Technology can scale output fast. Alignment, trust, and coherence still require people.

Alignment has never been easy. Even in the best-run organizations, it’s more aspiration than reality… something talked about in strategy decks and leadership offsites, but far less often lived consistently across teams, departments, and day-to-day decisions. Silos form naturally. Incentives diverge. Communication gets filtered. And before long, what looks aligned at the top starts to fracture everywhere else. Now layer in AI…

The rapid pace of AI adoption is giving many organizations a false sense of security… the belief that because systems are getting smarter, faster, and more capable, the organization itself is becoming more aligned. But that’s not how it works. In fact, the opposite is often true. When technology accelerates output without equally strengthening clarity, accountability, and shared understanding, it doesn’t fix misalignment… it amplifies it.

AI can generate answers, content, analysis, and recommendations at scale. But it does not inherently understand your company’s priorities, your brand values, your customer relationships, or the nuance behind your strategic intent—unless you’ve done the hard work to define and align those things first. Without that foundation, AI becomes a multiplier of fragmentation. Different teams using different tools, trained on different data, chasing different outcomes… all moving faster, but not necessarily in the same direction. And speed without alignment isn’t progress. It’s drift.

What concerns me most is how easily this gets masked. Outputs look polished. Productivity appears higher. More gets done, faster. But underneath that surface efficiency, inconsistencies start to show up… in messaging, in customer experience, in decision-making. And over time, those inconsistencies erode something far more valuable than efficiency… they erode trust. Because alignment isn’t just an operational issue. It’s a relationship issue.

If your internal teams aren’t aligned, your external relationships will feel it. Customers may not be able to articulate exactly what’s off, but they’ll sense it. One touchpoint feels human and connected, another feels automated and transactional. One message reinforces trust, another undermines it… and in a world where attention is scarce and expectations are high, those small fractures add up quickly.

This is where Return on Relationship comes into play more than ever…

AI should be used to strengthen relationships, not weaken them. It should enhance your ability to listen, respond, and show up consistently, not create more distance between intention and experience. But that only happens when alignment comes first. When everyone understands not just what the tools can do, but what they should do… in service of the people you’re trying to connect with. The organizations that get this right won’t be the ones that adopt AI the fastest. They’ll be the ones that integrate it the most thoughtfully… grounded in clear values, shared goals, and a commitment to consistency across every interaction.

Because in the end, alignment isn’t about perfection, it’s about coherence. It’s about making sure that what you say, what you do, and how you show up… all feel like they come from the same place.

And no amount of AI can create that for you. That’s still on you… and your teams.

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Sadly, many people don’t seem to care because all they want to do is trade the stock and make money…

The recent excitement surrounding the latest SpaceX offering got me thinking. Much of the conversation wasn’t about governance, shareholder rights, or the concentration of power. It was about one thing… how quickly people thought they could make money. That reaction says something far bigger than what it says about SpaceX. It says something about us. I understand the appeal. I’ve invested in stocks, watched markets, experienced the satisfaction of seeing an investment grow. There is nothing wrong with wanting to build wealth, support innovation, or benefit from the success of great companies. But somewhere along the way, something changed… we’ve become increasingly willing to overlook almost anything if we believe it’ll make us richer.

Watching investors line up to accept fewer rights in exchange for the possibility of greater wealth says as much about us as it does about SpaceX. We celebrate markets as the ultimate check on power, yet we’re increasingly willing to concentrate that power in the hands of a few if we believe they’ll make us richer. AND it isn’t just SpaceX… you see it across today’s investment landscape. Cryptocurrency projects fueled more by speculation than utility. Homes treated as investment vehicles before they’re places for families to live. Companies adopting governance structures that weaken shareholder rights because investors are willing to accept almost any terms if they think the valuation will soar.

The common thread isn’t the asset class. It’s the mindset. We’ve quietly shifted from asking, “Is this creating long-term value?” to asking, “Can I make money on it?” Those are not the same question.

For decades we’ve been told that if investors win, everyone wins. Capital flows, innovation accelerates, jobs are created… and often that’s true. But when the overwhelming focus becomes maximizing returns above all else, it’s worth asking… who’s looking out for the employees, the customers, the neighborhoods, the next generation, AND the long-term health of the economy itself?

