To be honest, I didn’t want to say anything until now because the deal wasn’t exactly set in stone yet…

But at exactly 6 PM (Eastern Time) on December 31, 2009 Speak Sexy is officially moving!

(No, no - don’t cry! It’s a good thing!)  You’ll still be able to get all the juicy stuff you’re used to getting here, but in a much more, er, “pleasing” venue.

Unfortunately I’m under contract not to give away the name of my new and improved home until it goes live New Year’s Eve, but trust me you’ll be the first one’s on the planet to check out this little piece of sexy cyber luxury.

Arousing, Interactive & Young - what more could you ask for from a site?

So mark your calenders! Bookmark this page! And come back New Year’s Eve to access the Secret Link to the other side….Mmmmmmmmm

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Ever seen that show Manswers? Not sure I would recommend it per se, but I happened to catch a bit of it the other night and was slightly intrigued by the question “Who is the patron saint of Whores?”

Hm. Never gave that question much thought…BUT it turns out the saint looking out for the well-being of all maidens-of-the-night is dirty ‘ol Saint Nick! (Should’ve guessed that one - after all he’s famous for belting out their names when he’s Happy) =P

The story behind it goes something like this:

A long time ago in a land far far away there lived a poor man with three daughters. Because these girls had no dowries, they would probably grow up to be whores (as was the way of all poor women at the time…) Jolly Ol’ Saint Nick decided this was not to be, and under the cloak of night, tossed three bags of gold into the poor man’s house - one for each daughter - thereby saving the damsels in distress from a life of ill repute.

Awww.

At least that’s what happened according to the all-knowing, all-powerful Wikipedia.

So today all of whoredom prays to Santa every night to deliver them from their plight and keep them safe while on the job.

Interesting.

However I wonder…Do these lovely ladies end up on Santa’s “Naughty” or “Nice” list every year?!

Personally, I think they end up in his own private Little Black Book of Yummies who need his Help.

After all, Santa may be a Saint, but no one really gets something for nothing…And if those women really want to be saved I’m sure he’s got a favor or two lined up in return.  (He does like stuffed stockings after all!)

Happy HO-lidays Everyone!!!

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In Other News - Things around here have been kinda quiet, and that’s because there’s a few major changes coming our way. Mr. Sex Site and Best Friend have now become a hot item - flirty, grabby, googly-eyes! Oh well, another one bites the dust…

However, all this pawing and clawing has led to some interesting turn of events - notably that SpeakSexy will soon become…well…something else. Something Bigger, Wilder and a lot more involved! Feel free to start taking your clothes off now…because very soon we’re going to give you a place to let it all hang out - and we mean ALL. So get your cameras ready! (I can’t wait!) 

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Wow - did I just date myself with that song? Anyhoo…

News Flash!

• 11% of Americans don’t know you CAN get pregnant while having sex standing up
• 26% never discuss contraception with their partners
• 31% never discuss sexual health such as STIs with their partners

These figures were recently released based on a poll of 2,000 Americans between the ages of 16 and 50 according to this article.

No mention of who conducted the poll nor their methods was revealed, making the poll itself very very very suspect in my mind. (For all I know the author of the article pulled the numbers right out of his you-know-what.) But the validity of the survey isn’t really the interesting part…It’s the idea behind the questions that I’d like to focus on here.

No Sexy Talk with Your Sex Machine?

You’d think that if there was one person in this entire world who you could talk with about sex in an open and nonjudgmental way it would be your own lover. After all, you’re HAVING sex WITH them. At the very least, you’d probably want to talk about life-altering consequences such as…oh…Children and Incurable Diseases!

Breaking it down, I suppose you could avoid the STI conversation after you’ve been sleeping with just each other for a while, assuming no one is cheating, swinging, etc.

But what about in the beginning? Are you really going to have sex with someone without asking if they’ve been tested recently? (And if not, what makes them believe they are disease-free?)  It seems like an awfully big risk for 20 minutes of hot, heavy sticky fun.

But let’s assume you’re willing to take that chance JUST to avoid an emotionally embarrassing conversation…

Not even Contraception talk?! A basic - “Do you use condoms?” “Are you on the pill?” Really? What happens when you’ve both taken your clothes off and are ready to “connect”? Does he just assume she’s on birth control while she just prays she doesn’t get pregnant this time? Eeek!

How can either of you have ANY fun if all you’re doing is worrying about these things in the moment rather than taking care of the issues beforehand?

Even if you don’t care about your own personal safety or possible accidental procreation - at least care about the quality of your sex!

Talking about these “big, uncomfortable” issues lets you relax once the bump-and-grinding begins.  And isn’t that the point of all this in the first place?

So, although I hope those poll results are a little screwy on the actual numbers, I know there are people out there who fall into these no-talky categories and I feel the need to say…

For the Sake of Good, Naughty, Wild and Carefree Sex - Talk to your partner about the “icky” stuff first. Your mind-blowing orgasms will thank you in the end. 

**Speaking of Orgasms** - I think my friend hooked up with that web developer guy the other night. Bad Girl that she is. I know they left together after our dinner, but I haven’t had a chance to catch up with her since. Hope she had all these “talks” we’ve been discussing! Maybe she’s trying to get in on that new Sex Site he’s making. hah.**

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Now here’s something you won’t hear about on this side of the Atlantic…A government sponsored program aimed at teaching teens “self-pleasure” techniques!

I think Spain should get the award for Progressive Health Care Nation indeed.

Of course, the religious parties are going boinkers over this - saying such a “touchy” *ahem* topic should be left for parents to discuss with their budding sexualites.

The target demographic is between 14-17 years of age, using pamphlets, etc. and also deals with issues of contraception and self-respect. Although the article doesn’t specify the “why” for this new outreach program, I’m assuming it’s to counter non-solo-teen-sex and lower teen pregnancy/STI rates.

Sounds good to me…At least from a logical adult perspective.

However, thinking back, I’m not sure I would’ve appreciated a cute-little government-made pamphlet trying to convince me that masturbation was better than “the real thing”. (Who are they kidding?!)

I can see these teens getting a good laugh out of it (maybe an actual pointer or two - “OK Ladies, now right HERE is where you’ll find your clit! You know,  just in case you’ve never noticed that super-sensitive spot on your body in the past 15 or so years!”).

Even worse, I can see teens taking pamphlets concerning the Other Gender (assuming they’re heterosexual) to get free sex tips on how to better pleasure their partners. It makes sense. If I wanted to know how to better pleasure my “boyfriend” and this pamphlet is made to teach HIM how to do it to HIMSELF, then wouldn’t it make sense for me to read THAT one instead? Yup. Yup.

So while I like the message and the forward thinking of this campaign, there might be some real-world design flaws that actually teach teens how to have better sex with Each Other rather than themselves - obviously undermining the actual campaign altogether.

Can’t “Win for Losing” I guess…*sighs*

***Other News Update*** I’m not sure what’s going on with this website-builder-guy I mentioned. I brought in one of my friends to see his new site and I think he was hitting on her…It was one of those situations where it could have been him just being “nice” - but afterward she asked if I’d noticed and we couldn’t decide either way - lol. Maybe I’ll bring her around more often just to see what happens between them Haha. So Bad.***

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Narcissistic? Maybe. Exhibitionistic? Probably.

But Self-Destructive?!

Umm…that’s going a little far I think.

