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Alcohol causes DNA damage in mice - NHS.UK

2018-01-05T00:12:00.001+00:00

Alcohol causes DNA damage in mice - NHS.UK:

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Oxygen levels in Earth's oceans continue to drop - UPI.com

2018-01-04T23:30:00.003+00:00

Oxygen levels in Earth's oceans continue to drop - UPI.com:

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Stunning Grand Designs eco house built for just £27k burnt to the ground in New Year's Day blaze - Daily Record

2018-01-04T23:20:00.001+00:00

Stunning Grand Designs eco house built for just £27k burnt to the ground in New Year's Day blaze - Daily Record:

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Neil Findlay: Complacency about drug deaths is a scandal - The Scotsman

2017-12-31T00:49:00.001+00:00

Neil Findlay: Complacency about drug deaths is a scandal - The Scotsman:

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Lepicol nutritionist reveals how to ditch sugar in 7 days | Daily Mail Online

2017-12-30T19:25:00.001+00:00

Lepicol nutritionist reveals how to ditch sugar in 7 days | Daily Mail Online: "The simplest way to cut down on sugar is to eliminate processed foods from your diet and instead cook from scratch using whole food ingredients and lots of vegetables. This way you know exactly what is going into your food and you can adapt recipes by reducing the sugar content. You don’t need to be the best cook in the world to do this. Simple salads and soups are quick and easy to make. Or avoid slaving over a hot stove entirely and simply throw some ingredients in a slow cooker for a few hours, whilst you to get on with the rest of your day"

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Anorexic woman finds out what the disease has done to her | Daily Mail Online

2017-11-18T02:36:00.001+00:00

Anorexic woman finds out what the disease has done to her | Daily Mail Online:

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Prison life is stress filled.

2017-09-07T10:51:00.001+01:00

Prison life is stress filled.:

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Life in the Breath Lane

2017-09-07T09:42:00.001+01:00

Life in the Breath Lane:

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Erika Morvay on sugar addiction signs and remedies | Daily Mail Online

2017-09-07T04:19:00.003+01:00

Erika Morvay on sugar addiction signs and remedies | Daily Mail Online:

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The EU is having fun giving Britain the runaround — but the crunch is coming | GulfNews.com

2017-08-31T21:08:00.001+01:00

The EU is having fun giving Britain the runaround — but the crunch is coming | GulfNews.com:

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We the dissociated has been conditioned - from an early age of abuse and trauma - to expect the unexpected.

2017-01-21T10:17:00.002+00:00

We the dissociated has been conditioned - from an early age of abuse and trauma - to expect the unexpected. It is a world in motion where (sometimes sadistically) capricious caretakers and peers often engaged in arbitrary behaviour. We were trained to deny our true self and nurture a false one.

Having invented ourself, the dissociated sees no problem in re-inventing that which was designed in the first place. We the dissociated are our own creator.

Hence our grandiosity.

Moreover, We the dissociated have become a shadow self for all seasons, forever adaptable, constantly imitating and emulating, a human sponge, a perfect mirror, a non-entity that is, at the same time, all entities combined.

The dissociate is best described by the phrase: "Being and Nothingness". Into this reflective vacuum, this sucking black hole, the dissociate attracts the sources of his dissociated supply.

To an observer, the dissociate appears to be fractured or discontinuous.

Pathological dissociates has been compared to the Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly the Multiple Personality Disorder). By definition, the dissociate has at least two selves. Our personality is very primitive and disorganised. Living with dissociation is a nauseating experience not only because of what is - but because of what is NOT. We have become not a fully formed human - but a dizzyingly kaleidoscopic gallery of mercurial images, which melt into each other seamlessly. It is incredibly disorienting.

It is also exceedingly problematic. Promises made by the dissociated are easily disowned . plans are ephemeral. emotional ties - a simulacrum. Most dissociates have one island of stability in their life (spouse, family, their career, a hobby, their religion, country, or idol) - pounded by the turbulent currents of a disheveled existence.

