Texas Gal Ramblings

My sister, my friend

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 02 May 2012 05:10:00 +0000

Lori and me in one of our first day of school photos (Circa 1978)

She's only three years, 352 days younger than me. So there were a few years before she was born that I was the only child. I'm pretty sure I didn't take as much advantage as I could of that situation, but I can't really blame my former four year old self.

By the time she was born I had lived in both Texas and Michigan, but when my sister, Lori, came into the picture, Michigan was a distant spot in my families rear view mirror. Neither of my parents had ever lived that far north and I think the stark cold winter made my mom long for the Texas sun and sky.

I think by the time Lori arrived I had learned to become a bit more of an independent soul. She loved my mom. There was an extra special bond there. Lori had blond curly hair that when it was dried and if my mom brushed it out everyone thought it looked like a lion's mane. It was the early 1970s and let her unruly locks were perfectly acceptable in the peace culture that surrounded us.

I think my most vivid memories of my sister were when lived in a Southwest Houston neighborhood and where I gained the understanding of friendships at the deepest level. Lori and I were fast friends with the neighborhood kids. Our parents were all friends and our moms would take turns shopping at the Houston, Texas farmers market once a week or every other week, I'm not quite sure. Their little co-op would bring a bounty of fresh veggies and fruit.

Then in my third grade year our family moved to Springfield, Missouri, at the time I learned to associate my surroundings with the land where Laura Ingalls of Little House on the Prairie once lived. Our family left behind the comforts of home and friends, so it was just me and Lori. We played around our farm type house in Missouri, built forts out of the snow and took walks in our back 40. We only stayed there for a year.

Fourth grade rolled around and we had moved to West Columbia, Texas, where my mom had grown up and my grandparents still lived. Lori started kindergarten there and I still have our first day of school pictures. Each year we posed with our fancy new school year threads and whatever lunch box was what we deemed to be the coolest. I look back at these photos and think did we choose those clothes or did our mom and whoever it was, what were they thinking? I'm sure you have photos like that from your childhood too.

We spent many a day during our summers and after school riding bikes and just being kids. There are many fun memories.

By my senior year, my dad's occupation had changed and we moved to Lake Jackson, Texas, where my parents and Lori and I, started what would be the first church my dad founded. Yep, we were the preacher;s daughters. I was wrapping up my high school years and Lori was embarking on hers. In 1986, I left for Oral Roberts University in Tulsa, Oklahoma and Lori started her years at Brazoswood, a school much larger than the one where I graduated.


My sister Lori is in front holding one of her grandkids (2011)

I wouldn't say we were the closest of sisters. We liked each other, but we had such different lives and interests. After Lori's high school graduation she married and started a family, while after my college years I focused on work.

Now we're both in our second marriages and her family's grown and she has grandkids and most recently a beach house. Bonus!

It's been an amazing journey with my sister. We've both called each other for advice. We love keeping up with each other on Facebook and see each other when we're able. I wouldn't have traded my sister for anyone in the world. I see her as an amazing force of strength and courage and blessed that she's a part of my life.

How is That Nine to Five Family Working for You?

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:19:00 +0000

Hours on end. I mean day-in, day-out conversing, speaking via phone, video conference, email and in person. Yet, we rarely fight. There's no screaming matches.

Oh there are misunderstandings and we disappoint each other. But honestly I'm super lucky because we shower each other with lots of verbal appreciation. You know, virtual high fives and such.

For the most part I didn't pick these people. In fact, none of these people picked me, yet here I am in this work family and I've come to love these 9-5 relatives.

Most of us who work outside the home spend more time with our work relatives than with our true families, so it's super important to like those that you work with everyday.

In the last few years with mass layoffs and record unemployment numbers, many people desperately dove head first into getting any job, sometimes sacrificing their past experiences and work related knowledge for dumbed down tasks simply to bring home a paycheck. But were tradeoffs worth it?

Have you traded in the comforts of enjoying your work relatives to simply make ends meet?

How do you deal with the fact that you go to work and aren't excited to develop relationships with people whom you spend the most time with everyday?

Pinterest Rocks Social Media's Hottest Trends List

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 17:10:00 +0000

Back in 2007, I joined an online social networked called Twitter. You've heard of it, right? But back then I heard people giggle about me Tweeting. My husband would make fun of me chatting with my Twitter friends - ahem Tweeps. Many around me thought that it was certainly a passing fad and that it would have no bearing on their life whatsoever.

Who's giggling now?

I would guess that most of us hear the word or see the word Twitter on an almost daily basis. It's not uncommon any longer and it's obviously not as much of a passing fad like so many had predicted.

Last summer I was introduced to Pinterest. Is that new to you?

Thanks to The Organised Housewife on www.pinterest.com. See all her pins here: http://pinterest.com/organised_house/

After returning from our missions trip in Botswana last June, I was watching some of the more crafty (as in they make things by hand - not that they're mean!) and socially media savvy women post interesting projects and such to their Facebook wall. It intrigued me and soon enough I joined Pinterest and began to pin away.

