Well, today is officially opening day for the Tapping Insiders Club which an incredible membership site designed to bring you information on a huge variety of topics regarding tapping.  More importantly, it’s designed to get you results in your life.

There is a bucket load  of content in the club, in both video and audio format.  It ranges from in-depth hour long interviews, to shorter 20-30 minute interview, to 5-7 minute tap along videos.

They’ve lowered the regular price for their grand opening celebration for a limited time opening so you’ll want to join today!

Whatever challenges or obstacles you’re facing, you will most likely find the answer is in one of the resources inside the club.  And if it’s not, you can have your questions answered in the “Ask the Experts” section or you can request an interview topic or video tap along topic!

There’s so many exciting features such as:

• Featured Interviews
• Video Tap Alongs
• Try It On Everything Bonus Footage
• Beginner’s Corner
• Practitioner’s Corner
• Featured Teleclasses
• Ask the Expert Interview

Remember, this is not just a once off event like the Tapping World Summit but an ongoing experience with new content being added to the Tapping Insiders Club every month:

• Every month you’ll be able to submit YOUR questions to be answered by a leading Tapping Expert
• Every month you’ll be able to submit your challenges for our new Tap Along Videos
• Every month you can join a four part tele-classes series on a new topic
• Every month there will be presentations on how to grow and manage your Practitioner business

Here’s a list of the topics already inside the club.  I know it’s long!

• Beginners Corner Intro
• Learn the Basics and get Tapping Right Away!
• Common Beginner Mistakes
• How to Know What To Say
• The Power of Questions

• Understanding the Choices Method
• Clearing Your Resistance to Tapping
• Simple vs. Complex
• Speaking Your Truth

• The Most Effective Strategies for Weight Loss and Tapping
• Quickly Eliminate Cravings Tap Along
• Eye-popping case studies on Tapping and TMJ Disorder
• Tapping for Cancer Support – A Healing Journey
• Back Pain Tapping- Find Relief Fast

• Using Tapping For Cold Hands and Feet
• Tapping for Muscle Cramps – Sleep at Last!
• Find Relief from Arthritis Pain with Tapping Now

No steak knives, only more great content.

• An Inside Look at Using Tapping To Quit Smoking
• Quick Tips for Using Tapping to Improve Your Vision
• Knee Pain and Tapping – Understanding the Messages from your body

• Overcoming Insomnia Video Tap Along
• OCD symptoms and Tapping
• Using Tapping for PTSD – A Hopeful Look at the Possibilities
• Tapping for Parents with children with ADD/ADHD

• Tapping for Insomnia – A Fresh Start
• Using Tapping To Control Panic Attacks – Finding Peace Within
• Your child with ADD/ADHD and Tapping

• Tapping for Spouses of Veterans – A Forgotten Group Gets Help
• Working with Developmentally Delayed Adults – Creative Solutions
• Healing the Addicted Heart
• Simple Energy Techniques for Addictions

Would clearing any one of these issues transform the quality of your life?:

• Healing Mother Issues with Tapping – An Emotional Journey Of Healing
• The Vital Importance of Healing Mother Abandonment Issues
• Tapping for Expecting Mothers – A New Paradigm Shift
• Using Tapping With Children

• Instantly Improve Challenges Faced by Step-Parents
• Using Tapping To Help Your Child Fall Asleep – Peace At Last!
• The Importance of Clearing Previous Birth Traumas

• Using Tapping for Anger – Gaining Emotional Control
• The Good Side of Anger Tap Along
• Tapping for Gratitude

• Using Tapping for Holiday Stress
• Using Tapping to Attract Abundance
• The Power of Using Tapping To End Procrastination
• Raise your Self-Esteem with EFT
• How Your Identity Impacts Your Life

• Using Tapping to Quickly Clear Clutter
• Feeling Safe To Change
• Personal Peace Procedure

• Attracting Money Tap Along
• Release the Fear of Failure Tap Along
• The Easiest Way to Tap Away Marketing Fears
• Overcome your Fear of Success with Tapping

And for today’s economy, the all important money, job, business and success:

• Tapping and Corporate Success
• Tapping to Find Peace While Changing Jobs
• Tapping for More Clients In Your Business

• Clearing Blocks Around Money – Tap Along Session
• Understanding the Money Blocks Holding You Back
• Reaching Your Goals Tap A Long – Find a Clear Path To Your Dreams

Take advantage of all this material, and maybe tap on the overwhelm of where to start, and join the Tapping Insiders Club today.Related Posts:

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Lindsay’s talk covered how simple it can be to overcome procrastination and included:

• The most common causes for procrastination and how to figure out if any of these are effecting you
• The two emotions that are typically behind procrastination (you’ll be surprised by one of them!)
• Tapping statements that you can use immediately to get results

This interview is definitely worth listening to. It’s one of those “kick in the butt” things we all need to listen to from time to time.

