Suffering With Behaviours

Lolzz

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 20:09:00 +0000

choices n courage

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 18:54:00 +0000

We ask God to grant us the best options in everything. I'd like to append a more important part to my prayer. Allah give me the best choices n then give me the courage to choose the bestest, give me strength to go for something thats best for me n not the one thats the more acceptable to ppl.

wall of hatred

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:40:00 +0000

When I was a child, I built a wall of hatred around me.
When I was asked, 'From what did you build this wall?'
I replied, 'From the stones of insults.'

Expectations!

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:33:00 +0000

Ohh I just believe, no expectations - no disappointments. if something good happens, its a pleasant surprise. if nothing good comes up, its just normal.

In all this u just forgot that u r a jeeti jaagti bandi n not a robot.

Kids are Kids

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:58:00 +0000

Ashoo looking at his Phupo's wedding pics.
Spots Phopa's Shamla.
N says
"Phopa ne jo topi pehni hai bari achi hai. Agar phopo ko garmi lage gi to phopa sir hilaein ge aur phopo ko hawa mil jaey gi"

Image is a man wearing Shimla. I couldnt get a pic of Groom Shamla.
Photo coutesy All Things Pakistan

Quotable Quotes

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:43:00 +0000

We don’t inherit the Earth from our acestors….we borrow it from our children

Polygamy

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:24:00 +0000

Taking more than one wife in Pakistan has never been accepted as a normal norm. Though Islam allows it but generally our society takes this as injustice to the first wife. Then we start looking for reasons like

- the men are always like that. they never give a damn about the women's sacrifices and love.
- the second wife must have been a lose character woman
- the first wife didnt perform her matrimonial duties properly.

Women in general dont like their men to have another wife. I've been thinking abt it. I never got the answer of WHY is it so. Is it because women dont want their men's attention to be shared? or they get insecure? or they are afraid abt their future in terms of finances?

Why cant we it just be as normal as having another sister, another friend or another family member. If u dont mind ur man to be abroad for job for years then y cant alternate days with other wife? or alternate nights in the adjacent room?

I know it sounds kinda anti-women post but its just curiosity.

WE WILL NOT GO DOWN IN GAZA TONIGHT

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 08:29:00 +0000

Video Here

WE WILL NOT GO DOWN (Song for Gaza)
(Composed by Michael Heart)
Copyright 2009

A blinding flash of white light
Lit up the sky over Gaza tonight
People running for cover
Not knowing whether they’re dead or alive

They came with their tanks and their planes
With ravaging fiery flames
And nothing remains
Just a voice rising up in the smoky haze

We will not go down
In the night, without a fight
You can burn up our mosques and our homes and our schools
But our spirit will never die
We will not go down
In Gaza tonight

Women and children alike
Murdered and massacred night after night
While the so-called leaders of countries afar
Debated on who’s wrong or right

But their powerless words were in vain
And the bombs fell down like acid rain
But through the tears and the blood and the pain
You can still hear that voice through the smoky haze

We will not go down
In the night, without a fight
You can burn up our mosques and our homes and our schools
But our spirit will never die
We will not go down
In Gaza tonight

DWI

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:57:00 +0000

In Pakistan, I havent come across anyone who has been charged for DWI yet. It can be because we are still pretty much safe from open drinking habits Alhamdolillah. n yes the other reason can be that our driving rules are not as strictly implemented as they should be. But m sticking more to the former reason [:)]. In west, however, DWI is a serious and a frequent offense. More information here and here.

Many people are hesitant to plead not guilty to a DWI charge. However, the consequences of a DWI conviction in US are so damaging and expensive that most people who are arrested for drunk driving don't have a choice but to plead not guilty and fight the charge. To protect the rights the convicted need to have tough professional lawyers. One example of professional law offices dealing with DWI in Dallas is http://www.mcconathylaw.com. If someone's looking for a dallas dwi lawyer, dallas criminal defense lawyer, fort worth dwi lawyer then this site may be provide help. They mainly deal with DWI cases throughout the state of Texas. According to their site http://www.mcconathylaw.com , they have 91% success record since 2002.