I've admitted it in person, but now I'll do so online, I'm a Pinterest addict. I suspect to me it's every bit as addicting as crack is to people who use that type of drug. I'm fascinated by the creativity, by the savory and sweet recipes I find, by the hilarious and I mean tears streaming down my face and I can't catch my breath, funny things that people post on their boards and I can't help but post on my own ROFL (rolling on the floor laughing) board.

For the most part I use it for my own sanctuary of amazing things that either I want to recreate or things I'd like for my ultimate dream home one day. As of today I've pinned over 1400 items. That's a bunch, right?

So if you've started hearing about it and you're still unsure of what it's all about, I'd suggest starting with this Mashable post: Pinterest: A Beginners Guide to the Hot New Social Network.

In December 2011, according to Charlie White's, Sr. Editor at Mashable, article, Study Shows Pinterest Will Compete With Top 10 Social Networks, the site had 40 times the number of hits it did only six months before. I've watched my friends list and in particularly online friends that are males, join in droves over the last month alone. I don't want you to join another social bandwagon of excitement too late, so if you need an invite let me know and I'll try my best to get you one.

If you've already been pinning away like mad, but looking to up your game check out Pinterest: 13 Tips and Tricks for Cutting Edge Users.

Wondering how others are thinking that the network can become better and how to use it for your business? Go here: 12 More Tweaks Pinterest Should Make in 2012

Now tell me . . .

What do you like / dislike about Pinterest?

How long have you been on the site?

If you're not on the site yet, what's keeping you from joining it?

There Has To Be More

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 05:18:00 +0000


Special thanks to www.savagechickens.com.

Over the last couple of months I've come to realize that there definitely is more to life and that I have been stuck in this monotonous cycle of doing the same thing every week day. And let me tell you, it gets old.

So without a big hoop-la of New Year's Resolutions, I've simply made sure that I'm making an effort to spice things up a bit. Although it's not all that exciting, in the first week of 2012, I've accomplished a lot. It feels good.

And in January alone I've already committed to some fun get-togethers with ladies that are impactful in their lives and I'm going to be gleaning lessons from them on how they get so much done.

I've made a pact with myself to change up steps four and six in the Savage Chickens cartoon above. I'm getting offline more and turning off the television. Most of the the time the television has simply been on in the background as I wandered around the internet anyway.

I'll let you know what kind of progress I make and ideally there will be some great things coming out of this new found freedom from electronics. I'm jazzed about it!

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 05:44:00 +0000

Highlights From Recent Blog Posts

Another year seems to have run its course. It's hard to believe that December's already here and I'm amazed by the number of Christmas gifts I've already purchased.

And tonight I spent the time going through my blog, which is something I've wanted to do for some time. I knew it needed to be updated and cleaned up and gosh, well, it's much more fun to sit here with baby puppy in my lap and dawdle away on the computer then . . . straightened other things in my home. That's what tomorrow's for, right?

I'd love to get your feedback on the new look. If it's your first time here I'd love to get your thoughts too.

And, while I'm asking for your thoughts, tell me what your favorite places are to visit on the web lately.

For me? It has to be Pinterest! I'm an addict. In fact, just this week I made two Christmas decorations from inspiration that started on Pinterest. If you're a fan and hang out there too, please add me. You can find my schmancy new Pinterest button over there on the top left column.

Time To Grow That Mo

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 03:47:00 +0000

Okay, honestly, the only Mo (mustache) that I'll be sporting around this month is one that's fake and probably propped up by a stick or something.

But for you guys out there . . . consider sporting one for this great cause!

Movember, formally known as November, is now in full swing for the 2011 season.

Since its humble beginnings in Melbourne Australia, Movember has grown to become a truly global movement inspiring more than 1.1 Million Mo Bros and Mo Sistas to participate with formal campaigns in Australia, New Zealand, the US, Canada, the UK, Finland, the Netherlands, Spain, South Africa and Ireland. In addition, Movember is aware of Mo Bros and Mo Sistas supporting the campaign and men’s health cause across the globe, from Russia to Dubai, Hong Kong to Antarctica, Rio de Janeiro to Mumbai, and everywhere in between.

No matter the country or city, Movember will continue to work to change established habits and attitudes men have about their health, to educate men about the health risks they face, and to act on that knowledge, thereby increasing the chances of early detection, diagnosis and effective treatment.

In 2010, over 64,500 US Mo Bros and Mo Sistas got on board, raising $7.5 million USD.

This is my third year to participate - the first year was the year that my husband, Charles was diagnosed with prostate cancer. See our story here: Our Life After Three Words - You Have Cancer.

We'd really appreciate you helping us in our fund raising and spreading the Mo love! If you'd like to donate please visit my Mo Page. Oh, and tell your friends and family too!

Thank you, Steve Jobs

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 04:17:00 +0000

Last night just before 7 pm CST I learned of the death of Steve Jobs, entrepreneur, visionary and former CEO of Apple. A man who was in the prime of his life at 56 years old whom I'd never met changed the life of just about everyone I know.

My first exposure to computers was in eighth grade (1981) in Mrs. Strain's math class on an Apple II. We did a little bit of programming and from what I can best recall we created mosaics. Big stuff for a girl from a tiny Texas town (West Columbia). In fact that computer may have been the ONLY computer in our junior high school at that time.

