Swap Fu Podcast

Episode 42: Looking Back Over the Last Two Years

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:41:16 PST

Opening

Toronto city officials asked to license swinger's clubs? http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Canada/2012/01/16/19251646.html?cid=rssnewscanada
A flurry of Swinger Grindr-like apps for mobile phones. Expect more anti-competitive craziness, a la SDC and Lifestyle Longue. Talk about the Adult Friend Finder bullshit date.
After so much talk about of monogam-ish relationships... where are the swingers, Mr Savage? Neglecting to consult one of the many swinger sages seems a little strange.

Topic

The top three changes in our perception or things we have learned in the last two years of swinging.

Closing

Remember: You can post anonymous comments to our blog: http://swapfu.blogspot.com. Respond to us there if you want people to see it. Emails and dating sites messages are OK for private stuff, but post comments to our blog is an easy way to share with other listeners.
Getting the cops called on us.
Expanded explanation of guest list management. Read email.
Upcoming Mardi Gras party: Feb 18

Not that these guys need us promoting them, but the episode song is "I Write Sin Not Tragedies" by Panic At the Disco. Great tunes from another great Las Vegas band.

Episode 41: Casualties of the Lifestyle

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 08:25:16 PST

The Spanker Revealed

OpeningSwingers getting a bad wrap from shows like “Disappeared”
Swingers at a family event. What happened? Pro tip: Just invite smart friends ;)

Topics
Get Togethers -- Woop Woop!
There ain’t no such thing as a small get together
Must develop a party checklist -- the checklist manifesto by Atul Gawande
We played the LMFAO Pandora station at our get together... Best. Idea. Ever.

Good success show less-threatening porn for parties: Sapphic Erotica and Andrew BlakeGuest list management: Don't invite a couple to a party just because you like one of them. Odds are their other half won't be liked by anyone else either.

Discussing the ongoing single guy dilemma.

Burning Up at Re-entry AKA the Sunday to Monday crash

-- The dream-wake state of that first Monday morning meeting. Your head is still partying naked with a bunch of swingers and but your body is sitting on a conference call with Milwaukee.
-- You have to keep quiet about what you did while your coworkers regale you with stories about bowling and their cats.

Please share your experiences with us... how do you handle the return to normalcy?
Shout outs
Swingercast
Boris and Doris Podcast
Sparky's Open Source Podcast
Mr and Mrs W Daily
Dirtybit Podcast
Caramel Craze

Kink Neighbors

Episode music: We are loving the UK band The Vaccines and the butt-rocking tune "Wetsuit" Please buy their music, we did ;) http://thevaccines.co.uk

Episode 40: We're Not Experts, But We Know Some

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 08:52:42 PST

What's the Fu been up to?

Co-hosting a party. Shared responsibilities. Opportunity to meet new people.
Swinger friends rule because they get excited and bring drinks, snacks and toys! They also care better care of your stuff and have fun!
Staying sober until 11:30 helped Mr Fu.
As hosts, be ready to meet people. "Welcome to our home!"

Shout Outs:

Thank you for "flood" of responses to the gusher topic

Three doctors weighing in
We've got a lot of practice ahead of us

Younger swingers

They play, and
We've witnessed it! Thank you A and A

Plans:

Continue smaller get togethers
Gushing practice!
The New Years Eve dilemma

Our music for this episode is, once again, Metric. This time the song is "Help, I'm Alive" off the album Fantasies.

Episode 39: Female Ejaculation -- Female Empowerment or Just a Clumsy Clinical Term

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 07:25:11 PST

Hang in there for fun! -- Photo courtesy of Cliff and Jaime

What did the Fu do?

Full Moon Party
Photo shoot: The beauty and the... where did he go?
Thanksgiving vs Friends Giving vs Black Friday
Enjoying having friends over
Guy with the hat update
We had an anniversary. Thank you for the well wishes

Topic

Ms Swap Fu wants to learn more about female ejaculation
Squirting? Prevalence squirting101.com

Shout Out

Safety first! -- Photo courtesy of Cliff and Jaime

Sex swing camouflage pictures! Thank you Cliff and Jaime for the awesome photos.
The Fu loves "The League" watch it on Netflix
Blog comment regarding younger swingers and whether or not they ever get down to business. They did at 4 AM after the pub crawl
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Support Planned Parenthood this holiday season!

I can't believe it's taken us this long to feature a song by Future Islands! We've been listening to this band pretty much non-stop for the last few months. This episode's song is "Walking Through that Door" on the album In Evening Air. Learn more about this excellent band at myspace.com/futureislands

Episode 38: What's Been Bugging the Fu's

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 08:41:08 PST

Shout outs to long haul truckers, Australian travelers and http://caramelcraze.com/ (Great website!!)

What's been bugging the Fu's?

Learning to embrace age differences

Different Swinging Styles

And being in the moment... (Thank you Doris!)

Also... Halloween Party recap!

We're going to the Moon Party at Pace Bend Park... come join us!!

Episode Music "Never Saw the Point" by Cults. Awesome music. :)

Sorry for our audio problems... damn USB mics are giving me fits on my slow laptop.

Episode 37: Dating for Two or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Ms Swap Fu's Period

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 06:44:44 PDT

Pre-production notes!!
Tell us you're not a little impressed.

Thank you for your blog comments and voicemails!

Warming up the house slowly

Mas Vegas: Some more details given in context of how we don't go into details

Mindfulness: Were we in the right headspace?

Thank you Dan Savage for giving us some insight on the dating mind -- we're all newbies so -- cut yourself some slack

Mr Swap Fu is The Period Whisperer

Girls Uncorked redux

This episode's music is "Electronic Fences" by Computer Magic, a solo project based out of Brooklyn -- More information at thecomputermagic.com

Episode 36: Don't call it a cumback!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:41:38 PDT

We're finally moved into the new place... mostly. We're back!

Ms Swap Fu gets Uncorked. Join the Girls Uncorked chapter in your city.
Las Vegas trip highlights and tips and tricks for swinger travel newbies
The Sex-Related Injury
We talk about staying active in the lifestyle during a life transition
FuGrrl wants to know how you gracefully exit a sexual situation that just got weird... email her FuGrrl@gmail.com

Thank you for the your patience, emails and iTunes reviews. Hopefully we're back on schedule now.

Enjoy this episode's hot, hot music "Come Closer" by Miles Kane

Follow @SwapFu and @FuGrrl on Twitter

A short hiatus for the podcast

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 18:00:32 PDT

Hello loyal listeners!

Unfortunately, we wish we had better news for you guys but it may be a month or so before we have another podcast. We're are officially on hiatus! Not sure what the word means, but's it's got "Hi" in it, so it must be kinda good.*

Not that you should care especially, but the sitch is that we're in the process of selling our house, moving into an apartment and then, shortly after, moving into another house. (We're also signing all kinds of shit that remind us that we need to make more money.) Small things for sure, but Ms Swap Fu and I don't do this often enough to be good at it and we don't feel that we'd be able to deliver the podcast in a timely manner. It's been pandemonium up in this piece of, dare I say, biblical proportions. We've been told our upheaval is the cause of the Great East Coast Earthquake, Spiderman: The Music, the Brain Eating Amoeba and Bert and Ernie coming out.

