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Male - Inability to achieve Sexual Satisfaction?

2014-01-11T03:32:00.001+05:30

Definition

Male orgasmic disorder may be defined as a persistent or recurrent inability to achieve orgasm despite lengthy sexual contact or while participating in sexual intercourse.

The mental health professional's handbook, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR) , includes this disorder among the sexual dysfunctions , along with premature ejaculation , dyspareunia , and others.

Description

The individual affected by male orgasmic disorder is unable to experience an orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase. The affected man may regularly experience delays in orgasm, or may be unable to experience orgasm altogether.

Normal orgasm

First, it is important to this discussion to understand the characteristics of a "normal" orgasm. The sensation of orgasm in the male includes emission followed by ejaculation. The term emission refers to a sensation of impending ejaculation produced by contractions of the prostate gland, seminal vesicles, and urethra accompanied by generalized muscular tension, perineal contractions, and involuntary pelvic thrusting. Orgasm is followed by a period of resolution characterized by feelings of well-being and generalized muscular relaxation. During this phase, men may be unable to respond to further sexual stimulation, erection, and orgasm for a variable period of time.

It is also important to distinguish orgasm from ejaculation, although in most instances they occur almost simultaneously. Orgasm is a peak emotional and physical experience, whereas ejaculation is simply a reflex action occurring at the lower portion of the spinal cord and resulting in ejection of semen. Some men have been able to recognize the separation of the two processes, enabling them to experience multiple orgasms without the occurrence of ejaculation. Once ejaculation takes place, a period of recovery time is required prior to a subsequent orgasm.

The sensation of orgasm differs between individuals, and individual orgasms may differ in the same person. All orgasms share certain characteristics in common including rhythmic body and pelvic contractions, elevation of the heart rate, systemic hypertension, hyperventilation, and muscle tension, followed by the sudden release of tension.

The physiological mechanism of normal orgasm

The cycle of sexual response is under the control of a balanced interplay between the two major nervous systems, the sympathetic and the parasympathetic. In general, the sympathetic nervous system prompts action whereas the parasympathetic system's main action is recovery and calming. In order for a penis to become erect, its smooth muscles are relaxed and it becomes congested with blood vessels. This process is mediated by a complex cascade of humoral, neurological and circulatory events in which the parasympathetic nervous system plays a key role. Orgasm and ejaculation and subsequent relaxation of the penis are predominantly functions of the sympathetic nervous system.

Thus, whereas emission is a balanced interplay between the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems, orgasm and ejaculation are predominantly under the control of the sympathetic nervous system. The mechanisms of this system may be blocked by impaired function of the brain or of the hormonal, circulatory, and neurological systems. Additionally, certain medications may block these actions.

Abnormalities affecting the process of orgasm

Abnormalities in these processes may be "primary" or "secondary." Primary abnormalities are of lifelong duration with effective sexual performance never having been experienced. Secondary abnormalities are acquired after a period of normal function. If an orgasmic problem only occurs under a particular set of circumstances, or only with certain sexual partners, the condition is considered to be "situational" rather than "generalized" (occurring regardless of the circumstances or partner). The defect in sexual function may be total or partial.

The evidence strongly suggests that orgasm has more to do with the brain than with the body. Electrode stimulation of certain parts of the brain will produce sexual pleasure similar to that produced by physical stimulation. The fact that orgasm occurs during sleep is supportive of this concept.

Causes and symptoms

Causes

The cause of male orgasmic disorders may be organic (related to a condition in the body), but, in most cases, is of psychological origin. It is important for the physician to make every effort to find an underlying cause because the therapy and prognosis depend upon it. A detailed history (including an interview with the sexual partner, if feasible), a general physical examination, the performance of certain laboratory and, in some cases, special tests, are important in the investigation of the underlying cause of the male orgasmic disorder.

Organic causes of male orgasmic disorder include the following:

•Hypogonadism, in which the testes do not produce enough testosterone.

•Thyroid disorders (both hyperthyroidism—too much thyroid hormone— and hypothyroidism, or abnormally low levels of thyroid hormone).

•Pituitary conditions (Cushing's syndrome, excessive production of the hormone that induces lactation called prolactin).

•Diseases that affect the nervous system, such as strokes, multiple sclerosis, diabetic neuropathy, spinal cord injuries.

•Surgery affecting the prostate and other pelvic organs.

•Diseases of the penis.

•Substance abuse, including alcohol.

•Certain medications. Some of these medications include: the phenothiazines [antipsychotics such as chlorpromazine (Thorazine) or trifluoperazine (Stelazine)]; certain medications used to treat high blood pressure, including the thiazides [such as triamterene (Dyazide) or spironolactone (Aldactone)] and beta blockers [such as propranolol (Inderal)]; and the tricyclic antidepressants such as doxepin (Sinequan) and protriptyline (Vivactil).

The most common causes of the male orgasmic syndrome are psychological in nature. The responsible psychological mechanisms may be "intrinsic" (due to basic internal factors), or "extrinsic" (due to external or environmental factors).

Intrinsic psychological factors that may cause male orgasmic disorder include:

•depression

•feelings of guilt, anger, fear, low self-esteem, and anxiety

•fear of getting the partner pregnant or of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or HIV

•Extrinsic psychological factors that may cause male orgasmic disorder include:

•living under conditions that cause undue stress

•unsatisfactory relationship with sexual partner

•past history of traumatic sexual encounters such as sexual abuse, rape or incest

•having been raised in an atmosphere of strict sexual taboos

Environmental factors may interfere with sexual functioning. There may be no safe, private place in which the patient can exercise sexual activity or he may be too fatigued from other activities to participate sexually. The difficulties in striving for "safe sex" and the psychological effects and stresses that may result from homosexuality may also interfere with sexual function.

Symptoms

In order to be diagnosed with male orgasmic disorder, the following symptoms must be present according to the DSM-IV-TR :

•Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity that the clinician judges to be adequate. The affected man's age is considered, as well.

•As with all of the sexual dysfunctions, the manual states that the dysfunction must cause the affected man "distress or interpersonal difficulty." According to the DSM-IV-TR, the orgasmic dysfunction cannot be better accounted for by another disorder (except another sexual disorder), and cannot be due exclusively to the direct effects of substance abuse, a medication, or a general medical condition. This entry, however, discusses the full scope of male orgasmic difficulties, and so discusses general medical conditions and medications as well as psychological factors.

In addition to specific symptoms involving sexual function (inability or delay in reaching orgasm after sufficient stimulation), most patients complain of anxiety, guilt, shame and frustration, and many develop bodily complaints on a psychological basis. Although sexual dysfunction usually occurs during sexual activity with a partner, the clinician should inquire about sexual function during masturbation. If problems occur during masturbation, the problem probably has nothing to do with the sexual partner.

The physician should differentiate male orgasmic disorder from other sexual disorders such as retarded or delayed ejaculation and retrograde ejaculation. In both of these conditions, orgasm occurs but is delayed or, in the case of retrograde ejaculation, occurs in a retrograde direction (into the bladder).

Demographics

Male orgasmic disorder is found in all races and ethnic groups. In the case of the lifelong type of the disorder, manifestations will occur around the age of puberty. In certain genetic hypogonadism disorders, such as Klinefelter's syndrome, certain bodily signs and symptoms may alert the physician. Similarly, in associated thyroid, testicular and pituitary abnormalities, there may be other manifestations of the underlying disorder. In the acquired type of male orgasmic disorder, the patient will have had the previous experience of normal sexual function. In these cases, it is usually a situational factor that precipitates the disorder.

Diagnosis

The diagnosis is usually readily made on the basis of the patient's history and the presence of the DSM-IVTR diagnostic criteria. Male orgasmic disorder may be part of a complex of sexual malfunctioning that may include erectile dysfunction , abnormalities in ejaculation (such as premature ejaculation or retrograde ejaculation), and hypoactive sexual desire disorder .

In order to differentiate between the various potential disorders, the physician may request laboratory tests and/or may perform further diagnostic evaluations. Blood plasma levels of testosterone are of help in diagnosing hypogonadism. A number of tests of thyroid, pituitary and adrenal function are available to diagnose hormonal abnormalities of those glands. A test for nocturnal penile erections may be performed to diagnose erectile dysfunction.

Treatments

If an extrinsic mechanism is discovered as the cause of the orgasmic disorder, steps should be taken to eliminate or ameliorate the problem. An example would be substance or alcohol abuse or the use of certain provocative medications. In the case of antihypertensives, for example, a number of equally effective agents are available if the one in current use is suspect. Therapy should be directed toward improvement of concurrent conditions such as diabetes that may be having an adverse effect on sexual function. Environmental factors that interfere with sexual activity should be corrected.

In the majority of cases, psychotherapy will be suggested even in those cases where psychological factors are secondary rather than the primary mechanism for the disorder. Such treatment should be rendered by therapists with special training in the disorders of sexual function and who can tactfully evaluate the sexual compatibility of the patient and his partner. Treatment usually requires the support of the sexual partner in improving both the psychological as well as the physical aspects of the problem. A step-wise program of partner stimulation of the patient to initially ejaculate outside the vagina, then at the vaginal labia, and finally inside the vagina may be helpful.

Prognosis

The prognosis of the patient with male orgasmic syndrome is dependent on whether the condition is lifelong or acquired and the condition's causes. Prognosis is best when it can be demonstrated that the condition is related to some extrinsic or environmental factor that can be corrected or ameliorated. The prognosis is also favorable in those cases that are due to a remedial organic condition such as a thyroid disorder or hypogonadism. The prognosis is guarded when the disorder is found to be secondary to a deep-seated and chronic psychological or actual psychiatric problem that, in itself, carries an unfavorable prognosis.

Prevention

There are no definitive steps that can be taken to prevent the onset of the male orgasmic disorder. Prompt recognition of the syndrome is important so that appropriate therapy can be attempted as early as possible. As with many chronic conditions, the longer the condition exists, the more difficult therapy becomes.

