Recently, I was working with a client who said, “I just wish I understood what the university is trying to teach me.” This is a sentiment I often hear from my clients. Learning from our past mistakes is good and valuable. When we are able to see what went wrong and why it went wrong, […]

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Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and found yourself yawning uncontrollably, you are not imagining things. In 18 years of working with clients, this question lands in my inbox almost every single month. It […]

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It is hard to sit down to tap when you have been battling a stubborn issue for a long time. Without seeing progress, maintaining momentum and motivation is challenging. You may struggle to know what to tap on because it seems as if you are working on the same aspects over and over again. At […]

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Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio If you have ever sat down to tap and thought, “this isn't going to work for me,” you are not alone. That single thought stops more people from healing than any technique ever could. Knowing what to do when you […]

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One of the topics that I have been returning to this year is trying to identify ways to make it easier for you to start a round of tapping because once you start, it is much easier to stick with it. This week in the podcast, I share with you one of my favorite and […]

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Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube If you have ever finished a round of tapping and felt more upset than when you started, you are not doing it wrong. In fact, when you feel worse after tapping, it usually means something […]

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Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube If you've watched any of my tap-along videos, you've probably noticed something: I never start with the classic EFT setup phrase. That's a deliberate choice, and I get asked about it all the time. In this post, I […]

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It can feel so discouraging when you have great tools at your disposal, like tapping, that you know will have a positive impact on your life…but you are not using them. This leads to self-recrimination AND hesitancy to use the tools in future for fear of failure, which means double the regret. Every six or […]

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Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube If you have been tapping for any length of time, you have probably asked yourself: when am I actually done? You get some relief, the intensity drops, but the issue is not completely gone. Knowing when to stop […]

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Fear is our most basic emotion. Simply put, fear is our internal guidance pointing out what might harm us so that we can stay safe. We commonly think of it in terms of fight, flight, or freeze. All three of these responses are designed to shield us from danger. We fight to defend ourselves, we […]

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One of the reasons we resist taking action is that some actions simply can't be taken back. Our subconscious mind keeps us stuck because it's trying to figure out the perfect thing to do, but because the future is unknown, it's impossible to be certain. This leads us from thinking about the best choice, to […]

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Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone |  Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and felt a wave of sadness wash over you, you are not alone. Feeling sad after tapping is one of the most common experiences people report, and it is also […]

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The perfect time to tap is in the moment, when you are overwhelmed with emotions…and it is also the hardest time to remember to tap. That's mainly because remembering to tap in the midst of strong emotions is difficult, but it is not the only reason. The second, powerful reason why you don't tap in […]

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One of the conundrums of tapping is the fact that you tap because you want to feel better, but you aren't as good at tapping when you feel bad because you are in a lower resource state. To put it another way, when you need tapping the most, you are the least effective version of […]

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It is all too common for tappers to look back at their path to healing and think, “What on earth was I doing? I know better than that! Why do I keep making bad choices when I know exactly what to do?” This comes up most often in my individual coaching sessions when my clients […]

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When most of us first learned tapping we were taught to be “as specific as possible” when coming up with tapping phrases. This is sound advice, which is backed up by scientific research. But your success with tapping relies on more than just the words you say and what you focus on when you are […]

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One of the most powerful tools in the healing and transformational tool box is having clear goals. This is true in big picture ways, such as what I would like to achieve this year, and small picture ways, such as what I would like to get out of this next round of tapping. I believe […]

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One of the concepts I talk about daily with my clients and students is that the goal of tapping is a proportionate, well-informed emotional response. In most cases, this is a process of giving the emotions space to be heard and understood. Once we know where the emotional response is coming from, we create the […]

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One of the most frustrating experiences around personal healing and transformation is when we know what we need to do, how to do it, have everything we need to take action (including time and energy), really want to take the action…and then we don't. When this happens, we feel we have failed and let ourselves […]

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Seeing others succeed can be a powerful source of inspiration. Once we know something is possible for others, then it also becomes possible for us. Take the sub-four-minute mile for example. At one point, it was thought impossible for a human to run a mile in less than four minutes and that pushing so hard […]

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One of the most common teachings in healing and personal transformation is the value and importance of gratitude. So much so that the idea of establishing a “gratitude practice” for yourself feels commonplace. The power of experiencing thankfulness and gratitude is unquestionably powerful. It can impact the way we feel in the moment and it […]

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One of the most common reasons people do not tap more is because they don't know where to start. Feeling uncertain produces a subconscious hesitancy because our subconscious is worried that we will waste time and energy going in the wrong direction. This isn't a conscious thought, but a background resistance that creates two problems. […]

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The start of a new year feels like the perfect time to reset and refocus. This often takes the form of New Year's resolutions. There is a great power in making a clear statement about what you want and why you want it. The problem is (and I'm sure you have experienced this yourself), simply […]

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On January 1st, I went live on YouTube with some tapping to start the new year off on the best foot possible. We tapped for: I hope you enjoy this tapping as you begin 2026. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio Watch […]

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In what has become a holiday tradition at Tapping Q&A, each year during the holiday season I put together a cozy tapping video. There are no words and you don't need to focus on an issue. Instead, just sit back, watch the roaring fire, and tap along. We did this last year and I was […]

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The “fear of missing out” (FOMO) isn't just some clever internet meme. FOMO is a real issue and it impacts most of us. Because of the internet and social media, we are constantly aware of what is going on everywhere. This creates a number of problems. First, it creates a sense of compare-anoia where we […]

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Whenever I hear the Andy Williams song “It's the most wonderful time of the year,” I am immediately transported to my childhood, driving around town at night in the snow looking at all of the holiday lights. But the reality is, even in the best of times, the holidays can be overly busy and demanding. […]

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I often joke with my clients and students that a part of all of us would like total, instant and eternal transformation every time we sit down to tap. It is good that we have high standards and want only the best. BUT, as we know, it doesn't always happen that way. A part of […]

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As humans, one of the things we are very good at is naming everything that is wrong with our lives. On one level, this is a useful tool because it allows us to identify what we would like to change. The problem is that just because we know what we don't want, does not give […]

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One of the hardest phrases to say aloud is “I love and accept myself”. The reason it is so difficult to say that phrase is because we know ourselves. We know our failings. We know our mistakes. We know where we have fallen short. To say “I love and accept myself” feels like accepting all […]

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One of the healthiest changes that has happened in the tapping world over the last decade is that we spend less time talking about the one-minute or one-session miracles. This sort of instant transformation does happen and it happens regularly. It just doesn't happen all the time! The reason I am happy that we no […]

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As a tool, tapping is such a powerful way to tune in to our emotions. Feeling, processing, and moving through emotions is a key part of the healing and transformational experience. At the same time, there is a certain capacity to our emotional experience. Feeling deeply is a powerful part of transformation until it becomes […]

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You know you'd benefit from some tapping, so you sit down ready to get into it. You want it to work…but as soon as you start, your mind goes blank. You freeze because you can't think of the right words to use. After a few minutes, you give up, thinking you must be doing it […]

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brutal truth nobody talks about in the self-help world: The healing and transformational work never ends. Every breakthrough just reveals a fresh layer of issues to be worked through. It would be wonderful if one day I was done, but I am open to the fact that it's an ongoing process. For me, the single […]

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When you were first taught how to tap, more than likely you were asked to tune in to your issue in some form or fashion. You might have been asked to describe where you feel it in your body, what it reminds you of, or to rate its intensity on a 0–10 scale. These are […]

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I know this sounds strange, but you’re not afraid tapping won’t work. You’re actually afraid it might. In this episode, I dig into a truth that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with clients and students. Even when we know how powerful tapping can be, something inside stops us from doing it as often […]

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One of the most common questions I receive is “Can we use tapping to help the animals we love?” The answer is a resounding YES! But in order for tapping to work well, we first need to know the most useful approach. Tapping for our animals isn't just a matter of looking at our animals […]

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One of my favorite questions when interviewing someone about their tapping journey is, “If you could share one piece of advice with your younger self, what would that advice be?” For some reason I was reflecting on that question recently, not for someone I was interviewing, but for myself. The piece of advice that I […]

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Finding a balance between taking responsibility for our lives and taking too much responsibility for what is going on is a tricky matter. Taking too much responsibility may seem like a silly notion, but it can happen in many ways. One of these ways is when we refuse to allow ourselves grace or forgiveness. We […]

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One of the ideas that really makes my clients bristle is the possibility that their self-sabotaging behaviors are guided by their system's well-meaning intention to keep them safe. They question, “How is it possible that my subconscious mind thinks it is trying to keep me safe when all it is doing is making my life […]

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For some issues, tracking progress is simple. I can tell if my desk is less cluttered, if I can lift more weight while working out, or if I am making more sales in my business. That is because these examples are measured in hard metrics, or in other words, cold, hard numbers. Changes that are […]

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One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don't. It is obvious what the next step is and for some reason […]

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One of Marianne Williamson's most cited quotes starts “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” It is quoted so often because of how deeply it resonates, speaking directly to the contradiction that is part of our lived human experience. On one hand we […]

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Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience. It feels like such a harsh gut punch when it is something we know we should have been able to do. After we let ourselves down in such a powerful way, our subconscious will do everything in its power, through resistance […]

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The words change and improve are very close in meaning. While both are associated with transformation, they do not mean exactly the same thing. Improvement is about keeping something but doing it in a better way; change is about doing something in a new way. In the transformational arena we long for change, but in […]

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Not all stress is created equal. There are those hyper stressful times, like driving on icy roads in a snowstorm at rush hour. It is super intense in the moment and then when it ends, it is over! Then there is the low-grade stress of something that is taking a long time and is hanging […]

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One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the “right” words. The problem is, there is no such thing as the right words when it comes to tapping. Instead there are words that are useful and words that are not. I am consistently surprised at some of the tapping phrases […]

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Grief is unlike other emotions when it comes to tapping. We can tap to step out of every other negative emotion, like anger, jealousy, frustration, or feeling overwhelmed. But grief is something that we will feel forever. Twenty years after a loved one has died, we will still feel pangs of grief. Instead of leaving […]

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We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury. But there is one key difference between first aid and emotional first aid. When […]

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A number of years ago I was visiting my friend “Mike” and his family. Mike asked his youngest son, who was about five at the time, to tidy his room before dinner. His son replied, in the most overwrought and dramatic voice possible, “But whyyyyyyyyyyyy? I am just going to make it messy again!” I […]

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There is a huge difference between bouncing back from being tired and being exhausted. When we are tired, we simply need to refill our tank. When we are exhausted, we first have to recover from being exhausted before we can even consider refilling our tank. In this week's podcast, I share seven simple ways you […]

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One of the hardest parts of being a caring person is witnessing others in pain. When we see someone struggling, it feels natural to want to step in and help. With that being said, there is a fine line between being helpful and taking responsibility for someone else's suffering. This becomes doubly hard where emotional […]

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Over the years, so many of my clients and students have told me that two of the biggest obstacles preventing them from sitting down to tap are having too many issues so that they don't know where to start, and the fear that their emotions will be too big to handle when tapping. It makes […]

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Even though we might not be conscious of it, every time we sit down to tap, our desire is for total, instantaneous, eternal transformation. While our desire makes a lot of sense, there are two obstacles in our way. First, we don't always have access to total, instantaneous, eternal transformation. For better or worse, sometimes […]