So there you have it. We'll be back in a month or so. Until then, keep swinging fuckers!!!

*The Swap Fu podcast does not condone the use of marijuana or any other mind altering (read: fun) substances unless you are within your legal right to do so. BTW, Hiatus also has "ate us" in it... Gigiddy.

Episode 35: Don't Tase me bro!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 11:09:12 PDT

What's the Fu been up to? Ms Swap Fu gets her kink on with a guy in Lederhosen

Ms Swap Fu meets Johnny Taser
Booty call -- Buffalo Wild Wings interrupted

The Trojan Truck -- Where's the Wienermobile when you need it?

Hotel party -- Our party planned shared. Good setup

Topic
Self-improvement and the lifestyle

What can you work on? What do you do about what you can't work on?
Repetition is your best tool

The sweet gift of the emotionally mature relationship -- allowing yourself to feel big feelings without the world imploding

Announcements

Follow Fugrrl on Twitter!

Thanks for iTunes reviews

Shout out to South Carolina Lizard Sex

The music for this episode is in remembrance of the incomparable Amy Winehouse who died tragically since our last podcast. Ms Winehouse sang her way into my wife's heart to become her favorite singer. I too was fan. The song is "Back to Black" from the album of the same name. Rest in peace, sad little bird.

Episode 34: Swap Fu Finds Trapeze Just Peachy

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 17:50:41 PDT

What did the Fu do?

Meeting our hot friends at the amazing Swinger Mecca: Trapeze Atlanta

Topic

Swinger date dynamics. Get private!
Never the hook up -- you see them over and over and you never hook up
The Jackknifed four-way
Guys that can't stop watching their girl and the power of the switchback

This and That

After-party participant selection. Yes, you still have to plan.
Should we disclose our online presence?
We're going to Vegas Sept 23. What are you doing?
Thank you for the iTunes love!
Short Bus by John Cameron Mitchell movie discussion

Episode music is "Topaz" by the Athens, GA band The B-52s. Not only does this song honor of our friends in Atlanta, but also it's Mr Swap Fu's favorite by this most excellent band... Tin Roof! Rusted.

Episode 33: Swinger River Ramblings and Relearning to Flirt

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 08:40:42 PDT

Howdy!

Your friendly neighborhood swingers, the Fu's take you to the river as they rundown the highs and lows of the Krewe of Swingtown Guadalupe River Trip

Battling vanillas for river domination

In praise of Boris and Doris and the Swingercast Friends

Topic:
Mr Swap Fu talks about relearning to bringing flirting back to his vanilla life. Where do you draw the line?

Announcements:
We're going to Vegas! Come meet us! Sept. 23 - 26

What a Canadian public health worker might look
like after visiting a swinger club back room.

In the news:
Canadian public health research zeros in on swingers
Ask Amy weighs in on swinging

Enjoy!!

In honor of our delirious weekend, we've chose "My Delirium" by Ladyhawke as the episode song. The album is called Ladyhawke. We've been listening to this album a lot... haven't fucked to it yet, but that's just a matter of time.

The Good Kind of Busy

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 11:14:29 PDT

Mr Swap Fu here...

It will be a week or so before we post another Swap Fu Podcast episode. This is not due to lack of content but a lack of time. We've been very busy working and having fun. Like the title says, it's a good kind of busy. :) Next weekend we're going on the Krewe of Swingtown Guadalupe River trip so we will probably have a lot to talk about around that.

All the best!

Episode 32: We banned Nirvana!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 18:49:56 PDT

Feedback
People ask us about our musical tastes. We generally broaden our musical selections by listening to channels we like on Pandora.

Our favorite stations are:

Ladytron
Au Revoir Simone
The Ting Tings
The Killers
The Sounds

Mr. Swap Fu mourns his 20's last to grunge.

Condom update: Female condoms... Out! (Thanks Allie)

What's the Fu been up to?

Enjoying the what all our efforts have yielded. You should too!

Two amazing dates

The new walk of shame!

Super fun night at Mystique!

Odds and Ends

Israel police raid swingers party looking for pot

New listener erotica page starting this week. Thank you!!

Krewe of Swingtown River Trip in a couple weeks

Thank you! We love our listeners and thank you for the amazing iTunes reviews!

To J. Hang in there, baby!!

As much as it pains us, this episode's music is "Cherry Pie" by Warrant. Our salute to the Hair Bands. Regarding this song...

Mr Swap Fu: This song is ridiculous!

Ms Swap Fu: Ridiculously awesome!

Episode 31: Don't assume you're both on the same page. Teaching swingers to take a break before the sex.

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 18:19:06 PDT

Shout outs

Positive reviews on iTunes. Keep them coming, they help us share the podcast with other swingers and wanna be swingers.
Always, thank you to our awesome listeners and twitter followers

Fu News

Naked Condom’s $56 dozen. Naked Foundation
Wii Dare you to buy this game. More info

Topic
Related to Friends First, Fuck First. Is it a Part II?:
Thank you to the listeners for supplying topic. How to touch base in the middle of the date to pull the handbrake, or on the positive, let your partner know you want to escalate.

Make a Plan and a Plan B
Make a communication plan, set a time

At club

Say hi to friend
Talk to DJ, bartender

At date

Text your partner from bathroom
Leg squeeze

Make it clear that you do not necessarily play on the first date
Limit pre-date conversation: Front-loading date too much

Where are we going?

River Trip June 24 - 26

WE LOVE OUR LISTENERS!!

We are featuring the song "Breathe" by Telepopmusik as the episode song because we took a short breather away from the podcast to rethink a few things regarding how we were producing it. Yes, this was Version 2 of this recording... Version 1 ran off the rails and we decided to give it another shot after a soggy but fun Memorial Day weekend in Chicago. Telepopmusik is an amazing band from France. Yes! France! We love that enigmatic country. Check them out here. If you like them, please buy their album, like we did. :)

Episode 30: Friends first or frak first? What's a Fu to do?

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sat, 14 May 2011 07:51:17 PDT

Meet us on the Guadalupe River with the Krewe of Swingtown: June 24 - 26
Memorial Day in Chicago. Come for the Fu, stay for the Leather: May 27 - 30
Glow in the dark party at Mystique. Will we reconnect with our raver past?
Pro Tips: Always take time to meet new people at the club. It will give you a chance to step away and reconnect with your partner... and to make new friends.
New couple makes an effort -- and Ms Swap Fu likes it, bi the way.
Do the hosts of at house party have to stay up? What constitutes a house party?
Today's Topic is ripped from the pages of Kasidie.com -- friends first or play first?
How is swinging like Clash of the Titans?
Are we here to make friends?

Your feedback keeps us going. Please leave us a comment on iTunes!!

