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The Difference Between Men and Women Shopping

2007-04-16T13:28:00.000+08:00

人生好的习惯

2006-12-29T07:52:00.000+08:00

1、每天提前15分钟上班，推迟15分钟下班。

2、每天在下班前5分钟的时间做一天的整理性工作。

3、每天出门照镜子，给自己一个自信的笑容。

4、遇到挫折对自己大声说：再努力一下、太棒了。

5、每天多做一件“分外事”。

6、不说消极的话，不落入消极情绪，一旦出现立即正面处理。

7、凡事先订立目标，并且尽量制作“梦想版”。

8、凡事预先作计划，尽量提前、将目标视觉化。

9、随时用零碎的时间（如等人、排队等）做零碎的小活。

10、写下来，不要太依赖脑袋记忆。

11、把重要的观念、方式、程序写下来，并贴起来，以随时提示自己。

12、守时

13、随时记录：灵感、别人干这事的技巧、有启发的言辞。

14、走路比平时快30%。走路时，脚尖稍用力推进,肢体语言健康有力，不懒散、萎靡。

15、做事动作比平时快30%：心快、眼快、手快,边做梢带想着下一步。

16、做不熟练事要专注，重视细节。

17、保护自己牙齿:饭后每次刷牙,不要让人闻到你口腔味。

18、凡事第一反应：找方法，而不是找借口,不说“不可能”三个字或 “不关我的事”。

19、每天自我反省一次。 (看一看天花板)

20、每天坚持一次运动: 快速步行、快速上楼、跑步、做健身器锻练、力能及的家务重活,以上至少任选一种。

21、听心跳1分钟。指在做重要事前，疲劳时，心情烦燥时，紧张时。

22、微笑

23、用心倾听、既是不利的话、只有了解才能回击,不打断对方说话。

24、说话时，声音有力。感觉自己声音似乎能产生有感染力的磁场。

25、同理心。说话之前，先考虑一下对方的感觉。

26、开会坐在前排。

27、每天有意识、真诚地赞美别人三次以上。(拍马屁的功夫一定要学好)

28、及时写感谢卡，哪怕是用便条写。

29、六事优先工作制：完成昨天的事优先、已承诺的事优先、当天任务优先、急事优先、有人等待的事优先、熟练的事优先，每一分，每一秒做生产力的事情。

30、不管任何方面，每天必须至少做一次“进步一点点”。

31、不用训斥、指责的口吻跟别人说话。

32、控制住不要让自己做出为自己辩护的第一反应。

33、时常运用“头脑风暴”，还有NGP。

34、定期存钱。

35、节俭、不浪费。

36、恪守诚信，说到做到。

37、要对所有的生命有爱心。

38、日行一善。

The Programmer Hierarchy

2006-12-27T00:13:00.000+08:00

Steve Jobs' Best Quotes Ever

2006-10-28T00:06:00.000+08:00

One of the great things about Steve Jobs is what comes out of his mouth.

The CEO of Apple Computer is a master of hype, hyperbole and the catchy phrase. Even when he's trying to talk normally, brilliant verbiage comes tumbling out.

Here's a selection of some of the most insanely great things the man has said, organized by topic: innovation and design, fixing Apple, his greatest sales pitches, life's lessons, taking the fight to the enemy and Pixar.

On Innovation and Design:

"It's rare that you see an artist in his 30s or 40s able to really contribute something amazing."
-- At age 29, in Playboy, February 1985

"I've always wanted to own and control the primary technology in everything we do."
-- BusinessWeek Online, Oct. 12, 2004

"Innovation has nothing to do with how many R&D dollars you have. When Apple came up with the Mac, IBM was spending at least 100 times more on R&D. It's not about money. It's about the people you have, how you're led, and how much you get it."
-- Fortune, Nov. 9, 1998

"It's really hard to design products by focus groups. A lot of times, people don't know what they want until you show it to them."
-- BusinessWeek, May 25 1998

"It comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don't get on the wrong track or try to do too much."
-- BusinessWeek Online, Oct. 12, 2004

"(Miele) really thought the process through. They did such a great job designing these washers and dryers. I got more thrill out of them than I have out of any piece of high tech in years."
-- Wired magazine, February 1996

On Fixing Apple:

"The products suck! There's no sex in them anymore!"
-- On Gil Amelio's lackluster reign, in BusinessWeek, July 1997

"The cure for Apple is not cost-cutting. The cure for Apple is to innovate its way out of its current predicament."
-- Apple Confidential 2.0: The Definitive History of the World's Most Colorful Company, by Owen W. Linzmayer

"If I were running Apple, I would milk the Macintosh for all it's worth -- and get busy on the next great thing. The PC wars are over. Done. Microsoft won a long time ago."
-- Fortune, Feb. 19, 1996

"You know, I've got a plan that could rescue Apple. I can't say any more than that it's the perfect product and the perfect strategy for Apple. But nobody there will listen to me."
-- Fortune, Sept. 18, 1995

"Apple has some tremendous assets, but I believe without some attention, the company could, could, could -- I'm searching for the right word -- could, could die."
-- On his return as interim CEO, in Time, Aug. 18, 1997

"It wasn't that Microsoft was so brilliant or clever in copying the Mac, it's that the Mac was a sitting duck for 10 years. That's Apple's problem: Their differentiation evaporated."
-- Apple Confidential 2.0

"The desktop computer industry is dead. Innovation has virtually ceased. Microsoft dominates with very little innovation. That's over. Apple lost. The desktop market has entered the dark ages, and it's going to be in the dark ages for the next 10 years, or certainly for the rest of this decade."
-- Wired magazine, February 1996

"Nobody has tried to swallow us since I've been here. I think they are afraid how we would taste."
-- Apple shareholder meeting, April 22, 1998

Greatest Sales Lines Ever:

"Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?"
-- The line he used to lure John Sculley as Apple's CEO, according to Odyssey: Pepsi to Apple, by John Sculley and John Byrne

"We made the buttons on the screen look so good you'll want to lick them."
-- Jobs, on Mac OS X's Aqua user interface (Fortune, Jan. 24, 2000)

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod."
-- On the iPod's $300 price tag, Newsweek, Oct. 27, 2003

"It will go down in history as a turning point for the music industry. This is landmark stuff. I can't overestimate it!"
-- On the iTunes Music Store (iTMS), Fortune, May 12, 2003

"What's new is this amazingly efficient distribution system for stolen property called the internet -- and no one's gonna shut down the internet."
-- On how he sold iTMS to the music industry, Rolling Stone, Dec. 3, 2003

"IMac is next year's computer for $1,299, not last year's computer for $999."
-- iMac introduction in Cupertino, Calif., May 6, 1998

"The G4 Cube is simply the coolest computer ever. An entirely new class of computer, it marries the Pentium-crushing performance of the Power Mac G4 with the miniaturization, silent operation and elegant desktop design of the iMac. It is an amazing engineering and design feat, and we're thrilled to finally unveil it to our customers."
-- Macworld Expo, July 19, 2000

"It'll make your jaw drop."
-- On the first NeXT Computer, in The New York Times, Nov. 8, 1989

"We believe it's the biggest advance in animation since Walt Disney started it all with the release of Snow White 50 years ago."
-- On Toy Story, Fortune, Sept. 18, 1995

On Life's Lessons:

"It's better to be a pirate than to join the Navy."
-- Odyssey: Pepsi to Apple

"I feel like somebody just punched me in the stomach and knocked all my wind out. I'm only 30 years old and I want to have a chance to continue creating things. I know I've got at least one more great computer in me. And Apple is not going to give me a chance to do that."
-- Playboy, September 1987

"I'm the only person I know that's lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year.... It's very character-building."
-- Apple Confidential 2.0

"I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life."
-- Stanford University commencement address, June 12, 2005

Taking the Fight to the Enemy:

"John Sculley ruined Apple and he ruined it by bringing a set of values to the top of Apple which were corrupt and corrupted some of the top people who were there, drove out some of the ones who were not corruptible, and brought in more corrupt ones and paid themselves collectively tens of millions of dollars and cared more about their own glory and wealth than they did about what built Apple in the first place -- which was making great computers for people to use."
--The Computerworld Smithsonian Awards Program oral history, April 20, 1995

"It is hard to think that a $2 billion company with 4,300-plus people couldn't compete with six people in blue jeans."
-- On Apple's lawsuit following his resignation to form NeXT (Newsweek, Sept. 30, 1985)

"My opinion is that the only two computer companies that are software-driven are Apple and NeXT, and I wonder about Apple."
-- Fortune, Aug. 26, 1991

"Why would I ever want to run Disney? Wouldn't it make more sense just to sell them Pixar and retire?"
-- Fortune, Feb. 23, 2004

"The subscription model of buying music is bankrupt. I think you could make available the Second Coming in a subscription model and it might not be successful."
-- Rolling Stone, Dec. 3, 2003

"The Japanese have hit the shores like dead fish. They're just like dead fish washing up on the shores."
-- Playboy, February 1985

On Pixar:

