Tangled Wishes

With Love InSight

2012-02-03T05:00:00.001-08:00

I had every intention of writing a new Valentine story for you, but each time I did I was reminded by last year's story (a true story) and the powerful message that it shared. And so I hope that you don't mind a repeat for those who've been on my newsletter list for over a year. It is a story which reminds us that speaking our feelings is important even after our physical body leaves this earth. So many times I have clients in my office who ache that they weren't able to say that last 'I love you' or feel that the person they lost might not have known how they felt. Sometimes the littlest thing in life changes something forever. Don't live with regrets, live with love.

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He was dying and she wasn't quite sure what she would do without him. The heart surgery was do or die, but the surgeon had already warned that the percentage of survival wasn't good. All they could do was hope for a miracle and go through with the surgery.

Nick and Betty married when they were just 18 years old and soon after had two sons they both doted on. Except for staying in the hospital after having the boys, they had never been apart and leaving Nick in the hospital, fighting for his life, for the past week had been absolute torture to Betty. She asked if she could sleep in the chair next to him, but the nurses reassured her that he was well taken care of and that she needed rest herself. Reluctantly, she would go home, pet their Maltese Patches and sob herself to sleep, praying that God give her the strength and give Nick the strength to survive.

February 14th was ironically the date of Nick's surgery. It also was their wedding anniversary. She tried to believe it was an omen of good luck. After all, heart surgery on Valentine's Day had to speak for something. Or so Betty tried to convince herself. She said her goodbyes to him as they wheeled him into surgery, her bright blue eyes sparkling with tears.

"XOXO," he said to her, smiling and giving her the thumbs up.

Betty laughed. Nick rarely said 'I Love You', but instead would say 'XOXO'. She gave him a final kiss and watched until the large white double doors closed and he was out of sight. Her sons, one on each side of her, led her to the waiting room for the grueling wait. They had been forewarned that if he survived, the recovery would be long and it would probably be a few days before he was cognitive. Betty didn't care. She would wait; he was worth it. She loved his tousled gray hair and his sparkling green eyes. She loved his five-o-clock shadow and the way that he left his coffee cup on the table, always making stains. She loved the way he smelled after his walks Up North and how he would nuzzle into her neck, keeping her awake with his soft snores. Sure, they fought, but the good always outweighed the bad. She could never understand the pettiness she saw on talk shows, or even what she heard from her coworkers at the office. If you love, you love forever and you love no matter what. Or as Nick would say - XOXO. She couldn't wait to hear Nick give her that thumbs up and tell her, only the way that he could, how he loved her. XOXO.

Betty didn't want to upset the kids or grand kids, so she kept taking deep breathes, pushing the sobs away and just stared at her book, never turning a page.

It had been three hours since Nick was taken back and the doctor came in for an update.

His words sounded muffled as he told the family that it didn't look promising and they were doing everything that they could, but to expect the worse. And several hours later when Betty held Nick's hand, trying to avoid the many tubes and wires, she knew. Even though he was considered by the doctors to be alive, she didn't feel his spirit. He was gone. The clock ticked to 12:01 a.m., February 15th, and Nick took his last breathe. She knew that he waited to cross so that their wedding anniversary wouldn't be thought of as his death date.

Betty functioned only by keeping busy with funeral arrangements and consoling her family and friends. After all, it was how Betty was. But the night after Nick was laid to rest, she sat down at the kitchen table where they had shared years of laughs, tears, worries along with pounds of coffee, she laid her head down and asked God to take her too. And if He wouldn't to at least give her a sign that there was an afterlife. She was doubting. Even though it was Nick's heart that gave out, it was hers that hurt.

A basket of sympathy cards were in front of her and she thought perhaps if she began to go through those and write out her thanks to those who attended the funeral, she could keep her mind off. Several cards in she noticed a card that had familiar writing on it. She mostly saw it on grocery lists and not on cards, but she took the letter opener and gently opened it. The card was an Anniversary card from Nick.

Dear Betty,

You know that I never have been one for words, but even though I am away from you, I had to let you know....

XOXO,

Nick

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We receive letters from Heaven each day. It might not be in the form of a piece of paper or a notecard, but if you just listen you might hear that XOXO.

Believe,

Kristy

Just A Whisper Away

2012-01-19T06:37:00.000-08:00

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”

Kahlil Gibran

“How do I know she hears me?”

“Oh, she hears you,” I assured the young brunette who had her legs folded under her. Her mother in spirit walked over to the chair and sat down next to her, putting a reassuring hand on her daughter’s shoulder.

The air, for a moment, turned crisp.

Brianna grabbed a tissue and hid her eyes from me as she broke down.

Her mom motioned for me to do something, so I sat down where her mom had been and held her and she continued to cry.

“I didn’t tell her that I loved her. I was an awful teenager. I didn’t tell her that I loved her,” she repeated.

Her mom informed me that it was true, Brianna had been an awful teenager, and then she laughed and said it was because Bri had a strong will and independence from the moment she gave birth to her. Her mom became melancholy and I could see the memories stirring between the two.

“Bri, your mom said she always knew that you loved her, during the good and the bad times. You should feel worse about stealing her car that one night just because a boy told you to.”

Brianna erupted in laughter. “She told you that?”

I nodded.

“Does she know that I had a baby girl?” Brianna asked, clasping her tissue.

“And that she shares your mom’s name? Yes, she knows.” I smiled, reassuringly.

“Does she know that I can’t seem to keep any relationships? I feel like such a failure.”

“Nobody thinks you are a failure. You just involve yourself with the wrong types of men. And it started with the car fiasco,” I repeated and grinned at her mom for trying to keep it lighthearted.

“Where is she?” Brianna looked around, as if trying to see what I could see.

“Right in back of you, Bri, but she’s just a whisper away.”

