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Join 2013-14 Fantasy Premier League, Club Football Wars Private Leagues

2013-08-11T12:46:00.001-07:00

Registration is now open for the 2013-14 Fantasy Premier League season. The game is free to play. And, if you like, you can join the the following private leagues.

UA Private Leauge (For Unizik Alumni) - 1275548-297698
Giants League - 1275548-298547
Gidi League - 1275548-299543

Here’s how to join the private leagues today:

Visit the Fantasy Premier League site and log in
If you’ve never registered before, click the ‘Sign Up’ button
After logging in, select your team (you can always change the team selection later, so don’t worry about finalizing your team right then and there),
Click the ‘League’ tab in the top navigation,
After clicking the “Join A League” link, choose ‘Private League’ and then click the ‘Next’ button,
Enter the codes of leagues of interest and then click the ‘Join Private League’ button

Just log on and pick your team before the season kicks off.

You have £100million to spend on a squad of 15 players, with no more than 3 players from any single team, so spend wisely.

Throughout the season, VisitBritain will be offering lots of fun prizes.

Go ahead and register today, so you can see if you’re the best of the best out of the thousands of EPL fans!

HUMOURINSTINT: THE ART OF THE LOVED

2013-02-22T04:09:00.001-08:00

It took a while before I decided to use “LOVE” in the title of this article but settled for it to increase the audience. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with the word, just feel the concept of love is not a feeling but a decision. “LOVE: - A conscious decision to make someone smile, laugh and be happy for specific or infinite period” – Kc Ofoegbu

The concept of love has been somewhat misconstrued by our social construct. Love in its totality is first a commandment and by virtue of freewill you may choose to obey or disregard. But let’s skip that line of thought for now and hopefully bring it up another day, I have ~~something~~ someone more fascinating to share, which epitomizes the art of humorinstint.

Note! If you can’t find humor in everything and can’t be a real sport, then you got no business dating even a mannequin. And I am not shitting you about this! You can’t be best friends with anyone without insulting each other constantly. Humor is like the only explanation of having a partner who is totally aware of how not-so-smart you are but still manages to be seen in public with you.

When that feeling you call whatever, which causes amnesia and makes you forget that there are over a billion of that same gender of that person you can’t do without in the world. When that feeling DIES… because she got fat or he lost his six packs, those jocular taunts and sarcasm are key drugs that can resuscitate your state of amnesia

"Humor is a tool like any other," says Robert L. Weiss, a psychologist at the University of Oregon who studies humor in relationships. "People use humor in lots of different ways, including some negative ones. It's not just one monolithic thing." Almost every sweet, supportive way of using it has an evil twin; an aggressive, selfish or manipulative version. And like those teasing comments in the workplace that can just as easily feel like flattery or an attack, the two sides of humor are so intimately intertwined, it almost isn't funny.

Based on my relationship with someone, I have come to the conclusion that if you love to be in critical state of amnesia, you got to find a female with name meaning - Rock and a genetic humorous foul mouth that is provokingly obvious in her father. With double graduate honors and an unsanctioned 3rd in being a flippant and still considers self unwitty and unable to engage in an intelligent banter.

She makes hostile quips about my least favorite qualities and quick to use sarcasm or make a joke to change the subject whenever I bring up finances or her indiscretions, you might not even notice that she's trying to be funny. I just wonder why the two of us never seem to want to talk about the important things we disagree about but would rather make jest and laugh about every other thing, idea or event we find interesting.

As much as she disagrees, she’s a purist, yet carnally minded to always assume that everything I say has more than one carnal or taunting meaning. This jokingly lets us put out thoughts in a tentative way that makes our conversations almost never ending.

Beautiful with supple skin, a big head to hold all the apt taunts in the world and sexy in more than one way that you want to ~~love~~ her in so many ways. Dekalia must have been a queen to raise a princess in so such time.

Lest I drift away, the point is humor is valuable to relationships because it can provide a sense of closeness and increase happiness. Researchers believe that affiliative humor, or the type of humor displayed by people who like to make others laugh, is very valuable in romantic relationships. A study found that when a person perceives that their partner uses affiliative humor they are more satisfied with the relationship.

And in my own study, I have found that when partners use taunting humor between them, a positive bond is created. This bond acts as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements, and disappointment.

So guys, if you have a weak sense of and dissent sarcasm then you better changing your mindset. I suggest you visit your local dvd store and buy up all the stand-up comedies or comedy series dvds you can lay your hands on (All Chris Rock HBO series, Eddie Griffin and Big Bang Theory Series are really cool), will be a step in the right direction to improve your humorless life!

PS: This is dedicated to the lass that adores Belle Dekalia

Meeting Women In Your 30s

2013-02-20T09:42:00.000-08:00

I don’t want to have sex. I want to date. I want a relationship. When I meet women and they realize this, I'm pretty sure it makes my life more difficult. Sometimes it even means I've blown a chance for a night of no-strings-attached sex. But I can’t help it. I’m in my 30s, and, when it comes to one-night stands, I've done it all. Now I want more. They can smell it on me. Talk about scaring away potential candidates.

I don’t want to be single when I'm 50. I'm terrified that someday I'll run into my niece at a bar and she will introduce me with great embarrassment to her hubby. So meeting women these days carries a different incentive than it used to when I was slimmer and cared less about most things. The question, when dating in your 30s, is whether you're willing to adapt.

The fact of the matter is you are locked in to stereotypes if you’re still cruising the single social scene after a certain age. Of course, this isn't a problem if you are just looking to get anyone back to your one-bedroom apartment for a night of… you know what. But we are here to talk about dating. I'm talking to the guys who want to get out of the rut of meaningless sexual conquests and step into a partnership that can lead to something more in their lives.

I've been out, meeting lots of women. I have met younger women and women my age. And I can confirm two things with absolute certainty. First, being honest about what you want from women is never a bad thing, even if that thing is a relationship. In most cases, when I have dropped that into a first meet over a drink, women find it endearing. They find it romantic. There is no downside if you play it sincerely. I’m not saying to be creepy and overly enthusiastic, but letting a girl know you are about more than one night is not uncool anymore. It’s mature. And mature is sexy. That brings me to the second thing.

For many guys, your 30s are the prime of your life. You can be confident about what you want, and you have the experience to back it up. Confidence means being proud of what you want, not underhanded. I once bought a round of drinks at party. Four girls. All drunk. All cute. All fun. The minute I came clean about being a guy looking for "that girl," the deafening sound of their “awwwws!” told me that there was some value in being straightforward. It wasn’t just what I was saying; it was that I was saying it with pride. I was owning that sh*t. And that is cool.