According to an article published today in US Magazine Online, some sexperts think Hollywood Upity-Ups continue to make sex tapes in the privacy of their own homes (and relationships) because they are self-destructive. Sexually explorative folks are cast in the light of “not being able to control themselves” and “narcissistic” because every now and then they like to have a camera rolling in the corner.

Harsh! Ouch!

I think most people enjoy the “naughtiness” of filming their sexual triumphs - particularly on those wonderful “I’m feeling super sexy” days we all have - regardless of whether you are a celebrity or just Jane Next Door. Unfortunately for celebrities their tapes get leaked to the world whereas every one else only has to worry about it leaking to Best-Friend-Bob or Co-Worker Sue.

Yes, difference of scope I guess…But in the big picture, why does anyone even care? Why can a silly sex tape end a career? Make people lose friends? It’s really not a huge secret that most people have sex with their partners! So, this time it happened to be filmed. Yey!

Also, US-Mag Sexpert ignores the fact that most Other Sexperts would see sex tapes as a good, healthy sign of a loving, playful relationship. One in which both partners are confident and comfortable with each other. It’s not a negative sign! It doesn’t mean private-wannabe-porn-stars lack self-control and go around doing socially unacceptable things all the time!

It just means they want to spice things up a little and would rather watch a replay of their own sexual adventures than a fake “oh-ah” commercial session on DVD.

After all, aren’t you in the mood for a down-and-dirty documentary sometimes?

Just consider them the “adult” portion of your “family” films. You’ll be happy you took them in 30 years when you look back and reminisce about the “good ‘ol days”!

**PS - I was invited to take a look at that new sex site I mentioned before and it looks awesome! Still in it’s infancy, but the overall theme is great. I get to test drive it…will let you know more as it comes.**

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Let’s Play!

Which One Doesn’t Belong?

1. “Being Bad”
2. “Blending In”
3. “Living on the Edge”
4. “Doing Something Naughty”

*insert Jeapordy music here…Do Do Doo Do…Do Do Doo Do…*

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I bet you chose Number 2 didn’t you Smarty Pants? =P

Well, as usual you’re right. “Blending in” just doesn’t have the same emotional draw as the others, does it? And I’m thinking therein lies a problem with those who have a certain proclivity for leather and things that go thump in the night.

You see, Kink is going mainstream. Or what I like to call “Kink-Light”.

It’s in Rhianna videos and gothic-chic styles. It’s on poster boards and commercials. Slowly but surely that pair of handcuffs tucked surreptitiously under your mattress is becoming a ho-hum item - much like the traditional dildo…

(How often do you hear shocked gasps when a sex toy in mentioned nowadays? Exactly. Those once heart-fluttering items are being sold as health aides. Sure, they do promote sexual as well as cardiovascular health…but where’s the fun in that?! My dildo is suddenly on par with my morning vitamins?! Woo-F’n-Hoo!)

So as “fetish” becomes more accepted, are kinksters going to have to delve into more extreme forms of play to get the same “rush” of doing something “bad”? I wonder how much of the thrill is actually doing a certain activity - spanking, etc. - verses the fact that it’s not “supposed” to be done.

On one hand, it’s great alternative forms of sexual expression are being accepted by the larger culture, but on the other hand - the acceptance may ruin the thrill of it altogether. Quite the conundrum.

Or maybe - just maybe - two branches of Kinksters will emerge…those that actually enjoy the sensations/connectivity of the activity themselves verses those who do it because they like the rebellious feeling it gives them. OR the second branch - liking rebellion - will itself become a Kink. OR the first branch will tout themselves as “true” Kinksters because they are doing it because they actually like it.

Hmm. It’ll be interesting to see how this plays out.

If you’re into Kinky-play at all…what are your thoughts on the “darker” side going soft-squishy-public?

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On a Side Note: I’ve gotten wind that sometime in the next few months a super huge sexuality site is going to open. I briefly met the owner of the site a few days ago - cool guy - and he’s planning a lot of fun events for it. We’ll see. I’ll keep you posted!

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That whole “No Sex for Two Weeks” post the other day made me wonder…If people are so tired at the end of the day that they’d rather sleep than have sex…

How many of you would consider compromising with your hornier-than-thou partner for sex while you sleep?

To be fair, the sleeping partner in heterosexual relationships would, in most cases, be the woman. So let’s rephrase the question a bit:

Women: Would you allow your lover to “take advantage” of your luscious and tempting yet passed-out-from-exhaustion form? (Sure you might wake up at a few choice moments…But you get the point - No vigorous activity on your end -Just passive enjoyment or full-out sleep.)

Men: Would you feel right having sex with a motionless, warm body? Could you get into that whole “I’m using her for my own pleasure” mindset, or does there HAVE to be more involvement on her end (emotionally, physically, etc.)?

I can see both parties really getting into this sort of thing IF they have rather active imaginations…For example, he might like the idea of “forcing” her “unwilling” body to do things - much like taking advantage of her while she’s drunk, etc. She might feel extra loved by his attentions without feeling the pressure of needing to “respond” as she might while fully awake and engaged.

Turning to the darker side of things, if she has any hidden rape fantasies tucked away, this could be a perfect opportunity to mentally explore the murkier corners of her desires in a very safe and controlled environment.

Really, there are lots of perspectives that can be aptly applied to the sleep-sex situation to make it a fun and bonding experience. Of course, I wouldn’t suggest springing this on your partner in the middle of the night haphazardly! That certainly wouldn’t go over well…but try talking about the possibility beforehand, and next time the opportunity arises…take advantage of it - and her - and see what happens. Maybe you love it, maybe you think it’s boring, maybe you’re too tired to even remember it!

Regardless of the outcome, at least you tried to make time for each other - and that in itself is good enough for me.

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A quick question for those of you in long-term committed relationships…

Is two weeks without sex “normal” for you?

I’ve been doing a little reading about the Wall Street Journal article that alleged some crazy percentage of women would rather go without sex for two weeks than give up the internet for as long. Now I realize that article came out about a year ago…but it still got me thinking. One of the responses it received was by Andrea Grimes over at “Heartless Doll“. Andrea was upset because she did not believe it was a fair poll to begin with - One needs the internet to continue living a productive life in today’s world whereas sex can come and go without much upheaval. (After all, bills will still be paid, etc.)

However what struck me was one comment left by a reader named Brendon who said, “I’m really surprised so many men in that age group would rather have sex and no net for two weeks than vice versa. You’d think after being in a committed relationship or married for that long, they’d be used to two week hiatuses.”

*coughs, sputters, cleans the computer screen from the droplets of sprayed coffee*

Ummm, Brendon…really?!

Study after study has shown that couple’s in long-term relationships who have sex 3-4 times a week stay together longer, live longer lives and report higher levels of overall contentment and happiness. Isn’t that reason enough to save up a teeny-tiny bit of energy at the end of the day for a little snog with your hunny-bunny?

I think so.

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To be honest, I don’t watch very much T.V., but the other day I saw a Discovery Special on Ardipithecus - to date our oldest up-right walking ancestor by about 4.4 million years. Like all new discoveries Ardi had many notable features that puzzled scientists, but two of the most intriguing were that it lived in a forest and had small “K-9″ teeth (you know, the Vampire teeth).