We get a lot of comments about our music selections. We try to pick songs that relate in some way to the topic being discussed. This episode's music is "Sick Muse" by the fantastic Canadian band Mertic off their album Fantasies. We've selected this song because it deals with the way people's expectations of falling in love can get in the way of leading the life we truly want to lead. We think that this is why so many couples specify that they want to be friends first before they play; they have an expectation to have more meaning connection before having sex with people. Our episode topic deals with this.

Click here to listen to this episode

Hop in the Swap Fu Time Machine

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 10 May 2011 11:19:34 PDT

What the Swap Fu time machine may look like

Like an awkward trip back to your old elementary school, the first 10 episodes of the Swap Fu Podcast are once again available on iTunes. Ms Swap Fu and I unshackled Pissy Pits, our techno-gimp just long enough to fix our podcast feed. Now, back in the hole, Pissy Pits!

Join us in taking a trip down memory lane, to a hazier, newbie-er time, when two American Swingery Swingers decided to get drunk and plug in two headset into a crappy laptop and tried to crack each other up for an hour. So, please enjoy your trip in our time machine responsibly. Try to not 1.) a cause a rift in time, 2.) fuck your younger self or 3.) save disco -- it's dead, and we're glad.

Of course, the old episodes have always been available on this blog, but hell, nobody reads these things anyway -- or anything else. See you're not even reading this now, are you? ;)

Episode 29: House Party Pro Tips... Be Safe. Be Polite. Be Fun.

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 05 May 2011 08:07:16 PDT

News and Shout Outs:
Welcome to the swinger podcast world Sparky’s Open Source! Bringing you swinging from a Canadian perspective
http://www.sparkysopensource.com

Planned Parenthood
http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Peoria Swinger Club Crackdown

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
https://www.ncsfreedom.org/

Non-negative news coverage of Swinging in San Antonio, from a Fox station no less
http://www.foxsanantonio.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/vid_5826.shtml

Topics:
Ask Dan and Jennifer tips for house party success: Be safe, be polite and be fun
http://www.danandjennifer.com/

How to building sexual tension prior to a swinger house party. Ms Swap Fu shares how she stokes the fire all day long

Fashionably late? How late is too late to arrive to a house party?

At the party...
Reporting back on Mr Swap Fu’s communication progress
Same room issues... people have different foreplay needs. Same room can exacerbate this.
Ms Swap Fu relaxes in her favorite way
Expanding your repertoire -- get a training partner!
Ladies, keep your heels on during sex!

Episode music in honor of Cinco de Mayo "Que No Pare" by La Super Maquina

Episode 28: A Story of Spilled Lube and Beads for the Leather Daddies

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 19:05:04 PDT

Some shout outs:

Check out this blog: A Swinging Good Time aswinginggoodtime.blogspot.com
Thank you for the first cool Moon Party
Still going to the Guadalupe River Trip. Are you?

Please remember to include location and age in your emails and voicemails to us.
Interview with the Havanas postponed. The questions we asked them are:

What we your initial reservation regarding entering the lifestyle?
What new reservations have there been since entering?
What would you like to do next?
What advice would you give to people considering entering the lifestyle?

Breaking away from a high-pressure situation (house party invitation)
Mr Swap Fu needs to relearn to break the ice -- post-female bonding maneuvers in the dark.
Austin is where they keep the hotness.
An inauspicious return to San Antonio Players.
Don't Google IMrL while at work AKA our return to Chicago

Episode music "Queen of Apologies" by The Sounds. Selected because I'm still waiting for my apology from a certain couple... so it goes.

Episode 27: What Guy Do You Want to Be, Swinger?

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 18:54:43 PDT

In this short episode we discuss last weekend's date and swinger club visit. We discuss the pitfalls of being in a busy group room and the importance of focusing on play-partner.

It was Mr Havana's birthday and we were very happy to celebrate with him and his beautiful wife.

Mr Swap Fu has seriously cut back his drinking... we discuss the benefits and the difference between partying and swinging. Yes, there is a difference.

Episode music is "Follow your Bliss" by the B-52s. Few things are as satisfying as helping those around you attain their own bliss.

Click here to download this episode. :)

Why the Facebook is Fu'less

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 08:42:19 PDT

Listeners often ask us where they can find us on Facebook. The short answer is, "You can't".

Neither Ms Swap Fu nor I keep accounts on the ubiquitous social media site -- personal, podcast related, or otherwise. We have many reason for this, mostly related to the inherent dangers of entrusting a profit-motivated corporation with your private information. But more pragmatically, it boils down to two points, 1.) you are going to do dumb ass shit online, and 2.) it's going to be there forever.

It wouldn't be right for me to write this post without listing horror stories. Specifically, several friends of ours have had their jobs compromised because of things they have posted on Facebook. Two have lost their jobs because they posted dated pictures of themselves partying on supposed "sick days". Stupid? The pictures? Certainly. But have you ever played hooky? I have. Who's to say someone else isn't going to post a picture of you and tagging it. But theres' ways of preventing that. Of course there are, and have fun policing that... forever.

Another was passed over for a promotion. A source close to the manager responsible told my friend that stuff in her Facebook profile was used as evidence of moral turpitude. Things she had posted three years prior. Should you have to pay for your "mistakes"... forever?

Still others spent extended periods without a job (I suspect) because their Facebook profiles, which were of course linked to the email addresses at the top of their resume. Rookie mistake, right? Sure, but it's another thing you have to be aware of and monitor... forever.

Now, you may say that these people were being singled out as target for other reasons. I assure that that was not the case. In fact, every employer I have worked for in the last 12 years has engaged outside parties to regularly troll the Internet for information about their employees and online background checks are the absolute norm for all job applicants. This policy is generally mandated by their insurers in order to safeguard against shrinkage, intellectual property and productivity loss as well as to reduce the risk of workplace harm. The problem is these third parties did not mandate how the information will be used by the companies; their only job is only to report.

But don't take my freaky, libertarian, swinger word for it, I feel like it was all much better stated by Wired Magazine's UK editor in this article.

Now... let's not get into how creepy it is when you get a friend request from your Aunt Mildred.

Episode 26: Swingers Never Stand Still

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 05:24:55 PDT

Why do swingers travel so much??

We discuss our recent trip to Fort Worth to meet our fellow Texan podcasters Boris and Doris. Check them out!
http://bndpodcast.com/

Mr Swap Fu meets listeners in Las Vegas, inciting an interesting conversation about vanillas dropping swinger hints.

A listener question helps us further discuss transitioning a swinger play relationship to non-play. We conclude... nothing. lol

Join us for the Guadalupe River Trip the weekend of June 25. More information here: http://www.kreweofswingtown.com/river.html

Episode Music "Young Folks" by Peter, Bjorn and John

Apologies for Mr Swap Fu's audio problems... never to be repeated. ;)

Episode 25: The Fu's Enjoy Some Hot, Wet, Sticky Success

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 17:10:40 PDT

Short notes...

