Yes, antisemitism existed… I experienced the occasional slur or joke growing up, like many Jews of my generation did. There were moments when someone made it clear they didn’t like Jews. But it never made me feel unsafe. I’ve spent my life traveling extensively, meeting people from every culture and background imaginable. I’m not a “tough guy,” I’m simply someone who was raised to believe fear shouldn’t define how we live.

Which is why I struggle so much with what I’m seeing now.

It feels as though an entire generation of Jews, and to some degree the generation raising them, is being taught something very different. They are constantly being warned that the world is hostile to Jews, that disagreement is danger, that criticism is hatred, and that discomfort is antisemitism. I hear repeatedly how unsafe Jews are, especially Jewish students on college campuses, and while there have absolutely been real incidents of antisemitism that deserve condemnation, I question how much of the broader feeling of being unsafe comes from actual danger and how much comes from being told, over and over again, that we are unsafe… especially our college students. Being uncomfortable is not the same as being unsafe, being challenged is not the same as being threatened, and hearing ideas you strongly disagree with is not necessarily hatred.

And when everything is called antisemitism, nothing is antisemitism.

That does not mean antisemitism isn’t real, of course it is. It has existed for centuries, it exists today, and when it appears we should confront it directly and without hesitation. But expanding the definition to include every uncomfortable interaction, political disagreement, campus protest, or criticism of Israel doesn’t protect Jews… it weakens the meaning of the word, makes it harder to distinguish genuine hatred from legitimate criticism, and ultimately makes us less safe. AND when every one of these supposed transgressions is counted in the statistics used to demonstrate the explosive growth of antisemitism, regardless of context or severity, I believe that too becomes sadly self-defeating.

There is another part of this conversation that I believe we need to be willing to confront, and I know it makes some people uncomfortable. Israel has spent decades presenting itself not simply as a homeland for Jews, but as the ultimate guarantor of Jewish safety everywhere. Embedded in that idea is an increasingly powerful message… Jews will never truly be safe without a strong, heavily militarized Israel capable of protecting us.

That can very easily lead to another conclusion… if Israel is what keeps Jews safe, then attacking Israel politically becomes an attack on Jewish safety. Criticizing Israeli policy becomes hostility toward Jews… questioning the actions of the Israeli government becomes a threat to Jewish survival. AND, god-forbid, questioning the billions of dollars a year in U.S. military support, even when those weapons are being used not simply to defend Israel but to inflict enormous harm on others, becomes almost sacrilege. And eventually, supporting Israel becomes less a political choice than a test of Jewish loyalty.

I REJECT THAT WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

Being Jewish has never meant blind loyalty to any government, including the government of Israel. And criticizing a government is not the same thing as being hostile to its people. I can believe Israelis deserve safety and security while also believing Palestinians deserve freedom, dignity, rights, security, and a viable political future. Those ideas are not mutually exclusive unless we decide to make them so… OR we blindly accept a narrative that treats Palestinians collectively as an enemy rather than millions of individual human beings with the same right to dignity and security that we claim for ourselves.

This is also why I am troubled by the familiar argument that Palestinians have repeatedly proven they don’t want peace because they have rejected every two-state solution offered to them. There is truth buried inside that history, Palestinian leaders have rejected proposals and unquestionably made consequential mistakes. But simply listing rejected offers while ignoring what those offers actually contained tells only half the story.

An offer is not inherently fair simply because someone calls it an offer.

From the Palestinian perspective, many proposed solutions involved fragmented territory, continued Israeli control over critical elements of sovereignty and security, settlement blocs remaining in place, and unresolved fundamental questions involving Jerusalem, refugees, borders, and freedom of movement. We can debate whether Palestinian leaders should nevertheless have accepted particular proposals or negotiated differently. But saying, “We offered them a state and they said no, therefore they never wanted peace,” strips away nearly everything that made those negotiations difficult in the first place.

Every negotiation looks different depending on which side of the table you’re sitting on.

And when someone asks me, “Fine, then what is your plan?” my answer is that I don’t need to possess a detailed blueprint for resolving one of the world’s most complicated conflicts to recognize that the current situation is morally and politically unsustainable. Millions of Palestinians cannot indefinitely live without meaningful political rights and self-determination while settlements continue expanding and then be told that questioning that reality represents a threat to Jews.

Israelis deserve security. Palestinians deserve dignity, rights, and a future. Both truths have to matter.