10 Sexual Problems Every Indian Couple Goes Through

2012-06-29T12:39:00.000+05:30

As a Psychiatrist and Relationship Counselor I get the opportunity to meet a lot of people who are gracious enough to share with me, their deepest secrets.

SEX is one issue where both men and women are always hesitant to talk about.

Most of them, want to talk about it, but take sometime to be comfortable and open up their inner mind.

Restless thoughts regarding sex are like a monster that keeps eating the peace of mind, and that's why I encourage talking about your inner sexual feelings

The following statistics are a proof of how much Emotional Pain we could save the society from if we just spoke about SEX in a progressive way.

1. 54% men and 25% women think about sex on a daily basis. - Unable to express these thoughts leads to restlessness, anger and decreased concentration.

2. Average Married Indian couple has sex about 70-90 times a year.

At 1/3 of these encounters are a complete disaster with either one or both partners not being satisfied.

3. More than 80% women think of sexual activity as activity to prove they are loved.

4. More than 50% of women have fake an orgasm, just to keep their husband happy.

Many of these live under the "delusion" that they are able to satisfy not only their wife, but also go ahead and give wrong advice to other man

5. Lack of sexual satisfaction makes a woman feel unwanted, hopeless, restless and depressed.
Its one of the most common reasons for Clinically high levels of depression among married woman.

This is also one of the prime reasons for woman looking to have extra-marital relationships.

6. 80% of Men doubt their sexual capacity at least once in life. Most of them are not happy with their sexual performance, but scared to talk about the same to a professional.
Majority of the advice they get from friends, family or wife increases their restlessness.

7. 2/3 people feel they don't have enough satisfying sex. But lack of proper emotional communication leads to the same.

8. A great majority of men use sex as a way to show their "macho" or "male" supremacy over their female partner.
Henceforth sexual activity becomes a ego tussle.

9. Mutual respect plays a vital role in a satisfying sex life.
82% of sexually satisfied say they feel respected and loved by their partner during sex.

59% are looking for more love and romance in the act.

10. A great majority Indian males and females only focus on the sexual intercourse phase of sex.
Build-up, Fore-play, after-play, experimentation phases are never talked about.

Sex is a beautiful and divine activity. It's a gift of god to increase happiness, increase body immunity, decrease body pains provided it has the right mixture of LOVE to it..

If an individual is not Lovingly Sexually satisfied he/she will fall prey to psychological problems like restlessness, depression, sleep disturbance, body pains, masturbation addiction, pornography (both visual and reading) addiction, increased need to seek satisfaction outside relationship.

Dont just have sex... HAVE LOVING SEX..

for any further query feel free to email me-

Dr.Hemant Mittal
email - eksoch@gmail.com
www.mindmantra.in

Male Sexual Health - Does being Over-Weight Affect Your Sex Life?

2012-04-26T12:32:00.003+05:30

India is slowly seeing an alarming rise in obesity specifically within the youth and middle-age group.

While obesity can be linked to many metabolic disorders, one of the main physical disabilities it causes is sexual dysfunctions.

How does obesity affect your sexual desires:

1. Body Image - if looking into the mirror makes you feel less desirable, imagine how your mind reacts when your making love.

A unfavorable body image, creates a subconscious complex, which leads to decreased sex drive and poor sexual performance.

2. Diabetes - The biggest demon of modern life-style is diabetes. It's not only the sugar levels that increase in your blood that matter.. The blood vessels all over the body including the ones in your penis are affected. This eventually decreases blood supply to the penis, leading to decreased sexual performance.

3. Hormonal changes - Changes in weight can also mean changes in hormone levels, which can affect sex drive. All men convert testosterone (male sexual hormone) to another sex hormone called estradiol in our fat. And men who are overweight can get increased conversion. A decreased testosterone level further decreases sexual desires.

4. Stamina - Over-weight people have less stamina. As the blood requires more time to travel through the layers of fat, the sexual stamina decreases.

5. Sexual Stress - Even one episode of poor sexual performance can increase the stress in your mind by 200 times. A constant failure due to over-weight can create non-stopping restlessness and trigger a stress-cycle that further decreases sexual drive.

Even a little bit of weight loss may give your love life a boost. Losing as little as 3-5kgs through diet and exercise could help your sexual life by many fold.

For any further information, contact me at-

Dr.Hemant Mittal

email - eksoch@gmail.com

www.mindmantra.in

clinic address - mind mantra clinic, shreeji plaza, opposite seawoods station (east), nerul.

Masturbation Addiction

2012-02-15T19:01:00.001+05:30

Statistics say 95% men and 87% women indulge in this activity at least once in their life...between age of 15-28yrs upto 30% get addicted to it... ironically an activity that gives instant pleasure is also one thats vastly misunderstood... Masturbation Addiction

1. What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of genitalia or sexual organs to achieve the height of sexual pleasure or orgasm.

2. Is it holy or unholy?

All religions call this an "unholy" behavior patter. Irrespective of it, everyone rich or poor, educated or uneducated, men or women, religious or atheist will try it more than once in their life.
Religions unfortunately end up creating irrational and stupid myths, fear and negative emotions related to it, which confuse an individual... It creates an undue fear that pushes one towards the addiction.
Religions should use scientific knowledge to bring control onto addictions.

Myths like masturbation leads to weakness, decrease in bone density or can cause impotence are completely baseless and proven wrong by hundreds of professional medical studies.

Medically, when performed in a controlled and periodic way, its a very healthy process. It helps to release psychologically stored sexual feelings that are very intrusive and havoc causing inside an individuals mind. This even prevents thoughts of rape or sexual assault and cheating on their spouses from developing.

Like stagnant water, which when kept for many days becomes stale and putrid. Sperms stored inside the testis for long term decrease the fertile nature of the sexual organs. Hence masturbation provides a great mean to release the old and help in development of new.

3. What is Masturbation Addiction?

There is no standard definition for over-masturbation or excessive masturbation. Every individual is endowed with a specific reproductive power.

Masturbation is considered healthy of releasing sexual feelings until it starts hampering your daily life.

When masturbation becomes a habit, it’s performed once every few days. This is a healthy process. But when the thoughts, images and need of masturbation starts to haunt an individual emotionally and psychologically it starts to become an addiction.

Like any other addiction, masturbation addiction once it sets in, leads to lot of physical and emotional complaints.

4. What are the symptoms?

You are most likely to be suffering from a Masturbation Addiction problem if you have 7 or more of the next 10 symptoms.

1. Performed on daily or for most of the days of a week
2. Masturbation is immediately or next day followed by excessive guilt and sadness.
3. Constant unsuccessful attempts to stop the habit.
4. Even minor Sexual stimulation compels you to indulge in the act. If not done, extreme restlessness, anger or irritation is experience.
5. Productive or working hours of the day are spent thinking about it..
6. Decrease in concentration levels as mind is occupied with stress related to the same.
7. Once the urge to perform is triggered, one doesnt think about the time, place or person he/she is with. He/she just looks for means to perform the act.

8. New and More explicit sexually material is searched and needed for arousal. As older or softer sexual material doesn't give the same sexually arousing effect.
9. Decreased social interaction specially with opposite gender members, because of the fear of sexually arousing negative thoughts or decreased sexual-confidence.
10. Sleep and appetite disturbance are seen due to the stress levels.

5. What are the harmful effects?
It can lead to behavioral, psychological and sexual effects as:
a. Masturbation in public places
b. Reliance on masturbation as the only way of sexual gratification.
c. Harm or injuries to the genitals.
e. Decreased sexual performance with partner. As masturbation is sought to be only way of satisfaction.
f. Inability to perform action or guilt of performing the same leads to continuous irritability and anger due to the high stress and anxiety levels.
g. Decreased concentration in daily activity as mind is preoccupied with thoughts of the same

6. How to treat it?a. You cannot treat it on your own. You can only identify that you have the problem.
Most people lack the will power to exert self control, this further decreases their self image. its advised that professional help of a counselor, sexologist or psychiatrist is taken to help you battle this problem.

b. First step is the Identification of current stress levels an individual is facing with.
c. It has to be started with Counseling for stress levels. Specialized techniques are used to target the stress levels.
d. if a severe obsessive component is observed, it indicates hyperactivity in the sexual thoughts producing areas of the brain. Counseling, exercises and treatment for the same is available.

For any further Information or query feel free to consult me:
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Sex counselor - NeuroPsychiatrist
email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - www.mindmantra.in

Women – 20 Medical and Psychiatric facts about Sex.

2012-01-24T12:41:00.000+05:30

“A powerful individual is one who is comfortable with his body”

Sex is probably the most tabooed subject in our society. 90% of men and women are extremely shy to talk about it. As a sexual health counsellor at Mind Mantra Wellness Clinic, I have met thousands individuals (both men and women) who are going through extreme unhappiness because they haven’t been able to accept, express and enjoy their sexual desires.

The following are essential medical facts that every man and woman in search of productive and stimulating sexual life, should be aware regarding the female sexual health:

1. Women are more open to discuss about sex with their friends, than men. – Unfortunately as most of their friends also harbour half knowledge about it, this tends to propagate myths.

2. A Higher number of women believe that sex is unholy. – If it was unholy, why would god let your body produce sex hormones which trigger desire and want.

3. A woman takes between 10-12min to reach an orgasm – While a man take 3-5min. (what they show in porn movies is staged!!!)

4. 40% women accept to have or regularly masturbate. – The rest 60% suppress their desires. – It’s important to note that Continuous suppression of sexual desires, re-programs the body to think that sexual hormones are not required, henceforth decreasing the thoughts and want for sex in life.

5. When women have an orgasm, their body secrete enormous amounts of oxytocin, also called “the bonding hormone”. This hormone is responsible for causing their brain to feel extremely attached to their partner. Hence sex carries an emotional significance to it. Men don’t have the same, so sex is more of an exercise for them.