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Sometimes tapping feels nothing short of magical! We are struggling with an issue or an emotion and then, after a few rounds of tapping, we feel so much better. This transformation can feel profound to the extent that the world actually looks different. (That is not an exaggeration. My clients often report how the world […]

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One of the fundamentals I repeatedly return to when I am working with clients or teaching practitioners is: We emotionally respond to the world in the way that we describe it. That is to say, the words we use when talking about our lives impact how we feel about our lives or a particular situation. […]

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For the longest time, I found tapping for feeling overwhelmed one of my most frustrating issues. The reason it was so frustrating is because no matter how many times I tapped for overwhelm, it always came back. Sometimes it came back multiple times in the same day. When we aren't making the progress we want, […]

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The dawning of a new year is a great time for reflection and planning. We have the chance to see what we would like to release, what we would like to change, and what we would like to add to our lives. Something that causes me the most frustration is when I have created a […]

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In episode #634 a few weeks ago, I shared with you five easy steps to make tapping part of your daily routine. The more often we tap, the better it is for us. (Yes, that might be the most obvious thing I have ever written!) Once we are tapping on the regular (even if it […]

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One of the realities of our relentlessly connected world is our ability to know what is happening anywhere in the world in an instant. For the most part, this is great. It is an opportunity for us to connect with and learn from people we would never have had the opportunity to meet a generation […]

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Tapping is a wonderful tool to help us improve our health and well-being. Recently, I came down with a bad cold. In addition to reaching out to my doctor, drinking lots of water, and resting, of course I spent some time tapping for what was going on physically in my body. I tapped for: But […]

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As a tool, tapping has many different applications. It can be used to: One of my favorite applications, which is often underrated, is finding a sense of calm and peace. The reason I say it is underrated is because most people approach tapping trying to achieve something specific and concrete. While I have a strong […]

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A common complaint I hear from my students and clients is that sometimes the act of tapping can be uncomfortable or even painful. This can apply temporarily to a few specific tapping points, for example sinus problems would make it painful to tap around the eyes, or because of injury, illness or a specific sensitivity. […]

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One of the biggest struggles I have when being honest with myself is looking at the times when resistance has gotten the best of me. When I give in to resistance it means I knew what to do, how to do it, and why to do it…but I still didn't take action. For me, this […]

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A common human struggle is when we find ourselves in two minds about a situation or event. This most commonly happens when we are facing a choice between two (or more) options that are far from perfect. Over the course of the last number of months I have been hearing from my clients and students […]

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I love sharing tapping with new people. So much so, when the topic of tapping comes up, I will preface my enthusiasm by saying, “This is something that I am passionate about and I can go on and on about it. The moment I start to share too much, just tell me to stop!” When […]

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On August 1st, 2007, I posted my very first article to TappingQandA.com with the title “Making Tapping and EFT Routine”. In the intervening years, I have often talked about that same topic with my students and clients because they know that their lives would be better if they were to tap more.  Just because we […]

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One of the subconscious resistances we have to taking care of ourselves stems from the recognition that we have it better than so many other people in the world. Because we recognize this, we may feel bad taking care of anything beyond our basic needs. This situation can be compounded when others see us as […]

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When I work with clients, I pay close attention to the language they use and I pay particular attention to keywords that alert me to how the subconscious mind might be informing their narrative. It is so much easier to create change and transformation with tapping if we can identify the often misguided stories driven […]

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Before we can take action aimed at improving our lives, we need to know what to do, how to do it, have access to the necessary resources, and the internal desire or reason to take action. Sometimes you might have these four elements in place and still find yourself struggling to act because you are […]

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Do you ever feel like no matter how much time you spend working on your personal growth, you’re never truly moving forward? One of the biggest challenges in creating lasting healing and transformation is the simple fact that there’s never enough time and energy to tackle it all. At any given moment, you might want […]

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No matter how much we consciously want to focus on a task, subconscious resistance can get in the way, making us distracted and unproductive. Part of us might be resisting tasks because of anxiety about the quality of what we produce, if we can get enough done, how others will receive our efforts, and whether […]

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When we are working on our resistance to taking a particular action, we often end up referring to the past to see if we can identify the roots of our reluctance in not wanting to repeat past mistakes or struggles. Combing through mistakes we have made can bring up old feelings of defeat and disappointment, […]

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When we are working on healing and creating transformation in our lives, we spend much time looking backwards. The way we understand ourselves, the world, and our place in the world is informed and created by our past, which means our limiting beliefs, insecurities, and bad habits are often rooted there too. That is why […]

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The Buddhist concept of the “monkey mind” describes our human tendency to get restless, distracted, or confused. For some reason, my monkey mind has been going crazy these past few weeks. I feel like I haven't been dealing with a monkey so much as a troop of them! (I just learned that a group of […]

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One of the most common forms of resistance people encounter when doing any sort of deep transformational work (tapping included) is the fear of what will be uncovered. The two most common fears are either that there will be an overwhelming number of emotions that will be difficult to handle or that a previously suppressed […]

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One of the phrases that Gary Craig used in the original EFT training videos that has stuck with me is “the comedies of our mind”. When using this phrase, Gary was referring to the recurring thoughts that we had about ourselves that, when they were examined in the light of day, were seen to be […]

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New opportunities can be so exciting as they bring the promise of growth, change, and countless possibilities. The problem is that most of us already have full lives and we don't have the time or energy to add something new. When this happens, we have a tendency to take one of two approaches. One approach […]

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Tapping without words is one of my favorite ways to tap and I do it multiple times a day. Recently, a few of my friends from the tapping community referred to this type of tapping as “content-free tapping”. When I heard this, not only did I learn a new piece of vocabulary, it actually reframed […]

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Maintaining high standards for ourselves is a good thing and means we have goals to shoot for and measuring sticks with which to evaluate our progress. Unfortunately, it is all too easy to fall into self-criticism and self-judgment if we fall short of these standards. So much so that it rarely feels like a choice, […]

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One of the highlights of this year's 24 Hours of Tapping was the conversation that I had with Kerri Rhodes. Kerri is one of the program directors of the Helping Addicts Recover Progressively (HARP) program in the Chesterfield (VA) County Jail. The inmates use many of the tools created by the Peaceful Heart Network to […]

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Most of the time, when we sit down to tap, we are trying to create positive change. We are trying to: I love every single one of these tapping outcomes! But there are times when we cannot create profound change or facilitate deep healing. Sometimes the best and healthiest course of action is simply to […]

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The primary goal of our subconscious mind is to keep us safe. To do this, it is constantly learning lessons from our experience. For example, after touching a hot stove a small child quickly learns quickly not to do that again. This only becomes a problem when the subconscious mind learns the “wrong” lesson from […]

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Wanting to belong is a basic human desire. For our ancestors thousands of years ago, belonging to a tribe was a matter of life and death. Without the protection of a tribe and its strength in numbers, death was a real prospect, so this desire to be accepted is part of our genetic heritage. Even […]

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Erik Tait is a world class magician and someone I love to see perform. He has spent over two decades performing as a juggler, standup comedian, and magician. In 2020 Erik decided that he wanted to compete in the 2022 FISM, which is the world championship of magic. Even though he is comfortable on almost […]

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There is a natural human tendency to want to make sure everything is “exactly right” before we take action. That's because when everything is exactly right, we can be as sure as we can be of getting the results we desire. Our subconscious mind takes this idea to the extreme because its key driver is […]

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One of the reasons I love art is because it gives us the ability to communicate meaning in ways that we aren't always able to do when simply talking about our lives. We have all heard the expression that “a picture is worth a thousand words”, which is true, and it is so much more […]

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One of the reasons I love tapping so much is that it can be used for so many types of issues. It can be used to: For me, it is super important to know why I am tapping in each given moment. Am I simply trying to calm myself when I feel overwhelmed so I […]

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Late last year my friend Brad Yates reached out to see if there was some way we could use our platforms to encourage more people to tap for peace and to become more active peacemakers in the world. Late last year my friend Brad Yates reached out to see if there was some way we […]

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Tapping is deceptively simple. It is so easy to teach the basics of tapping that I have done it before in under five minutes with a quick drawing on a bar napkin. But hidden behind its simplicity are the subtleties of the art of delivery. Each issue, person, and resource state can require a different […]

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One of the most important parts of the Tapping Action Journal is the instruction to spend time writing down notes at the end of each tapping session on what just happened. You are encouraged to write down: Tailenders are the responses our subconscious mind gives at the tailend of a tapping phrase. For example, I […]

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Something I really love about the people I work with is their tendency to see the bigger world outside of themselves. They recognize the people in their lives who are struggling and in pain, and they also want to do something about it. As wonderful as it is to want to help others, it can […]

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For the 2024 Spring Energy Event I was asked to give a reflection on what I have learned in my personal and professional transformational journey. For me, the measure of the value of transformation is seen in how our life is different. What do we believe that is different? How do we feel that is […]

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One of my favorite ways to learn is by listening to the questions others ask. When I am asking questions I am bringing my experience and preconceived notions to the questions. This is a useful way to learn, but sometimes I am too close to my own experience to ask the most useful question. When […]

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Goals are a powerful tool in helping us to move forward. They give us clear direction, they help to create clarity for our best next steps, and they serve as a measuring stick for us to evaluate the action we take. Goals are great! Except when they aren't. Sometimes goals can feel like a constraint, […]

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One of the phrases I spend a lot of time tapping on with my clients is the idea that “time is a zero sum game”. What I mean by this phrase is that if you are doing one thing, you can't be doing anything else. It means that when we choose to do something, we […]

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When most of us learned the basics of tapping, one of the first bits of advice we received was to “be as specific as possible when you are tapping.” Sometimes this is straightforward; the issue is singular and clear, so we know exactly where to start. At other times, our issue involves multiple emotions, and […]

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Tapping is a tool that is simple to explain and understand, but not necessarily easy to do. The biggest hurdle most new tappers (and even experienced tappers) encounter is not knowing what to say when tapping. When we first learn tapping we are guided by a skilled practitioner or teacher who seems to come up […]

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On March 3rd, 2009 the first episode of the Tapping Q & A Podcast went live…and within 90 minutes that same episode was taken offline because of a major editing error. Fifteen years (and 600+ episodes) later, the show is still going. In that time, the podcast has featured wisdom and insights about tapping, healing […]

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Tapping is something that is simple to explain, but isn't necessarily easy to execute. We know that tapping success comes from tuning in to the issue and then tapping on the points. But tuning in to an issue can be tricky, particularly when we are in a heightened emotional state. When I am struggling to […]

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None of the success that I have enjoyed in my life is something that I have accomplished on my own. My past and present are filled with inspiring teachers and mentors, and I often reach out for help when I am working on a project or task. I have achieved so much more and my […]

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Tapping is such an easy tool, that at a moment's notice we jump right in and start tapping. Even though this is the case, I think it is important that we don't rush in too quickly. To help me get the most of a tapping session I have created two checklists that I read through […]

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One of my favorite parts of tapping is the fact that when we sit down to tap, not only do we get a chance to clear and release issues but we also have the opportunity to discover other issues that are deeper under the surface. The cliche that is most often used (because it contains […]