Why are these features interesting? Let’s consider the evidence…

1) Apparently the going theory used to be that our ancestors started to walk on two legs for hunting purposes since we lived on PLAINS and could see over the grasslands. Turns out, we didn’t live on plains, but lived in FORESTS instead when we made our great move to tallness…So that theory got tossed.

2) All of our primate relatives have large K-9s which they use to intimidate each other during mating-fight-matches. The bigger the teeth, the more damage one male can do to another. So, those teeth are directly linked to their mating ability. (Ha - size does matter after all!) Obviously this is not the case with humans, since we have oddly small k-9s and our men don’t (typically)  go around biting each other to prove their manliness (though I could get into watching that). 

Anyhoo, Dr. Smarty-Pants Scientists decided the two features (our ability to walk upright and our small teeth) MUST be linked in some odd way…Why the two things couldn’t have developed at the same time for two completely different reasons I’m not sure…But leave it to them to link everything to our burgeoning romantic emotions…

The New Theory:

Human ancestor men began walking upright in forests so that they could use both hands to carry food back to their  barefoot and pregnant mates who they loved dearly with all of their hearts. In return their mates would, um…mate…with them over and over and create lots of babies.

Aaaawwww.

Now scientists are considering that just around that time our strong pair-bonding feelings - love - made large male teeth unnecessary since men weren’t fighting over mates every moment of the day. Nope, now they just picked ONE woman, fell in love with her, mated for life and used their impressive balancing-on-two-legs ability to bring their mates food. Women, on the other hand, could blissfully mate with their men over and over and have as many children as possible.

So, there you have it.

Our greatest sex lesson from a 4.4 million year old skeleton is:

Bring women food and they will have sex with you.

(As if we didn’t all know THAT already…hehe)

‘Til Next Time!

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*blushing* Ahem..er…is anybody out there?!

Since it’s almost Halloween (arguably the sexiest and most creative holiday of the year) we thought it would be the perfect time to resurrect Speak Sexy from its journey into the silent abyss. Once a thriving Red Light district, we’ve become a veritable ghost town..but no more!

We’re dusting off our knickers, hiking up our skirts and getting ready to shake ourselves silly with new intellectually tantalizing articles, more gropingly gorgeous picuters and discussions hot enough to light up Jack’s O’Lantern anyday. 

So gather up your candy kiddies, cuz this hayride’s about to get a lot sweeter…and bumpier…and (well, you get the point!)

See you soon!

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“As we started dancing around the floor, I reached my hand up under her hair and grabbed a hand full at the back of her neck and held it tightly. She looked up at me, and as I held tight onto that grip of her hair, pulling her head back just the slightest, she closed her eyes, smiled, made a soft noise, and in that moment the question was asked and answered; “Are you? Yes, and yes I am.” ~Excerpt taken from Can You Spot a Dominant or submissive?~

It’s not often I come across a blog so beautifully and powerfully written that I feel immediately compelled to tell others about it, but “A View from the Top” is truly a remarkable reading experience.

I’ll admit, I only found David’s blog because it linked back to a previous post on Speak Sexy, and I was able to track some of my own visitors back to his latest post entitled “What is shi-shi-toi.” I’d like to thank those visitors that blog-hopped between us because they led me back to such a wonderful place. (And in case you’re wondering, David has no idea I’m writing this surprise review!)

A View from the Top focuses on the mental dynamics of D/s relationships - sometimes from a personal point of view, but more often from a very intellectual/analytic perspective, using examples from his every day life and chats with others to illustrate his ideas. Topics range from what “humiliation” really means to sensual erotic encounters. What really impressed me was David’s ability to capture those intense and fleeting moments between Doms and subs that make this lifestyle so unique and intriguing. The “things” associated with D/s (bondage gear, leather, etc.) are never the focus of his discussions as they really don’t matter - it’s the emotional connections, the desires, the utter satisfaction a Dom and a sub can give to each other that is conveyed. In fact, even the “sex” is ancilliary to the core of what he’s trying to speak about. You can tell by the way he positions the characters in his erotic fiction that he fundamentally understands what a sexually submissive woman needs in those moments (the encounters are of the heterosexual, male Dom/fem sub variety). It’s also evident how much pleasure the Dom gets from watching her submit to him fully.

 The intangible emotional exchange is made explicit through his writing, and portrays the true depth of such experiences - a poignancy that videos, no matter how carefully crafted, can’t convey.

So, if you are at all inclined to explore the world of D/s further, or if you would simply like to connect with someone who obviously has a deep respect and thoughtful approach to these matters, please take a look at A View from the Top. It’s a rarity to find these kinds of provoking, open minded, adult discussions in a web unfortunately awash with sexual superficiality.

Thanks for blogging David!

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Closing the door, Francois left the bitter cold of the Montreal winter behind him and was embraced by the warm, nearly tropical air of the club. He breathed deeply and every herb that man smoked entered his nose in one solid stream, and he smiled softly as he made his way to the back of the club where he knew she would be waiting for him. He saw her almost instantly as he rounded the corner near the front door, her body was something that sculptors idolized for centuries and he was just as transfixed as they.

She stood roughly around five and a half feet tall, her legs were supple in their femininity and the thighs they connected to were designed to draw the eye of any man, or woman, who had the fortune to cast a glance at them. As you looked up, and you always did, the breasts stood high and firm on her chest, nothing grotesquely large, but enough that Francois always had both hands full when he touched them.

Her neck was slender and stood with a swan’s grace and her cheekbones, high and proud were offset by the deep, pouting lips that adorned the center of her face. Her eyes, sweet brown almonds that cast their gaze into you and reeled you in inch by delicious inch.

Tonight she was dressed in white, from high heels to the pearl necklace about her throat.

No words were ever spoken as he slipped his hand around her waist and pulled her softly from the wall she was leaning against. He pressed his mouth to hers and she opened to him, a soft and wet flick told him that she was more than happy to reciprocate his offer this chilly evening.

Their mouths still locked together, she led him slowly and carefully down a hallway where they always made their rendezvous on evening such as this. An office, or at least it used to be, sat unused at the end of the corridor and they made the best of it.

The door closed behind him and she broke the kiss, placing a finger to his lips to silence his protest as she slowly backed to the table and sat softly upon it, displaying her body for him to admire, to worship.

She ran a hand over her shoulder and caught the strap of the dress there. A thin, spaghetti strap and as she pulled, her breasts in all their splendor spilled from the dress like ambrosia to the people of the world. The deep tan only served to arouse Francois more, the brown aurolae hardening as his glance swept over her time and time again.

He stepped forward softly, her dress now around her ankles, her gorgeous perfection was flaunted for all to see. Her hips flared outward and her hourglass figure was presented to him, and he decided that he had allowed her to put herself on display for long enough for a single evening.

He placed his hands softly on her breasts and caressed them with a fierce passion. His fingers found her hardened nipples and pulled them ever so slightly, eliciting a gasp from her as he did.

His hands were soon replaced by his lips and his tongue flicked over the swollen pebbles of flesh, his lips gently moved over the skin of her breast, and he tasted all of her with his hungry mouth.

His arms wrapped about her waist and pulled her closer to him, the palms of his hands running over the super fine and smooth skin of her lower back, his hands moving lower still and cupping her supple buttocks in his hands as he lifted her, pulling her to his chest, her legs wrapping around him as his mouth finally moved from her breast and found her mouth again. He explored her mouth with flair and slowly laid her back on the desk, her legs around him as he moved his head to the moist heat of her core.