Thank you, Mr. Jobs for being a part of that first exposure.

So as I was driving home tonight after speaking at Social Media Club Texas State, I thought about what I'd done in my life that wouldn't have been possible without Job's innovations. Yes, I know he was the end all be all to Apple and there were many hundreds of people who helped their products, but he was the face of Apple to me. And while I have a strong sense of who my savior is and who my God is, I'd have to think that if I leaned toward believing in demi-gods then Jobs would be right up there in my top 10 list.

It was my iPhone that woke me up via my SleepCycle app.

I then surfed to check in on what's gone on since I went to sleep last night by checking my personal and work e-mails on my iPhone.

Later this morning it was my iPhone calendar, synched with my work calendar, that reminded me of a conference call with my team in Palo Alto, CA and Cambridge, MA.

For our conference call one of my coworkers was having an issue with her computer, so we created a Join Me connection and she gave her presentation via my computer, but because I needed access to my computer at the same time, I simply brought up the application I needed on my iPad as not to disturb our team's call.

I used my iPhone again to check my e-mail for directions to my presentation.

Once at my destination, I had some "down-time", so I surfed Pintrest on my iPhone to see what new things had been posted and continued to check in on my office e-mail, answering my manager and coworkers.

In preparation for my presentation, the attendees were discussing another topic, so I used my iPhone to do a quick bit of research that would be a nice addition to the presentation.

On the way home I was undecided as the best route home, so I checked traffic on my iPhone to ensure that the route I picked wouldn't have delays.

While I realize that none of this small uses of Apple technologies were all that important in and of themselves, they were all together life altering. My life is easier, my problems quicker solved, my knowledge exponentially increased and all because a man name Steve Jobs was an innovator.

Thank you, Mr. Jobs for never cowering to those who didn't believe in what you envisioned and for being such a joy in my life!

Engaging with the Smallest in Botswana

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 05:14:00 +0000

During our time with Love Botswana Outreach Mission (LBOM), our team was able to assist with the Lorato House of Love - The Baby House. This is one of LBOM's community outreach programs.

Normally the house is run by two women during the day and two women during the night. Our team took over the house from Sunday evening until Tuesday evening. The house at capacity houses 10 babies and over the 10 days were onsite the 10th baby arrived. Our team rallied to the challenge and fed babies, loved on babies, bathed babies and played with babies. Whew. We had a tired group of folks - six babies and four toddlers is work for sure.

Lorato House is a rescue center and orphanage for abandoned babies and children in need. The Northwest and Okavango Districts of Botswana have among the highest levels of orphaned children and children affected by HIV/AIDS in the country. This is the first rescue center of its type in Botswana.

The goal of Lorato House of Love is to place these babies into loving families in Botswana that the children will grow up to be contributing members of society. Lorato House educates and empowers the extended families, guiding them to raise healthy, well-balanced children.

In Botswana, there are no legal options for a mother unable to care for her child. She would be imprisoned if found leaving her baby at the police station or a hospital. Desperate mothers deliver children behind closed doors and abandon them to the river or the bush. When found alive, these babies are raised in the hospital until official investigations have been completed, often years later.
LBOM discovered this and acted to open a rescue center for children in need of care. In 2009, Lorato House of Love was registered as a child welfare institution and opened its doors for service. Governmental social and community welfare divisions throughout Botswana refer infants and children in need of this specialized service to Lorato House.

Children are welcomed into a safe, caring and nurturing atmosphere while they await either reunion with their extended family or introduction to a new, loving family within Botswana. The children are cared for by Batswana in an environment reflective of cultural values and norms. Social, physical, mental, and spiritual activities match and challenge each child’s individual growth.

The cost to care for one child’s stay in the Lorato House for one day is $10. This money is used to provide the following:

For each child:

• 24 hour housing;
• physical support including clothing, food and medical attention;
• developmentally appropriate activities;
• case management in cooperation with the local authorities concerning official investigations into family of origin.

For the family once a child is placed or the family is identified:

• Counseling, training on health issues, prevention and psychological support to the adult caregivers;
• Referral and advocacy concerning the social network within the community such as government food baskets, health services, hygiene, adult education and parenting;
• Support in identifying and attending income generating programs; and
• Home repairs where needed.

LBOM is in the process of building a new facility that will host up to 70 babies at any given time and provide housing for missionaries and care-givers to live under one roof.

For more information about this part of LBOM and to find out ways you can make an impact on these tiny lives please visit: http://lovebotswana.org/what_we_do/page/Community-Outreach-Programs.

Our Missionary Adventure

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 23:19:00 +0000

Charles and I just returned yesterday after spending the last two weeks in Maun, Botswana with Love Botswana Outreach Mission. It had been 10 years since I last visited LBOM and I was so excited to share the experience with Charles.

We're both attracted to adventure so I knew it would be a relatively easy trip for us both. Having been there before I had some pretty easy expectations. Charles, in typical form, arrived well prepared and with lots and lots of tools and medicines in his two bags of luggage.