We've been having a lot of fun lately. We run down the last couple weeks of swinging success.
Shout outs to fellow Texan swinger podcasters LifeStyleLife and Boris & Doris, check them out at:
LifeStyleLife
Boris & Doris

We talk about double blow jobs and a very hot hotel hook up... more to come??

Episode Music in honor of St Patrick's Day "Sayonara" by The Pogues

An Attempt to Explain the Female vs Male Bisexuality Double-Standard Among Swingers

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 02 Mar 2011 09:26:26 PST

Female bisexual behavior is considered almost de rigueur in the swinging lifestyle while male bisexual activity is generally considered unwelcome -- although not unknown. This discrepancy has been getting much attention of late; potentially causing fissures in a community already embattled by those with opposing moral views. In an effort to bring some perspective to the matter, I thought it would be useful to lend my view on why this discrepancy exists. At the end of this examination I will detail where I stand on the argument.

The reason male bisexuality is discouraged in the lifestyle is to empower women.

Now bear with me...

The old chestnut in swinging is that women are in charge. This, of course, is utter bullshit. In the lifestyle, as in most other things, it is men and women making decisions together. A relationship between two people, whether in the lifestyle or the vanilla world, consists of series of compromises, of give and take. Otherwise none of us would be able to make even the smallest decisions as a couple to get things done in life without a fight, or worse yet, without resorting to deceit. As they make these compromises, members of the couple will tend to fall into the same roles. Negotiation tactics are developed for dealing with different situations. This, in fact, is why the lifestyle works best for people with good communication skills and possess the ability to compromise; this is what makes strong relationships. (An aside... I believe the lower divorce rate for marriages in the lifestyle has more to do with these skills than anything to do with sexual gratification.)

Entering the lifestyle is one of the most high-involvement decisions a couple will make. Typically, the male-half wants sexual variety and the female, while also desirous, is hesitant to put the relationship at risk. In order to gain her buy-in, the male assures her that she will get to "call the shots". This is a legitimate tactic commonly employed outside of swinging. You give a little in order to get a lot in return.

At swinger clubs, women will typically engage in bisexual play with each other. During this time, the guys watch the action and wait to be allowed to join the game. This is a way for women to call the shots. It works on multiple levels. First, when women play with other women they will more than likely have the undivided attention of the men; it gives them the opportunity to feel desired, which makes them feel good. Next, it gives them the opportunity experience sexual novelty. However, neither of these are the most important reason, which is that it allows the women to decide with whom their partner will have sex. The women, are in-effect, vetting potential sexual partners for the men. If the woman does not play with a woman, odds are neither will her partner. Further, even after having played with another woman, if the female half of the couple feels that the other woman could be a threat to the relationship, the other woman would be discarded as a potential play partner for the male half. However, if all goes well, then male-half will be allowed to have sex with the other woman. The female half calls the shots, and that was bargain.

The best part is that it works. After all, most men are happy "just to be there". The mere possibility of having sex with another partner keeps men interested. This explains why it costs twice as much for single men to join a swinger club than it does for a couple or for a single woman to join -- and the single men are always there! Just being there is gratifying, and if something were to happen? All the better.

Men playing other men breaks the deal. By doing so, men would be taking back some of the control they yielded to their partners. It messes with the dynamic because women would no longer be the gate keepers of the men's sexual activities and thus would feel like they are adding risk to the relationship. Swingers have cultural understanding of this dynamic and this is why they protect it. It's not done at a conscious level; it's simply a case of, "We've arrived at this point, and it's working."

So where do I stand on whether or not male bisexual behavior should be more widely accepted in the lifestyle? I contend that it is tacitly accepted and regarded as another natural variation in the lifestyle. The reason we don't see more of it is because it done exclusively in private between consenting parties, and not in the open, where the current, functioning dynamic is holding the whole works together. In other words, you will rarely, if ever, see it at a swinger club.

My wife and I love swinging and while we love intimate encounters with other couples in a private setting, we would like to continue to be able to go to clubs and meet new couples. I am a very sexually open person and will advocate anyone's right to sexual self-expression, however if discouraging male bisexual behavior at the swinger clubs means more people will enter the lifestyle, then I am, much to my chagrin, on board with it.

I hope this rant adds to this discussion and helps clarify my position on this delicate topic.

(In an attempt to reach a broader readership, I've asked that this entry be cross-posted on Life on the Swingset)

Be realistic about mythical creatures... A unicorn speaks out

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 14:18:56 PST

Hey,

just a quick note to say that I listened to the most recent podcast and the unicorn talk resonated with me of course! The idea that couples are looking for the omni-available but not clingy , experienced but probably not nasty, and oh-so beautiful woman to share their bed made me laugh a bit bitterly. It probably resonated all the more so because I just had to get a little rude with an ex-possible couple. I say couple but it was always the guy who was in contact and he would not fuck off when told to do so nicely! I originally made the rookie mistake of hanging on and thinking that he would get a clue and because I thought his wife was both hot and nice. Stupid me, but in hindsight my main bitch was that I had to be perfect for them (him?) in word and deed but it seemed like my feelings and requests were, in ascending order of gravity, not understood, not listened to or just dismissed out of hand. Perhaps an extreme case but my advice to couples looking for a unicorn is to not only to put yourself in her shoes but to use those 'famous' communication skills that are so good between swinging partners and actually ask her what she feels about the situation and what she wants. Act on the information if it lines up with what you want. If it isn't a fit for you then be cool and direct about it when you explain why.

End of rant! Please feel free to forward, publish or reference as much as you want,

C

Our response...

Dearest C,

Thanks for your thoughts. I'm sorry you had to get rude with that guy. People can be very insensitive and we feel badly when anyone is mistreated in the lifestyle. The unicorn is a vital component to swinging, not only for the couples who seek them but also for the rest of us. The reason is because the idea of being with a single woman brings more people into the lifestyle; people see it as an easy first step. I don't happen to agree that it's an easy step; in fact, I think that trying to be with a single woman is probably one of the most difficult things for a couple to negotiate and probably should be done only after the couple has had more experience.

I think the primary reasons why new couples want to be with a single woman are because the man wants to have sex with another woman and the woman wants to have sex with someone other than their husband, and another woman is the only situation her husband finds "acceptable". This is not an equal state of affairs and selfishly motivated. While I think that there is also smaller contingent of women who are genuinely interested in having sex with another woman. However, I think that this is still not motivated out of the desire to have a shared experience with the unicorn.

Next, there are problems with a new couple engaging in a three-way dynamic. A couple gets used to having sex with each other, adding a third can be exciting and novels, but it also means that, at times, one of the members of the couple will be unoccupied. Now, while most men know how to "entertain" themselves while the two women get it on, it has been my experience that there is nothing that kills the mood quicker than when a woman feels neglected in the bedroom. So be it the woman in the couple or the unicorn, great care must be taken to ensure that the woman who is not actively engaged in the encounter feels included and cared for. Otherwise, things will cool off quickly. After all, no woman wants to reflect on whether or not they made the right decision to be in this encounter while the other two people are having sex in front of her.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and giving me the opportunity to reflect on this topic with new eyes. Keep your chin up and thanks for being a great example of a single woman in the lifestyle.

