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Are You Inspired By Self-Motivation?

2012-03-26T11:34:00.002-07:00

Are You Inspired By Self-Motivation?

Finding the key to self-motivation is finding the key to success and happiness. It can be an elusive key, as self-motivation is a difficult concept to understand and implement. Self-motivation can be defined as the ability to achieve a goal or a desire without being helped or influenced by someone else. Remember how I mentioned in previous posts about goal setting?

There are many motivation courses one can take to achieve and maintain the level of enthusiasm needed to move forward. It’s generally agreed that these courses are good, but results can most of the time be only temporary. Motivation is like a bath. We need it every day.

With a constant daily dose of motivation you can be inspired to continue your projects and maintain forward momentum until the desired goal is reached. Motivation allows us to maintain focus on the task at hand. If we’re not focused then we find ourselves floundering and distracted. Self-motivation is finding a way to concentrate your energy in the proper direction. It is an art.

Find the method of self-motivation that works for you. Some gain motivation through religion. They believe if they turn their needs and desires over to God or a higher power, that He will accomplish all things and grant all things as they’re needed in life.

This is achieved through prayer, meditation and focus. Faith can be a powerful motivator but even the faithful believe that faith without works is futile. Faith combined with work can achieve wonders.

Many people are inspired by self-motivation, but lack the skill to implement it. You first must harness your emotions and you can do this by understanding them. Realize that there will be highs and lows in your life. Imagine now if were happy all the time? It is an impossibility as how would you know when you were happy if you had never experienced sadness.

Some days you’ll have to be peeled from the ceiling and other days someone will have to scrape you from the floor. Self motivators can deal with this wide range of emotions by knowing that beyond every valley, there is a peak.

A surge of energy usually comes with the beginning of a project or idea and self-motivation comes easily. But, after the new wears off and you encounter a few setbacks you begin to doubt yourself and your energy level drops as well as your motivation. Now, you’re faced with the possibility of failure and it’s difficult to continue.

The path to success is never straight up the mountain. Know that you’ll meet many obstacles along the way. With self-motivation, you will find a way to go up, over, around or under anything that stands in your way.

Be prepared for the lows and anticipate the highs. You must resist negativity and search for the path back to positive thinking. With proper direction, creative thinking and reflection you can once again ride the road to success. Be inspired by self motivation and self motivation will inspire you. Each feeds on the other as you maximize motivation.

Tips On Reducing Stress

2012-03-22T14:28:00.000-07:00

Hi Jason here...

If you don't manage stress, it will find a way to manage you. Stress can be very invasive in your life. It loves to be in the driver's seat and you hand over the keys without fail on a regular basis because you feel defeated by it.

You might blame the boss, the long cue at the bank or your partner for your stress. You can't control what other people do or say, but you can manage some of the smaller irritations in your world in order to reduce your stress.

Here are some stress triggers that you have the ability to bring under management:

Clutter – The more "stuff" you have, the more time and attention it requires to maintain. One way to reduce that demand is to eliminate some of the stuff that you don't really need.

Start room by room and take a critical look at the time demands of your stuff. Pledge to give away or throw away at least two clutter items from every room. Don't just do this once, do it once a month. Obviously though do not give it all away.

Buy Less – You brought that clutter into the house, so don't bring in more. Before you buy a new wok or 26-piece baking set, think about how often you would actually use those items. Do you have any other kitchen equipment that can double for the same purposes?

Magazine Perfect Housekeeping – Unless you can afford a full time housekeeper, you need to accept that clean is good enough. Save the frantic furniture polishing and baseboard wiping for quarterly cleaning or preparing for a party. Remember that rooms in magazines look so great because no one lives there to mess them up.

Clothes Horse Needs Taming – Buying clothes is a kind of wardrobe clutter addiction that can get out of control. Clothing isn't just something on a hanger. You have to wash, mend, press or take it to the dry cleaners.

If you have an over-stuffed wardrobe, it's actually harder to get dressed in the morning. Too many choices become stressful - as does not being able to find the other shoe, so you waste time changing outfits.

