Soul Reflections by Karen Wyness

Focused faith

2024-02-16T08:27:00.000+00:00

I can talk from pure experience and the reason for me sharing this to give others inspiration.

In 2007 my life fell apart, well I thought it did, it felt like it did however that was actually the start of me having the opportunity to take all the experience and lessons I had learnt along the way and make better choices for myself.

After my divorce at 30, I left the corporate world and went travelling and discovered myself. I was single for 7 years as I wanted to get to know myself and be free. That journey had many ups and downs and boy did I take some knocks along the way and make many, changes until I felt comfortable and convinced I had arrived. The one thing that never changed along this journey was my focused faith, that I would indeed arrive.

I had a vision and never ever stopped believing. 17 months ago I met the man of my dreams and have the life I used to believe I would always have. Yes, and most of my single friends say how did this happen?

People say you sometimes make choices and choose a path in life as your soul has to grow and learn lessons along the way. Well, to sum it up I have moved home 30 times and I am 42! Until 2007 I don't think I lived anywhere longer than 18 months. Fast forward to 2019 and I have been put for 17 months, what I have achieved is pretty remarkable too and I am the happiest I have ever been and feel extremely excited about the future.

I was introduced to "The Secret" in 2013 but was practising this way before it became world-famous. I designed my first vision board in 2008 before I went travelling and manifested everything I put on that board.

The first word I put on my vision board was "teacher" and at the time it was the closest thing I could find to coach as that is actually the word I was looking for.

Well in April 2009, I found myself attending an interview to be a teacher/trainer on a cruise ship. All I did in 2008 was study the industry and read whatever I could get my hands on to educate myself on what it would be like living and work on a ship. I would spend hours daydreaming, watching youtube and completely believed I would do it and felt very excited. I applied for numerous different jobs and got rejected, but that was another opportunity to learn and embrace and accept that my perfect job would arrive when the time was right.

Fast forward 10 years and I find myself in a similar position but with 10 years experience and wisdom. This time I have the help of my weekly "comic energy forcast"

During my last relationship, I was not in a good place, I could not have chosen to be with someone more opposite of what I knew I wanted. During this trying time, I use to imagine and visualise and dream of the perfect relationship which was the complete opposite of what I was experiencing.

2019-07-21T11:17:00.000+01:00

A few weeks Bob and Tina had an argument, and Bob said some nasty things to Tina such as she does not have a life and has no friends.

Now a few weeks down the line Tina has made plans with her friends do girly things and after there last break up, Bob took Tina to lunch to try and make up and when she told him, he had nothing to say.

Then to go to the pub when Tina is sick and leave her at home and say he is going for one and come home at 11pm after 6 pints pissed saying "I don't know how that happened"

Processing Grief

2019-07-21T11:16:00.001+01:00

Tina was known by all her friends as the positive one who always smiled and was upbeat, but of late Tina did not feel like that at all. All Tina ever wanted was love and to be accepted but unfortunately, as a child was never really shown a true healthy example of how a functional balanced happy relationship works, which meant that she attracted that later on in her adult years and was now in a situation where she found herself three years into a relationship that was very toxic and unhealthy.

A year ago she moved back in after a six-month separation and knew full well this was a recipe for disaster but went ahead regardless, well due to several circumstances found herself in a situation where first of all Bob begged her to come back. If Tina looks back what has really changed? Bob's routine was going to the local pub after work and used to text Tina saying......PUB, so basically if Tina wanted to spend time with Bob she would have to go to the pub and spend time with him even though she didn't really enjoy it.

Bob is not a healthy eater, where Tina is and enjoys healthy good fresh food. Bob is quite happy to munch on takeaways most days and then have a kebab around 9.30pm after he had his 4 pints. This was Bobs regular routine 5 or 6 out of 7 nights a week. If Tina made dinner, she would eat on her own and leave his food in the microwave.

Tina lives in Bob's house and Bob does not care at all about maintenance, housework, cleaning or washing so Tina started to feel like the maid and that she was being taken for granted.

Once Tina stopped killing herself to keep the house tidy, clean and up to date, it made her feel like she was giving up as she did not feel appreciated. When Tina did any shopping Bob never acknowledged it or said thank you or showed any appreciation.