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Our loved ones in spirit are around us if we so choose to invite them. They want to help us as much as they can and are capable of (which is actually more than you might think). And if you don’t have a loved one on the Other Side, we all have Spirit Guides who act as our best friend from the Other Side, assisting in life’s challenges and celebrations. Building that relationship is key. Just as relationships change with past coworkers when you move on to another job or family/friends when they move to another State, the same is true for those on the Other Side. You have to be proactive in building the relationship. It gets tiring always being the one trying to initiate (our poor Spirit Guides and Guardians!) and secure that relationship. So, spend some time talking to, inviting and loving. And although our loved ones have jobs on the Other Side, they are just a whisper away when you need them.

I Am Always With You

Anonymous

When I am gone, release me, let me go.
I have so many things to see and do,
You mustn't tie yourself to me with too many tears,
But be thankful we had so many good years.

I gave you my love, and you can only guess
How much you've given me in happiness.
I thank you for the love that you have shown,
But now it is time I traveled on alone.

So grieve for me a while, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
That it is only for a while that we must part,
So treasure the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away for life goes on.
And if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can't see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear
All my love around you soft and clear

And then, when you come this way alone,
I'll greet you with a smile and a "Welcome Home".

Believe,

Kristy Robinett

www.tangledwishes.com

PHOTO CHALLENGE DAY 3 - BEST FRIEND

2012-01-12T16:40:00.000-08:00

Today's PHOTO CHALLENGE was BEST FRIEND. I have so many great friends, that instead of hurting anyone's feelings, I chose a friend that was there through thick and thin these past weeks. When I was feeling yucky, she comforted me and didn't leave my side - Lucy.

PHOTO CHALLENGE DAY 2 - Smile

2012-01-11T18:30:00.000-08:00

My PHOTO CHALLENGE for today was to find a SMILE. I get the best warm fuzzies when I see my kids happy. And so my SMILE today is gifted to me from my son after his wrestling win.

Word(s) of the Year

2012-01-11T09:18:00.000-08:00

For several years I have chosen a theme for my year. Most times I recycle the past one with my word being BELIEVE. And if you’ve been to my office or home you know that to be loud and clear. This year I decided that although I will continue to BELIEVE, I will take a step forward and come up with a new theme for 2012. I had a hard time choosing just word and then I realized nobody was forcing me to just choose one, so I chose two.

1. The first is HARMONY. It isn’t always easy to live a balanced life and sometimes even doing so causes an imbalance. Take a song for instance. All the instruments are playing in a harmonious fashion, everybody is on the same page, but they are ebbing and flowing to what feels natural for the song so that it sounds the best. I am trying to implement more HARMONY into my life.

2. My second word for 2012 is TRIUMPH. I believed that I could make my life the way I wanted to, but this year I feel as if I will triumph because of the seeds I’ve previously planted.

I’ve included several words for you to look through to see if you too can choose a THEME for your year.