Note: This is just a personal opinion n a link to potential lawyer offices. Plz dont mistaken this as anything authentic.

Funny.........

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 07:44:00 +0000

She's leaving but y m i feeling like losing something

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 12:41:00 +0000

She has just informed me that she'll be leaving for abroad on 27th. She's a close friend of mine. I usually talk to her on phone which i can still do as calls to her wont cost much. But still feels like losing another part of my security circle. I met her rarely but still this feeling of lose is driving me mad......... y? ...... I dont know!!!!!

When she had told me abt her scholarship, I was more than happy. I'm the one who has begged for it from Allah but now m more sad than happy. All best wishes for her. May she get the best of everything.

Dilemma

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:34:00 +0000

[A dialogue from an ARY drama.]

Hamari nasl ka bhi nasl hai Amaan!! adhi umar maan baap se darte huay guzar di aur baqi apni aulad se dar dar ker guzar rahe hain. tum kitni khush naseeb ho Amaan, iss umar mein bhi apni beti ko daant sakti ho aur mein ne aik bar apni beti ko daanta to uss ne police ko bula liya

Baap Beti

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:32:00 +0000

Aap k laad piyar ne bigara hai iss ko. jabhi to aap ki beti aap ki baat nahi maan rahi
Father: Laad piyar hi to nahi kiya miyan [sigh]. Laad kiya hota to aaj woh mera maan rakhne k liye hi meri baat maan leti.

Tagged

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 18:20:00 +0000

So, M tagged by Ikram. Its a good feeling, it feels as if i was able to make some friends here in web world. Ikram sahib, m writing in roman coz abhi tak mujhe urdu likhne per maharat nahi hai. umeed hai aap ko bura nahi lage ga.

Khel k qawaneen yeh hain;

ا) کھیل کے قوانین جوابات دیتے وقت ارسال کرنا ہوں گے ۔
ب) جِس نے آپ کو اس کھیل سے منسلک کیا ہے، اُسکی تحریر کا حوالہ دینا لازمی ہے ۔
ج) سوالات کے اخیر میں آپ مزید پانچ لوگوں کو اِس کھیل سے منسلک کریں گے، اور اس کی اطلاع متعلقہ بلاگ پر نئی تحریر میں تبصرہ کر کے دیں گے

) اِس وقت آپ نے کِس رنگ کی جرابیں پہنی ہوئی ہیں؟
Abhi jurabein nahi pehni huin. Khawateen ko yeh bara faida hai waise k agar dil na chahe to jurabein na pehnein. Mard hazraat ko baaz dafa majbooran yeh kaam kerna hi parta hai[:P]

) کیا آپ اس وقت کچھ سُن رہنے ہیں؟ اگر ہاں تو کیا؟

ji haan tv chal raha hai aur mein sirf sun rahi hun. Geo news sun rahi hun jahan adi e terah mein 2 mazhabi grohon k darmiyan aarzi firebandi ki khabar arahi hai

) سب سے آخری چیز جو آپ نے کھائی تھی کیا تھی؟

Tarbooz

) سب سے آخری فلم کونسی دیکھی ہے؟

Bhootnath, if listening to a part of movie n wathing some glimpses applies as film dekhna then it was Bhootnath

) آپ کا پسندیدہ قول کیا ہے؟

Aamal ka daro madar niyat per hai.

) کل رات بارہ بجے آپ کیا کر رہے تھے؟

Origami wid kids. butterfly banai hai. kafi khushi hui mujhe butterfly bana ker.

) کِس مشہور شخصیت زندہ یا مردہ سے آپ مِلنا چاہیں گے؟

Khatim ul Anbiya, Hazrat Mohammad Mustafa (Peace be upon Him).

غصہ میں اپنے آپ کو پرسکون کِس طرح کرتے ہیں؟

Khamosh ho jati hun aur dil hi dil mein khoob mukalimah kerti hun.