"They're babes in the woods. I think I can help turn Alvy and Ed into businessmen."
-- On Pixar co-founders Alvy Ray Smith and Ed Catmull, in Time, Sept. 1, 1986

"If I knew in 1986 how much it was going to cost to keep Pixar going, I doubt if I would have bought the company."
-- Fortune, Sept. 18, 1995

"I think Pixar has the opportunity to be the next Disney -- not replace Disney -- but be the next Disney."
-- BusinessWeek, Nov. 23, 1998

50种珍惜生命的态度

2006-10-17T13:16:00.000+08:00

1、为爱而生
只有爱，能使世界转得更圆；只有爱，能创造奇迹。
能够看见别人的好，就会提升自己的好；
能够说出别人的好，就会强化对方与自己要更好。
爱是一切的原动力。

2、做自己的心灵捕手
把实现自己生命第一优先考虑，
善待内在的小孩，给他勇气、信心和生命，
想念自己，做你自己，宽恕自己，对自己负责，
善用感觉，热情行动，活出真正的自己。

3、简单生活
你真正需要的不是那么多，
多出来的任何一样东西对别人都有用，
将它送出去，或是捐出去义卖，让真正需要的人善用，
简单生活惯之后，生命自然不再累赘。

4、拥抱别人，让人拥抱
拥抱是一件完美的礼物，老少咸宜，
而且拿它给别人交换，没有人会放弃的。
练习用拥抱代替说话，表达内心最深刻的感受，
即时的拥抱能传送安慰与支持，传递生命活力。
拥抱疗效：续命，每天四抱；保养，每天八抱；除病，每天十二抱。

5、家庭优先
和乐家庭最高指导原则：日常体贴，遇事幽默。
家庭关系是你这辈子最有意义的投资，
试着每天用十五分钟，和配偶、孩子，甚至宠物，
共同分享回忆、经验、想法、梦想和创意。

6、别为小事抓狂
你为什么生气？塞车、买票插队、同事争执、服务生态度恶劣……
生气之前，思考哪些才是真正值得生气的情况，
例如：虐待儿童、人民遭受饥饿之苦、战争……
相较之下，就可以知道这些事是多不值得生气。
将怒气转向值得生气的事上，
并且想想自己可以为这些情况做什么。

7、找寻老友
爱情常来来去去，朋友总是越陈越香。
曾经同甘共苦的朋友是上帝给的礼赞，
花点时间列出老朋友清单，
拨个电话聊聊或访友，
寻回那曾有的感动与契合。

8、创意生活家
别让一成不变的生活，腐蚀生命的热力，
试着吃半饱、花一半，使用比平时少一半的资源。
试试看即使有样东西不够用了，是否能够找到替代品，
既可以发挥创意，也能为环保尽一份心力。

9、练习冒险
无数的第一次造就了你，
生命就像一辆十段变速的单车，
大部分的人只用到低速档。
你应该尝试新事物，
先从小冒险做起，充分发挥自己的潜能，
同时不忘赞美自己的勇气。

10、说谢谢你
一日平安，一日感谢。
培养强烈的感恩心，
每天至少谢谢一个人，
告诉他们你喜欢、仰慕或欣赏他的地方。

11、别对你的人生说没空
日常生活需要良性循环，
人生只有一次，休息是为了走更远的路。
每个月定出一天可以彻底休息，放自己一天假。

12、活到老学到老
学习不一定只在学生时代，
学习是更好生活的开始。
无论是选一门不算学分的课，
还是向同事学习某些嗜好或兴趣，
甚至边开车边学习随身携带书籍，
试着从不同方向找出兴趣，生命会更开阔。

13、奉献给予
奉献能让你花小钱拥有极大快乐，
助人度难关的方式很多，给予食物、衣物、工作、金钱、时间，
你可以由简单的方式开始，比如捐出收入的5%，
仔细考虑哪些是真正需要你帮助的人，
把有限的钱放在最需要帮助的人身上，最能产生无限的功效。

14、与敌人和好
抱持宽容态度，以倾听来代替争吵，
让自己变得更温柔与仁慈。
不要把问题过度放大，
试着问自己：一年后，我还会在意这件事吗？

15、活出健康的人生
分析自己的饮食习惯，
找出需要改进的地方，让营养更均衡。
每周至少三次运动，持之以恒，
至少上一次恢复精力的课程（如瑜珈或太极），
身心健康，精力充沛。

16、让快乐贴身相随
快乐的人会微笑或哼唱，甚至吹口哨，
有快乐的想法，你就会飞起来。
专注地想快乐的事，让自己产生向上飞跃的力量。
日积月累，快乐会变成一种习惯。

17、年轻不老心
忘记身份证上的年龄，
找出自己觉得重要的，以及会让自己心跳加速的事物，
让这些点点滴滴充满生活，
就能让自己的心态变年轻。

18、磨亮想像力
要更有创意，就要像孩子般地思考，
比如重看一本最喜欢的童书，学习小孩子的思考方式；
或者读一首诗，在心里想像它的意境；
一边听广播的古典音乐、爵士乐或世界音乐，
一边想像音乐所传达的景致……都可以提升想像力。

19、笑纹比皱纹重要
儿童平均一天笑500次，成人只笑15次，
任何小事都可以让小孩乐不可支，鼓励自己在笑声中享受人生。

20、救救地球
减少物品使用量，减少用水，减少用纸，减少开车，减少包装，少用清洁剂，
避免用过即丢，减少用量，重复使用，环保回收，自然就在你心中。

21. 救一个生命
找寻失踪儿、受虐儿，
施舍金钱或付出时间、体力、可以改变别人的生命，
个人视野也会因了解另一层面的生活而提升，
更可以为这些孩子带来希望与远景。

22. 试试双手的力量
人生的意义在于创造，艺术可以提升人的生命境界，
每做一件事，记得多加些巧思，
在每件所做的事情上，发挥报告才能，加入你自己。
亲自动手做，享受四肢劳动的乐趣，
即使是简单的维修工作都是原创的艺术品。

23. 记得多玩玩
利用余遐时间享受游玩的乐趣，
重新学习游乐技巧，彻底享受自由的快乐。

24. 三人行必有我师
和各方面的人保持联系，增加从他人身上获得情报的机会。
同时拥有会批评的朋友，因为对方拥有你缺乏的部分，
学习接受建设性的批评，忽略琐碎的批评。

25. 适当的自私
你有权主导自己的生活，你有全权对别人的要求说不，
你有权对批评你或贬低你的人表示意见，
你有权和别人分享你的感情，收加生活控制权。

26. 分享
不论是分享阅读心得或是生活偶得，
让东家长西家短的无聊变成丰富彼此生命的启发。
经由感受每个人不同的经验，
赋予生命全新的刺激与成长，世界将转得更好。

27. 重回孩提时代
抛开一些已养成的大人行为或习惯，不要剥夺与天俱来的纯真特质，
与小孩相处（担任孩子的课外营老师、自愿当儿童球队教练）；
重读一些小时候听过的故事，可以回忆小时候的情景；
看看旧时留下的物品，如成绩单、劳作或礼物；
到念过的小学走一遍，发现自己曾发生过的事或当时的梦想。

28. 向自然学习
自然中蕴含生活哲学，是生命的指示灯，
能帮助你发现自己的定位与热情所在。
从四季的替换，我们学会从悲伤中复元，
因为生命是周而复始，生生不息的。
而自然的多样化风貌，都我们学会拒绝大众压力，
教我们学会表达真实的自我。

29. 心灵慢跑
心灵激励可以预防精神疾病，
让心灵保持思考，也会减慢老化的速度。
编一本梦想书，做做白日梦都是可行的。

30. 活出热情
支离破碎的灵魂得到的往往是乏味的成功，
对生活的兴趣应高于购物，用最小的时间工作，
将大部份的时间给自己感兴趣的事情，
做自己爱做的事，做你想做的，说你想说的，
学习享受生活，享受你做的任何事情。

31. 可以不完美
每个人天生不同，接受自己，也同样接受别人，
用慈悲心训练自己爱缺憾中美丽的事物。

32. 勇闯生命难关
有人为工作而生活，有人因梦想而生活，
有人因为要找出究竟为什么要活着而继续生活，
生是上天赋予的权利，活则要靠自我的智慧与勇气。

33. 打开地图去旅行
到任何你有兴趣或好奇的城市旅行。
旅行，潜藏着一份改变自己和生活的渴求，
在旅行中可以得到不可思议的收获，
变得不容易害怕，遇到问题时较能从容应付，
知道自己离农在外时最想念、牵挂的是什么，最可有可无的是什么。

34. 简单干净就是品味
不论是扫地抹桌子，晾衣服晒被单，都能特别仔细，特别用心，
让延长使用年限的心，取代用过即丢的习惯；
用全新的恋旧心情，与日常生活建立恒久感情。
用材质好、式样大方的家具取代三五年就必须汰换的三夹板；
用设计简单、质地宜人，可以一穿再穿取代追求流行的穿衣风格。

35. 在家做义工
慈善事业可以先从家里做起，
可以先把服务心用在家里，把家里整理好，花些时间和家人相处，
为别人做些事可以让生活更添乐趣与价值，
也会让你的人生更有成就。