Fear makes acknowledging both truths more difficult. Fear has always been politically useful because frightened communities are much more willing to grant power to those who promise to protect them. When people become convinced that their survival depends upon a particular government, military, leader, or political ideology, questioning that source of protection can begin to feel dangerous in itself.

That is exactly why I worry about raising generations of Jews to believe they are perpetually surrounded by enemies. Jewish history certainly gives us reason to remain vigilant… but vigilance and fear are not the same thing. Remembering the Holocaust should teach us to recognize genuine hatred and confront it… it should not require us to interpret every criticism or disagreement as another step toward 1930s Germany.

And there is an irony here that I think too often gets overlooked. While enormous attention is directed toward Palestinian protesters, critics of Israel, and college campuses, some of the most dangerous antisemitism historically, and still today, comes from white nationalist movements rooted in Europe and the United States. Those are the ideological traditions that produced the Holocaust, and they have not disappeared. We are even seeing elements of that rhetoric re-emerge in American politics, including from people and movements welcomed into the political mainstream.

Supporting Israel does not automatically make someone an ally of Jews. A person can strongly support the Israeli state for political, religious, strategic, or ideological reasons and still hold deeply antisemitic beliefs about Jewish people. Conflating support for Israel with opposition to antisemitism only makes that contradiction easier to ignore.

There is another uncomfortable reality. When the Israeli government commits acts that much of the world sees as oppressive, destructive, or morally indefensible, those actions can become ammunition for people who already hate Jews. That never excuses antisemitism… antisemitism is the responsibility of antisemites, full stop. But when Israel repeatedly presents itself as acting on behalf of Jews everywhere, when a large and very vocal part of the Jewish community supports that premise, or at least doesn’t challenge it, and when Jews are simultaneously told that defending Israel is part of defending Judaism, we should not be surprised when others begin making the same dangerous conflation.

That makes separating Judaism from the actions of the Israeli government even more important, not less.

And this brings me back to where I started…

The Judaism I grew up with was rooted in pride, resilience, curiosity, relationships, and engagement with the broader world. We were taught to stand up for ourselves, yes, but also to stand alongside others. We were taught to participate in society, not retreat from it. We knew antisemitism existed, but we weren’t taught to search for it around every corner. Our history contains more than enough real fear. I don’t believe we need to manufacture more of it.

I want us to recognize antisemitism when it is actually there, call it what it is, and confront it forcefully. But I also want us to have enough confidence in ourselves to distinguish hatred from criticism, danger from discomfort, and Judaism from the policies of a government. Because if everything becomes antisemitism, eventually the word stops telling us where the real danger is.

Fear was never the Jewish identity I was taught… pride was. Pride in who we are, pride in our resilience, and pride in our ability to engage openly with a world that will sometimes challenge us, sometimes disappoint us, and yes, occasionally hate us. I refuse to let that possibility make me afraid of everyone else.

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Doug Zarkin recently posed a great question on LinkedIn… “What’s the best job that isn’t on your résumé?”

My answer isn’t one job… it’s most of what I did before my post-college career even began. Looking back, those jobs probably taught me more about work ethic, ingenuity, selling, relationships, and the need to always be learning than I realized at the time.

It started with my newspaper route, back when delivering the paper meant much more than tossing it onto someone’s driveway. Every week, I had to knock on doors and collect payment from my customers. I kept the portion that represented my tips and turned the rest over to the district manager. Without knowing it, I was learning about responsibility, customer service, consistency, and the connection between how you treat people and whether they want to reward you for the effort.

Then came shoveling snow. There was no app connecting me with customers and no neighborhood group where I could advertise my availability… I went door-to-door, found my own customers, negotiated what I would be paid, and did the work. If I wanted to make money, I had to recognize an opportunity, put myself out there, hear “no” without being discouraged, and keep moving until someone said “yes.”

My first official “real” job was working in a clothing store… dealing with people one-on-one, their likes and dislikes, and representing the store on a manor that suited the owner. Later, I bartended, which may be one of the best crash courses in human behavior and relationship-building anyone can receive. You learn to listen, remember people, read the room, manage competing demands, and understand that the experience you create matters just as much as the product you serve.

From junior high through college, I also bought and sold various products person-to-person. I learned that selling wasn’t about pushing something on someone… it was about understanding what people wanted, communicating value, earning trust, and recognizing that every transaction carried the possibility of a future relationship.

And then there was painting houses.. I started by myself, eventually took on a partner, and later had employees working for me. What began as a way to earn money became an education in estimating, pricing, managing expenses, finding customers, meeting expectations, supervising others, and most importantly… being accountable when something didn’t go as planned. Long before I had a business title, I was learning what it meant to run a business.

