tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678Fri, 17 Feb 2012 01:49:38 +0000healingNICUsecretstalking5 things you can dowordsInfant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Monthbabysharee mooredeathtips for professionalsmiscarriageinfertilitypregnancy lossgriefmustard seedfaithwritinginfant lossStolen Angelsprayermilitary familiesMy name is Sharee Moore, author and publisher of Stolen Angels: 25 Stories of Hope after Infant or Pregnancy Loss. On this site you'll find information about surviving the loss of a baby. I gathered this information from hundreds of sources and from my personal experiences ~ I lost three infants in three years. Even in my sadness, I found hope and you can, too, regardless of how your baby died. Share your story; I'm listening.http://infantloss.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Sharee)Blogger118125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-4065703199678636266Sun, 27 Nov 2011 06:04:00 +00002011-11-27T00:06:07.366-06:00I used to cling so thoroughly to the words encouraging people to "cry with those who cry" ... I felt like I'd been run over with a garden tiller, so I wanted my team of mourners at my beck and call. Okay, probably not literally, but I certainly did not want to feel alone in my sadness. Thankfully, my eyes have been opened to the second part of that scripture. We are also encouraged to "laugh http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/Dg58LzUe5WY/happy-holidays.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/Dg58LzUe5WY" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/11/happy-holidays.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-6523128187379940022Sun, 20 Nov 2011 06:15:00 +00002011-11-20T00:15:01.655-06:00Baby, I hear your needs and I will be that shoulder that you can cry on... I will manage that which you find impossible to do. Just for today. Never will you be left without a shoulder to cry on... You will never be left to struggle through those impossible days, situations or experiences for I will always be by your side... Things that we have experienced could have destroyed us but they have http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/CYTPnMPEUHE/my-husbands-loving-response.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/CYTPnMPEUHE" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/11/my-husbands-loving-response.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-2626024611565360721Fri, 18 Nov 2011 21:03:00 +00002011-11-18T15:03:19.737-06:00Sigh. I sit here with heart heavy and head dropped low. Unwillingly, I think of my oldest daughter today. She's the one in Heaven. I have another little girl taking a nap upstairs, each soft breath is like a sweet note of reassurance ... but still thoughts of my living, breathing daughter only dull the sting of sadness I feel for my little Elyana. This heaviness doesn't rest on my shoulders oftenhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/ezdGPvmU2Dg/heart-never-forgets.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)3<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/ezdGPvmU2Dg" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/11/heart-never-forgets.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-6269144011094467723Thu, 05 May 2011 17:46:00 +00002011-05-05T12:46:31.589-05:00(Article retrieved from the Natural Fertility Info website - http://natural-fertility-info.com/ectopic-pregnancy.html) -- See the full article to view videos I couldn't attach here. Videos were about ectopic pregnancy, fertility massage, and how to use a castor oil pack -- I do not necessarily endorse anything included in the complete article, but found what I listed here to be very informative. http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/_AvdvSyRSn4/healing-from-ectopic-pregnancy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/_AvdvSyRSn4" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/05/healing-from-ectopic-pregnancy.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-320623799116744032Tue, 26 Apr 2011 18:51:00 +00002011-04-26T13:51:26.103-05:00When I found out I was pregnant in Novemeber 2010, I was shocked by my reaction. I was so stunned it was as if I had been slapped. I felt tremendous guilt because I never imagined I could have the feelings I had after all the losses we had endured. How could I not be happy and grateful for this blessing? What was wrong with me? As I dug deeper, I discovered that there still lingered fear. http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/4lQ3B7UAmpc/grief-therapies-that-work.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/4lQ3B7UAmpc" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/04/grief-therapies-that-work.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-5181584876727811823Fri, 22 Apr 2011 02:45:00 +00002011-04-21T21:45:11.560-05:00I admit it. I don't know. I don't know the answers to the "why" questions. I don't know - even what I thought I knew. There is only one thing of which I am certain. I could not have survived (and yes, thrived) without God. It is becoming so common to just leave Him out of the discussion, but this is a post where I have to get real. I read your posts when you rail against God and the injustices http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/wMsqtqxs51Y/god.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/wMsqtqxs51Y" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/04/god.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-5808218995256138615Mon, 18 Apr 2011 18:26:00 +00002011-04-18T13:26:58.259-05:00Sometimes it is quite difficult to grab ahold of hope that you can have that rainbow baby despite seemingly insurmountable odds. When I had three back-to-back late-term losses, I only knew of one person who had suffered through something similar. Now I know two people. Finding and learning from those who have experienced such tremendous grief was greatly encouraging for me. I pray that you too http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/mm83zPTHkFs/hope-for-incompetent-cervix.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/mm83zPTHkFs" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/04/hope-for-incompetent-cervix.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-46670555783676839Thu, 10 Feb 2011 05:35:00 +00002011-02-09T23:37:33.190-06:00I can't believe I haven't posted since the beginning of November! I must admit that I have been pretty bummed out since that time. I've always been a huge voice (in my mind anyway!) for not letting grief rule, but folks, I must admit that there are some things the mind - the heart - cannot forget! November 18, 2005 my little girl was born still. Since that horrific time I had gone on to publishhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/X_8w2aASsLI/i-cant-believe-i-havent-posted-since.