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Flirting or Just Friendly: Is She In To You?

2011-03-14T12:10:00.000-07:00

Many guys are brave and ask girls on dates just because they want to. On the other hand, you may be looking for guidance or reassurance. If you don’t want to put your heart on the line just yet, wait and see if a girl flirts with you. If so, it is almost guaranteed she will accept your date invitation. But, wait! How do you tell if a girl is flirting with you or just being nice?

If she smiles. A smile alone is hard to determine if a girl is just being nice or flirting, but it all depends. To determine, quickly judge it. Some are expressionless smiles, where they look forced. In this instance, she is just being nice, not flirting. On the other hand, you will have excited and seductive smiles. A girl who smiles and giggles or blushes is excited about the contact made. This is flirting. A seductive smile means she has something going on beyond the scenes. Of course, you should approach her, but with a seductive smile, she may just do it herself.

If she makes eye contact. Eye contract can be tricky to determine if a girl is flirting with you. This is because we all make eye contact. We automatically scan a room when we enter it. During that time, we are bound to make eye contact with someone. So, if eye contact is made from afar, it may just be a coincidence. But, if she approaches you and looks into your eyes when talking, she is flirting or at least genuinely interested in the conversation you are having.

If she checks out your body. As previously stated, some women have a seductive smile. A good sign it is time to make your move is if she smiles when looking over your body. You know that not so casual once look over. If she has that seductive smile on her face, act now. It will work to your advantage.

If she separates herself from the crowd. If in a group and the girl you are interested in leaves, watch her actions. Are you at a bar? Does she come and stand next to you to get her drink? Chances are, she is not only flirting but also waiting for you to make conversation. On the other hand, does she separate from the crowd and go elsewhere. Unless she heads for the door or the bathroom, chances are she is interested in someone else. In fact, she may be moving closer to him.

If she approaches you. If you are in a public setting and are approached by a girl, chances are she is flirting with you. Why is it that she picked you out of 20 other guys? It may be because she finds you attractive. If you are unsure, wait for other flirting signs. Does she smile, make eye contact, ask questions, or stay and talk to you as opposed to hangout with her friends? If so, she is flirting with you.

Now that you have an idea whether a girl is flirting with you or just being friendly, you may be wondering what next. If she isn’t flirting with you, don’t let that stop you. Still make contact. You may not want to ask for a date right away, but why not just start a casual conversation? You got nothing to lose.

If she is flirting with you, well that is another story. You should jump right in. Don’t assume that a girl who likes you will make the first contact. Most flirt and then wait for a reaction. This is because they want to know if the guy, which would be you, is interested. If you are, show your interest. Introduce yourself and start a conversation.

After starting a conversation with a girl, regardless of whether she was flirting or not, if you still like her, ask her on a date. “This was fun, why I don’t I give you my number and maybe we can get together sometime?” works great. This is a great line to use, as shows your interest without apply pressure. Never make a girl set a date right then and there unless she offers. You want a date because she genuinely likes you, not because she feels pressured.

First Date Advice

2011-02-26T12:09:00.000-08:00

Did you ask a girl you like out on a date? Did she say yes? Right about now, you may be excited. As your date approaches, your excitement may turn to nervousness. What should I wear? How should I act? Where should we go? Continue reading on for a few helpful tips.

Planning the Date

When you asked the girl on a date, what did you say? If you asked her to the movies, that is where you should go. Do not change a date location without first speaking to her. This is one of the fastest ways to ruin a first date. If you want to sneak in dinner or a drinks, that is okay, but always live up to your words. If you do make changes, discuss them in advance.

If you asked the girl if she would like to go out with you, but didn’t provide her with a destination, start thinking about it now. Don’t decide at the last minute, as this may result in disaster. The best first dates are those where you can have fun and get to know the girl. Opt for movie and a dinner, an outdoor concert, a picnic, bowling, and so forth. If you are still at a loss for ideas, ask her for suggestions.

There are two ways to arrive at a date, together or separate. When possible, you want to drive your date. She may not accept your offer, but at least make it.

Preparing for Your Date

For most men, preparation begins a few hours before date time. Yes, this is true, but think about costs. If you are on a budget, you need to financially prepare for your date ahead of time. You can prevent this from becoming a problem by opting for an affordable destination. For example, don’t choose a restaurant where you can’t afford half the food on the menu.

Most guys prepare for a date by showering. This is a small, but important step. Show up clean. If you don’t think you will have enough time, try to leave work early, skip your afternoon at the gym, and so forth. Do not assume that loading cologne on will hide your smell. It may, but your date may also have a bad reaction to it.

The Date

You want to make a good first impression with your date. The easiest way to do this is to arrive early. Never be late for date. If you will be late, call immediately. Do not assume that all women are alike and running late. Some women run on schedule. Even still, you want to be on time even if you have to wait a few minutes for her.

The goal of a first date is to learn more about the one you are with. For that reason, keep on talking. Pauses in a conversation are common, but try to prevent them. Ask your date questions and she should do the same. If not, talk a little bit about yourself.

The most important thing to remember about first dates is that they aren’t supposed to be perfect. Rarely will a first date go 100% as planned. There will always be awkward moments. There will always be pauses in the conversation and one of you is likely to say something slightly embarrassing. If your first date doesn’t go as planned, don’t panic. Hopefully, you will have a second chance to make a good impression.

Don’t Judge a Woman by Her Looks!

2010-10-01T01:22:00.000-07:00

I know this tip may sound very cliché, but it’s true. At some point or another we’re all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While it’s not right, we still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman. Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty don’t necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.

Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening.

Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

I’m not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. It’s a matter of compatibility. But what women do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. So take the time to find out what’s inside before you discount women based on what’s outside.

First Date Conversation Ideas

2010-09-11T01:14:00.000-07:00

If you are gearing up for a first date, you may be nervous about the conversation. First dates become extremely awkward when the wrong things are said or when nothing is said at all. If topics of discussion on your first date is a fear of yours, continue reading on for a few suggestions.

In terms of first date conversations, it is best to plan. When doing so, break the date down into three different categories. These categories are beginning, middle, and end. When you consider each part of your date, as opposed to the whole night, coming up with conversation ideas doesn’t sound so hard.

As for the beginning of the date, it depends on how you start the night. Did you pickup your date or meet her at the destination? Regardless, opt for a quick greeting. A simple “Hi, thank for coming,” should be the first words out of your mouth.

If you pick a date up at her home, greet her inside and then ask if she is ready to go. Once you get to the car, hold the door open for her. Once inside, ask if she is comfortable. If not, make steps to ensure she is. If she is comfortable, she will likely follow it with something like “you have a nice car.” This is a good starting point. You can mention when you bought it or how you got it for a great deal. Then, ask her about her car.

Another good first date conversation in the car is about likes and dislikes. Are you going to watch a movie? Tell her you hope it is good. Then, ask her what her favorite movie is. If you don’t know it, ask her to summarize it real quick. You can take the same approach with favorite restaurants, bars, music groups, and so forth.

If you meet your date at the destination, such as dinner or a movie, ask how the trip was. Ask if she found the place okay. Do this before asking if she is ready to go inside.

Once your date starts, you will be reaching the middle of the night. This is where you want to get to know your date. So, ask questions. When doing so, don’t dig too deep. Ask about her family. Does she have any siblings? Ask about her job or college classes. These questions always lead to conversation. You can also use them to talk about yourself. Does your date tell you she has a sister and then talk about her? You can do the same, mention your family.

An awkward point in a date is the end. If at a restaurant, you may be unsure when it call it a night. If you are finished eating or drinking, see if your date is interested in doing something else. Does she want to stop and have a few drinks or listen to a band at a local bar? It won’t hurt to ask.