) فون پر سب سے آخر میں کِس سے بات ہوئی؟

Apni Phuppo se

) آپ کا پسندیدہ تہوار کونسا ہے؟

hmm koi khas tehwar pasandida nahi hai.

I tag zindagi ki diary, Umm Salihah , Big Sis, Far Quest,Fun in life

Sabira's Patience

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Fri, 30 May 2008 08:07:00 +0000

Sabira prbably had all the patience in her small body. She worked hard all her life for getting professional education. She got a god job n then the biggest accident of her life happened, she lost her father.
She then got married to a cousin of hers. This was a mismatched couple in terms of physical appearance. They couldnt bridge this gap for all of their marital life. They had worst of arguments, her husband bet him several times, asked her to leave the place but she never went away. she always remain silent on this issue but made it a point that she wont leave to her mother's place. After ten years of her marriage, Sabira had a fierce argument wid her husband n left the place.

She then got a good job in Singapore. All her family gathered n tried to convince her to live wid her husband again. she heard everyone n said;

"No one of u came forward when he bet me, when he broke ma arm, when he dragged me on road. Now when I've took my decision then u all are here to force me to go to that hell again. I know the best for me n I wont anyone's opinion."

Someone said;

"But u never tell us wot was happening. whenever we asked u to come wid us, u refused"

Sabira;

"Because I knew u'll get me back to my mother's place n will force me to back. I didnt want this tamasha again n again. I had thought it the day I was engaged. I knew this marriage will end up in ruins. I thought I'll bear it for the time my mother is alive since I didnt want to hurt her or for 10 years of marriage. Now since 10 years have past, I'm not ready to take it anymore. I m leaving for Singapore when anyone allows me or not. I'm a 38 years old woman n I can now manage everything on my own."

Now, Sabira is known as a rebel in her family. A bad woman who couldnt make her marriage a success n the one who is too stubborn.

Wot do u think of Sabira's decision?

options?

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Fri, 30 May 2008 08:04:00 +0000

Q: Tumhare khayal mein mard jub pehle baar aurat per hath uthaye to aurat ko kia kerna chahiye?

A: hmmm mukhtalif option hain,

1. palat ker mard ko jitna maar sakti hai maar le.
2. aise mard ko chor ker chali jaey aur kabhi wapis na aaey.
3. agar yeh donon kaam kerne ki himmat na ho to phir uss mard k sath yeh kuton wali zindagi guzarti rahe aur sochne samajhne ki salahiyat ko khatam ker de.

Magar her soorat mein apni aane wali nasal ko aurat ki izzat kerna sikha de to uss ki zindagi ka aik maqsad ban jaey.

Majboor Kaun?

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Fri, 30 May 2008 07:57:00 +0000

Q: Tumhare donon bhai apni beewion ko maarte hein, galiyan dete hein to phir tumhari bari bhabi ziada mayoos keun hai?

A: to tumhare khayal mein mayoos hone k ilawa koi choice hai?

Q: nahi mera matlab choti wali ki nisbat bari wali ziada afsurda rehti hai

A: woh iss liye k bari wali parhi likhi hai, apna kama sakti hai, koi personal majboori nahi hai k iss zindagi ko bardasht kare. Bus woh iss liye yeh sub bardasht ker rahi hai k woh apne maan baap ko beti ki talaq ka dukh nahi dena chahti. samjho uss ki misaal aisi hai jaise koi pani ka jug samne rakh ker betha ho, 2 din ka piyasa ho aur murawwat k maare pani na pi sake.
Choti wali ki majboori hai k uss k parents nahi hain. agar yahan se jaey gi to bhayion ki mohtaj ho jaey gi, un per bojh ban jaey gi to uss ne in majboorion ko accept ker liya hai. uss k pass doosri choice nahi hai.

Q: do u see the irony? jiss k parents hain woh bhi majboor aur jis k nahi hain woh bhi. mein faisla nahi ker pa rahi k ziada bure halaat kis k hain.

A: arrey yeh faisla ho jaey to adhi duniya k auraton ko apna faisla kerne mein aasani ho jaey

fitrat ya zaroorat?