Listen to the interview and while you’re there tap along with Margaret Lynch on “Tapping for More Clients in Your Business”Related Posts:

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The Tapping Insiders Club

The film “Try It On Everything” is an inspiring documentary created out of a passionate desire to spread the word about the effectiveness of EFT. The Tapping World summit set records for introducing EFT to vast numbers of people in record time. The originators of these two successes have now put together the Tapping Insiders Club. The Tapping Insiders Club will include exclusive content such as:

• Tap a Long Videos with the world’s top Practitioners
• “Ask the Expert” Interviews – get your questions answered
• Practitioner’s Corner – techniques to grow your business
• Exclusive Interviews – on specific topics
• Never Before Seen Footage from “Try It On Everything.”
• Tele-seminars – 4 part teleseminar series every month
• Beginner’s Corner – learn the basics and how to implement it in your life

The Tapping Insiders Club will open its doors on August 12th and in the mean time the creators are giving away some of the amazing content that will be part of the Club. So far they have released:

Expert interview with Carol Look sharing information such as: What to do when you’re stuck and “don’t know what to say” with tapping; Simple questions you can ask yourself to unlock the Abundance in your life; Incredible tapping sequences to express gratitude; How to approach the “big” issues like serious illnesses and traumas.

Releasing Childhood Issues of Perfectionism, Abuse, Hurt, Self Love and More: Watch two people, Jackie and Jodi, releasing issues that they had developed in childhood in just minutes by using tapping. Tap along with them and see if just one tapping session will also make a huge shift in your life.

Attracting More Money with Margaret Lynch: In this audio interview Margaret shares the 4 specific areas where people develop negative beliefs and traumas around money. If you don’t need or want more money in your life then no need to check this out. Margaret makes a great point in the interview about the BIG difference between using the word “abundance” when you’re tapping and using the word “money.” Get this key aspect handled as you listen to this interview.

There’s still a few more days before the Tapping Insiders Club opens so be sure to give them your email to keep receiving all the wonderful giveaways before the big opening.

EFT and Beyond Book

Cutting Edge Techniques for Personal Transformation

What if some of the world’s best EFTers came together to give you their most innovative ideas?

They have, and it’s all in EFT and Beyond. Never before so many experts (22 of the 29 EFT Masters worldwide, and more!) come together to create a resource this in-depth and valuable. You get 536 pages full of great ideas to creatively and effectively expand your use of EFT, whether you’re a casual user or a dedicated practitioner.

In the book you’ll learn techniques such as:

• Karl Dawson’s ‘Matrix Reimprinting’
• Carol Look’s ‘EFT and the Law of Attraction’
• Gwyneth Moss’ ‘Imagineering’
• Tania Prince’s ‘Deep State Re-patterning’
• Emma Roberts’ ‘Integrated Energy Techniques’
• Sophia Cayer’s ‘Transforming the Energy’, and
• Pat Carrington’s ‘Personal Resource States’

Testimonial:
“The scope of this book is incredible!  There are enough tremendously powerful and creative ideas to keep even the most avid EFT user or practitioner happy for years. ‘EFT and Beyond’ is a must-have book for the EFT tapping community.”
- Gary Williams, EFT Coach, Editor of www.EFTWorldMagazine.com

Whether you’re just beginning to delve into the world of EFT, or whether you’re a seasoned practitioner looking to deepen and enrich your practice, this book has techniques, applications, and examples that can change your life.

Listen to a the pre-launch teleclass with Pat Carrington and Tania Prince talk about the book with the co-editors John Bullough and Pamela Bruner.

This is the perfect time to order the book, because there’s a special gift offered to all those who pre-order – it’s an audio series called ‘Interviews with the Masters’ and it’s available only to those who pre-order ‘EFT and Beyond’.