None of those jobs made my professional resume. There was never a section describing the papers I delivered before school, the sidewalks I shoveled after a snowstorm, the drinks I served behind a bar, the products I sold face-to-face, or the houses my crews and I painted. But the lessons traveled with me.

Those jobs taught me that opportunity doesn’t always arrive with an invitation… sometimes you have to knock on the door. They taught me that relationships matter, trust is earned one interaction at a time, and how you make people feel often determines whether they choose to do business with you again. They taught me that selling is something we all do, whether we’re selling a product, an idea, our capabilities, or simply the belief that we will do what we said we would do.

Most importantly, they taught me to keep learning… every unfamiliar job required me to observe, adapt, ask questions, make mistakes, and figure things out. Ingenuity wasn’t something discussed in a meeting or included in a job description… it was what you relied on when there was work to be done and no one standing nearby to tell you exactly how to do it.

We tend to think a resume tells the story of how someone became qualified. But a resume captures only the most visible part of that story… it lists the positions, companies, accomplishments, and titles that came later, while leaving out many of the experiences that shaped the character, resourcefulness, and resilience behind them.

Perhaps that’s the real value of those early jobs. Long before we’re building a career, we’re building ourselves… and sometimes the work that never makes the resume is the work that prepared us most for everything that did.

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This quote has been sitting with me because it names something many of us feel but rarely stop to examine. Tribalism doesn’t just divide us into camps… it quietly erodes our willingness to wonder. It replaces questions with conclusions and curiosity with certainty. Over time, that changes how we see one another… not as people with stories, but as symbols of positions we’ve already judged.

When curiosity disappears, relationships begin to break down (I have sadly experienced this recently with some dear friends)… tribalism trains us to reduce human beings to labels, opinions, and affiliations. Once we do that, curiosity can feel unnecessary, even threatening. Why ask questions when we’re convinced we already know the answer? Why listen when our side feels morally or intellectually certain?

Yet the moment we stop asking why, how, and tell me more, we stop creating space for understanding.

Certainty can feel powerful, it offers clarity and comfort in a complicated world… but certainty without curiosity can quickly become a trap. Curiosity requires humility, it asks us to consider that we might not have the full picture, it invites discomfort and even the possibility that we could be changed by what we learn.

CURIOSITY KEEPS CONVICTION FROM BECOMING A CAGE.     

Being curious doesn’t mean abandoning our values, excusing harm, or pretending every position deserves equal weight. We can hold strong convictions while still wanting to understand what experiences shaped someone, where their fear or pain comes from, and how they arrived where they are… understanding someone is not the same as agreeing with them.

What struck me most in Rabbi Brous’ words is her warning about the narrowing of the heart. A narrowed heart struggles to hold empathy and conviction at the same time. It listens to respond rather than understand, and leaves little room for nuance, complexity, or grace. When enough hearts narrow… families strain, friendships fracture, workplaces polarize, and communities lose their ability to care for one another across differences.

I’ve long believed that the strongest returns in life come from relationships. Curiosity is one of the most important investments we can make in them. Relationships don’t require agreement, but they do require a willingness to see the full human being behind the opinion. Maybe the next time certainty tightens its grip, especially with a friend, colleague or neighbor, instead of making another statement, we ask a question…

Help me understand.

We may walk away believing exactly what we believed before, but perhaps we’ll understand another human being a little better. And perhaps that is how we keep our convictions strong… without allowing them to become cages.

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“A truly resilient talent strategy isn’t generational… it’s intergenerational.”

Credit where credit is due, Carson… because I think there’s a much bigger conversation hiding inside those words. We spend an enormous amount of time trying to understand generations in the workplace. What does Gen Z want, why are they leaving, how do we retain Millennials, how do we manage Boomers? Entire consulting practices, research reports, and corporate initiatives have been built around answering questions like these. But perhaps we’re asking the wrong questions.

When employees are moving quickly from one organization to another, labeling them disloyal doesn’t tell us very much. We should be asking what they aren’t finding where they are… is it Alignment, Flexibility, Opportunity, Purpose, Recognition? Do they feel heard, do they feel valued, do they believe there is somewhere for them to go within the organization? Those aren’t really generational questions. They’re people questions.