When Tina would try and call Bob on his mobile his excuse was "my battery died" and he would call on the way to see how much trouble he was in and if Tina was not nice then the verbal abuse would start and he would say things to make her feel guilty.

The main issue is that there was no communication between them at all, whenever Tina did try and communicate she got shot down and told: "don't bring up the past" which happened to be a conversation or comment from the previous day.

Greetings

2019-07-21T11:14:00.001+01:00

Have you ever experienced news of a friend or family member landing up in a position where you feel guilty because you never said.....Hello or Goodbye and could of?

I have a friend called Tina, she lived with her boyfriend, Bob, in his house. One afternoon she was reading a book called "Too good to leave too bad to stay" Tina had this book in her collection for years and believed that a book will only be read when it is ready to be read by the reader. Today was that day. It was not long before Tina was crying as for 18 months she had been in a relationship and was never really happy but it was "too good to leave and bad to stay" everyday Tina would go through the motions of the pro and con list and some days were better than others but deep down she was not happy.

Tina suddenly felt hungry and went to the kitchen to make herself something to eat, as she opened the fridge she thought to herself "I better not eat all the meatballs, I'll leave half for him as he might be hungry for a snack later" Tina then switched the kettle of glanced over the sink where some dishes from the morning had been soaking. The strategy was while the kettle is boiling, do the dishes. Bob had popped in to use the toilet and check the post. While Tina was washing the dishes, all she kept thinking about was, "Am I being selfish by not offering to make him a sandwich?" Once the kettle had boiled Tina made herself a sandwich and took her tea and went back upstairs to carry on reading her book.

Bob then dashed downstairs and then said, "I'm off" and Tina was "ok bye" - Tina then found herself typing a text message saying..." its sad that you come home and don't kiss me hello or goodbye anymore....before you bark at me, I know you are busy working" -

Then Tina thought to herself, oh what is the point if I send that I will be called insecure and his not emotionally intelligent to deal with this and his probably going "I have to work while she is in bed reading" well guess what I am on holiday on leave and it is not my problem you are always feeling like the victim.

Lessons from the universe....

2019-07-21T11:12:00.002+01:00

Sometimes in life when you do not listen and do not pay attention to the signs, the universe has a way of shouting it out you loud and clear..........this is one of these moments where Tina had to experience this!

Today was a big day for Tina as she had to attend day 1 of 3 of her drink driving rehabilitation course. One of the biggest questions that really made Tina think was "how had the decision of you choosing to drink the day you got arrested affected your life"

It has been nine month since Tina lost her license and it has been a rather painful, expensive lesson but the on the positive side of this it has given her the opportunity to really look from the outside in. Bob has been through it and went through this 8 years ago, however, Bob still regularly drinks and drives. The night Tina was arrested she was down at their local on a Friday but a lot of emotions from both sides bubbling under the surface due to a lack of communication in the relationship which only made it more toxic. Tina was not getting the love and attention she needed so she would get it in small doses in a very unhealthy way. The underlying anger would up out after a few drinks and she would then turn to whoever would listen to feel supported and get the attention she so craved.

Tina was so unhappy that any sign of excitement would get her attention and out of desperation and added substance of drinking had a massive effect on the emotions. The suggestion was to "go up to the City" where the action was, so Tina decided "she was ok to drive" once they got to the city the cocktails were flowing but what Tina also realised was that she was actually trying to num the emotional pain and block out having to deal with negative feelings.

27 years ago

2019-07-21T11:08:00.000+01:00

Today is 27 years ago my Dad died - wow I am really trying to get my head around that. I wonder what advice my Dad would give me. Well let me try and guess. To continue the path I've been on and kick drinking and smoking in the butt. I have 2 glasses of wine and 1 cigarette yesterday for the 1st time in a week and I did not enjoy it and feel awful. It is putting poison in my body so no more of that. I am rather angry at myself for being weak but also need be proud of myself for being so strong this week. I am feeling very frustrated but also know that if I make some first decisions it will change the course of my direction too. I so much want to get into the swing of happiness and togetherness, I can feel rather down and find it hard to find the energy to get excited. I need to identify what is causing that?

