, add four to five washed mint leaves in it, add a TSP of Fennel seeds (saunf), a small cardamom (choti ilaichi). Give it a good boil till the water changes it's color to green. Drink this magical tea and your nausea will disappear.

#3 Home Remedy for Diarrhea

For diarrhea I have two remedies. Try any or both. You can give these to your small children even.

First: Take one big cardamom (Bari ilaichi), take out it's seeds and chew them and drink a sip of water (optional) over it. You will be surprised to see what this small thing does. I give this to my kids also.

Give it three to four days.

Second: Take two tbsp of yoghurt and add 1 TSP of husk (Ispaghol) in it. Mix it and eat it. It also works wonders. Repeat it as required.

#4 Home Remedy for Migraine

Those who suffer from Migraine know very well how painful it is. Some people feel nausea also with migraine and some even vomit. I also suffer from these symptoms. After long time, I have found a solution to the nausea caused by migraine. It really works for me. Hope it works for you as well.

Take any white soft drink (7up or sprite) and add a pinch of normal salt or black salt. Mix and drink it and you will see it's result within an hour.

Tips for migraine :

Those who are suffering from migraine should take their pain killer immediately as it starts, don't wait and let it aggravate. It will give you relief for sometime n then again if you feel pain starting then again take your pain killer. In this way it won't aggravate and you will be saved from its severe symptoms.

#5 Home Remedy for sore throat, cold, flu

Take 1.5 cup water, add an inch of ginger, add one cinnamon stick, two to three whole black peppers, give it a very good boil, it will change color. Take out in a cup, add one TSP of honey ( If honey is not available you can add little piece of jaggery (GUR) while boiling) and drink it daily till desired results. It will give you alot of relief.

#6 Home Remedy for Mild constipation

Those who are suffering from mild constipation will hopefully get results and those suffering from severe can also give it a try.

Drink a glass or a cup of HOT milk not lukewarm. I repeat milk should be HOT like tea. Drink it in small sips like tea. Drink this hot milk just before sleeping not in the day.

Additional tip: you can eat a piece of chocolate also. It also sometimes help with constipation.

Few Tips for constipation:

1. Drink a lot of water.

2. Try to cure your constipation at an early stage. Otherwise it's severity is disastrous n very painful.

3. When going to washroom for stool passing. Keep a small stool under your feet while sitting on commode. This will keep your feets raised and put pressure inside which will help in pooping.

#7 Home Remedy for Allergic body Itching

Take Neem tree leaves and wash them thoroughly. Dry them and crush them in mortar and pastel (imam dasta/ khal batta). After crushing them put this mixture in a thin cloth and squeeze it's water. Now mix this neem leaves water in preferably mustard oil. Keep it in an airtight bottle. Apply it regularly on your body or any infected area only. Leave it for preferably an hour or atleast half an hour. Do this before shower. Believe me it's a magical treatment. And you will remember me when it will work.

For more uses of neem tree check this

Uses and benefits of neem tree

#8 Home Remedy for Nose blockage in children esp

Take a cotton bud and dip in olive oil and apply to each nostril of the baby. It will prevent his nose blockage and nose dirt will also come out itself. Do this at night and in morning clean baby's nose with cotton bud.

#9 Home Remedy for gases blockage in body like chest or stomach

Use my earlier mentioned mint tea I.e.

Take 1.5 cup of water, add four to five washed mint leaves in it, add a TSP of fennel seeds (saunf), a small cardamom (choti ilaichi). Give it a good boil till the water changes it's color to green. Drink this magical mint tea and your gases will start to pass out from your body.

And in severe blockage use hot water compress on the body part feeling blockage. And lie down on either your left side or right side. This will also help in gases passing out.

#10 Home Remedy for Tooth ache

Do gargles of hot water mixed with salt . Use it when your teeth is about to break also. It helps in that process too.