A good date relies on good conversation. This should take place throughout the entire date, but the words you utter at the end of the night have the most influence. Be sure to say you had a good time. You will also want to ask her for a second date. If the date didn’t go so well, you may be nervous about asking. Instead of outright asking, say “You have my phone number. Call if want to do this again.”

The Right Time To Say "I Love You"

2010-03-20T10:36:00.000-07:00

Saying “I love you” for the first time is one of the sweetest things a person can do in his life and hearing it for the first time is one of the best experiences one can have, especially if the feeling is mutual. However, there are risks that are involved in saying “I love you” and if it is not done properly, all will be going down the drain from there.

Timing is one of the most essential elements in expressing one’s love towards another person. Knowing when to express one’s love can seal the deal between two potential lovers.

Here are some things which should be taken into consideration when planning to profess love to another person:

-Readiness

Saying “I love you” will bring a person into new horizons. Most often than not, saying “I love you” entails readiness to enter in a commitment. You profess your love with an assumption that you are ready to take in new challenges and that you are ready share yourself with someone else. The process shouldn’t be done haphazardly.

An assessment of one’s readiness to enter a relationship is a prerequisite to saying “I love you.” Every facet should be taken into consideration since a commitment entails additional time, effort and a decrease in the benefits one gets as a single person.

-Do you really love him?

A careful assessment of one’s feelings should also be done before saying “I love you.” When people date, feelings are often mixed and one feeling can be interpreted as another. Feelings of infatuation, admiration and lust can become synonymous to feelings of love especially when the relationship is in its heat.

One must ask himself if she really loves him a thousand times before saying yes after hearing it from him. It sounds like a cliché but this must be done so as to avoid making mistakes regarding this matter.

- Consequences

One must weight down the consequences which will be brought by saying “I love you.” There are times when the right thing to do is to say nothing at all. At times, being silent about one’s feelings is a way to manifest true love.

Many people fall in love with married persons. This is a classic example which can be used to describe the importance of weighting the consequences of saying “I love you.” Refraining from saying those three words maybe the right thing to do in this situation.

-Read his thoughts
With him saying “I love you,” one must be ready for whatever response she might give instantly. Maybe not all relationships get past the I-love-you stage, but there are relationships which can really benefit from the right timing of saying “I love you.”

If one feels that the feeling is mutual, this is a good sign to continue. But of course, evaluating the guys’ thoughts should be done with complete honesty so as not to force the issue.

-The moment

When all the assessments have been done, it all boils down to timing. If one wishes to say “I love you” back to another person, several things should be taken into consideration when planning for this moment.

-Be ready for his response

Saying “I love you” is a very exciting moment and the risks that it carries add up to its excitement. When someone says “I love you” he must be prepared to take whatever response is given to him. Not all love stories end in happy endings. Think about possible response you'll see in his face after you say “I love you.” back. The response can bring utmost happiness or crushing hurt to the person who is professing his love.

Saying “I love you” can be a daunting task. A lot of preparation should be done to be able to get to that specific moment that could lead to a new relationship. Not all things go into plan but no matter how lousy one gets when professing his love, it shouldn’t really matter as long as he’s sincere and he knows what he is doing. Girls, that should be kept in mind.

All About Love

2010-03-15T01:01:00.000-07:00

How do you know if you’ve ever been in love? Most people would argue that although being in love with someone is non-tangible, there is absolutely no doubt in their mind of it existing. In fact, if you are questioning whether or not you are in love, then you are most certainly not.

While I do not doubt for a second the existence of being in love (albeit being one of those sad individuals yet to experience it), I am somewhat perplexed over our perception of what constitutes humanities most sought after experience.

For me, falling in love with someone is a decision made based on the successful matching of ones own predetermined criteria or preferences.

I fondly refer to the preliminary stage of partner selection as the ‘terminator glasses’ phase, since it filters through a potential mate’s attributes and matches them off against our own unique preferences.

On the New Years Eve just passed I went to meet friends at a bar where we would be celebrating the evening. There, waiting at the door with my friend, I saw HIM for the first time. I did a quick terminator scan:
Height: Around 6 foot. MATCH.
Build: Not too skinny, not too fat, not too buff. MATCH.
Hair: Short dark brown. Not over the top alla David Beckham. MATCH.
Complexion: Dark olive. MATCH.
Lips: Plump. MATCH.
Smile: Oh my God. MATCH.
Eyes: Big, brown, expressive, with long thick lashes. MATCH!
Stance: Gentle, not cocky. MATCH.
Nationality: Clearly foreign, probably Brazilian. MATCH.

With the terminator glasses still firmly planted on my face, the confirmed Brazilian was permitted to move onto the second part of phase one: interaction. This is often the most fatal part of any potential relationship, since every sentence uttered, every look given, and every movement is put through the filter of the terminator glasses. Any miss-match could lead to premature relationship death. Very little is forgiven during this part, especially if one’s program is set at ‘long term mate’. In saying this, it is also my favorite part of the process as it is the most fun. I see it as a game we both know we’re playing, but refuse to acknowledge as existing. One can withdraw from the game at anytime without repercussion (that is, of course, when both parties are working under the same set of rules. If this is not the case a few unwanted phone numbers are collected, followed by a few awkward conversations. And depending on how weak one is - unwanted dates followed by unwanted kisses, possibly ending in unwanted sex!).

Stage two, ‘the rose coloured glasses’ phase, is extremely dangerous and not usually approached with caution by either candidate. Depending on the impact of stage one, bombs warning ‘relationship doom’ could be dropped right in front of ones eyes, yet getting let go un-noticed. Everything appears and is, invariably, utterly workable. Despite my cynicism, this stage is defiantly more exciting than the terminator phase, albeit being laced with the fear of it all ending. The premature ‘I love you’ could escape ones mouth, falling like a ball onto a roulette table. The stakes are high, but it could also very well pay off and pass you onto stage three. Or not…

Declaring the title of stage three is difficult. And the truth is, I don’t know what to call it because I’m usually making my way to the green exit sign above the fire escape before you can say ‘marry me’.

My experience with stage three is that I usually realize Mr Perfect is human. I resist accepting him just the way he is, and try to point out where he is lacking (he is usually not so open to my constructive criticism. I wonder why?). This of course does not lead him to change his ways, but firmly ground himself in them (and resent me in the process). Love and commitment gets swapped with fear and dependence. Some stay to battle it out to the very end, most head straight for the green exit light.

People claim at this point that they have ‘fallen out of love’. My argument is that they were never in love in the first place. One of my favourite movies, ‘Moulin Rouge’, melodically states, “The greatest thing you will ever learn, is just to love, and be loved in return”. I believe this is what we think being in love is all about. Yet being loved in return implies that there is a condition to your giving love. So romantic love is conditional love. If romantic love only goes one-way, it is termed unrequited love or even ‘desperate’.

What if I said that true love can only be unconditional? And inside of that, true love can only mean 100% acceptance of the subject, just the way they are and just the way they’re not. What if love, real love, is just loving?

Anniversary Ideas For Everyone

2010-03-08T00:41:00.000-08:00

Are you about to celebrate a special anniversary with the one you love? Whether you have been together one year or fifty years it is important to celebrate the day in a special and memorable way. Sometimes, as much as you want to bless the one you love in a unique way, it is hard to come up with great anniversary ideas. One of the best ways to think of ideas can be to take a look back through the years of your relationship.

You will be surprised by how many perfect anniversary ideas you come up with simply by remembering special parts about the earliest parts of your time together. For instance, can you remember back to the first date the two of you shared? If so, try to recreate the date over again as a way of celebrating how far you've come. If you are still in the same city this kind of anniversary idea will be much easier to pull off.