36. 再试一下
人生最大的压力来源是怕压力，
当你相信自己能、而能面对事情时，
这已是一个好的开端，一切的多虑都将消失，
你终会发现：事情并不棘手难办，
别人能、当然，你也能。

37. 命运操之在我
一块钱、一句好话、一件善事、一点知识、一些方便、一个笑容，
都可以改变自己的命运。

38. 生命的财富
时间就是财富，
但是时间的意义在于（运用），而非（节省）。
好好运用上天给予每个人的同等财富。

39. 为生命加油
你此生最大恐惧是什么？最担心最害怕的是什么？
是害怕应该表达的心意来不及表达？
这是害怕心愿不能实现？
把今天当作最后一天来活，
知道此生担优会常在，恐惧就已不中惧。

40. 多为别人想一想
爱有多深，包容与体谅就有多深，
敢爱的人才敢去包容和体谅他所爱的人。
做个善于体谅的人，多给对方时间与空间，
做个有智慧与爱心的人。

41. 随时等着被利用
让服务变成生命中的一部分，
用生命服务、肯定自己。

42. 化不幸为助力
自己是态度的主宰，而态度决定未来，
从跌倒中站起来，化悲痛为力量，
每种不幸都蕴含同等或更大利益的种子。

43. 优点轰炸
每个人都有优点，但习惯看别人缺点，
试着做好话连篇、用心说好话的人，勇于表白，
要去掉别人身上的刺，最好的方法是拍拍他的背。

44. 和自己赛跑
学习和自己比，忘记曾经拥有的分数，
现在要关注的是，如何让今天过得比昨天好，
用心去发现，能看到生命更宽广的蓝天。

45. 换个角度，心中一片天
别人也许是对的，
不要让自己受执着的困惑，
便能了解万物，欣赏及认同世间一切。

46. 乐观
处于痛苦时，最有效的事物就是乐观。
凡事往好处想，
乐观的人可以发明飞机，
悲观的人就只能发明降落伞。

47. 真心聆听
通往内心深处的是耳朵，
专心聆听并适当回应，对别人是一种很大的鼓舞。

48. 好奇心不打烊
世界上只有愚人，没有愚问。
对所有的事物保持一颗敏感的心，
好奇是所有人类文明进步的开始。

49. 情绪急转弯
事情没有变，变的是你的观念。
改变想法，就能改变情绪，
带来完全不同的结果。

50. 我真的很不错
每个人都是一座宝藏，凡人也有超人力量，
成功在于唤醒心中的巨人，开发自己的宝藏。

20 free ways to save energy

2006-09-25T13:27:00.000+08:00

Consumer Reports' "Complete Guide to Reducing Energy Costs" is crammed with ways to cut your energy bills. Some take a little money and effort, such as weatherstripping your windows. Some take a little restraint, such as picking a sedan instead of an SUV. Others require investment, such as choosing the more-efficient refrigerator, even if the price tag is a bit higher. Of course, the best ways to save energy dollars are the ones that take no money and little or no effort. That's what you'll find in this excerpt--20 simple things you can do to start saving money right this minute, without having to reach for your wallet.

As the cost of heating your home and running your car continues to climb, we hope this book will help ease the burden on you and your family. And it's nice to know that saving energy does more than save you money: It helps save resources. Using less energy pollutes less, creates less acid rain, and results in less global warming. Even if you do nothing more than the 20 free things listed here, you will have made a difference in your budget and a difference in the world. Not bad for free.

Wash clothes in cold water. You might guess that most of the energy used by a washing machine goes into vigorously swishing the clothes around. In fact, about 90 percent of it is spent elsewhere, heating the water for the load. You can save substantially by washing and rinsing at cooler temperatures. Warm water helps the suds to get at the dirt, but cold-water detergents will work effectively for just about everything in the hamper.
Hang it up. Clotheslines aren't just a bit of backyard nostalgia. They really work, given a stretch of decent weather. You spare the energy a dryer would use, and your clothes will smell as fresh as all outdoors without the perfumes in fabric softeners and dryer sheets. You'll also get more useful life out of clothes dried on indoor or outdoor clotheslines--after all, dryer lint is nothing but your wardrobe in the process of wearing out.
Don't overdry your laundry. Clothes will need less ironing and hold up better if you remove them from the dryer while they're still just a bit damp. If you are in the market for a dryer, look for one with a moisture sensor; it will be less likely than thermostat-equipped models to run too long.
Let the dishwasher do the work. Don't bother prerinsing dishes with the idea that your dishwasher will work less hard. Consumer Reports has found that this added step can waste 20 gallons of heated water a day. All you need to do is scrape off leftover food. Enzyme-based detergents will help make sure the dishes emerge spotless.
Put your PC to sleep. Keep your computer and its monitor in sleep mode rather than leaving them on around the clock. You stand to use 80 percent less electricity, which over the course of a year could have the effect of cutting CO2 emissions by up to 1,250 pounds, according to EPA estimates.
Turn down the heat in the winter, and turn down the cool in the summer. Lower the thermostat 5° to 10° F when you're sleeping or are out of the house. "A 10° decrease can cut your heating bill by as much as 20 percent," says Jim Nanni, manager of the appliance and home-improvement testing department of Consumer Reports. And before you put on a cotton sweater to ward off a slight chill from the AC in summer, consider that for every degree you raise the thermostat setting, you can expect to cut your cooling costs by at least 3 percent.
A cold hearth for a warmer house. A conventional fireplace draws a small gale out of the room and sends it up the chimney. Assuming the indoor air has been warmed by your central heating system, that means your energy dollars are going up the chimney, too. Instead, consider a direct-vent, sealed-combustion gas fireplace. Consumer Reports has found that those units have an energy efficiency of about 70 percent--and the sight of the flames is a lot more warming than staring at a radiator.
Lower the shades and raise the windows. Not at the same time, of course, but your windows and shades are great tools to help moderate temperatures in the home. Because of central air conditioning, we tend to forget these time-tested, traditional ways of making the house comfortable. Shades are particularly helpful in blocking the sun from west-facing rooms in the afternoon. At night, if the forecast calls for cooler temperatures and low humidity, give the AC a rest. Open windows upstairs and down, and use window fans or a whole-house fan.
Put a spin on home cooling. You can operate a couple of fans with a fraction of the electricity needed for air conditioning, and their cooling effect may make it possible to cut back on AC use.
Take care of your air conditioner, and it will take care of you. Your air conditioner will run more efficiently if you clean or replace its filter every other week during heaviest use. Keep leaves and other debris away from the central air's exterior condenser, and keep the condenser coils clean.
Spend less for hot water. Set the hot water heater at 120° F (or the "low" setting), which is hot enough for most needs. If the tank feels warm to the touch, consider wrapping it with conventional insulation or a blanket made for that purpose. To help conserve the water's heat on its way to the faucets, insulate the plumbing with pipe sleeves; with these, you can raise the end-use temperature by 2° to 4° F.
Think twice before turning on the oven. Heating food in the microwave uses only 20 percent of the energy required by a full-sized oven. And while the second-hand heat from the oven may be welcome in winter, it can put an added load on your air conditioner in warmer months.
Use the right pan. When cooking on the stovetop, pick your pan, then put it on an element or burner that's roughly the same size. You'll use much less energy than you would with a mismatched burner and pan. Steam foods instead of boiling. If you do boil, be sure to put a lid on the pot to make the water come to a boil faster.
Read the label. The EnergyGuide label, that is. When you shop for a new appliance, look for the label that gives an estimate of annual energy consumption. To help you make sense of that statistic, the label also states the highest and lowest figures for similar models.
Dust off the Crock-Pot. Slow cooking in a Crock-Pot uses a lot less energy than simmering on the stove.
Clean the coils on your refrigerator using a tapered appliance brush. Your fridge's motor won't have to run as long or as often. In addition to saving energy dollars, you'll prolong the life of the appliance.
Drive steadily--and a bit slower. Hard acceleration and abrupt braking will use more fuel than if you start and slow more moderately. Keeping down your overall speed matters, too, because aerodynamic drag increases dramatically as you drive faster. If you travel at 65 mph instead of 55, you are penalized by lowering your mileage 12.5 percent. If you get your vehicle up to 75 mph, you're losing 25 percent compared with mileage at 55 mph.
Roof racks are a drag. Most cars are reasonably streamlined, but you work against their slipperiness if you carry things on the roof. A loaded roof rack can decrease an SUV's fuel efficiency by 5 percent, and that of a more aerodynamic car by 15 percent or more. Even driving with empty ski racks wastes gas.
Stick with regular. If your car's manufacturer specifies regular gas, don't buy premium with the thought of going faster or operating more efficiently. You'd be spending more with no benefit. Most cars have built-in sensors that adjust the engine timing to the gas in the tank. Even if the owner's manual recommends high-octane gas, ask the dealership about switching to regular.
No loitering. Don't let the engine run at idle any longer than necessary. After starting the car in the morning, begin driving right away; don't let it sit and "warm up" for several minutes. An engine actually warms up faster while driving. With most gasoline engines, it's more efficient to turn off the engine than to idle longer than 30 seconds.

