Strategic Divorce

London Divorce Solicitor: Discover Now How To Secure A Successful Outcome In Your Divorce!

2011-12-22T12:49:00.000-08:00

Discover Now How To Secure A Successful Outcome In Your Divorce!

Let's be honest about this. The importance of strategic planning in divorce is often being overlooked and very often it is completely absent in divorces cases, regardless of who the parties are or the extent of their wealth. Read More on London Divorce Lawyers website

During My Divorce, What Are The Courts Most Likely To Take Into Account When Deciding My Finances? - London Lawyers

2011-06-15T10:07:00.000-07:00

During My Divorce, What Are The Courts Most Likely To Take Into Account When Deciding My Finances? - London Lawyers:
By Divorce lawyer Rupinder Bains

Rest assured, if you get divorced the family court will not decide your financial assets based on whose version of the divorce story they believe on the day.
In fact, the law provides family courts with a list of relevant factors to consider when determining your financial position (Section 25 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, for those who want to know!)
These are essential to be aware of when going through a divorce, in order to ensure you put yourself in the best possible position when the court is considering your rightful financial share.

Firstly, the family courts will take into account any children under the age of 18. The care of the child and where he/she can live will play a fundamental part in the court deciding how to divide (if at all) the Family Marital Home. If a child is involved...READ more on Divorce Lawyer blog

Super-Injunctions: Twitter and Facebook: Injunction issued banning publication of information on social networking sites - mirror.co.uk

2011-05-17T10:39:00.000-07:00

Super-Injunctions: Twitter and Facebook: Injunction issued banning publication of information on social networking sites - mirror.co.uk :
Twitter and Facebook: Injunction issued banning publication of information on social networking sites - mirror.co.uk: "A High Court judge has issued an injunction which bans publication of information on Twitter and Facebook.

The order, made by Mr Justice Baker in the Court of Protection - linked to the Family Division of the High Court - is Read more on this super injunction

Grooming Of Men On The Internet « Internet Law Expert

2011-03-09T04:52:00.000-08:00

Grooming Of Men On The Internet « Internet Law Expert
We hear a lot about young girls being groomed on the internet by older men. This is of course one of the most disturbing subjects concerning internet use. What we do not hear about however, and what you are just about to discover as you read on, is the ease by which and the terrible consequences for men, of all ages, being groomed by women over the internet, having their photos, videos and personal details stolen and then spread over websites of a certain nature all over the world.
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Online Defamation

Internet Intimidation In Divorce

2011-02-01T07:40:00.001-08:00

A Google Bomb. What a scary phrase. Surely you must have heard this term being used before and wondered what it actually meant.

So what the term “Google Bomb” really mean, how is it being used as an intimidation tool in divorce and how can you protect yourself from being a victim?

In short, a Google Bomb is a way to promote a web page by associating it with a phrase, for example ‘Divorce Lawyer’. By clicking on ‘Divorce Lawyer’ and arriving directly at a web page, you are in effect telling Google that the phrase and the web page are related.

When someone carries out a search for the phrase ‘divorce lawyer’ Google will take a note of how many web users linked the phrase to a webpage, and the webpage which comes out as the most popular in this contest will be ranked higher than other pages.

Phrases can be linked to webpages by internet links on a web page, or by email. What is important is the number of web users who arrive at a webpage, for example
http://www.bainscohen.com/legal-services/legal-services/family.html through a click on the phrase ‘divorce lawyer’.

So far so good. You can surely see how businesses can benefit from using this technique to promote their websites but this is not where this ends. And the story below will explain why. The problems start when people link completely artificial phrases to webpages. For example, if you link someone’s name to a webpage that you had created about them, using effective Google Bomb techniques, everyone who carries out a search on this person, is likely to arrive at the page that you had created, rather than at that person’s own website. This way, you could create devastating publicity and a hugely embarrassing situation for your victim.

Internet intimidation in divorce is starting to become a big problem for both men and woman across the country. It could results in long term damage to ones’ reputation and it places the victim in a prolonged situation of intimidation.

Here is a potentially horrific example of a particularly nasty Google Bomb.

In this case, the internet intimidation took place shortly after the couple got divorced. But still, there are plenty of examples where internet intimidation is taking place throughout the divorce process and it is important to recognise this as a form of intimidation and harassment.