His nose was assailed by the sweet fragrance of her womanhood and his tongue gently moved to touch the soft pink folds. She shuddered at his touch and it was the catalyst he needed for his action. With both hands he pulled her to him and placed his lips and tongue over her mound and furiously tasted all of the sweet nectar that flowed from her. The hard nubbin of flesh at her center was his target and over and over again he attacked it with his tongue.

 Her hands pulled at his hair, both pulling him in and trying to push him away with both hands at once. Her screams, muffled somewhat, echoed across the stone walls of the office as he dug into her with a gusto, his mouth making noises that made her shudder.

As he felt her tighten, her muscles like iron around his face and neck, he delved deeper into her core and drank deep from the spilling cup of her womanhood. The juices ran down his throat in a torrent as her thighs threatened to squeeze all sense from his mind.

And then, as if there were a switch, her muscles relaxed and went slack, her breathing and his, loud and bestial filled the room as the passion of the moment filled the air.

***About the Author***

James is a 28 year old husband and father of two living in a sometimes overly-French town near Montreal, Quebec. He loves to write erotica and has been doing it for quite some time now. He is a poet and an artistic designer as well, although the latter is more of a hobby than anything else. He runs a website that is devoted to the wonder of women who are considered outside of the social norm, the Big Beautiful Woman.

“I plan on contributing, with the help of our lovely Rose of course, a great deal of content to SpeakSexy.”

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We look forward to it James! Thanks!

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Written by Featured Author Lee Jenkins

Does Your Woman Ejaculate?

When a woman reaches orgasm, she may actually ejaculate. This is especially true for orgasms as a result of G-spot stimulation.

This happens because of the Para-Urethral Glands, which is a female version of a man’s prostate gland.

The fluid the para-urethral glands produce is similar to that produced by the male prostate and, as in the male, passes into the urethra – and in some cases may pass into the vagina. The glands fill with fluid during sexual arousal and may be felt through the vaginal wall.

As it turns out, many people who experience a squirting orgasm think that this liquid is pee, or even vaginal lubrication. But studies of the fluid ejaculated through the urethra have shown a different chemical composition than urine…it’s clear, and if you actually smell it, you’ll find that it doesn’t smell like urine at all! The fluid produce from female ejaculation is odorless.

What If She’s Really Worried That She Might Pee?

Women sometimes will get the feeling that they need to urinate when their G-spot is stimulated. This is perfectly normal; however, the problem comes in when she becomes concerned and self conscious about wetting the bed.

This can drive her in a state of arousal and relaxation, to the point of stress and anxiety. If this happens, she may not be able to have an orgasm at all at this point. If she’s trying hard to hold it in, she’s not focusing on the sexual pleasure you’re giving her.

I can’t stress enough that in order for a woman to reach orgasm, she needs to be completely comfortable with you. This means that you’ll need a strong enough emotional bond for her to feel safe “letting go.” If she feels inhibited, she probably won’t be able to ejaculate.

She needs to be completely relaxed, and be perfectly comfortable if she does happen to ejaculate. If she gets the feeling that she needs to pee, let her know that she can “let it all out”. She won’t be peeing the bed, but it will still be really wet once the ejaculate gushes out.

If she’s still concerned, you can try stimulating her in the bathtub so any fluids that do come out doesn’t soak up the bed.

Female Ejaculation Training

A trick you can use to “train” your partner into become more comfortable with “letting go” is to go with her to the bathroom whenever she’s urinating.

If she hasn’t urinated with you in the same room, she might feel anxious, and have a hard time urinating. Let her get comfortable with you to the point where she can easily pee while you’re there.

Once she releases her PC muscles and starts urinating, reassure her and comfort her by saying, “Good girl” (or whatever line you want to use).

Associating the encouraging words along with your presence will allow her to feel comfortable enough to let go and urinate. Do this until she’s perfectly comfortable with you being there when she’s urinating.

Now, whenever you’re stimulating her G-spot, say “Good girl” (or whatever line you used in the bathroom). Because you’ve already trained her to the point where she feels relaxed urinating in your presence while you’re encouraging her, she won’t have the previously held inhibitions, and she’ll end up “letting go” and possibly ejaculating!

Lastly, another way to “train” a woman to ejaculate is by strengthening her pubococcygeus muscles. Check out the Special Report “How to Guarantee Orgasms” included with the Female Orgasm Black Book where you’ll find a detailed guide.

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This week’s Sugasm has an over abundance of nude, sexy, and sometimes raunchy ladies and gents in the “NSFW Pics, Vids, and Audio” category. Don’t ask me why I feel the need to put up links to so many naked people, just go ahead and enjoy yourself. (I know I did!)

Consider it my April Gift to you.

Like ice cream melting over your nipples on a hot Summer day…Mmmmm…

This Week’s Top 3:

1. My life as a Female

“His reply was instant: “You are a man”.”

2. Crisp - S.S. Pick! Super HOT!

“I found my eyes unable to leave the curves of her ass, everything else out of focus.”

3. Ripping Yourself a New One

“What’s the most ludicrous porn scene you ever saw?”

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I can feel Her again. (Finally.)

She must’ve been waiting. Right there. Under my skin. So patiently, so quietly I thought She was gone.

My only hope was Her infrequent Caresses. A tortured lick up my spine. A glimpse between dirty sheets. Cornered lovers curling their lusts around each other in unending flurries of tongues, teeth, and hands.

But just as suddenly as those moments would begin - they’d fade into emptiness, pure unadulterated nothingness.

Not the darkness that creates sensuality, nor the pungent silences between gasps - but Nothing.

Maybe it’s the lack of feeling that bothered me so much. The distinct absence of passion. It’s not like me to feel so…

- disconnected -

After all, I’ve gotten used to the torrents of need unexpectedly stabbing at my core, the effortless way my mind glides into the murky abyss of sexual imaginings…Amoral though they may be.

So to not feel that way - to lack the fire burning me from the inside out - was like not living at all.

But now, on my thankfully heated breaths, I think of You.

Well, Think is probably the wrong word. The truth is somewhere closer to Indulge.

I indulge in You.

Like the moment you let that last piece of rich silky chocolate melt against the roof of your mouth. You know you shouldn’t, but the pleasure of it is too much.

The enjoyment of temptation is the temptation itself.

That’s how I want to be with You. Lush, decadent, bold.

It’s the Seductress, the Feline, the Witchy Sorceress in me that wants to consume the very essence of who you are…And take selfish pleasure in your ultimate loss of control.

I want to bring you to the edge - kissing - worshiping - drowning.

Women have been killed for less, I know. I understand them - and the fear of those around. I’d happily sacrifice myself for that kind of life too.

Every woman inherently knows the power of her own sexuality, naked flesh bathed in the ethereal glow of moonlight as her lover secretly watches…

Of course she knows he’s there, desiring her in the shadows that aren’t as concealing as he believes. She can feel the waves of his lust caressing her hips, breasts, lips.

Her skin crimsons with it.

In fact, it’s his energy that tells her how to move, how to use her fingers, what he wants to see - Perfectly she entices him to the depths of his own carnal madness (and eventually her own).

So it’s no coincidence women have a reputation for wielding the heavier kinds of sensual magic. It’s always there, hidden in us. We just have to let it out, be willing to accept the consequences - Because there are always consequences…

And getting hopelessly lost in Bliss is one of them.

