My friend, Kelly, gave me some jeans about 2 years ago that I have never been able to wear, too small. But I have hung onto them in hopes (you know how we are women) of one day being able to wear them. Well today is the day. Every pair I tried on I could button and zip. Some I still need to loose a few pounds but most I can wear. I am totally stoked.

Now onto random thoughts…

New jeans
Curly hair today
Wearing my newest pair of shoes, ones I love and are special to me
Dead flowers my son picked (they were dead when he picked them) in a modern vase
Need makeup
Other than a headache, I feel pretty good this morning
Plans for the day just canceled
That doesn’t make me happy
Need to take something for this headache
Maybe I just need to eat
My appetite comes and goes
I don’t mind that except when it causes problems with my headaches or my bloodsugar
Going to eat a bagel
That should help

Now that I am in these jeans it makes me want to eat less
But as I loose weight, I loose boobage size
Doesn’t make me or hubby happy

Getting ready to leave
So I will end this now

5 minutes (give or take) in my random mind during a quiet moment…

Naps look so lovely, yet while I have had the time this week to nap, sleep does not come
But hubby can sleep, I am jealous, want to hit him with a pillow for being able to sleep *evil grin*

Got peanut skin (yes, peanut skin) in my eye last night (eating shelled peanuts at a very windy bike night, skin got blown into my eye), scratched the inside of my eyelid, spent the morning in the ER, eye feels better, thanks for the Ultram script doc!

My journal lays on the floor, wishing me to write in it, bah

Lovely salad for lunch

Skype, love Skype

I have some hard decisions I have processed through this week, successful yes, but done, no

One Boy, One Girl by Tim McGraw
For a moment the whole world revolved around one boy, one girl

I love lyrics, I love songs that tell a beautiful story

Sushi – love it
Beer, wine, vodka – love it
Shoes – love them
A new shirt – love it
Mountains – love and hate them, love more
Rivers – love them
Cool weather – love it
Singing – love it
Photography – love it
Ballroom dancing – love it
Hanging with friends – love it
Mom and Dad time – love it
Kids being sweet to each other – love it

Second Chance – Shinedown

Tell my mother, tell my father I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize this is my life, I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying
Sometimes goodbye is a second chance

Please don’t cry one tear for me
I’m not afraid of what I have to say
This is my one and only voice
So listen close, it’s only for today

Original Post Date: 12/03/08

Help Me Out Here Guys – Vasectomies!

Why men, are you afraid of vasectomies? Why men, would you prefer your wives to undergo a much more invasive procedure? I just don’t get it!

The background: I am twice married, two children from my first marriage, two children from my second. Boy, girl, boy, girl. All c-section. Both of my boys have special needs. My oldest son is ADHD and Bi-Polar and has ODD and my youngest son is on the Autism Spectrum, is Apraxic, OCD, has some other neurological issues yet to be diagnosed. I am a stay at home mom, I am the one who deal with this most of the time. Not my husband. And let me tell you, momma is done. I want no more babies. I do not want to risk having another child with issues. I love my boys, but I do not want to repeat this. So it is time to think about permanent solutions and my husband will not even consider a vasectomy. WHY?

(update Sept 16, 2009 – My oldest daughter has now been diagnosed Bi-polar, my youngest son has also been diagnosed with ODD and my youngest daughter, now 2, is delayed in her speech. Possibly 4 kids with special needs here)

WHY MEN? WHY?

These are your fears:

• Fears about the procedure: Fear can prevent a man from choosing a vasectomy. The following issues are addressed to help a man understand that a vasectomy procedure is simple and safe:
  • Fear of pain – Men don’t like to think of any procedure near their genitals. Fact: What men need to understand is that an anesthetic is used to numb the area. There is usually no pain or just some pulling after the anesthetic is given. The procedure is usually so well tolerated that upon completion of the procedure, men are frequently surprised that it is over.
  • Fear of loss of masculinity – Fact: A vasectomy does not affect manliness. A vasectomy does not affect the blood and hormone supply to the penis. The amount and appearance of semen ejaculated will not change noticeably. Of course, during the recovery process, men may be sore, thus making sex less desirable. Later, some men report that sex is actually more enjoyable without the threat of pregnancy. Women may appreciate that their partners have chosen to take the responsibility for sterility (permanent birth control).
  • Fear of failure of the procedure – Fact: Except for complete abstinence, no method is more effective than vasectomy in preventing pregnancy.

I am not a man, so I can only try to understand these fears – but honestly they seem silly to me. You expect us to birth your children, which leads to a risk of tearing or being cut, but you don’t want anything sharp near your penis? You go have an episiotomy. Then you might have room to complain.

And what about what pregnancy does to our bodies! Or breastfeeding! And you are worried about a little snip snip?

Men, here are the facts:

Risks with vasectomy are few. No death has ever been attributed to this procedure. On the other hand, tubal ligation, a frequently performed surgical sterilization procedure in women, is associated with no fewer than 20 deaths per year.

A vasectomy costs much less than does a tubal ligation too. It is thought for a simple vasectomy compared to a tubal ligation, the cost can be as much as four times less than the procedure for a woman.