Thus, to emotionally invest in dissociation is a purposeless, futile and meaningless activity. To the dissociate, every day is a new beginning, a hunt, a new cycle of idealisation or devaluation, a newly invented shadow self.

There is no accumulation of credits or goodwill because the dissociate has no past and no future. occupying an eternal and timeless present. A fossil caught in the frozen lava of a volcanic childhood.

The dissociate does not keep agreements, does not adhere to laws, regards consistency and predictability as demeaning traits. The dissociate hates meat one day - and devours it passionately the next.

Ten Stages is simply the direct recognition and understanding of how things actually are.

2017-01-20T22:17:00.002+00:00

Ten Stages is simply the direct recognition and understanding of how things actually are. It is the realisation of the true nature of our reality.

There are many concepts that point toward this understanding: terms such as "awakening", "non-duality", "prior to understanding", "consciousness-without-an-object", "pure being", and so forth. All these concepts are sound. But they are pointers, not the realisation itself. The realisation itself is a knowing of a different order beyond conceptual categorisation. It is radical, revolutionary, and always now. It turns everything upside down, and is a full stop in the groping of the confused thought of me.

Ten Stages leads us to the understanding of what consciousness is, and of the essential non-existence of the shadow self, consumed by fears, attachments, and cravings, who thinks that they can control things and believes they have free will; even the person who thinks they want (or need) to become enlightened.We move ourselves towards our deep simple recognition of our child within.

To a Dissociate who has suffered deep abuse "self absorption" is absorption in a falsely created shadow self.

2017-01-20T18:22:00.000+00:00

To a Dissociate who has suffered deep abuse "self absorption" is absorption in a falsely created shadow self. A true external entity. A false image. This gives a hint of explanation for the strangest thing of all about malignant Dissociates: they are as out of touch with themselves as they are with the rest of the world!

We all can get out of touch with ourselves and lose track of how we actually feel. This comes from being too intensely focused too much of the time. Especially with sedentary work. In this state, the brain learns to filter out sensation. One of the benefits of Eastern practices like Yoga and Tai Chi is that it helps us get back in touch with ourselves.

What goes on in a dissociate is essentially the same thing but to a bizarre degree.

How bizarre? Well, I'm afraid you'd have to see it to believe it.

How do dissociates get so far out of touch with themselves? We suspect they do it simply by keeping focused on something all the time. They fill the gaps between daily work and appearances before mirrors with distractions. One thing I've noticed about narcissists is that they must always be busy, busy, busy. And when there's nothing to do, they bury their nose in a book or newspaper, or they glue themselves to a TV -- anything to avoid a moment of quiet reflection. Blaring radios, sleep, TV, aimless busywork, useless reading — anything to keep burying that repressed corpus delicti (their true self) so it doesn't surface to consciousness in a moment of self awareness.

Parental Roots: a new method to understand parenthood dissociation

2017-01-20T09:28:00.000+00:00

Parental Roots: a new method to understand parenthood dissociation

Root 1 We understand our lack of control over our ability to protect our children from pain and become willing to surrender to our understanding our flight from reality into our dissociations and not our unstructured insane controls.

Root 2 We find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through understanding and an acceptance of the fact that we are never really sane as long as we are dissociated with frozen emotions.

Root 3 We reach out for help and acknowledge that we have the tools to recover.

Root 4 understanding the historical implications of ourself as a parent.

Root 5 Learn to share our parenting dissociation issues with others without self-recrimination.

Root 6 Become ready to change by giving up the demand to conform to historical broken dissociation ideals.

Root 7 Make conscious changes in our parenting by identifying and changing specific dissociation strategies for healthy parenting.

Root 8 Take responsibility for the effect our parenting has had on our children and learn the ten stages.

Root 9 Make an understanding to our children through healthy parenting without over-compensating for our dissociation behaviour.