This is all for today. I am really happy to share all these my personally tried and tested home remedies with you. I use them on my children also whenever I face any of these health problems. These all are very safe. You can use them without any worry. Try them and do give me your valuable feedback, if you want more of such home remedies.

Whose Love is the Best in the World?

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 19:39:00 +0000

Whose Love is the Best in the World?

Have you ever thought ,what is the most common thing that every single person on this earth carries with himself all the time , from his birth till death ?? yes, its Love and just Love.

Everyone grows up with this four letter word. The word in itself has a great mesmerizing feeling. What actually Love is ? Love is an intense feeling of deep affection someone feel towards the other person. It's all Love for which this world was created and for which we struggle in our daily lives and for which we are ready to give up everything, even our lives. Thus everything and everywhere, this world has an element of Love.

Everyone has his own Love experience and definition. But, have you ever asked yourself which Love is the best in the world for you ?? For every single person the answer will be different. But for me, its simply the Love of small children for their parents. Yes, it is actually the most UNCONDITIONAL and the PUREST love on earth.

We always talk about parents love for their children and how children should respect and love their parents. But we never talk about this miraculous Love that we have been gifted by our Lord.

I, as a mother of three, feel so blessed and thankful everytime when I see my children. All of you will agree that a mother's love for her children is unconditional . But as a mother ,when I compare MY LOVE with my CHILDREN'S LOVE for ME, I literally give up. Their Love for me is so PURE and unconditional that my love feels so low in front of theirs.

I feel, we as mothers or parents love our children

with conditions. Like:

When they are calm and quiet, we love them more.

When they listen to what we say them and do accordingly, then we are happy and show more love.

When they don't mess up house , we are very pleased.

When they have dierrhea, we are upset and many times rude and harsh while cleaning them up multiple times.

Potty training is a nightmare for us.

When they are freaky, stubborn, irritating we scold them badly, at times even slap them.

But have you ever given it a thought that what do we get in return of our such attitude??

It's Love and only Love that we get in return from them. Whether they are in pain, whether they are crying, whether they find us angry on them, whether they get punishment from us, all in return they give us Love.

~~"Things may seem crazy right now.. but some day you are going to miss this"~~

Look deep into their eyes filled with tears while crying, you will still find Love for us.

I am sometimes clueless that what kind of Heart Lord has created in them, so innocent and so soft.

When I am sad or upset or cry, it's my children who feel my pain the most. They are happy when I am happy, they are sad when I am sad. There is a special connection of their heart with mine.

When I get angry with my children and scold them very badly and they start crying. I say nothing and just stretch my arms and the very next moment their pain vanishes away, their tears convert into smiles and they forget everything in seconds and come and hug me.

When they hold my face with their little hands, stare me with their twinkling eyes with affection, hug me tightly, sleep on me , kick me while in a deep sleep, saying mama you are the best, we love you, kissing me on every inch of my face, hands, feet ... It's all their Love that revolves around me. I am the center of their attention. I am their Whole World.

~~"The moment he wakes up from a nap. Just a gummy mouth, no teeth, just a big smile, happy that you are alive and you are just looking at him. That's probably the most magical.~~"

Jessica biel

And this feeling gives me so much happiness and thankfulness that I can't write in words.

But the very next moment when I see them growing up and thinking of them distancing from me. I get into tears. Enjoy every bit of your small children's tantrums and their smiles. Time flies and you will never know how quickly they will grow up and distance from you.

When they will grow up they will still love us, but that love will be very different. You will miss their taking out things from drawers, cabinets, fridge, their chubby cheeks, their innocent and loud smile, their tiny hands and feet, and much more. Enjoy their Love for you because their love for us is the best and purest in the whole world.