Do you remember the first song the two of you danced to or the first film you saw together? Great anniversary ideas are sometimes as simple as renting that first film again or tracking down that old love song and dancing to it again. You will bless and probably surprise your special someone by your planning and the creativity you put into making great anniversary ideas happen.

Brainstorming other anniversary ideas can be easy when you simply think about the things that you and the one you love enjoy doing together. Consider planning a getaway weekend to an area that you have both wanted to visit. Or take your special someone on the cruise they have always wanted to go on. Be extravagant and do everything you can afford to make sure your anniversary is special. Do you love to hike and spend time in the mountains? Perhaps the best anniversary ideas for you would include a camping trip or renting out a cabin in the mountains that you love. Look for ways to incorporate things you already love to do together.

Celebrating anniversaries can be one of the best ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship. When you remember where you have been and all of the hard times that you have gotten through together it will be easy to celebrate a variety of anniversary ideas that come to your head. And perhaps the most important thing to remember as you try to gather and narrow down anniversary ideas is that in the end all that will matter is that you and the one you love get to spend quality
time together.

Top 10 Relationship Tips

2010-03-01T00:36:00.000-08:00

What's the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million dollar question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.

1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.

2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship. A good relationship is built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.

3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner warts and all. Don't try to change them into something they're not, after all you fell in love with them just the way they were.

4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.

5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn't want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing, is the making up afterwards.

6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgement. Don't let your emotions dictate your behaviour. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.

7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go downhill over the years, don't just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the
bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember communication is vital.

8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don't get to dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this, don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance
between the two.

9.Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.

10. Don't ever think that going to counselling is a sign of a failed relationship. It can turna bad relationship around and can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to counselling today than ever, it shows you are both prepared
to try and make things better, which can't be a bad thing at all.

The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it's the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to making your relationship work.

Women! Get More Love By Giving Less.

2010-02-25T00:31:00.000-08:00

Any woman can attract a better quality man or inspire the man she has to give her more love, affection and romance, by learning the truth about Overnurturing.

What is Overnurturing? It's doing too much in a relationship. Giving too much. It's the reverse of how a relationship works best for a woman.Giving is what men are supposed to do. Women are supposed to receive the love, affection and gifts that men give, and then give love and affection back to them. Though many of us have caught onto this, it’s challenging to stop doing what we’ve always done, what we’ve been told is the way to do things, and to fly in the face of the fallout we fear. So I’m going to tackle one little issue – Nurturing.

Nurturing is masculine. If you want to get what he wants to give, stop nurturing your man.

Radical as this sounds, try it. Stop doing. Stop giving. Stop massaging your husband’s feelings. Stop helping your date do the relationship thing and let him flounder until he figures it out. He will.

This whole concept of nurturing is a dilemma for most of us. We think of mothering, nurturing, caring for our young as a feminine aspect of ourselves.

It isn’t.

Nurturing and caring for others may be a female trait – Motherhood is female – but it’s still about action! Nurturing is about doing. Giving. Your energy goes out of you and toward or into someone else. When you give, you are acting from a masculine energy place.

We are so accustomed to the idea of nurturing being feminine, we get confused. We think being loving to our men is nurturing them. Massaging their bodies, minds and spirits. There is nothing wrong with the idea of nurturing – it’s the form our nurturing takes that causes so much difficulty. We are all composed of masculine and feminine (yin and yang) energies. We move through them fluidly at our best, and are stuck in one or the other at our worst.

But most of us are stuck at one extreme or the other. We either give too much all the time and then find ourselves resentful all the time, or we go the other way and make ourselves emotionally unavailable to our dates, our husbands, our boyfriends, and every man we meet.

Too often, our nurturing energies are perceived by men as mothering. Our actions seem intrusive. We seem to be judging them and finding them coming up short – otherwise why would they need taking care of? On the other hand, they love attention. Don’t we all?

To strike some sort of balance when we are all so mightily out of balance, I’m asking you to pull back to zero. To at least imagine pulling back to zero. The baby steps you actually take may seem huge. When you stop doing for your man what he doesn’t need you to do, yet has grown accustomed to your doing, may resent your not doing, and will certainly find himself relieved that you’ve stopped doing, things may get messy before they get better. But they will get better.

This is all about Overfunctioning.

What does Overfunctioning and Overnurturing look like?

You come to the door the moment he gets home and ask him how his day went. You offer to massage his neck, his feet, his back because he looks so tired (even though you’re just as tired.) Or you give your date directions to your house before he asks. And you invite him in and offer him something to eat or drink without even knowing what he has in mind for the evening. You offer to cook him a meal when he’s barely taken you out to a decent restaurant. You offer sex to your husband, without being asked, and even if you’re not in the mood, because you figure you should. You ask him how he feels, and demonstrate concern for his feelings and moods.

This sounds nurturing, but it’s not. It’s mothering. Nurturing a grown-up is giving him what he wants, not what you think he needs. Nurturing a grown-up is not tolerating what you don’t want. Not tolerating him treating himself badly or carelessly if it’s damaging to you or his relationship with you – this means smoking, eating badly, not working, never leaving the house.

And you do it not by telling him what he needs to do and helping him do it, but by telling him how angry it makes you feel when it’s happening. Or telling him how good it feels when he does something that makes you happy. Let him figure out how to take responsibility for making you and the relationship happy – on his end of it.

This is feminine energy – the expression of honest-to-goodness feelings. All the caretaking and fixing and doing and massaging and concern is masculine energy in action, and it will get you nowhere near what you want.

Try it the feminine way. Stop nurturing a grown-up man, and start expressing your feelings moment by moment. The first time is scary – but then, you’ll see – you’ll wonder how you ever loved any other way.

The Funny Side Of Saying - I Love You

2010-02-18T23:16:00.000-08:00

Love, the feeling that makes a person new and feel heavenly. Love, a feeling that changes life within a moment. Have we not heard of love at first sight? One who was happy go lucky in the morning, gets deep and dreamy looks in the eyes by the time the evening arrives. What happened? He/she fell in love during the day and now does not know what to do?

The very first response of such people is dreaming. They have dreams during the night and more often during the day. They lose all attention to their work and the only work left for them is to think of their latest sweetheart. Then begins the planning of where to meet again? How to spot that lovely person again? Through friends, or what? Depends on where the love was found at the first place. After getting few glimpses more, the love deepens and the dreams become more frequent. But at the same time, fear sets in. What if the other party refuses to reciprocate? What if the other one does not like me? So looks are given immediate attention. 'What if the other party is already in love with someone? That will be horrible. Let me not think of that at all. And if it comes to that, I will move heavens to win my love.'

And the final question. How do I say, I Love You? Shall I send a letter with flowers? Shall I send the message through some friend? Shall I meet and dare to tell across the table? How about sending an anonymous letter saying that so and so is madly in love with you. How about you? Shall I first ask for a date and get to become more friendly and then come up with my proposal? One keeps on thinking of so many alternatives and then suddenly one day, blurts out. Please I love you. How about you? And the response is - I also love you since I saw you for the first time, but did not know how to say?

Love is in the Air on Valentines Day

2010-02-14T08:14:00.000-08:00

Well, here we are in February and many people are celebrating St. Valentines. It is a good time to think about love and relationships to put a bit of warmth in our lives after a long winter.

Today, I would like to look at what love is. The English language only has one word for love and it is used interchangeably for almost everything. We can say I love my husband and I love Chocolate.

Both are using the same word and it is only by the context that we can ascertain the difference. The Greeks, on the other hand, have four different words to describe love. Each word gives a different nuance to the word that helps us understand more fully what is being spoken of.