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Over the last four or five years I have had a major shift in how I think about tapping. This shift is moving from the idea that tapping is an approach, to tapping being a tool. This realization has not only changed the way I think about tapping, it has also changed the way I […]

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One of the very first ideas I was introduced to when I was learning the basics of tapping was something called a “tailender”. Tailenders are the little (or big) pieces of resistance that speak up when we are tapping. For example I could tap on the phrase “I am going to lose 25 lbs to […]

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My daily tapping practice is NOT designed to make my life go perfectly. Instead, it is designed to build my emotional resilience. What I mean by this is that the more emotionally resilient I am when something goes wrong, either it doesn't impact me and my progress OR it has minimal impact on me. Even […]

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I have spent a lot of time thinking about what it means to live an authentic life. One of the ways I would describe this sensation is being comfortable in my own skin. And when I say that, I don't just mean comfortable as in not in pain, but comfortable in a way of luxuriating […]

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We have all experienced lying in bed at night trying to get to sleep  BUT our racing minds keep us awake.  Usually we are replaying everything that didn't work out today, and worrying about everything that could be difficult tomorrow. As our thoughts spin, we become increasingly unsettled, which makes sleep even harder. Regardless if […]

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It would be very easy to assume by looking at a group of migratory birds, like ducks, flying in a V-Formation to assume the bird in the front in the leader. But if you watch the flight for any length of time you will notice that the leader changes quite frequently. The bird in the […]

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When working with clients, it is important to listen closely to the words they use and pay attention to everything they are saying. When I do this, I am not just listening to the meaning of the story my clients are telling, I am also paying particular attention to the words they use. This is […]

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I love goals. They are a powerful way to focus attention and to help us stay motivated to keep taking action. At the same time, the moment we create a goal, we also create expectations. Naming something that we want to happen means opening ourselves up to possible disappointment if we do not achieve the […]

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This November we hosted our most successful 30-Day Tapping Challenge to date. The goal was to, as a community, do 15,000 rounds of tapping collectively. We ended up doing over 20,000 rounds in the month of November alone AND people keep tapping. You are more than welcome to revisit any of the videos as they […]

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Whenever I start working on a new project, I begin with getting clear on what I want to accomplish. That clarity makes it so much easier to decide on where to start and what steps to take. Tapping is no different. If you know what you would like to accomplish with a round of tapping, […]

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The deeper we get into our study of transformation, the more we understand. We gain a greater understanding of how transformation works, the workings of the subconscious mind, how emotions operate and, most importantly, how we are in the world. This understanding can speed and deepen the healing process because we better grasp the nature […]

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Humans have a basic desire to create connection. For many, one of the types of connections that people long for is a long term romantic partner. Compared with other types of relationships, romantic ones are often harder to create because we aspire to connect on many different levels. When searching for this type of relationship, […]

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Whenever I am working toward improving anything in my life, I always have a clearly defined goal in mind. I have found that goals are incredibly powerful tools in helping to create success, big or small. Goals focus our attention, help us to figure out our next best step towards a clear destination, and allow […]

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I was recently talking to one of my clients about how things had been going since our last call. As they were sharing what the last week had been like they asked, “Is there a way that I could tap to help me to remember to tap?” I am happy to say that the answer […]

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The question I am most often asked by people who are looking to work with me as a client is “How many sessions is it going to take to heal [insert issue]?” I understand the nature of this question, which is rooted in the desire for better, and as quickly as possible. The problem with […]

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As human beings, we are talented at learning from our past experience. You can observe this so clearly whenever you spend time with small children who learn from every moment of their experience. They try something one way, then another, and then a third as they are exploring and learning about themselves and the world […]

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If you are anything like me, then you have spent much of your life feeling like a bit of a misfit. What you think is important provokes the derision or confusion of others, making it hard to live an authentic life because you are caught between who you know yourself to be and what the […]

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I am fortunate enough to have engaged and self-aware clients, many of whom have spent years studying healing and transformation. That means they are often aware of the root causes of their issues and come to me for help because they are too close to clear the issues on their own. Our sessions generally begin […]

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When we are in pain and distress, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual, there is nothing we want more than to escape our discomfort as quickly as possible. This desire is so profound that it can lead us to making unhealthy choices, like emotional eating and overmedicating ourselves, to gain short-term relief. The reality is that […]

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Lori Leyden has dedicated her life to bringing healing and transformation to those who have experienced tragedy and trauma. Her latest book Embodying Grace captures the tools and approaches she uses to facilitate healing and wellbeing through a spiritual lens. Embodying Grace introduces you to the transformative power of your Heart-Brain-Body connection, the 5 Stages […]

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When we are in physical or emotional pain and distress, we want to feel better right now. That is a natural human desire, but even though we want healing right away, it doesn't mean healing is going to happen right away. As disappointing as that is, there is good news. Even though healing often takes […]

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One of my favorite characteristics of my clients is their willingness to take responsibility for what is going on in their lives. When we take responsibility, we put ourselves into a position to create lasting change. At the same time, it is possible for us to take too much responsibility. Taking responsibility for the aspects […]

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In this week's podcast we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series by looking at the ways the people in our lives put up resistance when we heal and change. AND I don't mean the people who don't like us or those who are jealous of what we have. In this case I am talking about […]

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In this week's podcast we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series by looking at the subconscious mind in a completely different way. When we recognize the ways in which the subconscious mind holds us back from taking positive action, it is almost always in terms of the resistance and fear that come up. While this […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals by looking at why our subconscious mind and memory is faulty. The reality is that nobody has a perfect memory. Even those with a photographic memory cannot remember everything. In small ways, this can be a minor irritant as we misremember small details in our daily lives. […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series with a look at resistance. Just because we know what to do, how to do it, and why it is important to take an action, does not mean we will actually take that action. In order for us to take consistent action, we need to clear […]

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The Helping Addicts Recover Progressively (HARP) program at the county jail in Chesterfield, VA is a beacon of hope and light in the world. The program is designed to help inmates who are struggling with issues of addiction to heal and recover so that when they are released, they are able to live healthier and […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series by looking at how the subconscious mind's understanding of the world influences every choice we make. The subconscious mind is a valuable tool in helping us to navigate the world. It holds all our understanding about how the world works in the form of memories, patterns, […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series with a lesson that is critical to understand if you want to clear self-sabotage and take more consistent action. One of the best parts of our subconscious mind is that it is a learning machine. It takes in all of our experiences and uses them to […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series with what I think is the most controversial fundamental of the whole series…at least at first glance. One of the biggest complaints I hear from my clients is when they are berating themselves for all of the times they have made poor choices, even when “they […]

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This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series, where we are covering the ideas and concepts that underlie every part of the healing and transformational process. This week we are talking about fear. Fear has an entire episode dedicated to it because it is the one emotion that is most likely to hold us […]

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It can often feel like our negative emotions are the enemy and it makes sense why. When we experience negative emotions, we feel bad AND they also get in the way of us making better choices in the moment. That is why when Gary Craig created his version of tapping, he called it “Emotional Freedom […]

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The fear of success is the single most difficult type of resistance to uncover. I know it sounds strange to fear success, but it is a lot more common than you might think. The subconscious mind may fear success because it is worried that we might have success and then lose it, or once we […]

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After working with clients for many years, I have come to the realization that we are notoriously bad eyewitnesses to our own experiences. We are great at telling stories about our experiences, our past, and our traumas, but unfortunately they aren't always true. This can hinder our transformation because without a clear understanding of our […]

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Sometimes we have to do tasks that we just don't like because they are no fun, such as having to scrub the inside of a smelly old garbage can, or doing yard work at three in the afternoon on a hot summer's day. There are other tasks where the reason we avoid doing them is […]

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Just because we know what to do, how to do it, and have everything we need to take action, it doesn't mean we actually take action. For me, this is one of the most frustrating places to be because it is clear that I am set up for success AND I am the one getting […]

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As humans, we are great at complaining! And I don't mean that as a put-down because there is a sound evolutionary reason why we excel at complaining. A complaint is a recognition of something that is bad, painful, or distasteful. This is the subconscious mind's way of keeping us safe. When we point out what […]

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Our subconscious mind is brilliant at figuring out cause and effect relationships. That is how we learn. If I touch a hot stove and it hurts, I learn not to touch a hot stove again. I smile at someone and find that they are more likely to be nice to me, so I learn that […]

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One of the biggest obstacles to transformation and healing is our history. It would be one thing if we were simply trying to add a new worldview or belief, but trying to replace an old belief with a new one is a completely different process. When trying to create change, we are trying to unroot […]

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Our healing journey doesn't always go as planned. Sometimes we stall. Sometimes progress is slower than we'd like. And sometimes (heaven forbid) we actually backslide. Hitches and delays are an inevitable part of the healing and transformation process. How we respond to these moments determines how quickly we return to the healing path. This week, […]

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A key characteristic of the subconscious mind is how it tends to perceive the world in black and white. Given this all-or-nothing disposition, it can sometimes be difficult to see a way forward or believe that better is possible. In this week's podcast, we talk about the power of the tapping phrase “I am open […]

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One of the exciting prospects that tapping opens up for us is the possibility of creating meaningful change in our lives. AND tapping creates that internal change much faster than many other tools. This speed is great, except for the fact it can also give rise to unrealistic expectations about how quickly we believe transformation […]

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I love to learn and in the first decade of my tapping life, I consumed everything I could about tapping and transformation. I subscribed to every newsletter I could find, I listened to podcasts, read books, and attended many live trainings. In the process, I came across the work of Milton Erikson, the founder of […]

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One of the primary functions of our subconscious mind is to keep us safe. The subconscious is constantly on the lookout for possible danger or trouble, and steers us away from anything that is unpredictable, such as taking new and bold action. In seeking to avoid putting us at risk, our subconscious will choose the […]

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Recently, I was watching the behind-the-scenes documentary of Six Impossible Things. Six Impossible Things was a magic show created by one of the best close-up magicians alive today, Joshua Jay. In the documentary Joshua and his creative team not only reveal how the tricks are done, but they explain everything they did to create the […]

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I recorded this podcast two weeks after returning from East Africa. Even two weeks after getting home, I was having a really hard time staying focused. My body was recovering from crossing seven time zones and the shock of adjusting from 97° F one day, to 7° F the next. My heart and mind were […]

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Scientific research is increasingly backing up what those of us in the space of transformation have known for decades: our emotional health impacts our physical health. On one level, this is very exciting. It offers us fresh ways to think about the healing process and frees us from only thinking about the body as a […]

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In September of 2007 I created Tapping Q and A with the express purpose of creating resources that would make it easier for people to get the most out of tapping. The tag line has been “Answers to the most common (and uncommon) questions about tapping, so that you can get the most out of […]

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For most people, the words thankful and grateful are interchangeable. But even though they are very similar, there is a small but significant difference between their definitions. I am not super concerned about whether you are using either word correctly, however I do think that there is an important distinction between thankful and grateful as […]

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When we are tapping there is no such thing as the “right” or “best” words to use in our tapping phrases. There are words and phrases that are useful, and there are words and phrases that aren't useful. One set of phrases might work perfectly one day, but not so well the next. The words […]