Signs from the universe

2018-08-29T21:27:00.001+01:00

I have been thinking about certain things and it just amazes me how fast I am manifesting the things I think about in my life. It is also so strange that my Mom asked me yesterday while describing my mini bank holiday break to her about my writing. Then today I see an email pop up about my blog? Could this be a sign to restore my passion for writing? Also, there are many strange changes happening to loved ones around me and it has really made me reflect and take a deep look at how I once was faced with days of darkness. I feel so proud of where I am right now in my life and I am taking the opportunity to just be and appreciate all I have and be focused. I always knew keep down that I would find my soulmate and I have and when you do, you just know it from the second you lay eyes on each other.

Changing emotions

2018-08-29T21:21:00.000+01:00

One past memory I have is how I use to enjoy writing and how good it made me feel. Why say this is because I just felt down, unmotivated and disappointed with myself. I really did not feel like doing any house work but looking at the dust and untidiness did not make me feel better either. So how I convinced myself to just clean the bathroom, whipp the vacuum around and do the dishes has surprised me. I think I know myself rather well in that I know it would actually make me feel better if I did that.

However at the time has not having the enthusiasm and energy and having to work extra hard to motivate myself. I know that the bad choices I made two nights ago had an impact on how I was feeling and my periods had just arrived which probably had a bit to do with it. I have also had an extremely intense week training in my new job. Being in what I feel is a one side relationship does not help either.

One of the reasons I get down is because I am in a relationship where there is no communication and it really gets me down. I feel scared to express my emotions because if they are anything but happy and position then there is drama - as I am writing this I wonder how I can test the power of intention because I know that if I focus on that guess what? It only gets worse.... so can I choose to turn this around? One way is to focus on what I do want and need and to be grateful for what I have and really appreciate that. Today the sky is blue and the sun is out, I am so fortune not to HAVE to do anything or be anywhere I have the full choice of what ever I feeling doing - isn't that just total freedom for you, how many other people would love to be in my position?

I have no stress or pressure other than what I am choosing to put upon myself.

I found what helps me feel better is to reflect and look back over my week and see what I have achieved.

Magic key to your destiny.....numbers

2018-08-29T21:20:00.000+01:00

As I gaze out my bedroom window, it's slightly fogging and what to use to bear branches are now almost full of fresh leaves and various songs being sung by the birds. I woke up thinking about the that year I spend really believing in a goal of travelling the world and how I did it and how my life has take twists and turns between then and now and how that feeling has finally returned as I am back in the corporate world doing something I love where I left off and boy does it feel good.

Now I am going to share a little magic with you, the key to your destiny....numbers! The all around us we live our lives by the clock, calendar and cycles so you might just find this interesting.

1. Your Destiny

Determining your Destiny

From the first day of your life to the last, you are governed by the destiny bestowed upon you by the date of your birth.

How many times do ring up and they say - can I have your date of birth IT EVERYWHERE! The numerological value of this birth date will reveal to you the path of your destiny and suggest the line of personal development.

To determine the number of your destiny, add together the number value of YOUR month, DAY and YEAR of your birth and reduce the total to a single digit.

The number value for each month is:

January 1
February 2
March 3
April 4
May 5
June 6
July 7
August 8
September 9
October 1
November 2
December 3

EXAMPLE: if you born on August 16, 1929

August (number value) 8

Date 16

Year 1929

TOTAL 1953

Reduce this total to a single digit: 1+9+5+3=18 and 1+8=9 Therefore, the Destiny Number for this birth date would be 9

Another number is "Life Path" Number - if you want to know more visit ColourPowerCrystals

My number is 8 and this is what is says!

Life Path 8 – Colour Violet
THE SEEKER
Life lessons
To have faith and trust in yourself.
To balance the material and spiritual.
To show love and affection freely.
To set realistic goals and find new paths.

Crystals to help you follow your life path and the lessons it brings
are all the Violet ones and crystals which vibrate to number 8.
These are; Lepidolite, Selenite, Celestite, Red calcite, Yellow Jasper,
Mookaite, Snowflake Obsidian, Afghan Diamond, Tigers Iron,
Serpentine, Beryl, Stibnite, Mother of Pearl, Jet and Dioptase.