I want to look with you at the four Greek words for love.
These are:
1)    Eros
2)    Storge
3)    Philia
4)    Agape

Eros:
The first type of love we are all familiar with. Our English word Erotica is derived from this word. Sadly, some people never get passed this type of love and base their relationships purely on sexual attraction. This is the type of love that merchandisers tend to play on with the public trying to get us to buy their products to make us more attractive to the opposite sex. Unfortunately, aromatherapy is being misrepresented by these same people also to traffic their products. You would be surprised to see how many products are being offered specifically to attract the opposite sex using aroma.

Studies have been done trying to prove the theory of attraction through Pheromones based on animal instincts. I personally feel that attraction of a life partner is much more than the basis of his/her smell. In fact, it was impossible for me to fall in love with my fiancé based on smell as we met through ICQ on the Internet. It was impossible for smell to play any part in our meeting. Our relationship was based on character and friendship which later developed into love. You can say we met each other and we just clicked ;-) (pun intended)

So, the point is that erotic love is not a deep meaningful love but superficial and based on sexual attractiveness only.

2) Storge:
This type of love is what we find in families between the different members. It is the love of mother, father, brothers and sisters. This is a much stronger type of love and involves commitment. “Blood is thicker than water” and most people will do all they can to stand behind their families.

3) Philia:
This type of love is pertaining to what we might call a brotherly love. Not brotherly in the sense of family, but in the sense of kinsmenship. This is the type of love that makes us want to help the little old lady cross the street safely and watch out for our fellow man. It is a good type of love and helps us to see others as needing our love but, sadly, it can often also be a selfish love. Many people only show love to others if they can get something out of it.  Thankfully, most people love out of pure motives.

4)Agape:
The fourth type of love is called Agape love. This is the highest form of love there is. This is an unconditional love for others in spite of their character flaws and weaknesses. It is a difficult love to obtain simply because we, as humans, are usually concerned more with ourselves and how the world and people around us affect us. In order to love in the agape way, we must overcome our selfishness and look to the needs of others. Prime examples of this type of love are people like Mother Theresa, Cardinal Leger etc. These are people who look out for others interests above their own. It is a special kind of love that needs to be cultivated for it to grow. We can only achieve this type of unselfish loving as we put the needs of others as a priority.

Without getting religious here, I just want to tell you there is a verse from the Bible that fits well with this concept. It is called the Golden Rule. Luke 10:27, says “Love your neighbour as yourself” and "Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." -Matthew 7:12 . All relgions of the world share in this same philosophy.

One thing that stuck out to me as I read these is that it says to love your neighbor as yourself. Sadly, many people in this day and age, don’t love themselves. If you don’t love yourself how can you love others? Unconditional love needs to start with you. You must learn to accept the fact that you are a special and unique person. Yes you have flaws, we are all human, but these flaws do not make you less of a person. Learn to love yourself in spite of your shortcomings and accept yourself for who you are. As you love yourself you will find it easier to love others.

The second thing that stands out is that the Golden rule says to do what you want others to do to you. This is not the same as “Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.” It is not a position of avoiding doing evil or harming others but an actual DOING of something for others. This requires action on your part. It says “DO unto others”. It is when we realize that we reap the rewards of love as we involve ourselves in the lives of others, making their lives easier and more pleasant, as we would want our own lives to be.

Enjoy the month of Love and remember always to love yourself and to DO something for someone each day.

Looking for a good love message?

2010-02-13T08:19:00.000-08:00

Are you looking for the right message to share with your loved one? Then Lovemessage.org is the right web site for you. This web site is dedicated on sharing any form of written love expression from love stories, love poems to sad messages. Sometimes, it is really hard to find the perfect love poem or love quote to write on a card or in a SMS message. But for sure, whatever you need, you will definitely find it here.

Upon entering the web site, you can already see the various sections that are all dedicated to sharing love messages that can help you. The first section is the love messages section where you can find simple love messages to your special someone. You can also find love quotes here that are really good to put in cards especially when you plan to give someone flowers or a gift. The next section is romantic messages. This section is specially made to cater to some of the most romantic messages you can ever send to your special someone. You might not see it, but you just might melt the heart of your loved one with that romantic message.

The next section is the flirty message section. You can try sending the messages here if you are flirting with someone or your lover. It is also good for a laugh or to make a loved one smile. There is also a section for love SMS messages. Since SMS has been a popular form of communication now, you can use this to text your special someone a sweet message to brighten up their day. However, if you really want to make your special someone smile bigger, you can try the funny messages section. There is also a section for messages about unrequited love and this is the sad messages section. If you love someone and that love is not returned, then you might find solace in these messages.

The next section is love songs where you can see lyrics of famous love songs that are dear to people. Lyrics of songs really strike us and you can use this to express what you really feel about your special someone. If you want something deeper than simple messages, you can try looking at the love stories, love poems, and love letters section. Why not try writing the love letter that Napoleon Bonaparte has written as well. Your special someone will find this really sweet and adorable of you.

With all these messages and love works, how can you not find something perfect for you and your special someone? Remember that your special some deserves to hear how much you love them as much as you can. And you also want this for your self too. Being in love is fun, love is fantastic. Keep telling the people around you how much you love them and don't take them for granted. Love does not come as often as we would want it, so when it shows up on your door step, open the door and welcome it. It will be fantastic.

Gift Basket Ideas for the Man in Your Life

2010-02-12T08:04:00.000-08:00

Are you looking for a good gift idea for the man in your life? Are you never quite sure what to get him? Does he have t-shirts and ties you have gotten him hidden in the back of your closet? Even if your man is hard to buy for, there are great ideas out there. If you cannot think of a good gift for your man or are tired of giving him the same old thing, consider a gift basket. Most men have some type of hobby. It might be hunting, fishing, golf, or grilling out. No matter what your man likes to do, chances are you can find a gift basket that will make him happy!

You can purchase gift baskets online, but if you do not have enough time for it to be shipped, you can check your local stores. There may be stores that specifically make gift baskets listed in the phone book. If not, you might contact a local florist as many of them also make gift baskets for special occasions. If you cannot find a local shop and you do not have time to order online, do not panic. Making your own basket is easy enough. You can purchase a basket at any crafts store, use a blanket, apron, or paper to line it and stuff it full of goodies for your man!

Here are a few gift basket ideas:

Grilling Gift Basket - Most men love to grill out. If this describes your man, a grilling basket is a great gift idea. You can fill it with many things but you may want to start with a cute apron. You can go with one that is a cute pattern, like fish, chili peppers, or camouflage. On the other hand, you may be able to find an apron with a cute saying like “Kiss the Chef” or one a little more risqué like “Barbecue Naked - Show Off Your Buns.” On top of that, you can place grilling utensils such as a fork, spatula, brush or tongs. You can also throw in your favorite bottle of barbecue sauce and a nice bottle of wine to enjoy when the grilling is done.

Gone Fishing Gift Basket - If your man likes to fish, he will love a customized Gone Fishing gift basket. Not only will he enjoy the items in the basket, but also know that in giving him this, you are also giving him a day of fishing! You can line this basket with paper and pile in all his fishing favorites. One nice item to add would be a portable fishing scale/tape measure so he can see exactly how big his catch is. You can also load the basket with scented bait, a trout blaster hook, lures, a bait dip net, a pair of Titanium Pliers – the possibilities are endless. You might even throw in the new reel he has had his eye on! You can also fill his basket with snacks for your angler like toasted sesame seed crackers, beef jerky, salted peanuts, and Oreo cookies. If you can find some cute fabric with fish on it, use that to make a bow on top of the basket.
NASCAR Gift Basket - NASCAR fans love almost anything NASCAR gift related. You can fill your man’s basket with his favorite driver’s toy replica cars or a coffee cup with his favorite driver’s number and colors. You can add to the basket a hat, t-shirt, bumper stickers, coasters, magnets, or a key chain. Does your man like to play darts? There are even NASCAR darts! If you really want to give him something extra special, order tickets to his favorite NASCAR race ahead of time and hide those in his basket.

