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Relationship Help: Adult Kids Not Talking to You?

DrShaler — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:00:32 +0000

I was on Facebook this morning reading the Mother’s Day messages. Several spoke of their sense of pain and loss that their adult children were no longer communicating with them. It was particular pain of the phone not ringing and the post box empty on Mother’s Day. understand that. It made me think of a few things that might be part of that conversation and I want to quickly share them with you, just case you or someone you know is experiencing this today. Maybe this post will offer a little relationship help for you: Our children create the story of their lives, past, present and future. If they think something happened and they think that it was meant to hurt them, that is the way they want to tell the story. There is nothing you can do but love them from a distance. In the story our children create, there may be real pain, real loss, and real abuse. What I mean by real is that it actually happened just as they remember it. They may feel very justified in their anger and desire to end communication. Love them from a distance. If we knowingly wronged our children, ask [...]

Weekly Relationships Dialogue Call

somethingelse — Tue, 08 May 2012 21:35:05 +0000

This is a 90-minute call where I offer you the relationship help you need and want. You can ask your relationship questions and get answers right away while sharing in the topics of others on the call, too. Each callRead More > >

Relationship Dialogues

DrShaler — Wed, 02 May 2012 16:49:41 +0000

RELATIONSHIP HELP: The Relationship Dialogues™:Conversations Couples Need to Have Relationship help. We all benefit from learning new skills AND new things about each other. But, when? Couples NEED to talk. Not in leftover or squeezed in time, but inRead More > >

Welcome, Showcasing Women!

somethingelse — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:20:28 +0000

We hope you created great value from the “Climb the Mountain, Plant your Flag and Prosper’ Summit. We’re here to help with that. Do you have a nagging question, a burning issue, or an about-to-blow-up relationship problem or situation thatRead More > >

Relationship Help: Do you negotiate well?

DrShaler — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 18:42:04 +0000

Every day, in every relationship–even the one with have with ourselves, we are negotiating all the time. Wouldn’t it be wise to hone your skills? When I’m working with couples or workplace teams, I see it so clearly. They have not learned or honed their skills of negotiation. In fact, they do not see most of their more difficult conversations as negotiations in the first place. They see them as “debates,” “discussions” and “fights.” They seldom realize that they are negotiations. And, with applied skills, things could go much more smoothly! Gerard Nierenberg in The Complete Negotiatior says that: “…negotiation occurs when human beings exchange ideas for the purpose of changing their relationships.” Isn’t that actually what is happening when we sit down with our partner, spouse, boss, mother or teenager to discuss something that we think needs changing? Sure it is. And, that’s negotiation. It all depends on our desire and ability to communicate. If we just want to tell them what we want, why we want it and what we want them to do about it, that’s an enlightened…or, maybe not so enlightened… dictatorship. If we are actually in a relationship with them that we would like to [...]