6. 84% women report to have sex simple to “keep the peace” or “Keep the husband happy” at home.

7. More than 60% Indian woman have never experienced a complete pleasurable orgasm in their life.- Either they have never been thought the right way of having sex or their husbands are just focused onto intercourse. Remember sex is an exercise that’s much more than simple intercourse.

8. Only 30% women reach orgasm during intercourse, compared to 75% men.

9. 60% women have faked an orgasm at some point of time in their lives.

10. 9 out of 10 sexually active women use a contraceptive method without consulting a professional. They mostly rely on friends and some elder family member to give them the information. – such information is 80% right, 20% wrong.

11. For a woman to have an orgasm during sex, her amygdala of center for excessive thought generation must be turned off. Hence a woman who is extremely anxious, fearful, or spends too much time thinking might never reach an orgasm. – This is the major reason why most woman never achieve an orgasm and long for productive, fruitful and efficient sexual life.

12. Upto 10% women have the need to of same-sex or “homosexual” attraction. This is much lower compared to upto 15-20% of males who feel the need for same.

13. Upto 19% of women think about sex on a daily basis. – this category is dominated by either women with depression due to lack of complete sexual satisfaction by husband, woman with extremely high sexual desires due to medical problems like hypomania, erotomania or nymphomania and woman with extremely high need to be centre of attraction.

14. 70% women would rather eat chocolate than have sex. – This reflects the poor quality of sexual life they are subjected to.

15. In India Among contraceptives – The Pill is the most popular, followed by male condom, female condom and tubal sterilization.

16. After 2^nd year of marriage, most women report to have sex only a handful number of times. – Among married woman, upto 10% have never had sex in the past year. About 30% have had it less than 15 times in the year.

17. Most women agree that their most satisfying sexual experiences happen when they feel connected to someone, rather than solely based on physical satisfaction.

18. Working women within the higher income bracket are more prone to seek and be involved with multiple sexual partners – as their brain utilises sex as stress reliever for them.

19. Women with high “inferiority complex” and extremely high dependency needs are most liable to be subjected to perversions. Most common perversions include forced sexual encounters with family members and being accomplice of their husbands unnatural sexual practices.

20. The break of trust by a boyfriend or husband can trigger a woman to utilize sex as an instrument for personal, physical and professional self-satisfaction.

If you have any sexual health related problem, don't hesitate, contact me immediately... ALL COMMUNICATIONS ARE KEPT SECRET.

Dr.hemant Mittal
Neuro-Behavioural Consultant, Sexual Health and Wellness Expert
(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))

Website - www.mindmantra.in
Email - eksoch@gmail.com
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Learn how to control Men.

2011-11-26T12:59:00.000+05:30

1.) Just say hi.
An international survey showed that men love it when a woman takes control and makes the first move.
"Just go over and say hi,"
You can go wrong with this tactic.

2.) Don't show-off your knowledge, create a challenge instead.
Ego kills the charm.
The more knowledge or discussions you get into, the less affection you develop.
Real Men love a challenge. So learn the art of gently poking fun and laughing... Teasing is a great challenge which makes men run after a girl.

3.) Learn to Listen.
The most important step after you have crossed the initial "hello" stage is to create a space in the guys heart. This can only be done if you listen to him.
I know you are eager to talk and share so many things with him, but before you reach that stage, make sure the guy is under your spell.
"you give something to get back a lot"
learn to listen.

4.) Ask guys questions
Real Men are Raw... While a new age breed spends hours in front of the mirror, those who are determined to achieve success in life, are out there doing something.
Ask a guy about his workout, his friends, his cars, his bikes and his likes and dislikes.
Don't jump to give an opinion about everything...
I once counseled a very successful Senior Manager in a Fortune 500 company, he was a great success in his profession but a bigger failure in relationships... He used to say "I know I'm not the best-looking guy, But the only thing that look for in a girl is to understand that all this money, cars, gadgets are my way of expressing love for her."

5.) Touch therapy.
Some men are desperately physical.. They just want to be touched and hugged all the time...
The greater lot is not. They like to keep it light and specific in public.
Learn his "comfort points".. were a light touch will send signals all over his body.
Learn the importance of "pressure" in a hug.
become his touch therapist.

FEEL FREE to contact me on the above or any other mood swings, sleep, memory, thoughts, stress or sexual health related issues. -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))
Website - www.mindmantra.in
Email - eksoch@gmail.com

WELLNESS CLINIC - Next to Seawood Station (east), Navi Mumbai, Mumbai (India)
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Sexual changes in both Men and Women due to Diabetes

2011-11-16T21:52:00.001+05:30

Age and sex are two friends who constantly need to work upon their relationship. It's been proven that if taken in the positive way, sex can actually become a very relaxing and liberating experience with age.

One of the major reasons for Sexual Problems as one ages is the development of Diabetes. A devastating disorder. One of its more debilitating effects is the severe damage it causes upon urological and sexual blood and nerves.
While the sexual dysfunctions are common in both men and women.

Common sexual changes experienced by Men with diabetes
a. ED or Erectile Dysfunction - the inability to have a firm and satisfying erection. Estimated to be present in 55-75% patients, its known as the biggest havoc of happiness, manhood and successful relationships in middle aged men.

b. Retrograde Ejaculation- Retrograde ejaculation is a condition in which part or all of a man’s semen goes into the urinary bladder instead of coming out through the tip of the penis during ejaculation. It occurs due to weakening of the sexual muscles.
It's easily identifiable when the patient notices a decreased quantity of semen being discharged during ejaculation or presence of semen in the urine.

c. Premature Ejaculation - It's the inability to sustain any form of erection (firm or flaccid) for a long time. The partner normally complains or a man can feel how his ejaculation time has decreased. Creating dissatisfaction among the sexual relationship.

Common Sexual changes experience by women with diabetes
Many women never come out in the open to discuss their sexual problems. Also many tend to keep following their partners wish. This doesn't discount the wide presence of sexual changes experienced in women suffering from diabetes. These include:

a. Dyspareunia or Painful Sexual intercourse - Increased blood sugar is known to decrease uro-genital functioning. A lack of vaginal lubrication, vaginal dryness, vaginal infections (fungal, UTI, bacterial) are some of the commonest signs that lead to a painful sexual intercourse.

b. Decreased or no desire for sexual activity - Diabetes can induce both a psychological and physical depression, whereby the lady has a decreased desire for sexual activity. As this increases, it creates a negative image in her mind, whereby sexual activity is not even thought about.

c. Decreased or absence of sexual arousal- Physical damage by Diabetes to genital nerves and blood supply chain can cause lack of pleasure sensations in the genital area. This increases or in many cases completely stops the sexual arousal mechanism of the mind.
"Turning on the heat" becomes extremely difficult in between the sheets.

d. Decreased or absence of Orgasm - The prime aim of any sexual activity is to attain orgasm. If the aim is not fulfilled the activity becomes worthless.
As already discussed Diabetes, increases the blood sugar levels, which eventually destroy the genital nervous system, leading to complete absence or extremely faint feeling of orgasm.

TREATMENT
1. Control of Blood Sugar Levels.
2. Sexual Consultancy that has to focus upon the following:
a. Understanding the love - a communication bridge has to be opened and developed between the partners. Whereby they are able to express their physical needs.
Even though a temporary inability to satisfy the need, alternate methods have to be openly discussed for both partners sexual satisfaction.

b. Careful Pharmacy - one of the easiest routes taken by majority of people is ask the nearest chemist what medications to take. The Chemist uses his general knowledge to prescribe something. The instant pleasure can lead to excessive future damage.
Consult a professional sexologist, endocrinologist or urologist to get a complete checkup of your problem.
Poping medications is not the solution to everything.

c. Exercises and diet - a specific aphrodisiac diet and similar exercises can be given to the couple. To increase the love and bonding, some exercises include stimulation by partner, which helps to increase intimacy and love.

d. Medical treatment- any infection has to be treated to prevent unwanted pain during the sexual process

FEEL FREE to contact me at my Wellness Clinic or Online
For complete consultation on the above or any other emotional, sleep, memory or sexual health related issues. -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))
Website - www.mindmantra.in
Email - eksoch@gmail.com

Durex Sex Survey - Interesting insight into the world of Sex

2011-10-27T18:46:00.000+05:30

Durex the international brand in sexual health products conducted a worldwide survey. And here are the results.

1. What’s your number?
According to a Durex survey, men across the globe have had an average of 13 sexual partners throughout their lifetime, while women have had seven.

Guys and girls often shy away from honesty when it comes to discussing their number; too low and they fear embarrassment, too high and they face being judged.
According to the survey just 66 per cent of people are content with their ‘number’, while 22 per cent wish they’d slept with less people and 12 per cent would have liked to have slept with more.

2. Pop your cherry
The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9, while apparently females hold off, on average, until the ripe age of 17.4.

Popping your cherry, deflowering, or whatever you want to call it, having sex for the first time is a significant part of anyone’s life and isn’t something that shouldn't be rushed into without proper knowledge.

3. Happy ending

Expectations of sex are often unrealistic due to farfetched portrayals of the act on the big screen, adult movies and TV. The truth is through research suggests that only 29 per cent of women reach ‘the big O’ or get an orgasm every time they have sex. This is far different when compared to a 75 per cent of men.
Why is it so?
This may be because, according to Durex, due to the couples lack of knowledge about sex, 75 per cent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone, and 10 to 15 per cent have untreated psychological problems due to which they never climax under any circumstances.

4. In the mood for love
The study showed that for 56 per cent of women, men’s facial hair is a strong trigger for sexual arousal. Apparently, a man with three days’ worth of stubble is more sexually attractive than a clean shaven man.

In case of men its a long, steamy kiss that gets 35.4 per cent of men aroused and in the mood for love.