A similar Google Bomb, to the one below was created by the ex-wife of once a successful and perfectly respected local businessman, let’s call him John Smith, who made the mistake of trying to swap his wife of 15 years with a younger woman.

Once the divorce process was over, John’s ex-wife went on a mission to completely destroy her former husband.

She sent hundreds of emails in the name of her ex-husband:

Dear xxx,

it’s John Smith. I want you to do me a big favour and have a look at this website for me. Please let me know what you think. The link is John Smith. It will only take you a minute and I really want to know what you think about this.

Thanks,

John Smith

I will say nothing more. When you click on John Smith you will see why. After you finished reading the webpage, come back and we will talk about how to avoid becoming a Google Bomb Victim.

How To Avoid Becoming a Google Bomb Victim

Well, there are a lot of things that you could do. To start, make a point of understanding how the internet works. Whether you like it or not, and whatever you think about the internet, an effective Google Bomb could be extremely painful at the receiving end.

You must therefore give high priority to some positive web presence. I am not an advocate of use of social media. I personally don't like it but the fact is that if you use social media such as Facebook and LinkedIn you make it more difficult for anyone to attack you by using a Google Bomb. Consider starting a blog. Go to “Blogger” and start your own blog in less than 2 minutes. Try to post something on the internet with your name on it as often as you can in order to stop somebody else from ‘hijacking’ your name and associating it with their own webpages. I would say you should aim to posting something which carries your name with a link to your own blog or LinkedIn/Facebook page at least once a week.

Then, you might want to consider keeping an eye on the internet for new information about you. You can use a free took which is called ‘Google Alerts’ as a starter. It will send you alerts whenever it identifies your name being mentioned on a webpage or blog.

But whatever you do, give this article some thoughts and keep its content in mind at all times.

Yair Cohen

Bains Cohen Solicitors

During My Divorce, What Are The Courts Most Likely To Take Into Account When Deciding My Finances?

2011-01-18T08:56:00.000-08:00

Divorce Lawyers: During My Divorce, What Are The Courts Most Likely To Take Into Account When Deciding My Finances?

By Rupinder Bains

Firstly, the family courts will take into account any children under the age of 18. The care of the child and where he/she can live will play a fundamental part in the court deciding how to divide (if at all) the Family Marital Home. If a child is involved, the child’s welfare is the court’s highest priority which, naturally, has a direct impact on dividing up the assets and each party’s financial entitlement.

The family court will then take into account the full extent of your financial resources, including income, future earning capacity and property. This will include looking into the future at any potential salary increases, as well as potential limits to future earnings, if for example, one party has had sole care of the child and not worked until this point.

As for the subject of Pension and divorce, it is relevant because if one party has a significantly larger pension than the other, then a pension sharing order will be considered.

The standard of living enjoyed by the family...Read more about how the courts come to their decision about your finances in divorce. Divorce and Finances

Pension And Divorce

2011-01-14T14:53:00.000-08:00

Pension and Divorce

The pension rights are effectively off set against others, once all assets have been considered in order to try to reach a fair balance. This approach is obviously dependent upon having a number of substantial assets and it should be noted that the judge in one of the leading cases on pension offsetting ruled that... Read more on Pension and Divorce

Latest Fathers For Justice Strategic Tips

2011-01-12T18:06:00.000-08:00

Today’s divorce law tip of the day is about how important it is to make notes of events and incidents which take place during the pre divorce period, how these notes saved one man’s life and how the notes resulted in this man obtaining sole custody over his two little daughters.
Hi, I’m Yair Cohen a divorce lawyer practicing divorce law in London and Essex.
A few years ago I acted for a dad who like many other dads found himself falsely accused by his wife of various criminal offences. The offences he was being accused of were making threats to kill and possession of a firearm. The allegations were only made up by the wife in order to get my client out of their matrimonial home and away from the couple’s 2 young daughters. Following the false allegations, my client, who was an unquestionably a dedicated father was remanded in custody by the court pending a full court hearing.
Now, luckily, during the 8 month which preceded the false allegations my client, the father, kept very detailed notes, like a small diary of many of the exchanges he had with his wife during that time. Those notes were dated and timed and contained details of threats made by the wife to ‘finish’ him, to keep the daughters away from him and to, yes, make various false allegations to the police.
You see, when my client finally left the matrimonial home, Within hours of him leaving to go and stay with his old father, he was arrested by the police and taken for questioning.
My client kept his book where he wrote notes about his wife’s behaviour in his car and with the assistance of his father we retrieved the notes and used them in a successful application for bail and then for the case against him to be thrown out of court.
These notes gave my client a lifeline and he was then able to successfully apply for sole custody of his little girls.
You can probably imagine what would have happened if this dedicated and decent man had been less proactive during the period prior to him leaving the matrimonial home.
And this is all for today’s tip of the day which was about how making notes can not only save you from goal but can also help you secure custody of your children.
I’m Yair Cohen
Have a great day.