Meeting women is harder as you get older. And I'm not even speaking about the actual dating part -- that’s in its own is a different ball game. When you first meet, you run the risk of being branded as either unable to commit or just unworthy of being committed to. But in those first moments, you can flip those single 30-something stereotypes on their head by just coming clean. I'm single because I have not met the right girl yet. I want to meet her. Maybe she's reading this; maybe she's not. But let’s find out.

10 steps to stop procrastinating

2013-01-31T04:04:00.001-08:00

By Jude Bijou,

Takeaway: Everyone procrastinates. But when procrastinating starts to interfere with performance at work, it’s time to stop putting the task aside and get on with it.

Everyone procrastinates. We usually do it to avoid a task that’s unpleasant or daunting. But when procrastinating starts to interfere with performance at work–by causing us to feel worried, fearful, and stressed-out, or by causing others to feel anxious because we’re holding up progress–then it’s time to stop putting the task aside and get on with it.

Here are ten ways to get out of the quicksand of procrastination and reap numerous benefits, which include improved productivity, enhanced mood, less stress, better coworker relationships, a sense of accomplishment, and restored reputation at work as a “doer.”

1. Identify the situation.First, write down the specific task you’ve been putting off. For example, “I have to convert all of my client contacts and notes into the new file-sharing software system and learn how to navigate its tools and folders.” Writing down the task helps you dial in the job at hand.

2. Pinpoint your emotions.What’s preventing you from diving in to this task? It’s typically one or more of three core emotions. Perhaps, to use the above example, you’re intimidated by all the new bells and whistles you’ll have to learn (fear). Or you’re resentful about having to do this when the old system worked perfectly well (anger). Or you’re bummed that you’re just not tech savvy (sadness). This step helps you see the act of dragging your heels for what it truly is: an emotional reaction.

3. Deal with those emotions.It’s helpful to know that emotions–sadness, anger, and fear–are just pure energy in your body. Look at the word “emotion.” It’s energy (e) in motion. Take some time in private to express those emotions constructively. By crying to express sadness, punching or yelling into a pillow or stomping around to release the anger, or doing exaggerated shivering for the fear, you give yourself permission to express the emotion. The energy dissipates and you won’t feel stuck. It’s like letting steam out of a pressure cooker.

4. Do some planning.
Good planning is the foundation of success for most any project. It’s helpful to write it down so you have it for ready reference. Start by getting clear on your goal. Your goal is your beacon to keep you on track in treacherous waters. For example, “I want to be facile with this new software so it’s a useful tool, not an impediment to my progress.” Having a clear and precise idea of your goal will keep you oriented and stay motivated.

5. Find some “truths.”Identify sabotaging thoughts that are hanging in the wings, ready to pounce in a weak moment, then come up with a couple of truths to contradict them. For example, if you continually tell yourself “I’ll never be able to learn all this,” you might say to yourself, “I can do this“ or “If others can learn this, so can I.“ That’s a plain and simple truth. To neutralize your frustration at having to do this task, you might say, “I’m doing this because I want to be a team player” or “My boss thinks I’m the best person to do this.“

6. Break your goal into a series of small, doable steps.You’ve envisioned the task, dealt with what’s been holding you back, and fixed your destructive thinking. Completing the task requires deciding when you’ll get started and figuring out a doable step-by-step game plan. Write it down, schedule it, and commit to it. Then go on a mental journey, plotting out each part of the task, including details such as whom you will talk with and what about, where and when you’ll be working, and how long you expect each part to take.

7. Anticipate roadblocks.Once you’ve created a game plan, step back and imagine challenges and obstacles that are likely to pop up along the way. For example, other projects with shorter deadlines might land on your desk. How will you tackle such challenges in order to keep moving forward with the big task at hand? For every such scenario, have a tactic ready for sticking to your original plan. You may also want to find someone to support your efforts and with whom you can check in on a regular basis.

8. Take the leap.With all this preparation, it’s time to tackle the task you’ve put off. Before you do, acknowledge your emotions–whether it’s anger, fear, or sadness. Take just a minute or two and release the pent-up emotion in a physical and constructive way. Without the emotional energy dragging you down, you’ll feel prepared to take the leap and be amazed how easy it is as you just focus on one step at a time.

9. Battle resistance.As you move through the task, you’re likely to meet with resistance in the form of excuses, bad moods, and discouragement. Meet resistance with tenacity and stubbornness, and continue to deal with any emotions that surface. Say to yourself, “I can do this. I’ll feel better when I handle this.“ Say it over and over until it’s set in your mind. Any time you feel discouraged or are tempted to procrastinate, refocus on the goal.

10. Focus on the upside.Getting through a daunting task is incredibly satisfying. Praise each little step along the way. Remind yourself at every step that you’ll feel incredibly virtuous when you get the task off your plate once and for all. Accomplishing what you’re avoiding will simplify your work life. You’ll feel more energetic. You’ll sleep better at night.

Jude Bijou, MA, MFT, is a respected psychotherapist, professional educator, and workshop leader. Her theory of Attitude Reconstruction® evolved over the course of more than 30 years working with clients as a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is the subject of her award-winning book, Attitude Reconstruction: A Blueprint for Building a Better Life. Learn more athttp://www.attitudereconstruction.com/.

Subconcious Signals Women Send That Leave Them Single

2012-08-30T03:57:00.001-07:00

There are several ways to communicate and nonverbal is often the loudest. One can think they are communicating one thing but are actually subconsciously projecting another tale all together. These cues are often picked up by others unknowingly and they unconscious respond to the displayed stimuli. Men also pick up on these nonverbal cues that women unconsciously send and they react to them accordingly, women may not know why men keep repelling them and proposing to their friends but this is a major factor. An example, for the sake of empathy, is meeting a person for the first time and during your interaction you feel like you've known them all your life, primarily because your verbal and your nonverbal communication is in sync. You feel comfortable around them because what they saying and what their body is also saying is in comport and consistent so you believe them and thus a connection forms. This is the same combustion that occurs when a man meets a woman and although she thinks she's communicating the commitment she so much desires, she is actually non-verbally dissuading a relationship. I have selected a few common nonverbal cues that women 'accidentally' send to men that leave them single- I have segregated them into 3 categories: What you think: what you communicate: what he does.

Independence

What you think: I am independent. I can buy my own drinks, I can pay my own bills, I own my car and I don't need a man to tell me what to do.
What you communicate: I don’t need a man
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bride’s maid.

Socialite

What you think: I like to have fun and meet new people; it’s mainly for networking and plain fun. It doesn’t mean that I’ll hook with just any random guy. Am just social.
What you communicate: Am an unstable being who needs to constantly surround myself with people in order to feel special and important.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Alcohol

What you think: I enjoy the occasional drink with my friends and I don’t drink much however I know if I get out of hand my friends will take care of me.
What you communicate: Drinking is my excuse to participate in sordid behavior that I blame on alcohol.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Buying Expensive Fake Labels

What you think: I like to look good and spending a little extra even though I know the brand is fake doesn’t hurt, as long as I look great.
What you communicate: I am a fake ass bitch who doesn’t focus on value but impression. I will only value our relationship as long as you keep being worth something.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Girlfriends

What you think: My girls and I are tight, we’ve known each other since secondary and I know they always have my back.
What you communicate: I am a complete package, marry me and know that you also ‘marry’ my girls as they are also a part of me.
What he does: Propose to your girlfriends and you are not asked to be a bridesmaid.