5. Weekly quota
Busy lifestyles, manic workload, hectic social life; who has time for sex every day? On a more realistic note, Durex survey showed that 67 per cent of adults have sex once a week and only eight per cent have it once a day or more.

The key is whatever works best for you –being honest with your lover will keep you both in check of each other’s sex schedules.

6.Fake it to make it
It’s not uncommon for guys or gals to fake an orgasm, either to prevent themselves or their partner from embarrassment or a feeling of inadequacy under the sheets.
Upto 30 per cent of women would fake it so as not to upset their partner. While 26 per cent said they would be frank if they couldn’t climax. Eight per cent of women even admitted to making it a regular habit!
Fakers are at higher risk of getting into depression, looking for extra-marital affairs or having a feeling of incompleteness.

7. Sex secrets
Being honest and open about your sexual needs and desires will help improve your overall sexual satisfaction by teaching your partner how to press all the right buttons and keep you blissful in the bedroom. However, only 58 per cent of people are comfortable with telling their lover exactly what they want in bed, which is probably why only 38 per cent are fully satisfied with their sex lives.
This is one of the main reasons for both men and women looking for sexual satisfaction outside their relationship. It cannot be denied that a health sexual life is equally important as a healthy emotional life.

8. Masturbation or Do it Yourself
According to the Durex survey, self-pleasure is widely practiced, with 83 per cent of people across the globe stating they have self-pleasured at some point in their lives.
43 per cent of men and 22 per cent of women repeat the act more than once a week, making it a really common sexual activity.

9. How long and how often?
On average, sex sessions last between three and 13 minutes. 50.4 per cent of men would want it to last for 30 minutes while 25.5 per cent would want sex for 15 minutes.
Incorporating sex into your life does have its benefits, including stress relief and increased energy, but there is no right or wrong quota you need to hit – we’re not all bunny rabbits!

10. Better with age
65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active, with 46 per cent claiming to have sex once a week. 85 per cent feel that sex at a more mature age is less pressurised than when they were teens or young adults, suggesting that sex can get better with age (like many things in life).

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Sex and Sun Signs - a Micro-guide on how to satisfy your partner based on Sun Signs

2011-08-24T11:45:00.000+05:30

Sex and Sun Signs
Sex is really important to keep your relationship sailing smooth forever. It is not just about physical pleasure but by giving in, you are expressing 'trust' that you have in your mate. It reflects affection, care, love and a feeling that you are wanted. If your sex life has gone for a toss, you have to work on it before your relationship is hit hard. In fact, sex has the power to put an end to conflicts in your relationship. So, discover your partners' passion points through their sun sign and keep the magic in your relationship alive.

Aries:
When your lover is Aries, sex is best if it's spontaneous and unrestricted. Their heads are erogenous zones-they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They are especially aroused by their partner's sexual organs.

Taurus:
When your lover is Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless.

Gemini:
When your lover is Gemini, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied.

Cancer:
When your lover is Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them.

Leo:
When your lover is Leo, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough.

Virgo:
When your lover is Virgo, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on.

Libra:
When your lover is Libra, extra care is taken to please the partner. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return.

Scorpio:
When your lover is Scorpio, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. The most passionate of all signs, Scorpios are known to have sex always on their mind.

Sagittarius:
When your lover is Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. Laughing and rough-housing are huge turn-ons. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it.

Capricorn:
When your lover is Capricorn, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. Do not expect any creative or zany positions, but expect it to be good.

Aquarius:
When your lover is Aquarius, there is a 'take it or leave it' style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. Sex from a distance, like cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don't break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks.

Pisces:
When your lover is Pisces, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression.

(original article from the yahoo india website)

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Female - Inability to achieve Satisfaction?

2011-07-15T12:57:00.000+05:30

In India Sexual problems in Women largely go unnoticed as they are either shared with friends or gynecologists. In both cases just a "pep talk" is offered in name of counseling or treatment. It's a reality that upto 20% of divorces are due to curable sexual problems in one of the partners. One of the commonest problems is in achieving an Orgasm or attaining a climax during sexual intercourse.

Why is an Orgasm or climax needed?
The initiation of a sexual act drives the body of both males and females to release a lot of hormones. An orgasm is the complete utilization of these hormones to positively stimulate the entire brain-body mechanisms. Inability to achieve an orgasm or climax leads to a lot of free floating hormones that lead to negative stimulation of the brain-body, leading to excessive irritation, anxiety, anger, stomach troubles, increased heart beat, lack of happiness and clinical depression.

How does inability to achieve orgasm affect a relationship?
Every human being looks for sexual satisfaction. Inability to attain so, many women might withdraw from having physical intimacy with there husbands and achieve the same through external help like masturbation.
Lack of satisfactory physical relationship puts a major strain over the relationship as both the partners drift away from each other causing minor issues to become major fights between them. In many cases the fights increase to such an extent that it leads to divorce.

The most common reason for this is:
While men get pleasure from stimulation of Penis, women get the same from stimulation of clitoris. Most women who complain of incomplete sexual intercourse, happen to receive a lesser than normal stimulation of the clitoris.
Unfortunately due to popular belief and lack of information, many woman (from housewives, to lawyers to bankers) tend to blame their male partners for sexual incompetence.
Men who are refereed to as "superman in bed" are natural subconscious practitioners of complete clitoris stimulation.

Solution?
1. Sex Positions- One of the most common reasons is sex-positions. Most people never experiment with their sex positions. A couple should find a sex position that's adequate to make sexual intercourse physically enjoyable and psychologically fulfilling for both partners.

So here are some sex positions that might help-

1. A face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.
What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

2. Woman on top position - The man lies down on his back. The sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself onto it. Giving her the freedom to adjust according to full clitorial stimulation.

3. Double Stimulation - It requires prior agreement by both partners. A manual clitorial stimulation by the male or female is done along with penial penetration of the vagina.
The male partner is normally standing while woman is lying down to perform this in unison.

4. The spoons position
A woman sidewise while the man makes a vagina entry from the rear side. Like a spoon next to a spoon.

There's no right or wrong way to have sex with a partner but it should be an exercise that helps in complete physical, emotional and psychological sexual satisfaction of both partners.

2. Relaxed Mind

Many times a woman's mind is occupied with excessive thoughts at the time of initiating sexual act. This confuses the subconscious mind and it leads to complete closure and withdrawal from the sexual act.

Sexual satisfaction is a birth right of every individual. Happiness can never be achieved without the same. It's better to consult a good professional and get the right information than leading a life of sadness and despair.

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6 foods that help you boost your sex life

2011-07-15T00:11:00.000+05:30

They say sex is a great stressbuster. They are right because love-making has been found to relive the pressure of the burdens of life, ease stress, soothe chronic aches and pains, spur creativity and rev up the energy levels.
Experts say that anything that makes you feel good, alive and physically excited will make you feel as if you've shed years. And all these things are associated with sex.
You are probably aware of the basics of terrific sex, but let us suggest you a few aphrodisiacs which can add zing to your sex life.
1. Figs have been found to be brimming with minerals like magnesium, manganese and zinc and also Vitamin E. All of them can do wonders to spice up your sex life.

2. The flashy-red watermelons contain a substance called citrulline, which sends the body the signals to release arginine, which relaxes blood vessels. This produces an effect similar to Viagra. And need we give you details about what Viagra does?

3. You've tried whiskly, you've tried wine but didn't feel the buzz. Pick a bottle of champagne and feel the difference. It enters the bloodstream faster than the wine does, so make sure you don't drink too much of it. Many champagnes have been found to have the same amount of antioxidants as red wine.

4. The Red Hot Chilli Peppers can bring out the hotness in you. They help recreate the symptoms of arousal: flushed cheeks, a quiver on your tongue, and more kissable lips. They also up the heat in the body.

5. Cheese releases 10 times more endorphins than the great ol' aphrodisiac - Chocolate. It will help you set the right mood.
6. Chocolate has been your trusted friend when it comes to having a great sex. You just need to maintain the bond. Its aphrodisiac property has been ascribed to two chemicals. One, tryptophan, which is the building block of serotonin, a brain chemical involved in sexual arousal. And two, phenyethylamine, a stimulant.
So the kind of food we gorge upon can do wonders with our sex life. Right food can make you positively sexual

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Homosexuality - the dark battle for an identity and approval !!!

2011-07-07T14:37:00.000+05:30

HOMOSEXUALITY - A social reality.
“ My parents want to get me married to a girl of their choice. The problem is that I have homosexual preferences. What should I do?” – 25yr, Businessman.

“I am ashamed doctor. My son has disgraced my family. 5 months ago we got him married. For so long he never touched his wife. Yesterday we found out he is gay!!! My son’s gay!!!! I am shattered!!! My name in the society is all gone now!!!” – 58yrs govt. Employee

“I got married 3yrs ago, but have never been happy with my husband. I am into a relationship with a building friend of mine. She and me are like soul-mates, now my husband wants to move away, I am so fearful of losing her” – 25yrs, Housewife

“Hello doctor, I have a dark secret which I haven’t shared with anyone. I am gay. I don’t know how I got this disease. Please help me” – 24yrs, Executive in MNC.

These are real life examples of individuals I have met in my clinic over the last few years.. Few out of the hundreds people who have consulted me secretly because they emotionally fail to battle the social stigma attached with their sexual orientation.

The Indian society is one that is evolving.
Thou over the years we have managed to battle many of our “illogical” orthodox belief systems, same-sex relationships are probably the biggest barrier that “neo” thinkers and social reformist face.

Science has already proved homosexuality to be a personal choice that doesn’t account for any mental illness.
BUT IS THIS ENTIRELY TRUE????
ARE WE READY TO ACCEPT SCIENCE... or ARE IS THE AGE OLD MYTH A REALITY??