Hunting Gift Basket - If your man likes to hunt, many things can be used to fill a gift basket. Look for picture frames of ducks, deer – whatever he likes to hunt. You may be able to find a clay pigeon letter holder, a bullet box he can keep on his desk to store paper clips, or a DVD on how to be a more successful hunter. You can peruse your local hunting goods store to get plenty of good ideas.

No matter what you man likes, he will love a basket filled with goodies of his favorite hobby or sport. He will also love knowing that you took the time to get him something you knew he would really enjoy!

Yes, You Can Have a Romantic Valentine's Day, On A Budget

2010-02-11T07:58:00.000-08:00

While we would all like to whisk our partner away to celebrate St Valentine's Day at an exotic five star resort, I know I can't afford it, just yet!

Here are some ideas for Valentine's Day luxuries on a budget that will amaze your partner. And if you do it just right, with a little creativity, you can have the ultra-romantic day that will convince your loved one of how much you love him or her. Again.

Getting out into the open air, just the two of you, is a great way to spend Valentines. Head for the hills or the state park. There are walks to suit all - whether its an easy walk or a more demanding hike. Remember, it's February, so its likely that the place will be deserted and you will have all that natural beauty to yourself. And outdoor privacy is so romantic!

Take along a special picnic when you go out. In a small picnic basket collect a tablecloth, a vase with a realistic rose in it, 2 taper candles with holders (don’t forget a lighter) and a lovely meal for two. When you reach the picnic area you can surprise your partner by setting the table for a romantic meal. Sit down and enjoy!

You could take the picnic with you on a romantic drive, or for a day out kite flying or bicycling. Remember that it’s being together that is important.

The outdoors idea even works for couples that have children. There's always plenty for the kids to do if there is a safe and empty playground close by. What better way to celebrate your love than by keeping one eye on the children and reminding yourself why you love them, and their other parent, so much.

Don't fancy the great, romantic, outdoors? Cooking your romantic Valentine’s meal together is a great way to share the day. Male sure that your dinner choice is something you will both enjoy, even better if its a special treat you don't often have. Go over the top in decorating the dining room and go to town on the place settings. Make sure you both dress up in your best clothes, as if it was your first date, with your best jewelry and scent.

The main thing to remember is that if you are together you will have as romantic a time as you would have at a posh resort or an exclusive restaurant. It’s the thought that counts, not how much money you spend.

Valentine Candle Gift Basket

2010-02-10T07:57:00.000-08:00

Come Valentine Day and one can see chaos among lovers in selecting a gift for their partner. Valentine Candle Gift Basket can be one of your perfect gifts for your loving partner. With Valentine Candle Gift Basket you can easily communicate your love, emotion and care for your partner. The basket includes scented and non-scented candles, oil warmer, candle holder as well as non-candle products. Candles are one of the unique and pure gifts that you can give to your partner. With the help of Valentine Candle Gift Basket you can make your next valentine very special and memorable.

You may prefer your nearby Candle Gift Shop, but wait, this time why don't you purchase valentine candle gift basket online? Candle Gift Idea will surely enhance your valentine day. It is absolutely cheaper and has the quality of uniqueness. The gift basket varies as per your convenience and your budget. But the commodity that you get is absolutely designed for your satisfaction. You may have heard that candle is a symbol of truth and faith. So why don't you present candle gift basket to your dear ones?

Each Valentine Candle Gift Basket is designed uniquely so as to communicate your feelings. The candle's shape and categories also varies if you wish for. The valentine candle gift basket that you receive through the online services is one of the top collections and has an excellent fragrance quality with superb candles and holders. Each basket is wrapped nicely and carries a message that you want to communicate.

The candle when burn creates romantic and lovely atmosphere that one desires for. It is the best opportunity to pamper your partner with unique valentine candle gift basket and to light your future. The valentine candles, which are offered in gift basket is manufactured by reputed manufacture and have delicate and unique designs.

Things to Never Tell your Boyfriend about your Ex

2010-02-06T09:53:00.000-08:00

Never bring up anything that has to do with a past ex. This is guaranteed to cause a fight. It is the ultimate taboo conversation. Honesty and open relationships are great, but some things should be kept in the closet. Don't risk damaging a good relationship by mentioning meaningless times from the past.

1) Don't ever talk about him. Even if what you're saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. Your bringing him up hints that he's still on your mind.

2) Never say how good he was at anything. Doing this will create unnecessary anxiety and feelings of inadequacy with your guy.

3) Avoid telling him about intimate and special moments that you and your ex shared. Yes, it's important that he knows about you. And, yes, he needs to learn to deal with his insecurities. But...why make him insecure in the first place? Is it really that important for him to know everything about you?

4) Never mention your sexual past...especially if it was good. If your boyfriend asks you what it was like or how good it was, lie if you have to. Say it wasn't all that.

5) Avoid telling stories or reminiscing about events that involved your ex...even if the story has little to do with him. Examples are: "I went to a great restaurant once..." or "Last year I went to this amusement park and had a great time..." or "I went to the beach last summer..."

Observing these 5 basic principles that will ensure that the quality of your relationship reaches its full potential. If you haven’t been following these general rules up to this point, you probably don’t know what the true quality of your relationship could be. And, you’ve probably got a boyfriend with a lot of pent up anger, frustration, and insecurity. If that’s the case, then you can turn over a new leaf today and get thing headed in the right direction by making a few changes in the way you’ve been acting.

Say - I Love You With Ecards And Avoid Embarassment

2010-02-02T09:47:00.001-08:00

I love you - how to say this? Many of us in love have great difficulty saying this. Yesterday I read a post by a girl in a forum saying that her boy friend was waiting for her to say I love you and she was waiting for him to say-I love you.

How about using ecards to say I love you avoid the hesitation? This takes courage to say I love you for the first time, because the reaction is never known and one worries about what the reaction may be. Ecards are the best way to say I love you and wait for the response. You will avoid lot of trouble with this method.

Love ecards come under different topics. They are generally - Free Love Ecards, Be Mine Forever Ecards, Birthday Ecards, Crazy In love Ecards, Let Me Love You Ecards, Love Notes Ecards, Miss You Ecards, Marry Me Ecards, and I Love You Ecards.
Depending on your need of expression, you can chose few of these ecards and send them across.

Select lovely colors of ecards. The design should be very beautiful and enchanting. The whole effect should be very romantic. The recipient should go in the romantic mood after looking at the ecard. Love and romance should pour from the ecard and the text should be very exciting and passionate. Love is a game of feelings. The cards should do that with design, images, text and color.

Select the right ecard and send it across. If your choice is right, you will get one card saying I love you in return mail. To express the intensity of your love, send as many ecards as you can at the very first instant and hope for the best. It will happen.

Will We Grow Old Together?

2010-01-17T10:53:00.000-08:00

In today's age for a couple to think of growing together till old age looks difficult. The rate at which divorces are taking place and couples separate, it is a difficult task. This was not so, only two three decades ago. The changing norms have taken a big toll on the relationships.

How about you?
Do you believe that you will grow together till old age?

The determination that we would not separate may play a big role. Once you have decided the goal - no separating, you will act towards achieving that goal. Please make this bond with your partner that you will not separate. I wish to add something here. When things are going smoothly, all such promises sound very good. As soon as a crack appears, the same looks very difficult. The need is to take care when the cracks appear.