One of the things he may not have realized that would prove useful was his knowledge of working on 4x4s or his Texas State Guard medic training. Read more about 3/4 down on Sarah Witt's blog post Kev's Version Of the Moremi Adventure.

My Movember 2010 Story

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 04:35:00 +0000

Movember Austin Growing By Leaps and Bounds

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 05:46:00 +0000

Movember, movember the second movember . . . there's a quote that goes something like that.

This is my second year to participate in the Movember movement. See my post from last year here.

If you aren't familiar with Movember it's a movement that started down under in Australia in 2003 to both be a silly way to bring back the mustache (Mo) and in turn as a way to raise awareness and funds to fight cancers that affect men's lives.

'Cmon. When you see pink what do you think? Breast cancer awareness, right? When you think about what cause is talked about the most during October it's what? Cancers that affect women.

But did you know that in 2010 tragically more than 32,000 men will die as a direct result of prostate cancer?

My husband, Charles was diagnosed with prostate cancer and subsequently underwent a radical prostatectomy last October. I blogged about it as "Our Life After Three Words."

In the last week he's had a one of many followup appointments with his urologist and he's completely cancer free and has NO PSA level.

Men, it's so important to talk about PSA levels with your physician. Women, it's so important to encourage the men in your lives to get consistent checkups that can catch things like cancer.

Charles' doctor told him that his cancer probably grew over a period of about five years. Yikes. That's a long time. There were definitely symptoms that were disregarded and thank God that he decided to get a check up and be completely honest with his physician when he did.

If you'd like to get involved with Movember please visit www.movember.com. If you're in the Austin area we're hoping to have 250 members by the end of November and as of tonight we're at about 150. Join us - Team AUS!

If you aren't in the Austin area, see if you can find a team near you or consider making a donation.

And tell me about your stories either here on this post or on my Movember page. We'd love to have you share!

Time to Post

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 04:19:00 +0000

I think about it often. I know I haven't posted in a long time. Okay - six months. How did that happen?

Since my last post I've been busy working, working, working.

I launched The Talent Sleuth almost immediately after I found out I was going to be affected by a lay off in March. I use the site to post positions I'm recruiting for in the Austin, Texas area and beyond.

I've also been doing some Human Resource consulting.

Immediately after I left Kershner Trading Group I went to work onsite in both an HR and recruiting and front desk capacity at Hall Plastic Surgery and Rejuvenation Center. Tricia Hall and her husband Jeff own the company and even though I've been a client of hers for almost a decade, working in the beauty industry again was fun and enlightening. While there I consulted on HR practiced and located and hired a new front desk person.

As that position was wrapping up I came across my next position - a contract HR Manager at CSIdentity. An amazing group of people and amazing technology. This organization works to fend of identity theft. Sadly, it's also an industry that I don't think is going to go away anytime soon as there will always be horrible criminals out there.

In between both of those positions I was also recruiting for a few various positions at Convio here in Austin. I was able to locate and Convio hired a new PMO Director. This organization went public early in 2010 and helps non-profits with their fundraising efforts.

After CSIdentity I went to work on a full-time contract basis at PayPal's Austin office where I'm still working as a Sourcer in their Talent Acquisition group. I've always been a PayPal (owned by eBay) admirer, so the work I do in finding top talent for them is very rewarding.

I'm continuing to pick up extra work on the side as well including a position I start recruiting for this week for Illuminas' New York City office. I flew up there about a week ago to get to know the staff a bit better and had a great, albeit quick trip in NYC. Hmmm . . . how do I get back there and Jane Quigley, can we go back to The Cafeteria? Okay, I'm sure there are plenty of breakfast places we can try!

I've also, via The Talent Sleuth, met and career counseled a number of people in person and over the phone. I'm always amazed when we wrap up our sessions at how they tell me how much they get out of our conversations.

The last six months have been a whirlwind of possibilities and fun, intriguing, insipiring and challenging work. I'm so glad to be so busy and thankful for the opportunities that continue to open up in front of me.

As much as I joke that I need to learn to say no, I think I'm not quite to that point yet . . . bring it on. All of it!

Free Agent in the House

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:42:00 +0000

About a year ago I started a website - Help I Was Laid Off (and on Twitter as @HelpIWasLaidOff).

As a recruiter I was often approached by people who had been laid off, those thinking about leaving their jobs and others keeping an eye out for friends and loved ones. They'd ask if I could help with their job search or review their resume. I was getting invited to coffee and breakfast and lunch left and right. My dance card was filled.

Then it dawned on me. I was repeating much of the same information time and time again.

Lightbulb - Hey, why don't I create a place where I can dispense all of this information at once?!

Thus the site began. But I also didn't want it to just be me. I, by no means have all of the information where job searching is concerned. Don't get me wrong - I think I have a lot to offer and having been laid off in September of '01, but I also thought it would be interesting to also have others' vantage points.

I solicited a few friends and acquaintances that I'd met along the way from various places and asked that they write about what they'd like where job searching was concerned and it's been a pretty successful endeavor. Great information and lots of folks reading the information and telling me how helpful it's been for them.

So . . . when I received news a couple of weeks ago about my impending lay off - my last day is tomorrow . . . I wasn't nearly as frightened as I might have been.