Smoking

What you think: I can quit smoking anytime, I just do it when I go out or when am stressed…but I can quit anytime.
What you communicate: Despite all the fucking health warnings I still smoke to look cool so I obviously don’t care about my health so why should you care for me.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Casual Sex

What you think: It’s my body and I have the right to sleep with whomever I choose, besides am single and free.
What you communicate: Am whore and shall spread it for anyone.
What he does: Propose to your friend, fuck you and not invite you for the wedding.

Sex on First Date

What you think: I really like this guy and I know if I give him sex he will keep taking me out to expensive restaurants in his Range Rover.
What you communicate: Any guy who takes me or has ever taken me to an expensive restaurant in a Range Rover shall get to hit this.
What he does: Proposes to a virgin.

Before you indulge in certain behavior that would be detrimental to your getting married, do think about the nonverbal messages it carries because unfortunately you shan’t have the chance to explain yourself to the man who is watching or even interacting with you. Subconscious communication carries more weight than verbal communication so if you keep finding yourself a bridesmaid to your friend’s weddings please ask yourself what nonverbal cues you are sending out and remember it is not what it is…it is what it seems.

Professor Flibbertigibbet

We Are All Ignorant: Collection Of Quotes That Tend To Support Conspiracy Theories

2012-02-23T06:56:00.001-08:00

I have been away for a very long time. The desire to make a life in this crazy controlled world has kept me away from blogging and drove me into seeking answers to questions no one would niether ask or give answers;

below are a collection of quotes that might spark the thought that the world as you know it, is a wool that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. Read quotes below;

"All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent."
-Thomas Jefferson

"Governments do not govern, but merely control the machinery of government, being themselves controlled by the hidden hand."
- Benjamin Disraeli

There is no such thing in America as an independent press. You know it and I know it... The business of the Journalist is to destroy truth; To lie outright; To pervert; To vilify; To fawn at the feet of mammon, and to sell his county and his race for his daily bread.
- John Swinton, newsman and former editor at The New York Times

"If we understand the mechanism and motives of the group mind, it is now possible to control and regiment the masses according to our will without their knowing it."
-- Edward L. Bernays, the nephew of Sigmund Freud who studied his uncle's work. (Quote gleaned from "Flat Earth News" by Nick Davies)

"We must now face the harsh truth that the objectives of communism are being steadily advanced because many of us do not recognize the means used to advance them. ... The individual is handicapped by coming face to face with a Conspiracy so monstrous he cannot believe it exists. The American mind simply has not come to a realization of the evil which has been introduced into our midst."
-- J. Edgar Hoover (Elks Magazine, August 1956.)

"A holy war will now begin on America, and when it is ended America will be supposedly the citadel of freedom, but her millions will unknowingly be loyal subjects to the Crown. Your churches will be used to teach the Jew's religion and in less than two hundred years the whole nation will be working for divine world government. That government that they believe to be divine will be the British Empire. All religions will be permeated with Judaism without even being noticed by the masses, and they will all be under the invisible all-seeing eye of the Grand Architect of Freemasonry."
-- British General Charles Cornwallis to General George Washington

"The man who reads nothing at all is better educated than the man who reads nothing but newspapers."
-- Thomas Jefferson

"It's not the votes that count; it's who counts the votes."
-- Josef Stalin –

"There will be in the next generation or so a pharmacological method of making people love their servitude and producing dictatorship without tears so to speak. Producing a kind of painless concentration camp for entire societies so that people will in fact have their liberties taken away from them, but will rather enjoy it, because they will be distracted from any desire to rebel by propaganda, or brainwashing, or brainwashing enhanced by pharmacological methods. And this seems to be the final revolution."
-- Aldous Huxley, Tavistock Group, California Medical School, 1961

"We are in a process of developing a whole series of techniques which will enable the controlling oligarchy to get people to actually love their servitude. A really efficient totalitarian state would be one in which the all-powerful executive of political bosses and their army of managers control a population of slaves who do not have to be coerced, because they love their servitude. To make them love it is the task assigned, in present-day totalitarian states, to ministries of propaganda, newspaper editors, and school teachers....The greatest triumphs of propaganda have been accomplished, not by doing something, but by refraining from doing. Great is truth, but still greater, from a practical point of view, is silence about truth."
--Aldous Huxley

"Why of course the people don't want war. Why should some poor slob on a farm want to risk his life in a war when the best he can get out of it is to come back to his farm in one piece? Naturally, the common people don't want war, neither in Russia, nor in England, nor for that matter in Germany. That is understood. But after all it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy, and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy, or a fascist dictatorship, or a parliament, or a communist dictatorship ... Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is to tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger."
-- Leading Nazi leader, Hermann Goering, at the Nuremberg Trials before he was sentenced to death

"Our job is to give people not what they want, but what we decide they ought to have."
-- Richard Salent, Former President CBS News

"One cannot wage war under present conditions without the support of public opinion, which is tremendously molded by the press and other forms of propaganda."
-- General Douglas MacArthur

"If you give a man the correct information for seven years, he may believe the incorrect information on the first day of the eighth year when it is necessary, from your point of view, that he should do so. Your first job is to build the credibility and the authenticity of your propaganda, and persuade the enemy to trust you although you are his enemy."
-- A Psychological Warfare Casebook Operations Research Office Johns Hopkins University Baltimore (1958)

"The first casualty of war is truth."
--Rudyard Kipling

"Today Americans would be outraged if U.N. troops entered Los Angeles to restore order; tomorrow they will be grateful. This is especially true if they were told there was an outside threat from beyond, whether real or promulgated, that threatened our very existence. It is then that all peoples of the world will plead with world leaders to deliver them from this evil. The one thing every man fears is the unknown. When presented with this scenario, individual rights will be willingly relinquished for the guarantee of their well-being granted to them by their world government."
-- Henry Kissinger speaking at Evian, France, May 21, 1992 Bilderburgers meeting. Unbeknownst to Kissinger, his speech was taped by a Swiss delegate to the meeting.

"People only see what they are prepared to see." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

"The high office of President has been used to foment a plot to destroy the American's freedom, and before I leave office I must inform the citizen of his plight."
--John F. Kennedy, at Columbia University, 10 days before his assassination.