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I am always open to feedback from my readers, even when it is critical. We are all notoriously bad eyewitnesses to our own experience, so this sort of feedback can be helpful in understanding how we are perceived by others. One piece of feedback that I have heard a number of times in the last […]

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A few weeks ago I was lucky enough to be one of the speakers at the 2022 Energy Fest put on by Donna Eden and David Feinsten. I wasn't just lucky to be in the room, but also to have the opportunity to hear presentations from world-class speakers who are doing some of the most […]

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I am incredibly proud of the 24 Hours of Tapping and the fact that we raised over $31,000 for the Peaceful Heart Network. What you don't know is that a key reason why I ran the event is because I was running away from something else. That wasn't the only reason I ran the event. […]

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One of the biggest frustrations of the tapping process is the fact that it is a process. One-minute miracles do exist, but they are rare. Naturally, part of us would like transformation to happen immediately, while another part of us understands that healing is more often a process that takes time. When these two parts […]

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Recently I was working with a client who was struggling with her wish to communicate some hard truths with certain friends in her life. She felt stuck because she knew that her friends would not like what she wanted to share. On one hand, she knew what she needed to say AND at the exact […]

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In the last few months I have been giving a lot of thought to the nature of tapping and its applications. For the longest time I have thought of tapping as an approach to creating transformation. I am starting to change my mind about this. Instead of being a single approach, I begin to understand […]

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Last weekend I did a one-hour livestream tap-along and took recommendations from the viewers as to which topics we should tap on. During that hour we tapped on: Giving ourselves permission to do self-care Feeling hesitant to make important decisions Perfectionism Getting our enthusiasm back Worry about upcoming changes that we don't control Fear of […]

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One of the concepts from my NLP training that has stayed with me is the idea that we don't emotionally respond to how the world is, but instead to how we describe the world. An example I often use is of someone saying “Everyone at work hates me!” It is possible that everyone at work […]

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One of the biggest struggles reported by tappers when tapping on their own is knowing where to start and what to say. When we sit down to tap, all we often know is that we don't feel great. In this week's podcast I share two phrases that you can use to start any tapping session […]

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[Note: There is no audio-only version of this presentation as it requires the visuals to be fully understood. Full video presentation below.] When thinking about the world, a common cliché that actually helps to guide the way I work is: Once is an anomaly. Twice is a coincidence. Three times is a pattern. Some years […]

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One of the characteristics I most love about my clients is their capacity for compassion and their awareness of the suffering and struggles of others. Because this is the case, my clients are helpers and healers to others. And this is a wonderful thing! At the same time, when we are aware of the suffering […]

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Last Saturday I ran the ID Transformation Retreat. Over the course of the day we had the opportunity to heal and release many past ideas and beliefs that we have about ourselves. As the day was drawing to a close, I gave everyone the chance to ask any lingering questions. Here is what one of […]

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Although you can learn tapping in just a few minutes, it can take a lifetime to uncover all the subtle nuances in its application. Over the course of years of doing thousands of tapping sessions with clients, I have learned that there are few simple steps we can take at the beginning of a session […]

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Tapping is an amazing tool that can help us to turn our mood around when we are going through a rough patch. It can also be powerful enough to clear out deeply rooted traumas and limiting beliefs. When tapping for these types of issues the approach is fairly straightforward. Sometimes we are too close to […]

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March 3rd, 2022 is the 12 year anniversary of the first episode of the Tapping Q and A Podcast. As a way to mark this occasion I have put together the list of what I think are the most essential episodes of the podcast. The list includes the most commonly asked question, the most preterite […]

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Feeling out of control is one of the hardest emotions to overcome. This is true whether we feel personally out of control or if our circumstances feel that way. The reality is that we are surrounded by things we do not control every single day, but we cope by recognizing that even though we don't […]

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As humans we are constantly changing and evolving. Sometimes this happens gently over a long passage of time. At other times major events in our lives cause us to see ourselves and the world in new ways. Even as this change is happening, our subconscious mind clings to the definitions of who we were and […]

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Sometimes we spend time with people whose lives are very different from our own. They might have different jobs, make more money than us, have success or notoriety, or access to opportunities that we will never have. When this happens it is so easy to feel like we don't belong. It can even undermine our […]

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The most common question I receive from my readers and listeners is “What are the best phrases for [insert issue] when tapping?” The reality is there are no magic phrases, only ones that are useful or not. At the same time, there is something that is often overlooked when tapping. For tapping to be the […]

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One of the reasons that I love the tapping community is because it is filled with so many thoughtful and caring people. These are people who want to make the world a better place and often are willing to go above and beyond to care for others. At the same time, this can also be […]

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It is odd to think about the word toxic being associated with kindness, but I have noticed a growing conversation around the idea of “toxic kindness”. Toxic kindness can be described as encouragement in a difficult time that actually makes you feel worse. For example, when you are having an emotionally challenging time and people […]

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Even when we have all the available information, it can still be hard to make important choices because few choices are 100% clearcut, without any uncertainty. It's possible that something with a 99 out of 100 chance of working still might not work out. This is particularly true when it comes to making choices related […]

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I am completely fascinated by the concept of neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is a term that refers to the ability of our brains to adapt to our environment and change with experience. That means that the brain's neurological pathways aren't set in stone, but are flexible and can be reshaped. One one level we already understand this. […]

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Our bodies are giving us information all day long. We feel pain when we are injured, our stomach rumbles when we are hungry, and we feel butterflies when we are nervous, to name a few examples. But just because our bodies are sending us signals does not mean that we are paying attention or interpreting […]

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It sometimes feels like your body is letting you down. No matter what you try, healing doesn't happen. This can lead to frustration and disappointment to the point where you feel like you are fighting your body and yourself. In this week's podcast we explore three keys to understanding how our body and our overall […]

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Tapping is a wonderful tool that can help us to feel better in the moment, which is why it’s sometimes referred to as emotional first aid. As much as I love emotional first aid, I find tapping's ability to help us to clear fear and resistance so that we make better, more thoughtful choices even […]

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In order to get the most out of a tapping session we know that the more specific we are about an issue, the faster we will get results. In more than a decade of working with clients I have come to realize that 95% of all issues have the exact same core issue. In this […]

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We have all heard the old saying that “hindsight is 20/20 vision” because it is so much easier to look back and see how we could have done things differently from the vantage point of the present. When this happens we can end up judging ourselves very harshly. The problem with this type of evaluation […]

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As my friend Jondi Whitis likes to say, “At our core we are herd animals.” This statement has some profound impact when it comes to how we see ourselves, the actions we take, and how self-sabotaging behaviors show up in our lives. When we are making choices and taking action, we aren't just considering facts […]

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One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to help people to take the actions they want more consistently. At this point it is probably the number one focus of my work with clients in private sessions. It's an issue that I love working with BUT it doesn't mean that I am immune to […]

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One of my favorite parts of running a question and answer website are the questions I am asked by readers and listeners like you. The reason I love it so much is because answering your questions pushes me to think about the work that I do in new ways so that I can clearly articulate […]

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The human experience is complicated. At times it can feel like we are being pulled in multiple directions, as if we are of two (or many) minds. I recently thought this was expressed perfectly on one of my favorite TV shows, Project Runway (US version). In the midst of struggling with choosing her creative direction […]

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Over the weekend my friend, and all-around amazing thinker and practitioner, Alan Davidson died. Next week I will be sharing the last interview I did with him. In this week's podcast I would like to highlight the amazing interviews that I have done in the past about responding to grief. Grief is not an emotion […]

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Recently I was writing about the history of tapping, tracing the different tapping points used over time and also why different practitioners and innovators had added and subtracted points. In doing the research I realized that a number of tapping points have “fallen out of favor”. Usually this was to do with how to teach […]

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Here in North America we are just emerging from a long, dark winter and many of my clients have shared their struggles with low energy levels, particularly first thing in the morning or when they hit a wall mid-afternoon. This week's podcast shares a simple procedure to reset your energy. As I was recording this, […]

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Recently in a social media post a friend used the phrase “fiercely kind” which really stuck in my mind, although to be honest I wasn't exactly sure what it meant. At one end of the spectrum we can be too kind-hearted for our own good, which is a kind way of saying we are being […]

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The way that I have described the emotional toll of the last year is as if we are paying a 20% emotional tax every morning when we get up. This means that our energy is at a lower ebb, we think more slowly, and many everyday activities seem to take more effort. As time passes […]

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Twelve years ago today the very first episode of the Tapping Q and A Podcast was published, which means a little celebration is in order. Sometimes we hold ourselves back from celebrating. Perhaps because we are worried the achievement isn't big enough to shout about, or others may think we are being immodest, or if […]

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For me, jealousy is one the most corrosive emotions. Jealousy floods the mind with all sorts of negative thoughts, leading us to think poorly about ourselves, about the object of our jealousy, and amplifies our feelings about the unfairness of the world. That cascade of negative thoughts also leads us to feeling unmotivated because part […]

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In my mind there are three main reasons why we tap. The first is for emotional first aid. This is the tapping we do in the moment to help us when our emotions feel overwhelming. The second is for clearing hurtful memories and limiting beliefs. I group these together because they are often intertwined, with […]

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All of us have experienced failures in our past. It is an unavoidable part of being human. We fail because we didn't finish what we started, we didn't put in the effort we should have, or we didn't get the results we wanted. Failure can be instructive, but if we continue to relive our failures […]

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Recently I conducted a survey of my readers and listeners asking them what their biggest struggle with tapping is. There were five really common responses: Not knowing where to start Having way too many issues to tap for ​Not knowing what to say when tapping for a particular issue ​Tapping consistently Finding that tapping for […]

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In the middle of the day it is easy to find ourselves distracted. One minute we are working on a task…the next we are sucked into one of our social media accounts, glued to a YouTube video, or conducting some frivolous internet research. AND if we are not careful, we surface 30 minutes later and […]

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I spend a lot of time helping my clients to get clear about the actions they want to take. They often think their problem is not knowing exactly how to do what they want to do. In reality, the problem isn't not knowing what to do next, it's about actually knowing what they want. If […]

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We have all been trained to push on, to push through, and to maintain a stiff upper lip. Sometimes that isn't possible. Sometimes there are hard things in our lives and we feel overwhelmed with sadness. Right now there is so much going on in the world. Many of us feel disconnected, isolated, alone, anxious […]

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As one of the craziest years in living memory winds down, there is a great desire to find peace, calm, and stillness. This week's podcast contains a simple tap-along process to help calm your system and gain some mental clarity. In addition, learn how to choose which tapping point to tap on next (you will […]

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There is no question that tapping is a valuable tool to have in your self-care tool box, but if we are not thoughtful in our approach, it is easy for us to miss out on some of the benefits of a tapping session. If we aren't careful we can tap for thirty minutes, moving from […]

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Most of us are familiar with thinking of fear in terms of flight or flight. In reality, fear shows up in many different flavors. There is fight, flight, freeze, fog, and flop, to name just a few of the possible ‘f words’ we might experience. The feeling of fear engages both our autonomic nervous and […]

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Managing major transitions and life changes can be difficult. Not only can these changes impact the work we do, where we live, and who we spend time with, they also impact the way we see ourselves and how others define us. When we are going through major changes, a primitive part of the brain starts […]