But for those of us who are consumed, we know what it’s like to feel overtaken by a clawing, swelling that threatens to shred us internally if we don’t acquiesce to its sinister demands.

And although we can’t survive in the inferno for long, its brevity is poignant. Its memory dangerous.

Finally, I can feel Her again.

The Temptress has reawakened…It must be Spring.

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Yep, you heard right…

I was interviewed live this morning on the famous La F.M. radio station based in Columbia about a sexual needs article I wrote a few months ago that was originally published on AskDanAndJennifer.com!

Isn’t that exciting?

What’s even better is you can listen to the entire interview:

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The lovely people at La F.M. were kind enough to conduct the interview in English, and it was translated on the spot into Spanish for obvious reasons.

So, regardless of which language you speak you can go ahead and click over if you’re so inclined.

I’d also like to send out a Big Welcome to anyone visiting this site for the first time from South America!

Hope you enjoy the interview!

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You know your life has become somewhat corrupted by society’s relentless need to “time-manage” things when it’s 10:05 on a Saturday night and your partner yells:

“Honey, we should’ve been having sex five minutes ago! If we don’t do it soon we’ll have to wait until next week!”

Yet even as bizarre as that yell may seem, many people will read those lines and laugh - not because it’s ridiculous, but because it’s True.

Busy, Busy Little Bees…

In the midst of children, work, and household chores frivolous pleasures like sex and passion understandably slip to the very bottom of your priority list. After all, what’s more important - having an orgasm or sending your children to school in clean clothes the next day?!

Obviously laundry wins, but always catering to the responsible side of yourself doesn’t leave much room for spontaneous romps in the hay - or piles of dirty clothes as the case may be.

So what’s a concerned Guy or Gal to do?

Playful, Playful Little Birds…

Well, you seem to schedule everything else in. Why not schedule in your sex life to?

I know, you’ve heard it all before. Some experts call it “Date Night” others call it “Couple Time”. But regardless of what it’s called people roll their eyes and snort at the suggestion because the whole idea is utterly crazy.

Sex is supposed to be firey, alive, electric. It’s supposed to make your heart beat faster and your blood run hot.

It’s NOT supposed to be contrived, plotted, and calculated to the minute.

“It’s sex, not a space shuttle launch!” ~ (One of my favorite movie quotes ever…Anyone know where it’s from?)

And aside from being totally unnatural, scheduling sex creates a situation that’s just plain weird. Imagine it, both of you standing there at 10:00 pm, staring at each other, waiting for the Sex to start. Ha.

You Know What Desperate Times Call For…

Despite the weirdness and skepticism, it seems many couples are more than willing to give scheduling their orgasmic bliss a shot.

According to a recent Speak Sexy Poll 67% of men and 92% of women admitted to penciling in some time for their love lives.

Apparently most people are desperate enough to try anything that might help reconnect them to their parters - even something as strange as prearranged passion.

But are all the experts who suggest these sorts of things really wrong? Is there a way to set a time and a place for truly satisfying sex?

The Truth About the Birds and the Bees…

The short answer is - YES - IF done correctly.

There is a right and wrong way to approach scheduled sex, and the approach you take makes all the difference.

The key to having successful Sex Time is prolonged foreplay that builds up anticipation for both people.

For example, teasing should start hours before the sex is supposed to happen. This could include simple things like intimate hugs, little stolen kisses, naughty notes left in hidden places, or whispering something hot in your partner’s ear before work. It could also include more involved games, like not allowing your partner to wear panties or tucking an egg vibe into her while she’s doing some other mundane task.

The idea is to make sure you are both thinking sexy, grown-up thoughts long before it’s actually Time. The sexual tension should be killing you! When 10:00 pm finally rolls around you should both be ready to tear the clothes off of each other and sink your teeth right in.

The more effort you put into tantalizing yourself and your partner, the better your sex will be. I know, it sounds like a lot of work, and it is.

But aren’t some things actually worth working for?!

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Hello my sexy, hot, lickable readers! I’ve decided to dedicate this week’s Sugasm to BDSM fun.

Yes, all the usual goodies are still here - but at the end is a special section with four fun toy kits for under $30. I’m trying to corrupt those of you who haven’t yet taken a walk on the wilder, kinkier, and more exhilarating side of sex. (Not the regular vanilla sex isn’t exhilarating in it’s own way too!)

So if you’ve been treading the should-I-or-shouldn’t-I line of kink, check out the starter sets below, read the full user reviews, and then decide.

A little tying up and sensual smacking isn’t as intimidating as the leather clad folk make it out to be!

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As most of us know, there are a lot of heterosexual men out there who enjoy watching lesbian porn.

Whatever their reasons, many men get turned on when they see two beautiful women kiss, fondle, and dildo each other to orgasmic bliss.

Some men even find lesbian porn more exciting than “regular” straight porn!

But what about women? Do they feel the same way about gay male porn?

Do they get all hot and bothered watching two men caress, suck, and f*** each other? And if they do, what, if anything, does it mean?

The Question:

I’m starting to wonder if something is wrong with me. Lately I’ve noticed that I’m extremely turned on by gay sex. I don’t no how to label myself, (Bi, etc…) because I don’t feel any attraction to females. Is it normal for women to be turned on by watching gay men in the act?

~ Brandy, North Carolina, USA ~

Am I Gay?

First of all, let’s clear up the unnecessary confusion you are experiencing regarding your sexual orientation - Being turned on by gay male porn does not make you gay, bisexual, or a lesbian.

Unless you, as a woman, are sexually attracted to other women, you are neither homosexual nor bisexual.

You can still consider yourself completely heterosexual regardless of your preference for gay porn.

Think of it this way, no one believes that men who watch lesbian porn are homosexual. As a matter of fact, when heterosexual men admit to not liking lesbian porn, they are often made fun of because they are “supposed” to like it as heterosexual men!

Why would it be any different for a straight women who likes to watch gay men?

Is Something Wrong With Me?

No!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about “why” you like gay porn or what the deeper meanings and implications are, just go with it.

We all have odd likes, dislikes, and personality quirks. It’s what makes us so interesting. Your enjoyment of gay porn certainly isn’t hurting anyone, so don’t worry about it.

Be happy you’ve discovered something new about yourself that brings you pleasure.

Do Most Women Like Gay Porn?

Well, honestly I don’t know the answer to that question.

Although men’s interest in lesbian porn is common cultural knowledge (think of all the jokes and pictures associated with it), we don’t hear very much about women who like gay porn.

I’m sure this has a lot to do with the fact that traditionally women have not been the main consumers of porn since most people believed, and many still do believe, that women don’t like porn as much as men. Of course, this isn’t true and more and more adult companies are realizing that their is a big and growing market for women-oriented porn.

Having said that, there’s not much research, scientific or otherwise, that gives any definitive numbers on the percentage of women who get turned on by watching two male lovers.

However, if you look a little deeper into a lot of written erotica that is meant for women, there are a lot of male-on-male scenes…

So even though I can’t tell you if most women get turned on by gay porn, I have a feeling there are many women, just like you, who certainly do get aroused by watching “gay men in the act“!

It Makes Sense for Straight Women to Like It

As a straight woman, you love men. You adore men. You want to have sex with men. Right?