"It is also important for the State to inculcate in its subjects an aversion to any 'conspiracy theory of history;' for a search for 'conspiracies' means a search for motives and an attribution of responsibility for historical misdeeds."
--Murray N. Rothbard, in The Anatomy of the State

"The secret to success is to own nothing, but control everything."
--Nelson Rockefeller

"I want to own nothing and control everything"
--J D Rockefeller I

"The drive of the Rockefellers and their allies is to create a one-world government combining supercapitalism and Communism under the same tent, all under their control.... Do I mean conspiracy? Yes I do. I am convinced there is such a plot, international in scope, generations old in planning, and incredibly evil in intent."
--Larry P. McDonald, US Congressman, 1976, killed in the Korean Airlines 747 that was shot down by the Soviets

"The real menace of our republic is this invisible government which like a giant octopus sprawls its slimy length over city, state and nation. Like the octopus of real life, it operates under cover of a self created screen....At the head of this octopus are the Rockefeller Standard Oil interests and a small group of powerful banking houses generally referred to as international bankers. The little coterie of powerful international bankers virtually run the United States government for their own selfish purposes. They practically control both political parties."
--John F. Hylan, 1922, then mayor of New York City

"The money powers prey upon the nation in times of peace and conspire against it in times of adversity. It is more despotic than a monarchy, more insolent than autocracy, and more selfish than bureaucracy. It denounces as public enemies, all who question it's methods or throw light upon it's crimes. I have two great enemies, the Southern Army in front of me and the Bankers in the rear. Of the two, the one at my rear is my greatest foe... corporations have been enthroned and an era of corruption in high places will follow, and the money powers of the country will endeavor to prolong it's reign by working upon the prejudices of the people until the wealth is aggregated in the hands of a few, and the Republic is destroyed.
-- Abraham Lincoln

"Some of the biggest men in the United States, in the field of commerce and manufacture, are afraid of something. They know that there is a power somewhere so organized, so subtle, so watchful, so interlocked, so complete, so pervasive, that they had better not speak above their breath when they speak in condemnation of it."
--Woodrow Wilson, from his book The New Freedom (1913)

"I am a most unhappy man. I have unwittingly ruined my country. A great industrial nation is controlled by its system of credit. Our system of credit is concentrated. The growth of the nation, therefore, and all our activities are in the hands of a few men. We have come to be one of the worst ruled, one of the most completely controlled and dominated Governments in the civilized world - no longer a Government by free opinion, no longer a Government by conviction and the vote of the majority, but a Government by the opinion and duress of a small group of dominant men."
--President Woodrow Wilson (The president whose administration passed the Federal Reserve Act)

"If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and the corporations which grow up around them will deprive the people of all property until their children wake up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered."
-- Thomas Jefferson

"The hand that gives is above the hand that takes. Money has no motherland; financiers are without patriotism and without decency: their sole object is gain."
-- Napoleon Bonaparte

"The real rulers in Washington are invisible, and exercise power from behind the scenes."
--Felix Frankfurter, Supreme Court Justice

"The world is governed by very different personages from what is imagined by those who are not behind the scenes."
--Benjamin Disraeli, first Prime Minister of England, in a novel he published in 1844 called Coningsby, the New Generation

"Gentlemen, I have had men watching you for a long time and I am convinced that you have used the funds of the bank to speculate in the breadstuffs of the country. When you won, you divided the profits amongst you, and when you lost, you charged it to the bank. You tell me that if I take the deposits from the bank and annul its charter, I shall ruin ten thousand families. That may be true, gentlemen, but that is your sin! Should I let you go on, you will ruin fifty thousand families, and that would be my sin! You are a den of vipers and thieves."
--Attributed to President Andrew Jackson, who in 1836 forced the closing of the Second Bank of the U.S. by revoking its charter.

"The Federal Reserve Banks are one of the most corrupt institutions the world has ever seen. There is not a man within the sound of my voice who does not know that this Nation is run by the International Bankers."
--Congressman Louis T. McFadden (Rep. Pa)

"We have, in this country, one of the most corrupt institutions the world has ever known. I refer to the Federal Reserve Board. This evil institution has impoverished the people of the United States and has practically bankrupted our government. It has done this through the corrupt practices of the moneyed vultures who control it".
-- Congressman Louis T. McFadden in 1932 (Rep. Pa)

"I care not what puppet is placed on the throne of England to rule the Empire, ... The man that controls Britain's money supply controls the British Empire. And I control the money supply."
--Baron Nathan Mayer de Rothschild (1777-1836)

"These are the rules of big business. They have superseded the teachings of our parents and are reducible to a simple maxim: Get a monopoly; let Society work for you; and remember that the best of all business is politics, for a legislative grant, franchise, subsidy or tax exemption is worth more than a Kimberly or Comstock lode, since it does not require any labor, either mental or physical, for its exploitation."
--Frederick C. Howe, in Confessions of a Monopolist (1906)

"If we were merely dealing with the law of averages, half of the events affecting our nation's well-being should be good for America. If we were dealing with mere incompetence, our leaders should occasionally make a mistake in our favor. We . . . are not dealing with coincidence or stupidity, but with planning and brilliance."
--Gary Allen, from his book None Dare Call It Conspiracy

"In politics, nothing happens by accident. If it happens, you can bet it was planned that way." --Franklin D. Roosevelt

"A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within. An enemy at the gates is less formidable, for he is known and carries his banner openly. But the traitor moves amongst those within the gate freely, his sly whispers rustling through all the alleys, heard in the very halls of government itself. For the traitor appears not a traitor; he speaks in accents familiar to his victims, and he wears their face and their garments, he appeals to the baseness that lies deep in the hearts of all men. He rots the soul of a nation, he works secretly and unknown in the night to undermine the pillars of the city, he infects the body politic so that it can no longer resist. A murderer is less to fear."
--Marcus Tullius Cicero 42 BC

"As nightfall does not come at once, neither does oppression do. In both instances, there's twilight where everything remains seemingly unchanged, and it is in such twilight that we must be aware of change in the air, however slight, lest we become unwitting victims of the darkness."
--Supreme Court Justice William O. Douglas

"When a well-packaged web of lies has been sold gradually to the masses over generations, the truth will seem utterly preposterous and its speaker a raving lunatic."
--Dresden James

"In a time of universal deceit - telling the truth is a revolutionary act."
--George Orwell

"If 50 million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
--Anatole France

The Big Mistake Most Men Make on a Date: Paying Her Way

2011-06-09T08:55:00.000-07:00

Tell me something and be brutally honest: are you one of those guys who still pays a woman's way on a date? I'm no mind-reader, but I'll bet I know the answer...

Of course you're paying for women on dates. And that's why this URGENT TIP is aimed directly at you: you need to STOP IT. Right NOW.

I know, I know... You think you're impressing her. Scoring points. But here's the shocking (and slightly counter-intuitive) fact:

PAYING A WOMAN'S WAY ON A DATE ACTUALLY *DECREASES* YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS WITH HER.