What is homosexuality?Medically - Homosexuality is a emotional and behavioural pattern defined by sexual, romantic or affectional attraction between members of the same sex/gender.

Popular view - Its one of the greatest sins one can create.

Is homosexuality more common in men?Medically - Homosexuality is equally present in men and women.

Popular view - people only concentrate on male homosexuality, forgetting about female behavior.

Is it a disease or mental disorder?Medically - No It’s nor a disease nor a disorder in case of pure homosexuals.
But in many it can be a psychological adaptation due to the environment.
Thousands of psychological studies, CT-scan, MRI-scans have proven that homosexuality is not a disease or disorder.

Popular view- Yes

How does one become homosexual?Homosexuality is a personal choice, but how has the choice come into effect makes difference in entire profile of an individual.

1. Genetics – A pure homosexual individual, is one who is born with genetic code which directs the brain to follow homosexual relationships.

2. Childhood experience – sexual abuse or multiple episodes of same sex sexual interactions in childhood can condition the mind to favour same sex relationships.

3. Adolescence Curiosity – curiosity might lead an individual to read or watch materials related to homosexuality. This might leave an impact on the mind, creating a source of never ending thoughts related to the same. Constantly thinking about the same might ignite desire to experiment.

4.Living or Working Environment – an environment which is devoid of contact with the opposite sex makes expression of normal sexual desires difficult.
Single sex dominated environments like boys/girls Hostels, closed enclosures, working places (ships, oil rigs, military, construction), etc.

Even Peer group pressure for same sex relationship is observed.

5.Failed relationships – A major failed relationship might imprint hatred against the opposite sex. Same sex relationships are seen as more comforting and understanding.

6. Poor Heterosexual sexual experience – Sexual intercourse is closely linked to the ego of an individual. Fear to perform, a poor or painful sexual intercourse with the opposite sex, might create extreme fear within an individual. This fear might promote an individual to go for same sex relationships.

We need the society to understand that Homosexuality is a sexual preference.
That doesn’t make a person different from any other individual. He/She has the same emotions and physical desires as any other person.

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5 ways to boost your Sex Life after pregnancy!

2011-06-10T14:03:00.001+05:30

Pregnancy is one of the most challenging times in the life of any couple. While in many cases it helps to increase the emotional bond in many others it also can create a lot of tension and negativity. Thou there are many causes for pregnancy leading to negativity and tension, one of the major reasons for such is the lack of healthy sex.

It has to be understood that Sex is one of the essential instincts. It’s not just an orgasm providing exercise but in a committed relationship it’s the most powerful physical expression of trust, care and love between the two individuals.

And as the practical phrase says, “actions speak more than words”, unsatisfactory sexual life leads to decreased meaning of words, lack of trust, decreased love and increased negativity between the partners.

Pregnancy is one such time when many partners chose to abstain from regular sexual activity, leading to sexual dissatisfaction and increased stress.

Over the last few years I have seen that modern Indian couples don’t mind having an open discussion on this issue. They recognize how sexual tension is transforming into relationship stress, and they don’t mind consulting professionals to help them out with the same.

I have had hundreds of couples who have consulted me regarding this issue. Hereby I give you 5 techniques that both partners need to en-act to re-ignite the fire and fun in your sexual life after pregnancy-

1. Let cupid strike again.
Commonest Mistake that new Parents make is to focus all their energies into parenthood.

While most excel in learning the nuances of parenthood, many drift apart as soul-mates. Remember that Child is not going anywhere, but the love between you two might.
1^st rule – Since you have been focusing on pregnancy and childbirth it’s time to remind yourself about love on both emotional and physical plane.

a. It’s essential to continuously gift each other with a special thank you note, surprise gift, sms or phone call mentioning how he/she is a great partner, great lover and source of love in your life.

b. Well placed touching, kisses and hugs to physically show what you emotionally mean.

2. If the Flame is ON, don’t think, do it

Second mistake that new parents do is to “voluntarily” keep Sex on the back burner. The moment they start getting comfortable with each other, start getting aroused and feel like getting down to business, the thought of the child strikes and puts a break to all activity.
Imagine If your favourite food was in front of you, and as you approach to eat it, even before you could touch it someone just threw it away. Your subconscious mind would burst into negativity with feelings like anger, sadness, irritation, etc. The same just magnified many thousand times happens when you get aroused for sex and suddenly withdraw.

2^nd rule – If you are aroused, do it.

The demands of the child might not permit you a full hour or hour and half session but that doesn’t stop you from enjoying a quick 5min nooky. Keeping this in mind, time management as in when the baby is taking a nap, early morning before he/she wakes up, or in the during his afternoon nap have to be devised.

3. The bed is no longer “yours”

The great majority of couples are conditioned to have sex on the bed. With the arrival of the baby, the mind quickly adjusts to perceive the bed as a place to rest, sleep or take care of the baby. The image of the bed being “your private place” or “your sanctuary for love” is slowly erased from conscious self.

3^rd rule- Become an explorer. Leave the bed and consider other places for love making. Store room, guest room, sofa, couch, table-top, the possibilities are infinite if you look for them.

4. Get out of your Aunty/Uncle Mode.

It’s a universal truth that “The mind loves what appeals to the eyes”. This truth is relevant from the moment of birth to moment of death.
Many couples think that parenthood is the last step in personal development. They stop caring about their physical self. Using the child as an excuse the explore the earlier forbidden territories of gorging into food and drink, decreased physical activity and decreased personal grooming. Slowly the physical attraction between partners starts drifting away.

4^th rule – Parenthood is not an excuse to become ugly. Take small steps and keep yourself physically fit and groom yourself properly. Don’t use the child as an excuse to stop you from getting new clothes, new hair cut, or remain fashionable.

Keeping your physical appeal helps improve your love and sex life post pregnancy.

5. Talk.
One of the main reasons for lack of sex drive post pregnancy is the lack of communication between partners. While one might be exhausted from taking care of the baby, the other might be exhausted from thinking about the baby’s future. The most soothing balm for this exhaustion is talking.

5^th Rule – Talk. Every day for 30min make sure that you communicate with each other. Don’t fight or have arguments, but communicate. Talk on topics of common interest, talk on each other’s feelings/emotions/fears/apprehensions about the future. Listen to each other. Even if you have hundred of opinions about each thing he/she says, develop habit of listening.

There is nothing more power than effective communication to re-ignite the desire to be in each other’s arms and make love like never before.

“BE HAPPY”

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Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.

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Sexual Health - Commonly Asked Questions (part 1)

2011-06-06T14:24:00.000+05:30

I am a 25yrs old Male. I have noticed white deposit under my penis skin. Is it something to be worried about? Sometimes it causes itching. Please suggest what I should do.

Those white deposits are called smegma. It’s a normal secretion by the body.
It’s important that you clean it daily with soap and water.
If not washed properly it can become a site for growth of bacteria or function.
Itching is a sign of infection at that site.
Consult a dermatologist or sexologist immediately.
The doctor needs to take a look at it, then diagnose and treat the type of infection involved.
I am 22yrs old male. I have noticed that the size of my testicles are smaller when compared to those men in “blue-films” (porn movies). Is there any trouble for my sex life?

Testicle size is determined genetically. The function of the testicles is to produce sperms. And if are producing a normal ejaculate than nothing to be worried about.
I am a 25yr old girl from a very good family. I have kissed my boyfriend a few days back. After that this time I started experienced immense pain during my periods. I fear telling my parents, am I pregnant?
No you are not pregnant. The pain might be due to many reasons, including stress. You can show it to your local gynaecologist.
I am a 24yr old girl. I am in the habit of masturbation. A few days ago I experienced bleeding after masturbation. Does this mean that my hymen is broken? I fear my husband will never accept me as my virginity is now lost. I am very scared to have lost my hymen without doing anything wrong.Please help
When in your heart you know that you haven’t done anything wrong than don’t be afraid.
Rupture of the hymen is not the criteria for virginity. It’s social myth.
Majority of girls in today’s age experience rupture of hymen much before marriage due to over stretching during exercises like aerobics or gym, riding a bicycle, running or dancing.
Any man who is fixated upon such a social myth has the personality of destroying his personal happiness on the influence of anybody.
I was asked to buy condoms during ragging at college. Thou I am a very confident person, I felt a lot of shame and couldn’t do it. Now I want to have sex with my girl friend. She doesn’t want to take OC pills. I still have that fear in my mind, is there any alternative to condoms.
Remove the fear of buying condoms from your mind. Instead of thinking that you are doing something wrong, remember you are doing something right by buying protection. Those who might judge you are wrong as they don’t understand what a practical step you are taking in life.

She is right in avoiding OC pills as long as possible. As they will affect her health.
I am a very young and beautiful woman. I have been married for the past few months. My husband does not initiate sex. Please help me as I feel I am not complete women for him.
It’s very important to assess the reasons for the lack of interest in sex. Many men have a fear of not being able to satisfy their partner and try best to avoid sex. They need both physical and emotional encouragement to overcome that fear.
If problem is beyond your control, you both can consult a psychiatrist or a sexologist.
My penis is bent downwards, is there something to worry. Do I need to get some treatment?
In many cases a slight bent in the penis is present. If you feel that you have beyond normal bent, then show to your local sexologist or surgeon to rule out any development deformity.
I am 26yr old male. Sex is on my mind almost all the time. I watch porn to feel satisfied, but still the thought doesn’t go away. It gets very embarrassing cause I get an erection, when I start to have sexual thoughts of my colleagues, boss or any women who I see for long time. Please help me.
Your mind seems to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. It might be sign of high sexual anxiety or your mind developing a sort of Obsessive compulsive problem. Consult a psychiatrist or sexologist immediately before this destroys your professional, personal and social life.
I am 25yr old female. Have been married since 2yrs. My husband is addicted to porn. I have caught him many times watching the same. His performance in bed is also not satisfactory. I am feeling frustrated. Please help me, I fear I will drift apart from my husband and fall into unholy behaviour.
Porn addiction is a tricky situation. Fantasy world satisfaction can completely overtake real world satisfaction, destroying his sexual life.
IF you are open minded about it, a good technique that you can use, both of you can watch porn together. Start by enjoying masturbation and slowly move towards intercourse. You can spice it up by wearing dresses shown in the adult movies, so that his attraction towards you increases.
I am 32yrs old. I have observed that my penis becomes soft within few seconds of penetration. This has started a few months ago and since them I am fearful of having sex with my wife. I try to avoid it whenever she comes near to me. Please help me.
You need to consult a sexologist or psychiatrist to find out if you are having Erectile dysfunction. It’s a common condition that affects most men especially during periods of high stress.
In those men who are sensitive by nature or those who are extremely concerned about their sexual performance even a single episode of erectile dysfunction can create a negative memory that keeps circulating in their mind. Creating fear and preventing further performance.
I am 24yr old male, I have noticed my right testicles is higher than the left one, is it ok? Normally both testicles don’t lie at the same level. One is higher than the other. In most cases the right one is higher, but in some it’s the left one. There is nothing to worry about that.