And if you don't mind spending a few dollars:

A tighter home is a toastier home. Insulation is your home's first line of defense against the weather, right? Wrong. Before you bulk up with fiberglass blankets, seal the leaks. Inexpensive foam strips and caulking can cut your heating and cooling bills by 5 to 30 percent.
Try do-it-yourself low-E windows. If your windows don't have a low-E coating, consider applying a self-adhesive film on the glass. This treatment is a lot cheaper than replacing the units, and better-quality films are quite durable.
Use a programmable thermostat. Roughly half of the typical home's energy bill goes for heating and cooling, according to the Department of Energy. The easiest way to save, short of sweating or shivering, is to use programmable thermostats. They can pay for themselves in about a year.
Switch to those funny-looking fluorescents. You may not be familiar with compact fluorescent lamps (CFLs), but give them a try. A single bulb can save from $25 to $45 over its life. And it's a long life: Manufacturers claim that CFLs last between 5 and 13 times longer than standard incandescent bulbs.

加菲猫的人生格言 Garfield's Philosophy of Life

2006-09-19T01:35:00.000+08:00

Money is not everything. There's MasterCard & Visa.
钞票不是万能的,有时还需要信用卡。

我喜欢星期一，如果它永不来临

我喜欢星期六，因为明天是星期天

只要我不醒来，世界就不存在！！！

One should love animals. They are so tasty.
每个人都应该热爱动物,因为它们很好吃。

Save water. Shower with your girlfriend.
要节约用水,尽量和女友一起洗澡。

Love the neighbor. But don't get caught.
要用心去爱你的邻居,不过不要让她的老公知道。

Behind every successful man, there is a man. And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.
每个成功男人的背后,都有一个女人。每个不成功男人的背后, 都有两个。

Every man should marry. After all, happiness is not the only thing in life.
再快乐的单身汉迟早也会结婚,幸福不是永久的嘛

The wise never marry, and when they marry they become otherwise.
聪明人都是未婚的,结婚的人很难再聪明起来。

Success is a relative term. It brings so many relatives.
成功是一个相关名词,他会给你带来很多不相关的亲戚(联系)。

Never put off the work till tomorrow what you can put off today.
不要等明天交不上差再找借口, 今天就要找好。
好像还有一个翻译：
不要把今天能拖的事拖到明天去。
个人比较喜欢第二个翻译

Love is photogenic. It needs darkness to develop.
爱情就像照片,需要大量的暗房时间来培养。

Children in backseats cause accidents. Accidents in backseats cause children.
后排座位上的小孩会生出意外, 后排座位上的意外会生出小孩。

“Your future depends on your dreams.” So go to sleep.
“现在的梦想决定着你的将来”，所以还是再睡一会吧。

There should be a better way to start a day than waking up every morning.
应该有更好的方式开始新一天,而不是千篇一律的在每个上午都醒来。

“Hard work never killed anybody.“But why take the risk?
努力工作不会导致死亡!不过我不会用自己去证明。

“Work fascinates me.“I can look at it for hours!
工作好有意思耶!尤其是看着别人工作。

我喜欢所有的意大利面！

你竟然带了一个又老又没用的家伙回来，而且不是我。

加菲猫肯定不是为猪肉卷而生，但猪肉卷一定是为加菲猫而生。

欧迪，我们去吃冰激凌吧，不过你得看着我吃。

我应该对欧迪有礼貌。——（吲迪一脚）——很抱歉，欧迪?现在我做到了。

我不能让那只鸡在我的名字后面写字。

这个汉堡包的味道不错，但不如前八个好。

欧迪，走，我们去买一个或九个汉堡包当晚餐。

肚子大不可怕，可怕的是肚子里没有好东西。

有了意大利面，谁还会吃老鼠呢？

“欧迪在窗外冻得瑟瑟发抖，真可怜。我真有点不忍心看他这样。不，难道我能坐视不管吗？我必须做点什么。”加菲拉上了窗帘。

你可以让小猫离开肉饼，但不能让肉饼离开小猫。

如果你不想给谁东西吃的话，就得让它想着点什么。

巧克力的麻烦是：你把它吃了,它就没了。

最可爱的东西莫过于一张放着猪肉卷的小桌子。

、——（深沉状……）我是在做梦吗？
——（冲到自己“床”前，掀起被子……）被子里没有我，不是在睡觉……

这个世界上还有很多比钱更重要的东西，比如说意大利面。
能从这种不让体重增加的运动中得到乐趣真是太好了。

失败的人特点是会不断地失败。如果你想看看他的失败的话，他是不会让你失望的。

加菲猫要有了三个愿望：“第一个是要猪肉卷，第二个还是猪肉卷，第三个，哦，你错啦，我想要更多的愿望，那样我就能得到更多的猪肉卷啦。”

今后我永远不做对不起欧迪的事，……也许，也许不是永远。

现在，你能把星期一还给我们吗？还有星期三和整个八月，威斯康星州和巧克力糖。……对了，还有一点，你能把我的硬币也还给我吗？

有一位漂亮的女士对乔恩说你真可爱，而你还问我有什么不对！

如果你不能击败你的敌人，那么就加入他们。

纳尔曼，你好。我现在在阿布扎比。这里最糟糕的地方不在于没有意大利面条，也不在于离家几千英里。最可怕的地方在于——这里挤满了被邮寄来的，可爱的猫！

——“加菲猫，你不会是真的要把我用快件寄到阿布扎比去吧？”
——“不，纳尔曼，我不会的。我会用慢件，这样可以便宜一点。”

不，水果蛋糕！这是我不吃的三样东西之一。另外两样是葡萄干，还有蜗牛。

球状也是身材。

今天，你踢你的狗了吗？～～

、——乔恩，你要是猜出这里面有多少巧克力豆,这罐子里的东西就都归你。　　
——我猜你已经把它们都吃光了。　　
——你猜对了！

纳尔曼：加菲猫，你是来为我辩护的吗？　　
加菲猫：不是，我来是为了确认你有罪的。……你说猫委员会会判纳尔曼多少年刑，我看最好判99年。……

返希你能帮我个忙吗？帮我申请做一只狗，最好是西班牙狮子狗！

狗的问题就在于，它们身上没有装一个ON/OFF开关。

我还得对欧迪说一声对不起——（这时欧迪站在桌子边上，走过去一脚踢将下去。）——现在得说两声。

今天是星期一，一切都不对劲，我该做点什么呢？哦，我知道了。——（吲迪一脚，返闲浮在空中）——哎！今天连地球引力都没精神了。

就到这儿吧！我要去睡今天的第三个午觉了。

我向星星许了个愿。我并不是真的相信它，但是反正也是免费的，而且也没有证据证明它不灵。

我在蹦极，你看不出来吗？

睡了美美的一觉，16个小时，我是喜欢睡短觉的。

加菲猫看见小狗欧迪跑进了一个古城堡，就跟了进去。打开一扇门，一个大厅黑咕隆冬的。
加菲猫喊：“欧迪！” 　　
回音（渐弱）：“欧迪——欧迪——欧迪——” 　　
加菲猫又喊：“你在哪里？” 　　
回音（还是渐弱的）：“你在哪里？——你在哪里？——你在哪里？——” 　　
加菲猫想：这声音不错。　　
加菲猫继续喊：“加菲猫是世界上最美丽最英俊的猫！” 　　
回音（渐强的）：“不可能——胡说——瞎说——骗人的——” 　　

我把星期一从日历上撕掉，就没有星期一了。

欧迪已经愚蠢到地心引力都对它不起作用了。

乔恩:“加菲猫，你猜我给你带什么来了？” 　　
加菲：不管是什么，只要能吃就行。

乔恩在洗澡，Garfield在睡觉。　　

加菲：那些一边洗澡一边唱歌的人应该拉到街上去枪毙。

加菲在饭桌旁等着开饭，乔恩却忙着要出门。　　
加菲：嗨，你没有忘记什么重要的事情吗……
加菲：要知道，在有些州不给猫做早饭是重罪。

加菲：（讲述一个故事）很久很久以前，有一个小姑娘……（画面出现odie身穿公主裙的背影）……她……（odie突然转过身来，伸着长长的舌头）……她丑的就像冰箱里什么都没有一样！！

加菲手里拿着一个冰激凌，对odie说：odie，要不要舔一下？odie满心欢喜的诚恳又期待的望着加菲。加菲伸出舌头在odie脸上很用力的舔了一下，继续吃冰激凌……

虽然欧迪是条狗，但它有时候也过着狗一样的生活。——猫哲学家

（凄凉的小提琴音乐之后）
嗨！　　
高高地抬起你的头，迈开大步朝前走！　　
你要向人们证明你不是一个任人欺负的土豆。

你手里握着一只鸟，那是远远不够的。

加菲猫节食秘诀：
1.不要打算吃不够再来第二轮，第一次就要拿够食物。
2.把磅秤的零点调成负5公斤。
3.绝对不吃减肥糖。
4.不要结交家里开餐厅或糕饼店的女朋友。
5.减肥应多吃蔬菜，所以该多吃南瓜派，蔬菜饼干等。
6.冷食不宜多吃（但冰激凌除外）。
7.每餐留一点儿，不要统统吃下肚——比方说，冰激凌圣代上的那颗樱桃）。
8.多跟比你胖的人在一起。

猫冲向食物的速度和食物的多少成正比。

“Your future depends on your dreams.” So go to sleep.
“现在的梦想决定着你的将来”，所以还是再睡一会吧。

今天是元旦..我决定在新的一年里每天睡眠时间不超过8小时.这样的话..8x365/24..121.6天..5月3日叫我起床!