And while companies are investing enormous amounts of energy trying to decode younger workers, I believe many are simultaneously overlooking one of the richest talent pools available to them… experienced professionals in their 50s and 60s. These are people who may have spent decades navigating business cycles, building teams, managing crises, developing relationships, making mistakes, recovering from them, and learning the difference between knowing something and having the judgment to know what to do with it. That distinction matters.

We talk constantly about the skills gap, leadership shortages, mentoring, institutional knowledge, and the need for employees who can operate with less supervision. Then too many organizations screen out precisely the people who may possess those qualities because they don’t fit someone’s picture of an emerging workforce. That makes very little sense to me. But this isn’t an argument for older workers instead of younger workers. That would simply replace one form of generational thinking with another. The opportunity is in bringing them together.

Imagine organizations deliberately building teams where someone beginning a career works alongside someone who has spent 30 or 40 years navigating one. Where digital fluency and fresh perspectives meet experience and context. Where mentoring isn’t simply senior people teaching younger people, but knowledge moving in both directions. That’s where this gets interesting!

Someone in their 20s may understand a technology, platform, cultural shift, or emerging behavior far better than the person sitting next to them who has been working since before they were born. And that experienced colleague may recognize a business pattern, relationship dynamic, or unintended consequence the younger employee has never encountered. Neither makes the other less valuable. Together, they can make each other better.

This is also where RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP becomes a talent strategy, not simply a marketing philosophy. People are far more likely to contribute, collaborate, share what they know, and invest in one another when an organization creates an environment where they feel respected and valued. You cannot mandate that kind of culture through an HR policy. You build it through perspective, attitude, mindset and relationships.

And perhaps that is what gets lost when we become obsessed with workforce demographics. We start managing categories instead of people. We study generations instead of individuals. We create assumptions about what someone wants based on the year they were born rather than having the conversation and asking them. A resilient organization needs young people, it needs experienced people, it needs people in the middle, it needs different perspectives, different life experiences, different ways of thinking… and people willing to learn from one another.

The competitive advantage isn’t figuring out which generation has the answer. It’s creating an organization where generations share the answers they already have… and discover the ones they don’t, together. That’s not a Gen Z strategy, it’s not a Boomer strategy… it’s a talent strategy.

And as Carson so perfectly put it…

A truly resilient talent strategy isn’t generational… it’s intergenerational.

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just as toxic masculinity isn’t an indictment of masculinity itself, Toxic Capitalism isn’t an indictment of capitalism.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with ambition, entrepreneurship, competition, investment, growth, profit, or creating wealth. I’ve spent my entire career  building, and working in and around businesses built on those things. Capitalism, at its best, has created extraordinary innovation, opportunity, prosperity, and improvements in people’s lives. Profit isn’t the problem… Profit without regard for consequence is.

That’s where capitalism can become toxic. It happens when maximizing profitability stops being one important objective of a business and becomes the overriding objective… regardless of what must be sacrificed to achieve it. When the question is no longer simply, “How can we make this business more profitable?” but effectively, “How much can we extract before the consequences become our problem?” Employees can bear those consequences, customers can bear them, and communities can bear them. The environment and future generations will bear them… as long as the numbers keep moving in the right direction. That’s Toxic Capitalism.

 And I think an important distinction gets lost whenever we talk about this. High profitability isn’t toxic. A company can generate extraordinary profits while treating employees well, creating genuine value for customers, strengthening communities, investing for the long term, and behaving responsibly. In fact, I would argue those businesses represent capitalism at its best.

The toxicity begins when responsibility becomes an obstacle to profitability rather than part of how profitability is achieved. When employees become expenses to squeeze rather than people whose lives are affected by decisions made in a boardroom. When customers become transactions to maximize rather than relationships to nurture. When quality is reduced because the spreadsheet says consumers probably won’t notice, or companies knowingly make products harder to repair so customers have to replace them (planned obsolescence). When essential goods and services are priced according to what desperation will tolerate rather than simply what constitutes a healthy return. And when short-term shareholder returns take priority over the long-term health of the company itself.

None of this means companies shouldn’t make money, of course they should. Profit allows businesses to survive, innovate, invest, hire, grow, reward risk, and create opportunity… but somewhere along the way, we began treating maximizing shareholder value as though it were a moral obligation rather than a business objective. Those are very different things. Because once maximizing profit becomes the ultimate justification, almost anything can begin to sound reasonable. Lay off thousands of productive employees because next quarter’s margins could be slightly better. Reduce customer service because frustration is cheaper than staffing. Design friction into cancellation because some customers will give up before they succeed. Collect more personal data because it can be monetized. Raise prices not because costs increased, but because the market has demonstrated that people have no practical alternative. Externalize environmental damage because cleaning it up would reduce the return. None of those decisions necessarily violate the logic of maximizing profit. That’s precisely the problem. A system can be functioning exactly as designed and still produce outcomes we should question.