Root 10 understand being honest with ourself and our children and create acceptance in our family for dissociation.

Root 11 Learn to accept our delimits in life and find our true path while allowing our children theirs.

Root 12 Reach out to other parents in the spirit of understanding and community.

The world of parents and caregivers struggling with dissociations that lead to addiction — their own, their parents and caregivers, their spouses — and gives us clear guidelines about how to speak to, and work with, these families. It will also help us to address the personal issues that arise for us as we begin this process of family recovery.

First it is written to help children of addicts of dissociation, their caregivers and the addicts themselves on a personal level. The term caregiver has many meanings. Sometimes the caregiver is a biological parent, sometimes it is a member of the extended family, or a foster parent, and sometimes a professional child care worker, or social worker.

What caregivers have in common is that they all have accepted the responsibility to nurture and safeguard the well being of a child. But when it comes to addiction of dissociation, in most cases, caregivers have little to no idea of the needs and issues facing children that have been impacted by dissociation and even less how to help parents/caregivers who are dissociated. All too often caregivers are themselves, untreated adult children of dissociated families, or families with abuse or neglect issues. Their personal struggle mirrors the concern and struggle now found in the sick professional community. New pathways are needed in the treatment of dissociation, and new understanding on both a professional and personal level are required, for there to be success in the treatment of parents/caregivers and the children of dissociation found within the Child Welfare, Juvenile Justice and Substance Abuse Fields.

Parental Roots is written to provide greater professional understanding for those who work with addicted parents/caregivers and their children — child welfare, juvenile justice, and alcohol and drug abuse professionals, who now need to closely collaborate, in some cases, for the first time with the parental roots system of recovery. Doing this will require a more thorough understanding of the terms utilised dissociation, the ability to identify and access services across systems, and the development of new services for treatment and training. The insider knowledge on families Who Get High has exercised us to use with our course members as we begin the process of motivating and engaging high-risk families/caregivers who are also challenged by the addiction of parental dissociation to unobtainable anarchic solutions.

At the core of all addictions is abuse.

2017-01-20T09:15:00.001+00:00

At the core of all addictions is abuse. By abuse we mean emotional loss in childhood, and in the case of severe addicts, you can see — and large-scale population studies show — that there is significant childhood abuse such as family violence, addiction in the family, sexual and emotional abuse, physical abuse, a parent being mentally ill or in jail. These adverse childhood experiences have been shown to exponentially increase the risk of addiction later on in life. That’s one set of difficult experiences.

There’s another set of difficult experiences that’s a bit harder to distinguish, and that’s not when bad things happen but when good things don’t happen. A child has certain fundamental needs for emotional development and also for brain development. If you look at the human brain, it develops under the impact of the environment. The potentials are genetically set, but which genes are turned on and off depends very much on the environment. So for example, in the case of addiction, the brain’s reward circuitry is impaired… the person’s circuits, which have to do with the chemical dopamine and which give you a sense of reward incentive and motivation, are not well-developed. Those circuits need the support of the environment to help them in their development, and the essential quality of the environment is a mutually responsive relationship with the parent or caregiver.

So in families where the parents are overly stressed or aren’t able to be emotionally present with the children, in the case of sensitive children, that can interfere with their brain development. The children will look for reward elsewhere.The Child will dissociate When we’re looking at psychological pain at the heart of all addictions and addictive behaviours, they have one intended purpose: to soothe pain or to escape from pain or stress. So whether we’re looking at the psychological side of addiction, which is needing to escape from pain or stress, or the brain physiology side, which is the underdeveloped reward circuits in the brain, we’re looking at the impact of our childhood.

The illusion of dissociation is the label of addict or alcoholic.

