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Trauma – Change – Reset: Part Six

Bob — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 17:28:29 +0000

The last post shocked some of you? GOOD! The greatest single barrier to real permanent change is your ego. It doesn’t want to change anything. It will rationalize everything in order to maintain status quo. That’s it’s job. Your ego is actually like a piece of software with a single mission: Preserve, support and rationalize [...]

Trauma – Change – Reset: Part Five

Bob — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 00:25:52 +0000

This is gonna hurt! 6. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Oh, the excuses. The feeling of being overwhelmed. The hyper-sensitivity and fragile – “you could kill me with a word” – demeanor. Stop it already. That shit worked when you were five years old and not since. Unfortunately, life allowed you to keep getting away [...]

Trauma – Change – Reset: Part Four

Bob — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:19:41 +0000

How to take the “bitter pill”… Trying to organize what became a trial and error process for me is a bit challenging – but I’ve come up with a few rules of engagement. If you engage your experiences this way there’s a good chance you may realize something about yourself that could result in an [...]

Trauma – Change – Reset: Part Three

Bob — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 18:28:43 +0000

Your biggest enemy is complacency The only real advantage of contemplating change during the grieving process after the emotional trauma is that you’ve got “pain motivation” to nudge you forward. As I mentioned in an earlier post in this series there is the danger of seeking immediate relief from the “pain” that could cause you [...]

Trauma – Change – Reset: Part Two

Bob — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:57:02 +0000

Ready to swallow the pill? Okay, in order to do this you must accept this premise: You are the sole architect and engineer of your life. Everything that has happened to you is the direct result of your permission – whether consciously given or (and this is important) unconsciously given. This concept of your “giving [...]