1. Absolutely

2. Abundant

3. Acclaimed

4. Accomplishment

5. Achievement

6. Action

7. Active

8. Activist

9. Adjust

10. Admire

11. Adventure

12. Affluent

13. Agree

14. Airy

15. Alive

16. Alliance

17. Alter

18. Amaze

19. Answer

20. Appreciation

21. Approve

22. Artistic

23. Assertive

24. Astonish

25. Astounding

26. Attractive

27. Authentic

28. Balance

29. Basic

30. Beaming

31. Beautiful

32. Believe

33. Benefit

34. Bighearted

35. Blessed

36. Bliss

37. Bloom

38. Bountiful

39. Bounty

40. Brave

41. Bright

42. Brilliant

43. Bubbly

44. Bunch

45. Calm

46. Celebrate

47. Certain

48. Change

49. Charitable

50. Charming

51. Cheer

52. Cherish

53. Clarity

54. Classy

55. Clean

56. Clever

57. Closeness

58. Companionship

59. Compassion

60. Complete

61. Confident

62. Connect

63. Connected

64. Constant

65. Content

66. Coupled

67. Courageous

68. Creative

69. Cuddle

70. Cultivate

71. Cure

72. Curious

73. Cute

74. Dazzling

75. Delight

76. Direct

77. Discover

78. Distinguished

79. Divine

80.Eager

81. Earnest

82. Easy

83. Effervescent

84. Efficient

85. Effortless

86. Electrifying

87. Elegance

88.Embrace

89. Encompassing

90. Encourage

91. Endorse

92. Energized

93. Energy

94. Enjoy

95. Enormously

96. Enthuse

97. Enthusiastic

98. Entirely

99. Essence

100. Established

101. Esteem

102. Esteemed

103. Everyday

104. Excited

105. Exciting

106. Exhilarating

107. Expand

108. Explore

109. Express

110. Exquisite

111. Exultant

112. Faith

113. Familiar

114. Family

115. Famous

116. Feat

117. Fit

118. Flourish

119. For the Highest Good

120. Fortunate

121. Fortune

122. Freedom

123. Fresh

124. Friendship

125. Full

126. Funny

127. Gather

128. Generous

129. Genius

130. Genuine

131. Give

132. Glad

133. Glow

134. Gorgeous

135. Grace

136. Graceful

137. Grateful

138. Gratitude

139. Green

140. Grin

141. Group

142. Grow

143. Handsome

144. Happy

145. Harmony

146. Healed

147. Healing

148. Healthful

149. Healthy

150. Heart

151. Hearty

152. Heavenly

153. Helpful

154. Here

155. Hold

156. Holy

157. Honest

158. Honored

159. Hug

160. I Can

161. I affirm

162. I allow

163. I am

164. I am willing

165. I choose

166. I create

167. Idea

168. Ideal

169. I follow

170. I know

171. Imaginative

172. Increase

173. Incredible

174. Independent

175. Ingenious

176. Innate

177. Innovate

178. Inspire

179. Instantaneous

180. Instinct

181. Intellectual

182. Intelligence

183. Intuitive

184. Inventive

185. I realize

186. I take action

187. I trust

188. Joined

189. Jovial

190. Joy

191. Jubilation

192. Keen

193. Key

194. Kind

195. Kindness

196. Kiss

197. Knowledge

198. Kismet

199. Laugh

200. Leader

201. Learn

202. Legendary

203. Let Go

204. Light

205. Lively

206. Love

207. Loveliness

208. Lucidity

209. Lucrative

210. Luminous

211. Maintain

212. Marvelous

213. Master

214. Meaningful

215. Meditate

216. Mend

217. Metamorphosis

218. Miracle

219. Mission

220. Modify

221. Motivate

222. Moving

223. Natural

224. Nature

225. Nourish

226. Nourished

227. Novel

228. Now

229. Nurture

230. Nutritious

231. One

232. Open

233. Openhanded

234. Optimistic

235. Paradise

236. Party

237. Peace

238. Perfect

239. Phenomenon

240. Pleasure

241. Plenteous

242. Plentiful

243. Plenty

244. Plethora

245. Poise

246. Polish

247. Popular

248. Positive

249. Powerful

250. Prepared

251. Pretty

252. Principle

253. Productive

254. Project

255. Prominent

256. Prosperous

257. Protect

258. Proud

259. Purpose

260. Quest

261. Quick

262. Quiet

263. Ready

264. Recognized

265. Refinement

266. Refresh

267. Rejoice

268. Rejuvenate

269. Relax

270. Reliance

271. Rely

272. Remarkable

273. Renew

274. Renowned

275. Replenished

276. Resolution

277. Resound

278. Resources

279. Respect

280. Restore

281. Revered

282. Revolutionize

283. Rewarding

284. Rich

285. Right Now

286. Robust

287. Rousing

288. Safe

289. Secure

290. See

291. Sensation

292. Serendipity

293. Serenity

294. Shift

295. Shine

296. Silence

297. Simple

298. Sincerity

299. Smart

300. Smile

301. Smooth

302. Solution

303. Soul

304. Sparkling

305. Spirit

306. Spirited

307. Spiritual

308. Splendid

309. Spontaneous

310. Stillness

311. Stir

312. Stirring

313. Strong

314. Style

315. Success

316. Sunny

317. Support

318. Sure

319. Surprise

320. Sustain

321. Synchronized

322. Team

323. Thank You

324. Thankful

325. Therapeutic

326. Thorough

327. Thoughtful

328. Thrilled

329. Thrive

330. Today

331. Together

332. Tranquil

333. Transform

334. Treasure

335. Triumph

336. Trust

337. Truth

338. Unity

339. Unusual

340. Unwavering

341. Upbeat

342. Valued

343. Vary

344. Venture

345. Vibrant

346. Victory

347. Vigorous

348. Vision

349. Visualize

350. Vital

351. Vivacious

352. Voyage

353. Wealthy

354. Welcome

355. Well

356. Whole

357. Wholesome

358. Willing

359. With Everyone

360. Wonder

361. Wondrous

362. Yes

2012 January PHOTO CHALLENGE

2012-01-11T04:29:00.000-08:00

Life moves so quickly. I started researching how to stay more in the present and as I perused Pinterest.com, I found a Photo Challenge that I thought was an incredible idea. Because I started this late, I am chopping it down to 20, and beginning January 10^th. I hope that you will join me in this Challenge by posting in my Blog how you are staying in the present.

2012 Photo Challenge

Favorite Food - French Fries
A Smile
Best Friend
Morning Sky
Favorite or Inspiring Art
Happiness
Favorite Food
Favorite Animal
Water
Nighttime Sky
Imagine
Moon
Favorite Thing to Wear
Dream Home
Favorite Color
Your Silverware Drawer
A Heart
An Angel
Your Favorite Drink
A Happy Memory

PHOTO CHALLENGE DAY 1 - Favorite Food

2012-01-10T18:21:00.001-08:00

One of my favorite foods is fresh cut french fries. Especially with vinegar. Yum!

A Small Step

2012-01-09T16:37:00.000-08:00

I hope that everyone had a fabulous holiday and woke up on January 1, 2012 with a fresh attitude, a clean slate and a plan to make 2012 the best year ever for you. I can hear you mumbling, “Who are you kidding, Kristy?” What? No big plan for 2012? No clean slate? Still angry about things that happened in the past, you say? Isn’t that weighing you down? Well, I hear you. My year started out with food poisoning and several days of being ill from not only the food poisoning, but the infection the food poisoning gave me and then even more ill from the medicine the physicians gave me to kill the poison. Just before I jumped up and down and cried ‘Why me!’, I sat down with my journal, an armful of reading material, and formulated a plan to make it the best year ever. I hope you don’t mind me sharing.

My Best Year Ever

Spend quality time with my family and friends. I have spent too many years worrying about making sure everybody thought highly of me because I went above and beyond, and yet the people who support and love me the most have been put on the backburner.
Schedule time for me. Even if just 10 minutes a day. It can be a bubble bath, a good book, a massage, a walk in the park. Relaxing and reconnecting with my own soul is a must.
Go outside more, no matter the season. Enjoy all that I am given. No complaints of the heat, the rain, the snow, the cold…just enjoy the present moment for what it is.
Don’t be apologetic for saying ‘no’. I say ‘I am sorry’ all too much after the ‘no’ happens. Keep the ‘I am sorry’ for when I really am. It can be a polite, ‘No, I cannot do it’ without it being a soulful apology that makes me feel awful days later.
Be open to my feelings. Many times I don’t want to hurt anybody and so I avoid the confrontation, but in the meantime, I hurt myself. The conversation doesn’t have to be defensive, but instead authentic and honest.
Stop fearing dreams/aspirations. No matter how silly my dreams and aspirations might be, I will not fear going forward, or fearing what others will think/say/do.
Be creative. This is one reason I began the Creative Meditation classes. The creativity is oozing to get out, but I often claim there isn’t time. I am making time.
Organize my life. No more junk drawers or useless things. Organizing the house and office attract a clear and cleaner energy.
Be grateful, affirm and set goals. By continuing my 5x5x5 in 5 minutes Journal – write down everyday 5 things you are grateful for, 5 things you affirm that you want and 5 goals), it will help move me forward with a vision.
Be in the present. Life moves so quickly. I started researching how to stay more in the present and as I perused Pinterest.com, I found a Photo Challenge that I thought was an incredible idea. Because I started this late, I am chopping it down to 20, and beginning January 10^th. I hope that you will join me in this Challenge by posting in my Blog how you are staying in the present.