Best and warmest,

Mr Swap Fu

Episode 24: Two Swingers Realign or The Boobie Game Examined

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 08:48:09 PST

Swap Fu would like to thank all our loyal listeners! Tell your swinger friends about us and please give us positive feedback on iTunes if you have a second. It takes no time, really.

Mr Swap Fu is a Texas Nerd, so we talk about BBQ Tech
Praise to the informed Swingers out there
Swinger dating sites are an under-utilized resource
The swinger dating sites need better travel discussion modules
Will Swap Fu ever speak at a swinger takeover event?
Will Swap Fu ever GO to a swinger takeover?
Making time for our vanilla friends
The Return to the "Other Club". How did it go?
The Fu's discuss the Boobie Game and propose a theory about why it exists.
Did we tell you always have to have Plan B?

It's our last episode before Mardi Gras! Episode music, "Here to Stay" by the Rebirth Brass Band

Episode 23: It's the First Anniversary of this Podcast... so we spanked the tar out of it

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 18:10:27 PST

Australia... you are being underserved
Planned Parenthood needs you now
Shout out to Boris and DorisShout out to couples at Desire -- negotiatate your vacation -- because you can't put pictures of cocks up in your cubicle
The first annual Swap Fu Cock-ation Calendar
The dreaded blind date
Do you want a unicorn or do you want an escort?
Transitioning a relationship with another couple from swinging to non-swinging.

Episode Song "Mating Game" by Bitter:Sweet

Support Planned Parenthood!!

A new look and some new pages

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 11:31:44 PST

We decided the give the website a once-over. We've added an About Us section, some more info on Planned Parenthood and our Endorsements policy (in the About Us page).

We're also following the LifeStyleLife's example and joined the Kampaign 4 Kasidie. There's a link at the top explaining why we have joined this movement.

Do you like the new color scheme? Are we missing something? Let us know.

A listeners first time...

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 08:09:44 PST

We promised to post J and F's first experience... please read it below. J and F are German and English is not their first language, but I think you will agree that the heat of this experience easily cuts through any language problems.

Hello Ms. SwapFu, hello Mr. SwapFu,

If you are still interested in getting some information about other couples experiences in getting in the lifestyle.
Well - shortly something about ourselves: we are a married couple (lucky since 25 years) in our very early 50ies. Living in the south of Germany near a city where cars are manufactured starting with 'P' amd 'M'.

For a long time the male (now writing) was surfing the web on different adult sites. Then, our children were getting independent, but still living at home, our female part got interested in his 'internetactivities'.
At the same time she started listening to your podcast. It’s a funny feeling when you are exercising in the gym beside your wife and she bursts out in laughter from time to time – and you know what she is listening to ;-) .
After long talks (our TV may be sold in this time for matters of inactivity), we decided to visit a swinerclub only for couples in the middle of march.
However, it went different.
After signing up a swingersite (with some - we find them beautiful - photographs of us) we got a respond within two days from a slighty older, expierienced couple which invited us to a clubevening in a swingerclub about 150 km in distance (100 miles). And they invited us to stay over night at their home.
We set our borders: Go there, look at all, maximum should be soft swap, kissing ... depends on sympathy. Intercourse only with ourselves.
After spending lots of money for a club-outfit we showered, shaved and went dressed up to the inviting couple. The welcome was very warm with some champagne by the guy from the couple. His wife went shortly after in from the bathroom already in her club-outfit. Left me breathless for a moment – my wife too. Then we chatted a while, where given some advices for behaving in the club (smile, talk, be friendly, don't drink too much - or you'll have troubles to get/stay hard).
Then hopped in the car, drove about an hour to the club. With heavily beating hearts we rang, the door opened, we went to the check-in, payed our fee and were directed to the dressing rooms. Well, as we were already set up for the evening, we didn’t need to spend much time for dressing and went back upstairs for a tour through the club.
A strange look … everywhere more or less dressed people in very erotic outfits. Chatting and having a good time at the bar and in the disco. The ‘playgrounds’ were not used at this moment. Another glass of champagne at the bar, a little snack at the buffet (skin to skin with very less dressed men and women).
Then we, overwhelmed by the atmosphere, were ‘forced’ by our two hosts to start a little dancing in the disco. Soon it went into a dancing of my wife with the male part of our hosts, me with the wife and we four altogether. Hands went over bodyparts of formerly ‘strangers’ leaving no part unexplored.
Heated up like this we were ‘pulled’ to the playgrounds.
There we started with undressing, exploring and … and … and…suddenly I went down on the hosts wife, my wife moaning under the hands of our host. Awesome!
Suddenly a question whispered in my ear: Wanna fuck me? Not wanting to break the rules with my wife I leaned over to her and asked her if I ..? The answer was very short: Fuck her!
Meanwhile I was so overwhelmed that I, after putting a condom on, just got inside her but my dick was not hard to finish penetration successful. Technical malfunction …
My wife meanwhile was licked to orgasm by out host. She was very loud and a solo witness who joined the playground said loud as she was heavently breathing after a orgasm: 'Yeah baby!' What a compliment.
Then she grabbed a condom, put it over the hard dick of our host and went on her knees to get in the right position to be entered by him from behind. The noises went higher again and seized as she began to go down on me. She orgasmed as loud as possible (with me in her mouth). Our host left her, she laid on her back, cause she recognized my hard cock and begged me to fuck her. I went over her and filled her – first with my dick, then with my cum.
Meanwhile another young couple joined the playground, first finger fucked and then did it in good 'old style' missionary.
The girl came, snatched her towel and left the boy who was left unsatisfied. As relaxed as we were we asked him what happened. Here his short story: The gal picked him up on the dancefloor – pulled him on the playground – and rest we saw…
Our host has fingered him while he talked and she invited him to fuck her. They started, my wife and I looked at another and grinned. We started to caress and lick the boobs of our host simultaneously until she and the young guy got off. After the young guy rolled off, her husband started to fuck her hard until they came together hot and loud.
After relaxing a short time on the mattresses we snatched our belongings – tidied the room for other users and went to shower.
The evening went on with watching very erotic scenes in the BDSM dungeon, listening and watching other couples having fun, talking to other people, getting a solo lick from my wife on a bed which was connected with chains to the ceiling. Funny feeling when you lie on your back, getting a blowjob from your wife and you hear people saying as they walk by:’Look, there is J. doing F.’.

Later in the evening – early morning- , after driving home from the club, we sat together with out hosts, had two bottles of red wine, and talked until the early morning. The following day was a mess – lack of sleep, head full of pictures and positive emotions.

Well, that’s our story about entering the ‘lifestyle’. And we are not going to leave it!

Thanks for your podcast, which is – in fact – very educational and funny, in short words: perfect for our first steps.
By the way: J. has not reached the actual podcast, but she is working on it!

Love and kisses out of good old Germany!