Stay with me, since the reasons for all this can sound as misleading as they are simple.

For our purposes, I want you to consider "traditional dinner dates" to be a thing of the past. History. As far as we're concerned, they're now officially EXTINCT.

Why?

Because when you ask a woman out and then pay for the date, you're making her think of you in THE COMPLETELY WRONG WAY.

Pretty profound, I know. But please, hold the applause.

Let me explain this a little more...

A lot of good research suggests that women think men, who are potential mates, fall into one of two categories. I call these categories "Lover" and "Provider".

The basic idea goes like this:

In a "traditional" boy-meets-girl situation, the girl makes a decision early on whether you're the type of guy that she should get physically involved with quickly (spelled A-T-T-R-A-C-T-I-O- N), or if you're of the "nicer" type (spelled W-U-S-S-Y) that would be glad to "prove" himself to her by paying for lots of expensive dates, buying flowers, etc.

I realize that I'm generalizing here, and that I'm being a bit extreme... but I'm making a point, so go with me.

A very common approach that men use is the old "Can I take you out sometime?" line.

At first glance, it sounds innocent enough.

It has the ring of "I'm a nice guy, and I'd like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to get to know you better" to it, right?

Well, it may seem that way at first glance, but let's get a little deeper into what ELSE you're saying when you ask a question like this one (or start off by paying for dinner, etc.).

Here are a few of the OTHER LESS OBVIOUS things that you're saying when you offer to "take a woman out".

1) You're starting off the relationship RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING by offering to buy something for her, and more importantly YOU'RE SETTING AN EXPECTATION. In other words, when you do this, you're setting an expectation that you're going to do this from NOW ON.

2) You're subtly saying, "I feel like I need to use a bribe to get you to see me again". I'm sure that men have been bribing women with food and gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our closest relatives, the chimps use food to persuade females to have sex with them. No, really.

3) Once you "take a woman out" and prove to her beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay for things, you set a whole series of other subconscious expectations in place. Without going into detail, most of these other expectations will only lead her thinking of you in the "nice guy" category, and costing you time and money that you might as well have thrown down a rat hole.

4) By going out to a typical nice restaurant setting, you start a whole chain of events that often leads to two people looking at each other over a candle, in a loud room full of other people, with a typically uncomfortable "OK, so tell me about yourself and don't ask me too many personal questions please" look on your faces.

I don't know about you, but this just isn't my idea of a good time.

So, what's the alternative?

Thought you'd never ask.

Success with women is about becoming the type of man that NATURALLY attracts them. Becoming the type of man who projects power, confidence, and masculinity. The kind of cool, charismatic guy that other men want to emulate and women LOVE to be seen with.

Of course, there's a lot that goes into eliminating all the "uncool" baggage and habits that guys carry around like man-purses, usually without even realizing it.

The inner "wussy" that sabotages your success with women can be sneaky. In fact, sometimes it's hard to see even when it's staring straight back at you from the mirror.

How Women Test Men And How To Pass

2010-12-15T08:42:00.000-08:00

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to just be straight up and honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,we often can't BACK IT UP. Also, beautiful women have a lot of options. They have their pick of men. And beautiful women prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER and PERSONAL IDENTITY. Remember! Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you... if you were an attractive woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,how would YOU go about figuring out which one or ones were the "real deal" and which were merely FAKING strength and confidence? Of course... you'd have to TEST them. But you couldn't test by saying, "OK, I'm going to give you a test now, so get ready."

No no NO! You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that would allow you to see a man's true strengths and weaknesses. And in fact, you'd want to use tests that ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and easily.

This would give you the power... Of course. And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating

with men.

Well, guess what? That's what is going on with beautiful women. Many of the tests that they use with men are actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us

automatically! And if you fail one of these tests, there's a good chance that you won't get another chance. In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have the time to spend getting to know people over a few months or years to figure out whether or not they're the kind of person that would make a good

friend or mate. We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts. Testing is a shortcut for women. It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you have BALLS, or if you're just another one of the bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her attention. I hope you feel what I'm saying.

So, the next time you're standing in front of a beautiful woman who you've just asked for her number and she says, "Why don't you just give me yours and I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out loud, and saying:

"Oh, come on. Don't give me that old line. Write your number down and I'll only call you 25 times a day until you wind up having to change it because I have nothing better to do with my time than call someone who doesn't want to hear from me." Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.

Now, obviously there's a lot more to this issue of TESTING. There's a lot more going on than meets the eye. There are all kinds of subtle cues and body language that women read to decide just what kind of man you are... and these cues also trigger ATTRACTION (or the opposite).

Guys Beware of Being Just a Friend

2010-11-26T05:24:00.000-08:00

Most women can get sex anywhere, any time and any way they want it. The problem for us guys is that women don't want sex anywhere, any time and any way we want it. For women, sex comes bundled up with an onslaught of dizzying and complicated emotions. The result? It's infinitely easier for women to place men into the category of friends rather than admit them as lovers.

In fact, for a woman, a male friend is the best of both worlds: She can reap all the benefits of having a man around (strength, decision-making, solid advice, logic, common sense, and so on) without the hormone-based entanglements that sex brings to the table.

But men are different. Since we aren't saddled with psychologically crippling emotions, we aren't burdened with the senselessness of separating friendship from sex. In fact, for us, it's just the opposite: When a man likes a woman, he naturally wants to express his feelings between the sheets. This is natural.

Unfortunately, the female brain can't process this logic. Instead, it quickly either-ors any guy it encounters: Either he's going to be a lover or he's going to be a friend. And once a woman has relegated you to the Friend Zone, it's all but impossible for her to see you in any other way. Of course, she'll still expect you to act like the lovers she's currently sex-ploiting -- by forcing you to pay for her meals and cart her around like a chauffeur -- but without the fringe benefit of doing the horizontal hula.

Many guys fantasize that, by acting as a hot girl's friend or romantic counselor, they can backdoor it into her heart or her bed. This may work well in romantic comedies (or possibly with psychotic women), but in real life, you're just kidding yourself. You're a friend, and she doesn't need you for sex.

So how do you know if you're in the Friend Zone? Here are a few tip-offs.

you're just a friend if

You hear phrases like: I can talk to you about anything, You're really a nice guy, You're like a brother to me, You're my best friend, and You understand me."
You finally work up the courage to ask her out and she tells you: I don't want to jeopardize our friendship, I like you too much to go out with you, I don't want to risk losing what we have, and so on.
She tells you all about her problems with men.
She asks you for advice about the men she's attracted to.
She tells you excitedly, I just met this really great guy!