Divorce Lawyers: Pensions and Divorce

2010-12-21T09:32:00.000-08:00

Divorce Lawyers: Pensions and Divorce

During a divorce, the Family Matrimonial Home is often considered the largest asset to be divided. But what about a pension scheme?

A pension scheme may well prove to be a person’s most significant asset.But even if not, the law provides that the partner who is financially worse-off (usually the woman) is in fact entitled to a claim in their ex-spouse’s pension rights.

This fact alone makes it worthy of far more careful consideration than many give to it.

The obvious first step is.... Read full article on Pensions and Divorce
By Divorce Lawyer Rupinder Bains

Fathers, Divorce and Child Custody

2010-12-17T09:44:00.000-08:00

Divorce Lawyers: Father's Right For Custody Of Their Children

Divorce Lawyers: Father's Right For Custody Of Their Children:
A judge who in her verdict in a child care case failed to give adequate reasons for departing from the clear evidence of experts recently found her decision overturned by the Court of Appeal.

The case dealt with the residency arrangements for four children whose parents were getting divorced. The mother of the children had a long history of addiction to amphetamines. At the custody hearing, evidence was given to the court that she had tested negative for use of amphetamines at the time of the hearing, but there was evidence Read full blog on Divorce Lawyer

Rupinder Bains

Winning Your Divorce Through Assertiveness

2010-12-04T13:27:00.000-08:00

10 Tips On How To Remain Assertive During a Divorce

By Andrea Harrn MBACP

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. Being assertive will help you to approach divorce with a positive attitude that can help create an environment where all parties get their needs met. It is not about aggression or revenge, but about the way we communicate and our ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we need to.

Here are my 10 tips to how to remain assertive during a divorce

1 Expressing your opinions and feelings

Do so in a clear way whilst at the same time asking the other person what they think and feel. Your opinions count and your feelings are important. If you find yourself becoming angry, aggressive or despondent you have the option to stop the conversation and continue at a later date.

2 Be clear

About what you want whilst considering the needs and wants of the other party. This includes stating your position and priorities and listening to the other persons position and priorities. Put yourself in their shoes!

3 Take your Time

Spend time thinking about positive outcomes for you both and be open to the other person’s opinions and thoughts on this. Try to be accepting of the situation as it is.

4 Say “No” without feeling guilty

Do not allow yourself to be pressurized or bulldozed into agreeing things or making decisions until you are ready to do so. If necessary ask for more time. Remember you have the law on your side and you have the right and choice to contact a lawyer if you feel you are getting out of your depth and need specialist professional help in this regard.

5 Talk at the same level

Body language communicates over 50% of the message. Give eye to eye contact and keep movement to a minimum. Avoid finger pointing or moving into the personal space of others which will only raise defences and antagonize.

6 Breathe deeply and calmly

If you feel stressed and under pressure take a long deep breath. When you feel calmer you will be able to see things more clearly and when you respond your voice tone will convey a more assertive message. Try slowing down your speech. Raised voices will automatically put the other person in a defensive position ready to fight their corner.

7. Think before you react

It is not always helpful to respond immediately to a situation. Take some time to assess the situation before you give your response. Time will allow you to take an overview of events rather than making snap responses or decisions under pressure.

8. See the bigger picture

You can choose not to assert yourselves at times when it would be better not to say anything (i.e. is there any point in being critical or petty over small things). Think about how you would like things to be five years from now! Calm or Conflict? Your choice! Start the process now.

