Relationships can be hard work. Try to remember if you want your own way and your spouse, partner or friend want s their own way how do you meet in agreement? Compromise, that is deliberately putting aside your defensive barriers to see [understand] what the other person is offering. Go on take a risk.

What you say about yourself is a powerful influence over what you believe about yourself. So believe wonderful things about yourself; overcome your embarrassment and shyness and speak wonderful things about yourself. It will change you.

Always think before you speak; any consequences will be easier to deal with..

In your relationship you and the other person have needs, your needs are just as important and the other person\'s needs. So if both have equal needs how do you decide between them? Negotiation, dialogue is the proven way, talk to one another and agree the way forward.

Do you know what your anger costs you - physically?

Think of an argument has being a tap, and the behaviour as being water flowing from the tap. Ok if you don\'t turn the tap on, even though you might feel like it, the water won\'t flow...

What do you look to get [take] from a relationship? What do you look to put into the relationship? Chances are you\'ll get from the relationship what you put in...

The hardest relationship to get right is the relationship you have with yourself! Somewhere it says \"love your neighbour as yourself..!\" If you don\'t love yourself is it surprise that you have problems with others? Find out what love means and then apply it to yourself, the results may be lifechanging.

Have you recently taken time to review your values, those beliefs about yourself and the world around that affect all you think and do? No! Well have a go and see what comes to mind. You might want to change something...

I\'m sure you know that your thoughts dictate your behaviour! No, you didn\'t know that! Well they do; so what if you made a decision to think thoughts that were only and entirely positive and good, then see how your behaviour changes. It will be hard work, thoughts are tricky things to change but not impossible. Go for it you\'ll love the difference and so will others.

Are you a \'worry warrior\'? You might be a very effective worrier but is it good for you? How will you identify the cause or causes of worry and stop the cycle leading to disabling \'stress and anxiety\'? Why not talk to someone who will listen and get a new perspective?

Be vigilant at all times; watchfulness is the price of constant victory...!

The mask you wear in public is not going to protect you; you can face up to the real you, after all it is who you were born to be.

If you have well defined and well maintained boundaries you\'ll be clear about what to allow and what not to allow in your life.

If you had the chance to start again, knowing what you do know, where would you start? Well, it\'s really simple, you can start again. Do it know before you change your mind. It makes sense.

Have you ever thought about the \'values\' you live by? Well have a go now; you might be surprised by the outcome! You can always change something to improve your life.

What would it take to convince you that you have, within you, everything you need to overcome? Why not contact me to see what that means.

Being connected to another gives purpose to our lives; shame is the fear of being disconnected.

What would it take to convince you that there is a way to become confident?

People are made to be in relationship with one another. All of the skills and abilities necessary to build relationship are inside but they need to be worked on. Do you need help?

Feelings of shame really effect us and damage our ability to change circumstances. Shame may paralyse you but it doesn\'t have to; neither does it have to cause fear rage or distress but it has to be challenged. Seek help now.

A joyful heart is good medicine to you, to others ...

Did you know that anxiety in the heart weighs it down? If so, how much are you carrying? How much energy does it take to carry on your day-to-day activities? What if you got rid of it or at least reduce it? There would be great benefits for your life.

A wise person will hear what is being said and increase their understanding.

Everyone from time to time gets negative thoughts about themselves; perhaps you are a person who \'allows\' those thoughts to pull them down into depression. Today, why not take a risk and challenge those thoughts, they might be lies or distorted thinking. Say \'good\' things and watch the change start.

Stress often results from unspoken thoughts, emotions that are not dealt with or feelings that you do not properly understand or express. You need to find someone to talk to someone who will give you the time and space you need to be yourself.

Did you know that hurt people hurt people? Everyone you know has been hurt at some time in their life; perhaps part of hurting others comes from trying to get even with the person who hurt you. Do you need to do it?

If mood effects attitude and attitude effects behaviour what is your mood saying through your behaviour?

Are you able to recognise when jealousy affects your relationship? Jealousy is very damaging, you can choose to take control and change this negative damaging emotion. One step at a time.

Any relationship without love is a relationship without the power to deal with the problems it will face.

Do we reap the rewards of our actions? What are you reaping? How might you change your actions to change your rewards?

You know that your actions \'speak louder than words\', so what do you\'re actions say to those who live with you?

Think more about what you want to say; be careful that your behaviour doesn\'t say more than you really want.

Always be carefully with your words; remember once spoken out words cannot be called back!

Holding onto your pain and not releasing the feelings you have might be damaging. Why not find someone to trust and talk about the problems with them? Try Talk It Through...

How honest and open are you? All behaviour is communication so does your behaviour conflict with your conversation?

Every act of life reveals character. Living life cooperatively, making room for the other person, is all about character. How does your character show itself?

Attitude, attitude! It\'s all about attitude!!!

How does denial effect my perspective?

If every act of life reveals character. What do you think someone would recognise about your charcter from the way you behave in reaction to daily events?

Which word is the hardest for you to use? I know that I had the most difficulty using the word \'no\' but once I started to understand how and when to use it properly my life started to change. What about you, do you need someone to talk to?

You are free to think your own thoughts but be careful what you speak out. When you speak a word it can take on a life of its own and you can\'t control the impact.

I have always thought that I have \'free will\'. My \'will\' seems to be influenced by many things and often seems to be anything but \'free\'. How about you? Do you feel as though your will is \'free\'? Why not let em know what you think?

I wonder, do you know that you create your own feelings of anger when another person treats you badly? I know I do. The challenge for me is to change my anger by preparing myself for more constructive action that is neither harmful or damaging either to me or the other person. Do you need to discuss your feeling of anger which get in the way of mending your damaged relationships? You could speak to me.