Then it makes perfect sense that watching not one, but two men engaged in sexual activity would be very exciting to you.

Sure, this isn’t the case for all straight women, but it is a very understandable turn on.

Just ask those lesbian lovin’ heterosexual men - the more women, the better!

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  Male nudes that actually turn ME (a straight woman, not a gay man) on!

  And it’s about F’n time.

  From the moment I clicked on the secret preview link to photographer Nancy Murrian’s brand new erotic site, The Garden of Adam, I knew it would be different from anything I’d seen before.

  How did I know? Because the men were, well, MEN!

  Rather than being posed effeminately or giving off the “submissive vibe” that I’ve sadly grown used to (and tired of) seeing in erotic male nudes, these photos featured men in ways that I found - shockingly - sexy.

  Besides their classic good looks, these men displayed their bodies with pride and were secure enough in their skins to reveal to the camera a truly masculine seductiveness that almost always eludes this kind of art.

  But I’m getting ahead of myself…

  Let’s start with the sleek, elegant home page. I curiously meandered from one easily navigable photo gallery to the next, each page captivating me a little more than the last.

  I was intrigued by the superior quality of the models, the mysterious shadows that seemed to emotionally reveal more that they physically concealed, and the stark contrast between the sensual subtleties of some photos and the blunt, provocative rawness of others.

  After spending much more time than I’d like to admit wandering around, my excitement growing, I decided it was worth getting personal with the woman responsible for bringing such visual pleasure to early afternoon. I contacted Nancy Murrian directly, and quickly realized the photographer was just as open and approachable as her photos.

  To my great delight, she graciously agreed to my interview request!

  So here, in Mrs. Murrian’s own words, is her sumptuous vision for the delectable Garden of Adam…

  

  Speak Sexy’s Exclusive Interview with Erotic Photographer Nancy Murrian!

  ***

  Nancy, why did you choose to create a site featuring erotic male nudes designed specifically to arouse heterosexual women?

  I decided to open The Garden Of Adam (GOA), because when I became interested in shooting male nudes, I searched for photography books and websites that had male nudes.

  Although I discovered some great photographers, it started to become clear to me that I just wasn’t going to be able to find neither books nor websites that had the kind of photos I, and I believe other heterosexual women, would find arousing or made specifically for us.

  I wanted to create a place were women could come and see photos of men and say, “Wow, that really turns me on!” or just be able to look at beautiful men presented in a strong masculine way.

  I want them to feel like that finally someone understands what they’d want to see.

  What makes your nudes different from the usual male nudes?

  Well, first I’m a woman shooting erotic male nudes, not many out there!

  And second is that I have not and will not limit myself to shooting men in the “accepted” manner of semi-nude, with no full frontal nudity, or presented in an effeminate way. When I was searching for photos I would come across things that said they were for women, but instead really were geared towards gay men.

  But what a gay man is going to find arousing is not the same as what a heterosexual women will.

  There seems to be this taboo on the nude male body and it’s especially focused on the penis. I think part of this taboo too is the idea that women wouldn’t want to look at nude men, or that men’s bodies are ugly.

  To me both of those thoughts are sexist.

  For example the feedback that we have received from women has been, how great to see nude men and to see a penis. They also say they want more erect penises - the more the better!

  

  How do you find your incredibly gorgeous models? Were they surprised when you first approached them with your site idea?

  I find some of my models through Model Agencies, referrals from other models, and some by just approaching them.

  I have to tell you that when I tell my models about the site they have all been very interested in the concept behind GOA, erotic male nudes through a women’s eyes.

  They all ask to see the site and comment on how they think it’s a good concept.

  I also think it creates an extra excitement for them, to think that there will be women looking at their photos and fantasizing about them. I mean who wouldn’t like that or be turned on by it?

  OK, so tell me the truth. Are they really straight men?!

  Yes, they really are straight men!

  I think this is very important for both the models and myself. It helps a lot because the two sides are feeding off the energy and sexual tension of one being nude and an attraction to the opposite sex.

  I think if you don’t have this the photos would be flat, no real emotion and just missing that “umph”.

  

  I know your husband, Richard Murrian, has his own erotic site called M-U-S-E, and has been photographing women for quite some time. Do you get a lot of help from him? Is it fun or difficult working together?

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  The Voyeur

  Written by Roger, AKA DirtyBoy

  “I… I heard you touching yourself last night…”

  She just comes out and says it, right out of the blue, just like that. Something about hearing her say it makes you immediately wet.

  You’re not sure how to answer, and you can feel yourself blushing.

  “Oh god…” you reply. “I’m really sorry… I guess I thought you wouldn’t be able to hear me at the top of the house here…”

  You’re lying, of course. You wanted her to hear you. It’s what you intended.

  She’s been staying with you for a few days now, and you haven’t been able to get her out of your head since she arrived.

  She’s just so damn beautiful - the way she looks, the way she dresses, even the way she walks… you’ve tried not to look at her, not to think about her that way, but the more time you spend with her, the more you want her.

  It’s become a delicious, pulsing ache.

  You’d gone up to see her in her room, just for a girly chat, you’d told yourself, and okay, so what if you were wearing that tiny, tight little t-shirt that showed off your belly, and the clingiest, sexiest, slinkiest hipster jeans that you had in your wardobe, the ones that made your legs look incredibly long and fabulous - that was just a coincidence, of course.

  So you’d been talking for a while, and you’re both now sat on her big bed, pretty casually, your friend leaning against the head of the bed, wearing a tight black vest and the shortest of skirts, with you sitting cross-legged opposite her, just talking about clothes, and shoes, and guys and stuff… and suddenly she just says it:

  “I… I heard you touching yourself last night…”

  “Oh god…” you hear yourself lying, wondering if she’ll notice the dishonesty, “I’m really sorry… I guess I thought you wouldn’t be able to hear me at the top of the house here…”

  Of course, you knew she could hear you. You’d had your bedroom door open, after all, knowing the sounds would drift up the staircase.

  Knowing she’d hear you.

  Wanting her to hear you.

  

  There had been a moment, immediately after your delightfully intense (and rather vocal) orgasm, when you’d suddenly felt embarrassed at your behavior, regretting your actions, wondering what she’d think of you.

  That feeling , however, had passed quickly, when you heard her come too, moments after you - a much quieter orgasm than yours, a sudden urgent movement of the bedsprings, a soft, stifled groan of pleasure.

  You knew then that she’d heard you, and you knew it had excited her intensely.

  “It’s okay…” she replies, and she blushes too, wondering if perhaps she shouldn’t have said anything. “It wasn’t a complaint or anything… I mean, it’s not a big deal… and I really don’t mind… it’s just that I thought I’d better tell you… you know… that I can hear you…”

  “I think I might have been a little loud last night,” you admit. “I sort of forgot you were here staying with me once I got into the thick of it…”

  “No, really, I don’t mind, honest…” she answers. “I mean… I quite like being loud too, so it’s really not a problem - I just thought I ought to tell you, just in case you’d rather I couldn’t hear…”

  For a moment you almost apologize again and move the conversation on - but it suddenly occurs to you that she didn’t have to mention it - if it didn’t bother her, why tell you?

  Is she really concerned about your privacy, or is there something else behind the comment…? There’s only one way to find out, and that’s to take the bait - with your heart beating a little faster, you come up with the best response you can think of…

  “I don’t mind if you can hear me… if you’re sure it doesn’t annoy you…?”