今天我要做俯卧撑……呃呀呀呀呀呀……今天先俯卧……明天再撑…………

我胖我懒————可是我自豪！
I am fat, I am lazy-----but I am proud!

我的体重刚刚好——相当于一艘航空母舰。

乔恩：这是我和加菲去公园的照片，这是加菲和一只三百美元的小鸟坐在一起，这是我在为加菲的午餐付帐——共三百美元……

我并不是每次吃完饭就看电视，有时我边吃饭边看电视，生活中有些改变会增加乐趣。

我要有麻烦了，你们还是把电视机关掉吧。

你能不能用英语来说中国话？否则什么都别说

10 Reasons To Drink More Water

2006-09-14T20:39:00.000+08:00

I know you've heard this many times - "Drink more water!". Yet, 99% of the people don't heed this advice. Maybe if water was more expensive, people would pay more attention to consume enough of it on a daily basis. We are living in a dehydrated world of carbonated beverages, caffeine and alcohol.

I bet you don't know how important is water for your health, figure and well-being. But drinking water is not just a trend, it's essential! Everything your body does it does better with a healthy supply of water, every system in your body depends on water.

So here are 10 reasons why drinking water is good for you and why you should make drinking water part of your daily routine:

1. Get Healthy Skin

Nothing will improve the appearance of your skin better than consuming enough water. It's a pity women spend so much money on skin products, while neglecting the cheapest and most effective one - water. Water is the single most important element for cellular integrity. Drinking water moisturizes your skin from the inside out. Water is also essential to maintaining elasticity and suppleness and helps prevent dryness. The real fountain of youth can be found in a glass of water.

2. Flush Toxins

Water helps remove toxins from the body, in particular from the digestive tract. Our kidney system is unique in its filtering capabilities and totally dependent upon water in order for it to work. Daily fluid intake is essential to its efficient operation, particularly because there is some decrease in function with age. Water helps get rid of excess nitrogen, urea, and ketones, so it is particularly important when following a high protein diet. You need even more water to help your kidneys do their work if you’re eating big to gain weight.

3. Reduce Your Risk Of Heart Attack

Researchers at Loma Linda University in California studied more than 20,000 healthy men and women and found that people who drink more than five glasses of water a day were less likely to die from a heart attack or heart disease than those who drank fewer than two glasses a day.

4. Cushion And Lube Your Joints And Muscles

Water makes up a large part of the fluid that lubricates and cushions your joints and muscles. And although not the only element associated with muscle cramps, athletes have long recognized that even mild dehydration can produce cramps. So drinking water before, during and after exercise can also help reduce muscle cramping and premature fatigue.

According to the American College of Sports Medicine, adequate fluid replacement helps to maintain hydration therefore optimizing and enhancing performance of those participating in regular exercise. They suggest flavored waters to promote hydration and to increase palatability. Products such as Gatorade’s Propel Fitness Water are, therefore, terrific substitutes for plain water to increase fluid intake and meet the optimum consumption of water per day, thus enhancing performance and lessening the possibility of dehydration.

5. Get Energized And Be Alert

On average, most adults lose about 10 cups of fluid a day through sweating, exhaling, urinating, and bowel movements. Even minor dehydration can cause impaired concentration, headaches, irritability and fatigue.

Water is also essential for proper circulation in the body. The levels of oxygen in the bloodstream are greater when the body is well hydrated. The more oxygen the body has readily available the more fat it will burn for energy without the presence of oxygen the body cannot utilize stored fat for energy efficiently. Not only will the body burn more fat when well hydrated but because there are increased oxygen levels you will also have more energy.

Drinking more water everyday will help your think more clearly. Research has repeatedly shown that staying hydrated is necessary for the human brain, which is 85 percent water, to function at optimal levels. That is why many school systems throughout the country now encourage students to keep a bottle of water at their desks and to drink it throughout the day.

6. Stay Regular

Water helps prevent constipation by adding fluid to the colon and bulk to stools. Something as simple as fluid plays a major role in preventing constipation. Not only does the liquid encourage bowel movement, but it also softens the stools.

Water is essential for proper digestion, nutrient absorption and chemical reactions. The carbohydrates and proteins that our bodies use as food are metabolized and transported by water in the bloodstream. But no less important is the ability of water to transport waste material out of our bodies.

7. Reduce Your Risk Of Disease And Infection

Consistent failure to drink enough water can lead to Chronic Cellular Dehydration. This condition where the body's cell are never quite hydrated enough leave them in a weakened state, vulnerable to attack from disease. It weakens the body's overall immune system and leads to chemical, nutritional and pH imbalances that can cause a host of diseases.

When you don’t have enough water in your body, your cells start to draw water from the bloodstream. Your heart has to work harder because your blood gets sludgy, and your body starts to redirect blood away from less vital areas. Dehydration can set in even before you start to feel thirsty. This is a great strain on the body because it impairs the kidneys in their vital function of purifying the blood and helping the body get rid of toxins.

Also Michaud and coworkers found that the incidence of cancer in the urinary bladder was reduced significantly by a high fluid intake in a ten-year study involving nearly 48,000 men. The top 20% of subjects who participated in the study drank 2500 ml per day or more, while the bottom 20% drank 1200 ml or less. The authors concluded that within this range, the risk of bladder cancer decreased by 7% for every 240 ml of fluid added.

8. Regulate Your Body Temperature

Water regulates the body's cooling system. Sports drinks are useful when consumed after or during vigorous and prolonged exercise in high heat. But most experts agree that water works better than carbohydrates or sugared beverages for moderate exercise. For instance, if you drink 12 ounces of plain water, your body will absorb 8 ounces of it within 15 minutes. If you drink 12 ounces of a 10% sugar solution, less than 1 ounce will be absorbed in the same period. The typical soft drink is a 10 to 12% sugar solution.

Water is the nutrient your body needs the most. Between 55 and 75 percent of adult body weight is water, and it is critical in regulating all body organs and temperature.

9. Burn More Fat And Build More Muscle

It has been shown that dehydration decreases protein synthesis. Protein synthesis is what builds muscle. It is an energy costly process. When you suppress protein synthesis, fewer calories end up building proteins and more calories end up in your fat stores. It's elementary: calories have two possible fates - they either get burned, or they get stored. When more of the calories you eat get burned, less will get stored.

Increased water consumption can help you control weight by preventing you from confusing hunger with thirst. Water will also keep your body systems, including metabolism and digestion, working properly and give you the energy (and hydration) necessary for exercise.

10. Get Well

The traditional prescription to ‛drink plenty of fluids‛ when you're sick still holds strong. Water can help control a fever, replace lost fluids, and thin out mucus. Water plays a vital role in nearly every bodily function. Lack of water is the #1 trigger of daytime fatigue. A mere 2% drop in body water can trigger fuzzy short-term memory, trouble with basic math, and difficulty focusing on the computer screen or on a printed page.

Water is the substance of life. Life can not exist without water. We must constantly be adding fresh water to our body in order to keep it properly hydrated. Water can be a miracle cure for many common ailments such as headaches, fatigue, joint pain, and much more.

Be sure to drink even more fluid whenever you increase your physical activity, when eating a high fiber diet, during hot weather, at high altitudes, in low humidity locations, and when you're sick, especially if you have a fever, vomiting, or diarrhea. The best way to figure out if you’re drinking enough water is to look at your urine. It should be a very light shade of yellow. Drink up if it’s darker. Let your thirst guide you, also. You might not need eight glasses to feel hydrated on a mild day. You could crave nine or 10 if it’s hot or you’re exercising. Bottom line? Your body is 90 percent water and needs it for digestion, healthy skin, blood circulation, temperature control and lots of other reasons.

It is important to know that the body can only absorb 4 ounces of water every 10 minutes, so like many things in life, it is important to be proactive with drinking water. Aim to drink one glass of pure water every hour you are awake. And make the process enjoyable. Many people complain that they don't like the taste of water, or that it is boring to drink! Try these tips for making drinking water an enjoyable process:

- Add fresh mint leaves, slices of strawberry, apple, lemon, or lime to a pitcher of water. Serve chilled. Keep a pitcher of "fruit water" in the refrigerator so you always have great-tasting water available.

- Try Glaceu Fruit Water, which is distilled water with added fruit essence, without added sugar or artificial sweeteners. It is available at most health food stores. It comes in a variety of fabulous flavors including, watermelon, honeydew melon, raspberry/lime, and strawberry/banana.