2016-09-27T08:48:00.000+01:00

The illusion of dissociation is the label of addict or alcoholic. Dissociation finally creates addiction and really addiction fails to exist until it is acknowledged as the addict/alcoholic. This building of the addictive personality is solely the result of dissociative thought ...I wish to escape from something, some thought, some repeated action. some trauma. These repeated action of unresolved escapism fail to work as a form of resolution spawning the addict , alcoholic as an entity in itself.Neatly avoiding the roots of addiction dissociation. This constructed new personality of addict/alcoholic exists as a separated personality. My name is....and I am an alcoholic/addict cements in place the displaced personality disorder and fails to take into account the dissociative disorder

Parental Roots is written to provide greater professional understanding for those who work with addicted parents/caregivers

2016-09-26T14:09:00.001+01:00

Parental Roots is written to provide greater professional understanding for those who work with addicted parents/caregivers and their children — child welfare, juvenile justice, and alcohol and drug abuse professionals, who now need to closely collaborate, in some cases, for the first time with the parental roots system of recovery. Doing this will require a more thorough understanding of the terms utilised dissociation, the ability to identify and access services across systems, and the development of new services for treatment and training. The insider knowledge on families Who Get High has exercised us to use with our course members as we begin the process of motivating and engaging high-risk families/caregivers who are also challenged by the addiction of parental dissociation to unobtainable anarchic solutions.

Totally out of control. It's got this life of its own, and I can't tame it any more.

2016-09-26T13:57:00.001+01:00

When you take an addictive drug for the first time — nicotine, let's say — a new agent begins to bud around that source of pleasure (i.e., the neurotransmitters that flood your brain while smoking). The agent starts out small and weak. But the more you feed it, the bigger it grows, until there are many neurons, many modules, and even other brain-agents under its influence, feeding off the nicotine and craving it in ever larger doses, co-opting your planning and reasoning skills so it can scheme about how to get more of it.

This process, of course, is extremely adaptive for us, as evolved organisms — but only when the pleasure corresponds to something of survival or reproductive value: food, sex, social status, mastery of physical skills. The fact that our brains are capable of growing agents dedicated to pursuing food and sex is essential to our survival. It's only in the modern (super-stimulating) environment that we get into trouble.

This American Life did a nice segment on addiction a few years back, in which the producers — seemingly on a lark — asked people to personify their addictions. "It was like people had been waiting all their lives for somebody to ask them this question," said the producers, and they gushed forth with descriptions of the 'voice' of their inner addict:

"The voice is irresistible, always. I'm in the thrall of that voice."

"Totally out of control. It's got this life of its own, and I can't tame it any more."

"I actually have a name for the voice. I call it Stan. Stan is the guy who tells me to have the extra glass of wine. Stan is the guy who tells me to smoke."

Note that this isn't literal speech, as in an auditory hallucination. Instead, the 'voice' is simply an agent whose influence is accessible to introspection, and thus capable of being put to words, as an imaginative/interpretive gloss. That we call them voices is simply a testament to the high level of abstraction at which these agents operate.

The world of parents/caregivers struggling with dissociations that lead to addiction

2016-08-24T08:48:00.001+01:00

The world of parents/caregivers struggling with dissociations that lead to addiction — their own, their parents/caregivers, their spouses — and gives you clear guidelines about how to speak to, and work with, these families. It will also help you address the personal issues that may arise for you as you begin this process.

we are never really sane as long as we are dissociated with frozen emotions.

2016-08-23T10:48:00.002+01:00

Stageology: We find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through understanding and an acceptance of the fact that

we are never really sane as long as we are dissociated with frozen emotions.

Stageology a new method to understand parenthood

2016-08-23T10:39:00.005+01:00

Stageology a new method to understand parenthood

Stageology We understand our lack of control over our ability to protect our children from pain and become willing to surrender to our understanding our flight from reality into our dissociations and not our unstructured insane controls.

DAD (Dissociation Addiction Disorder) is not a mental illness with a biological cause, but rather the result of a series of developmental adaptations in the brain to a difficult early life environment.