Somewhere along the way, capitalism stopped being primarily about building great companies and increasingly became about building great valuations. We stopped asking how businesses serve their customers, employees, suppliers, and communities, and started judging success almost exclusively by shareholder returns, company valuations, and quarterly expectations.

The problem isn’t wealth. The problem is when wealth becomes the only thing we measure, the only thing we reward, and eventually, the only thing we value.

For years I’ve said that RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP creates the kind of ROI that lasts. I wasn’t just talking about business, I was talking about life. Relationships, trust, reputation, community, and opportunity all create value that doesn’t show up on a quarterly earnings report. Yet they’re often the very things that determine whether success endures or eventually falls apart. When we stop valuing those things, we begin optimizing for short-term gains while quietly undermining the long-term strength of the very systems we depend on.

When housing becomes less affordable because homes are viewed primarily as financial instruments, when private equity firms acquire neighborhood businesses, healthcare providers, nursing homes, veterinary practices, apartment communities, and other essential services with little objective beyond maximizing returns, when workers become expenses to be minimized rather than people to be invested in, and when shareholder rights become optional because returns matter more than accountability, we’re no longer just talking about economics… we’re talking about the kind of society we’re creating.

Profit matters, businesses have to succeed, investors deserve returns. But when maximizing shareholder value becomes the only measure of success, we inevitably begin sacrificing things that are much harder to measure… trust, community, affordability, resilience, opportunity, and even human dignity.

We shouldn’t be surprised that more people are questioning whether the system is working for them. We shouldn’t be surprised that ideas like Democratic Socialism are gaining traction… not necessarily because people reject capitalism, but because many no longer believe today’s version of capitalism is working for everyone.

One of the simplest descriptions I’ve heard of democratic socialism is this…

Anyone can be rich… but no one should be poor.

Whether you embrace that philosophy or reject it entirely, I think it reflects something deeper. Most people don’t resent success, they resent feeling that, no matter how hard they work, the system is becoming less likely to reward them fairly. Maybe it’s because too many people feel that the game is no longer about creating opportunity… it’s about protecting advantage.

Markets were never meant to exist simply to create wealth… at their best, they allocate capital, encourage innovation, reward responsible risk-taking, and provide accountability. Ownership was supposed to come with both opportunity and responsibility. Today, we’re increasingly willing to surrender that responsibility if someone promises extraordinary returns.

History has shown us, over and over again, that when wealth and power become too concentrated, the consequences don’t stop with those left behind… eventually they reach everyone. Growing inequality weakens trust, fuels resentment, destabilizes communities, erodes institutions, and creates the very polarization we’re struggling to understand today.

The widening wealth divide isn’t someone else’s problem… it eventually becomes everyone’s problem.

I’m not arguing against capitalism. I’m arguing for a capitalism that remembers why it earned people’s trust in the first place. One that rewards innovation without abandoning accountability, celebrates success without forgetting opportunity, and creates prosperity that lifts more people than just those who were already positioned to win. Because, in the end, I don’t believe the greatest threat to capitalism is Democratic Socialism. I believe the greatest threat to capitalism is capitalism forgetting what made it successful in the first place.

I’ve spent much of my career talking about RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP because I’ve learned that every lasting relationship, whether it’s between people, brands and customers, employers and employees, or governments and citizens, is built on trust, mutual benefit, and the belief that both sides matter. Economies aren’t any different.

Capitalism, like every relationship, depends on trust. Trust doesn’t survive when too many people believe the relationship only benefits one side. And when trust erodes, people don’t just lose faith in businesses or markets… they lose faith in the system itself.

When people stop believing they have a fair chance to build a good life through hard work, when homes become investments before they’re homes, when wealth and power continue to concentrate while opportunity becomes harder to find, the relationship begins to fracture. Not because people suddenly reject success, but because they no longer believe success is realistically within reach.

Winning at any cost eventually comes with a cost. The question isn’t whether we’ll pay it… the question is whether we’ll recognize it before the bill comes due.

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What’s funny is that Jack and I have been living the spirit of Talk Story for most of our lives without ever knowing there was a name for it. As kids, we’d spent time in his backyard with his family stomping tomatoes together. Jack lived across the street from my best friend Dave. Looking back, those moments weren’t about accomplishing anything. They were about being together, sharing experiences, building friendships, and creating memories… in many ways, that’s exactly what Talk Story is all about.