Trim down the wardrobe. If you need help, ask a fashionable friend or hire a wardrobe consultant to work with you.

These are just a few ways to manage stress by dealing with the things in your home. You can apply the same strategy to the “stuff” in your office.

Gearing Up to Quit Smoking

2012-03-21T01:07:00.003-07:00

Gearing Up to Quit Smoking

Who knew that smoking was going to take over so much of your life? Now here you are - ready to act on your decision to quit smoking. Even though you really want to quit, it’s going to be much harder to stop than it was to start.

Not everyone in your life understands what you’re facing. There are those people who say, “Be strong and just do it!” You’re trying to smile while thinking, “If only it was that easy.”

Then there are those people who flaunt the latest medical horror stories about disease and smoking, hoping that will convince you to quit smoking. What your well-meaning friends and family are missing is that you already have the desire to quit smoking.

Congratulate yourself - because that places you halfway to your goal. That last half is going to be difficult and frustrating and time consuming. So when the “helpful” people ask whether or not you’ve quit yet, you say, “Yes - I’m becoming a non-smoker.”

That’s better than saying, “I'm trying to quit.” To say try about anything is like having your fingers crossed just in case it doesn’t work out. That’s why you need to have your words fairly reinforce your efforts.

How long will it take to quit smoking? That can vary depending on many factors. Just because one person was able to quit earlier than you do, don’t let that get you down. Every day you make the effort to quit smoking is one day closer to your goal, no matter how long or short that timeframe is.

For Once…It’s Good to Be a Quitter!

Motivation Techniques To Try

2012-03-19T09:48:00.001-07:00

If you were to climb a mountain and upon reaching the summit you would be greeted by a man there who knew everything you ever wanted to know, what would your question be? Some may ask, "How can I create great wealth for myself?" Others may want to know how to live long and healthy lives for ever but yet, there would be one or two who would ask, "How can I keep myself motivated and keep others motivated as well?".

If we gain the motivation we seek for ourselves and others then we do indeed have the basic tools to acquire almost everything else a satisfactory and contented life needs. Imagine the disappointment you would feel after you had climbed that mountain asked the question:-
"How can I gain motivation and motivate others around me?"
With the reply by the old man of:-
"To know thyself and be kind?"

These are wise words and hold much truth, but it’s a pretty broad answer. To motivate or be motivated requires learning and dedication. Motivation is a skill that can be easily learned if you possess dedication. We use motivation daily at home and at work. Subconsciously we’re striving to motivate ourselves and those we come in contact with.

We use our innate motivation skills to acquire the results we seek. We use these skills on our partners, children, our work colleagues and our friends each and everyday to get our way. It’s a delicate balance between communication and persuasion. Maybe the old man knew what he was talking about when he advised to know yourself and be kind to others. For after all to have that quality about you will no doubt help you in being able to motivate others. It’s long been said that we attract more flies with honey than vinegar.

Offering rewards is an often used motivational tool. If you dangle a reward on a stick whether it’s dangling in front of you or someone else it can be quite an incentive. The greater the reward usually the more productive you get. Not many people toil for the sheer love of working anymore.

Set a deadline. Not only do people balk at working for nothing, they must have a deadline or it will never get done. Would you pay taxes if you were allowed to pay them at your own discretion? Many still won’t begin a project until the deadline approaches. You’re more likely to complete a project if you impose a deadline.

Set goals. Setting a goal lets you know where you’re going. It’s hard to hit a moving target and a goal helps you focus on where you want to be and at a certain time. Use both short and long term goals. The short-term goals can be steps to reach the long-term objective. Each time you satisfy a short-term goal, you’ll feel your inner motivation growing.

Expect the best and settle for nothing less. If you’re doing the task or someone else is doing the task for you, insist on the best results or at the very least demand improvement over the last task. Pride should motivate you to do your very best.

Enjoy your work by making it fun and stimulating. Work that’s fun doesn’t seem like work at all. Stay stimulated by doing various projects that take you a step closer to the major goal. Stay happy and productive and you’ll stay motivated.