J. and F.

PS.: We plan to travel to Burningman 2012. Are you participating?

Episode 22: What should swingers consider before they swing separately and Ms Swap Fu tries viagra

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 19:16:34 PST

This episode is chock-full of swinger goodness.

Listener topic makes us rush for the mics. How do we handle the transition between swinging together vs swinging separately. Pretty advanced stuff, we think.

Also, a listener's first-time experience give Ms Swap Fu the vapors

Ms Swap Fu tries Viagra... interesting

Music "Love Vigilantes" by New Order

We love hearing from our listeners!:
swapfu@gmail.com
swapfu on SDC and Kasidie
swap_fu on SLS
swapfu on Google Talk and Yahoo IM
Or leave us a voicemail at 609-3SWAPFU

If you like this podcast, please be sure to leave us a review on iTunes... or just say hi!

Please consider contributing to Planned Parenthood. They are the only source for blame-free, sex-positive health services and education for many communities. http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Episode 21: A Live Hall Pass Report to Ms Swap Fu

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 10:23:00 PST

Rather than the usual run-down of what we've been up to, we try something new. Mr Swap Fu had a date with Ms K while Ms Swap Fu was away on business. Ms Swap Fu thought it would be fun for him to tell her all about how it went for the first time, live, on the podcast. So, she hears all about it for the first time along with our listeners. We had a lot of fun doing this and we hope you enjoy it. :)

Music "Daylight" by Matt and Kim

We love hearing from our listeners!:
swapfu@gmail.com
swapfu on SDC and Kasidie
swap_fu on SLS
swapfu on Google Talk and Yahoo IM
Or leave us a voicemail at 609-3SWAPFU

If you like this podcast, please be sure to leave us a review on iTunes... or just say hi!

Please consider contributing to Planned Parenthood. They are the only source for blame-free, sex-positive health services and education for many communities. http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Episode 20: Every Swinger Should be a Condom Connoisseur

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:26:49 PST

New year, new podcast, same ole swingers. :)
The Fu's talk about their adventures dealing with vanilla holidays, swinging new years and cheap-ass condoms.
Also a discussion about racial implications in the lifestyle

Music: Ghost Town by The Specials
Call us: 609-3SWAPFU
Email: swapfu@gmail.com

We are also swapfu on SDC and Kasidie or Swap_Fu on SLS.

See you soon... naked!

Episode 19: Let it Blow!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 20:08:09 PST

Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night.

Enjoy Episode 19 V. 2... we would write more show notes but have to wrap some gifts. Our 109 nieces and nephews are expecting stuff. For such little people they have such big needs.

Happy Holidays!

Episode 18: Paris Swings

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 05:12:04 PST

What has the Fu been up to?

Halloween Party

Club visit out of town

Swinger Club in Paris

Listener question: Do we get jealous?

Tune in and check it out!

Support Planned Parenthood!

Episode Song... La Vie en Rose by Edith Piaf

Episode 17: We're Big in Japan, but we're fucking huge in South Korea

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 18:00:52 PDT

Episode 17: We're Big in Japan, but we're fucking huge in South Korea

This Episode ran long, so we're splitting it in twain... do you really want to hear us drone on for more than an hour?

Part 1
Opening and thank yous
Interesting countries that follow us the Fu AKA what the hell is wrong with Canada?

Part 2
Hot tub terrors vs vanilla acceptance
The new club location vs buying in the vip area
Playdates still aren't working
Meeting less people but more people with similar preferences as a ratio

Support Planned Parenthood

We're out, Peace!

Episode 16: Driving for Dick

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 08:10:17 PDT

Thank you for listening to our podcast!

1. How to identify swingers in the wild
2. The Fu's talk about their goings on. Houseparty adventures of the teabagging kind.
3. The L word

email: swapfu@gmail.com
phone: 609-3SWAPFU
Twitter: @swapfu

Please Support Planned Parenthood!!

Intro: "Hands" by Ms. John Soda from the album Notes and the Like
Outro: "No One" by Ms. John Soda from the album Notes and the Like

Episode 15: The Swap Fu Blows Through the Windy City

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 11:01:53 PDT

Swap Fu Podcast Episode 15

Part I
Greetings!
Thank you for listening. We love you!

Part II
What have the Fu's been up to?
- Houseparty
- Mr. Swap Fu's Chicago birthday trip
-- Meeting vanilla's
-- Last minute meet up

Guys have to bring it.
Part III
The topic: Be spontaneous! Don't let your present state of mind ruin the good time you haven't even had a chance to have.

Contact info
Call: 609-3SWAPFU
Email: swapfu@gmail.com
Follow: @swapfu

Intro and Outro: Just You "N" Me by Chicago
Mid: 25 Or 6 To 4 by Chicago

Support Planned Parenthood!

Episode 14: Who Wants an Olive?

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 10:50:00 PDT

Episode 14: Who Wants an Olive?

New show format! Like, there is a format and stuff now. lol

1. Intros, shout outs and thank you's
- Hi Cooper from Life on the Swingset! Hi Kidder Kapper from Sex is Fun and Bathtalk.
- We try to answer Kidder's question about re-engaging after a separate-room full swap encounter which leads to a discussion about our life before formally becoming swigners.
- Also, how are their still cheaters in the lifestyle. Say What?!

2. What have we been up to AKA Live & Learn with the Fu's
- Be prepared. Don't be like us and show up to an after party without supplies.
- Don't be afraid to make and exit. Pictionary is a fun game, but damn, so is Hide the Salami
- Ms Swap Fu talks about why her iPhone needs a tripod
- Club closing leads to opportunities. More Internet activities & meeting a hot couple at a vanilla club
- Meeting our first hotel couple again. The language barrier & trip to Paris

3. Weekly Topic
- How swinger attitudes cross over into your vanilla life?

Thoughts? Comments? Email us at swapfu@gmail.com or cal 609-3SWAPFU

Listen to Life on the Swingset, Sex is Fun and Bathtalk Week

Support Planned Parenthood!

Episode Song: "Dark Halls" by Au Revoir Simone

Episode 13: Join Swap Fu, Where 13 is Always Lucky

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 18:16:52 PDT

We wrap up our Episode 12. It ran long. :)

Lots of good stuff in this one

Good times with a single guy

Is Mr Swap Fu a shy wallflower?

Support Planned Parenthood!

Call us with your first time swinger stories! 609-3SWAPFU

Episode 12: Who wears a bathing suit to a swinger pool party?

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:19:14 PDT

Thank you to our listeners. Share the podcast with your friends!
Please review us on iTunes!!

Please Support Planned Parenthood

Answer listener questions: Do We Get Jealous? and How do You Say No?

Houseparty Redux
- butterflies
- What happened?
- High expectations are baaaad

An afterparty for two

List your travel plans on SDC. Very cool.

Thank you for listening!!