You can read my article on another very common human behaviour jealousy

Identify jealousy in and around you

Nazam Mein

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 21:47:00 +0000

Mein

میں

اس شور و غل میں بھیڑ میں

Is shor-o-ghul mein bheer mein

اس وحشتوں کی پیڑ میں

Is wahshatoun ki peer mein

میں تنہ و تنہا رہ گٔی

Mein tanh-o-tanha rehgae

میں خود سے ہی بچھڑ گٔی

Mein khud se hi bichar gae

میری ذات خالی رہ گٔی

Meri zaat khaali rehgae

میری ذات خالی رہ گٔی

Meri zaat khali rehgae

اس تماشاۓ وقت میں

Is tamasha-e-waqt mein

اس حرص میں اس قید میں

Is hirs mein is qaid mein

میں جلتی بجھتی رہ گٔی

Mein jalti bujhti rehgae

میری کرچیاں بکھر گٔیں

Meri kirchian bikhar gaein

میری زندگی سلگ گٔی

Meri zindagi sulag gae

میری زندگی سلگ گٔی

Meri zindagi sulag gae

اس بےحسی کے دور میں

Is behisi k daur mein

اس نفرتوں کی دوڑ میں

Is nafratoun ki daur mein

میری سسکیاں سہم گٔیں

Meri siskian seham gaein

میں تشنہ لب ہی رہ گٔی

Mein tishna lab reh gae

میری آبرو اجڑ گٔی

Meri aabroo ujar gae

میری آبرو اجڑ گٔی

Meri aabroo ujar gae

By Rooma Murtaza

(Dedicated to Motorway incident 😭)

Khalish nazam

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 21:32:00 +0000

Khalish

خلش

ایک خلش سی دل میں

رہتی ہے

Aik khalish si dil mei rehti ha

ایک احساس سا دل میں باقی ہے

Aik ehsaas sa dil mei baqi ha

جسےچھوڑ دیا نادانی میں

Jisay chor dia nadani mei

اسےرورو کے بہت پایا تھا

Usay ro ro k buhat paya tha

اسےاپنےہی ہاتھوں گنوایا تھا

Usay apnay hi hathoun ganwaya tha

ایک خلش سی دل میں رہتی ہے

Aik khalish si dil mei rehti ha

ایک احساس سا دل میں باقی ہے

Aik ehsaas sa dil mei baqi ha

جو زندگی تھی مٹھی میں

Jo zindagi thi muthi mein

اسے اپنے ہی ہاتھوں کھول دیا

Usay apnay hi hathoun khol dia

پس محبتوں کو رول دیا

Pas muhabbatoun ko rol dia

پس محبتوں کو رول دیا

Pas muhabbatoun ko rol dia

By Rooma Murtaza

For more poetry visit this

Nazam Mein

Two line Urdu poetry

Basic Baking guidelines and rules for beginners

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Mon, 05 Oct 2020 19:53:00 +0000

Basic Baking guidelines and rules for beginners

Today , I am going to tell you very basic things you need to know if you are starting baking, or you are new in baking.

1. Do a good amount of research before purchasing an oven.

Electric oven or Gas oven or oven with both options.

Keep things in mind :

Your budget
Your space in kitchen
Your usage
Your quantity to be baked

2. It takes minimum 30 to 35 minutes of time to bake anything.

3. Preheating oven is very important. If you won't preheat your oven the right amount of time, which is generally 15 to 20 minutes then you can't get your desired baking results.

4. Always set the temperature correctly of your oven.

E.g. pizza baking is done on 180 degrees and it's preheating should be done 15 to 20 minutes on 180 degrees with its lower heat on.

5. Most importantly you need to know about the heat setting in oven.

Lower heat
Upper heat
Both upper and lower heat

5. Baking is generally done with only lower heat ON.

Like pizza, cakes, chicken, biscuits, etc these all are baked with ONLY lower heat ON. And in the last you need to switch ON the upper heat for giving color to your food for about 3 to 5 minutes.

6. Don't open your oven frequently to check if your food is baked, it removes heat from oven. Wait for atleast half of the required time and then you can check.