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2020 has been a year filled with a lot of disappointment. There are so many plans that we have needed to be changed or canceled because of circumstances way beyond our control. There are two important reasons that it is useful to tap for disappointment. First, it doesn't feel good to be disappointed. Second, if […]

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Tapping for limiting beliefs can be tricky because there isn't always an emotion that goes along with them. Beliefs like “I am never going to succeed”, “I won't ever be able to lose weight”, and “Everyone will judge me if I share my work” can feel like facts and finding an entry point to tap […]

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When working with my clients, I have found that people who are interested in personal development also usually take the choices they make seriously. They want to make sure the choices they are making line up with the vision that they have for the person they would like to be. As a general rule this […]

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Because of everything going on in the world at the moment, my theory is that we are all paying a 20% energy tax from the moment we get up. It's as if we are losing 20% of our energy before we have even started the day because of the underlying feelings of worry and overwhelm. […]

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There are times when things go wrong and then there are times when things REALLY go wrong. The week of recording this podcast my website was down for a number of days and I was unable to access my email. I experienced a range of strong emotions around the situation including feeling frustrated, maddened and […]

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Many of us have a love/hate relationship with social media. One one hand I genuinely love how easy social media makes it to stay connected to my friends and family from all over the world. It's great to be able to see what they are up to. I love seeing their kids grow up and […]

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The more time I spend studying the human body, the more its complexity amazes me. We are a combination of biological functions, thoughts, beliefs, memories, and an entire pharmacy of biochemistry that is released and absorbed by our bodies based on a whole host of factors. Even though our system is so complex, it does […]

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The most common reason that most people don't tap on their own is because they don't know what words to say. Nearly everyone is taught to tap using words, so this preoccupation is understandable. In this podcast Gwyneth Moss and I have a conversation that has completely changed the way that I teach tapping and […]

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You have been there before. You're trying to make a positive change in your life, such as giving up sweets. The first day is hard. The second is harder. The third day, for some unknown reason, is really easy. You feel awesome. You are making progress. Real change is happening! But then along comes day […]

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When we are tapping for a specific issue it can often feel as if there is a small bit of it remaining that we can't quite put our finger on. It seems like a shadow of the issue hanging around in the background, rather than the issue itself. When this happens it is hard to […]

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Chronic issues can be some of the most difficult to address with tapping and EFT because usually there is no obvious root cause. The physical ailments can begin months or even years after the trauma occurred and since it's hard to know when the issue began, we don't have a clear target for our tapping. […]

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Recently I have changed my mind about making bad choices. Instead of feeling frustrated with myself, I have decided to embrace occasionally making bad choices as long as I make them in a conscious way. Strangely this decision has been helping me to make better, healthier choices! In this week's podcast I explore why I […]

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Tapping and EFT are powerful tools that can be used for so many different issues it can be difficult to know exactly where to start. The part of us that wants to get our tapping “exactly right” means that sometimes we don't tap because we want to avoid tapping on the “wrong thing”. Over the […]

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When we are describing ourselves (or when others are describing us) we identify with a whole host of different characteristics. You might be known as a hard worker, a caring person, a great wit, or a loyal friend. Some of these characteristics are aspirational, some are from the ways others describe us, and others may […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. I like to […]

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In the most basic terms it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic instance in their life it is very likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA. I believe that one of the most important discoveries in the study of […]

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Especially for beginners, and sometimes for more skilled tappers, knowing what to say and where to start is often the part of tapping that trips people up. Just because we recognize the fact that the words themselves aren't magic and that there is no such thing as the perfect tapping phase, does not mean it's […]

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The two most common questions asked by those new to tapping are “Does tapping work?” and “How do we know tapping works?” As someone who loves tapping, it's great that I can share my personal first hand experience of tapping, but for some people it just isn't enough. In this conversation David Feinstein and I […]

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One of my favorite parts of the tapping community is people's willingness to share their experience and expertise. A few months ago I sent an email to a number of practitioners I admire and asked them if they would be willing to share their wisdom about the following: What lessons have clients taught you about […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. When we take […]

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As someone who knows a lot about tapping, it's natural to want to share that knowledge with others, but sometimes we don't have the opportunity. This is especially true when dealing with a crisis in the moment, when we are working with children, or both. In this podcast Jondi Whitis and I talk about how […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. One of the […]

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The murder of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and others as well as the ongoing protests at centuries of racial injustice have galvanized many to speak truth more forcefully in their daily lives. One of those people is my friend J Nycole Ralph. As J Nycole was processing her own emotions, she realized that she was […]

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When I am working with clients, it is amazing how much time we spend tapping for the things that other people have said to or about them. With just a few words others can hurt, belittle, and even embarrass us.

But is not just the words that hurt.

Often it is a combination of the words, the situation, and who has said the words that create the pain.

Here is a simple three step process that will show you how to tap for the words that hurt.

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Before doing this I didn't understand the difference between compassion fatigue and burnout. I thought compassion fatigue was just a specific type of burnout experienced by helpers and healers. In reality, compassion fatigue is not only different, but can be much more serious than burnout. To understand compassion fatigue more I interviewed licensed mental health […]

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As of January 1st there are new free Tap-Alongs added to the site every Monday. Here is a sample of one of these audios.

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Wanting to fit […]

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In May 2014 I was lucky enough to be invited to join the group Empowering The Philippines in teaching EFT Tapping to the residents of Tacloban City and the surrounding areas. Six months earlier the region had been ravaged by Super Typhoon Haiyan (called Yolanda in the Philippines), displacing four million people and leaving one […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. I often hear […]

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In response to everything that is going on the world my friends Jennifer Carey and Dayna Wood have been doing a video show three times a week called “Connected and Conscious”. On the show they ask their friends and colleagues how they are staying healthy, focused, and happy during this time of great upheaval and […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. A significant amount […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Last week a […]

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Just because we have a to-do list filled with useful tasks doesn't mean that we will actually have a productive day. Sometimes we waste our time on tasks that aren't even on our list, or we complete tasks on our list that are not the most valuable ones. Being busy is not necessarily the same […]

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Recently I was […]

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Another Sept. 11th has come and gone. I spent time this year on a flight in to NYC and I took a walk at sunset to look at the city and the memorial lights (see photo) from my home in Brooklyn.

I am not one who gets caught up in anniversaries of this type. I often think we spend too much time on the anniversary and not a enough time the rest of the year thinking about the ramifications of trauma and violence in the world.

It is easy to feel like we are too small or the conflict is too far away for us to have an impact, but when we are peacemakers where we are it ripples out and it is significant.

Take a few moments and tap with me on becoming a peacemaker.

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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Most choices aren't […]

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Most of us spend at least half of our day at work. Because work consumes so much of our time and attention, stress from the working day can easily spill over into the rest of our lives. This week's podcast provides a tool that will help you to leave work at work. This tool applies […]

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Family is complicated. Because they are family we want what is best for them. But at the same time we put up with more from them than we'd put up with from others because they are family. We will allow our family to say and do things that we would not tolerate from anyone else […]

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A few weeks ago I had very powerful tapping session with one of my clients. After the session she agreed that I could share it with you. Here is part one of the session. I have removed my client’s side of the conversation so that you can tap along as well.

In this part of the session we tap on the struggle to forgive ourselves. Often we find it much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves. When we look at our own choices we feel we should have known better or done better.

This is a very powerful tapping session and I would encourage you to tap to it a number of times this week.

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These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown. That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system tries to protect us. It's like we are starting off every day paying a […]

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I had a really powerful session with a client yesterday. While dealing with hesitating to act we landed on the issue of feeling worthy to be present and worthy of attention.

This is a short, but very powerful audio about our right to be here, to be seen, and to act.

Even if it doesn't sound like something that resonates with you, please tap to it.

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The most primitive part of our emotional guidance system is our fear response. Fear's primary goal is to keep us from dying. I know that sounds like an overstatement, but this is exactly how it functions. Of course it's good that part of our internal guidance is on alert and doesn't want us to die, […]

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It is all too easy to feel that we are trapped by our past choices and our current situation. But these things do not define us or who we can choose to be. In this short tapping audio we place ourselves at a fresh starting point.

This is a great way to start a new year! I would recommend you start your day with this audio for a few days in a row.

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Grief is a much more common emotion than we might think. It is obvious that we feel grief when a loved one dies, or when an important relationship or job ends. In reality, grief shows up any time we experience a loss. This could be for an opportunity, an ability, or even something as simple […]

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A few weeks ago I had very powerful tapping session with one of my clients. After the session I asked her if I could share it with you. Here is part two of the session. I have removed my client’s side of the conversation so that you can tap along as well.

The funny thing about God's unconditional love is that it is without condition. That seems obvious on some level intellectually. But in fact it is something that is hard to accept. We don't see ourselves as being worthy of God's love because of all the things we do wrong.

We don't need to heal ourselves to receive God's love. God's love is there to be healing. In this audio we tap for that fact.

I would recommend you tap to this audio a number of days in a row.

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Sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest places. A few weeks ago I attended the On Air Fest, an event for podcast creators and podcast fans. One of my favorite presentations was given by Shima Oliaee who was one of the producers for Dolly Parton's America. During the presentation Shima shared a number of lessons […]

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Our initial emotional response to a major crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic is with feelings of shock, worry, and overwhelm. At a certain point, the initial shock wears off and we move on to what I call second wave emotions that arise as we contemplate what is next and the future. Here are 7 tap-along […]

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After sharing 40 minutes of tapping on Friday I asked my listeners and readers what other topics would be useful for me to cover. In today's new audio we tap for the following topics: Fear of the unknown (4:13) Fear about how long this will last (7:24) Fear for our most vulnerable loved ones (10:24) […]

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You might not know that I am the lead coach in a program called the Transformational BizClub (BizClub for short) which is a program run by my friend Pamela Bruner. The BizClub is set up to help business owners grow their businesses through strategic help and mindset work (lots of tapping). On Friday morning in […]

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At the time of the recording of this podcast the COVID-19 virus is starting to impact daily life around the world. The number of cases is spreading. Sporting events are being canceled. People are being encouraged not to travel. Because of the constant stream of news and information on our social media feeds, it is […]

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The most common question I hear about tapping is “Will tapping work for [insert issue]?” The second most common question is “What are the right tapping phrases to use for [insert issue]?” I understand why that question is so often asked. In most tapping trainings you are taught that your tapping phrases need to be […]

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Pride is on the list of the seven deadly sins and whether explicitly and implicitly, our culture discourages us from displaying pride or egotism. Instead, we are taught to do our work and keep our heads down. Pride is on the list of the seven deadly sins and whether explicitly and implicitly, our culture discourages […]

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Multiple studies have shown that stating clear goals makes it more likely that we will be successful. They help us to stay on track and maintain our focus. But simply having goals is not enough. At one extreme it is easy to become disconnected from our goals because they are too abstract. At the other, […]

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One of the keys to effective tapping is having an emotion to tap for, but sometimes we aren't able to feel anything deeply. We may feel numb or ambivalent and even though these two experiences are not the same, they have much in common. This week's podcast will give you strategies for tapping when you […]

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One of the most difficult ideas that my clients wrestle with is that of forgiveness and I have found that they often lack a clear understanding of what forgiveness is and what it is not. When we forgive someone else it can feel like we are saying it is okay, that they don't have to […]

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The tool that I use the most often from my hypnosis training while doing tapping and EFT is metaphor. The subconscious mind often works in imagery as a way of presenting struggle, trauma, and limiting beliefs. Since this is the language of the subconscious mind, it makes sense that when we are doing work on […]

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The majority of the issues that I work on with my clients have something to do with the people in their lives. Sometimes the issue concerns someone we interact with now, and at other times it is about the limiting beliefs people have given us in the past. The struggle with issues that have to […]

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When I am asking my clients why they have made certain past choices, they often say something like, “I don't know. I just had this gut feeling.” OR “I just had this sense of intuition that it was the right thing to do.” I know exactly what this sensation feels like because I experience it […]

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Tapping can be used to help manage the functions and systems of the body. Often times our system can be hyper functioning or under functioning. Here is a great little tool I use to help us to tune into the body and get a sense of what is going on in the body and how we can tap for it.