9. Mind your language

Use language that defuses rather than escalates a situation. Language like: “you should” “you did” “you must” “you can’t” can be seen as accusing, patronizing or bossy and will be likely to cause the other person to react defensively.

Assertiveness statements might be:

“I appreciate your point of view ….. and this is what I think about it”

“These are my thoughts on access arrangements, what are yours?

Non assertiveness statements might be:

"Some people think that is not a good idea to go to Court" (avoids giving your own opinion)

"Don’t you think we should divide everything 50:50" (again hints at what you might be thinking but do not say outright.

Be strong and clear in verbalizing your thoughts

10. Support Yourself with Positive Thoughts

Give yourself strong messages about who you are and what you stand for rather than being afraid of what people may think of you, or being critical of what you think others are doing to you.

For example, tell yourself the following:

"I am a strong person"
"I am a good parent"
"I am capable"
"I want the best for everyone"
"I make mistakes sometimes like all other human beings"
"I forgive myself for the past"

If you fail to assert yourself you may not get your needs met – you will probably go through situations again and again in your mind, regretting things said, beating yourself up, telling yourself
“if only I’d said this or done that”

It is your right to be assertive

Andrea Harrn MBACP

Assertiveness Training

Counselling and Psychotherapy

Joseph Clinic

London E18 2AQ

Tel: 07958 714615

http://www.andreaharrn.co.uk/

London Divorce Lawyers

Women's Health Issues: For whom has this website been written?

2010-06-29T04:20:00.000-07:00

Women's Health Issues: This is one of the best sources in the world for information on women's health

the 4 most poisonous elements of the relationship

2010-06-12T14:26:00.000-07:00

My friend Andrew Richardson who has for many years been providing (very successfully) counselling to those who go through patchy time in their marriage has got some valuable advice to you BEFORE you decide to see a divorce lawyer. Andrew points out to the 4 most poisonous elements of the relationship which he believes are:
1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling.
It is worth having a look at Andrew’s website. I know him to have saved a few marriages and I have heard some good things about his marriage counselling.

New testimonials from Finchley divorce lawyers!

2010-05-14T08:06:00.000-07:00

Recommended divorce lawyers in Finchley. The website is packed with testimonials of happy clients who care about forming smart strategies to achieve a successful outcome in their divorce at minimum costs.

Divorce solicitor Plain Divorce Advice

2010-04-20T17:00:00.000-07:00

How to Keep the Costs of Your Divorce Under Control

2010-04-20T16:58:00.000-07:00

Yair Cohen, Finchley divorce lawyer explains in plain English why divorce does not need to be expensive.

Ancillary Relief: Your Divorce & Your Property

2010-03-14T14:31:00.000-07:00

Ancillary Relief: Divorce & Finances | Family | Legal Briefings
With property prices decreasing, delayed lump sum payments in divorce settlements must be dealt with particularly carefully. The problem occurs when the net value of a property is decided during ancillary relief proceedings but subsequently changes as a result of fluctuations in the economy. When a couple divorce, it is commonly agreed that one party will remain in the matrimonial home and the other will receive half the value of the property over a given period of time

In Case They Don’t Live Happily Ever After…

2008-11-04T11:03:00.000-08:00

If you have family wealth that you wish to protect, the joy at the prospect of one of your children getting married may be tempered somewhat by a touch of trepidation in case the marriage doesn’t last, particularly if a large settlement of assets is to be made on the happy couple. Full legal story

Divorce Settlement Must Be Fair

2008-11-04T11:00:00.000-08:00

When the financial arrangements are being made on divorce, the court must ask itself whether these are fair and do not discriminate against one party bearing in mind all the circumstances.
Recently, a woman appealed to the Court of Appeal regarding the orders for ancillary relief (as they are known to lawyers) made for her benefit following her separation from her husband. The couple had married in 1992 and had a child that year. Full legal story by Rupinder Bains.

No Trust Created Where Intentions Not Clear

2008-11-04T10:57:00.000-08:00

When a couple’s conduct over a period of time is consistent with co-ownership of a property, it might be thought that the property would come to belong to them both, no matter what the legal form of ownership may be. Such assumptions are often tested in divorce cases when a property is owned by one or other of the divorcing couple. Full story from Bains Cohen Solicitors