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10 Traits of a Real Man

2010-10-26T07:20:00.000-07:00

Fuck it! I just had to share this one. Writing Strictly for Guys Blog requires me to browse issues and trends that concerns men, I don’t get to share them all and being that tips on women forms the core of this blog, but I figured you can’t apply these tips if you don’t understand the basics. And this post is definitely one of those basics. Anyway, if you visit askmen.com you definitely can’t ignore Mr. Mafioso posts! Real life experience of a Mafia and street coated advice from the Capo himself. So, here is one of his classic every guy must read! Hey, okay and ladies too…

Trait No. 1: A real man is strong

A real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap it and move on.

A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn't show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you'll never be a real man.

Trait No. 2: A real man is focused

A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't. A real man doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby -- I like to shoot ducks -- but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don't have to tell you whether or not that's a useful thing in my line of work.

A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn't focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).

Trait No. 3: A real man knows the importance of family

A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors' history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

A real man must also remember his other Family, his organization. In my world, both my family and my Family hold the same importance; I protect them both with all my might. If you have a Family, don't forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it.

Trait No. 4: A real man doesn't gossip

A real man follows omerta; he keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about or people he has never met.

Trait No. 5: A real man's word is his bond

When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can't keep a promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait No. 6: A real man strives to be a role model

A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples, and especially for his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait No. 7: A real man makes his own fortune

A real man doesn't settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn't satisfied with papa's money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.

Trait No. 8: A real man doesn't look like a woman

A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn't know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately.

Trait No. 9: A real man keeps his house in order

Have you ever been inside the boss’ house? There ain’t no pizza boxes sitting around, there ain’t no undershirts on the floor, and there sure as hell ain’t no unpaid bills being used as beer coasters. No ruler can rule over a territory if he isn’t already the master of his own home.

This means you lazy pinheads out there need to stop using machismo as an excuse to live like a bottom-feeder; keep your sty spotless, keep your documents in order and -- listen up on this one -- clean your freaking suits.

Trait No. 10: A real man can defend himself

You know what’s missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way to the top. No joking, look at the head of any business that’s circling the toilet bowl, and I’ll show you a boss whose parents' power and money kept him from ever learning things the hard way.

So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role.

You see? That was me trying to be a smart-ass. Here's a bonus trait: A real man keeps it simple. If you know big words, use them rarely and appropriately, at least in front of morons who think they're smarter than you. Remember, the stuff inside matters most. Lesson over.

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

Fw: Why Football And Religion Are Not Always In Holy Alliance...

2010-09-19T01:04:00.001-07:00

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Date: Fri, 17 Sep 2010 15:45:17
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Subject: Why Football And Religion Are Not Always In Holy Alliance...

The news that West Ham United's Israeli manager, Avram Grant, has been
excused duty for the Hammers' league game against Stoke City this
weekend in order to observe Yom Kippur — one of the holiest dates in
the Jewish calendar, requiring Jews to fast and pray on Friday night
and Saturday — has put the relationship between football and faith
under the spotlight in a week when the Pope kicked off his state visit
to Britain in Glasgow – a footballing city whose Old Firm rivalry is
still defined by the Protestant-Catholic religious divide.

Through the tensions of sectarianism, the devout beliefs of
individuals in the game, the inexorable spread of secularism and even
the infamous 'Hand of God', the coming together of football and
religion has long produced conflict.

Yet the prevalence of club chaplains and the familiar sight of players
crossing themselves as they enter the pitch confirms that a certain
accommodation has also been reached.

Just another manic Sunday

In the UK, condemned this week as aggressively atheist by one of the
Pope's entourage (who was subsequently dropped), bodies like the
Lord's Day Observance Society saw the work of the Devil in the
decision to launch Sunday soccer on January 6, 1974 when four FA Cup
ties were staged. Big crowds at all four made the experiment an
irreversible success, to the chagrin of churchgoers. Oddly, the
regular staging of a full league programme on Christmas Day until the
mid-1950s had aroused much less controversy.

But keeping certain days holy clearly means a lot to some believers.
Avram Grant – who may yet walk to the Britannia Stadium to attend the
game in silence - might identify to an extent with compatriot Dudu
Aouate, the Israeli goalkeeper currently playing for Real Mallorca. In
September 2006, his then team Deportivo La Coruna's fixture against
Real Sociedad was scheduled for the night of Yom Kippur, on which
playing football is one of the prohibitions.

As a compromise, Aouate said he'd take part in the match but then
extend his observance of the Day of Atonement by a couple of hours to
make up for non-observance time during the game. His decision upset
many in Israel, some calling for him to be dropped from the national
team.

The ultimate extra-time

Another goalkeeper, Argentina 's Carlos Roa (right), who famously
saved a David Batty penalty in a shoot-out against England at the 1998
World Cup, stunned football by announcing he was quitting the game
because his Seventh Day Adventist religion would not allow him to
train or play on Saturdays. That was shortly before 2000, when he was
at the peak of his career with Mallorca, and he further declared his
belief that the new millennium would signal the end of the world. He
retreated to a farm in rural Argentina to await his fate, acting as
priest to his family. When no apocalypse materialised, he swallowed
his pride and came out of retirement, returning to Mallorca, then
Albacete and finally Olimpo back in Argentina.

Gotta serve somebody

Others have found football got in the way of their religious beliefs,
too. Nigeria defender Taribo West (left) reacted to his own wealth and
the materialism all around him by becoming a born-again Christian and
pastor and founding his own church – the Shelter from the Storm
Ministry - in Milan, where he played for both San Siro clubs. After he
left Milan in 2000, he frequently returned there to preach in his
church, which created friction with his new club Derby County. He was
transferred to Kaiserslauten, where instead of attending Sunday
morning training he preached to his congregation back in Italy. When
the German outfit consequently sacked him, he stressed that, "The Lord
is more important to me than a football club".

Someone else who lost his job in football because of his spiritual
beliefs is Glenn Hoddle, who was sacked as England manager in 1999
after publicly implying that disabled people were responsible for
their own suffering. Hoddle, who also placed great trust in the powers
of a faith healer, had said: "You and I have been physically given two
hands and two legs and half-decent brains. Some people have not been
born like that for a reason; karma is working from another lifetime."

Instant karma | The word of Hod backfired

Twenty years earlier, Wolves superstar Peter Knowles hadn't waited to
be pushed, but voluntarily gave up football to concentrate on studying
the Bible and spreading the word as a Jehovah's Witness. He stuck to
his guns, though Wolves kept his contract open for another 12 years in
the hope that he might one day return to the game. In 1991, Billy
Bragg recorded a song, "God's Footballer", which was widely seen as a
direct reference to Knowles.

The number of the beast

Others have found ways to keep the faith without quitting their
careers, though certain compromises have had to be made. As a devout
Muslim, Fredi Kanoute (right) insisted that wearing the Sevilla shirt,
emblazoned with the name of sponsor and online gambling company 888,
was an affront to his religion. He declared: "Gambling is the work of
Satan. It is forbidden by the Koran and I will not play in a shirt
that promotes it." So he taped over the offending name in protest.
And played.