7. Before using YEAST in your baking ALWAYS PROOF it before use. Proofing means to check if your yeast is active or not.

PROOFING :

In lukewarm water add sugar 1tsp and add yeast stir roughly and cover it for few minutes. If the mixture becomes foamy then your yeast is active otherwise it's not active. NEVER use Inactive yeast. Otherwise your dough will not rise.

Note: water should be lukewarm, in too hot water yeast will die and in cold water also it won't become foamy.

8. Ideal baking position for most of the foods is on center rack of the oven.

Keeping on upper most rack gives color quickly on top of the food.

Keeping on lower rack gives color quickly to the bottom of the food.

9. Always grease the baking dish with oil all over with brush and spread some dry flour evenly to take out your food easily after baking from the dish. Otherwise, food will stick to the baking dish.

10. Accurate measurement of ingredients is the MAIN factor in successful baking. Always measure your ingredients properly as mentioned in your recipe with measuring cups and spoons available in market exclusively for baking. Don't use your other kitchen cups and spoons for measurements.

11. For conversion of units of recipe e.g from cups to grams etc. always use kitchen scale for accuracy, instead of converting with online calculators available on different websites.

Five Quick and Easy Kitchen Hacks tried and tested

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 17:28:00 +0000

Five Quick and Easy Kitchen Hacks tried and tested

Today I am going to tell you five quick and easy kitchen hacks that I personally use in my kitchen. These hacks not only saves my time but also makes cooking smoother and easier.so let's start:

# First hack

Get this handy little hand chopper to make your daily onion, tomato, ginger garlic chopping tricky and easy. Believe me this little hack saves a lot of time.

#Second hack

Before cutting green chillies always apply cooking oil on your fingers. This is an amazing hack to avoid after burning effects and it works guaranteed.

#Third hack

If you are not able to find a good peeler. Here,I have the best and cheapest one for you..that I have been using since years ..for peeling everything from tomatoes, bitter gourd,carrots,mangoes everything. Easily available in Pakistan..

BRUNO peeler

#Fourth hack

Which meat lover don't love eating mutton PAya (Goat trotters)..but Cleaning PAYA is a big task,all ladies will agree. So, not from now onwards..

This tricky hack would be loved by everyone for sure. Take scotch brite dishwashing stainless steel spiral n cut a little piece from it with scissors. Clean your goat trotters under running tap with this piece of spiral..n u will see the magic of this hack.

#FIFTH hack

Last but not the least one is Fifth kitchen hack .Use a tablespoon of vinegar in boiling rice and you will see how white and beautiful rice will be cooked.

That's all for today. Do try all of these hacks and tricks and let me know through comments if they really worked for you. For more remedies you can visit my other posts.

10 home remedies for common illnesses

Neem tree uses for skin and mouth

Alarming Effects Of Social Media on Youth

noreply@blogger.com (Rooma Murtaza) — Fri, 25 Sep 2020 18:45:00 +0000

Alarming Effects Of Social Media on Youth

In this era of 21st century, where life has changed drastically due to increased technology usage, there we are also facing a lot of technology related challenges. And the most important challenge/issue that we are facing is Social Media and its effects on our youth.

Social media refers to all applications and websites or blogs that enable people around the globe to interconnect through internet using different modes like chatting, sharing content, video call, voice messages, voice calls etc.

Some of the most common and famous social media platforms are Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, YouTube, Snapchat among many others.
According to 2020 Global Social media research Summary:

https://www.smartinsights.com

21% of 8-11 year old have a social media profile, increasing to 71% of 12-15 year old. However, YouTube is very popular with both markets, with over 74% of 8-15 year old using this platform.

Here's a snapshot of two of the age groups featured.

According to a survey conducted by:

https://datareportal.com/reports/digital-2020-pakistan

there were 76.38 million internet users in Pakistan in January 2020.The number of internet users in Pakistan increased by 11 million (+17%) between 2019 and 2020. There were 37.00 million social Media users in Pakistan in January 2020. The number of social media users in Pakistan increased by 2.4 million (+7.0%) between April 2019 and January 2020.