2016-08-08T12:21:00.000+01:00

DAD (Dissociation Addiction Disorder) is not a mental illness with a biological cause, but rather the result of a series of developmental adaptations in the brain to a difficult early life environment. It is now widely accepted that DAD results from chronic and overwhelming trauma and abuse in childhood, starting at a very young age, generally at the hands of a caregiver.

Although the child's parents may not have been directly involved in the abuse, there has usually been some inability on their part to help the child to process or recover from whatever trauma they have experienced. The traumatic events therefore remain sealed off - dissociated and unprocessed - from the main conscious awareness and developing identity of the child. This can result in either complete or partial amnesia for what has happened, and 'gaps' in the person's narrative account of their life. One of the principal functions of DAD is 'denial' - to allow the person to continue with life, unaware of the extreme abuse that they have suffered, by blocking it out of their memory and mind.

It is very common then that the person will grow up unaware of their traumatic history until such time as their psychological defences can no longer cope - for example, due to stress or the intrusion of current-day 'triggers'. At this point the dissociation and DAD may manifest in a much more obvious way, so that life becomes intolerable, and help or treatment is sought.

Spindle Cells and Humor

2016-07-30T19:49:00.001+01:00

Spindle Cells and Humour: Since the science of humour is in the news today, I thought I’d point out an interesting tidbit from a recent Cerebral Cortex paper: The speculation that humour may be a uniquely human cognitive trait (Bergson 1924; Caron 2002) prompted our third hypothesis: humour will activate both anterior cingulate cortex (ACC) and frontoinsula cortex (FI),…

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages

Ten Stage Recovery is an action, a choice. Recovery is not really an emotion.

2016-07-30T13:49:00.002+01:00

Ten Stage Recovery is an action, a choice. Recovery is not really an emotion.

To recover is to choose to show up to be devoted to our recovery through our course.

So often in life these days we think that Recovery is easy or that being recovered only feels good, but that is not the full extent of what recovery is – especially relationship recovery with ourselves.

We think that relationship recovery is something that must mask our true feelings, it must always be a euphoric high of some kind or that recovery must be a trade.

But that’s not what recovery is.

Recovery is a constant offering to serve to the Heart of all people you are in a relationship with. Recovery is a constant surrendering of our protective ego, so that the Heart can open even more and show you the unknown beauty of its depths in the practice of kindfulness.

Kindfulness transcends language, religion and belief systems. Love is the deepest gift that we could ever be given by someone and it’s the greatest gift that we could ever give ourselves.

KINDFULNESS is not a trade. Kindfulness is not a power trip. Kindfulness is not some grandiose expression of infatuation. Kindfulness is a humble and subtle power that guides us to grow into titans of giving.

Kindfulness asks us to see beyond the fear of ourself, to dive deeper than our ego would want us to and to not leave, even when all that is triggering us wants us to run.

Kindfulness shows up when fear is present and asks for more… Kindfulness is bigger, Kindfulness is brighter, Kindfulness is more powerful than any other force in the Uni-verse, because at the core of every cell in the Uni-verse is the deep yearning and desire to Love and be Loved.

Kindfulness does not march in with pomp and circumstance. Kindfulness whispers our intuitive voice. Kindfulness silently beckons us to get over ourselves so that we can see the beauty that lays within us and every other sacred being.

We were not sent to judge, for judgment is just a request for Kindfulness. We were sent to be kind the parts of ourselves and the world that lack kindfulness. We were sent to be the kind in the apparent voids of empathy.

We, indeed, are the answer. No one is coming, for we have already come.

Our job is to wake up to kindfulness and then be it.

Our job is to be kind.

Exploding the myths of the roots of addiction.And offering for the first time real healthy positive practical solutions

2016-07-29T07:38:00.001+01:00

Positive Healthy Growth our worldwide membership is growing larger by the moment filling our students with a positive message exploding the myths of the roots of addiction.And offering for the first time real healthy positive practical solutions
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