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 18:04:00 +0000

Kehte hein k aurat hamesha doosre ke rukh per machis jalati hai. yaani k machis jalate waqt apni taraf se bahir ki taraf ragarti hai. jubk mard hamesha apni rukh per machis jalata hai. kuch logon ka khayal hai k yeh aurat aur mard ki fitrat hai, aurat amooman doosron ko aag lagane ki koshish kerti hai jubk mard apne rukh se dekhta hai.

Mera nuqta e nazar yeh hai k yeh fitrat nahi balke istimal ka farq hai. aurat aam tor per choohla, candle ya latern jalane k liye machis jalati hai jo k samne ki taraf hote hein. iss k bar aks amooman mard hazrat ciggerate jalane k liye machis roshan kerte hein jo un k apne honton mein daba hua hota hai. to jaisa istimal waisi hi aada. Aap ka kia khayal hai [:)]

quote

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 10:32:00 +0000

"A woman especially if she has the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can." -Jane Austen

Insaaf aur reham

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:03:00 +0000

Kehte hein k aik buhut ibadat guzar buzurg hua kerte the. Unhon ne 80 saal tak aik pathar per beth ker ibadat ki. uss k baad unka Khuda se mukalima hua.

Khuda ne kaha k tum kia chahte ho, tum per reham kiya jaey ya tumhare sath insaaf kiya jaey.

Buzurg ne choonk buhut arsa ibadat ki thi to woh yeh samajhte the k woh buhut bare ajar k mustahiq hain. unhon ne socha k meri ibadat ka to ajar hi itna hoga lehaza reham ki mujhe kia zaroorat. Unhon ne jawab diya k 'mere sath insaaf kiya jaey'

Khuda ne phir yehi sawal duhraya aur buzaurg ne her baar yehi jawab diya.

to Khuda ne faisla sunaya k;

"Insaaf ka taqaza yeh hai k tum ne iss pathar per 80 saal beth ker ibadat ki lehaza ubb iss pathar ka haq hai k yeh tum per beth ker 80 saal tak ibadat ker sake."

Another type of cancer - Mesothelioma

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:03:00 +0000

As the time is passing we r witnessing the best of medical facilities but the diseases are also increasing at the same rate or probably at a higher rate. Its becoming more n more important to know abt possible preventions as well. Its important to know the hazards in the environment we r living in n we must be careful. Today I heard abt another type of cancer called Mesothelioma.

Mesothelioma is most often linked to exposure to asbestos. Between 7 and 8 out of every 10 people (70–80%) diagnosed with mesothelioma say they have been in contact with asbestos. Your risk is greater if you were exposed to large amounts of it from an early age for a very long period of time. But there are some patients that say they have no history of any heavy exposure to asbestos.

Many people who develop mesothelioma due to asbestos exposure may be eligible for compensation. Patients can file lawsuits for mesothelioma law if they want to. http://www.mesotheliomamedicine.com is a pretty good site to visit if you want more info abt mesothelioma and abt compensations through lawsuits n procedures related to it.

If u want more mesothelioma information, u can get a free book from here.

Ahh cute!!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:06:00 +0000

A 4 year old girl talking to her Mom.
Mom is brushing daughter's hair.

Girl: Ja ker mirror mein dekhun, Doll hi banaya hai na Mamma to nahi bana diya.

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A 6 year boy to her Aunt;

Boy: Chachi Dada Abu ko kia kehti thein.
Aunt: Abu hi kehti thein.
Boy: Abu keun kehti thein, uncle kehna chahiye tha na
Aunt: keun bhai unk abu the na woh
Boy: Jub doosre ghar se aate hein dulhan ban ker to Abu nahi kehte, uncle kehte hein

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Six good reasons not to hit your child

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:33:00 +0000

1. Hitting children teaches them to become abusive too. Extensive research data is now available to support the direct co-relation between corporal punishment and violent behavior in teenage and adult years. Studies show that many dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and beaten in childhood.