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I have always found the law of attraction's teaching of “visualizing a positive outcome and somehow the universe will just magically make it happen” a little suspect. My doubt was a prompt for me to do some research and when looking into visualizing an outcome without action, this is what I found: During the course […]

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One of the great things about tapping is that we can jump right into doing work any time and anywhere. Even though we can start a tapping session without any preparation, I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin a session, then we will get more out of it. Here […]

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When we sit down to tap we are doing it because we want to feel better. It is easy to fall into the trap of feeling like the only way our tapping will be successful is if we feel absolutely wonderful when we have finished. In truth, that isn't always possible but there are many […]

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There is an interesting phenomenon that crops up as we become more experienced tappers and more experienced with healing and change work. We start to recognize what is possible with healing! There are two sides to this. On one hand we can become excited about having such useful tools, while on the other hand it […]

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If you have ever worked with me one-on-one or listened to an audio of me working with a client, then you know I spend a lot of time asking different parts of your body for feedback. I regularly have my clients ask questions of the physical sensations they are feeling. That is not a metaphor […]

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I have a real problem with the word "fix". It means that something is broken. There are a number of draw back to looking at any issue or part of our life as broken. In this audio (with full transcript) we look at the key differences between fix and transform.

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Recently I was working with a client who was frustrated with the process of tapping. He felt angry. The process went like this: he felt angry he tapped for the anger he felt better some time would pass he felt angry again Dealing with the same issue over and over again had him feeling incredibly […]

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How can I tap on more than one issue at a time?

I was asked by one of my clients how it is possible to tap on multiple issues all at once. This is one of my favorite tools. You can do this technique for any group of issues and it can be quickly after you hear it once.

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Working with clients has allowed me to understand a fundamental of human nature: All the choices we make are functional choices. In practical terms this means that all of the choices we make are the best choices that we can make in any given moment based on the information we have and our current resource […]

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I was recently working with a client on using Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping to help him to go after some major goals in his life. There wasn't a particular issue that needed to be addressed, but instead he was looking for a way to set himself up to go after his goals. We did just a few minutes of tapping. When we were done he felt at peace and was ready to go after his goals for the day (and his long goals). Right as we finished the tapping he said, "You need to share this as one of your bonus podcasts," so here it is. This is less than 7 minutes long, but it is good stuff. I hope it helps you to get after your goals today as well.

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We all know that New Year Resolutions don't work. It would be nice to believe that making a statement at midnight on December 31st would be enough to create fresh ways of thinking and acting, but it doesn't work that way. With that being said, a new year is a great time to reevaluate our […]

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It seems like every client I have been working with for the last week and a half has asked me about tapping to help them to sleep. Daily stress is a very common cause for disrupting sleep because the system is busy trying to solve the problems of the previous day and is consumed with the worries of tomorrow. In this very simple tap-along audio you will get the chance to prepare the system for a great night of rest and relaxation. Not only do we spend time with being physically tired but also with emotional exhaustion and mental fatigue.

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Even though we spend most of our time tapping to try to reduce emotions, emotions are not our enemy. Our emotional response is our internal guidance system trying to keep us safe and on track. Fear is an extremely helpful emotion in that it helps us to see danger BUT problems arise if our fear […]

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On a recent episode of the Judge John Hodgman podcast, one of the litigants (when talking about her husband) said “I want him to have what he wants. I just want him to want something different.” That is such a relatable sentiment. Sometimes we believe we can see the best path for our loved ones, […]

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When we are wanting to take action, it is very easy for us to be stuck because of worry. Worry is nothing more than a part of us trying to keep us safe by keeping an eye out for everything that could possibly go wrong. The problem is that the part of us that worries, […]

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My clients tell me all the time: “This is so frustrating! I feel like I am dealing with the same issue over and over again. When am I going to get past this!?!” I can appreciate their frustration. We want to feel like the time we are spending on our transformation is fruitful. We want […]

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It is good that we are thankful for what we have in our lives. Expressing gratitude helps us to be appreciative, grounded, and there are even health benefits to being thankful. The problem is that on a subconscious level we may feel that wanting more means do not appreciate what we already have, and that […]

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Every time we make a choice we are limiting our future options. That is the simple reality of choice. If I choose to study literature at university, I am limiting my ability to become a medical doctor. If I choose to go to Norway on vacation, that limits my ability to go to Japan this […]

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Many of my clients would identify as the ‘black sheep' of their families or communities. Because they moved to the beat of their own drums, they were usually out of step with everyone else. This can be particularly difficult for youngsters to handle because it felt unsafe to express their true selves. In order to […]

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One of my clients recently asked me, "What is the end game to this tapping thing?" What he meant by the question is besides the constant improvement of our lives (which is no small thing), where does tapping lead us? What is the final goal?

This is a really interesting questions. This bonus podcast is my reflection on this point. I would love to hear your response to my thoughts. Please add your thoughts in the comments below.

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There is no shortage of pain or struggle in the world. Because of this, at any given moment any number of our loved ones can be suffering in big and small ways. When our loved ones are in pain, we really want to ease their burden, but just because that is our intention doesn't mean […]

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I think the way we end a tapping session is just as important as the way we begin it. For me the end of the session is more than a signing off process, but it is the next step in healing. When we tap it is not a healing moment, but instead part of a healing process that is going to continue through out the day and through out our life.

I like to spend time at the end of a session (especially an emotional one) setting up the system to continue the work thought the day. The end of my sessions often looks like this:

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On October 20th I received the sad news that Dr. Pat Carrington had passed away the day before at the age of 95. In the tapping world Pat was best known for creating the Choices Method and was one of the Founding EFT Masters. On a personal level, she was an amazing champion of my […]

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I spend a great deal of time talking to my clients and writing on this site about the importance of having a disposition of gratitude. In this podcast I share a bit of the science of what is going on when we feel both gratitude and poverty. [Note: in this discussion poverty is any feeling of lack, not just not having enough money.] When we understand what is going on in the body when we feel these emotions and how these emotions effect our choices it becomes much easier to see the places we can apply tapping for healing.

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On any given day there are more than a dozen stories in the news about what is happening to the Earth's environment. On one level it is good that we are better informed about what is going on in the world and how our choices impact our environment. But on another level it can feel […]

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In this very unique audio you will not only get the opportunity to hear me working one-on-one with a real client, but you will also get to hear the reason why I am making the choices I am making with the client. Every so often you will hear me break into the session to explain my thought process at that moment.

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For me, loneliness is one of the toughest emotions. The sense of disconnection that comes with feeling lonely almost feels like we are losing touch with our own humanity. That swirling black hole of emotion seems to keep pulling us in ever deeper. One of the hardest parts of loneliness is feeling it even when […]

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It is no fun when we feel hurt by what someone else says or does. In many cases these hurtful words or actions are unintentional, and others may be completely unaware that they have hurt us. Even though it wasn't their intention to cause us pain, we feel hurt nonetheless. In this podcast we explore […]

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Sometimes it's hard to know where to start tapping on an issue. We know tapping will help. We know that we just need to start. But we don't quite know where to start. Our emotions feel like a knotty, tangled up necklace, with no obvious place to begin. In this week's audio I have the […]

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Tapping is a powerful tool that can be used to clear a huge range of issues, even those that have plagued us for years. Starting to make better choices feels great and allows positive change to seep into every part of our daily lives. At a certain point we almost forget about the issue because […]

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I pride myself on being a thoughtful and helpful person. I like to believe that I am good at living up to my commitments. Most of the time this is true. BUT I am also human and I do make mistakes and unintentionally let people down. This week I have a very simple tap-along audio […]

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In my client sessions over the last few weeks I have found myself repeatedly saying that there are four reasons why we sabotage ourselves and stand in the way of taking the action we know we want to take. Without exception my clients respond with, “Wait! I want to write this down.” So here are […]

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I was recently on a flight from LA to Chicago. The last 45 minutes of flight I ended up tapping with the woman seated next to me. I think there are a number of lessons that can be learned form this session. Here are 12 lessons we can learn for this quick session.

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Note: If you find reading instructions more helpful than listening, you should check out the article version of the topic. When people unsubscribe from my mailing list they have the opportunity to leave a comment. I recently received a really interesting comment from someone who was unsubscribing from my list. She wrote: “I am very […]

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When I first started using EFT I thought the reason that we tapped was to feel better. My first two tapping experiences reinforced this belief.

My first memory of using EFT on my own was getting rid of one of the most profound headaches I had ever experienced in about 90 seconds. My second big moment was dealing with my social anxiety.

It makes sense that is what I thought EFT was all about because in both cases I felt SO much better.

But there will be times when using tapping only as a way to feel better will do us a disservice. This is what I mean...

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Trying again where we have failed in the past is one of the hardest things to do. I was recently faced with wanting to do something that didn’t go well in the past. It wasn’t that it went badly, but it was far from as successful as I would have liked, so I was hesitant […]

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Theoretically we all want to be our authentic selves and show up in the world as we actually are. But for most of us it's just not that simple. From past experience we have learned that there are some situations where others don't understand us, or we have been judged harshly for being our authentic […]

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As many of you know, I also run the member site the Ruach Center. Every day members of the site receive an email from me with a link to a tap-along audio that is designed to conquer self-sabotaging behavior. Recently, as I was recording one of those audios, I personally experienced a huge emotional shift. […]

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Tapping is a tool that is both relatively simple to learn and implement, but deceptively complicated to master. The basics of tapping are easy to explain. So much so that I have given full instructions on the basics in under five minutes on the back of a bar napkin. At the same time, tapping effectively […]

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The basics of tapping are so simple that they can be taught in mere minutes. But just because tapping is simple, doesn’t mean that effective tapping is easy. There is so much more to it than knowing the tapping points. In this short audio I explain three simple ideas to keep in mind before you […]

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It is great that we have people in our lives who want to be helpful. They are willing to offer their time, attention and advice to make our lives better. The problem is that just because someone wants to be helpful, doesn't mean that they are actually helpful – and sometimes they even make a […]

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It is difficult for us to see the people we love suffer. Often we don't consider the consequences when we rush in to help. Our need to bring peace and comfort can over riders all other thoughts and consideration. This is not always the healthiest choice for our self in the short and/or long term.

Sometimes when we choose to help we do so by taking on the burden of our loved ones. Many times we can carry these burdens for years. Often we don't even realize this is case or we have taken on these burdens when we were very very young, having no memory of choose to takes these burdens on.