I recently wrote about When the Pursuit of Wealth Costs Us More Than Money. The question behind that piece has stayed with me: What have we lost by treating everything as an investment… instead of recognizing its inherent value?

Toxic Capitalism feels like the next part of that conversation, because eventually we have to ask not only how much wealth we’re creating, but what we’re willing to destroy in the process of creating it. Trust has value, reputation has value, healthy communities, employee loyalty, a livable environment, customer relationships, and human dignity all have value. And ironically, businesses that continually sacrifice those things in pursuit of greater short-term returns may eventually discover that they were destroying economic value, too.

I’ve spent years talking about RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP, and one of the principles behind it has always been that the most important returns aren’t necessarily the easiest ones to measure. Relationships require investment before you know exactly what the return will be… TRUST takes time, REPUTATION compounds, COMMUNITY doesn’t fit neatly into a quarterly earnings report… BUT that doesn’t make any of them less valuable.

Perhaps capitalism needs a similar understanding. Not less ambition, entrepreneurship, competition, or success, but a broader definition of what success actually means. Build the company, make the investment, create wealth, compete, grow, win… BUT understand that how we win matters.

Because the moment profitability becomes justification for ignoring the consequences of how that profit is created, we haven’t perfected capitalism. We’ve made it toxic. And perhaps the question worth asking isn’t how much more we can extract before someone stops us. It’s much simpler…

Just because we can make more money doing something… does that mean we should?

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Looking back, I realize those countless little moments became something much bigger than I ever imagined. Friendships deepened. Trust was earned. Memories accumulated. Lives became intertwined. Some of those relationships have lasted decades, and I wouldn’t trade the time or energy I invested in them for anything.

Lately, though, I’ve found myself thinking differently about what it means to maintain those relationships. There are many friendships that continue only because I continue to reach out. For years, that simply meant I made the call, sent the text, or suggested getting together. It wasn’t a burden… it was simply part of who I was. As I’ve gotten older, however, something has shifted. Not in how much I value those friendships, and certainly not in how grateful I am for the role they’ve played in my life. What’s changed is that I’ve stopped feeling responsible for carrying every relationship forward. There comes a point where maintaining relationships stops being about carrying the responsibility for every connection and starts being about trusting that what was real remains real, even if you’re not always the one reaching out.

That isn’t giving up, it isn’t disappointment, and it certainly isn’t a complaint… it’s simply recognizing the difference between choosing to nurture a relationship and feeling obligated to be the one who keeps it alive. It also made me realize something about a phrase I’ve shared for years…

Relationships are like muscle tissue. The more you engage them, the stronger and more valuable they become.

For years, I focused on the importance of consistent investment because that’s how relationships become strong in the first place. What I’m only now beginning to appreciate is that the analogy goes even further. Relationships, like muscle tissue, are built through consistent investment. But once they’re strong, you don’t have to keep proving their value every single day. The years you’ve spent building them continue to matter, even if you exercise them less often. Perhaps that’s the part of RETURN ON RELATIONSHIP I hadn’t fully appreciated myself.

The return doesn’t stop just because the investment slows down.

The conversations we’ve shared, the trust we’ve earned, the laughter, the adventures, and the times we’ve shown up for one another don’t lose their value simply because life gets busier or quieter. Those investments continue to enrich our lives long after the last lunch, the last phone call, or the last text message. And sometimes, despite our best intentions, the relationship itself doesn’t continue. Life moves people in different directions… circumstances change, we lose touch, we lose people.

I’ve come to realize that doesn’t diminish what we shared. Much like a love that once shaped our lives, its value doesn’t disappear simply because it no longer exists in the present. I still carry those experiences, those memories, and what they meant to me. They remain part of who I am. That’s a comforting realization. It means I can reach out because I genuinely want to, not because I feel responsible for making sure every meaningful relationship survives. It means I can appreciate what we’ve shared without feeling obligated to keep every friendship moving at the same pace forever. Maybe that’s one of the gifts that comes with getting older… not loving less, not valuing people less, simply trusting more.

Trusting that the relationships we’ve built continue to have value, even during the quieter seasons of our lives…

Because the Return on Relationship Endures.

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