Vasectomy is the easiest and most reliable form of permanent sterilization.

Most vasectomies are completed in under 10 minutes.

You can opt for a no scalpel vasectomy with local anesthesia much like the dentist uses to fill a cavity.

For us on the other hand:

Tubal ligation, on the other hand, is a much more complicated procedure. Tubal methods require incisions to be made, and are performed either via laparoscopy (where small incisions are made near the navel for viewing equipment and scalpel to be inserted) or laparotomy where a incision between two and five inches in size is made in the lower abdomen. Each of these procedures are performed under general anesthetic.

A method that is relatively new in the field is a no-incision method referred to as Hysteroscopic Tubal Sterilization (HTS). It involves the insertion of two small, soft metallic coils (micro-inserts) through the vagina, cervix, and uterus into the fallopian tubes. The procedure requires the use of local as opposed to general anesthetic. Once in place, the coils cause scar tissue to grow, blocking the tubes. Although not as invasive as tubal ligation, due to the newness of the procedure, the long-term effects of this form of sterilization are not known.

So to me, the choice is obvious. The husband get a vasectomy and the wife doesn’t have to worry about pregnancy and labor and birth and breastfeeding and and and.

Men, I love you guys, but those of you who fear a simple vasectomy – GET OVER YOURSELF!!!! Hasn’t your wife done enough already? Suck it up and go get it done!

References

Vasectomy Fears and Concerns
No Scalpel Vasectomy
Vasectomy – The Phacts and Phallacies

Original Post Date: 11/12/08

Here is my rant for today.

Ready… set… vent!

Adult #1 – Don’t tell the 5 year old to tell Mom when he is quite obviously telling you something important – maybe that his baby sister knocked down the baby gate and is now making her way down the front stairs, which ends at a slab of concrete. By the time he tells his mother, there is a good chance something tragic could have happened. It makes no difference that you can’t see the front door from where you sit, GET UP AND LOOK! (and no this is not my husband I am talking about)

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Adult #5 – Don’t tell people I yelled at you when you simply picked up my baby and walked away with her, without giving me a second glance or a simple explanation as to where you were taking her. I don’t care, could probably even use the break. Just say, “hey, I am going to spend time with her… give her a snack… fix her some juice…”. I never yelled, I simply asked, in a slightly elevated tone – because you were walking down the hallway, to let her parents know what you were doing. I think that is quite fair, thankyouverymuch.

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Adult #1 and Adult #3 – Take responsibility for SOMETHING.

Adult #1 – It is NOT your mechanic’s job to cover YOUR car (mechanic=Adult #3).

Adult #3 – We all know Adult #1 is probably NOT going to do what one might expect he would, so YOU cover the car even if it doesn’t belong to you. Dammit, someone has to do something around here! And that someone should be someone other than Adults #2 and #4 FOR A CHANGE!

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Adult #5 and Kid #1 – The cleaning of the kitchen ALWAYS includes the dining room AND the high chair. What about that DON’T you understand? Do you think I talk just to hear myself talk? Really!

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Adult #1 – When the 5 yr old is trying to tell you something, please try and figure out what he is saying. PLEASE! I know he can’t talk, but not always is it just silliness. THIS time it was just a sandspur on his clothes. Not as serious as the baby making her way down a flight of stairs (not just a couple of steps, but a story’s worth of stairs) but still important. This is twice today, good grief!

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Kids #2 and #3 – Please, momma is begging you, please be good. I love you both, but you are both driving everyone completely crazy. Muah!

Original Post Date: 11/30/08

I have seen so much butt crackage in the last week to last me a lifetime – most of it belonging to someone related to me. UGH!

Do you know what is worse than seeing someone’s butt crack? Seeing a WOMAN’S butt crack. Frankly, I expect more from you ladies. I watched an episode of Girls Behaving Badly some time back, in which Chelsea Handler walked around with her butt crack hanging out. Not too funny, a bit gross and something I just didn’t really believe we women were deft enough to do.

I was so wrong.

I have 2 sisters, yes 2, who evidentially cannot feel the air on their bare bottoms. Are you serious?

Sister #4 eating dinner with the family, butt crack showing.
Sister #2 bending over to play with kids, butt crack showing.

How do you not feel that? Can you not feel your pants riding low? I mean you aren’t wearing hip huggers here girls. You have on normal waisted jeans and you can’t feel half of your backside hanging out? The cool air on your bottom doesn’t clue you in?

I expect to see a man’s crack while he is bent over a car, working on the plumbing, anything mechanical really. Because men working on anything mechanical somehow translates into BEWARE – BUTT CRACK ZONE!

But ladies, please, be aware of your butt crack. It isn’t cute or sexy on a man, even the ones we love. And it certainly is NOT sexy on you!

I am not one who thought it was cute to see thong straps everywhere a few years ago and butt crack sans the thong… not any better. No, I take that back, it is much, much worse.

Wear panties that fit. Wear pants that fit. Wear a belt and hold those britches up, please! I don’t want to see your butt crack! Blech!

Not sure if it is sexy or not? Here is a bit of proof that it isn’t…

this could happen to you, originally uploaded by joshhikes.