Why do the cracks appear? Miscommunication, discords, different views on very important matters, career problems, health problems, third person entering the relationship, and many other factors can play role in this. As time passes, distances may grow. The reverse also happens. But nowadays it seems that the earlier case occurs more often.

Do you want to grow together till old age?
Are you sure that your choice of partner is perfect for you?
Is your partner also sure? Both of you have considered every factor?
If there are any complaints, you are ready to sort them out?
Do you keep the communication open?
Do you love each other?
What about caring?

Please consider all these and draw plan so that separation becomes a very difficult possibility.

Sweet Things To Say To Your Boyfriend - Twilight Saga Style

2009-11-30T22:25:00.000-08:00

The "Twilight SAGA" had hit the world by storms. It's breaking box office records as well as book bestsellers too. But more than that, It hits the hearts of millions of girls straight on the center. I myself is one of its followers due to the author's creativity of bringing the old story "Boyfriend and Bestfriend Rivalry" to a new level. But what does the Twilight SAGA have that the others don't have? It is because it is written in the environment of the new generation (with Edward Cullen saying you can google it) while its script is full of romantic lines that can be derive from the old history of romantic novels.

So if you are looking for sweet things to say to your boyfriend? Try to read those twilight SAGA books you have again and you'll discover a bunch of pickup lines you can use. Here are just some of my Favorite romantic lines from the Twilight SAGA books. Enjoy!!

Twilight Book

Your scent is like a drug to me. It's like you're my own personal brand of Heroine.
- Edward, Twilight

For almost ninety years I’ve walked among my kind, and yours all the time thinking I was complete in myself, not realizing what I was seeking. And not finding anything, because you weren’t alive yet
- Edward, Twilight

I Promise to love You Forever- Every Single Day of Forever.
- Edward, Twilight

Surely it was a good way to die, in the place of someone else, someone I loved. Noble, even. That ought to count for something.
- Bella, Twilight

I love you more than everything else in the world combined. Isn’t that enough?
- bella, Twilight

I don't have the strength to stay away from you anymore.
- Edward, Twilight

Bella: I've dream about being a vampire.
Edward: That's what you dream about? Being a monster?
Bella: I dream about being with you forever.
- Edward and Bella, Twilight

Today is the first and last day of forever.
- Edward, Twilight

Bella, I couldn’t live with myself if I ever hurt you. You are the most important thing to me now. The most important thing to me ever.
- Edward, Twilight

He was a different Edward than the one I had known. And I felt all the more besotted by him. It would cause me physical pain to be separated from him now.
- Bella, Twilight

I could talk to him forever, never sleeping, never leaving his side.
- Bella, Twilight

About three things I was absolutely positive. First, Edward was a vampire. Second, there was part of him — and I didn’t know how potent that part might be — that thirsted for my blood. And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him.
- Bella, Twilight

New Moon Book

Where you are is the right place for me. You’re the very best part of my life.
- Bella, New Moon

Only you could be more important than what I wanted… what I needed. What I want and need is to be with you, and I know I’ll never be strong enough to leave again. I have too many excuses to stay — thank heaven for that
- Edward, New Moon

You're not asleep and you're not dead. I'm here and I love you. I have always loved you. I was thinking of you, seeing your face in my mind every second that I was away.
- Edward, New Moon

“Before you, my life was like a moonless night. Very dark, but there were stars — points of light and reason. And then you shot across my sky like a meteor. Suddenly everything was on fire; there was brilliancy, there was beauty. When you were gone, when the meteor had fallen over the horizon, everything went black. Nothing had changed, but my eyes were blinded by the light. I couldn’t see the stars anymore. And there was no more reason for anything.”
- Edward, New Moon

Eclipse Book
Most people fall in and out of love many times in their lives. It was just that I’d seen Sam with Emily, and I couldn’t imagine him with someone else. The way he looked at her… well, it reminded me of a look I’d seen sometimes in Edward’s eyes — when he was looking at me.
- Bella, Eclipse

I don’t want to be happy with anyone but him.
- Bella, Eclipse

You can’t make me go somewhere you won’t be. That’s my definition of hell.
- Bella, Eclipse

You may be brave enough or strong enough to live without me, if that’s what’s best. But I could never be that self-sacrificing. I have to be with you. It’s the only way I can live.
- Bella, Eclipse

Do you really have any idea how important you are to me? Any concept at all of how much I love you?
- Edward, Eclipse

I'll be back so soon you won't have time to miss me.
- Edward, Eclipse

You are the only one who has ever touched my heart. It will always be yours.
- Edward, Eclipse

He’s like a drug for you, Bella. I see that you can’t live without him now. It’s too late. But I would have been healthier for you. Not a drug; I would have been the air, the sun.
- Jacob, Eclipse

It’s not like love at first sight, really. It’s more like… gravity moves. When you see her, suddenly it’s not the earth holding you here anymore. She does. And nothing matters more than her. And you would do anything for her, be anything for her… You become whatever she needs you to be, whether that’s a protector, or a lover, or a friend, or a brother.
- Jacob, Eclipse

But I’ll never see anyone else, Bella. I only see you. Even when I close my eyes and try to see something else.
- Jacob, Eclipse

Breaking Dawn Book

Now you know. No one’s ever loved anyone as much as I love you.
- Bella, Breaking Dawn

Do you want me to sing to you? I’ll sing all night if it will keep the bad dreams away.
- Edward, Breaking Dawn

If there's one thing that I absolutely love about the Twilight SAGA is it's unfailing lines that touches my heart as well as my boyfriend's heart (would you believe that?). It is indeed a source of sweet things to say to your boyfriend that will make his heart melt without being too cheesy. Try to use these lines with your boyfriend and he'll surely love you whether he is a twilight fan or not. These kinds of movie brought back the love to all youth, so I salute the Twilight SAGA for doing a great job!!

And our favorite twilight quote that had been included on the top list of Romantic quotes in a movies according to movie crtitics would be:

"Keep my heart safe, I've left it with you" - Edward, Eclipse

Sweet Things To Say To Your Boyfriend - Funny But Sweet

2009-11-30T21:01:00.000-08:00

Boys do get a lot of chance to hit up sweet talk pick up lines on girls that they like. They always use that to get their names, number and attention. Then hook up and be together in a relationship later. Or better yet, they use with their girlfriend so that their girlfriends will be flattered and will like that common sense they give in. I think we girls, should have our fair chance of uttering up cheesy pick up line too. Anyway, it is a new generation today and girls can now approach guys. and they can also make their boyfriends laugh.

So here are some sweet things to say to your boyfriend or future boyfriend - cheesy pickup line edition. Hope you'll enjoy!!

1. Are you lost? Because heaven is a long way from here.

2. You look almost perfect...the only thing I can see that's wrong is your lips...
They're not touching mine.

3.So, I finally found you…the girl of my dreams

4. Your name must be cheerios... because you seem healthy for my heart.

5. You Dropped something - "My jaw"

6. You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall...
is fall in love with me.

7. Crap. Something is wrong with my cell phone. Can you check it?
Its just that...your numbers not in it.

8. Help!! There's something wrong with my eyes because I can't take them off you.

9. Do you have a Band aid? Cos I just scraped my knee falling for you.

10. I hope you know CPR because you take my breath away.

Top Romantic Movies #20 - Music And Lyrics

2009-11-20T02:38:00.000-08:00

Music And Lyrics
Share the music with someone you love

I can say that Music And Lyrics is one movie that is music to the ears of anyone needing a sweet romantic comedy that hits all the right notes. It is a much watch movie for all and even guys can enjoy it. Believe me.