The site was preparing me for a day in which I might hear those words.

And you know what I did? I followed the suggestions that I've made to hundred of other folks and the suggestions that my writers dispensed.

I immediately reached out to my network! I received my notification before it was officially announced to anyone else, so I made sure that the people I reached out to in the first 24-hours would honor my request for confidentiality.

Then my network went to work.

I'd recently given a talk to the Austin Women in Communications Association and reminded the 70 or so in attendance to get to work on building their network before they needed it. If you start building your network once you need it, it will simply take longer to get to your desired destination.

What does my network look like?

I run Help I Was Laid Off's site and Twitter account (over 400 followers combined)
I run AustinTXJobs on Twitter (over 400 followers)
I run the Out of Work Austin group on LinkedIn (currently over 800 members)
I have over 1700 followers on my personal Twitter account
I have over 900 direct connections on LinkedIn
I belong to over 40 groups on LinkedIn
I belong to a confidential group of HR professionals in the Austin area comprised of over 60 companies and I manage their social network
I serve as the communications chairperson for our home owners association.
I've attended the same church and been involved in various areas for over 10 years

Within 24-hours of my news, a contact in Atlanta put me in contact with a recruiter in New York looking for a sourcer (someone to search for candidates) and within 48-hours I had a signed contract to work with her on a project basis as her sourcer.

It's now been two weeks since I knew I'd be joining the intervewing circuit. I have had a well networked recruiter calling me a couple of times a week about opportunities. I've been on two face-to-face interviews, turned down one opportunity and have calls on schedule with a couple of others about specific positions.

It's nice being a free agent. Not something I necessarily wished for or hoped for, but I'm looking at it in a very positive light and feel good about the possibilities of where I'll land next and how I'll spread my wings.

Why A Vigil To Remember A Tragedy?

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:12:00 +0000

Vigil according to Wikipedia is an outdoor assembly of people, held after sunset. The definition continues with it can be held in protest or in memory of lives lost to tragedy.

After the horrific plane crash that occured in Austin, Texas last week, a few of us decided to host a vigil tomorrow evening. Our goal is to remember those who lost their lives as well as to show those left behind and those affected by the event that we are here to support them.

It's both a sad and controversial disaster and the opinions abound on all sides.

I called Lani and Benn Rosales the day after the crash and told them how I thought that we as a social networking community should be the ones to step up and hold the vigil. Omar Gallaga, of the Austin American Statesman, is the one who put the idea in my head with his article titled, "Social media speeds up news-gathering in plane crash aftermath." (Steve Buttry posted a similar article dissecting how Twitter played a part in the event @statesman : A case study in using Twitter on breaking news)

For many people in Austin area, it was the first time since they'd joined the social networking community to experience the lightening fast speed that occurs when news travels via microblogging.

In January of 2008, when Twitter was a much smaller community many of us were affected by the death Ashley Spencer in Louisiana. People were chatting with her within the same hour that she died in a car wreck. Her Twitter stream went from vibrant and very alive to listless and dormant. Those of us who had become her virtual friends knew that Ashley was a new mom and looking forward to her military husband returning from overseas.

We grieved together online. Several people even traveled to her memorial service. It was shocking and sad and it moved us. An account where we could make monetary contributions was set up to be distributed to her surviving family.

This has obviously happened more than once over the years.

As a physical community it's easy to join together and grieve and be supportive of one another.

For those that are still new to online communities whether it's on Facebook or Twitter or other online sites it may seem weird at first to meet in person with the people that you only know in an online world.

For those of us who have been on Facebook or Twitter for a while it's actually quite normal. We love to get together for over coffee, to learn about new ideas over breakfast (Social Medi a Breakfast), to hang out in the evening over pizza (Social Media Club), to learn how how teachers teach in unconventional ways (Ignite Austin) or to come out and have a drink at a happy hour (Big Ass Twitter Happy Hour).

Attending those events are networking opportunities, fun times, and often times silliness abounds.

A vigil though? A vigil for a tragedy steeped in controversy started by a man who burned down his families home and killed another person, hospitalized people and traumitized countless others?

Yes. Sometimes we come together in a physical sense, take our relationships offline and share a quiet moment together. Tomorrow night we will do just that.

If you Tweeted about the event
If you sent an e-mail to others about the event
If you cross-posted a story about the event on your Facebook page
If you took a photo of the building and posted it to an online site

Then tomorrow's vigil is for you.

Join us and remember the tragedy of a husband lost, a family's home destroyed, a son who will never hear his military veteran father's laugh again.

Join us to show your neighbors who officed in the Echelon building and complex that you are here for them, to listen to them and to console them when they are awake for hours on end because of nightmares they have from being in the building.

Join us for a moment of silence at sunset on Research Boulevard in front of Manny Hattens in the large grassy area as we look across to the building as it stands a week after the Austin, Texas Plane Crash.

Thankfully Those Days Are Past

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 21:07:00 +0000

A dear friend of mine, we'll call her Alisha, told me that she recently filed for divorce. It was years in the making. I've been aware of trouble, not necessarily to the extend that finally brought them to divorce. Isn't there always a string of events that causes the demise of a marriage?