2012 Photo Challenge

Favorite Food
A Smile
Best Friend
Morning Sky
Favorite or Inspiring Art
Happiness
Favorite Food
Favorite Animal
Water
Nighttime Sky
Imagine
Moon
Favorite Thing to Wear
Dream Home
Favorite Color
Your Silverware Drawer
A Heart
An Angel
Your Favorite Drink
A Happy Memory

It only takes a small step to change your life and before you know it, those steps are leaps and bounds! Allow others to help you, even if just with a kind word or a helpful idea, it helps makes the journey so much more enjoyable. And if you can use some of 2012 Goals, or creat your own, it helps act as a guide to which path on your journey you decide to walk.

Happy New Year!

Still Believing,

Kristy

Daily Journal - January 3, 2012

2012-01-03T16:03:00.002-08:00

January 3, 2012

Grateful:

1. I am grateful that I organized my front closet.

2. I am grateful I gave four bags of coats away to someone I know will use/need them.

3. I am grateful that we got our FAFSA completed.

4. I am grateful for the tickets to Lady Antellbelum/Thompson Square and Darius Rucker.

5. I am grateful I feel refreshed and happy!

Affirmations:

1. I am organized in both my personal and professional life.

2. Every day I feel more and more fulfilled.

3. I find a work environment that suits me.

4. I attract good people to me.

5. I am wealthy in all aspects of my life.

Intentions/Goals – Week #1:

1. Journal every day.

2. Create a business from my writing.

3. Continue to secure teaching and lecturing dates.

4. Schedule summer events.

5. Organize desk.

I Am

2012-01-03T13:13:00.001-08:00

I hurt too. I go through things too. I don’t know everything. I am human. I need time off too. I don’t know the lottery numbers, but I wish I did (all the people I could share the millions with!). I am a mom. I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am a wife. I love spending time with my husband. I rarely drink, and I don’t apologize for not. I am a leader. I am creative. I am mysterious. I am a Scorpio. I am intuitive. I am psychic. I communicate with those who have left their physical bodies. I am often overwhelmed and overworked. 2012 will bring change for me and my life. I love to write. I love to teach. I love to inspire. I don’t cry as much as I used to. I am grateful for all the trials and tribulations. I have only been in love twice in my life. I wanted to be a Broadway star. I love to dance. I love to sing. I don’t do either very well. I love to be goofy. I love fuzzy socks. I love sweet smelling perfume. I love sweats and sweaters. My feelings are often easily hurt. I am trying to grow, but it is the empath in me. I am an author. I won several writing competitions when I was young. I have awful punctuation. I would love to be a better photographer. I love to Blog. I have many friends and several best friends. I am excited for 2012. I love doing radio and used to want to be a DJ. I love being a student. I hate green beans. They squeak on my teeth. I miss my mom. I love Victorian homes. I love anything haunted. I am afraid of clowns. I am afraid of the dark. I love animals. If I could do things over again, I would spend more time with my kids when they were younger instead of worrying about money. I used to be a worrier. I love to sleep. I rarely sleep. I love reading true crime. I love creating.

Day 2 – January 2, 2012

2012-01-02T17:25:00.000-08:00

Grateful:
1. I am grateful my step-daughter won at the casino.
2. I am grateful my step-daughter bought me the cutest barrettes.

3. I am grateful my husband put my entryway cabinet together.

4. I am grateful the house is (mostly) clean.
5. I am grateful we got the trash out for pickup. Missing a week was awful!

Affirmations:
1. I find new ways to do things.
2. Every day I feel more and more fulfilled.
3. I find a work environment that suits me.
4. I get more and more organized every day.
5. I am wealthy in all aspects of my life.

Intentions/Goals – Week #1:
1. Journal every day.
2. Create a business from my writing.
3. Continue to secure teaching and lecturing dates.
4. Schedule summer events.
5. Organize desk.

Last Year's New Year

2012-01-02T07:36:00.001-08:00

I started to feel blue and then realized that I felt like a broken record and pulled open last year's New Year InSight. It made me smile and then realize I needed to follow my own advice. I love the messages that my Guides offer and their insight. I hope that last year's New Year messages helps you too.

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The last few days I've had the holiday blues, and hate to admit it, but I have been feeling a tad bit 'bah humbug'. I think that it's because the season screeched to halt instead of gently roared to a quiet hum. So I decided that I would hole myself up in my bedroom and have some girly time. With Lifetime movies (don't judge, please), a Christmas tin filled with sugar cookies and a large cup of hot chocolate (I honestly make the best hot chocolate and fresh whipped cream..yum!), I shut my mind off to the world. There weren’t any expectations or hopes of clarity. Instead, I cried while watching silly movies and festered in a feeling of missing and loneliness. Oh, nothing wrong really happened, I was just overwhelmed with an array of junk. I missed my mom who is on the Other Side (who, might I add, was having a GREAT time) and I missed the grandiose Christmas Eve’s we used to have. I disliked having to send my kids off with their father early on Christmas morning and I ached to hear my step daughter’s voice who is studying abroad from Costa Rica. I was concerned because hubby’s unemployment had ended right before Christmas and I wanted to give my family a fun and enlightening Christmas, but didn’t feel as if I had succeeded. It was a collection of memories and wishes that made me purge them all with the help of senseless TV and some goodies to bandage the sadness. What I got out of that time when I shut my mind off was something more than puffy eyes and a bloated tummy. It was a revelation. Well, I think it actually came from my Guides, but I was in a self-pity party so they allowed me to take the credit.