Episode 11: One foot in, one foot

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 16:43:19 PDT

Show Notes:
Contact information
swapfu@gmail.com
swapfu.blogspot.com
@swapfu
609-3SWAPFU (609-379-2738)

We discuss the process of transitioning into swinging from the vanilla world. We also discuss our recent activities... not many really but more stories next time. We were really tired when we recorded this, can you tell?

Thank you Erotic Awakening for having us on your show!! http://eroticawakening.com

Please support Planned Parenthood! http://plannedparenthood.org

Podcast Alley Listing Post

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 06:03:36 PDT

Trying to get us listed on Podcast Alley :) Am I doing this right?

My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-6d1cb58801f1e04329ccfa4315cb033b}

Episode 10: The top things we've learned

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:31:10 PDT

Thank you's

- Mr and Ms Swap Fu count down the top ten things they learned in the lifestyle. The podcast started Feb. 24, 2010

Ms Swap Fu's Top Ten
10. Clubs are uber cool.
9. Travel plans to Swing are off the hook. If you haven’t done it, try it.
8. Your Vanilla friends probably adore you more than your friends in the lifestyle.
7. Passive guys in the lifestyle are boring. Guys that show up to have fun are my cup of tea.
6. Single guys have a place in the life style.
5. Strap-ons are out, and I will be experimenting with some other devices.
4. No, you don’t look younger than you really are.
3. Swinger upkeep is a pain in the ass. But you do it because you want to swing.
2. Ask for what it is that you want. Specifically and unequivocally. Changes you make from the lifestyle can affect every aspect of your life.
1. The number one thing I have truly internalized is that my husband rocks.

Mr Swap Fu's Top Ten
10. The founders of Harley Davidson must have been swingers
9. Minimize your time on the dating sites. Lot's of chatters, picture hunter and punters. Meet people in person ASAP then go from there.
8. Focus on your goals. What do you want and who do you want it from?
7. Escalate sexually. Don't freeze up once you're there, build passion by escalating foreplay.
6. Look out for your partner. He or she may not be in the same headspace.
5. Keep meeting people. You may know some cool couples, but there are always more out there.
4. It's not about them, it's about us
3. It's better to be fun than sexy
2. Watch your booze
1. Who dares wins

Listener Questions
1. Do we experience jealousy in the lifestyle? If so, how do we deal?
2. Drinking... does everyone get blasted to play?

Thank you for listening!!

Contact info...
phone: 609-3SWAPFU
email: swapfu@gmail.com
Twitter: @swapfu

Click here for MP3 file

Episode 9: Sixty-nine minus sixty

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sat, 29 May 2010 20:36:11 PDT

Show Notes
- Intro and Thank You's

Life on the Swingset for all the immoral support
Swingercast cast for the nice comments back
This Married Life for the laughs
All our twitter followers

- Email, Twitter and Phone Number 609-3SWAPFU

- Leave us a review on iTunes, why not?
- All the News that Fu's
- Topix

1. Response time for emails in the lifestyle... coordinating four people takes longer

2. "Been up since six am, do you went my company?" Strap on being like not being able to get it up

4. Out of town trip and the guy with the hat

5. Peeps in our room

6. Booty call

MP3 tasty linkage here

Episode 8: And I'm all out of gum

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 12 May 2010 08:19:31 PDT

The Fu talks about a guy who came to screw or drink.... and he was all out of drink.

Potential sexual partner inside the lifestyle and out. Is there a difference? Some insight into what men and women think.

How to take third place in an amateur strip off

Hey lifestyle podacsters! Let's have a reunion online and post it for the world to enjoy. :)

Crunchy salty tasty MP3 fileage here. Nom nom nom

Love the Fu?
Go to iTunes and leave us some kind words

We also now have voicemail! 609-3SWAPFU (609-379-2738)

Episode 7: The Good, The Bad and The Hot Tub

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:50:49 PDT

The last two weeks have been a blur. This podcast is 45 minutes long and we only hit the high (and low) points.

Topix:
- Shout out to Swingercast interview of the guys at Desire. Very revealing and informative. Specifically: Girls need to flirt too!

- Also, taking a break in the middle of the evening to regroup with your partnet

- And how to handle being deleted as a friend in your social site

- Other shit, like listening to me lisp through the name Super Secret Swinger... sad sad sad. Great podcast though.

Support Planned Parenthood!!!

MP3 file here!

Episode 6: Spreading... our reach that is

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 20:21:24 PDT

The Fu's run down the last week and a half.
- Taking Mr and Ms Habana to the club for the first time
- The challenges of four-way agreement
- Our first house get together. Hot tubs and big fun
- Last Saturday, new friends etc
- You might be a Swinger...

Linkage to MP3 file

Update the "You might be a Swinger" list

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 05:51:06 PDT

We're going to cover a few topics in our next Fu Cast. (You like the name?) Impressions and experiences from last weekend, what's coming up, who's going down. The usual. lol One of the things we would like to do is update the "You might be a swinger" list. I know, it's a tired bit, but I think we can have some real fun with it, and fuck it, it's our show and it's free. ;)

The orginal list can be found here:
http://www.swinglifestyle.com/articles/swingers-you-might-be-a-swinger-if.htm

Do you have any suggestions for the updated list? Drop us a line... comment it, tweet it, e-mail it.

We will post the updated list on this site in a few weeks.

Echo No More...

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 11:33:17 PDT

Just a quick technical update and commentary from the Fu.

WARNING: Tech Stuff Follows

I produce the Swap Fu Podcast using Sony Vegas Pro. My background is in video production, so it's just easier to use Vegas than learn an entirely new piece of software. We record the podcast using USB stereo headsets; I use a Plantronics that folds up and Ms Swap Fu uses a Sennheiser. Vegas puts each headset on its own channel and I can adjust the levels of each in real-time or in post. Very nice since I don't need to dick with a mixer or a separate audio interface. Also, the headsets can be used for Skype, gaming, etc. Anyway... it's the way to go if you're considering getting into the podcast game IMHO.

As we're sure you heard in our podcasts, we've been plagued by a nagging echo coming from one or both headsets. I couldn't seem to shake it! We changed the way we faced each other. Sat closer, furhter away, offset 90 degrees. I messed with the levels. Nothing. The echo wouldn't go away.

Finally, as a last-ditch effort, I opened up the track effects in Vegas to apply a "Gate" filter, which I heard could help with problem. You can imagine my surprise when I found that there were already affects applied to the track; a noise gate, an EQ and a compressor. I deleted the effects from the track and recorded a test. Nice and flat with no echo. These headset mics are really top notch... at least for podcasting purposes. lol

Anyway, I think I solved the problem and we should have echo free podcasting from here on out. Thank you as always for listening to our ramblings. The next episode should be a hot one. :)

Best!

The Fu

Episode 5: Happy Birthday, Cabana!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 04:18:33 PDT

No sex per se in this Epsiode. Just the Fu's look back on their friendship with a very special man. Mostly just impressions on how friendships change over time. We hope you find it interesting. Next the next episode will surely be chock-full of prevvy goodness.

In meantime, Happy Birthday, Cabana!