Love Yourself

2017-06-10T11:15:00.000+01:00

Friday, May 19, 2017

Woke at 7.21am, which feels good as I am waking up earlier and earlier and enjoy mornings. I did something different this morning and have noticed that I am starting to feel comfortable doing things out of my normal comfort zone.

I watched a movie, which I really enjoyed. The other reason I am trying this is because I am relationship that I find it difficult to understand why my partner behaves the way he does. What I mean is that I find it difficult to live with someone and we barely communicate, and then he starts playing angry birds a game on his phone straight after he has asked me for toast and tea and we slept in separate beds last night. Just typing this I say to myself this is so exhausting and I seem to going over the same thing often WHY? What am I supposed to learn from this? Why am I am finding this so difficult?

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I am now using a bit from my favorite magazine Psychologies, LOVE YOURSELF – "Create a new relationship with your thoughts and feelings"

RAIN - R is for Recognition: It's impossible to deal with an emotion, and to be resilient in the face of difficulty, unless we acknowledge that we're experiencing it

A is for Acceptance: Accept the feeling and allow it to be there. Give yourself permission to feel it. Imagine each thought and emotion as a visitor knocking at the door of your home. They don't live there - you can greet them, acknowledge them and watch them go.

I is for Investigation: Explore your emotions with a sense of openness and curiosity. Examine how each feeling manifests in your body and look at what the feeling contains. Many strong emotions are intricate tapestries woven out of various strands. Anger for example, commonly includes moments of sadness, helplessness and fear. As we get closer to it , an uncomfortable emotion becomes less opaque and solid. We can focus less on labelling the discomfort and more on gaining insight.

Non -Identification: In the final step, the aim is to consciously avoid being defined by, and identified with , a particular feeling. Feeling Angry is different from telling yourself, 'I am an angry person.' Try noticing your anger and instead of going into judgement, make a gentle observation. "This is state of suffering" The identification opens the door to a compassionate relationship with yourself, which is the real foundation of a compassionate relationship with others.

Psychologies magazine July 2017, Sharon Salzberg

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In this moment after reading then typing out I find myself having moved through the process and then observing the messages from my body, I have a headache, and can just feel my immune system is fighting something so I've taken the self care steps of running a hot bath with Eucalyptus Aromatherapy oil and sipping on a med-lemon to ease the headache. This week has been rather challenging but on a positive note. I feel as though I am rediscovering myself. I am spending allot of time alone which I enjoy and reconnecting with myself. The job search route has been rather interesting. I've had a few negative experiences which has affected my confidence and in the same breath I have gained great experience. I have found myself going over the same question many times. Am I making the right decision? Well if I refer to Susan Jeffers, No loose Decision Making Model the answer would be yes as it is the right decision for me right now.

Explore self coaching

2014-02-07T20:53:00.000+00:00

Success secrets to Take Control of Your Life.

What is it I don't want other people to know about me?

That I have experienced allot of rejection which has affected my confidence and I have build up a negative picture in my head due to this experience and therefore am allowing fear to get in the way and trying again.

This most probably has to do with what you anticipate others will think.

What stops me feeling good about myself?

Not taking responsibility for my life and not honouring my feelings when they start to indicate negative signs that I need to change something and try and con myself that I am strong and can handle it. Not doing the "right thing"

What would happen if I did feel good about myself?

I would feel confident enough and trust myself that if I put myself first and take care of what is important then all the other things around that will take care of themselves. I would succeeded in anything I put my mind too and feel happy.

Learning to like yourself is important. Take a piece of paper and write down all the things you like about yourself. It might be the shape of your finger nails
or that you try to tell the truth.

Keep collecting items no matter how small over the next week.

I am proud that I choose to handle a similar situation in a different more responsible way this time around which shows me I am taking responsibility and learning from my lessons in the past. I've had a situation with my career which has presented itself to be rather challenging but feel I have handled it well. Sometimes it's ok to say I don't care that I don't care......if I do care then I worry so

It important to try new things. If you respond with fear then spell out the worst case scenarios you have in your mind, sometimes this is enough for you to realise how unsightly these fears are.