For those unfamiliar with the term, “Talk Story” is a Hawaiian expression for sharing experiences, knowledge, and perspectives through conversation. It’s more than small talk, and it certainly isn’t networking in the way many of us have come to think about it. It’s about taking the time to connect, to listen, to share, and to build understanding through conversation. The more I reflected on it, the more familiar it felt.

For years, I’ve written and spoken about RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP. While many people associate it with business, marketing, social media, or networking, that was never really the point. RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP was always about recognizing that relationships have value long before they produce results. Trust has value. Community has value. Understanding has value. Simply knowing and caring about another person has value.

Yes, relationships often lead to opportunities, partnerships, referrals, sales, and countless other positive outcomes. But those things are the result of the relationship, not the reason for it. The relationship comes first. That’s what struck me about the idea of Talk Story. The conversation isn’t simply a means to an end. The conversation is where it all begins.

In a world increasingly obsessed with speed, scale, automation, and efficiency, we’ve become very good at exchanging information. Yet many of us seem to feel less connected than ever. Maybe that’s because genuine connection has never really been about technology… it’s about taking the time to hear someone’s story, sharing a little of your own, and creating the space for trust, understanding, and community to develop naturally.

I’ve often said that ‘Conversation is the Best Content.’ Not because every conversation becomes content, but because every meaningful relationship begins with a conversation. A conversation can change a perspective, open a door, create trust, spark a friendship, and sometimes even become the foundation of a community. Most of the relationships that have enriched my life and career didn’t begin with a transaction or an agenda… they began with a conversation.

I’ve also often said that ‘A Network gives you Reach, but a Community gives you Power.’ The more I learn about Talk Story, the more it feels like a reminder of how communities are built. Not through scale, algorithms, and efficiency… communities are built one conversation at a time, through shared stories, mutual understanding, and genuine human connection.

The Hawaiian tradition of Talk Story reminds us of something many of us already know, but too often forget… some of the most valuable things in life and business cannot be rushed. Relationships are built one conversation at a time, one story at a time, and one person at a time.

So thank you, Jack, for making a connection I might never have made on my own. The more I think about it, the more I believe that Talk Story and RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP are pointing toward the same truth… people matter most when we take the time to know them, listen to them, and share a little of ourselves in return.

And maybe the best part is that, after all these years, a childhood friend reminds me that the best conversations never really end.

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But that is not how love works. At least not for me.

Letting go of the fight, or at least letting go of the need for the fight to define every day of my life, does not mean letting go of the love. It does not mean I write off my daughters, or the years we shared, or the father I was fortunate enough to be. It does not erase what I gave, what I lived, what I fought for, or what I still carry.

Despite how things ultimately turned out, despite the heartbreak, the alienation, and the years of fighting to stay connected to Dani and Niki’s lives, I still feel incredibly blessed that I got to be their dad. And part of that blessing was that, for the first years of their lives, we were a family together with their mom before the divorce. Those years matter deeply to me too. They are part of the story. Holidays, routines, vacations, dinners, laughter, exhaustion, traditions… all the ordinary moments that become priceless once enough time passes.

Then came the divorce and everything that followed.

What many people don’t understand is that there were plenty of moments over those next 15–18 years when people advised me to walk away. To stop fighting. To accept that the battle could never really be won against someone so committed to alienation and determined to keep me out of my daughters’ lives. But I couldn’t do that, because being their father was never something I was willing to casually surrender. So I fought to remain a regular part of their lives, and looking back now, I cherish not only the time I had with them, but also the fight itself. The fact that I refused to take the easy way out. The fact that I continued trying to suck as much living as I could out of being a dad.

And I mean really being their dad. Not just in title, but in practice. The pickups, the late-night talks, the vacations, the disagreements, the responsibility, the problem-solving, the laughter, the tears, and all the figuring-it-out-as-we-go moments that parenting is actually made of. Some moments I handled well… some I wish I could do over. That’s parenting too. But I showed up consistently, completely, and with love.