Here’s the link to place your order for ‘EFT and Beyond – Cutting Edge Techniques for Personal Transformation‘

This is a great opportunity to expand your EFT knowledge and deepen your skills by seizing on these two great opportunities.Related Posts:

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SFBT, developed by Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg, is a simple yet powerful approach based on identifying what you want, where evidence of the solution is appearing in your life already, and what would be externally observable signs of progress.

SFBT is based on the idea that no problems occurs always all the time. Even for an alcoholic, there are some days when they drink less than others so investigate what is different about those days when the problem is less and do more of that as opposed to searching through your past to find the reason that may or may not be the cause of the behaviour.

SFBT’s efficacy is well established and supported by a solid and ever increasing body of research. Solution-focused thinking is widely accepted in the fields of therapy, social care, education and business. This book, The Solutions Focus: Making Coaching and Change Simple, was my original introduction to solutions-focused thinking.

EFT, in my opinion, in unparalleled in its ability to heal past events such as trauma and abuse and I find combining SFBT with EFT is incredibly effective when moving forward into the future. I have found it useful in areas such as business improvements, wealth creation, depression, serious disease and weight loss. Here are some of the insights I achieve when I applied one of the questions to issues around money.

The standard EFT approach to achieving your goals is to search in your past for events that have lead to limiting beliefs (”writing on your walls”) that are holding you back from want you want. This is based on Gary Craig’s NLP training which the concept of limiting beliefs is a part of.

But how long to you keep looking in the past for answers? Focusing on the past can itself be used as a diversion from taking real action to move you towards what you want. SFBT helps identify small concrete signs that you are actually making progress.

Listen to the Solutions-Focused podcast at EFT Q & A and check out the other top-quality podcasts at EFT Q & A. One of my personal favourites is the one on Sensitive Temperaments by Rue Hass.Related Posts:

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Procrastination came be obvious and subtle. There is procrastination where you set aside time to do something and then consciously do something else in that time. This might be acceptable once or twice but more than that and you are procrastinating.

Then there’s the more subtle form of procrastination where you think right, “I’m going to get this task done now” and the very next thought is a distraction such as, “but I’ll just check my email/facebook/twitter before I start”. This momentary distraction leads off on a tangent that you only return from some time later with another thought of right, “now I’ve really got to get this done” followed by another thought of “but first I’ll put that load of washing on and sort something out for dinner” and the pattern repeats.

I don’t necessarily believe that procrastination is about lack of will power or discipline. Yes you can use these brute force approaches to grit your teeth, force yourself to do things, and beat yourself up when you don’t get things done but I prefer a more gentle approach of using EFT to work on the emotions underneath the behaviour and building a habit of getting things done.

So how can EFT help you with procrastination?

First identify an important task or project that you have been procrastinating getting started. The sort of thing that you know needs to be done but you just haven’t got around to doing. Make sure it a specific well defined task of some importance. Write that task down and have it handy to look at while you do the following tapping sequence. You can use this EFT Tapping Points Guide.

Continue on for another round to target some of the thought patterns that accompany procrastination:

Now some tapping to develop the habit of noticing yourself procrastinating and recognising the choice you have in that moment.

Like doing physical exercise, motivation is not needed to start exercising if we realise that motivation comes from that act of starting to exercise. Once we start we remember how much we enjoy it and continue on with the activity.

Our behaviour is shaped by our actions even more so than our thoughts. If you consistently take action you become that person. Use the above tapping consistently to break your habit of procrastinating and enjoy the satisfaction and pride of becoming someone who gets things done.Related Posts:

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Dr. Patricia Carrington recently outlined the foundations of EFT in her Meridian Tapping Times newsletter:

“The history of meridian tapping began with Dr. George Goodheart, a leading chiropractor who found he could use acupuncture points beneficially for physical conditions by just “tapping” on them (no needles were needed!)

An Australian psychiatrist, John Diamond, M.D., then took this discovery a step further. He began using verbal affirmations as the patient was stimulating the acupuncture points. This was a major step forward as it introduced a psychological tool into the process. But still the treatment method lacked a cohesive “engine” to drive it forward with real effectiveness. That engine was supplied by Dr. Roger Callahan, an American psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders.