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/X_8w2aASsLI" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2011/02/i-cant-believe-i-havent-posted-since.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-2618280178827659123Sat, 06 Nov 2010 07:32:00 +00002010-11-06T02:32:16.351-05:00This is the obituary of a young women who lived her entire - almost 26 year old life - struggling to breathe. It would be hard to disagree that no one could blame her if she chose to take what was left of her life and live it  out as a bitter person full of "what if's" and stories of her pain. She did not. I've copied her obituary below ... now Google her name -Eva Dien Markvoort - and get http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/M8Ef2ASj_7w/more-teachable-moments.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/M8Ef2ASj_7w" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/11/more-teachable-moments.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-7820725526734129790Sun, 31 Oct 2010 05:36:00 +00002010-10-31T00:36:20.146-05:00Most disturbing experience today. I tried to rescue this beautiful bird who had been wounded tonight. It looked like a small duck and huddled against the white line. Okay, I'll be honest, when I first drove by it looked like a squirrel that was severely injured and so I looped around intending to *help* it out of its misery. I wouldn't have been able to sleep knowing I had left it to die a slowhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/cYF4yxQYxdk/fleeting-and-fragile.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/cYF4yxQYxdk" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/10/fleeting-and-fragile.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-1208819257788541940Mon, 25 Oct 2010 06:53:00 +00002010-10-25T01:53:02.275-05:00For Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month, I'm offering a free download of my book Stolen Angels; 25 Stories of Hope after Pregnancy or Infant Loss. Simply fill out the form found here, and type "free download" in the comment box. Emails sent within 24 hours.  Offer ends 11:59 p.m., Oct., 31, 2010. No one should experience life's greatest tragedy, but if they do, they should never think http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/o4XgUraxKOY/free-download-of-stolen-angels-this.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)4<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/o4XgUraxKOY" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/10/free-download-of-stolen-angels-this.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-824218475583608734Thu, 21 Oct 2010 19:20:00 +00002010-10-21T14:42:04.744-05:00On my Facebook page, I made a post that seems to go completely against what the baby lost community is all about. Before I go *there* let me share 2 cents about me and what gave me the nerve (lol) to crash that party. First, I'm the mother of 3 stolen angels - Christopher (part I and II, Kasimir, and Elyana. I've been a bereavement counselor for 4 years, facilitate a parents grief support group http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/AYFLmIN--2E/complaints.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)6<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/AYFLmIN--2E" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/10/complaints.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-6282097797031294878Sun, 10 Oct 2010 03:43:00 +00002010-10-09T22:45:46.401-05:00There's a difference between clinical depression and the intense sadness you get after your baby is gone. Medical professionals often try to medicate a mom who is experiencing sadness just 6 months later. Being sad for a year is normal! Parents (sadly) have to stare grief in the face and work through the whirl of intense emotions that go along with it. I'll tell ya what. Unless a mom is willing http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/9XsDayaaRa8/depression.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/9XsDayaaRa8" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/10/depression.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-2213914743849744139Wed, 06 Oct 2010 04:11:00 +00002010-10-05T23:40:13.685-05:00Mark your calendars ... it is that time of year again. Please join parents of stolen angels from all over the globe as we acknowledge our children who were gone too soon.  I've been busy planning a remembrance ceremony for this area. We've reserved a local chapel, lined up a guest speaker, and contacted the media ... programs are printed, food is ordered and this event is a wonderful way for http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/-WooKV7XVWY/pregnancy-and-infant-loss-rembrance-day.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/-WooKV7XVWY" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/10/pregnancy-and-infant-loss-rembrance-day.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-1808587918688200069Fri, 01 Oct 2010 04:00:00 +00002010-09-30T23:01:17.257-05:00We're debuting the new YouTube channel ... I've uploaded a few videos discussing topics I think are important to the baby loss community. Check it out and please, share your thoughts!   Click here to go to our YouTube channel  http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/rEhTHiPN1yU/were-on-youtube.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/rEhTHiPN1yU" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/09/were-on-youtube.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-6034285806433777281Sun, 26 Sep 2010 20:58:00 +00002010-09-26T16:20:30.854-05:00I have to give my losses a meaning besides "it's meaningless." I want to smile again. I want to find reasons to laugh. I want to enjoy time with family and friends without waiting for them to provide the type of support that only comes from people who've "been there."If it's all I can find, I'll cling to the final grain of hope that tells me tomorrow or some future day has to be better than http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/jsjB_81_Tjg/im-positive-because.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/jsjB_81_Tjg" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/09/im-positive-because.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-5224783011860981152Fri, 24 Sep 2010 19:52:00 +00002010-09-24T14:58:08.080-05:00I'm happy to share and celebrate an Amazon milestone! Recently we've begun sharing Stolen Angels directly with more individuals and our bestsellers rank has shifted more than 200, 000 spots moving us from 1 million to a little more than 800K. I celebrate because this means more hurting parents are getting their hands on this resource and our efforts to get the word out are working!There are more http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/sb16VsDp8v4/movin-on-up.