I am trying new things - I found a friend being rather unsupportive and was bringing me down and instead of always putting their feelings and taking them into consideration and not putting myself first, I've taken a different approach and walked away with the attitude of I come first and if you cannot respect me then that is your loss.
I have stretched my comfort zone this week and opened up and was myself and found it fun and learnt something about myself
I've listened and taken a friends advise as they can see things I know but was to "stuck" to do anything about it - now that I have taken action I feel so much better, I still don't know what I would the outcome to be but trying not to control that too much and just praise and recognise myself for taking action

Now think about the worst case scenario and if it were to come true - how could it be managed?

Presenting the facts and negotiating the best outcome for all parties

Instead of burring the fear take it head on and find a strategy for dealing with it if it does not your instinct may be correct - DON"T DO IT

There are ways to like yourself more, try to think of someone you like, why do you like them?

Self acceptance - try this. Think of two or three people and make a list of the following:

What characteristics you like in them

High morals and self respect, hard working, positive attitude and doer

Anything you don't like about them

Being naive and over enthusiastic

What qualities you admire in them

Sense of humour, loyal, friend, dependable, respectful and trustworthy

Now suppose you had to do this exercise with yourself?

Write down all the things you liked about yourself today, no matter how trivial

I like because I went to bed with no alarm clock and was ok waking when I did

I found the motivation to get out of bed to get to the dentist even though I felt like a truck had driven over me. I did not want to let the dentist down but more importantly myself as I knew if I did not get up and slept more I would pay the price of feeling guilty and had bad dreams and felt worse for it.

I like myself because I have made a few big decisions over the past week mainly to do with my well-being so despite how hard it's been I am put my phone on silent and not going to take calls till the end of the day.

I like these things about myself - being able to put my needs first and take my well-being seriously. I keep my work and I am conscientious.

Both show a link between your values and your behaviour.

How much does the degree of linking yourself depend on your behaviour or your capability.?

It is important to learn how to manage your state. Good management of our state greatly affects our self esteem. There are many ways in which we can change our state to make our experienced more enjoyable.

Looking in the rearview mirror of life

2014-02-01T14:47:00.001+00:00

LOOK BACK.....WHAT DO I SEE?

TODAY 1 FEBRUARY - This day means quiet a few things, but most importantly is I am slowly coming into contact with something I have been yearning for and that is myself.

Last weekend I experienced something rather scary. I simply did not recognise myself, by that I mean the way I felt. I just felt like a dead plank inside, nothing would shift my mood I felt like it was the end of the world. To be honest it has never been that bad however it has been a LONG time looking at the date of my writing 1 year and 1 month ago.........and it has suddenly just dawned on me to look back and ask myself where was I in my life at that time?

I was working at a tutor at a local college and was in my 13th month and 3rd position looking for change and that is when I made the decision to look for another job and go back into field sales and find the opportunity to earn money again. Let me tell you it has not been that simple AT ALL , in fact right now it feels like the longest year on my life and almost as trying as 2011 but only this time my health has paid the price.

I set out to get back into the corporate world, to earn money and stick it out one year no matter what. So all I can say is I am one very committed person despite the circumstances I have faced this past year and now faced with a very different set of choices and decisions to make. I wonder why I have put myself through this? Why I ask this question is purely because I have extremely concerned with they way I've been feeling, like I lost a part of myself, the motivation, drive, ambition - I use to ask myself what happened to that Karen that use to sit for hours building her own website from Utube and library books for hours and days, I just could not find that determination inside my soul but looking back I have noticed two occasions when it has appeared and that was after taking 5 days annual leave and not thinking about work and relaxing.

Surprise surprise last night I went to bed saying to myself "hey I feel so happy and alive wow this is amazing" I've woken up this morning feeling even better. My nephew has just walked past and said Good Morning and as I looked up I noticed the blue sky and said to him I wonder if that is why I feel better, then suddenly thought but there was no sun last night??? I am trying to identify what has made the change?