In speaking with another friend, we'll call her Casey, a few weeks ago, she is now in the final stages of her divorce. She's moved on. Actually, she's moved cities, found someone old and made him new and is working on rebuilding her life.

Alisha is at the very, very beginning stages of understanding what divorce feels like. She grew up in church and was taught and believed that marriage is forever. She and her husband have been involved in church in various capacities and I'm certain she thought this would never happen to her.

I can totally empathize. Both friends' experiences bring me back to my first marriage and ultimate divorce. I was married on paper longer than I was in person. I married a man that I had known and dated on and off for over 15 years. I should have known that if we broke up as often as we did, then the likeliness that we could make a marriage work would be a pipe dream. It was a horrible experience. I mean the majority of it. The marriage had a super brief honeymoon and then it just got dramatically worse.

And still, I was devestated to watch it unwrap. I tried with everything in my being to convince him not to end it. I finally had to give in because as soon as he decided he wanted out he never turned back.

My heart hurts for my friends. Alisha, has three children under the age of 10. I see her updates on social networks and there are words like depression, not wanting to get up in the morning, trying to just make it through the day. And my heart breaks.

My other friend, Casey, seems more ready to move on. She too has children, two of them under the age of eight. I think part of where she's been able to get to emotionally also stems from the new guy she's found and how unhappy she'd been for so long. But I hurt for her as well. I know that her family has their thoughts on her new life and the support for her simple is not there.

I want to make a point to reach out to both women and to remind them and encourage them that their feelings of loss will subside, that there will be a better day and that the sun will eventually shine again. It's so much easier to live in the moment of the sad times and I remember all too well how I'd find myself wallowing in the grief of the loss and wondering what I could have done differently or better.

In reading this post let me ask you one favor. Please keep both Alisha and Casey in your prayers. Keep their kids in your prayers. Pray that their tomorrow's will be amazing as they both begin to reshape and begin their new lives.

New year - new goals

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 04:03:00 +0000

I've been pondering what to write about as the new year approaches for the last week. When looking back at this post at the end of 2010 what would I like to say I've accomplished? The goals are almost always the same, lose weight, live healthy, etc. That won't change.

Mostly I know that this coming year will have more challenges that I'm expecting to tackle than in year's past. So, I don't feel all together capable of even knowing what goals will surround those challenges.

This past year has been event-filled for certain. Charles and I married in May. Charles was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer in September and had his prostate removed in October. Just the last few months alone have been a whirlwind in our personal lives.

At work, still loving my job, we've laid off more people than we hired and our hiring goals at the beginning of 2009 was pretty hefty. Not a big surprise here. Seems like everywhere you go you hear something negative about the economy and how difficult it has been for so many.

I think I'll take a few more days before declaring what I'd like to accomplish in 2010.

Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas - To Friends of Both Political Parties

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 02:02:00 +0000

A dear friend of mine, okay, Eric Doggett, passed this along to me and I couldn't help but share it with my friends as well.

To All My Democratic Friends:

Please accept with no obligation, implied or implicit, my best wishes for an environmentally conscious, socially responsible, low-stress, non-addictive, gender-neutral celebration of the winter solstice holiday, practiced within the most enjoyable traditions of the religious persuasion of your choice, or secular practices of your choice, with respect for the religious/secular persuasion and/or traditions of others, or their choice not to practice religious or secular traditions at all. I also wish you a fiscally successful, personally fulfilling and medically uncomplicated recognition of the onset of the generally accepted calendar year 2010, but not without due respect for the calendars of choice of other cultures whose contributions to society have helped make America great. Not to imply that America is necessarily greater than any other country nor the only America in the Western Hemisphere. Also, this wish is made without regard to the race, creed, color, age, physical ability, religious faith or sexual preference of their wish.

To My Republican Friends:

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ

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Is Tetris Good For The Brain?
Love it - a scientific reason to game!

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Lemony Almond Macaroons
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Help Me Show The Mo - Mo Love!

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 07:11:00 +0000

I've joined Movember.

Never heard of Movember? I hadn't either until a few weeks ago, just after Charles' Prostatectomy.

Take a peek at the below video to learn more about this great cause, which raises funds to fight cancers that affect men and proceeds will go to the Prostate Cancer Foundation and Lance Armstrong's Foundation Livestrong.

To make a donation, you can either:

• Click this link Kim Hollenshead Mo Donation Page and donate online using your credit card or PayPal account, or
• Write a check payable to "Movember Foundation™", referencing my Registration Number 259 and mailing it to: Movember Foundation, PO Box 2726, Venice, CA 90294-2726

All donations are tax deductible to the extent permitted by law.

• The Prostate Cancer Foundation will use the money raised by Movember to fund research to find better treatments and a cure for prostate cancer.

• The Lance Armstrong Foundation will use the money raised by Movember to fund:
•The LIVESTRONG Young Adult Alliance program
•Research initiatives to further understand the biology of adolescent and young adult cancers.

For more details on how the funds raised from previous campaigns have been used and the impact Movember is having please go to Movember's Gift.