When the burdens of others have been a part of our lives for so long they feel like they are a part of us and we don't realize they are something that can be released.

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The idea of quitting comes with a lot of cultural baggage. Quitting is often seen as failure, or giving up, or as a sign of weakness. I'm sure you have heard the old chestnut, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” Don't get me wrong. It is a good thing to live up to commitments […]

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This is a technique that I developed from some of the resources from Quantum Techniques. I use this with many of my clients at the end of sessions, especially when we have done powerful work. This is a great way to relax anytime of day, but is perfect for the end of the day or right before bed time.

The techniques is less than three minutes long and after you listen to it once you will have it mastered because it is so easy.

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If you have been following me of any length of time online, then you know how much I love goal setting. I find that goals are useful in clarifying what we want, helping us to create an actionable plan, and give us the tools to evaluate our progress. At the same time, having a clear […]

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While on retreat a few years ago Russ Hudson said, "We must be in touch with the mind, body, and spirit in order to be candidates for transformation."

Because of the nature of the modern world we have lost touch with our physical bodies. Most of us are not working the land, in tune with the seasons, or using our bodies for work. Just watch someone who is on-line. It looks as if they have left their bodies.

It is very easy (and healthy) to reconnect with our physical bodies. Here is a great FREE tap along to find yourself reconnected with your body. Take a few moments at the beginning or ending of each day to tap along to this.

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Human beings are social creatures. That means that in order to thrive, we need to do more than just interact with others, we need to work together, whether collaboratively in a professional context, or by sharing enjoyable activities in our social lives. Whenever we ask someone to do something with or for us, we risk […]

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I am a huge proponent of goal setting. Having clearly defined goals is helpful in two ways. First, it helps to define the actions we need to take to achieve them. Second, it gives us a measuring stick with which to evaluate our efforts along the way and after the fact. Without having set goals […]

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With some issues measuring our success is a simple task. For example, after going to the gym four times a week for a few months I can measure how much stronger I am by how much weight I can now lift compared with when I started. But not all types of transformation are as easy […]

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Often times we treat our body as the enemy and working our way back to being healthy as a battle. We feel betrayed, hopeless, and frustrated by our body. When we do this we are turning on our self. As hard as it is to believe, our body us in this state because the system believes this is the best state we can be in. It either believes we can get no healthier or it believes by being in our current state it is going to keep us safe. Once we recognize that we are our body and that our body is trying to function in a way that is best it then becomes possible to work with our bodies to move down the paths to greater health and well being.

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Recently I was introduced to the quote “I'm not who I think I am. I not who you think I am. I am who I think you think I am.” [Note: Unfortunately the source of this quote is not clear, or I would provide it. It is variously credited to Charles Horton Cooley, Thomas Cooley, […]

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This is one of my favorite processes. I teach it in my advanced class as an example of both guided imagery and parts work. I do this process at least one a week myself. The first time I did it I was amazed at the information my system gave me. In this version of it Jessica of the Tapping Insiders Club ask me a few questions about the process and then you can just tap right along with it.

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Music can be so powerful at setting our mood. So much so that experiments have shown that music can dictate our interpretation of events where images are accompanied by different kinds of music. For example, grave images with whimsical music were seen as humorous, and sad pictures with silly music were perceived as funny. We […]

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Did you know that during adolescence the brain goes through more neurological changes that it does at any point in human development? That's even more changes than during the notorious “terrible twos” and one of the reasons why interacting with teenagers can be so complicated. Being around teens can be challenging because they constantly seem […]

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A concept that I learned very early on in my training as a practitioner was: Our emotional response is dictated by how we describe the world, and not the way the world actually is. That's why I am constantly asking my clients for more details about how they understand what is going on in their […]

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In Pod #370 last week we talked about how best to use tapping when contemplating or going through a divorce. This week I have a conversation with Melissa Beasley about abusive relationships. Between these two conversations you can see how hard it is to talk about relationships that are going badly. There is so much […]

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Divorce is a tricky subject. One one level there is all the cultural pressure to find a way of making a success of a struggling relationship. On the other, there is the desire to keep yourself happy and healthy by ending a relationship that is no longer working. Because of these opposing desires, figuring out […]

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A common characteristic of people involved in personal development and self-help is that they are caring and thoughtful people. As well as trying to improve their own lives, they strive to make the world a better place. Because of this, they are sensitive to other people's needs and desires and they really want to make […]

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Our internal critical voice is one of the key reasons we fail to take the action we want in life. This constant nagging voice in our heads points out all of our past failings, why we aren't capable of taking action now, and why we will fail in the future. When we have a voice […]

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As much as I love tapping, it is not the only or best tool that we can use for our health and wellbeing. In her latest book “Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer” Kris Ferraro goes beyond the basic EFT tapping recipe and teaches many other tapping-type tools. They are […]

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In part one of “Getting Out Of My Own Way”, the ten-part guide for using tapping to eliminate self-sabotage, I shared with you tapping to use at each end of your day. Tapping is a great way to start off your day on the right foot. Ending the day with tapping helps to let go […]

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Feeling like we don't belong is tough. It might be because we don't feel we are smart enough, talented enough, have something offer the world, or that we just don't fit in. Feeling like a fraud means that we don't contribute or speak up, we hide in the background, or we don't even show up. […]

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In Recovering Sell – A Healing Manifesto I share twelve thoughts on healing. Number six is: “There is always resistance to change because if there weren't resistance, you would have changed already.” As a tapper, this means that one of our most important tasks is to find the root cause(s) preventing us from taking action […]

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Grief is a topic that we don't talk about much publicly. We talk about loss. We talk about moving on. But we don't talk about grief itself. When we don't talk about and process grief, it lingers and can cause problems for us in the future. This week I have a conversation with Lynne Staley. […]

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One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix. Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the […]

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It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories. Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways. First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others […]

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Tapping is a powerful tool in helping us to find relief from physical and emotional discomfort. It can reduce pain in the moment, diminish overpowering emotions, and can even help us to see a problem more clearly. As wonderful as all of this is, I believe we are missing half of the benefits tapping can […]

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Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives. The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of […]

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Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern “I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life.” Given the way that manifestation in this world view is […]

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Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping. This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping […]

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With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work. Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive […]

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As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life. For most of us, including […]

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Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want. In this week's podcast we are talking about: Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process How to make the healing process as quick as possible […]

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In this conversation with Brad Yates he shares the Zig Ziglar quote “You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.” The quote came up because we were talking about the reasons we sometimes don't get the results we are seeking with tapping. We often tap because we […]

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Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive. Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first. For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions […]

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Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference…but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted. Because of this she dedicated a lot of time to thinking about why some issues were […]

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In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic human needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are driven by one of these three needs. Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in […]

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When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause. If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're […]

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Parenting can often feel like a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be planned and served, errands to be run, getting the kids to and from school, homework to be done, and all of the other tasks […]

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One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modalities. Recently, Steve Wells has been working using the power of intention combined with tapping to achieve deeper healing and longer lasting results. The idea of intention in this context is not about the outcome we desire […]

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Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when you mess something that you know you can do, have done before, but right at the moment when it's most important to get right, you mess up. Athletes deal with this problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do […]

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Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 4 of 4. You can find all four parts […]

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Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts […]

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Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts […]

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Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts […]

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Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain. Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad. […]

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Tapping is great because it can be used on so many different issues, both physical and emotional. It works for issue from the past and worries about the future. Because the tool is so flexible, sometimes it is hard to know just where to start. You want to get the most out of your tapping […]

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Note: This is Part 4 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Often our harshest critic is the one living inside our own head. It points out everything we are doing wrong, all the expectations we are not living up to, and how we are […]

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Gratitude and thanksgiving are powerful tools in helping us to be present in the moment and to help us to be even more aware of the blessings we have. But giving thanks isn't always the easiest of tasks because our lives aren't perfect. There is pain, struggle, and disappointment. This week I have a tap-along […]

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Note: This is Part 3 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Attempting to tame clutter can feel like an overwhelming task. There have been times when I've spent hours trying to clean up… I work and work and work, but somehow it doesn't feel […]

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Note: This is Part 2 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. It can often feel like we are dealing with the same issues over and over again and when that happens, it can feel like tapping is just a giant waste of time. Our […]

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Note: This is part 1 of 5 in the Most commonly asked questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. When someone joins my mailing list, one of the two questions I ask them is, “What is the biggest issue you have when it comes to tapping?” When I started asking this question […]

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One of the main reasons that people say they don't tap is because of their belief that tapping won't work. This is a reasonable concern. Tapping is weird and it does seem unreasonable that tapping on the body can provide healing and relief. When I have encountered this resistance in the past, I've asked the […]

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Recently I have been asked by a number of my clients about what type of daily tapping I do. My own tapping falls into three main categories: The first is a practical approach where I do some tapping for every task on my to-do list. I covered this process back in Bonus Pod #46 Second, […]

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Back in podcast 292 I chatted with Mark Wolynn about how we are starting to recognize the way that trauma can be passed on from one generation to the next through our genes. Recognizing that some of our issues have nothing to do with our own experience is useful because it offers us a new […]

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It makes sense that we would feel grief and sadness after the death of a loved one. But this is not the only time that we experience grief. The emotion of grief is our system telling us that we are missing or disconnected from something or someone that is important to us. This could be […]

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Recently I was talking with one of my clients. She has been doing an amazing amount of transformational work in her life. Personally, professionally, and emotionally everything was better, but she was struggling. The basic thrust of our conversation was “I know everything in my life is getting better, so why do I feel worse?” […]

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Jealousy is such corrosive emotion. It makes us think ill of others. It makes us feel bad for ourselves. I don't know about you, but it leads me to make poor and rash decisions. The worst part of jealousy is feeling the emotion about someone else, but having to deal with its negative consequences. Recently, […]

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One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances. With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious […]

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It can be difficult to remain focused on doing the work to improve your life. Sometimes you are pushing forward without seeing any progress. Sometimes the goal seem so far away that it is impossible. AND sometimes we just feel alone on the journey. When we are trying to improve our lives it's common to […]

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This is Part 7 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we have been tapping for a specific emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 4 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 3 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 2 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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This is Part 1 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now […]

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Betrayal is unlike other emotions because it creates problems beyond the immediate pain we feel when we realize we have been betrayed. Betrayal also sows seeds of doubt at a subconscious level, which can create lasting physical and emotional problems. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber who has dedicated her research […]

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I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help. The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn’t whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an […]

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For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you – and NONE of it is good! Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this […]

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It can tough to see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them well. Because we have distance from their situation, we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they cannot. What can be even more difficult is that often they are so deeply entangled in the issue that they […]

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Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling. Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. […]

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Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true. Once we identify these […]

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For some reason, certain situations and certain people just push our buttons, despite knowing logically that our response is irrational and shouldn't elicit as much emotion as we feel. In this week's podcast I share with you a simple 7-step process you can use when you are having your buttons pushed. In the audio I […]

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Our relationships are living, breathing organisms, alive with the constant dynamic of give and take. At times there is a lot more give than take. This can affect our feelings about the relationship, about the other person in the relationship, and can even have a detrimental effect on our other relationships At this year's Spring […]

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In last week's podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn't necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it. When I say uncomfortable I don't mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, […]