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/sb16VsDp8v4" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/09/movin-on-up.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-7391829271975508962Wed, 15 Sep 2010 18:46:00 +00002010-09-24T14:27:01.872-05:00healinginfant lossgriefinfertilityI noticed some trends in the grief community that deserve a second look. Before we go there, I gotta admit that it's not easy to shake a cat in a bag! I'm going to ask you to reconsider some long-held beliefs - beliefs I used to share. But hey. The best way to shoot a gun is to shoot it straight. So, here goes.As Christians there are some things we can't do. Okay, I know that that nugget isn't a http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/7RhdDt40bog/straight-shootin.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/7RhdDt40bog" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/09/straight-shootin.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-6703911576172604108Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:37:00 +00002010-09-03T01:45:06.511-05:00How not to help.The average person considers infant/pregnancy loss issues topics not fit for open discussion. It's a life event that goes against nature and is sooo very sad - people just don't want to deal with it. Family wants the parent to "get over it" so that they (the family member) will feel better sooner. Sometimes family members will even get ugly because when the bereaved doesn't "move http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/OKLDBp8OHEs/will-pain-last-always.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/OKLDBp8OHEs" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/08/will-pain-last-always.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-5569479260980291115Sat, 28 Aug 2010 03:34:00 +00002010-08-27T22:58:47.310-05:00August 29th marks the 8th birth date anniversary of my first living child - Christopher. Oh I feel the usual indescribable - sometimes subtle - reactions to this special date. I think about the first year and I remember my husband and I crying all day. In following years I used to feel depressed, hopeless, and lonely. The weight of grief blotted any joy from my life. I've done a ton of intense http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/oMS0zJyE4UY/subtle-anniversary-blues-symptoms.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/oMS0zJyE4UY" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/08/subtle-anniversary-blues-symptoms.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-3284033055097517881Tue, 27 Jul 2010 04:23:00 +00002010-07-27T00:10:41.579-05:00prayermustard seedfaithSome parents wonder if their thoughts, doubts, or decisions about "what's next" mean they lack faith. One mom has a baby on life support but agonizes over whether it is appropriate to discuss the possibility that her little one might not survive. Another mom wants to stop life support but other family members urge her to reconsider. Still another parent is scared to try to heal her child's http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/73DDfjhtEz4/matters-of-faith.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/73DDfjhtEz4" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/07/matters-of-faith.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-3861173620066207735Wed, 14 Jul 2010 15:28:00 +00002010-07-14T11:28:03.820-05:00Stolen Angelsdeathgriefsharee mooremilitary familiesIf you're a grieving parent, I encourage you to try something new this week. Here's my suggestion:Help someone.You may or may not be on the receiving end of a supportive network of family and friends. But many hurting parents have an extremely difficult time seeing outside the walls of their pain. I've personally seen people flourish in spite of their pain. These are just everyday people who http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/LMx2wVWLyz4/spin.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/LMx2wVWLyz4" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/07/spin.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-7647843831424609524Mon, 05 Jul 2010 19:29:00 +00002010-07-05T14:30:51.116-05:00Originally written for Christy's blog at http://www.safe-haven-blog.blogspot.com----The old well-worn words of encouragement from your Christian brothers and sisters might not provide the comfort intended. I hesitate to label them “clichés” simply because scripture is truth and food for the mind, body and soul - no matter how well-rehearsed or ill-timed the delivery may be. Sometimes when grief http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/u5k0LQVZoig/words-of-encouragment.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/u5k0LQVZoig" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/07/words-of-encouragment.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-4907718508799893344Thu, 01 Jul 2010 19:30:00 +00002010-07-05T14:43:05.559-05:00Most people avoid reading or learning more about infant and pregnancy loss because it is a painful subject. I don't think these people are trying to be uncaring, they just don't know what to say, how to say what they feel, but immersing self in the world of parental grief is heavy stuff.I had the pleasure of meeting a woman who has a heart for hurting parents. She has never lost a baby herself, http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/CqRLI-zYLDY/safe-haven-blog.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/CqRLI-zYLDY" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/07/safe-haven-blog.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31923678.post-448942822583622873Wed, 30 Jun 2010 18:39:00 +00002010-07-05T14:28:17.430-05:00I originally wrote this for Christy's blog at http://safe-haven-blog.blogspot.com/--When going through a hard time, I instinctively know how to cling to God as though my life depends on it. It was while my first son fought for his next breath that I learned how to pray without ceasing. But I don’t think I really knew how to build a foundation of faith until after my second baby died.Now, it wasn’http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~3/L5bbqY0V00c/foundation-of-faith.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Sharee)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/StolenAngelsBySharee/~4/L5bbqY0V00c" height="1" width="1"/>http://infantloss.blogspot.com/2010/06/foundation-of-faith.html