Alex Fletcher (Hugh Grant) enjoyed considerable fame and success in the 1980s and early 1990s as one of the founding members of the band PoP! however, after they disbanded, his songwriting partner Colin Thompson became a popular solo act, while Alex's own career nosedived. Alex is given a chance at a comeback when teenage pop diva Cora Corman (Haley Bennett) commissions him to write a song called “A Way Back Into Love” for her new CD which is on the verge of completion, leaving him only days to fulfill her request.

Alex discovers that Sophie Fisher (Drew Barrymore), who waters his plants, has something of a gift for writing song lyrics. Sophie, a former creative writing student reeling from a disastrous romance with her former English professor, Sloan Cates (Campbell Scott), Over the next few days, Sophie and Alex continue to write “A Way Back Into Love”, gradually growing closer, much to the delight of Sophie’s older sister Rhonda (Kristen Johnston), a fan of Alex’s from his PoP! days.

Managing to barely meet the deadline Cora has set for the song’s delivery, Alex and Sophie are thrilled when she accepts it; however, Sophie is horrified when she discovers Cora plans to record a sexually-charged interpretation of "A Way Back into Love," complete with a "sweaty and sticky" Indian vibe she feels clashes with the romantic spirit of the song. She is determined to convince Cora to abandon the bizarre arrangement, only to find Alex vetoing her efforts for fear he will lose the opportunity to work with Cora and revive his career. In the ensuing argument, he admits Cora's version is awful but contends accepting it is the cost of doing business. Upset by Alex's willingness, Sophie leaves him.

Sophie, intending to start a new life in Florida, reluctantly attends the opening of Cora's new tour at Madison Square Garden, at which Alex and Cora will debut “A Way Back Into Love”. Upon hearing that Alex is singing a new song “written by Alex Fletcher”, Sophie is upset to believe that Alex is stealing credit for her work; however, the song Alex sings is called "Don't Write Me Off", a self-penned plea for Sophie to give their relationship another chance. Touched, Sophie finds Alex backstage, He and Cora perform the tune as he and Sophie intended it to be sung, and the two songwriters embrace in the wings.

Why I Chose This:
I choose this simply because this movie had been the favorite movie of my class during college. And I mean my whole class. Boys and girls. So, I really think this movie touches hearts. But most especially the song "Way Back Into Love" is so romantic that people had fallen in love with it listening over the radio, how much more if you see the movie about it being composed and arranged?

Favorite Scene:
My favorite scene is when alex sings “dance with me tonight” because the song is just so romantic and through out all the people in the park watching him sing, he directly look to sophie that seems to mean that the song is for her.

Favorite Quote:
Sophie: A melody is like seeing someone for the first time. The physical attraction. Sex. But then, as you get to know the person, that's the lyrics. Their story. Who they are underneath. It's the combination of the two that makes it magic.

Top Romantic Movies #19 - My Sassy Girl (Korean Version)

2009-11-20T02:36:00.000-08:00

My Sassy Girl (2001)
She will turn his world upside down

Why is this film so great? At first glance, the story may really look typical, but the director was wise enough to turn banal subject into good drama. Surprise keeps popping up since every scene is handled creatively and every dialogue is built up brilliantly.

"My Sassy Girl" is based on an on-line serial written by Kim Ho-sik that detailed his relationship with his off-the-wall college girlfriend. This was eventually compiled into a best-selling book and caught the attention of director Kwak Jae-young, who wrote the script for the film. The story kicks off with college student Kyun-woo who had never been in love (Korean pop singer Cha Tae-hyun, in his feature film debut) crossing paths with a drunk but beautiful elusive girl (Jun Ji-hyun of "Il Mare") on a late-night subway. Just before she passes out, the girl looks at Kyun-woo and calls him 'honey'. The other passengers, assuming him to be the hapless girl's boyfriend, demand that Kyun-woo look after her. After carrying her on his back for what seems to be miles, Kyun-woo drops the girl off at a motel. But instead of leaving her and getting on his way, Kyun-woo finds himself intrigued by the nameless girl and vows to do whatever he can to heal her sorrow.

Unfortunately, he gets far more than he bargained as he becomes wrapped around the finger of this strange girl, whose dramatic mood swings are outmatched only by her penchant for sociopathic behavior. When they dine out and Kyung-woo orders anything but coffee, she barks her mantra "Do you wanna die?" and then promptly changes his order to coffee. When her feet begin aching from walking, she forces Kyung-woo to switch his comfortable running shoes for her high heels. And being a budding screenwriter, she demands that Kyung-woo read her wacky treatments, or else face an ass kicking. However, despite these crazy antics (not to mention landing in jail a few times), Kyun-woo finds himself hopelessly hooked on this 'sassy girl'. And though the girl seems to relish in humiliating and belittling those around her, it becomes clear that underneath the brash exterior is a wounded soul who holds a genuine affection for Kyun-woo.

Ji-hyun engages Kyun-woo in an unusual and eccentric courtship. And when the reason has been revealed in the end, that Jun Ji-hyun first boyfriend dies and Kyun-woo resembles his boyfriend a lot. That’s why she made him do those things. I cant help but cry in some instances of this film. In the end, it was discover that Kyun-woo is Ji-hyun's cousin.

Why I Chose This:
I really love this film because it will make you laugh from some time but will broke your heart into pieces in a second. Indeed after watching this movie Kyun-woo had become the man of my dreams. Yes, a man that will wear high heels just to make her girlfriend feel comfortable and a man who knows by heart everything his girlfriend wants. And a man who is willing to sacrifice for love.

Favorite Scene:
The scene where in Jun Ji-hyun dates another man and then he invites Kyun-woo to come over and meet that man. When she went to the bathroom, Kyun-woo made a list of the things she wants and wants to do and handle it to her date. It is just touching that Kyun-woo remember that all.

Favorite Quote:
Kyun-woo: Whether we're together or apart, you will always be the woman of my life.

Top Romantic Movies #18 - A Walk To Remember

2009-11-20T02:34:00.000-08:00

A Walk To Remember (2002)
She didn't belong. She was misunderstood. And she would change him forever.

I have so many favorite scenes here. So many scenes that I cry or had felt chill and romance. Although some people said that A Walk To Remember is just another chick flick that guys can't relate in, for me it is still one of the best romantic movie of all time. Let's add the fact that it is based on a book of Nicholas Sparks, one of the most romantic writers ever.

Love and loss throughout two very young lives. Landon Carter and Jamie Sullivan - two people who find themselves unexpectedly thrown together after a practical joke between Landon and his friends which leaves a boy in hospital, as punishment Landon is forced to partake in some after school activities including the spring play. The truth of the matter is Landon can't act, so he acquires the help of the beautiful but some what invisible Jamie you see Jamie doesn't need to be noticed, she is quiet and keeps her self to her self most of the time.

Landon and his friends always make fun of Jamie as if it is a day to day task, but one day Landon brings up the courage to ask for her help with his lines, through trials and tribulations leading up to this play Landon some how falls in love with the beautiful ministers daughter abandoning his friends to be with her. The two pursue a relationship. He asks if she will go to dinner with him, but she replies that she is not allowed to date. He wants the date so badly that he goes to her father in the church and asks him if he can take Jamie out to dinner. Her father says no. Landon asks for her father to have faith in him. He eventually says yes.

One evening, Jamie finally tells Landon that she has terminal leukemia and has stopped responding to treatments. Landon gets upset at first. Jamie tells him that the reason why she didn't tell him was because she was moving on with her life and using the time she had left. Jamie's cancer gets worse until she collapses in her father's arms. He rushes her to the hospital where he meets Landon. Landon doesn't leave Jamie's side until her father practically has to pry him away. Jamie's father sits and tells her that "If I've kept you too close, it's because I wanted to keep you longer." Jamie tells her father that she loves him so much and he eventually breaks down into tears.