The Secrets Behind Subtle Psychology

2012-03-17T06:36:00.003-07:00

Have you ever been talked into doing something you afterward regretted?

Have you ever stopped part way through a favor and thought - “Why am I doing this?”

Chances are someone has used one of the techniques included here on you.

They work at a subtle level and that's what makes them so powerful.

Discovering these strategies distinguishing them, and stopping yourself before it's too late takes knowledge.

One technique is applied by Telemarketers to get you to listen to them. Here is a subtle psychological technique named "Foot in the door". You get a phone call from a telemarketer. Generally they'd try to impress you with a grand sales line when you answer, but this time is unlike the others.

The second you answer they tell you that they are only doing a quick phone survey, one that would only call for 30 seconds. There was no personal data being gathered. All in all safe and anonymous and they are not attempting to sell you anything. You say 30 seconds didn’t seem like such a long time, so ok.

That is the beginning of the trap. They begin with little, guiltless inquiries:-

What is your age group?
What is your business?
Where do you go for vacations?

These enquiries aren't intrusive, so you reply. Shortly they expand to some truly personal questions. Halfway through the survey, they assure you there's only “one last question”. At the close of the interview, they thank you and hangs up. The survey takes 5 minutes, and the data got very personal.

Someone phones to follow up a couple of days later and calls you by name. They seem to be a friend. You believe it’s somebody you met but forgot.

Suddenly they reminds you of the first call, and congratulates you -you're among the lucky ten people to have qualified for a limited gift. You just have to attend a seminar which is in all likelihood a long, awful, sales pitch.

It 's then you realize you've been fooled - fallen for one of the most primary tricks social hucksters practice!

This technique is known, slightly informally, as the “foot in the doorstrategy”.

There are a lot of these subtle psychological techniques and you may not recognize when there are being used on you. As well, you may want to know how to use them for your own success. Learning about these could save you lots of headaches or bring you some success, but the first step is knowledge. Find out all you can about subtle psychological techniques.

Motivation and reward: what is the link?

2012-03-16T04:59:00.001-07:00

When you see something big being accomplished, you can be sure that the person behind all this is a person with a strong sense of motivation. What exactly is motivation? Motivation is said to be the driving force by which humans achieve their goals. To achieve their goals, they are willing to work hard and overcome any obstacles that come their way.

Without this motivation, you can never expect to achieve any kind of high level successes. There won’t be any scientific discoveries, we wouldn’t be building skyscrapers or sending the first man to the moon. Many of the achievements happened not because the person achieving it was the smartest or most talented; it was because they are the most motivated.

So where does motivation come from? Motivation can come from an intrinsic or extrinsic factor. Intrinsic motivation refers to a motivation that is driven by interest or passion for that particular subject itself. They don’t need external pressure to show interest in that subject. Extrinsic motivation on the other hand comes from the outside of the individual. It could be rewards like money or recognition. It could also come from coercion and threats.

So it goes without saying that reward and motivation, you can’t separate the both of them. Even from intrinsic motivation, the reward of it may be personal satisfaction from being able to complete the task to the best of your ability.

Real motivation comes from real goals, real passion and real desire. Therefore the first step in motivating yourself is to decide clearly on the reward you want to achieve. For example, when designing a skyscraper, not only you get monetary incentives from designing that structure but you also get recognition and fame from accepting that project.

When you know clearly what you want and how much you want it to happen, you can now take the next step. You can think of ways to make your dream happen. So get motivated and start achieving your dreams now!

Everbody has...

2012-03-16T03:10:00.001-07:00

"Somewhere inside most people have the resources they need to overcome most problems. Therapy locates and then re-locates them."

How to motivate yourself and move on

2012-03-15T03:14:00.004-07:00

Getting yourself back up after a fall is not the easiest. The part I find quite difficult is perhaps trying to motivate yourself to do it. So how do you motivate yourself and move on? Here are five ways how.