2. Punishment teaches the might-is-right message and that it is okay to hurt someone smaller and less powerful than yourself. Children then ultimately feel it is appropriate to mistreat younger or smaller children and when they themselves become adults, feel little compassion for those less fortunate or powerful than their own selves and fear those who are. Thus, it is difficult for battered children to find meaningful adult relationships.

3. Children learn best through parental modeling, and violent behavior gives the message that it is appropriate to express one's feelings and solve problems by hitting. If children do not see parents handling anger and solving problems in a positive way, they might never learn to do so themselves and thus inadequate parenting may continue into the next generation.

4. Violence greatly interferes int he bonding between parent and child as no human being feels loving towards someone who deliberately hurts them. Violence, even when it appears to work, usually only produces superficially good behavior based on fear.

5. Anger which cannot be expressed becomes bottled up inside and it comes as a shock to parents when ultimately the children feel strong enough to express rage. Angry teens are not created out of the blue.

6. In many, if not most cases of bad behavior, the children are usually responding to the neglect of basic needs.

Depilex Smile Again!!

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:16:00 +0000

I had once watched a tv programs meant for generating funds for Depilex Smile Again project. I was stunned n couldnt smile for days after watching n listening to the stories of these women. How can someone be so cruel?

This is not a crime only against women as this is generally perceived. they showed a few men too. A hafiz e quran who was burnt by acid over some enmity. He had lost his ear n one side of face to burns.

Here're a few stories taken from Smile again's website. http://www.depilexsmileagain.com

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Shamim Akhtar was only 17 when her face was mutilated with acid. She is now only 20 years old and still unable to comprehend how she fell victim to criminals who kidnapped and raped her for revenge. They left her face mutilated, hoping her appearance would silence her forever and ensure that she would never marry. They have succeeded in destroying her life and much of her spirit.

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24-year-old Tasneem Shahzad's story is repeated all too often. A girl, too poor to bring a much wanted dowry, she bore the wrath of avaricious in-laws. Tasneem's ex-husband was an addict. It was left to her to support her own household as well as that of her extended family. Tasneem worked in several homes to support all those who depended on her. However, there was no pleasing her greedy in-laws. One day, her clothes were set on fire by her rapacious in-laws and she suffered severe burns. As the severely injured young woman lay in agony, they then proceeded to try and prove that the incident was an accident and not a deliberate act of crime.

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Nasreen Sharif was once beautiful. So lovely that when she turned 14 her cousin poured a whole bottle of sulphuric acid on her face as she slept. His only excuse was that he couldn't stand other boys whistling at her when she crossed the street. This young woman is now 23 and she no longer bears any resemblance to that youthful beauty. "My skin melted and my hair burned away. I am now blind, I have no ears and I have no sense of smell."

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This all is too terrifying. If anyone of u know of any laws to cope wid this brutal act, plz let me know.

Btw, this is not an advertising post, this is just for u know abt

1. how low can human being fall to satisfy his/her ego or his/her greed.
2. how great individuals still exist in this world who r ready to serve humanity without expecting anything against it. Smile again, doctors n surgeons working for free for burn victims, people supporting n donating for burn victims; these all are hopes which allow us to come out of these depression n tension clouds. these r the people who allow us to smile back n say 'ok there're bad ppl but we have the bestest of best still alive to make this world better.'

Children and games

noreply@blogger.com (Woman in a men's world) — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 11:49:00 +0000

baji: kia urdu medium khel hein tum logon k? kite flying bhi koi kaam hai kerne wala. gande bache aise khel khelte hein

kid: acha to english medium khel kaunse hain?

baji: cricket, hockey ya football khel liya karo.

kid: kahan khelein? sehan mein khelte hein paros mein ball chali jati hai. road per khelte hein to amman baba kehte hein gariyan guzarti hain. ground door door tak koi hai nahi. jo aik hai wahan addicts ghoom rahe hote hein, amman ne wahan jane se mana kiya hai.

baji: bedminton khel lo

kid: hawa dekhi hai aap ne? iss hawa mein shuttle nahi chalti.

baji: to mat khelo. tv dekha karo. aur haan behas buhut kerte ho tum