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Did you know that swearing is good for you? And I don't mean just swearing for the sake of it, but there are a number of contexts in which scientific research has shown it is actually good for you. It can help to manage pain, build comradery, and release stress. It can also be a […]

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One of the situations that my clients struggle with the most is dealing with the expectations of their loved ones. Our loved ones want what is best for us, but they want what is best of us in terms of what they think will make us happy. Often what they think will make us happy […]

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We all know that tapping is a powerful tool when we are in pain, distress, and discomfort. Did you know it can also be a useful tool when we are celebrating success? The reason for this is because it is common to feel a number of negative emotions at the exact same time as feeling […]

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Recently I was listening to the actor and comedian Dan Van Kirk being interviewed on Kevin Pollak's Chat Show podcast. Dan told the story of his career path, moving from rural Illinois to LA, then to Chicago, and finally back to LA where he ultimately found success. Dan described the choices he made early in […]

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Sharing EFT/Tapping with our loved ones can be a difficult task, mostly because it is kind of weird. Talking about tapping in a way that others will listen to is a skill. This week I have a conversation with someone who has mastered this conversation. Robin Bilazarian is a licensed mental health professional who has […]

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As much as we would like to share tapping with our friends and family, it is not something that we can share with young children. Young children do not have the focus and ability to tap, and infants are clearly unable. This does not mean that they can't benefit from tapping because it is possible […]

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In our modern world it is so easy to become disconnected from our bodies, especially as most of us spend our days seated at desks, rather than engaged in any kind of physical labor. When we take the time to tune into our bodies, we can access a wealth information that we can use to […]

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Recently I made a mistake and I hurt my friend “Dave”. That mistake caused him a lot of trouble. In addition to being mad at me for making the mistake (which he had every right to be), Dave was also mad at me because he thought I had taken advantage of him. Because I knew […]

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A few weeks ago in Podcast 299 I shared with you a simple way to use intentions at the beginning of every day as gentle way of taking more positive action throughout the day. I heard from a number of clients who tried the process and struggled to use it. One described how when she […]

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Sometimes we tap with the aim of just feeling better, without a clear focus for our tapping. We might feel unsettled or out of sorts, but not in a precise way. From a tapping point of view this can pose a problem because often the best results come when we are very specific about an […]

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Quit has become a dirty word. American football coach Vince Lombardi is credited with saying that “Winners never quit and quitters never win!” Early in the movie “Molly's Game” (based on the life of Molly Bloom) there is a flashback to Molly’s childhood and a session training to be a competitive skier. After hours of […]

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The beginning of a new year provides a great opportunity to reset and refocus. Even though I am not the biggest fan of New Year's resolutions, I have found a way to make a small commitment to tapping each day that is making huge changes in the way that I behave and feel. In this […]

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Recently my friend Jake Khym was being interviewed on a podcast and he brought up the idea of “the art of love.” He talked about how being loving is a not only a skill, but a skill at which we can get better. There wasn’t the time in that particular interview for him to go […]

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One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to remove whatever is standing in the way of taking action towards creating the life we desire. In this conversation with my friend Kris Ferraro, we go through a simple step-by-step process she has created to help you get clarity about what you want, how to […]

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Tapping for pain and distress is easy. You can name exactly what is wrong (the pain) and you have a clear idea of what you want (relief). Tapping to create a life that we love can be a little bit tricker because we are often unsure of exactly what we want that life to be […]

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One the main reasons that we don't do the tapping we know would be useful is that we don't know where to begin. We have a general idea that something isn't right, but we can't quite put our finger on it. When we are in this situation tapping feels like a giant waste of time. […]

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Taking action can be very difficult when we aren't exactly sure of our direction or what we think should be happening next. The problem is that it is hard to tap for clarity because we aren’t trying to remove a feeling of discomfort or a block that is in the way. We are just missing […]

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Almost daily I receive an email asking something along the lines of, “What is the best way to tap for [insert issue]?” It’s great that people are looking for the most effect ways to clear an issue, but sometimes I think this question can be problematic. In this audio I explore the question of the […]

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When working with my clients one-on-one, we usually spend a lot of time tapping for the world views and beliefs that have been passed along from parents. It makes good sense that we pick up the beliefs of our parents because they are usually our closest relationships. Mark Wolynn's work looks at how we inherit […]

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EFT and tapping are powerful tools in the face of strong emotions in the moment. It is amazing how quickly we can feel better just by tapping without words as we are experiencing difficult or overwhelming feelings. Some events are so big, however, that they bring emotions that need be dealt with both before and […]

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Back in April I talked with Dr. Peta Stapleton about the scientific research that she has done over the last decade on the efficacy of tapping. In our last interview Peta talked about how she and her team had just been given access to an fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) machine for their research. Using […]

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It is a little known fact that there are approximately 40,000 neurons in the human heart and around 500 million in our stomachs. Together these neurons are sometimes referred to as “little brains”. The heart and stomach are connected to each other and to our brains via the vagus nerve. 80% of the information traveling […]

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My friend Pamela Bruner often says that “Small business ownership is the master's degree of personal development.” The reason she says this is because when we own a business, we are constantly being pushed to do tasks that make us uncomfortable. And because we are constantly in these situations, we have many opportunities to lean […]

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If you live in the United States more than likely you have been glued to the TV for the last week watching the tragedy unfold in Boston, MA.

Something this unexpected can leave us feeling very vulnerable because we recognize that there are so many things in the world beyond our control.

When we are in the middle of this kind of experience we see the same images over and over again. It almost feels like they are being burned into our retinas and engraved in our minds.

Here is a quick tap along in both audio and video format in response to everything we have felt and seen over the last week:

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One of the phrases that my clients find hardest to use in their tapping is, “I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself”. The reason they find it difficult is because it feels as if it’s giving themselves permission to do less work, not to try, or to be satisfied with something […]

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It is amazing how effective our system is at finding ways to feel better. When something is wrong (even when we aren't consciously aware of it), the system starts to take steps to feel better. The problem is that our system is geared to react with short term solutions. Its only concern is to stop […]

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Dealing with money is a fact of life. We can't live without it. In the best of all possible worlds money would be perceived just as a tool that helps us to fulfill our daily needs. The problem is that on an emotional level we don't perceive money as simply a tool. Instead, we write […]

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If you have been around the self-help world for any amount of time, it won’t surprise you to hear that caregivers are notoriously poor at taking good care of themselves. What might be surprising is that one of the areas where this lack of self-care shows up is the way in which caregivers struggle with […]

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I might seem counter intuitive, but there are three good reasons to why our loved ones don't want us to heal and transform. This can even be true for the people in our lives who are vocally supportive of us. In most cases this lack of support from our loved ones is happening on a […]

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Desire can be a double-edged sword. When we want something that we don't have and see others with it, we feel left out. Sometimes we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other hand, we can also feel […]

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Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now. No matter how long we have […]

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Why do you tap? It seems like such a silly question to consider. Obviously (!) we tap to make ourselves feel better, remove pain, to be healthier, and to create a more enjoyable life. I don't disagree with any of those ideas. In a global way that is why I use Emotional Freedom Techniques as […]

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One of the first techniques that any good tapper learns is the “movie technique”. In the movie technique you replay the details of a past event in your mind, as if you are watching them in a film. As you replay the past events, the moment you get to an emotion in the memory, you […]

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People with a kind heart and helping disposition are often those who have the hardest time reaching out for help. This can happen for reasons ranging from not wanting to be a burden to others, to believing that since we possess the tools of healing, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Everyone (and […]

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It would be great if we could find a solution for every problem. But that is simply not possible. Some illness can't be cured. Death is inevitable. There are even times when solutions are available, but for a variety of complex reasons our loved ones aren't willing or able to choose change. Whether there is […]

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There is a huge difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Just because tapping is a powerful tool doesn't mean that you will always remember to reach for it in times of emotional distress. When my clients are recounting something from the previous week that was hard, I ask them if they […]

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Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience. When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. […]

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A key reason we don't tap in the moment is because we are so engulfed by what we are feeling that we don't remember tapping is something helpful we can do. Or sometimes we may remember to tap, but we still don't do it because we don't know where to start. In the middle of […]

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Back in Pod #199 I shared with you a tap-along audio to help you when you are facing a big decision. The tap-along is about trusting yourself, creating space, and knowing that everything will work out for the best. I went back to listen to it again and I think it is an excellent and […]

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When tapping works, it feels like magic. You tap on a few points, you say a few phrases, and you get relief. When tapping doesn't work, you feel like a fool. You are sitting alone in your room muttering phrases to yourself, tapping on your body, and hoping it will get better. When this happens […]

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Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting. We struggle with creativity because: We want the ideas to emerge fully formed We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good We don't […]

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When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness it can difficult to know what to do next. On one level we want to be helpful but also recognise that they may need their space so we don't want to be intrusive. Often we are so shocked ourselves that we just don't know what […]

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Last August I had a conversation with acupuncturist Beth Kearns about each of the tapping points we use in the basic tapping routine. If you haven't listened to the conversation, I encourage you to go back to it because it is informative. There are three main differences between tapping and acupuncture. The first and most […]

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We enter this world as a blank slate. With each new experience and relationship we begin to form a series of beliefs about the world and our place within it. These beliefs become the bedrock of our emotional experience because they determine our interpretation of everything that happens to us in life. This becomes problematic […]

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Last month I shared an interview with Dr. Norman Shealy about fibromyalgia. Dr. Shealy shared his experience from the point of view of a medical doctor who has worked with fibromyalgia for more than three decades. It’s a great interview and if you haven't yet listened to it, it is well worth your time. The […]

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One of the biggest questions about the tapping is how we know if it really works or if the positive shifts it produces are just down to some sort of placebo effect. Dr. Peta Stapleton finds herself in a unique situation. As a college professor charged with supervising a number of master's level students and […]

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Releasing weight is about much more than simply knowing you should eat better and exercise more. First, there are usually a number of emotional blocks to making healthy choices and, second, even when we make the right choices, our system may still cling to the extra pounds. This week I have a conversation with Terran […]

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In 1993 Tapas Fleming developed an acupressure technique that was later named TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique). In many ways it is a sister protocol to EFT. In this conversation with Tapas we talk about how TAT was discovered, how to do it, and its similarities and differences to the tapping most of us are used […]

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I am always amazed when I stay with my friends and family who have small children. The amount of time, effort and dedication it takes to be a good parent is overwhelming to me as single man. In this week’s podcast I have a conversation with my parenting expert friend, Heather Chauvin, on the best […]

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My clients constantly tell me, “I know I should be tapping, but I don't want to spend time stuck in yukky negative emotions.” I can sympathize. Connecting with and feeling our negative emotions isn’t much fun. Even though tapping is a powerful tool to shift them, it makes sense that we avoid what is uncomfortable. […]

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Over the years I have been asked a number of times about how to tap for fibromyalgia. Unfortunately I have not been of much help as I have no experience working with this complex condition and all of the practitioners I have reached out to have reported achieving inconsistent results at best. For this reason […]

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The very first episode of the Tapping Q & A was released on March 3rd, 2009. There are now over 300 podcasts in the archive, which is over 150 hours of free content that you can learn from, tap along to, and share with others. To celebrate its eighth anniversary, in this podcast episode I […]

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