Last Monday it suddenly dawned on me during my 2 and half hour drive to the office how long it was. I just felt half dead by 11am and a colleague said to me "you look drained"......we then went into a meeting when my boss said to me "Karen, I know you live far away but any orders you get you will have to drive them into the office" well the thought of that almost sent me over the edge! I found myself breaking down, getting tearful and finally breaking down......I was sent home and took days out!

I went to the doctor who brought to my attention that I was showing signed of physical stress. I was waking up at 3am most nights and feeling exhausted even after begin in bed most of the weekend! So I got myself off to the gym and did a gentle workout, and thought I'd better start taking care of myself or I would land up depressed and although I felt like I was I knew deep down I can and I will get myself out of the hole!

Being the end of the year and month and all the changes and adjustments there are signs that my hard work is starting to pay off. I feel hopeful with a new year, new opportunities and chance to earn some commission and new pay plan and a goal!

First quarter is going to get all I have and it is either going to work or not! What has been working in the background is the option and plan for the first time in 11 years to go back to Cape Town........home!!! Well last Monday while driving home I was ready to get on the plane but deep down I knew that was rather irrational! Who know it might not happen either but a decision has been made, a goal is set and actions towards my well being is what has made me feel better. Going for a massage was only part of the treatment plan - I cannot recommend it enough - please say "I don't have time or money" well I used my credit card and believe it was worth ever single penny!

Smoothies, eating well, cooking, exercise, rest and support has all contributed to this.

I suddenly decided to take a bit of my own medicine and evaluate my life!

As a personal development Coach and Trainer even I use my treatment as can speak from personal experience and clients often say it is so nice to hear that I can really empathise.

So I would really encourage you to take a look at your life and ask yourself a few important questions about your happiness!!!

My love of writing has returned

2013-01-05T22:42:00.000+00:00

I almost feel ashamed that I have not written for more than a year, well that is not entirely true, as I have written but just not here......in many journals.

However I thought it might be useful to reflect and share what has happen! Life is so very different! When I made certain decisions I had no idea that they would take the twists and turns they have. I cannot actually believe what I have accomplished in the last year. It has been the biggest transformation I have ever experienced. Let's turn back the clock back to when the recession started, apparently in 2008. I was at that stage searching deep within myself for answers and very deeply involved with my sales career in a rather secure job at the time. I found my quest and did not stop till I succeeded and that was going to travel the world. Yes I landed up working on ships and yachts and was away travelling the world for two years, having the most amazing and challenging experiences of my life.

One sunny afternoon in 2008 while re designing my vision board I clearly remember cutting out words from a magazine, and looking for the word coach, but could you find one and so I settled for "teacher" and had NO IDEA how powerful this was.

Well to cut a long story short firstly I remember clearly two customers I used to visit one worked part time for the YMCA and another for a small charity and I remember sharing my dream story of going to work on a boat and they encouraged me and found it rather inspiring.

I landed up getting a job as a Digital Living Presenter on a cruise ship which meant my job was to sell, promote and TEACH IT classes to passengers, yes people that don't cruise say, people do that on a cruise....yes they do! They want to know all about the latest technology like Facebook, iTunes, iPods and the latest versions of windows verses Mac etc

I then moved into the world of yachting which was a fantastic experience and will share a whole chapter of that at some point soon!

Back to teaching bit........so when I landed on land....and stepped out of my bubble and experience this recession myself, I faced unemployment for a short space of time. Trust me when I say this, only someone who has actually been unemployed and experience almost every fibre of their self-confidence be drained from your soul by the very thing I had just stepped out of ...technology and keyword technology. I had always worked and had a job since leaving school and when I did move around I had such a portfolio of achievements to bring to any business when it came to sales .......well one time I moved jobs and doubled my salary and that is kind of what I was used to. When I accepted the job to go travelling I knew full well things from a financial aspect would be on the complete opposite side of the scales, but I still had security and a job with an opportunity of a life time.

There is nothing that can prepare one for dealing with experience of unemployment. During this period I was extremely fortunate to have family that were prepared to give me all the support they could, including me wanting to start a business with no money. Again the full details of this will be revealing on a another day.