Goal Setting

The key to getting motivated is setting down achievable goals. For certain list down a list of goals you are going to achieve.

Small start

Take small steps first. Start with making a small list of goals for each day. Once you achieve these goals consistently then start taking bigger steps. For example small list of goals for the day through to a weekly goal. IE:- Daily list: Shoppping, cleaning, washing, cooking, contacting friend. Weekly: Big shop, Job application, etc

Date setting

Have a date to which you have to have the goal done. Your end aim for example could be to run in the New York marathon by the age of 35. With that goal firmly in mind, you can start making mini goals towards the bigger goal. Start training for the bigger goal by setting weekly goals of completing 5k runs consistently all week. Then move up to 10k runs, moving the amount run each week until you can run a marathon.

Walk the talk

You may be the best of the best, but you do also need to prove it. Not only to others but yourself as well. You need to walk the talk. Start doing it. Start taking up new stuff to prove that you can do it too. Don't let these new experiences pass you by because you THINK you can do it. Just do it.

Persistence

Never procrastinate! Success and motivation are inseparable. There is no success without motivation. Take note the most successful people in our world are more than likely not the smartest or talented but they all have masses of motivation. Remember be persistent in your goals. It will not do to procrastinate and put off today till tomorrow.

Most importantly, remember that if you ever fall down again, get back up and try again. You need to treat failure as a feedback for success. So start your day tomorrow by achieving something great!

A Little Belief

2012-03-14T09:32:00.001-07:00

Your beliefs are connected to your values and are yours. Everybody has a different set of beliefs about oneself although they may be close to another's they are unique and individual to you. They form an important part of the pattern in how you see yourself and how you view the world. Let's look at the belief of trust.

If you value trust you are likely to hold beliefs such as:-

People can be trusted
Very little need for rules
People can manage their own schedules and productivity
Children will come home when they say they will

If however you place a high value on mistrust, you are likely to believe the opposite:-

Only fools trust each other
People are out to get me
I have to watch what you are doing because you can't be trusted
I have to phone my children when it's time for them to come home

The beliefs above come after a period of time, but it's amazing how little time is needed to form these beliefs. How many times does little Jennifer have to be late home from school before Mum starts to form the belief that "Jennifer is always late home from school?" How many times do you have to be ignored before you start believing that that person is uncaring? We are not saying that your belief structure is wrong or inappropriate, but, rather it is good to test them all the time. For once you have formed a belief it could become self fulfilling in a way that people will behave as you expect them to. For example, if little Jennifer believes that Mum expects her to be late then late she will be. If you tell Jennifer that she is lazy she will prove you right. If a child is told they are no good at any subject they shall fail in that subject. These are limiting beliefs and holding onto these beliefs are like akin to going through life with blinkers you will only do and see what is expected of you. Because your beliefs are personal, you will defend them and seek evidence to justify them! One of my teachers told me I was no good at art. Guess what it is not my best subject and for years I used to tell people "I am no good at art" These installed beliefs can be removed sometimes by simply saying to oneself:- "My teacher told me I was no good at art but I know people enjoy viewing my art so I am good at it." Here is another example:-

Jason has the potential to develop into a great motivational leader
Jason will never be able to motivate anyone

I know which one I prefer, and I am sure you do.

How to motivate others: 5 simple ways

2012-03-14T02:30:00.002-07:00

Imagine when you are feeling down. What would you like? A call from your friend possibly? For me that would be just the tonic, a right pick me up, a feel good factor number one!!! You know the feeling an overall feel good warmth feeling that spreads not just to your lips but reaches deep deep down into your very soul. The feeling that make your eyes sparkle with life, your smile as broad as the Pacific Ocean, your very presence makes people stop you and ask "What made you so happy!?!"

Read on as to how to motivate your friends in a way that will give them back their motivation, their zest for life...

Be motivated yourself

You are never going to be able to motivate others if you are not motivated yourself. So get motivated yourself before you try and motivate others.