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Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
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Video of Women Battling Sex Addiction

2011-05-26T13:36:00.000+05:30

Many people suffer invisibly, they keep and try to control behavior patterns but becomes impossible.
One such problem is sex addiction. A problem which each one who suffers from wants to control, but is helpless.
Sex addiction is not just a problem of men, it also affects women. Here a video of 2 women who are actually battling the issues.

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Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.

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Cure Pre-Mature Ejaculation by Mind Training

2011-05-23T13:37:00.000+05:30

Pre-mature Ejaculation, a problem that affects millions of men.

Here is a video on how men can cure the same by sitting at the comfort of their home.

Cost Effective,Mind training that can make you a Love Guru!!!

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5 behaviors that scare women away - are you indulging in them? (part 1)

2011-05-20T22:13:00.000+05:30

If a general survey was done on how many colleges going or young working non-married males in India are dying to have a girl-friend or girl-friends, I am sure the "Yes" would outnumber the "No" by many fold.

It's an open secret that only 10-15 from a batch of 100 get to have a girl-friend or more than one girl-friend before marriage, while the rest keep fantasizing about the same.

Like body language which sends invisible subconscious clues to others about the mind-set of a person, the latest trend in " young relationships in India" is showing that one of the main reasons for young girls/ladies to terminate a relationship or be scared to get into a relationship are the invisible subconscious "pervert" sexual behaviours that their male counter-parts are involved in.

5 such male sexual behaviours that can scare a woman to get into a relationship or can even make her break an existing relationship are:

1. Pornography

Porn is everywhere. 95% men have been exposed to porn at least once in their life. And a great majority of the same keep watching it regularly.

The female brain perceives pornography as negative. Even if some of them might enjoy it in their own privacy, they develop a negative attitude towards guys/men who indulge in such "pleasure watching".

Women have an uncanny 6th sense to know how to either find the "adult" stuff you have loaded on your laptop, cell phone, ipad, etc. Also many might trap you into supplying them with porn material only to create a negative mental impression about you.

In their minds, Subconsciously such men are immediately labelled as "perverts" and are put into the category of "only interested in physical relationships" men.

A few weeks ago I had a case where a young male had consulted me for being in depression after been rejected by the girl of his dreams. In his need to please her, he had gone to all extremes and even supplied some of her friends with porn material, which the girls just wanted to watch for "fun".

It wasn’t surprising that when he proposed to her, she denied saying "how can I trust a man who keeps porn movies in his laptops and even freely distributes it too girls?"

Tip - if you like porn, be intelligent enough to hide it or just delete it.

2. Inappropriate Touching

Testosterone is the male sexual hormone that not only gives men their sexual drive, but is also responsible for a long list of behavioural patterns. Behaviour patterns in which men unconsciously use their bodies in certain ways that many times becomes offensive for those near them.

One such behaviour pattern is inappropriate touching. This can be divided into two parts:

a. Inappropriate touching her - many girls/ladies hate to when guys hug them tightly, grab them by the waist, put a hand on their shoulder, touch their butt, make "inappropriate" moves to touch their bust like suddenly bumping into them or suddenly breaking a bike so their bust can touch their back, etc.

This effect of this is accentuated multiple times if such an act or a similar act is done in public.

Women feel their privacy is being violated by such acts.

A client of mine was fired from work because of a similar situation. A friendly guy by nature, he had no evil intentions and was always tried to be friendly with everyone. He is excessively expressive through his body movements. Hugging other members of his team to express emotions of care and happiness was a normal pattern. Unfortunately he was booked for sexual harassment by a girl who couldn't understand his personality. He was fired with immediate effect, couldn't find another job because of this black remark on his CV and tried to commit suicide for the same.

Tip - be aware of your body movements.

B. Inappropriate touching yourself - many men especially in India have this habit of touching their private parts more often than necessary. While some have no shame of doing it openly in full public view, others specifically do it whenever a girl/lady looks towards them.

In both ways women perceive it as extremely negative.

Tip - You might have a genital fungal infection, get it checked.

3. Past sexual Experience

( watch out for the next part and concluding part of this article. If you like this article kindly comment so I know my work is being read by people.)

thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
http://www.mindmantra.in/
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Facebook profile link - http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/mindmantra.in
Twitter profile link - http://twitter.com/#!/HemanttMittal

sex frequency - not daily

2011-05-18T19:34:00.000+05:30

According to a recent poll conducted by adult products company Adam and Eve, only three percent of the respondents said they had sex daily.

Nearly 20 percent admitted that they weren't sexually active.

Out of the 1,000 men and women surveyed, 5 percent admitted to never having had sex in their lives while, the majority of respondents (26 percent) said they have sex once or twice a week.

16 percent of the remaining participants said they had sex three to four times a week whereas, 15 percent admitted to having sex once or twice a month, reports the New York Daily News.

7 percent said they had sex every few months.

A mere 1 percent enjoyed sex more than once a day, reveals the poll.

(Source - article on yahoo.co.in)

thanks for reading,
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))

Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
http://www.mindmantra.in/
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Facebook profile link - http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/mindmantra.in
Twitter profile link - http://twitter.com/#!/HemanttMittal

SEXUAL HARRASSMENT- The hidden Truth!!!

2011-05-12T13:59:00.000+05:30

SEXUAL HARRASSMENT- The hidden Truth!!!

“A player of Indian women’s hockey teams complaints of sexual harassment by the coach”

“A woman leaves her job, citing differences with management, when the actual reason was her senior’s constant unwanted touching.”

“An upcoming actress is asked for sexual favors in return of a significant role in the movies”

"A 14yr girl suddenly refused to attend school. Her behavior changed to irritable and violent. On psychiatric evaluation it was found that her class teacher had been kissing and fondling her for past 6months. He constantly threatened to fail her in exams if she spoke about it.”

“A man is pinched on the butt by her female boss, and a few days later asked to attend a party at her house. On the day, at the venue, he finds himself alone with his boss who is dressed in sexually provocative style. During the interaction she repeatedly forces herself onto him, he runs out of the apartment just to find himself fired from job next morning.”

These are common examples of the great social evil called “sexual harassment” that plagues our society. Sexual harassment is probably the most common crime committed thru the entire spectrum of social involvement. Every day thousands of men and women are sexually offended at hospitals, schools, corporate houses, offices, courtrooms, etc.

It also has the distinction to being one of the most neglected and concealed crimes within the society. I recently met with a few clients who had quit their jobs because of this evil. The most devastating part was that senior management who knew of what was going on, offered them “significant compensation” a.k.a “a monetary benefit or good remark on the appreciation card” to keep it secret and in some cases to even keep suffering it.

Family pressure, Management pressure, Social pressure, Religious pressure are some of the reasons that 99% of such crimes are never brought to light. Thou it can happen to both men and women. The society has a myopic view point when a man is involved and a crucifying one, when a woman is involved.

Hereby, let’s look at what the whole spectrum of sexual harassment compromises off.

What is sexual harassment?

Its commonly defined as intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature or the unwelcome or inapproriate promise of rewards in exchange of sexual favours.

The Supreme Court Guidelines on Sexual Harassment, 13 August 1997 has defined sexual harassment as unwelcome sexually determined behavior such as:

a. Physical contact

b. A demand or request for sexual favors

c. Sexually colored remarks

d. Showing pornography

e. Any other unwelcome physical, verbal or non-verbal conduct of a sexual nature

This definition has been further described in detail as following categories of sexual harrasment:

Verbal:

The verbal form of sexual harassment include any one or more of the following incidents:

1. Sexual or gender-based jokes or teasing or comments.

2. Comments about clothing, personal behavior, or a person's body.

3. Requesting for sexual favors.

4. Pressure for dates or meetings outside the professional boundaries.

5. Graphic descriptions of pornography.

6. Obscene phone calls.

7. Spreading rumors about a person's personal or sex life.

8. Turning work discussions to sexual topics (using "puns”).

Non-verbal:

The non-verbal forms of sexual harassment include any one or more of the following incidents:

1. Staring Sizing up a person’s body (looking up and down).

2. Derogatory gestures of a sexual nature.

3. Sexually suggestive looks- Facial expressions of a sexual nature; winking, licking lips.

Physical:

This includes :

1. Unwelcome hugging or kissing.

2. Standing too close to or brushing up against another person, leaning over, invading a person's space without her/his permission.

3. Patting, stroking, grabbing or pinching someone.

4. Blocking someone's path with the purpose of making a sexual advance.

5. Actual or attempted sexual assault or forced fondling.

Visual:

Visually sexual harassment is defined as:

1. Presence of posters, cartoons, drawings, calendars, pinups, pictures, computer programs of a sexual nature.

2. Notes or e-mail containing sexual comments

The criminals?