Dr. Callahan’s contribution was immense and has been well documented. Through his interest in acupuncture and his awareness of the use of the value of tapping on acupoints, he made a key discovery upon which all later meridian tapping methods are based. Callahan found that if a person is focusing on a specific fear at the time they tap, that fear can be removed, often permanently. He developed his discovery into a complete system and concluded that there was a correct tapping sequence for every emotional issue, and that this could be determined for each individual through the use of muscle testing. He called these tapping sequences “algorithms” and his treatment later became known as Thought Field Therapy, or TFT.

Dr. Callahan’s work, although brilliant and groundbreaking, was however quite complex and difficult to master because different algorithms were required for each one of the numerous disorders studied.

The next step was the creation of simplified versions of Callahan’s technique. These were known as “single algorithm techniques” (i.e. they did not require diagnosis or muscle testing). My own early method, Acutap, was one of the very first single algorithm methods, predating EFT by about seven years and there may have been others who devised similar adaptations of Callahan’s method.

Then, in the 1990’s, quite independently arrived at and without his knowledge of any former single-algorithm method, one of Roger Callahan’s star pupils, Gary Craig, unveiled a major development of the meridian tapping techniques which he called Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Today his single algorithm method, EFT, leads the world in the development and teaching of the meridian tapping approach to healing.

It is interesting to note that the meridian tapping techniques are now moving beyond EFT as highly skilled experts create tapping approaches that are beginning to differ from Official EFT in many respects. This is an exciting development that promises to grow in a spirit of friendly cooperation between all these methods, as they become better known throughout the world.”

So EFT has evolved by standing on the shoulders of giants – and, continues to evolve. Gary Craig always says that, “we are on the ground floor of the healing high rise” so it’s an exciting time to be involved in the field.

What about you? Even if you’re not a practitioner, have you come up with some new approaches, new shortcuts, or new ways of using EFT on yourself? Let me know in the comments.Related Posts:

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What works for you is a solutions-focused question that moves you into a different way of thinking. It helps you focus on and notice what your own unique solutions are. Your own unique solutions may not be the same as everyone else’s and they may not be same as touted by such-and-such an expert. Figuring out what works for you requires you to become an expert on your own life. And this requires paying attention.

For example, there are thousands of diets out there each claiming that they will produce miraculous results. Yet most of these diets work well for a percentage of people but not everyone. That’s because we each have a unique metabolic type that determines the balance of carbohydrates and proteins that we need to eat, how fast our bodies metabolise sugar, and how often we need to eat. You metabolic type also determines the type of exercise and what time of day to exercise will work best for you.

If you pay attention to how you feel 1 hour after a meal (e.g. are you alert or unfocused, are you hungry again or not, are you emotionally stable or experiencing mood swings) and you experiment with different combinations of foods, size of portions, time between feeds, then over time you can figure out the way to eat and what to eat that best suits you.

This does require attention and careful observation which sometimes seems too much trouble so we search for a quick answer from the latest magazine diet, book, TV expert, or Google.

But this post is not just about your diet.

What about what works for you in terms of being creative or getting your best work done? Are you most creative in the mornings or the evenings? Again this requires attention and experimentation. I know from experience that I’m much better at writing things in the morning, like I’m doing right now, than later in the afternoon or at night. After lunch, I know that I’m better at tasks that don’t require creativity or focus and concentration. Are there some times of day which suit you better for writing and others that suit you for making phone calls?

What about relationships? You know there are ways to broach subjects with those you care about that can lead to useful discussions and there are ways to pick a fight. Become conscious of what happens when you say things in a certain way, with a certain tone of voice, using certain words. Is this being manipulative? That depends on the intention with which you enter into the conversation. If you intention is to ‘get your own way’ then yes it is manipulative (think children) but if you intention is to enjoy the relationship in the best way possible then it is more about love.

What stops us from paying attention?

Western lifestyles, in general, are full of noise and distractions. From the moment we wake up in the morning to the time we close our eyes at night we are immersed in a sea of noise and distraction. The radio wakes us up, the TV is on in the background, the kids are screaming the back yard, the radio is on the car going to work, there are phones calls and emails to answer, meals to cook, errands and shopping to be done, etc (feel exhausted, yet? Sorry.) Tibetan Buddhism actual calls this “Western busyness”.

So how can we use EFT to help increase our ability to pay attention within the noisiness of everyday life?

Identify an area of your life that you want to focus and pay attention to. Maybe it’s your eating habits, your creativity, or your relationship with someone. Most likely it is something that is weaved throughout your day.

When you have identified a specific area, use this EFT tapping guide and tap along as follows:

Continue for another round.