When I reached the point of exhausting every bit of courage, determination, optimism and reality that I could no longer continue and had to put my pride in my pocket and sign on to start claiming benefits. This was a massive thing for me to do. But when you apply for over 100 jobs and get very little response, or when you do the experience is shocking you really to believe there is something wrong with you and there are moment you start believing you might be loosing it. Thank God for my family but try to live on £67 a week. The saving grace came with some temp work doing tele-sales, I hated every moment but it had to be done! Four weeks felt like four months......then a miracle happened...........to be continued!

That you to that very customer who I am still in contact with via social media who started a new block in 2013 and had inspired me to write again!

11.11.11 at 11.11

2013-01-05T22:12:00.000+00:00

Well it happens to be full moon the night before 11th November 2011. One year ago I was worked of MY A hard to believe. So where has my journey taken me over the past year. Came back and lived with my brother who had his own flat at the time. I was fortunate to take over the spare room. I had his car to use and he had taken over the care of my Mom's car. I started my journey with Inspired Entrepreneur and formed Explore Your Journey with Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway workshops. By July the flat was up for sale and I was moving back to Milton Keynes. I temped at NHBC for a while, claimed JSA and finally landed my dream job with a training company as a business development manager in October. I had the opportunity of doing some studies "Prepare to Run Your Own Business" and ITQ which has been such a blessing and amazing how it has just all fallen into place all around the right times and dates. I feel so blessed.

Hi

2012-05-29T09:52:00.000+01:00

I hope you don't take offense in my sudden approach. I took a trip this week to Madrid, Spain and was attacked and robbed. My belongings including my cash, credit card and cell phones were all stolen. I've made contact with my bank but the best they can do is to mail me a new card which will take 4 working days to arrive here, am currently concluding my documentation at the embassy so i can fly out. I need you to lend me some funds to settle some bills.

Please let me know if you can assist me in anyway so i can forward you details to effect a transfer.You can reach me via email or the hotel's desk phone.

Waiting for your mail.

Many Thanks.

Karen Wyness.

Life's lessons

2011-11-20T10:05:00.000+00:00

Don't try and blog from iTouch past midnight .............and THEN hit the publish button instead of SAVE! Thanks for the friends I have.

Tea with strangers.....

2011-11-19T23:41:00.003+00:00

Yes you heard right! Wanting to make new friends in town I joined meet up. I agreed to meet with "strangers" at a lovely place called www.tea-money.com the weird this is I really had to motivate myself to go. I was invited to a friends place for coffee prior to the tea meet up, boy was I tempted to just stay there. I know when the soul goes against our resistance that is usually when you need to work a little harder and get past it!

I arrived went over to a busy table and said, "is this the meet up table?" ok I was in the right place. I sat down and started reading the menu, I then got up and went to counter to order. I had my nose buried in the menu, when I heard this voice say "what can I get you my love" I looked up and was just about to say...when he said "wait I know, rooibos." I replied "how did you know" he replied, so which part of SA are you from I said Cape Town. He said me too, which part? Then he opened a tin of rooibos rose hip tea and I was sold......we chatted for a while, (as saffers do) well by the time I sat down he had my number. Jayson is his name. I continued chatting
away and got to know the meet up group. As I was leaving he reached over the counter to give me a hug. Anytime you want to pop in I am here except Tuesdays and Thursdays! A bit later I got a text .... We should go for a drink sometime! Now that is what I miss about home!

Unconditional love

2011-11-08T22:15:00.000+00:00

I've just watched a documentary on TV about an English man who thought he was really smart. He got addicted to smuggling hash from Spain into the UK. It started by him physically wrapping blocks of it to his body and only travelling with hand luggage. One day his Spain agent approached him and asked him to help him with 500kg which was not very well organised, the long of the short is he got busted by the Spain police and spent three years in prison. Just before he decided to take on the last job he was out celebrating at a restaurant with his girlfriend, who at the time knew nothing of his dealing but she started to suspect something and asked, he confessed, however he continued. When he went to prison she gave him unconditional love and they wrote to each other every single day and he refused to let her see him in prison. Now how does a woman do that? Well I suppose the reason I ask that question is because I don't think I could give someone that kind of unconditional love. Maybe the writing and communication helped?