  “No…” she blushes again, “I mean… can I be honest with you…?”

  “Of course you can.”

  “Well… it’s the first time I’ve ever heard anyone… you know… doing it… I mean, I’ve seen a couple of films and stuff, but just Hollywood, just pretend, you know? So that was the first time….”

  “The first time you’ve heard anyone actually masturbating…”

  

  She shifts a little on the bed - is she feeling uncomfortable with the conversation, or aroused…?

  You’re almost certain it’s the latter.

  “Yes…” she says, “and you were going for quite a while… and I didn’t really mean to listen… I was gonna put on the tv or something… but I didn’t… I listened to all of it… everything… and I wasn’t sure whether to tell you, but I kind of feel guilty ’cause you’ve been so good putting me up, y’know… and now I kind of feel like I’ve been spying on you or something…”

  She’s so damn sweet you could keep her in a box… or is she?

  She’s so practiced about this, so skilled at getting people on her side, is she really as innocent as she pretends? Or has she mentally rehearsed this conversation? Is she testing you just as you’re testing her?

  “You weren’t spying,” you smile, “I mean, it’s not like you were hidden in the wardrobe taking photos or anything”. She laughs gently, seeming a little relieved, so you decide to push it a little further. “You’re sure it wasn’t off-putting? It didn’t make you feel uncomfortable or queasy or anything? I don’t want you feeling uncomfortable…”

  “No, really…” she smiles, blushing again just a little, “I mean… to be honest…… are you sure you don’t mind me talking about this?”

  “No, really,” you smile, “carry on…”

  “Well, it turned me on, y’know? It feels funny telling you this… but… well, that’s why I kept listening… I couldn’t stop listening… so… y’know… it was really exciting for me…”

  You can feel yourself getting very wet. She’s looking a little flushed too, and you know it isn’t embarrassment this time.

  “Did you come…? Do you mind me asking…? I know it’s a weird question, I was just wondering…”

  You already know the reply, of course.

  “No…” she smiles, looking you almost in the eye. “No, I don’t mind you asking… and yes… yes I did come…”

  You both go quiet for a couple of moments - there’s a tension in the room now.

  

  “Well…” you begin, wondering how to phrase it without sounding too slutty, “you can listen whenever you want to… I don’t mind… if it excites you…” There’s a pause for a moment. “Do you want me to change the subject?”

  “I think you’d better,” she grins, “I’m getting turned on here.”

  “Me too,” you smile, teasingly, “but it’s a nice kind of turned on.”

  “Same here,” she smiles, “sort of warm and wriggly and nice and stuff. Sort of embarrassing too, admitting it…”

  “You don’t need to be embarrassed,” you smile. “I don’t mind you getting turned on if we talk about sex, it’s normal”.

  “Yeah, I know,” she giggles, “but much more of this and I’m gonna have to chuck you out of the room so I can see to myself.”

  “You’d throw me out of your room?” you smile. “So cruel! I’m a good girl!”

  She laughs again. “Well alright, maybe not throw you out, but you’d have to turn away and cover your ears for a bit”.

  “You wouldn’t let me listen?” you smile, “after you’ve listened to me? What kind of deal is that?”

  “You’re terrible,” she grins. “Okay, well maybe you could listen - and then I’d throw you out!”

  “That’s not so bad,” you smile, “I definitely like the idea of listening…”

  “Are you serious?’ she grins. “You’d want to listen to me, while I… y’know… while I masturbate…?”

  “Definitely,” you smile, “I mean, it’s only fair…”

  She goes quiet for a few seconds. What started as a tease is suddenly becoming a little more serious.

  “And would you watch…? Would you want to watch me…?”

  Another pause. It’s quite the most erotic question she’s ever asked you.

  “Yes,” you reply. “I’d want to watch you. Very much. I love to watch…”

  The room goes quiet again. She looks you right in the eye, and you both hold the gaze. She looks like she’s making a decision.

  You’re about to change the subject, to let her off the hook for a while… but before you can speak, she sits back against the head of the bed, still looking at you, flushed and nervous all at the same time, and as you watch, your heart now beating very very fast, she slowly tugs up her short skirt, all the way up to her small white knickers, parting her legs just a little.

  She looks towards you, nervously…

  

  You can’t look away - you don’t know what to say - and as you watch, your heart beating faster, she slides a hand down between her open thighs, touching herself gently through her panties - just a slow, gentle rubbing, still watching you… her fingers barely moving… and then as quickly as she began, she slips her hand away again, her face a little flushed as she tugs her skirt back down.

  “I’m sorry…” she blushes, “I don’t know why I did that… I feel silly now…”

  “No, it’s okay,” you reply, “you looked beautiful… I didn’t want you to stop…”

  “Really…?”

  “Yes, really… please… carry on… I don’t mind… I want to watch you…”

  “I don’t know… I’ve never…”

  “Please…” you insist. “You looked so beautiful… show me… please…”

  She smiles at you again, looking a little shy, settling back down and leaning against the head of the bed, slowly tugging up her skirt again. She watches you all the time, still slightly embarrassed, but clearly getting very aroused.

  She slides her hand back down between her thighs, sliding over the crotch of her panties, and as you watch, she begins to rub… slowly… firmly… her fingers moving in a gentle rhythm, round and round, rubbing herself through her small white panties.

  You can’t take your eyes off her - your lips are dry, your heart pounding, watching her fingers trace round and round… watching her face… her delightful body laid back as she strokes, slowly, rhythmically.

  You’re getting so, so wet.

  You can’t resist - still watching her, you slide a hand up to your breasts, cupping one of them through your t-shirt, squeezing gently. She’s starting to look very turned on - a nervous, excited expression of intense arousal - she wants this - she wants to come for you - you squeeze your thighs together rhythmically - you know you’re going to have to touch yourself soon, watching her is getting you so hot…

  She sees your hand at your breast - she makes another decision, and sits up for a moment, tugging up her small black vest, pulling it off over her head, leaving her naked from the waist up.

  She smiles at you, blushing again a little as she leans back, her hand back at her crotch, her panties visibly dampening.

  She looks so beautiful, so sensual, her hair draped on the pillow, one hand down between her thighs, stroking slowly, the other at her naked breasts, stroking, squeezing, her nipples hard as she caresses herself deliciously.

  You need to reciprocate - you want her to see you naked - tugging up your small t-shirt, you pull it off over your head - she gasps deliciously, looking at your naked breasts, her fingers rubbing a little harder - she makes another decision, unzipping her skirt, pulling it quickly down her long thighs, kicking it onto the floor, now only wearing her small white panties, which are visibly wet as she rubs harder at her cunt through the thin cotton of her knickers.

  

  You can’t take much more - this is turning you on so much - you unzip your jeans, knowing she’s watching you as you slip your hand down inside, down to your sex, surprised just how wet you are, dipping your finger into the warm wetness, spreading it up to your clit, rubbing round and round, watching her, so turned on now.

  She gasps, trembling a little, quickly tugging down her small panties, dropping them onto the floor by the bed, leaning back again, her eyes never leaving you, spreading her legs a little more.

  You can see everything now - her gorgeous breasts, her smooth, firm belly, dusting of pubic hair between her open thighs, her fingers sliding round and round her clit, her cunt swollen, visibly wet, drop of her wetness dribbling down the inside of her thighs.