And although I have not spoken or truly communicated with either of them for many years now, they still surround me every day. Photos from so many stages of their lives are throughout my apartment. Photo books sit on tables. I still have books they loved, stuffed animals, gifts they made when they were little, and things that once mattered to them. One of the boogie boards we used years ago, with Niki’s name on it, still comes with me to Long Beach every summer.

Silence does not erase presence.

Some people have called it a shrine. I call it my history. I call it love. I call it proof that these relationships, these memories, and these years we shared were real, something I always carry with me.  Because what we do, how we feel, and what we hold in our hearts is always ours to own and cherish… no one can take that away.

That’s something I first came to understand through the challenges I’ve experienced with my daughters since my divorce more than 20 years ago. But over time I’ve realized it applies to everything in life. The good things we hold in our hearts about family, friends, work, love, and life itself… those are ours. The memories are ours. The love is ours. The meaning is ours.

What I hold in my heart and memories are mine, and no one can take those from me.

And while there’s deep pain in where things stand today, there’s also something nobody can erase… I was there, I loved fully, and for a meaningful part of their lives, we shared something very real.

People sometimes think posts like mine about my daughters are only about loss. They’re not. They’re also about gratitude. Because as painful as this journey has been, I know how lucky I was to experience the joy, meaning, chaos, responsibility, and love that comes with truly being a dad. Somewhere along the way, #ThisDadWontQuit slowly evolved into #TheDadWhoWillAlwaysLove. Not because I gave up, but because I realized love itself was always the point.  I’ve also learned that there is nourishment in the love we give, even when life doesn’t return it in the ways we hoped.

The memories are mine… The love is mine… The gratitude is mine… and despite everything, I still feel blessed that I got to be their dad.      #TheDadWhoWillAlwaysLove 

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Some of those words ring true immediately. Others take years, even decades, before we fully understand them… and often we find ourselves repeating them, out-loud, or often just to ourselves. 

When we’re young, a lot of what our dads say can feel repetitive, old-fashioned, or simply disconnected from the world as we see it. We hear the words, but we don’t always hear the wisdom behind them. Then life happens. We face challenges, successes, disappointments, relationships, career decisions, and unexpected turns. Suddenly, something our father said years ago comes rushing back, and we realize he understood something we hadn’t yet lived long enough to appreciate.

It might have been advice about character, it might have been advice about money, it might have been advice about relationships, patience, responsibility, or simply how to treat other people. Whatever the lesson, time has a way of revealing the deeper meaning.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve found myself hearing my father’s voice more often… in the values and principles that continue to shape how I see the world. Sometimes it’s a reminder to do the right thing even when nobody is watching, sometimes it’s about keeping my word, sometimes it’s about treating people with respect, regardless of what they can do for me in return… or even how they treated me in the past, good or bad.

The funny thing is that many of the lessons that seemed simplest when I was younger are the ones that have proven most profound. The older I get, the more I appreciate that wisdom isn’t usually complicated… it’s often remarkably simple. The hard part is living long enough to understand why it matters.

Of course, our fathers weren’t perfect. None of us are. They made mistakes, carried their own burdens, and were figuring things out as they went along just like we are. But many of the lessons they tried to pass on weren’t really about having all the answers… they were about sharing perspective earned through experiences we hadn’t yet had ourselves.

That’s why those words stay with us… that’s why they resurface years later when we least expect them.

And that’s why Father’s Day can be about more than celebrating our fathers… it can also be a time to reflect on the gifts they left us beyond the tangible ones. The values, lessons, warnings, encouragement, and wisdom that continue traveling with us long after the conversations themselves have ended.

The best lessons don’t disappear with time… they echo through our time. 

And if we’re lucky, one day we catch ourselves sharing those same lessons with someone else, realizing that what once came from our fathers has now become part of us, and something for us to pass along.

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A recent New York Times article highlighted research estimating that these everyday frustrations, what some are now calling the “Annoyance Economy”, cost American families approximately $165 billion a year in wasted time and money. That’s a staggering number, but what struck me wasn’t simply the financial cost. It was the realization that what is really being taken from us isn’t just money, it’s time. And time is our most valuable commodity. Unlike money, we can’t earn more of it, save it for later, or get it back once it’s gone. Every hour spent navigating a broken process, waiting on hold, fighting hidden fees, or trying to reach an actual human being is an hour we’ll never recover. It’s time that could have been spent with family, with friends, pursuing something meaningful, building relationships, or simply enjoying life.