The song "Roll With The Changes" by REO Speedwagon started playing in my head (Yes, I am a 70s child. You are judging me again, aren't you?!). If you’re unfamiliar with the song, the refrain goes: "So if you're tired of the same old story, oh, turn some pages. I'll be here when you are ready." And then they sing "Keep on rollin'" with a bunch of woos. Alright, the woos are completely meaningless, the point is that if you are feel blah about your life situations, it’s up to you to turn the page and start changing the story. I realize that it isn't easy to let go of something comfortable, even if it is something that you don’t really like, but you don't have to give everything up in order to create some newness in your life. It can be subtle changes like painting your bedroom a new color, or cleaning the closets of clutter. Or maybe editing your resume and sending them out. It could even be cleaning up your email box and deleting the emails that have made you upset. Or deleting toxic friends from your Facebook. Sometimes it is even accepting that which you can't change and letting go of grudges and hurt.

On the wings of the New Year, I grabbed a journal and began to write down the things that I want to change up, grow or do. It made me feel in control again, empowered, instead of stagnant and wow what a feeling that was. I prefer not to call them resolutions but instead journeys, because after all, even Confucius said "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

I believe that ‎2011 will be a powerful year, but ya have to keep on rollin’ and those wheels might be in need of greasing. Once that it is done, welcome the doors that open and celebrate the doors that close.

Happy New Year! Love, Abundance and Prosperity Be Yours!

Believe,

Kristy

Day 1 – January 1, 2012

2012-01-01T17:47:00.001-08:00

Day 1 – January 1, 2012

Grateful:

1. I am grateful I woke feeling fabulous and energized.

2. I am grateful for fabulous and courteous children.

3. I am grateful for a husband who is laid back and loving.

4. I am grateful for food in my refrigerator

5. I am grateful that all of my clothes are clean and put away.

Affirmations:

1. I am creative.

2. I am happy.

3. I am healthy.

4. I love the comfort of my home.

5. I am wealthy in all aspects of my life.

Intentions/Goals – Week #1:

1. Journal every day.

2. Create a business from my writing.

3. Continue to secure teaching and lecturing dates.

4. Schedule summer events.

5. Organize desk.

Happy New Years Eve

2011-12-31T07:11:00.000-08:00

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.

~Edith Lovejoy Pierce.

Today is New Years Eve 2011. Wow, it is crazy to write that. Where did the year go? I can't say that I watched as it spun uncontrollably around me, but it sure feels that way sometimes. I actually am proud that I learned how to control it at best I could and I hope to do the same with 2012. How do you control your year? Your day? Your hour? By first making the conscious choice to do just that and then creating a strategy, taking action and continue taking action. Whatever your dream is for 2012, you have to know that it comes first from working on you. If you didn't find your romantic partner in 2011, then maybe you weren't in the right vibrational alignment with yourself that could then attract the right partner. The same can be said for job, money, and even health. So, what is stopping you? Are you afraid of the work, or are you afraid that all your dreams can and will come true? Oh, don't be a sissy.... get on the ride called life and make the changes that create your best life!

Reflections

2011-12-30T17:35:00.001-08:00

As we wind down the year I like to do some soul searching and reflection by asking myself several questions.

1. What was I GRATEFUL for in 2011?

2. What LESSONS did I learn in 2011?

3. What INTENTIONS do I have for the next couple of years?

It isn’t time for cynicism or regrets. By spelling out the learned lessons I feel that I can better make new intentions (I don’t like the word goal or resolution so much).

This year was an incredible year for me. I feel so blessed and am so grateful.

Gratitude

· I am grateful that my businesses were extremely successful in 2011 and it gave me a lot of personal satisfaction, although it was a lot of work.

· This year was filled with achievements and dreams come true, but also many lessons in both business and my personal life.

· This year was another crazy year of travel to new places, but because of it I was able to meet some amazing people and so grateful to encounter life changing experiences.

· I wrote three books in 2011, all three that will be published in 2012.

· I am grateful for all the people who supported, loved and believed in me.

· I am grateful for continuing to do what I love to do and receiving new and creative ideas each and every day. I never tire of my ‘job’.

· I am grateful for a fabulous husband and wonderful children who love me unconditionally.

· I am grateful for the ability to share the messages that I receive.

· I am grateful for all clear on my health.

Lessons

· I learned to say ‘no’ more often to what felt wrong and “yes” to what felt right. It worked, and helped my soul sing rather than sputter along.

· I also learned that it can be naïve to trust everybody. I had to touch the hot stove, so to speak, several times over to get it, but it a lesson that I finally get. There are those with bad intentions, yet present themselves otherwise.

· I learned that it is ok for me to stay firm to my beliefs, my intuition and set the course to where I want my path to go, not because someone wants me to do this or that or because someone can think I can get them somewhere. It can be tiring to have people stand on your cape.

· I learned that I cannot control anybody else, but I can control how I react (or not react) and I have full control over who I allow in my life.

· I learned that it does pay off to expect positive results because you really do receive positive results.

· I learned that continuing to learn helps you grow stronger.

2012 Intentions

· Spend more quality time with my family.

· Continue to travel for both business and personal.

· Write at least three books, one being fiction.

· Create a coaching program.

· Continue to do speaking engagements.

· Continue to inspire and motivate.

· Continue to work on controlling my debt.

· Inch closer to purchasing my dream home.

· Continue to work on slimming down and getting healthy.

· Blog at least twice a week.

· Journal my gratitude every.single.day.

· Continue to walk my talk.

Now, how about you? What is your gratitude, learned lessons and upcoming intentions? Don’t worry if you feel that you can’t communicate it properly or aren’t sure, just start writing. You can add or delete at any time. By taking the time to reflect will hopefully inspire you rather than depress you. You have an open book, start writing it!

Wrapped Loving Thoughts

2011-12-26T07:59:00.000-08:00

Mom's last Christmas 2005

Christmas 2011 is over and done with. The wrapping paper, so carefully chosen and ordained with bows and ribbons, is stuffed, abandoned, in garbage bags awaiting to be taken to the dump (or to be recycled). Christmas cookies are stacked in tins atop the refrigerator and the leftovers crammed into the refrigerator. Gifts are piled up, with a small stack to return because of duplicates or don’t fits. The tree is still on and the pine candles still lit, with hopes of savoring the last few moments of another season gone by.