Sexual harassment is a very dangerous behavioral trait. The perpetuators of such a crime are normally using such behaviors to manifest one or more parts of a defect in their personality. They require immediate neuro-psychiatric help. If not helped and left untreated such menace of the society can go on to commit serious crimes like sexual molestations of minors, sexual perversions (inflicting physical pain to their sexual partners), date-rape, rape, or even murder.

The Victims?

The victims of such a sexual offence suffer with severe emotional and psychological damage. Keeping in mind that social, religious and moral teachings say that Privacy, modesty and sexuality are the most sacred traits in an individual’s personality. When an individual suddenly faces with unwanted intrusion into this personal space, the unconscious mind tries to retaliate. If the intrusion is persistent and the victim helpless to control it, it immediately leads the unconcious to dive into despair, hopelessness and worthlessness. This had devastating consequences on the self-esteem, which are manifested by severe medical problems like clinical depression, addictions, inappropriate sexual behavior and suicides.

How to fight Sexual Harassment?

1. If you know of anyone or any form of sexual harassment happening within your social limits, raise your voice against it.

2. Spread the knowledge about sexual harassment to all your friends and family.

3. Children should be educated to come and share about any awkward behavior by teachers or instructors. Children should be given confidence of parents standing by their side no matter what happens.

4. Children and Adults should be educated on healthy sexual practices, so they never develop such behaviors.

5. If you know anyone who has suffered such an atrocity, stand by that person. Give them support, and help them seek professional help if required so.

An educated society is the first step in fighting the evils of sexual harassments.

Regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)

www.mindmantra.in

Email- eksoch@gmail.com

Why do people abandon their friends when they get a boy-friend/girl-friend?

2011-05-10T21:17:00.000+05:30

One of the most common questions asked to me by a lot of people. It might seem beyond logic, but its very common practice to see many people slowly drift apart from their closest friends as soon as they get into a relationship.

How does this happen?

This happens in stages,

a. the initial stage is euphoria, when the new couple is partying and having a lot of fun with their friends.

b. in stage two, the couple might excuse themselves from group activities to spend time alone.

c. in stage three, one of the partners might start finding faulty behavior patterns in the other group members.

d. in stage four, fights between the couple or between the group members might arise.

e. in stage five, the couple will completely cut itself from the other members of the group, just meeting at sometime for obligation sake.

Why does this happen?

The common psychological reasons for this to happen is:

a. obsessive or possessiveness nature- if one of the partners in the new couple is extremely possessive, he/she might prevent the other from interacting with their friends.

b. jealously - if one of the partners in the new couple is jealous of some other member of the group, he/she might will play mind games to make sure they move out of the group.

c. need for personal time - if a couple doesn't get enough personal time or privacy, they might want to spend quality time with each other instead with the group. This eventually alienates them from the other members of the group.

d. lack of common activity- many times guys love to drink and talk about sports, but girls hate the same... a lack of common ground activities might create a psychological friction in one of the partners to interact with the group.

e. insecurity - a highly insecure partner might develop fear or suspicioness on other members of the group. He/she might feel they want to break the couples unity and would press for complete seclusion.

f. taking friends for granted - sometimes friends take others for granted. They always expect them to be present for them. And don't realise when they are drifting apart.

thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))

http://www.mindmantra.in/

free online counseling - eksoch@gmail.com

Myths about Women Sexual Satisfaction

2011-03-11T13:31:00.000+05:30

Myths about Women Sexual Satisfaction

For millions of years, society has brushed aside the sexual needs of women. Moral, social and religious boundaries have prevented them from openly talking about this topic. It has been labeled as “woman talk”, which most men would not feel the need to even listen or talk about. Research within the field of sexual health has proven that sexual dissatisfaction in women is a major cause of decreased self-image, decreased self-confidence, long lasting sadness and mental restlessness.

Like with all topics related to sex, this one also has a bunch of myths attached to it. The purpose of this article is an attempt to help people fight those myths and find a healthier and satisfied sexual self.

1. Women don't have Sexual Desires

One of the most common mistakes that most men make is that women need to have sex when they want to have sex.

Men are governed by hormone testosterone. Any audio-visual trigger can increase testosterone levels in blood and ignite their sexual needs. At this moment they feel their partner will enjoy sex as much as they would.

Women are different. They aren’t “turned on” all the time. Very common life process like house-hold work, related fatigue, monthly menstrual cycle or daily stress might have them "turned off".

A good lover is he

a. who wants to have sex when his women wants to have sex,

b. can emotionally and physically arouse his women to want to have sex when he wants it

c. knows when to restrain himself from demading sex.

2. The coveted G-spot

The concept of G-spot is most misunderstood and over-rated myth about women sexual health. The G-spot is the highest pleasure center within the female vagina. Unfortunately a great majority of women get such strong orgasms upon stimulation of the G-spot that its either extremely painful, they might urinate or feel extremely uncomfortable.

A man instead of aiming to hit the G-spot, should try and understand his woman’s orgasmic needs. A simple discussion can tell if a G-spot orgasm or a simple orgasm is preferable by the lady.

3. Orgasm – real or fake?

Most men like to pronounce their victory in bed by “watching their partners reach orgasm”.

The reality - many times a woman might just fake the orgasm to please her partner.

Women understand that Sex is an ego-booster for their male partners. And pretend to have an orgasm even when they haven’t reach near the climax.

Certain common conditions, which are normally overlooked by men, and which prevent a woman from reaching an orgasm are performance anxiety, excessive mental restlessness, hormonal changes, menstrual cycles, urinary infections, headaches, high levels of stress or clinical depression.

No matter how good a lover a man might be, if he doesn’t address these, he will never be able to satisfy his woman.

This doesn’t mean you are a bad lover! But means you aren’t a concerned lover.

Remember Don’t go by the facial expressions to proclaim victory in bed. Listen, be a little careful and use positive actions to let her pronounce your victory with whole body, heart and soul.

4. Women like men need an orgasm to feel satisfied.

This might be one of the biggest myths about sexual health.

Porn movies teach men that an orgasm or multiple orgasms are the only way for a woman to be satisfied.

Unfortunately every woman has her own radius of satisfaction. Satisfaction is mostly dependent on “feeling wanted and loved” thru actions. While some love kissing, hugging and caressing, other prefer foreplay, some love oral sex and others just slow penetration.

If you are able to discover the acts of affection that satisfy your women and combine that within your exercise of sexual intercourse, you will have a perfect love making session.

5. Sexual fantasies are not wrong.

Men and women both have secret sexual fantasies that they enjoy within the deepest corners of their mind. They might never discuss about the same with their partners out of “respect” or fear of annoying the partner.

Most of times, men and women discuss these with their counter parts from the same sex. This not only makes up for a great topic of discussion but also helps release the sexual-tension caused by increased sexual desire due to the sexual fantasy.

If you can have so much fun discussing it with your friends, then imagine how much sexual fun you can have by discussing and enacting it with your partner.

Thanks for reading

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))

Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
http://www.mindmantra.in/
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Facebook profile link - http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/mindmantra.in
Twitter profile link - http://twitter.com/#!/HemanttMittal

How to be a Perfect Girl-Friend/Boy-Friend

2011-02-26T13:38:00.000+05:30

How to be a the Perfect Girl-Friend/Boy-Friend

Courtship is the period in any relationship, when two individuals create the base for a secure future. Its also a time, when many commit mistakes of trying to overtly control their partners, leading to unwanted tensions and laying the base for future separations.

Hereby 5 very important tips on how to walk on the road to PERFECT RELATIONSHIP:

1. His/Her friends are your friends:

The first major mistake many individuals make is to try and alienate their partners from their friends.

REMEMBER- friends have been the source of emotional, social and personal balance since his/her youngest age. By being possessive and asking your partner to go against them, you tend to create a "feel bad" sentiment that eventually may come back to hurt your relationship.

Solution - The ground for a progressive relationship is to promote friendship, and intermingle with his/her friends.

2. Don't criticize the game:

Most guys love to watch or play a game of cricket, football, basketball, etc. Watching or Playing the game satisfies their male emotional and psychological self, helps in male friends bonding and helps use in production of male sexual hormone testosterone.

REMEMBER - By constantly criticizing the game, most ladies, push their men to secretly indulge in such pleasures. Hence forth leading the men to start lying or fighting for their space.

Solution- give them time to watch/play the game. If possible be part of the festivities or just indulge in something more constructive during that time.

3. Shopping is sacred:

Like the ladies who cannot understand male psychology behind being so passionate about "the game or the team", the men cannot understand female psychology behind "shopping".

Most guys would enter a shopping mall and complete their entire year's shopping within 25min. On the other side, the ladies could spend ages inside, without even buying a single thing.

REMEMBER- Shopping is like sacred. Its like watching "the game". It stimulates the female emotional, hormonal, psychological and physical self.

Solution - Be patient. Give your partner enough time to shop. If possible be part of it. Try and understand the important of shoes, bags, wallets, jackets, perfumes, original and fake jewelry. It could turn out to be a very positive plus point for your relationship.

4. Make sure he/she has something of yours:

The mind is a beautiful organ. It works in the most organised and the most dis-organised of fashions. Once its overloaded with emotions, it stops thinking practically and only concentrates on the topic at hand. So overload his/her brain with your emotions.

REMEMBER - I will let a small secret of human brain and human psychiatry. "The eyes are the gateway for triggering memories".

Solution - Leave something personal of your with him/her. Something that they can see, touch or feel daily. It shouldn't be a photo-graph, but something more personal.

A piece of jewelry, a piece of clothing, a piece of underwear, a watch, a cellphone, etc. Something That you have used and now he/she has in his/her possession. It should be something that triggers positive memories. This way it will always help to increase love.

5. The power of Actions:

When was the last time when you suddenly praised, hugged, kissed or SMSed him/her.