- Drink herbal teas. Herbal teas have a variety of healing properties and come in a multitude of flavors. Try green tea, yerba matte, chai, chamomile, mint, raspberry leaf, and cinnamon/apple.

- Add a squeeze of lemon or lime to water. Warm water with the juice of 1 lemon taken in the morning on an empty stomach is a great liver detoxifier, and has been shown to aid in weight loss.

Drink your water! Stay well hydrated! Stay healthy!

7 Days In September

2006-09-11T16:43:00.000+08:00

[ The film is called "7 Days in September" and shows the stories of 28 people affected by 9/11. Director Steven Rosenbaum led the effort that the New York Times described as "Reconstruct(ing) the emotional geography of New York." The film is a rare human look at the emotions, passions, and pain that followed the attacks on the World Trade Center. ]

Gym of the future

2006-09-03T00:20:00.000+08:00

Could this be the Gym of the future? It is an interesting idea.

“What about creating green gyms where people pay their memberships as normal, but then use swipe cards before and after they get on the machines. The difference here is that the machines would all be linked to a large central generator, so if you are really working out you will be generating much more energy than is needed to power the machine display.

The swipe cards would monitor how much time you spent on each machine then - depending on the efficiency of the machine - calculate whether you were a net user or contributor of energy to the building. At the end of the year, people get a rebate on their membership depending on how much energy their use of the treadmills and cardio machines has generated for the gym.”

The Real FireFox 正宗的火狐

2006-08-23T18:45:00.000+08:00

The Real Firefox = great pairing of a geek joke + a super cute puppy。

正宗的火狐= 一个geek 笑话 + 超级可爱的小狗

戀愛要學會 "細水長流"

2006-08-23T01:30:00.000+08:00

在戀愛過程中，使雙方彼此失去吸引力的原因很多。它可以是單方的原因，如一方對另一方的嫌棄，從而激起了另一方的不滿，也可以是雙方的原因，如彼此的世界觀不同，性格上不和諧，心理上無法相容等；還可以是客觀的原因，如時間、空間上的隔離，使感情之花因缺乏澆灌而逐漸枯萎，也可以是，心理上的原因，--即兩人間的神秘感消失了。

所謂神秘感，是指由于男女間的性別差異（包括生理和心理）而産生的新鮮、奇特、深奧莫測等體驗。它在整個戀愛過程，乃至婚後夫妻生活中，都起著一秤特殊促進和至關重要的心理作用。男女間的神秘感激起兩性間的好奇，在這種好奇心的驅使下，兩者要求接觸並且相互探索，在接觸、探索過程中，如果彼此欣賞、富有吸引力，就會産生好感。在好感的基礎上，由對方神秘性産生吸引力，通過進一步的了解，若相互發現許多發光的東西，那麽，愛情就會産生。如果異性間沒有對這種神秘感的探索，那麽，兩人的吸引力便無從産生，也就根本談不上愛情。

雖然戀愛過程，是一個相互了解的過程，能彼此認識、了解，應該是值得慶幸的，但是，了解得過于透徹，甚至一些不需了解的也知道了，使彼此的神秘感消失，則對愛情沒有好處。每一個男女都應該有一個個人的世界，應該有自己一方神秘的、不爲任何人所知的天地。因此，戀人間相互保持吸引力，則首先耍彼此保持一種神秘感。這種神秘感不是固定不變的，其內容一邊不斷地被對方所探究、所發現，變爲不神秘的東西，一邊又不斷地被新的內容所充實、替換。而這種神秘感內容的更新，需要靠每個人不斷地用知識、智慧來充實，一些徒有漂亮的外表，而沒有豐富的內在修養的人，往往只能夠使人在感官上取悅一時：一旦與他們相處久了，由于知識貧乏，思想沒有深度，缺乏神秘感，便很快失去吸引力。所以，在戀愛過程中，除了加強自身的各方面修養外，還要注意不要過快、過于充分地將自己全部暴露，包括才能、特長、經曆以及肉體等等，要學會"細水長流"，我認爲，這大概是戀愛的訣竅之一。

爲了增強神秘感，保持戀人間的吸引力，可以采用下列幾個具體作法：

一、創造生活情趣，改變單一的、日複一日的、沒有變化的生活。比如，突然地給對方帶來一個驚喜，或者將自己改扮一番裝束，變化一下發型，或者改變自己的房間布置等等，都會使戀人感到新鮮和愉快。

二、保持禮貌，彼此尊重。盡管兩人經過熱戀，彼此不分你我，但仍然要象初戀時那樣保持禮節，不要失去原先的溫柔和體貼，因爲任何不尊重對方的言行，都會大損自己的吸引力。

三、偶爾做短暫分離。戀愛不在于朝朝暮暮，俗話說，小別勝新婚。特別在鬧了一些矛盾之後，短暫的分離，不但使雙方都有時間去冷靜地思考、反省，而且，分離後相見時的神秘感也會成倍增長。

四、盡量避免、減少肉體上的接觸。戀愛中的親吻、擁抱、撫摸等之類的性行爲，是無可非議的，它們可美化和促進兩人的愛情，但是，次數不能過于頻繁。這與我們飲食一樣，少吃多味，多吃味少。

對于婚前性交，從性生理和性心理角度來看，都不宜進行。千萬不要頻繁地、一絲不挂地暴露在情人面前，這會使你失去性的神秘感。每個人性交的生理反應，基本上是近似的，但心理狀態各不相同。追求性的神秘感和新鮮感，正是那些喜新厭舊之輩的心理動機和驅使力。

男女間要相互保持吸引力，是一種難度很大的藝術，其具體作法遠不止上述幾點，希望能舉一反三。但是，保持神秘感決不是故弄玄虛，彼此隱瞞和欺騙。否則，會弄巧成拙。

天使之恋

2006-08-21T02:05:00.000+08:00

一个天使路过山涧的时候，遇到了一位女孩。他们相爱了。就在山上建造了爱的小屋。

天使每天都要飞来飞去，但他真的很爱这位女孩，得空就来陪伴她。

一天，天使带着心爱的女孩，在山间散步。忽然，他说：“如果有一天你不再爱我了，我会离开你。因为没有爱的日子，我活不下去。那时候，我就会飞到另一个女孩的身边。”

女孩看了天使一会儿，坚定的说：“我永远爱你！”

他们的日子过得挺幸福。但是，每当女孩想起天使的那句话，就开始烦躁不安了。她觉得天使说不定哪天会离开她，飞到另一个女孩的身边。于是一天晚上，女孩趁着天使睡熟的时候，把天使的翅膀藏了起来。

天亮以后，天使生气地说：“把我的翅膀还给我！为什么要这样？你不爱我了？你不爱我了……”

“我没有，我还是爱你的！我没有藏你的翅膀，真的，相信我好吗？”
“你骗人，你说谎，我不相信你了，我感觉你不爱我了！”

当他从柜子里找出翅膀后，就头也不会的飞走了。

女孩很难过，也很怀念那段美好的生活。她后悔了，就独自做到山头的风口上，默默的忏悔：“纵然我爱你爱的发狂，也不能剥夺你飞翔的权利，是吗？我应给你足够的自由，让彼此有喘息的空间。我现在真的懂了，你还能回来吗……”

忽然间，天使出现了。他温柔的说：“我回来了，亲爱的！”

“你真的不走了，真的还爱着我？”

天使微笑着说：“我感觉到，你还是爱我的，对吗？只要你还爱着我，我就一直爱着你，直到你不在爱我的时候。”

生活中有些人，就像那个女孩一样，把爱当做借口，约束着对方。这样的爱情不但苦了自己，也苦了对方。时刻都不要忘了：爱情只能拥有，不可占有。不管你如何爱一个人，也不要剥夺他自由飞翔的权利。

没有你的空气

2006-08-18T06:26:00.000+08:00

轻轻地闭上眼睛, 使劲, 贪婪地呼吸着没有你的空气.
是自由? 还是思念? 我无法回答自己
原来没有你的空气如此地稀薄 .
我也学会了去适应空气的稀冷.
笑过, 哭过, 吵过, 闹过.
如今我需要的, 只是冷漠.