This year I only cried once. Late on Christmas night I remembered a year not so bright for me. I had nobody to open gifts from on Christmas morning and before the kids and I left my mom and dad's house on Christmas Eve my mom handed me a small box with wrapped gifts inside. My kids were young and they needed to see that Santa came for me too, she whispered. Inside the box was several small gifts with instructions to put this and that in a stocking and this and that under the tree. I did as instructed and went to bed to await Santa’s arrival. The kids were thrilled that Santa came for mommy too and were quick to hand me the gifts. In my stocking were a new book and several magazines – some that shared celebrity gossip and one that had a picture of my dream home on it with designing ideas. Under the tree were a lavender candle, some perfume and a journal with a note inside to always remember to take care of me even when times were tough. The kids were leaving to spend time with their father that Christmas morning (as they do every Christmas morning) and she thought it a good time to keep me busy with reading material. She knew exactly not what I wanted, but what I needed.

It isn’t the ungratefulness of gifts I have received from my dad (or husband, for that matter), it is the personal touch that my mom always put into each and every gift that brings on the tears, the sadness, the memories and the missing.

So as I say goodbye to Christmas 2011, I hope that I impacted my kids like my mom did me, and that they can see each and every gift that I gifted them isn’t just things, but wrapped loving thoughts.

Believe,
Kristy

Unwrap Your Gift

2011-12-21T07:32:00.000-08:00

One of the Christmas gifts that I gave my husband, our girls and myself were tickets to see the Broadway show “Wicked”. Wicked is a story of two unlikely friends, one labeled as "wicked" and the other labeled as "good", with the back story of how the ”Wicked Witch of the West”, Elphaba, became so wicked. The show had us all laughing and crying, but also pondering our own life.

Elphaba was born different. She was born green. Although she was completely aware and affected by being different, it didn’t stop her from pursuing her dream of using her gifts. She didn’t need to fit in despite others wanting to help her become popular. Instead she dreamt just like the others, with aspirations of love, success and happiness – the only difference was she was green and quite talented in her gift of being a witch. Many mocked her and some tried to steal her powers to use for their own agenda. Throughout the storyline she tried to stay true to herself. For those that have seen the show you know that I haven’t shared everything, not wanting to include any spoilers for those that haven’t yet seen it. The production was wicked good (pun intended) and three hours went by like ten minutes and had me wanting to see it again. I recommend it to anybody and everybody! Even my husband who is resistant to Broadway productions was in awe. When we got home from the show I couldn’t sleep. I kept thinking of the messages wrapped within the storyline. I think many of us hide our gifts all too much. Some are afraid of the judgment. Others afraid of the hard work. And yet others are just plain scared of failure. Some are all of the above. G(a)linda (The Good Witch) asked in the beginning, "Are people born wicked? Or do they have wickedness thrust upon them?" It is all in the perception, as is the perception of your gift and your ability to use it.

Being a Psychic Medium, I am often judged. When I was a single mom, I was judged. Just today I put something I thought rather innocent on my Facebook that created drama and caused one particular person to judge and bully me (and others on my page). I stood up for myself and took action. A few years ago I might’ve actually been upset and gave in to the bully. I have learned to unwrap the gifts that I have, one being the strength, a gift I used to keep hidden deep within. Another, my voice. Instead of allowing others to control me, I have awakened my true self. Not everybody will love me, what I stand for, or who I am and that was a tough lesson – and took only forty plus years to ‘get’.

And so I will quote the song from Wicked entitled “Defying Gravity”:

Something has changed within me

Something is not the same

I'm through with playing by the rules

Of someone else's game

Too late for second-guessing

Too late to go back to sleep

It's time to trust my instincts

Close my eyes and leap

It's time to try

Defying gravity

I think I'll try

Defying gravity

And you can't pull me down...

During this holiday time I hope that you will gift yourself a present by unwrapping your true identity.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Paying It Forward - PLEASE Vote - Heart To Serve

2011-12-09T12:33:00.001-08:00

I hope you can help me. In my last newsletter you read about how I had been in dire need and was surprised by a Christmas Angel who helped give me and my children a Christmas. I would like to pay it forward.

Most of you know that I write Santa Letters and often times I am sobbing while writing them. Many kids have lost their parents, their siblings and some their faith. I see so many sad stories. I also donate and write at least 50 letters to those less privileged in hopes those children growing up to know that there is still magic in the season. Planting that seed in hopes that those fifty might pay it forward in their lifetime. I would like to win this $500 so that I can include a gift card for each of the 50 children I donate the letters to. That $10 is probably more that they have seen in their lifetime. Most of the kids are orphaned or come from poverty. A candy bar to them is like a Playstation 3 to most. They didn't display my 'story' properly as they said they had to shorten it (which is why I am explaining to you!). I hope that you can help me with this goal! Thank you for your help and I wish you all a Very Merry Christmas! Vote For Kristy Robinett

From An Angel

2011-12-05T04:11:00.000-08:00

The white lights twinkled on the Christmas tree that was lovingly decorated with handcrafted ornaments the kids had made. She watched as her two kids, ages three and six, played with the few gifts that Santa had bought. It wasn’t much, but she couldn’t afford more and they were young. It wouldn’t matter, they wouldn’t remember. At least that was what she kept telling herself as she wiped the tears that began to swell in her eyes. Before she could go into a head game of screaming at the ex-husband, her phone rang.

“Merry Christmas,” she said in the cheeriest voice she could conjure.

“Hi, hon,” her mom’s voice sounded. Her mom sounded much like her, only with a thin layer of a smoker’s voice mixed in.

“Hi mom, how was your morning?”

“Just another morning. Although dad did buy me a really pretty doll.” Her mom let out a huge sigh and she knew instantly she was in trouble. “You know, hon, you should really come over here. You need to come over here. You can’t spend Christmas alone.”