REMEMBER- Actions speak more than words. A 1000 "i love you" cannot compare to a surprise hug, kiss or drive.

Thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
http://www.mindmantra.in/
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Facebook profile link - http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/mindmantra.in
Twitter profile link - http://twitter.com/#!/HemanttMittal

The price of Success - Loss of sexual power.

2011-02-24T12:22:00.000+05:30

The price of Success - Loss of sexual power.

A true story of how a Bollywood actor came out in the open to help others and arise awareness about one of the most common problems that actors, aspiring actors and many gym-goers suffer from Sexual Dysfunction.

read how, Extreme workouts, tight underwear, self-medication lead to destruction of self-esteem and manhood.

Read the true story at the following link:
http://www.mumbaimirror.com/index.aspx?page=article&sectid=15&contentid=20100513201005130300426886b1c4d88

regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM)
www.mindmantra.in
free online consultation - eksoch@gmail.com

5 myths about men

2011-02-22T13:55:00.000+05:30

5 myths about men

1. Men think about sex 24x7

Men do think about sex 24x7, but only those men who either have Obessesive compulsive disorder or extreme sexual anxiety.

The rest think about it only a couple of times within a week. Research has proved that in certain groups, women tend to spend more time thinking about sex than men.

2. Single guys are better in bed than married guys

A married man, who has treated sex as a conjugal exercise rather than focusing on his own pleasure, has greater understanding of the physical, emotional and psychological impacts of the act.

Continous discussion with his partner, helps him understand the needs of a woman, the importance of foreplay and the exstacy of orgasm.

Most single men on the contrary treat sex as just an extension of masturbation, where sexual intercourse and personal satisfaction is the only goal and vision. Most such men, fall very short of experiencing the true fun and happiness involved in the sexual act.

The idea of single men being better in bed, arises from the lack of physical fitness which most married men fall trap off. Unfortunately most married men have a tendency to gain weight. The reason for the same range from intake of high calorie food, to lack of exercise, increased consumption of alcohol and stress.

Weight gain, medical illness and stress constitute the "trio-of-sexual death" as they decrease sexual stamina, sexual performance, sexual appetite and capacity to satisfy the partner.

3. Masturbation leads to permanent weakness and fragile bones.

Semen is made up of very small quantities of fructose, magnesium, calcium, vitamin C and water. The fructose and calcium used by the body in semen is not derived from bones or teeth.

The amount of fructose and calcium used for every single ejaculate is negligible.

An individual feels light or dizzy after masturbation, because the blood circulation increases along with excitation and suddenly drops post achievement of orgasm.

Also a lot of anti-stress hormones are released that give a relaxed feeling for a few minutes to hours. This is a reasons that many people use this exercise it to get sleep.

Since majority fear to take help of anyone to battle stress, they use masturbation for the same.

4. Men with bigger feet or bigger fingers have bigger penis.

A recent study on more than 3000 volunteers world wide, proved that penis size has nothing to do with bigger hand or feet.

5. The bigger the penis, the better a woman is satisfied.

This is a myth that has been created by the porn industry. Since a woman can be judged by her breast size or her curves, the porn industry started judging men based on the penis size.

Most men forget that, most porn artists are actors. The woman is just enacting having an orgasm, while she practically feels nothing. And most men use sensation killing creams and penis enlargement surgery to perform longer.

Also most of the sex scenes are not filmed continously, but at gaps. This is edited to create the impression that is one big continous act.

Its medically proven that women only have 1 and half to 2 inches of sensitive vaginal surface. So a fully erect penis which is more than 2inches can satisfy any woman in the world.

regards,

Man Boobs or Enlarged Male Breasts - Reasons And Cures

2011-02-18T21:43:00.000+05:30

Man Boobs or Enlarged Male Breasts – Reasons and Solutions

What is popularly called as man boobs or enlarged male breasts is medically referred to as Gynecomastia. It is one of the most emotionally devastating physical conditions that a male might suffer from.

The negative effects can range from mild degree of poor self image and low self esteem, to serious problems like complete social isolation and clinical depression.

Why do they happen?

The main reason for excessive development of mammary glands or breasts in males is sex hormone imbalance.

The human brain-body complex produces both, the male sexual hormone testosterone and the female sexual hormone estrogen.

Both of them are required for maintenance of healthy skin, hair, muscle mass, virility and sexual strength.

In males the production of testosterone is many times higher than estrogen. This maintains a positive hormonal balance and promotes normal male body development.

In cases of sex hormone imbalance where there is a decreased level of testosterone or increased level of estrogen, one of the common physical manifestations is enlargement of male mammary glands or male breasts.

Solutions for reducing “enlarged Male breasts”?

1. Lower Body Fat – Accumulation of Fat is known to decrease the production of testosterone in males. This is one of the main reasons for enlargement of Male Breasts.

Solution- This requires a two step approach:

a. Decrease body fat through an adequate healthy diet specific for the problem – normally a professional doctor/nutritionist should be consulted who can guide you on diet patterns to be followed.

b. Increase testosterone level and burn fat by specific exercise patterns.

It’s important to notice that many people with this problem, erroneously under social myth, start heavy weight body-building. This in-fact only promotes more accumulation of fat and muscle within the male breasts, rather than flattening it out.

2. Medications and Supplements – We live in the era of medicines and supplements. Everything is “fortified” and “certified” to help grow better, have better memory, better hair, better face, etc.

Many over the counter medications and supplements have the major side effect of causing a sexual hormone imbalance. Most companies and vendors keep this as a secret. Majority of people come to know of the same when it’s too late.

Solution- Always check upon any medications and supplements you are taking.

3. Alcohol – The modern day social framework accepts and promotes the intake of alcohol. What normally starts as a social drink is many a times prolonged into regular intake to help battle insomnia, stress and/or body pain.

One of the effects of alcohol in the brain-body complex is decreased production of testosterone. This leads to enlarged breasts.

Solution – Decreasing the intake of alcohol helps in breast size reduction.

4. Sex hormone Imbalance – certain medical conditions cause decreased production of testosterone or increased production of estrogen. It’s important that those suffering from enlarged male breasts get a complete check up of blood sex hormone levels and proper clinical examination.

Easiest and Quickest Solution?

The easiest and quickest solution for removal of man boobs is Cosmetic Surgery. Unfortunately, it doesn’t guarantee that they won’t reoccur again.

Neuro-Protection?

Enlarged male breasts can subject a person to extreme stress and restlessness. Simple actions like wearing a t-shirt can become a very stressful task.

Making fun of such people increases their social anxiety and pushes them to become introvert and sad. Many develop a poor self image that hampers their social, professional and personal interaction.

All this sadness and depression, increases the load on the persons brain neurons. It’s important that he who is suffering from this problem is protected from the long ongoing stress, as it can cause long lasting micro-changes in the brain which can be very disastrous for positive personality development.

If you know someone who is suffering from such, don’t make fun of him, be supportive and help him battle it.

If needed consult professional counselor to help guide them.

Thank you for Reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)

Emotional, Behavioral, Memory, Sleep and Sexual (EBMSS) consultant at Mind Mantra

Consultant Neuro-Psychiatrist

http://www.mindmantra.in/

Free Online Consultation at – eksoch@gmail.com

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Masturbation Addiction

Statistics say 95% men and 87% women indulge in this activity at least once in their life...between age of 15-28yrs upto 30% get addicted to it... ironically an activity that gives instant pleasure is also one thats vastly misunderstood... Masturbation Addiction

1. What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of genitalia or sexual organs to achieve the height of sexual pleasure or orgasm.

2. Is it holy or unholy?

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Durex Sex Survey - Interesting insight into the world of Sex

Durex the international brand in sexual health products conducted a worldwide survey. And here are the results.

1. What’s your number?According to a Durex survey, men across the globe have had an average of 13 sexual partners throughout their lifetime, while women have had seven.

2. Pop your cherryThe average male loses his virginity at age 16.9, while apparently females hold off, on average, until the ripe age of 17.4.

3. Happy ending

4. In the mood for loveThe study showed that for 56 per cent of women, men’s facial hair is a strong trigger for sexual arousal. Apparently, a man with three days’ worth of stubble is more sexually attractive than a clean shaven man.

5. Weekly quotaBusy lifestyles, manic workload, hectic social life; who has time for sex every day? On a more realistic note, Durex survey showed that 67 per cent of adults have sex once a week and only eight per cent have it once a day or more.

10. Better with age65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active, with 46 per cent claiming to have sex once a week. 85 per cent feel that sex at a more mature age is less pressurised than when they were teens or young adults, suggesting that sex can get better with age (like many things in life).

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5 behaviors that scare women away - are you indulging in them? (part 1)

sex frequency - not daily

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Why do people abandon their friends when they get a boy-friend/girl-friend?

Myths about Women Sexual Satisfaction

How to be a Perfect Girl-Friend/Boy-Friend

The price of Success - Loss of sexual power.

5 myths about men

Man Boobs or Enlarged Male Breasts - Reasons And Cures

1. What’s your number?
According to a Durex survey, men across the globe have had an average of 13 sexual partners throughout their lifetime, while women have had seven.

2. Pop your cherry
The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9, while apparently females hold off, on average, until the ripe age of 17.4.

4. In the mood for love
The study showed that for 56 per cent of women, men’s facial hair is a strong trigger for sexual arousal. Apparently, a man with three days’ worth of stubble is more sexually attractive than a clean shaven man.

5. Weekly quota
Busy lifestyles, manic workload, hectic social life; who has time for sex every day? On a more realistic note, Durex survey showed that 67 per cent of adults have sex once a week and only eight per cent have it once a day or more.

10. Better with age
65 per cent of over 50s are sexually active, with 46 per cent claiming to have sex once a week. 85 per cent feel that sex at a more mature age is less pressurised than when they were teens or young adults, suggesting that sex can get better with age (like many things in life).