鱼和刺猬的爱情

2006-08-16T01:50:00.000+08:00

鱼和刺猬的爱情一只孤独的刺猬常常独自来到河边散步。
杨柳在微风中轻轻摇拽，柳絮纷纷扬扬地飘洒下来，
这时候，年轻的刺猬会停下来，
望着水中柳树的倒影，
望着水草里自己的影子，默默地出神。

一条鱼静静地游过来，游到了刺猬的心中，揉碎了水草里的梦。
“为什么你总是那么忧郁呢？”鱼默默地问刺猬。
“我忧郁吗？”刺猬轻轻地笑了。
鱼温柔地注视着刺猬，
默默地抚摸着刺猬的心，轻轻的说：“让我来温暖你的心”
上帝啊，鱼和刺猬相爱了！
上帝说：你见过鱼和刺猬的爱情吗？
刺猬说：“我要把身上的刺一根根拔掉，
我不想在我们拥抱的时候刺痛你。”
鱼说：“不要啊，我怎么忍心看你那一滴滴流淌下来的鲜血？
那血是从我心上淌出来的，”
刺猬说：“因为我爱你！爱是不需要理由的，”
鱼说：“可是拔掉刺你就不是你了。我只想给你快乐·····。”
刺猬说：“我宁愿为你一点一点撕碎自己·····”

刺猬在一点点拔自己身上的刺，
每拔一下都是一阵揪心的疼，
每一次的疼都在鱼的心上。
鱼渴望刺猬作一次申深情的拥抱，
它一次次地腾越而起，
每一次的纵身是为了每一次的梦想，
每一次的梦想是每一次跌碎的痛苦。

鱼对上帝说：“如何能让我有一双脚，我要到爱人的身边？”
上帝说：“孩子，请原谅我的无能为力，因为你本来就是没有脚的。”
鱼说：“难道我的爱错了？”
上帝说：“爱永远没有错。”
鱼说：“要如何做才能给我的爱人以幸福？”
上帝说：“请转身！”

鱼毅然游走了，在辽阔的水域下，鱼闪闪的鳞片渐渐消失在刺猬的眼睛里。刺猬说：“上帝啊，鱼有眼泪吗？”
上帝说：“鱼的眼泪流在水里。

生活中你遇到每个人其实都有一个原因. People come into your life for a REASON

2006-08-15T21:52:00.000+08:00

生活中你遇到每个人其实都有一个原因，短暂的陪伴你一个季节，长久的，陪伴你的一生。分清楚他（她）是哪一类人，你就会知道该如何正确对待那个人。某种原因，这个人来到你的生活，通常情况下，他（她）是来满足你所表达的需要的。他们的到来，或者是帮你度过难关，或者给你一些指导和支持；精神上，情绪上或者仅仅体力上帮助你。他们就像是上天派来帮助你的，他们也确实是来帮助你的。当你需要他们的时候，他们就在哪儿。随后，在你没有做错任何事情的时候，或者他们觉得是时候离开的时候，告诉或者不告诉你，你们的关系就此结束。有时候是因为他们的死去，有时候他们只是想要离开，有时候他们只是想你自己能够独立。我们必须明白的是，我们的需要已经满足，我们的愿望已经达到，他们做了他们能够做的。你所祈求的已经有了答案，现在，是继续往前走的时候了。

生活中你遇到的每个人其实都有一个原因，你与他们一起分享，学习和成长。他们或者带给你心灵的安静，或者让你欢笑。他们教你许多你不曾做过的事情。他们带给你许多你自己都不敢相信的快乐。请相信，你所经历的一切都是真的，但是，也请记住，一切的发生是有原因的！

生活中的朋友会带给你许多的经验，为了有一个你自己的坚强的精神支柱，你所要做的就是经历生活，爱那个人，学会成长。我们常说爱是盲目的，但是朋友会令我们受益终身。

People come into your life for a REASON, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a REASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!
People come into your life for a REASON, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a REASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Author: unknown

我的缺点是太懦弱

2006-08-15T00:50:00.000+08:00

天使有翅膀, 我没有, 所以我不是天使.
魔鬼有魔力, 我没有, 所以我不是魔鬼.
我有的, 是无奈, 绝望和孤独的自由.
心底的希望和绝望激烈地斗争着, 获胜的却是无奈.
我已学会了接受无奈, 想无奈妥协.
天使的缺点是太善良, 魔鬼的缺点是太邪恶,
我的缺点是太懦弱.

螃蟹和蝎子的故事

2006-08-14T01:13:00.000+08:00

传说中，一只螃蟹爱上了一只蝎子。

螃蟹对蝎子说：我喜欢你

蝎子回答：你是横行的，我是直行的，我们走的方向都不同，我们根本不合适。
螃蟹失望的走了。但是它没有放弃，用了一年的时间去苦练向前行走，为的是和蝎子的方向一致。终于，它成功了。

一年之后，直行螃蟹再次和蝎子表达了自己的爱意。

蝎子说：不行，我们的爱好不一样，我是那么的活泼好动，而你，是那么的内向笨拙，我们在一起是不会开心的。

螃蟹再次失望的走了，但是它回去以后听了所有蝎子喜欢听的歌，看了许多的书，增加了自己的知识面，还学了许多的笑话，让自己的言语轻松幽默，这一切，为的是和蝎子有共同的话题。终于，螃蟹又一次的出现在蝎子的面前表达自己的爱意。

蝎子说：你的性格太简单了，生气就吐泡泡，开心就咧着嘴笑，不成熟！

螃蟹又一次的失望的走了，但是它还是没有放弃。它回去以后待人处世开始越来越圆滑，开心就笑笑，不开心也只是笑笑，对待身边的山羊，白羊，狮子也越来越有耐性了。这一切，是为了让蝎子觉得它成熟，有安全感。

当所有人都觉得螃蟹不像以前那么孩子气的时候，它又出现在蝎子的面前表达自己的爱意。

蝎子说：不行，我尾巴上有毒刺，我如果和你在一起可能会不小心伤害到你的。说完，蝎子转身就走了！

螃蟹楞了半晌，然后对着蝎子的背影喊到：我不怕，我有厚厚的壳。还有很厚的脸皮，我不怕受伤，我只想爱你！

蝎子停住了，它会回头还是继续向前走呢？

喜欢和爱的区别

2006-08-13T02:30:00.000+08:00

喜欢你，却不一定爱你
爱你，就一定很喜欢你

人世间有种情感叫“喜欢”，另一种叫“爱”

爱是他在的时候，眼睛里只有他一人；他不在的时候，一切都带有他的影子。

喜欢是在深夜看书时突然想起他，想象他现在做什么，心里漾起一阵轻飘飘的温暖，却从不主动给他打电话。几分钟后，注意力又重新被书中的情节吸引!

爱是在寂寞的夜里，思念如潮水般涌来，手里捧着书却怎么也看不进去，心里惦记着他此时是否还在加班，吃没吃晚饭，是不是如自己想着他一般想着自己!

喜欢是和他讨论问题争的面红耳赤，各不相让，在他面前像个刺猬一样从不认输，但在心里却早已暗暗佩服他的见地他的才华。

爱是希望他和自己步调一致，和自己心灵相通，他无心说的一句玩笑话也能让自己顷刻情绪低落甚至眼泪汪汪。在他面前，自己是从不设防的。

喜欢是出门在外给他发个短信，告诉他这边的天气很好，然后把手机关掉，独自在异地疯玩一个星期，晒成一个黑人后突然出现在他面前吓他一跳。

爱是无论到哪都希望有他陪伴。可以站在海边给他打手机，让他听听海浪的声音；也可以因为在异乡的街道上看到一个酷似他的背影而愣在原地久久不动。

喜欢是他出差前简单的道一声“一路平安”，看着他离去的背影，心中有一点不舍，却什么也不说，只是默默等待他归来的消息。

爱是他临出差前千叮咛万嘱咐，往他的背包里塞满衣服和食物，在车站要等到火车开走才肯离开。并且在他走后的日子里天天心神不定，一遍遍的祈祷他能够平安归来。

喜欢是在受伤的时候，不想让他看到自己脆弱的一面，在他面前把眼泪悄悄抹掉，转过头依然是一副快乐坚强的模样。

爱是在受委屈的时候，爬在他的胸前痛哭，没有伪装没有顾虑，把所有的烦恼统统告诉他，并渴望从他的怀抱中得到安慰。

喜欢是看到他和另一个女孩牵手走过，心里有一点点疼，但很快会冲着朝阳重新扬起笑脸。

爱是输不起的游戏，付出全部只后，留下的可能仅仅是刻在心底的一道伤痕。

喜欢一个人是想要他是自己的，所以，可以喜欢很多人，想要很多人都是自己的。

爱是明明离不开他，却要不得不放弃他，因为他要的幸福，也许我给不了。不敢霸占他，希望看他找到幸福，即使那份幸福不是跟我分享的。

喜欢是，希望寂寞的时候，无聊的时候，伤感的时候，找个人说说话。

爱是，在任何时候都想跟他分享，快乐的时候甚至希望把所有快乐都给了他。

喜欢是，在很久很久没联络的时候，接到他的电话，然后笑着听他说话。

爱是，在几天没有联络的时候，着急得的打电话给他，然后忍住眼泪笑一笑。

喜欢，只有在一起的时候，才惦记着对方。

爱，是哪怕是在一起，每一秒钟也都在思念思念他。

喜欢一个人，在一起的时候会很开心

爱一个人，在一起的时候，会莫名的失落

喜欢一个人，在一起的时候永远是欢乐

爱一个人，你会常常流泪

喜欢一个人，当你想起他，你会微微一笑

爱一个人，当你想起他，你会对着天空发呆

喜欢一个人，你要得只是今天

爱一个人，你期望的是永远

喜欢一个人，是看到了他的优点

爱一个人，是包容了他的缺点

当你不想再爱一个人,你要闭上眼睛并忍着泪水

当你不想再喜欢一个人,你只要掩住双耳!