Sevilla's own compromise, to appease both 888 and Kanoute, was to
agree on a charitable donation to a cause supported by Kanoute, if the
striker would carry on scoring while wearing the devilish garment.

The God squad & Fifa's commandments

In sharp contrast, some footballers have used their on-pitch attire to
advertise their faith, in the process giving Fifa something of a
crisis of conscience. Well, an embarrassing dilemma anyway. The world
governing body controversially disciplined the Brazil team for some
overt declarations of Christian allegiance during a Confederations Cup
final. Stars including Kaka and Lucio revealed T-shirts with slogans
such as "I Belong to Jesus" and "I Love God", and after their victory
players and coaching staff formed a circle and went down on their
knees in prayer.

Fifa has regulations which specifically ban players from making
displays of a personal, religious or political nature on the pitch,
and sent a warning letter to the Brazilian football federation
reminding them of this to ensure no repetition. In doing so Fifa
risked accusations of being anti-religious.
On God's team | Kaka & Ambrosini promote their faith at Milan

But Jim Stjerne Hansen, secretary general of the Danish football
association, reacted by urging that all religious statements be banned
from football. He said: "Just as we reject political manifestations,
we should also say no to religious ones. There are too many risks
involved in clubs, for example, with people of different religious
faiths."

Penitent shoot out

That Brazil team was successful, but God doesn't always provide the
assists. When Barcelona starlet Bojan Krkic (left) failed to convert a
chance to score the winning goal against Chelsea in a Champions League
semi-final, he questioned his Catholic faith. After heading wide at
0-0 with only three minutes remaining when it looked impossible to
miss, he said: "That's a goal God would have normally helped me score.
I don't know what happened. I crossed my chest as I came onto the
pitch, so this doesn& rsquo;t really make sense."

His team-mates consoled him, assuring him that God still loved him.
Coach Pep Guardiola (allegedly) revealed: "He was pretty down in the
changing room. We reassured him that if God didn't love him, he'd just
be a normal person, probably working in an office or cleaning the
streets of road-kill or something."

Better than sects

The issue of faith has sometimes attached itself to entire clubs in
somewhat provocative fashion. It is well known that Rangers are
perceived as a bastion of Protestantism, and their city rivals Celtic
the expression of Irish/Scottish Roman Catholicism. When Graeme
Souness was appointed Rangers manager in 1985 he boldly pronounced
that sectarianism was out and that he'd sign Catholic players. Read
more: http://m.goal.com/en/news/article?contentId=2123128&page=5&SID=jisano875ti5g9s36r2f46c3e6

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Join Our 2010/2011 Fantasy Premier League And Win Prizes!

2010-08-27T10:14:00.000-07:00

This is quite belated but its still early nevertheless. I am excited to say that it is that time again. The EPL season began on Saturday, August 14, 2010, with an early kick off between Tottenham and Manchester City.

With the start of the new season comes another exciting year in the fantasy league. We are excited to announce the début Proudly Naija Fantasy League. This another special way to enjoy the EPL. Join the league today!

Make sure you and your friends join today the competition today. We want this fantasy season to be big.

To join the league is simple.

Log on to the Official Fantasy Premier League website and login/setup your account.
Create your fantasy team.
Click on the 'Leagues' link you will see on the left hand side of the page and enter the Proudly Naija league code:329979-379618
Send an e-mail to chidoziefarsight@gmail.com with your Team name and manager name with the subject line: SIGN ME UP FOR Naija Town Crier FANTASY PRIZES. as we intend to give out prizes to winners Just to be on the safe side send us an e-mail as soon as you register so you are all ready to go!

4 Traits of A Cool Guy

2010-07-20T07:24:00.000-07:00

Much of the discussion so far on the blog has been about hooking up with women... Well I think this should have come first as a basic requirement for all guys, but like they say, it's better late than never.

this element called"cool" makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?

Ever heard a woman scream among her peers about how "cool" a guy she met is? you would agree with me that the term cool is rather ambiguos or relative but make no mistake about it, there is an unconcious universal agreement with women about "Cool Guys". Because women are complicated and complex the list of traits would be long, but below are 4 major trait of a cool guy from both a femine and masculine perspective.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don't ask others what they think - instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you're out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to... walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who's there - and feel fine about leaving their friends for a while and striking up a conversation with a stranger... They'll order a drink if they want, or water if they want - and not care what everyone else is drinking... They'll be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if others are getting upset around them... And, most importantly, they aren't looking to others for attention and approval. They're doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They're constantly worrying about what's going to happen... and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way. This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they're worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come. The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they're in. it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky. You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure... and any of 100 other unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially then it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic. It's a complete mystery why we find things "funny" and why we "laugh". Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion. But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn't see it... and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What's with that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings. If you're not naturally funny, it's a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever it takes to learn how to be funny. Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly
funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion... but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke, it's DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very adjusted socially. They lack a certain something in the "social skills" department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don't know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.

If you've ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean. If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they're around you, then you also know where I'm coming from on this. I can't teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what's going on around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details... like saying, "What's up?" when you meet someone new, instead of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"? Of course not. But it's a great start.

See y'all later...

What Annoys Women, AND What Attracts Them

2010-06-30T09:49:00.000-07:00

If you listen to women talk about men, you'll often hear them use the word “ANNOYING" to describe certain men and certain things that some men DO.

Now, as you can probably guess, it's not usually a good thing when a woman uses this particular word to describe a guy... And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a woman uses this particular word, it's not usually about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this isn't always true).

THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...

· Calling her too often

· Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early

· Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss

· Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading

· Acting submissive and weak

· Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests

· Being her doormat and putting your own needs
aside

"HOW COULD THIS BE?"... You might be thinking. Well guess what? IT IS.

Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and desirable women, usually consider the above things to be VERY annoying.

Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on the surface, there's only one conclusion that can be drawn from them;
THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100% CERTIFIED WUSSY! AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES. NEVER!

So now you understand why all of the "nice" things that you've done for women seem to always result in the woman pulling away. It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss" behaviors to be ANNOYING.

AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...

To further confuse things, you'll often hear a woman say something to the effect of... "I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..." ...or... "He needs to have his own life, his own interests, and his own friends, but also be totally focused on me..."

Women often talk about wanting a combination of things in a man that just don't seem to fit...

So what's going on here? Are women crazy? (Yes.)

But seriously, what are they talking about? How is it that women seem to always talk about wanting men who have these qualities that don't fit together?

I thought that maybe this came down to getting my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know, to become "stronger". Well, here's the BIG REALIZATION that I had... I've now realized that I had it all wrong.
Instead of thinking to myself that I was a nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little stronger, what I really needed was to become a strong guy who could also act sensitive on occasion.

