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Misunderstood-man — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 12:13:33 PM -0400

Hello. One of the reasons I joined this site was to get some outside opinions on a subject that my wife and I are currently going threw. These are tough times in my home and this problem is really hindering my relationship with my wife. So I am asking for help and opinions with this matter. So about 5 months ago my wife gets a phone call from my friends wife saying that my wife slept with her husband and continued to chew her out whi...

Having an affair?

adnauseam — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 6:17:14 PM -0400

Are you having an affair or are you thinking about having one? I'm aiming this short blog at men but some of the rules apply to women too. It takes two to have an affair remember! Recently a close member of my family had an affair and the result has proved to be heart-breaking, soul-searching and resulted in fragile attempts to keep the marriage together. Some marriages survive affairs-others don't. Some loving partners get over it and get on with their lives. Some don't. It tak...

Marriage Faithfulness

KFC Kickin For Christ — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 8:21:30 AM -0400

I've been thinking alot about marriages lately. Maybe it's because of this latest infidelity involving our NY Governor. Where is the commitment level? Did you see the pain and shame on the Governor's wife's face? Can you imagine what's going through his children's minds? Marriage, has been under attack these last so many years and I'm wondering what we can do about it. Families are hurting. Children are feeling abandoned and lost. S...

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

foreverserenity — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 12:22:25 PM -0400

You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.

-- Alan, age 10

No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with.

-- Kristen, age 10

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.

-- Camille, age 10

Once

NotSoSmellySarah — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 7:12:22 PM -0500

The smell of your skin Is still in my sheets So when I duck under covers I am forced to face Your feeble pleasebabychildplease promise Luckily Teddy and I Doused on cologne To soak you up Wash out your half assed few and far between days We can't seem to get out the stain That sweet memory left Fuck you and your pretty promise That I bought into Take your damn John Mayer Your false ideaologies Your beautiful face Pleas...

Keeping It Real In Third Person

new-age nomad — Sun, 30 Dec 2007 7:11:58 AM -0500

Of course there was always the desire to be with him, as far as that would carry her. She wanted him to breath only her scent and for his needs to be met by her presence alone. Whether it was caused by nature or environment, she wanted what everyone wanted: to call the person she saw as perfection and loved with a heart that he invented... her very own... and for him to feel the same way. But, beyond that...more than that...she wanted to crawl inside of him, live inside of him, be him. She wa...

Is it wrong for a mother, wife, to want to find herself?

foreverserenity — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 8:43:54 PM -0400

I was watching Hogan Knows Best , that reality show with Hulk Hogan and his family on VH1. The episode they showed was a repeat, one I kinda saw but didn't really watch in detail because of channel surfing. In the episode Hulk and his wife Linda are going through a bumpy road in their marriage and seeing a marriage counselor. Hulk said to the counselor that there have been times when they have had arguments and have said to each other that "maybe they should go their separate ways, get a ...

Stinky, Smelly Feet

BlueDev — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 11:30:53 AM -0400

I was reading Jessica a book she had checked out from the library over the weekend. It was a fun book, and one that I felt uniquely suited to reading her. The title was "Stinky, Smelly Feet". As I read it, though, I came to a realization. I have stinky, smelly feet. So does my wife. And I bet every one of us here does as well. In fact I am positive that every one of us has stinky, smelly feet. In the story, the protagonist is a duck with a problem. Every time he takes his shoes o...

Today's Marriage Tips

jesseledesma — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 7:50:54 PM -0400

If being married was easy no one would want to do it. Imagine putting to immature brats in the same proximity for a substantial amount of time and not expecting ears and noses to be thorn of people's faces. Kinda of ludicrous, isn't it? Okay, any fool can poke fun at anything. And you old married people with you frustrated and scrounged up face are funny. However, there needs to be real assistance here. I say half of the solution is understanding the problem. My first concern in address...

Do you lie to your SO?

Question of the Day — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 9:47:53 AM -0400

My husband knows everything . No skeletons or dust bunnies in my closet. For me it's an indicator of the health of our relationship. Something's going wrong if I lie. It puts a wedge between us. I'm using a broad definition of lies. To me withholding information is just a form of lying. Still, I'm tempted to lie in really stupid ways. When I go shopping and I perceive that I have bought more than he would approve of I want to hide it from him. When I was a kid my mom hid thin...

Marriage - What Happens Before And After

Poison5 — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 9:16:37 AM -0400

I found these pictures quite amusing, it reflects what happens in some marriages today. Before Marriage - The fun and games are great After Marriage - The fun goes out the door!

2 Year Wedding Anniversary

jennybean — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 6:11:18 PM -0400

Today is our 2 year wedding anniversary, and I cannot even tell you how fast that has gone by! I absolutely love being married and we have so much fun together. My husband and I are best friends and do everything together; we even work here at Stardock together! I just feel very lucky and blessed that I am in such a good relationship and have something so special. I really look forward to all the years we have to come! Here are some pictures from our big day! ...

Will she ever love me back? Will she understand my love for her?

AdamLovesHer — Tue, 10 Jul 2007 1:05:51 PM -0400

I have a situation and I think I am dealing with it okay, but i'm scared i'm going to lose her completely because she 'says' she dosn't love me, but she dosn't want me out of her life. I've tried to leave to test our hearts between the 2 of us, but she won't let go of me, internally, in herself (because I thought I meant nothing to her). I know there's something there, because recently, the way I act, does affect her. Here's the situation summarized: Me, 25 (In August) Her, 22 (2 days ag...