After tapping the above sequence, you may have come up with your own ideas that will help you notice what works. It could be things like keeping a diary, making notes in your mobile phone or sending yourself emails. Let me know how paying attention has helped you in the comments.Related Posts:

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Melbourne's Original Tapping Man

This original Melbourne Tapping Man greeted children and shoppers from the 1930’s to the 1970’s at L.P. Alexander’s on busy Swanston Street (where I have run my practice for the last 3 years!). He disappeared for a while and was found years later very dirty and broken. Mr. J. B. Reid, then Chairman of James Hardie Industries, cared for, restored, and clothed the Tapping Man and donated him to the National Trust of Australia.

Now days, the Tapping Man resides in the window of Haigh’s Chocolates in the Block Arcade and continues to greet Melburnians and tourists alike.Related Posts:

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I have a really strong desire, calling if you wish, to help others and not in the ‘conventional’ sense – and I believe this is what has drawn me to EFT as well as many other alternative modalities. I feel constantly torn between wanting to make a difference and thinking I should get a ‘real’ job. I’m always battling against myself and my wish to move forward. I know I can make a difference I just have to convince myself I can do it!

I’m an unemployed, single parent – I feel very limited as to what I’m able to achieve with very limited income and feel discriminated against because of this – my choices and opportunities are thus very limited accordingly. I feel a burden on society and feel pressured by family and social security to just ‘get a job’ – so I’m torn between my ‘duty’ & ‘expectations’ and my soul’s desire.

Here was my response, “I can very much relate to what you are going through with the conflict of wanting to help people versus getting a ‘real job’. Regardless of appearances, for the last 3 years that since I started Tap4Health, I have been scratching, scraping, negotiating, and sometimes failing to make ends meet each month. This has put a horrendous stress on my mind and body. If it were not for energy techniques such as EFT I would have given up long ago. Even this week, I went for an interview for a full time IT contract so that I can have some consistent income and catch up on debts that are backing up. I’m not giving up on Tap4Health! No way! I’m finding a way to support myself financially and hence mentally, emotionally, and physically while I continue to build my practice. Yes I’ll have to do even more work in the short term but I know my purpose for working.

What I’m saying is that being self-employed and building a business is very hard. There is a reason that 95% of business fail within the first 2 years and 98% within 5 years. And here’s something that makes it even clearer: “It’s not how good you are at something (e.g. EFT); it’s how good you are at marketing what you do that determines your success.”

I know this may not be what you want to hear. There is a lot of stuff out there about “Do what you love, and the money will follow.” That has not been my experience. Nor the experience of the people I know who are very successful. I know of only handful of EFTers who make a living solely from EFT. One of them worked a full time job for the first 5 years of building his practice and then part time for another 2 years before finally going full time.

You might also think, “Well, Rod must still have some limiting beliefs about his income or he’s not doing that law of attraction thing right.” Maybe. The landlord, banks and credit card companies don’t care about those things and won’t wait while you sort them out. They just care about whether you pay your bills or not.

Having a ‘day job’ while you continue to build your EFT and business skills(!) is being a responsible adult (more on this in a minute). You can enjoy any job if you are doing it for a purpose. I don’t like the idea of doing the type of IT work I used to do but I know that I’m doing it to help me build my business even faster. By clearing debts and having the income to do more marketing means that I can build my practice even faster. Try to build the practice and live off the income at the same time is a really hard way to do it.

Further, on being a responsible adult who fulfils their duties and expectations, it’s worth using EFT to tap on the resistance to taking responsibility. Anything we had too much of as a child we tend to resist as an adult. If you took on or felt you had lots of responsibility as a child then you may resist being a responsible adult. Find some specific events from your childhood when you felt like you had to be responsible and tap around those events. Also, tap on the conflict you feel at getting a job versus doing your calling. Remember that you are doing your day job with a purpose to meet your needs and support yourself and your family while you build your practice. It’s great if you can get a job that will help you learn the business skills you need to be successful in your own business. Again, focus on working with a purpose.

The world needs people like you who have such an open heart and desire to help others. And, taking care of yourself is not being selfish! You cannot help others if you are not taking good care of yourself. We all have the capacity to give but if we ourselves are not taken care of then we have a very limited capacity to help others. The more we help ourselves the more we can help others. Would you rather write a cheque to your favourite charity for $10 or for $1,000? Only the person who has taken good care of themselves can do the later.