9 easy steps to attracting and keeping the perfect partner!

2011-07-20T22:29:00.000+01:00

Are you struggling to make an existing relationship work? Or are you longing for the right person to come inot your life but can't seem to attract them?

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From establishing positive personal beliefs and expectations, right through to creating and sustaining healthy and happy relationships, you ll discover how to attract the perfect partner and feel completely fulfilled in your relationship.

Are you ready to explore a wise, practical and helpful guide to creating the love that you really want. Follow us and create more love in life!

Your ultimate guide to attracting and keeping the perfect partner in 9 easy steps.

"Love is a force of destiny whose power reaches from heaven to hell," ~ Carl Jung

How much time and energy do you spend thinking about relationships? Are you happy with the status quo right now or do you long for more passion, intimacy and connection with your partner?

And if you are single, how are you feeling about your chances of meeting your perfect match?

As humans we have an inbuilt desire to relate to another person, which underpins our drive to form relationships. For some of us this desire is easily expressed, while others find it harder truly to connect with another human being. There is something immensely courageous in us that lets us risk opening our hearts to another. A safe passage is never guaranteed in love, and none of us know where the JOURNEY will take us, how long it will last or what we will experience along the way. What we do know is that we feel more alive, expanded and whole when we feel love - both for ourselves and for our partners.

Love is a fundamental need that we all share. Without love we cannot feel truly happy and fulfilled. No matter how successful, accomplished or self-aware we are, true joy comes from sharing who we are with another. But we can feel deeply ambivalent about this and we aren't always open to revealing ourselves in a relationship. For many of us, becoming intimate and exposing our true selves can be both a wish and a dread.

So HOW do we overcome our FEARS and learn to open our hearts and experience a deep and loving connection in our relationships?

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2011-07-18T22:20:00.001+01:00

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Mindful leadership

2011-07-16T12:09:00.000+01:00

…the capacity to be in the present moment, aware of what is happening now, and mindfulness practices, particularly meditation, can arguably help move individuals along the development ladder. Mindfulness is based on self-awareness and full presence of the sort that includes not just the mind, but also the emotions, creativity, soulfulness and spirit.

Secrets of faith

2011-07-14T23:44:00.000+01:00

Never give up always have faith ask for what you want and guess it is all happening perfectly

Seeing your own work

2011-06-05T02:00:00.000+01:00

Getting the first copy of the healing connections magazine today and seeing my ad was a great feeling. My next challenge is to choose a place to run my 1st workshop. But again looking at the places in magazine I was able to do some enquires, and the secret to good business is keeping your costs down.

So rather a big difference from your typical well known hotel chain at £28 per person which includes lunch to £10 per hour for the room. Well the better of the two in based in Beds and Herts so that offer will have to be 2nd or 3rd round as I feel the advert directs people to my website which says venue to be advised (Herfordshire) ahah paging through the magazine I suddenly realise I have the wrong place..........wow this means more choice!

Well browsing though the magazine I have found a therapist networking event for £3 on Wednesday evening......then I am thinking I have a very important interview on Thursday, I really need to stay focused! I recall seeing two events in the Psychologies magazine one being "writing about your childhood" which is on Tuesday evening but that would mean a trip into London and the whole things would be at least £40 which I cannot spare right now......well one day soon I will be able to do these wonderful things and this time I am just saying yes to universe as this has taught me to really appreciate money!

Barter System

2011-06-02T12:27:00.001+01:00

I work from home and do most things on my own. I am a people's person, so I have to have the radio of in the back ground and love it where I have "company" or just knowing someone is there in the background. Can you relate?

Looking back what I loved about ship life was I had my desk normal in the back office which was usually situated behind the reception where the admin manager, passenger services manager and traffic which gave the office a buzz which I really when I am working from home on my own.

What I thinking about creating is having a kind of double story house where the front "lounge bit" can be the open plan offices and rent space to people just like myself who are looking for support, company and someone to bounce their ideas off. We can use a barter type of system as I need help with my graphic design and printing and very advanced PA to book venues or events management and I can do the sales side including promoting them and what they do. Food for thought.

Birthday Calendar

2011-05-28T15:14:00.001+01:00

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Karen