“We went over this last night at your home, mom. The ex…” A sob caught in her throat as reality was still settling in. It was technically her first Christmas being a single mom. Her husband, ex husband, had left two weeks before Christmas the previous year and the divorce had been signed near what would’ve been their 9th year wedding anniversary date just a week before the festive holiday. Anytime “Blue Christmas” came on all she wanted to do was throw a pillow at the radio because it cut right through her heart. The last year had been a cloud of depression, sadness and the blues. If it hadn’t been for her kids, well, she didn’t know what she would’ve done. But she knew that she had to still keep going even if it felt like mere motions. “The ex is coming to pick up the kids shortly and I am going to crawl in the Pjs and fuzzy socks dad and you gifted me, and hang out on the couch and watch some movies. I am really ok, mom.” She wasn’t sure if she really was, or if she was just trying to convince herself of it. Probably the latter.

She could hear her mom take a long draw on a cigarette. A huge indication that mom was stressed. But she also knew that if she went over to their home, her parent’s disappointment/anger/sadness/bitterness (pick an emotion) would only accentuate her own disappointment/anger/sadness/bitterness, etc. It wouldn’t be pretty.

“Ok. But if you change your mind, we have lots of food leftover from last night. At least you could come over and make a plate.”

“Maybe, mom. I might just come with the kids tomorrow. Love you.” The tears started again, but she choked the goodbye out and hung up.

As she put the phone back on the cradle, the doorbell rang. Her daughter squealed and ran for the door, fully expecting it to be her father. But standing there instead was a man wearing a UPS uniform and holding a large box. “Just sign here,” he instructed. “Merry Christmas!”

“Merry Christmas,” she said, dragging the box inside.

Confused, she looked to make sure it was her name. It was. With the kids gathered around, she opened the box only to discover several wrapped presents inside addressed to the kids with the “From” noted as Santa.

“Who are they from, mommy?” her daughter inquired.

“Santa must’ve forgotten some things,” she said, still stunned as she took everything out of the box looking for a card or any indication of who had sent it, but there was nothing.

“Wait, mommy, this one has your name on it.” Her daughter handed her a box, but instead of the “From” being Santa Claus, it said “An Angel”.

“Can we open them?”

“Yes, sure…”

She watched as they tore into the gift wrap; a doll, a dollhouse and clothes for her daughter and a truck, clothes and bath toys for her son.

“Open yours,” they urged!

Inside was a beautiful card that simply read:

I know you’ve had a tough year, but I wanted to show you that your angels are still around you even if you don’t feel them. From an Angel

In the box was a candle, shampoo and soap, a gift certificate to a restaurant, another to a grocery store and a scarf. Attached to the scarf was another note that read:

Wrap a scarf around you when you feel lost. Feel the warmth that it gives you and remember that your angels wrap their wings around you daily.

The tears flowed. It had nothing to do with the presents, but everything to do with having felt abandoned. It had nothing to do with gifts any everything to do with feeling as if someone was acknowledging her needs.

I am often asked why I am always wearing a scarf. That lost single mom in the story was me. I buried that scarf with my mom almost six years ago. And although I never learned who my angel was, that gesture changed my life. The anger that I had at the Universe began to slowly fade, I started accepting more and more help from not only the Universe/Angels/God, but also people. And most of all, I began to BELIEVE in myself and in other people again.

I wish I could be your angel and sent you a mysterious box that could help change your life, but instead I can only gift you a Christmas message of hope. We all go through difficult times, changes, sorrow, and loss and it seems so accentuated during the holidays. Don’t let the negativity creep in. Turn "Blue Christmas" off, grab a scarf and feel the angels’ wings around you!

Holiday Hugs,
Kristy
www.tangledwishes.com

Thankful for YOU!

2011-11-24T08:37:00.000-08:00

I wanted to take just a moment on this busy day and even crazier shopping weekend to thank each one of you for being in my life. Whether you are a client, a silent reader of the InSights, or a Facebook friend (I prefer friend in lieu of fan!) I am thankful for each one of you.

Every morning before the family awakens I begin my day by listing my gratitude. It has been a tradition for several years and when I miss a morning I feel off that whole day long. I had made the decision to not cook for Thanksgiving and instead to go out to eat. A good decision (or premonition?) since I was diagnosed with pneumonia a couple days ago. I was a bit sad as I woke up this morning, though, because as much as I complain, I love the smell of the turkey in the oven, the family grabbing a spoonful of this and that before it gets to the table and the decorating. But I especially love everybody sitting around the table. The contentment of everybody being there makes my heart sing. This year, just as the last five years, there will be an empty seat – my mom. The year of her passing my Spirit Guides offered the suggestion of inviting her to join us. Yes, they need that invitation. They want to be with us just as much as we want to be with them. So before you sit down at your Thanksgiving dinner, ask your loved ones on the Other Side to join you for the celebration. They think of you, just as you think of them. Laugh and cry and begin to feel, which just helps with your healing process. I know my mom would love this Thanksgiving because she doesn't have to cook OR clean up, and neither do I.

And so today on this Thanksgiving 2011, I am thankful for a wonderful family, a job that I love to do, the ability to share my tales and most of all I am thankful for each one of you. Embrace your memories, but make sure to create new ones.

Wishing you and yours a very Happy Thanksgiving. May your loved ones, whether here or crossed, find the path into your heart today.

Believe,

Kristy

In Gratitude

2011-11-21T04:31:00.000-08:00

Last week was my birthday. Technically it was on the 13^th of November. Birthdays for me have always been difficult on an emotional level. I was born on the same date as my father and he has always sweetly said that I was his favorite birthday gift ever and for that I am grateful. But when I look back on all of my previous birthdays not one of them ever felt very special. Not one. I don’t feel that I am high maintenance or in need of an ego stroke, but I always envisioned a festive birthday party with lots of friends, a yummy cake and many laughs. And me not having to plan it. Instead, every year my mom would mourn that another year had gone by and instead of balloons and giggles, it was tears. When I got older and married, I went several years where my (ex) husband completely forgot about my birthday, going the entire day and night without even the recognition. Last year I threw myself a party and although it was fun, the ‘I threw myself a party’ sort of ruined the sentiment. And being that it is also my dad’s birthday and I am the family planner, I am always put in charge of planning the birthday dinner. So this year, my birthday was just another day. Or so I thought.