The difference seems almost like word-play, but it's not. You see, when a woman says that she wants a "strong guy who's also sensitive", what she means, is that She wants a guy who's STRONG. The sensitive part is far more "optional" than the STRONG part.

This is why women often date jerks and guys who are emotionally unavailable, and don't date "nice guys" who would do anything for them.

THINGS THAT ATTRACT WOMEN...

· Lean back. Act Cocky & Funny around women. Bust on them and give them a hard time. And LEAD the way, don't follow

· Body Language is more important than WORD language. In fact, you can have the smoothest "pick up lines" in the world... but if you don't understand Body Language, the woman you're talking to CAN'T feel ATTRACTION for you.

· Doing "nice" things for a woman doesn't make her any more likely to feel ATTRACTION for you. In fact, most of these things BACKFIRE... and end up pushing her AWAY.

· Even though "jerks" and "bad boys" don't treat women well, it doesn't mean that women don't feel ATTRACTION for them. In fact, women often report feeling INCREDIBLY attracted to these kinds of men... so powerfully, in fact, that they can't CONTROL these feelings...

Anyone for a drink?

2010-06-29T03:07:00.000-07:00

At a world brewing convention in the States, the CEOs of various brewing organizations retired to the bar at the end of each day's conferencing.

Bruce, CEO of Fosters, shouted to the barman. "In 'Strailya?, we make the best bloody beer in the world, so pour me a Fosters, mate."

Rob, CEO of Budweiser calls out next. "In the States, we brew the finest beers of the world, and I make the king of them all - gimme a Bud".

Hans steps up next "In Germany ve invented das beer. Give me un Helles, ze REAL King of beers."

Jan, chief executive of Grolsch follows by stating that Grolsch is the ultimate beer and asks for one with two fingers of head on top.

Patrick, CEO of Guinness, steps forward. "Barman, give me a coke with ice please".
The other four stare at him in stunned silence with amazement written all over their faces.

Eventually Bruce asks, "Are you not going to have a Guinness, Pat?"

Patrick replies "Well, if you bastards aren't drinking, then neither am I."

5 Tips For Keeping A Woman's Attention

2010-06-25T03:23:00.000-07:00

Now, if you're acting like most guys who think things like: "If she only knew how I felt about her, she'd feel the same way" and "If I keep pursuing her, she'll eventually see how much I love her" etc.

Well guess what? AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.

If you are playing the game this way, then its a losing game. Think of it this way, if you stop on the way home from work every day and buy a lotto ticket, you'll win once in awhile. Hell, you might even be lucky one day and win big. But your chances SUCK.

You're probably going to lose a LOT more than you win over time.
Like I said, you COULD win big. There is a chance. But you probably won't. And I mean probably with a BIG P

"Being a Wussy" (that's the technical term... made up by David DeAngelo).
When you act like a Wussy, you do things like:

· Pursue

· Cling

· Share "feelings"

· Act submissive

· Seek approval

· Pine away

This is WUSSY behavior. It's distinctly FEMININE in nature. When guys act like this, they're getting in touch with their inner little girl (and she needs a spanking in the worst way).

And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part? When you act like this around a woman (and ESPECIALLY a "goal oriented" woman who's probably smart and powerful) they CANNOT feel the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you.

Women aren't attracted to Wussies. This is a UNIVERSAL truth.

Here are five tips that can help you change this;
   1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do), and stop spending so much time with her.

   2) Start dating other women IMMEDIATELY, and make sure she knows about it.

   3) Stop being all lovey with her, and don't tell her how you "feel about her" anymore. Stop it.

   4) Accept that you will probably be friends with her forever, and start acting that way.

   5) Don't try to kiss her or be physical with her at ALL anymore until you understand what you're doing.

Remember, if what you're doing ISN'T WORKING there is absolutely nothing wrong in doing the same thing differently

The Size Of Our World - StumbleUpon

2010-06-25T03:07:00.000-07:00

The Size Of Our World - StumbleUpon

How to Enjoy the World Cup 2010 And Keep Your Relationship

2010-06-16T09:45:00.000-07:00

The world cup is finally underway... am still having goose pimples knowing that greatest event in the world is taking place in AFRICA!!! There is no greater feeling like seeing the world greatest players sweating it out down South.

This only happens every four years and a lifetime on an African soil. For Africans, it's beyond national pride; the support goes out to the entire continental representatives.

Back to the subject, this event with all its splendor, could ruin your relationship with your partner regardless…

Yea I said it! Unless your partner is a football fan or has deep crush for footballers, then you are good.

If so, go get yourself a popcorn machine or loads of nuts or whatever you and your partner knock yourselves out with and enjoy the tournament arm in arm.

But otherwise, you going to have to deal with a whole lot of drama and bitch fit... oops! So? Yea I said it again... Tons of drama and bitch fit.

Believe me you don't want a fleeting event to mar your relationship. Unless you want your relationship to end, when the world cup does, then you need to follow these tips...

If you are going to watch a world match with your boys at your place, make sure your boys are coming with their girlfriends. Watching football as a crowd is fun, even if you not a fan. Try not to do this regular though… girls aren’t nice to girls on a regular (if you know what I mean)

Do join her in doing everything she likes when the matches are over, especially if it is to go and watch a romantic movie lol! You never know what she’ll come up with when the next match is on… payback is a b!#/$h!

Both of you should create a TV guide for yourselves and stick to it, so everyone has a heads up on when it’s his or her turn to lay claim to total access to the TV.

Teach her football terms; explain the sport to her in detail. Make her understand you want not to feel left out or embarrass herself in discussions about the world cup.

Make her play a football fantasy league game (if she likes games). She is bound to pick interests in football.

This is the best time not to get pissed when she asks you a question, especially about the tournament. So easy on those snappy answers to stupid questions.

Buy her football and the world cup branded items she would like.

Damn! am out of ideas, but one final one, if do all this stuff and she is not happy… go place a substantial amount of valium 5 or any concoction that can get her to sleep during matches (be wary of overdose man! Se ya’ll later!

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women

2010-06-08T02:20:00.000-07:00

Guys! This is the debut article for this blog, I actually didn't know where to start but this was the best I could come up with. Actually this blog is not going to be on women alone, but 90% will be *grins* we intend to talk on lifestyle issues and fashion.

What you'll read on this blog, is not just a writers opinion, there have been reaserched by David DeAngelo for years and can be confirmed fact by me and you too, when you begin to implement them. So lets get to it!

So! on the subject, we all know how annoying it is when you realized you've just goofed on a chic and wonder where you went wrong... I bet you must have made one of these dangerous mistake.

These Deadly Common Mistakes...

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU! What's going on here? It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER!

Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection with Money, Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and stuff, and had she REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right; I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men.

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For
Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea... Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Watch out for more tips on women!