喜欢，是一种心情
爱，是一种感情
喜欢，是一种直觉
爱，是一种感觉
喜欢，可以停止
爱，没有休止

喜欢一个人，特别自然
爱一个人，特别坦然
喜欢一个人，有时候盼和他在一起
爱一个人，有时候怕和他在一起

喜欢一个人，不停的和他争执
爱一个人，不停的为他付出
喜欢一个人，希望他可以随时找到自己
爱一个人，希望可以随时找到他

喜欢你，却不一定爱你
爱你，就一定很喜欢你

快乐的钥匙

2006-08-12T15:00:00.000+08:00

著名專欄作家哈理斯（Sydney Harries）和朋友在報攤上買報紙，那朋友禮貌地對報販說了聲：「謝謝！」但報販卻冷口冷臉，沒發一言。「這傢伙態度很差，是不是？」哈理斯問道。「他每天晚上都是這樣的！」朋友說。「那麼你為甚麼還是對他那麼客氣？」哈理斯問他。朋友答道：「為甚麼我要讓他決定我的行為？」

一個成熟的人握住自己快樂鑰匙，他不期待別人使他快樂，反而能將快樂與幸福帶給別人。

每人心中都有把「快樂的鑰匙」，但我們卻常在不知不覺中把它交給別人掌管。

一位女士抱怨道：「我活得很不快樂，因為先生常出差不在家。」她把快樂的鑰匙放在先生手裡。

一位媽媽說：「我的孩子不聽話，叫我很生氣！」她把鑰匙交在孩子手中。

男人可能說：「上司不賞識我，所以我情緒低落。」這把快樂鑰匙又被塞在老闆手裡。

婆婆說：「我的媳婦不孝順，我真命苦！」

年輕人從文具店走出來說：「那位老闆服務態度惡劣，把我氣炸了！」

這些人都做了相同的決定，就是讓別人來控制他的心情。當我們容許別人掌控我們的情緒時，我們便覺得自己是受害者，對現況無能為力，抱怨與憤怒成為我們唯一的選擇。我們開始怪罪他人，並且傳達一個訊息：「我這樣痛苦，都是你造成的，你要為我的痛苦負責！」此時我們就把一重大的責任交託周圍的人，即要求他們使我們快樂。我們似乎承認自己無法掌控自己，只能可憐的任人擺佈。這樣的人使別人不喜歡接近，甚至望而生畏。

但一個成熟的人握住自己快樂的鑰匙，他不期待別人使他快樂，反而能將快樂與幸福帶給別人。他的情緒穩定，為自己負責，和他在一起是種享受，而不是壓力。

你的鑰匙在那裡？在別人手中嗎？

快去把它拿回來吧！

愛的反面不是仇恨，而是漠視且不關心。

其實我們身處的地方，不論是環境、人、事、物都很容易影響我們的情緒起伏，可是千萬別忘了！！

不要因為他人的一句話，而在意太久哦！！

再没有病

2006-08-10T18:13:00.000+08:00

送给今天过生日的

2006-08-10T02:09:00.000+08:00

无意中得知今天是你的生日，

于是发现，

他乡的你多少容易被人遗忘，

轻敲键盘的手在颤抖，

原来，你我都一样，

只是空气中一颗尘埃，

即使吹入某人的眼眶，

也将遭遇马上被揉出的命运，

于是，

我们又回到了大漠的世界，

又开始我们漂浮流浪的生活！

时隔多日，

问一声：近来可好？

今天的生日为你送上我的祝福，

祝你生日快乐！

一句祝福，一份心意，

祝你永远开心快乐！

天使也恋网，

是因为天使为了她所爱的人，

折了翅膀，

再也回不了天堂，

但是这里也会有你的真爱，

祝福你！

安慰自己的6種情緒 -- 6

2006-08-10T01:38:00.000+08:00

6當我覺得——壓力大，喘不過氣來。
我可以這麼做——

1.暫停一下。
壓力管理大師戴維森在《完全傻瓜手冊──如何紓解壓力》一書中建議辛苦的現代人，在被壓得喘不過氣時，要善用「策略性暫停」。也就是，讓自己有機會做幾個深呼吸、喝杯水、安靜的坐一下，甚至是發呆，讓腦袋空白。

2.想想愉快的事。
在腦袋停下來之後，還要繼續想像愉快的場景或事情。閉上眼睛，回憶過去一次愉快的旅行，像是美麗的溪水，寬廣的步道。或是回味一下小孩的童言童語，另一半的愛意與溫暖。研究發現，愉快的感覺能重新調整內部的生理時鐘，獲得短暫但直接的休息。

3.求助於外。
如果是因為事情常常做不完所帶來的壓力，那麼得考慮去找人幫忙，要記得，自己可不是萬能，不必做一天有48小時的超人。找出事情的優先順序，把事情簡化，也都是紓緩壓力的好方法。

心靈補帖：暫停一下，想像愉快的畫面

停下來，好好享受這個下午，你可沒有辦法把它打包帶走。　——迪拉德

你不必是每天48小時的超人。 ——壓力管理大師戴維森

如果試過以上方法仍不管用，去做個指壓按摩吧。
：))

因为有你

2006-08-09T02:12:00.000+08:00

"只有爱过才知美, 痛过也不曾后悔
爱像咖啡苦甜的交汇
曾经总是无所谓, 在感情的世界飞
直到有你心才不在累
夜不在寂寞, 好多话想说
幸福感觉已经包围我
简单的生活, 快乐那么多
流浪的心停止了漂泊
因为有你的爱热情似火"

在人的一生中能碰到与自己真心相爱的人真的是一种莫大的缘分，总是在失去之后才想再拥有，如果时光能够倒流，总是在离别以后才想再回头，不管重新等待多寂寞，很多人都要等到事情不能挽留的时候才知道后悔，可惜得是，时光永远不可能倒流，等待永远都是那么寂寞，但是我真得很感激上天给了一份属于我的缘分，让我在孤单寂寞中多了七彩色，也是因为这份感情，让我对未来的生活充满了无限的憧憬！

希望所有朋友们都能够珍惜属于自己的缘分，好好照顾身边的另一半.

心的钥匙

2006-08-07T01:45:00.000+08:00

没加糖的咖啡是苦的.

人生是有时也是苦的...

不过，在人生的道路上

有朋友，家人，亲人关爱的人

至少再苦再累的人生也会获得來自于这些人的溫暖....

相较于某些人而言，你已是幸福的

一切随缘...

爱一個人其实不需要那么急急忙忙的表白

因为可以用心去让他明白

懂得爱一個人很简单

甚至爱上一個人更简单

可是，要長久的爱，卻很难维持...

爱的再深也好，看不到对方的心时...

只不过又是过眼云烟

短暂……所以，随缘吧

用心去爱，不要让道路曲折难行

倾诉...

倾诉，其实很简单，

可是，必须要有一個愿意听你倾诉的人

那就是朋友

在心烦的時候向他们倾诉，在困难的時候向他们倾诉

此時你的心会觉的轻松了

只因为你说出了，如此而已

也许一切的烦恼困难仍再，不会消失

但因为你转换了去面对的心情，许多事情也就迎韧而解

所以，多和朋友做心交心的沟通

重要的不是他能否帮你什么

只因为他们才是你愿意將心里沉重说出的人...

理解....

在生活的方方面面里

你有沒有理解过別人？

那么，別人又有沒有理解过你？

也许有，也许沒有

一個很简单的名词，可是，也会透露出人的千万心理....

被人理解的時候，虽然心舒服了，

但有時還是會有被误解的時候....

虽然別人误会了你，心很难受，不过，那只是一时的

過了很久，這种感觉也就淡忘了

就如同！我想我已经习惯于別人误解了吧

可是，我沒有解释任何....

因为这样，心会更好受些....

只因为我不想再伤害自己一次

许多時候不刻意解释，也是一种方法

留给时间去沉淀那份误解吧!

挫折...

人生难免有挫折，挫折出现在你的人生也在所难免的

因為，它淬炼了一个人的心志

也因此這個人学到了经验，受到了新的启发...

那么，挫折也是激发潜意识的一种良药...

虽然因为挫折你跌倒了

虽然因为挫折你跌倒了无数次

可是，正是因为它，我们重新的认识自己，並且改变了....

那么，挫折也是人生的每一個转折点

所以不要放弃，你会好起來的，你会振作的

因为，伤口始终是会癒合的...

心...

有時候用心去体会体会自己

或者体会体会別人吧...

只有這樣，才能把身边的种种是非看透

虽然心急，可是，卻能体会到另一方的感受

因此，我们要学会謙让

就比如，在过马路的時候

你好比就是路上的行人

当你正有急事，可是這个時候，十字路口的红灯却亮了

那么，急是你唯一发洩的心态

此刻请你静下心來看着所有等候绿灯的行人

有人悠哉，有人会着急的看着读秒器

有人面帶微笑，有人一脸愁容滿腹心事

绿灯亮了

有人缓步而行，有人会匆忙急走，

有人左顾右盼怕有车再撞來，有人会脚步轻盈

你所看到的众生相，就是不同的人生

有时候，用心去认真体会

你才会看到一个真正的自己

也许，你会更开朗更快乐些...

祝福每一个人都快乐.