It will take hard work to move from where you are now to where you want to be. If that feels overwhelming or tiring then tap on that. Focus on making some small progress towards your dreams every day while taking care of yourself on every level and your life WILL TRANSFORM. It all takes time so take care of yourself as you continue on your journey.”

I’m curious about your experience. How do you react to the above? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.Related Posts:

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Here, Gene answers the question about how to investigate why an 11 year old girl has developed a fear of going to school. The girl has previously been very happy at school, and has no reason to feel like this. She really wants to go but feels she can’t, and doesn’t know why? Even though this example is for a young girl, the questions that Gene suggested could be applied to any of us at any age.

Gene answers, “Obviously, with such a little amount of information, there is no real way to answer this question. There are a whole host of reasons that could be contributing to this fear. It could be associated with the classroom, something on the play ground, or something with the other students.

What the situation does do is give us a good backdrop to talk about how we approach an emotional response when we have no idea of where the emotions are coming from.

There are two basic tacks that we can take. I would recommend taking both of them at the same time. They are to deal with the emotions in the moment and to investigate to find the root of the emotions. By doing this we are able to help the fear in the short term and by trying to find the roots of the fear so there won’t be the same response in the future.

The Emotion Right Now
One of the blessings of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is the fact that we are able to use it right now for the emotions we are feeling in this moment. In this case I would recommend two things.

First, I would recommend spending some time before going to bed tapping on the fear about going to school the next day. If the fear is large enough it is not going to happen just as she is walking out the door for school, but more than likely is going to be present the night before. It is good to deal with this at bedtime because this fear is going to affect her quality of sleep.

Second, I would recommend spending some time tapping in the morning before heading out the door to school or even on the ride to school.

In both cases the tapping is very simple. I would have her explain to me how the fear feels, how her body feels, and what she is worried about. I wouldn’t use any complicated tapping phrases. I would have her tell me the story of what is going on in her body and her head while she is tapping.

Investigating the Roots
Now that we have gotten the fear in the moment under a little more control we can start to look around for what the root cause is. When working with a client I would use all the information about them and their history as a start. In this case I know nothing more than she it 11 years old. With that in mind I would start to investigate by asking questions around the common reasons an 11 year old wouldn’t want to go to school.

My questions would be something like this:

1) Why does she feel like she can’t go?
It sounds like the questions has been asked but it is a good place to start every time. Often people, not just kids, have a hard time admitting why they are afraid. By asking again they might give an answer they didn’t before.

2) What could go wrong if she does go to school?
When dealing with fear it is usually rooted in not wanting to experience a bad outcome. They might be able to name the outcome they fear and not associate that with the fear itself.

3) The feeling of not wanting to go, what does it remind her of?
This is a classic EFT investigation question. When you don’t know the root, see what it reminds you of. Lots of information can be found here.

4) If she could change one thing about school what would it be?
Sometime we don’t want to say what we fear, but we are willing to say what we would like to see different. Fear is often associated with weakness. We don’t like share why we are fearful. This question lets us answer without looking weak.

5) If she could go to a new school how would the new school be different from her old school?
This is very much like the last questions. By giving them a chance to say what they want, we are giving them an out of not having to say what they don’t want or fear.

6) If she could go to school tomorrow and know one person was not going to be there, who would she want that person to be?
No one likes to be a tattletale. Also for kids there might be fear of retaliation for turning a bully in. This way they don’t have to tell on someone else and still be able to state their needs.

7) When she is not at school, what does she think the other students say about her?
People, not just kids, can be ruthless. We don’t like to be place where we are being picked on, but again we don’t like to be tattletales. By asking the question in this fashion we are not asking her to tell on anyone. Instead, she is pretending what they might say. This is a safe way to share what she fears.

Obviously this is just a start, but I think it is a good start. It will give us more information to finding our way to the roots.

It is important to remember that with EFT we always have two plans of attack. We can deal with what we are feeling right now and we can deal with the roots of the emotions. If we can find our way in with both tacks, then we should use them. Just because we don’t know the root, doesn’t mean we are helpless. We can always go after what is going on right now until we get to the root of the issue.”

Getting to the core issues of an emotion is one of the key skills in developing the artistry of delivering EFT. Stay on the lookout for an upcoming product on getting to core issues around money.

Visit Gene’s EFT Q and A website for many more examples like this one.Related Posts:

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