The night of my birthday I sat down with a pile of pictures that I had gone through several times, looking for the perfect baby photo to give my daughter to put in her yearbook, when I came across a birthday card. I hadn’t seen it before and wasn’t sure how it got in the pile of baby photos, so I opened it only to see that it was a birthday card from my mom dated November 13, 1988. It was a heartfelt card and inside she wrote this note – “Kristy, I just want you to know how much I love you and how proud I am of you. Love, Mom.” Tears started to roll down my face and my husband inquired what was wrong. I could only hand him the card as my explanation.

My mom will be gone six years in January and I never ever believed she was proud of me. I went 41 years believing that I let her down in some way. I don’t remember that card and I don’t know how that card was put in that spot, only for me to find it on November 13, 2011. I do know, however, that nothing in life is a coincidence; there was nothing random about the timing and I was supposed to receive that message from Heaven on that date to make the best birthday gift I have ever received.

Now maybe if I had paid attention over twenty years ago I wouldn’t have carried the weight on my shoulders that I did. So many of us carry burdens around for years, decades, or our whole lives, stemming from issues with parents, spouses, ex spouses, or just with us. On Saturday I partnered with Margie Grutza to put on the Open Heart Empowerment Workshop. It was an enlightening and powerful afternoon filled with electric and energetic women (although men were invited too!). Many tears were shed, but more laughter was shared. One of the many exercises that we did was expressing our gratitude in our lives. And being that this is Thanksgiving week, it is a perfect opportunity to create peace within your soul so that the gratitude is pure and that there is forgiveness from the past by looking at the now and creating the future. Begin a new tradition. Maybe create a Gratitude Tree and write down a few things that you are grateful for each day and hang it. Or go around your dinner table and express thanks (not just on Thanksgiving!). Or create a Gratitude Journal. Know that you are worthy and loved even if you don’t hear the words every day. Or maybe for years. William Arthur Ward is quoted as saying, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” I am ever grateful for my unexpected but timely birthday card. I am grateful for all the birthday wishes that I received. And I am grateful for every one of you.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Believe,

Kristy

Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.

~Wolfgang Von Goethe

11-11-11

2011-11-11T04:16:00.001-08:00

Whenever my kids and I see 11:11, whether from the time on the clock, a license plate or a price that shows up on a cash register we always make a wish. Some people look at us a little strange when we exclaim out loud, “11:11, quick, make a wish!” but I have seen more people join in on the wishing than continue with the odd looks. Just recently a lady in her 80s came up to me after we began a public display of wishing and inquired what was so special with 11:11. I looked back at her perplexed. Why was 11:11 so magical that it got its own wish and how did this happen?

Many numerologists believe that 11:11 is a symbol of new beginnings. Author Doreen Virtue writes that a sequence of 1s means that we need to monitor our thoughts carefully, and be sure to only think about what you want, not what you don't want. This sequence is a sign that there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and that our thoughts are manifesting into form at record speeds. The 111 is like the bright light of a flash bulb. It means the universe has just taken a snapshot of your thoughts and is manifesting them into form. Are you pleased with what thoughts the universe has captured? If not, correct your thoughts (ask your angels to help you with this if you have difficulty controlling or monitoring your thoughts).

Many believe that the sequence of 11:11 has extra energy behind it and can help open doors quicker and more effectively than any other time. And although I love wishing and I love to know that there may be extra magic in the air today, November 11th, know that you have to take the action in order to push that door further open. If you don’t seek, you won’t find. If you don’t knock, the door(s) will remain closed. If you don’t walk through the door, you’ll remain stuck in one place. So on this day of 11-11-11, spend some time wishing and manifesting, but don’t forget to take some action too. If you want a new job, send out that resume. If you are looking for a relationship, start inquiring if your friends know of anybody. If you want to begin a business, start writing your business plan. Today is your wakeup call to your inner soul. Will you take the first step and turn the doorknob?

“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it.” Roald Dahl

Believe

Kristy Robinett

www.tangledwishes.com

New Thoughts InSight

2011-11-01T10:28:00.001-07:00

I recall going through a tough patch in my life and going to sleep crying in my pillow and waking up feeling lost. It wasn't until I allowed myself to see through the fog of life that I realized that I was keeping that fog around me, nobody else was. It was a hard lesson for me to learn that essentially I was creating the stagnation of pain around me instead of dreaming of new possibilities. My thoughts throughout the day (and the afternoon and the night) were essentially everything that I didn't want in my life and yet I was the one feeding it and helping it grow.

If you don't want weeds to grow in your garden, you pull them, you don't feed them, right? And yet that is exactly what we do every single day. You want a love life? Then don't focus on not having a love life. You want financial freedom? Then don't focus on not having any money. You want a new job? Then stop focusing on how much you hate your job and start looking for a new one! If you continue to live in the same day, day after day after day, you are sure to get depressed and sad, so create a new day with new thoughts. Every night before bed ask yourself what you want the next day to be like. Every morning, as soon as you awake, become aware of every thought that you think because your thoughts help to construct your reality.

Several years back I woke up one day and thought to myself if I could create a Super Hero identity for myself, what would it entail? I grabbed a notebook and began to construct the person that I wanted to be, not that I was. I didn't add flying or invisibility to my list, but I thought big and I thought larger than life and I began little by little to construct that Super Hero. Instead of going to bed thinking how awful my life was, I would write in my gratitude journal (even if I wasn't feel very grateful) and the first thing I did when I awoke was to add a list of goals to my day because that way I was keeping my thoughts away from what I didn't want. I can't say that it was easy at first, but if I can do it, anyone can! You can't move forward if you are still haunted by the past, even if you think that you have patched and sunk it deep away. If you haven't released, it still impacts you in some ways and so by weeding your garden and planting new thoughts to your day you will be amazed at the blossoms that will appear.

An old Buddhist Proverb says that "When the student is ready, the master appears.” You are the student and you are the master. Now start creating your life by creating new thoughts.

Believe,

Kristy Robinett