Is your partner " Programmed to Cheat ??

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The Starter Wife

Sugar High Elf — Sun, 22 Apr 2007 4:21:44 PM -0400

No, I haven't seen the show, and this isn't a review of it. I'll probably watch it when it comes on TV, but I don't think it's started yet. Instead, I saw a preview for it, and it got me thinking. At one point, the man who has ditched Debra Messing says to her, "I'm falling in love with you all over again." and she looks back at him and says, "You had your chance." A few shots later, she's laying in bed with a sad, yet triumphant look on her face. Something about that face got to m...

I Blew It Again!

Joan of Arc — Sat, 10 Feb 2007 8:12:06 PM -0500

I have just been catapulted from the delight of delusion to the ruins of reality. The fog lifted like a two by four on the side of my incredibly thick skull and I find myself in the midst of a self forged disaster. No one to blame this time, it was totally my fault. Faced with the unenviable responsibility of informing my loved ones and colleges of my indiscretion, I pick up the phone and begin making the necessary calls. Of course, I expect the worse. “YOU WHAT???? ARE YOU SOME KIND O...

The NonDivorce

foreverserenity — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 8:03:30 AM -0500

I guess in a case such as this, breaking up is hard to do. It’s been reported on MSN Money that many couples instead of divorcing and living separate lives have chosen to stay together, not for the kids sake really but because it’s better for their financial status. Sometimes because of the health benefits from the health insurance, and especially because it would cost a lot less to run one household instead of two. Some couples are also not too keen on what happens when people g...

ACCIDENTAL BIRTH

kengen — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 3:59:55 AM -0500

I cannot believe about the news that a have read in the Filipino newspapers that amother give birth accidentally to a 3 months premature baby. That girl never know or feel that she was pregnant for 6 months at that time. "UNBELIEVABLE, I CANT IMAGINE",because she was already a mother of her 3 kids and she is not already her first baby. She was explained in the article that she was about to take a bath after a hard days of work as a domestic helper in a chinesse family at hongkong when she ...

photo

j_h_e_n26 — Tue, 05 Sep 2006 1:57:38 AM -0400

Before loving others, you have to start lovin yourself...because no one can ever love you the way you want to be loved.

Starting Over...

MyLoveBytes — Sat, 26 Aug 2006 9:07:12 PM -0400

The following blog is from author Ellen Rosner Feig: Soon after it became clear to me that my 17 year marriage was truly over, I began to reach out to others who were going through separation and divorce. I have never found support groups to be of much benefit as they tend (and this is simply my experience) to become whine-fests filled with complaints, unresolved anger and pity. So instead of spending evenings on hard backed chairs listening to sad tales of lost love, I began to chat up ...

My light.......My love...........and...My life......

warsein — Sat, 26 Aug 2006 9:18:48 AM -0400

My light.......My love...........and...My life...... I love " light" so much and I can't stay without " light " And I ever hope " light " will love me back . When I miz her smile............... When I miz her fergerance.............. When I miz her sweet lips.............. I sing the song ~ Where'd You Go ~ ~ Wher...

I call your name thousand times in my mind ~

warsein — Wed, 23 Aug 2006 11:24:22 AM -0400

Love Is ... Love is the greatest feeling, Love is like a play, Love is what I feel for you, Each and every day, Love is like a smile, Love is like a song, Love is a great emotion, That keeps us going strong, I love you with my heart, My body and my soul, I love the way I keep loving, Like a love I can't control, So remember when your eyes meet mine, I love you with all my heart, And I have poured my entire soul into you, Right from the very start.

Meeting My XGF After 15 Years

singrdave — Sun, 25 Jun 2006 5:24:06 PM -0400

It's a small world after all. I'm clear in Maryland, and guess who I find? A friend of mine that I work with said to me yesterday, "So you're from Arizona, huh? There's a couple in my neighborhood that's from Arizona. Their names are James and Jan _____." Turns out Jan is my ex-girlfriend from college, the girl I probably would have married had I gone another way. I've never met her husband, but apparently they have been married about as long as my wife and I have, they have multi...

Confusion

Secret Literary Diary of Malte — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 8:01:11 PM -0400

Have you ever been in the middle of the real confusion??? I'm there again, and again. Every day deeper and deeper the confusion drags me in. Drags me in into a mud. I'm not a bad person. Despite of that what everybody thinks. I'm scared. Every day more and more scared. They use to say with a big, perky confidence--there is always a solution- but here, in my case-there is no sulution at all. Is he really my soul I was praying for 1o months ago or is he my devil?Or maybe he is my soul, but t...

I guess I'm not wearing it any more...

pseudosoldier — Sat, 04 Feb 2006 12:54:27 PM -0500

This afternoon, as I bagged raked leaves in the backyard, I felt my ring slip off my finger. I'm not certain that's when it happened, though... I had been thinking it could happen earlier. Just... I looked down right then, in a panic, sure it was gone. And it was. I spent over 20 minutes sifting through the leaves from that bag. That's more time than bagging three sackfuls in the first place. I didn't get through all the foliage before darkness descended and I had to give up... for ...