The movie ends with Jamie's death, but only after the couple are married in the same chapel as was Jamie's deceased mother, the event that topped Jamie's wish list. Landon himself becomes a better person through Jamie's memory, achieving the goals that he set out to do, like she did.

Why I Chose This:
It is always nice to watch a film about two people being completely different but is bounded by love. It is also nice to incorporate God and miracles with love because in reality, it is true, that love is nothing without God on it.

Favorite Scene:
The last scene is just so simple but it always moves me to tears, it's beautiful. The end when Landon is on the pier, talking about how he hasn't removed his wedding ring since their wedding. And how he says 'Love is like the Wind...you can't see it...but you can feel it.' then it goes into the 'I'll always remember' song by Mandy Moore. Maybe because of shane west ways of throwing the dialogue, it feels so real. Maybe he really can relate about losing someone you love.

Favorite Quote:
Ladon: Jamie saved my life. She taught me everything. About life, hope and the long journey ahead. I'll always miss her. But our love is like the wind. I can't see it, but I can feel it.

Top Romantic Movies #17 - Lake House

2009-11-20T02:32:00.000-08:00

Lake House (2006)
How do you hold on to someone you've never met?

Love stories seem to always be about finding the right love at the wrong time. The Lake House takes that to heart by having the protagonists fall in love with each other even though they live in different times. The ending of the story was truly unexpected. This is a movie everybody should watch not just because it is romantic but because it is really a very good movie.

Feeling that it's time for a change in her life, Dr. Kate Forster (SANDRA BULLOCK) leaves the suburban Illinois locale where she completed her residency and takes a job at a busy Chicago hospital. One thing she is reluctant to leave behind is the uniquely beautiful house she's been renting - a spacious and artfully designed refuge with large windows that overlook a placid lake.

It's a place in which she felt her true self. It is a winter morning in 2006. On her way to the city, Kate leaves a note in the mailbox for house's next tenant, asking him to forward her mail and noting that the inexplicable painted paw prints he might notice by the front door were there when she moved in. But when the next tenant arrives, he sees a much different picture. Alex Wyler (KEANU REEVES), a talented but frustrated architect working at a nearby construction site, finds the lake house badly neglected: dusty, dirty and overgrown with weeds. And no sign of paw prints anywhere. The house has special meaning for Alex.

In a happier time it was built by his estranged father (CHRISTOPHER PLUMMER), a renowned architect who allowed his professional acclaim to grow at the expense of his family life. Alex feels a sense of peace here now and commits to restoring the property to its original beauty. He disregards Kate's note until, days later, while painting the weather-beaten jetty he sees a stray dog run across the fresh paint and then towards the entrance of the house, leaving paw prints exactly where she said they'd be. Baffled, Alex writes back, saying that the house had no occupant before him and wondering how she could have known about the dog; while Kate, who just left it a week ago, imagines he is playing some kind of joke on her and fires back a reply.

Just for argument's sake, what day is it there? April 14, 2004. No, she says. It's April 14, 2006. The same day, two years apart. Can this be happening? As Kate and Alex continue to correspond through the lake house's mailbox they confirm that they are, incredibly, impossibly, living two years apart, and each at a time in their lives when they are struggling with past disappointments and trying to make a new start. Sharing this unusual bond, they reveal more of themselves to one another with each passing week - their secrets, their doubts and dreams, until they find themselves falling in love. Determined to bridge the distance between them at last and unravel the mystery behind their extraordinary connection, they tempt fate by arranging to meet. But, by trying to join their two separate worlds, they could risk losing each other forever.

Why I Chose This:
This is a very good movie... sweet without being too sappy. I loved the premise of the story, which made a little more interesting than your usual love story. Reeves and Bullock do have excellent chemistry together, her all-American girl-next-door appeal grounds his physical beauty, and when the two do get to be in the same place at the same time the film fulfills its goals.

Favorite Scene:
My favorite scene was when she went to his brother company and she saw the picture of the lake house and asked about her love then she knew that he is dead she cried and i cried for her too , sandra cried from her heart at this scene i felt her.

Favorite Quote:
Kate: One man I can never meet. Him, I would like to give my whole heart to.

Top Romantic Movies #16 - 50 First Date

2009-11-20T02:30:00.000-08:00

50 First Date (2004)
Win The Girl Of Your Dream Every Frigging Day

Where "50 First Dates" proves its worth is in the chemistry between Adam Sandler (2002's "Punch-Drunk Love") and Drew Barrymore (2003's "Duplex"), who are one of the most note-perfect romantic couples in movie history. They had that certain something in "The Wedding Singer" that made your heart want to sing, and they have it again here.

Henry Roth, a womanizing marine-life veterinarian living in Hawaii, meets Lucy Whitmore, an art teacher, in a café one morning. They hit it off and agree to meet the next morning. The following day, however, Lucy claims not to know Henry. The café owner pulls Henry aside and explains that Lucy suffers from anterograde amnesia (called 'Goldfield Syndrome' in the film) as a result of a car accident she was in a year earlier. Her condition has left her with no memory of anything between the day of the accident and the present, because she is incapable of converting short-term memories into long-term memories. At the beginning of each day, she loses all memory of the past day. She innocently believes every day to be October 13, 2002. Her father, Marlin, and brother, Doug, attempt to re-enact the activities of October 13, her father's birthday, every day, to prevent her from suffering from learning about the accident.

Realizing that he is beginning to fall in love with Lucy, Henry sheds his philandering ways and begins devising new ways to 'meet' her again every day, hoping that one day she will retain her memories – and feelings – for him. Henry and Lucy's family eventually realize that they cannot lie to her about what has happened forever, and so instead begin to leave video tapes for her to watch each morning, explaining her situation and relationship with Henry. Over time, Lucy begins to reciprocate Henry's feelings, even going so far as to accept his marriage proposal.

One morning, however, she overhears Henry telling Marlin that he has canceled his plans to sail to the Arctic on a research expedition – something he had been planning and saving money for ten years – in order to be with Lucy. Not wanting to be the person to hold him back, she ends the relationship and commits herself to a specialist unit in hospital, allowing herself to forget all about Henry. A heartbroken Henry, meanwhile, finally saves the money needed to begin his trip, and, after a farewell from Marlin and Doug, sets sail. Shortly after departing he realizes that Marlin had hinted that Lucy had indeed remembered Henry, and he rushes back to the hospital to see her. Upon seeing him again, Lucy explains that she still does not know who Henry is, but that she has somehow remembered his face and she had dreams with him in them, as evidenced by the many paintings and pictures she has produced of him whilst in hospital. Knowing that this is proof of the love she has for him, and he for her, the couple reunite.

Several years later Lucy wakes up in a strange bed with a video tape on the night stand next to her, reading "Good Morning, Lucy". She watches it, and cries as she relives her accident while the tape explains everything that has happened, including scenes from Henry and Lucy's wedding. She then looks out the window and is shocked to find out that she is on a boat in the Arctic. She comes out onto the deck of the boat to be greeted by Henry as well as her father and her young daughter sailing on Henry's ship, his dream finally fulfilled.

Why I Chose This:
A movie that shows a guy constantly proving his love everyday to a girl. What more could I ask for? How romantic is that? Showing your girlfriend how much you love her everyday and not giving up even if there were no hint of sign that she will remember you is just the sweetest thing on earth. Adam sandler is truly a charmer and will definitely captures every woman's heart in this romantic movie.

Favorite Scene:
The scene at the end of the movie when she wakes up on the boat and she plays the video reminding her of her life and her daughter runs up to her, makes me cry every time.

Favorite Quote:
Henry: You erased me from your memories because you thought you were holding me back from having a full and happy life. But you made a mistake. Being with you is the only way I could have a full and happy life. You're the girl of my dreams.