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Céline Dion will keep trying for a baby
I understand that In Vitro can be an tough process, but watching others stay hopeful is encouraging.

Our Life After Three Words - You Have Cancer

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:13:00 +0000

Earlier this summer my husband, Charles, went to his doctor for a check up. He hadn't been to see a doctor in a number of years. I tend to believe that most men aren't the best at seeking medical attention or at least routine physicals. Yes, I know that's a far reaching statement, but true from the men in my life.

In a series of appointments with his M.D., Shane Keller of Pflugerville, TX, which also included him running a PSA exam they found that there were a few things that warranted further investigation. His doctor scheduled a follow up appointment with a urologist.

I went with Charles to his urology appointment as he needed a driver to take him home afterwards. I hadn't realized that the next followup appointment to gather test results was an in person appointment until the night before.

So on Monday, September 21, 2009 away we went. Charles in his Army Chevy Blazer and me in my car. We were ushered into the room furthest from the front door. I'm not sure why I paid attention to what room we were in other than we kept walking until we couldn't walk any further. Our conversation in that far room was chipper. It was still rather early in the day, I think about 9 or 9:30 am. I noticed a sperm bank brochure and we jokingly talked about it.

Then in walked his urologist, Dr. Sandeep Mistry. Niceties were exchanged. Hello. Good to see you. The usual. Then Dr. Mistry sat down.

The next words were the most impactful. "Well, you have cancer and a lot of it," Dr. Mistry solemnly stated.

Shocked. It was one of those surreal moments. The story you've heard from anyone else diagnosed with cancer was just the same for us. We never thought we'd hear those words. I know Charles never thought he'd hear those words.

In a matter of seconds, we were sitting eyes and ears wide open and fully engaged. I know several people think Dr. Mistry'sstraight forward approach seemed awkward. I on the other hand feel it was the best response we could have had.

My degree was in journalism and I fully recall writing obituaries for a couple of days and we were taught that they should always be written as a matter of fact. Sally Smith died. George Williamson died. They didn't pass away gloriously from this life . . . Factual. Nothing more, nothing less.

We must have spent a good 30-45 minutes listening to Dr. Mistry and asking a few questions that immediately came to mind. Charles and I left the appointment, hugged and went our separate ways. As I drove away I realized I was definitely out of sorts and work was the furthest thing from my mind. I called to check on Charles and he became teary. I told him I would stop by my office to let my manager know that I wouldn't be in that day and that I would meet him back at home.

We spent the rest of the day together, thinking out loud, asking questions, and conversing about the enormity that we had been dealt.

Over the last month we had another appointment with Dr. Mistry after we had time to gather questions and speak with friends and family. All of whom were incredibly supportive and gave us amazing advice. I think reaching out to our family and social networks has been amazing.

In particular to me, I really valued my CEO, Andy Kershner, putting me in touch with his personal friends who helped ease my thoughts on if we had chosen the right doctor to perform the surgery and they gave Dr. Mistry a big two thumbs up. Yay!

Charles too had many of his friends from social online boards he's been on for years reach out to him from around the world.

We married in May of this year and although Charles has a 19 year old son, Jareck and a 11 year old daughter from previous relationships, I at 42 have never had children, but would very much like to experience motherhood. So, we've also had appointments with the Texas Fertility Center, gone to one of their seminars on In Vitro Fertilization and banked future babies. Yes, we're at a point of light-heartedness at this point in our journey.

Early tomorrow morning we will arrive at the Seton Medical Center Williamson and Charles will have a Robotic Prostatectomy. His father had a prostatectomy over a decade ago and we know that the procedure is much less evasive than his father's and with much less scaring, less down time and less blood loss. We know that Dr. Mistry has an amazing track record in successful surgeries.

But beyond all of that I know that our family and friends have poured many prayers over his condition. I know that I serve an amazing God who still works healing miracles today and has laid His hands on my husband and promised him a long and healthy life. I know that his surgery is simply another part of our story as a couple. I know that when I said I do there were vows that went something like . . . in sickness and in health . . .

Thanks to each of you who are walking this part of our journey with us and supporting our steps. We love you!

Canadian Cheese Soup Hits The Spot

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:10:00 +0000

Cooler weather has hit Central Texas sooner than most Octobers and it has me in the mood to cook and bake and make soup!

I made my all time favorite, in fact I think it's the only soup I actually make - not one I reheat from a can, last week and messaged about it in Twitter and Facebook and had a few requests for the recipe. I had a feeling that there might be others that would also enjoy its yumminess.

Thanks to Momma Marian who shared it with my family probably over 20 years ago now.

Canadian Cheese Soup

1/4 onion
2 stalks celery chopped
2 carrots grated
1 qt (2 14.5 oz) cans chicken broth
3/4 lb Velvetta cheese
1/2 stick butter
1/4 c flour
5 oz evaporated milk
5 oz water

Saute veggies in butter. Add flour and stir. Stir in broth. Simmer on low temperature for 1 hour. Add milk, water and cheese. Stir over low heat until melted. Serves 4.

Momma Marian commented on my post of making it over the last few days and said she added it on top of broccoli recently. She also indicated serving it with Oyster Crackers when she originally shared it.