To be fair, not every frustrating customer experience is the result of bad intentions. Some friction comes from outdated systems, poorly designed processes, organizational silos, or regulations that haven’t kept pace with technology. But intent doesn’t change impact. The customer experiences the frustration the same way, regardless of whether it was created accidentally or deliberately. What makes the Annoyance Economy particularly troubling is that some of these obstacles appear to be more than accidental. The research cited in the article found that companies making it more difficult for customers to cancel subscriptions can increase revenue significantly. From a quarterly earnings perspective, that may look like success. From a relationship perspective, I’m not so sure.

It raises a question that every business should be asking… Just because something increases short-term revenue, does that make it a good long-term strategy?

For years, I’ve talked about RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP and the idea that trust is one of the most valuable assets any individual, brand, or business can build. Trust grows when people believe you respect them, value them, and genuinely care about the experience you’re creating for them. Every interaction either strengthens that trust or weakens it. Every customer experience either makes a deposit into the relationship or creates a withdrawal from it.

The Annoyance Economy often works in the opposite direction. Every hidden fee, every unnecessary click, every confusing process, every delayed response, and every obstacle placed between a customer and what they are trying to accomplish sends a message. Maybe not an explicit one, but a message nonetheless. It tells people that their time is less valuable than your revenue. It tells them that making things easier for your organization matters more than making things easier for them. It tells them that keeping them trapped is more important than serving them well. Companies may view these tactics as small optimizations, a few more retained subscriptions, a slightly lower cancellation rate, a little more revenue, but customers don’t experience them as metrics. They experience them as frustration, as disrespect, and eventually as a reason to look elsewhere.

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that loyalty and captivity are not the same thing. Too many organizations mistake customer inertia for customer loyalty. People may stay because it’s difficult to leave, because the process is frustrating, or because the barriers to exit have been intentionally raised. But that’s not loyalty. Loyalty is earned when people want to stay, not when you’ve made it difficult for them to leave. Unfortunately, many organizations spend enormous resources trying to build loyalty through branding, advertising, customer acquisition, and retention campaigns while simultaneously undermining it through the very experiences customers remember most. Eventually the math catches up because trust, like any relationship asset, compounds over time in both directions.

What makes this conversation even more relevant today is the growing role of AI in customer experience. AI has tremendous potential to eliminate friction, simplify processes, and help people solve problems faster. It can free people from tedious tasks and give them back something increasingly precious… their time. But it can also be used to scale frustration. We’ve all encountered chatbots that seem designed to prevent access to a human being rather than help us reach one. We’ve all experienced automated systems that appear responsive while actually delaying resolution. The reality is that using technology to create friction isn’t new. When I worked at 1-800-Flowers in the late 1990s, customer service agents were often trained to initially say “no” because many customers would simply accept the answer and end the call. The customer had to push past the “no” to get to the “yes.” The technology may have changed, but the temptation remains the same: create just enough friction that some people give up. If AI simply enables organizations to scale annoyance more efficiently, then we’ve missed one of the greatest opportunities technology offers. Technology should remove barriers, create time, and make interactions simpler, faster, and more human… not less.

Perhaps that’s why the Annoyance Economy and RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP feel like opposite philosophies. One asks, “How much inconvenience will people tolerate before they give up?” The other asks, “How much value can we create for people before they tell others about us?” One treats customer frustration as a revenue opportunity. The other treats customer trust as an asset worth protecting and growing. The businesses that ultimately earn lasting loyalty won’t be the ones that become experts at trapping customers. They’ll be the ones that respect people’s time, attention, and intelligence. They’ll be the ones that make it easy to do business with them, easy to get help, and yes, even easy to leave because they are confident that treating people well is still one of the most effective retention strategies ever created.

The Annoyance Economy may generate short-term profits, but trust creates long-term value.

And in a world where technology is supposed to be making life easier, perhaps it’s time we stopped measuring success by how effectively companies can capture our attention, trap our subscriptions, or consume our time, and started measuring it by how well they help us get those things back.

In the end, the organizations that win won’t be the ones that figured out how to profit from people’s frustration… they’ll be the ones that earned the right to people’s trust.

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