  It’s all you can take - you pull down your jeans and panties, tugging them off, leaving you naked too, spreading your thighs for her, sliding your wet fingers over your cunt, stroking, teasing, so wet.

  She gasps as you slide two fingers slowly into your sex, getting them wet, stroking, rubbing, and she’s getting closer to her own orgasm, her fingers skidding gorgeously around her deliciously wet clit…

  You can feel yourself trembling - you’re not sure you can hold it back much longer - she’s rubbing hard now, a hand cupping one of her breasts, stroking, rubbing, squeezing - she’s so close… so wet… she groans deliciously… “Ohhh God… Ohhh God I’m gonna come…”

  It’s all you can take - you can’t hold it back any longer - you start to convulse, trying to keep watching her, delicious pulses of pleasure surging through your body - so hard - so intense - you feel a sudden gush of wetness from your cunt - and that’s it - you come, hard, urgent, groaning with intense pleasure - she gasps deliciously - it’s all she can take - she thrusts her fingers into her cunt, rubbing so hard, her back arching, her thighs trembling, crying out intensely as she comes:

  “Fuckk…. Fuckkk… I’m cominnggg…. UUNNHHHHH!” - she convulses hard - her wetness streaming from her cunt as she comes… both of you trembling on the bed… hot and wet…

  Your fingers still deep inside your cunt, squeezing around them, teasing yourself, greedy to touch her, needing to taste her, not wanting the sensations to end, your gaze wandering over her naked body, taking it all in, wanting her so badly…

  ***

  About the Author: Roger is the very adored author behind the well known DirtyBoy’s Erotica Blog. Not only does he write some of the very best erotica on the net, he’s also one of the friendliest bloggers I know. “The Voyeur” came in second place in Speak Sexy’s Erotica Contest 2007, and I’d like to take this opportunity to thank him for this amazingly hot entry!
  
  
  

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  For most couples, sexual attraction is at the heart of their intimate relationships.

  In fact, it’s usually what brings couples together in the first place…

  Your eyes meet, your pulse races, and all you can think about it getting the object of your desire naked and in your bed as quickly as possible!

  And while this is a very important and glorious part of the coupling process, its intensity is often equaled by its brevity.

  The duration of this “Constantly in Lust” state varies from person to person, but typically lasts anywhere from a few weeks to a few months, and often depends on how often the couples is able to see each other.

  The more time they spend together, the faster their initial excitement seems to fade.

  But what happens when you’ve been with your partner for six months, eight months, a year and still the mere sight of him or her wreaks havoc on your nervous system? Should you just give in and enjoy your hyper-sexuality, or is your never-ending sexual attraction to your partner cause for serious concern?

  

  The Question:

  Every time I am in the presence of my girlfriend or hear her voice on the telephone I get an erection. Is this common? I’ve been in this relationship for 2 years. This has happened since around the 2nd week we met. It doesn’t bother me until I’m with company. Is this a dysfunction?

  ~ Ashley, United Kingdom ~

  The Good News:

  It’s not a dysfunction!

  Unless your erection is constant, painful, and/or for no apparent reason (ie - you’re not thinking about anything sexual or in the presence of anything that could turn you on) you really have nothing to worry about.

  Your Girlfriend Should View Your Arousal as a Compliment

  Considering the amount of women out there who WISH they could still turn on their lovers so easily after being together for years, your girlfriend should feel very loved and desired by your instant erections!

  It is true that your body’s positive reaction to even the slightest sound of your lover’s voice isn’t exactly “normal” since this doesn’t happen to most men after being with the same woman for a prolonged period of time.

  However, just because it isn’t “normal” doesn’t mean you have a problem. And it certainly doesn’t mean this is something you should worry about.

  But since you are concerned, here a few reasons why you may be getting aroused so quickly and what you can do about it.

  

  Possible Reasons for Your Instant Erections

  1. You Don’t See Each Other Often

  In today’s high-tech world of communication, long distance relationships are more common than ever. This means that even though two people have been in a relationship for a long time, even years, they may not have physically been around each other very much at all.

  Because those initial feelings of super-charged lust tend to fade little by little the more we see our partners, being in a long distance relationship could prolong the “fading” period. Furthermore, when an extended period of time goes by that we don’t see our lovers, the feelings of lust we have for them builds until the moment we do see them again.

  This is true even for couples who have been together for years and years!

  In the case of an online relationship, a couple might only meet in person once a month (or less). If this couple has been together for two years, that’s a total of only 24 “in person” meetings. It’s very reasonable to assume that even though they’ve been together for two years they are still very much “in lust” every time they do see each other, and become instantly aroused.

  But online relationships aren’t the only ones with this kind of few-and-far-between meeting schedules.

  Even living together doesn’t necessarily translate into seeing each other very much considering how busy everyone is.

  If you only see your partner briefly at dinner or on your “date night” once a week there’s plenty of time for your body to build up its lust reserves so that when you do see your partner your arousal can’t help but “pop up”.

  So my first question would be, how often do you see your girlfriend?

  

  2. You’ve Been “Trained” to Get an Erection

  I know this may sound strange at first, but it is possible that your body has become “trained” to get an erection every time your girlfriend is around - whether physically or just in your thoughts.

  In the same way Pavlov proved that dogs could be “trained” to salivate every time they heard a bell once the sound of the bell was associated with being fed, you could have accidentally “trained” yourself to become erect when in the presence of your lover!

  This is particularly true if every time you see your girlfriend you end up doing something sexual together.

  Essentially your brain now recognizes your “girlfriend” to mean “sex” and prepares itself accordingly.

  It’s like your brain says, “Oh, Girlfriend’s here so we better make an erection now because we’re going to need one!”

  Obviously this association can cause all kinds of awkward social situations, but luckily your training can be “undone” if you make a habit of NOT having sex (or doing anything sexual that might cause an erection) while you’re with your girlfriend. Play board games, go for a walk, see a non-sexy movie - anything that will make your erection go away.

  The point is to retrain your body so that it no longer jumps to the ready just because your girlfriend has stepped into the room.

  My second question would be, do you routinely engage in sexual activity when you’re with your girlfriend?

  **As a Side Note - This type of body/sexual response training is used a lot in BDSM play and D/s relationships. In fact, training can be so intense that some partners are trained to orgasm on command (Wow) - all via Pavlov’s association techniques!**

  3. What Else Arouses You?

  Finally, what’s your arousal like when you’re away from your girlfriend?

  For example, is your erection pattern normal (erections when you wake up, view porn, etc.)? Do you get “uncalled for” erections often and for no reason? In general, are you easy to arouse?

  Age should also be taken into consideration since wayward erections are much more common during men’s 20s and 30s than later on.

  Also, how long does your erection last? Does it stay the entire time you’re around her regardless of how much time you spend together? Does it just happen when you first see/hear her, and then quickly go away? A lot depends on these answers.

  

  My Best Advice - Relax and Enjoy It!

  Barring the possibility of any physical erectile problem, immediate arousal while in the presence of your girlfriend really isn’t a huge issue.

  Sure, it can be understandably embarrassing when you’re both around other people, but I’d suggest trying mental erection-reducing techniques. Other than that, there’s not much that you can do.

  Just take it one day at a time and enjoy your erections while they last - because someday your body might not be this sexually cooperative!
  

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