Personally, I don't know why I hadn't thought of it earlier, but I think I'm going to add some bacon to it next time. Wowza!

Oh, it's probably not the healthiest thing you'll enjoy this winter.

Where HR Lives

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:45:00 +0000

For me of late I feel like I've been living at my office. Our organization, like so many across the nation has been hit by troubling financials. I work for a day-trading firm and because of what they do they do better when the stock market is acting crazy as opposed to staying calm.

Meanwhile, in my rather back office work which is Human Resources (HR), I don't know if I've ever been busier.

Aside from a number of projects that were in play for a number of months that are all coming to a head in the next couple of weeks, I'm not sure that most employees always understand all the things that their HR department does either in the hiring process or the firing / laying off / disassociating of employees. There's a TON to do.

HR is the keeper of all things legal, often times the organizer of all things fun, the listener of both the good and the bad, a guide to executive management in important decisions and holder together of much. Sometimes a bit daunting if I do say so myself.

But, I love it. I love the idea that I'm here to help people and our company. Even exhausted and out of breath, I'm thrilled that I'm working in the capacity that fulfills me the most.

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Welcoming Family Back After Loss

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 02:39:00 +0000

I've attended Shoreline Christian Center in Austin, Texas since I was in college at what is now Texas State back in the early 90s. When I moved to Austin in 1997 I never church shopped, but simply made Shoreline my church home.

One of the first few Sundays I was there I approached Pastor Laura Koke and told her that I was new to Austin, new to the church and ready to serve where she needed me. A week or so later I got a call asking if I could babysit her three kiddos. Of course. Seemed an easy enough request.

Over the next decade I was called on whenever they needed me. Pastor Rob and Laura's kiddos grew up during that time and I found my self moving away from Austin a couple of times, but every time I moved back I was ready at their becon call. They became an extension of my family. Their kids - my kids, even if it was for a few hours as their parents made the most of a well deserved date night.

I've posted about the loss that the Koke's experienced earlier this summer when their 17-year old son, Caleb, passed away in a car wreck. It's still a bit unreal to me as I'm sure it is to them as well.

Last week our church family welcomed Pastor Rob and Laura back. It was an amazing service and I only attended one of three of them. At our service at the north campus just about every seat was filled. The sanctuary seats 5,000 and that obviously doesn't count all the children and babies. Cars were parked way beyond the parking lot - sometimes four deep in the grass.

We love them and I wanted to share a bit of the service here:

Welcome Back Pastor Rob and Laura Koke from Bryan Martin on Vimeo.

Goodbyes Are Never Easy

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:21:00 +0000

After tomorrow afternoon I will have attended two memorial services this summer. One was for a boy at the young age of 17 who died tragically in a car wreck after falling asleep at the wheel. Tomorrow's service will be to remember a coworker I had only had the pleasure of knowing for less than eight months.

Both tragedies.

Caleb Koke was the middle child of my pastors, Rob and Laura Koke of Shoreline Christian Center in Austin, Texas. I became one of the Koke's babysitters when I moved to Austin in 1997. Their kiddos have grown so much as all children do and Caleb was an amazing young man. His death was one of the saddest that I can recall over my lifetime. Watching my dear friends question the loss of their son and also Rob's own father just two weeks prior is hard to wrap my mind around. People who I've admired from a distance and close up were suffering and there was nothing that any of their friends could do for them. It will take time to heal such broken hearts.

David Barney, my coworker at Kershner Trading, was a software developer and as mischevious as they come. He often came into our HR office asking some of the most perplexing of questions and always walked away telling some sort of joke usually about himself. Even the week prior to his death he was helping a coworker and myself as we worked on a prank for another friend at work. You could just tell that he loved the idea of a good practical joke.

And as this week has gone by we've learned more about David, his life beyond our work walls and his life with friends from his work before working with us. You can just tell he was a man of few, but close and dear friends that will truly miss him.

It's hard to know just how to react when you lose a coworker. His desk is no longer occupied. His work no longer touched.

I can only hope that our memorial service we've planned for him tomorrow will honor his memory and will help to remind us how short life can truly be.

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Julie Powell on Julie & Julia
The Chicago's Tribune interview of Julie Powell

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Social Networking for Condo and Homeowners Associations
Nice piece on how HOAs are taking their conversations and sense of community online.

Julie Powell, author of Julie and Julia Sits Down for an Informal Conversation

noreply@blogger.com (Kim Haynes Hollenshead) — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 03:56:00 +0000

This summer's long awaited movie, Julie & Julia is based on Julie Powell's book, Julie and Julia, 365 Days, 524 Recipes, 1 Tiny Apartment Kitchen.

Julie Powell began blogging way before blogging and social media was cool. She set out to blog about her experiences of cooking from Julia Child's Mastering the Art of French Cooking, Volume 1, but had no idea about the journey to which she was about to embark. From blog to a huge readership to a book deal and finally to movie, this Borders Book Club candid interview offers a great glimpse into the whole process and allows new fans of Julie Powell a way to get to know her up close and personal.

Borders Book Club Interviews Julie Powell

No Health Benefits Tax

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No Health Benefits Tax

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