Listen to the MP3

Episode 4: Night Out Couple Date Hotel Style

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:34:32 PDT

This time the Swap Fu shows you language is only the SECOND best thing you can do with your tongue. :)

Catchy intro right? Nothing but the best for our listeners... Both of you. lol.

Just kidding! We have mobs of listners and I'm freaking out about it. Who would think anyone would give two shits about a couple suburbanites getting nasty with the neighbors. lol

Hotel style, you say? Listen to the podcast and look at the picture... not that dramatic, but very cool for us. :)

Enjoy Number Four,
then call out for more...

Yeah, Swap Fu

Click here for MP3 filage.

Expanded Show Notes and Other Musings

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 05:49:13 PDT

Mr. Swap Fu here...

Sorry about the rather anemic show notes last. Not much to write down really and at 20 minutes, you can get through the Swap Fu podcast quickly. Big fun at the club Friday and our new connections more than made up for the disillusionment of that Tuesday night stand up.

I'm going to try to post another podcast next weekend. We have a date with the Spanish-speaking couple Saturday. Ms. Swap Fu is worried that the female half and I will get tired of translating. My hope is that nature will take it's course and the "international language" will take over. We'll see. :)

I've been having a lot of fun on Twitter. I guess it would have been cool to send a few from the club Friday, but that's not what I was there to do, If you know what I mean.

Episode 3: Real-Time Porn Going On!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:55:30 PDT

The Swap Fus tell you what happened at the packed out meet up. It was kind of cool.

Wanna hear it? Ok. here.

The first date that wasn't

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:08:08 PDT

Ms Swap Fu and I started recording a new podcast last Tuesday night. It was supposed to recount our experience with our first date with another couple. We met them on SDC, exchanged a couple e-mails and they seemed like a good match. The long and the short of it is that we were stood up. Nice, right? Here we are, just barely dipping our toes (and other appendages ;) into the swinger waters and we get stood up, something that never happened to us in our single lives. Crushing!

So, after waiting at the agreed-upon location for more than 40 minutes, we decided to call the number we were given. No answer. It was the male half's mobile and we did not leave a message. Why feed a troll, right? Later that evening, we received an e-mail from (supposedly) the female half saying that the reason they didn't show up was because the male half forgot to remind her of the date. So, just to be straight, they BOTH knew about the date. I do not know what's sadder; that even with two of them, they still miss appointments, or that the female half thinks she can absolve herself for any blame in the matter by saying it was the male's responsibility to keep her schedule.

Ms Swap Fu and I went on and on for about about 30 minutes in the podcast about what had happened. What if we had kids and had had to arrange for a siter? What if we were completely new to the lifestyle, anxious and apprehensive and had this happen? The conversation turned pretty negative pretty quick as you can imagine.

Since neither of us think that our reaction to this situation represents they way we generally feel about the lifestyle, we've opted to not post this podcast. We are going out to the club this weekend and expect to have a great time. We've decided to spare our listeners the bad vibes and hopefully post something positive next week. I'm sure we will touch on the fact that we were stood up in the podcast but, since more than a week will have passed by then, I'm sure our perspective will be more measured.

Until then, have a great week. Your friend, Mr Swap Fu!!

ps. I'm positively green with Envy at all the lucky couples heading to Desire next week. Have a great time folks! We'll get there eventually, and It. Will. Be. On. lol

Gratitude

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 14:16:12 PST

I was pleasantly surprised when John from the Swingercast was the Swap Fu's first Twitter follower. Now, from his podcast you can tell is a great guy, and I'm sure he follows us as a courtesy because we follow him. Still, it make us feel accepted at some level.

Last night he tweeted that he liked our first Episode. All we can say is we're very honored, the material comes from the heart, and we hope the our excitement and joy at being in the lifestyle comes across half as well as it does in the Swingercast. I've been listening to the Swingercast for some time now, and honestly, it is the reason why I felt confident that Ms Swap Fu and I would find community in organized swinging. John and Allie's accounting of their adventures in the lifestyle have paved a way for us and many others to follow.

John and Allie: keep the great podcasts coming! Producing podcasts in not a trivial undertaking. We recognize and appreciate your efforts.

Episode 2: I'm a Dirty Bitch

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:35:57 PST

Ms Swap Fu and I amuse each other talking about our last two club visits. We also bid farewell to the dread morning after call. New music! What do you think?

We'd like to thank all our subscribers and downloaders. Let us know if there is anything you'd like us to discuss. :)

Enjoy!

Link to MP3 File

Today's music is the Crazy Trance loop by Adeline Studios released under the Creative Commons Music Sharing License.

We're on iTunes!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 11:59:02 PST

After about three hours of cyber-toil yesterday, I was able able to get the podcast up and running on Feedburner. The last thing I did was submit the Podcast to iTunes. I guess it worked because I received an e-mail saying we were approved. Hurray!

I don't know why I'm excited by this. My intention with this podcast is to use it as a way to chronicle Ms. Swap Fu's and my experiences as we join the Swinger community. An oral history, so to speak. lol We do hope that our podcast is helpful to others, if for no other reason than because it serves as an added voice. Maybe some will learn from it, maybe not... but the words will be there and be counted.

Episode 1: Swap Fu Begins

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 17:45:08 PST

Show notes:
A very brief introduction of Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu is followed by the reason we decided to get "formal" about swinging. We talk about our first club visit. First impressions of the place and the people. We also have a fun bit about PDA. We end the podcast with a brief plug for Planned Parenthood.

I did a quick and dirty job of editing out anything that would identify our city, the club we attended and the people we met there. I think it's clean enough. ;)

Impressions:
This podcasting shit isn't easy. A lot clunkier than I thought. Getting the ball rolling was a challenge, but once we hit our stride, we couldn't shut up. lol. I cut it back to 24 minutes or so, but we could have done an hour without a problem. I think we'll keep it to 20 - 30 minutes every other week. The next edit will go quicker. I moved to my old editing environment, Sony Vegas. It's meant for video but it also does audio editing very well and it is what I'm used to.

The music is Jah Roots playing "Soul Trouble" which was released with a Podsafe license. I may switch it next time something a little more modern. What do you think?

MP3 File Link

Follow us on Twitter: @swapfu

All comments welcome! Stay tuned for Episode 2: Swap Fu vs. the Smog Monster

Introducing Swap Fu!

swapfu@gmail.com (Mr. and Ms. Swap Fu) — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 12:23:35 PST

This podcast is meant as a journal of Swap Fu's journey into the swinger lifestyle. Our intention is to post a podcast every other week chronicling our experiences and discuss topics that are (hopefully) of interest to the swinger community and to each other. While listening, we hope that you either find yourself nodding in recognition, laughing at our mistakes or maybe learning a new trick or two for your arsenal. Just don't call the cops; we don't like cops.

This Blog will be a show notes repository and place for feedback. Comments welcome, but be nice or go home. :)

I won't get too in depth about who we are, where we came from and how we got into the lifestyle... you can find all that in "Episode I: Swap Fu Begins".