Today, I will discuss reasons behind increasing social media usage in our youth, its advantages and its alarming disadvantages or negative impacts.

I know that you are also among millions of worried parents/ adults who are facing this social media marketing challenges in upbringing and educating their children.

So, let’s move forward and discuss further to give you a very clear picture of all what is going on and what aspects we need to work on to minimize negative impacts of social media on our youth.

Some major and prominent advantages and positive impacts of social media on our youth are:

1. Close bonding between friends, relatives, peers, teachers and students, professionals, colleagues etc.

2. Cheaper communication irrespective of geographical boundaries.

3. Fun and fresh air that children are getting from social media.

4. Access to the Global Workforce.

5. More options of earning for unemployed youth through social media platforms. E.g. YouTube, freelancing websites, blogging etc.

6. Open access to all sorts of information throughout the globe and many more.

Now coming towards the disadvantages of social media in detail.

One thing that is alarming and we all must know is that all these FREE SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS like Facebook, You Tube, WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat etc. are not actually FREE. They are running at the COST of the future of our youth. These platforms earn mainly from the advertisements they are showing on their pages. And what kind of advertisements they are showing we all know. Mainly our youth is distracted by these advertisements. These ads give them an open invitation to explore what is not relevant to them. Like Sex, nudity, pornography etc.

This free, unlimited and most dangerous material is what many parents are unaware of and don’t pay attention to.

In Pakistan, mainly because of less literacy and knowledge of social media in the parents and adults, our youth is misusing social media by taking advantage of imprudence and negligence of their adults.

Although there are a lot of features in all applications like You Tube, Facebook, browsers etc. to filter out the sort of material your child should be exposed to. These platforms have parental control feature to keep your child restricted and away from any sort of adult material and ads.

Other most common and alarming disadvantages of social media nowadays are:

1. Exposure to sexual content on social media at an early age.

2. Due to early exposure, involvement of our youths in sexual misconducts resulting in early pregnancies and diseases like HIV and early deaths of our young generation.

3. Cyber bullying and Cybercrime on social media networks resulting in suicidal attempts of many children.

4. Depression, anxiety and psychological disturbance in youth.

5. Unhappiness and general dissatisfaction. Sharing pictures and information of personal trips, adventures, dining outs etc. on social media causes inferiority, unthankful attitude and complexion in young generation.

6. Misuse of words and tenses through the use of short forms and abbreviations on social media platforms is leading to poor grades of children in English Language.

7. Wastage of time due to spending unlimited hours on social media.

8. Physical sickness like laziness, fatigue, weak eyesight etc. due to spending overtime in front of screen. Hence resulting in less productivity amongst the youths.

9. Easy access to fake religious videos and material on social media causing irreparable damage to the immature minds of our youth. Thus increasing in number of atheism.

10. Very quick Spread of fake news on social media networks.

11. Social media is decreasing Face to Face communication. Hence resulting in isolation of kids.

Now let me point out some main reasons and causes of increased use of social media platforms among our youth.

1. Cheaper smartphones.

2. Cheaper internet connection and packages.

3. Access to smartphones and internet at an early age. Parents are giving smartphones, tablets to children at a very early age. And giving a reason that it is the necessity and demand of today.

4. Busy parents due to work or other social activities. Thus, causing loneliness in youth and to cope with this loneliness they are using social networking excessively.

5. Zero outdoor and sports activities.

6. Small families with one or two children.

Siblings are the greatest gift for children and nowadays small families are trending, which is resulting in loneliness and isolation of children.

8. Fame of social media platforms and its excessive talking in young children’s peer group and many more.

It’s high time to take IMPACTS OF SOCIAL MEDIA seriously and work together to educate and help each other in resolving these issues and let not our youth get addicted to it and fall prey to it.