Be kind

What your friend needs right now is someone like you to acknowledge their contribution, self worth and how important they are to you. You need to learn to be kind to your friends, family and even strangers for after all karma is what it is all about. Hand out praises when warranted. Whenever someone told you that you did a good job, didn’t that give you a surge of pride and the motivation to do better? Well, this is the same case. When people are treated right and their contribution are acknowledged, it’s such a motivation booster.

Be a good listener

Before you start advising your friend on how to get motivated, listen to their problems first. What is it that they are actually worried about? Let them get it all of their chest. Once they are done, help them to break down their problems and focus on problem solving together to find ways that your friend can solve their problem. To be is a good listener is an art. The same as quality conversation is an art one to which we should all strive to perfection.

Don’t judge them

If you already motivated them, and they fail, remember not to judge them. Instead encourage them to try again. Persuade them. Tell them that their failure is just a minor setback and they should treat failure as a feedback for greater successes. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. I myself have no failure in my armour. I have set backs but not failures.

Keep in touch

Lastly remember to always keep in touch with them. Check on them to see how they are progressing. That way, whenever your friend is feeling down and out of it, you will be right there to pick them right back up again. With the internet this last task is so so simple yet will still make a great difference in your friends life.

So here are a few simple ways to motivate your friends, it may be simple, but it is incredibly effective. You should see the smile on my friends faces. :)

Motivate yourself: 5 easy steps

2012-03-13T13:04:00.001-07:00

To achieve high level success, you need to have an action plan. Having an action plan alone is not enough. You also need to follow through your action plans with actions. There is no point having an action plan that is just lying around if you don’t plan to do anything about it. So here are 5 tips on how to motivate yourself to achieve your goals.

Firstly, set out specific goals you want to achieve. For example, set out a specific timeline for the development of your career. For instance, by the age of 30, I would like to be in this position and earn so and so salary.

The next step is you have to commit yourself to achieving that goal. It may mean putting in the extra hours or working extra hard. It may also mean signing up for new classes to pick up new skills necessary to achieve your goal.

Then, you also have to remember not to compare yourself with others. This can really affect your motivation. There will always be other people ahead of you. So you need to focus on yourself. Focus on improving yourself too. Then you could also review yourself. Compare yourself now with the you in the past. It will be such a great boost for yourself and a great motivation when you see how much you have improved.

You also need to get out of your comfort zone. You need to face challenges. Stop doing stuff that is routine to you. Try overcoming your fears. If you don’t step out of your comfort zone, you will never be able to achieve the success you want. If you are not stepping out because you are afraid of failure, start thinking of failure as feedback to improve yourself.

Next, positive support is always important. Remember to tell your friends and family about your goals and what you are going do to achieve them. So when you are feeling demotivated, your friends and family will be there to pick you up and motivate you again.

Lastly, remember to make every day count. Do something every single day to take a step towards achieving your goal!

Connection between your imagination & your feelings

2012-03-13T12:27:00.006-07:00

When you feel anxious, uncertain, confused, angry or frustrated you become tense and stressed. This will prevent you from accessing all your wonderful inner resources.
Whatever situation you are in, if your are feeling any of these, it is unlikely that you are performing to your full potential.
Think of a time recently when you were feeling stressed and recall what was on your mind. Your thoughts were responsible for creating your feelings. Every thought you have results in a feeling, so the way to control your feeling is to control your thoughts.
[Note you control your thoughts not the other way round.]

Test this out:-

Sit quietly and think of a situation when you did something that you did not feel so good about. Notice what feelings come up.
Now take a deep breath and think about a situation where you did something that you felt really good about and again, notice the feelings that come up.

You have just used your imagination to recall two experiences that resulted in very different feelings. You can use that connection between your imagination and your feelings. You can use the connection between your imagination and your feelings to put you in control and enable you to choose the way you feel. Your feelings have a direct impact on your capability, regardless of the situation.

Smoking Video and why....

2012-03-13T11:32:00.000-07:00

Not to do it... Excellent video created and uploaded by Northern Ireland Ministry for Health :-

Click the link below:-
Every Cigarette Is doing you damage... Make your choice