OK, it has been four days since my date with Robert — and he still hasn’t called. I’ve been going back and forth on whether I should call him or not. Should I call, or will I just appear desperate? Or, should I just take the hint that he’s just not that into me. I thought our date went so well — I can’t believe he hasn’t called me. Maybe he was married or gay. I finally find a guy I like, and he disappears. The losers call back so many times I have to block them in order to finally make them stop. Life can be so unfair. OK, I know reading this is probably just depressing you, and I’m sorry — but this is my dating life — either dopey or dumped.

If he doesn’t call within another day, then I think I have to call if only to satisfy my morbid curiosity. I wonder what about me he didn’t like. Maybe I can learn from it for my next date — or maybe he’s just a jerk and I should forget about him and move on to the next. Moving on from one loser to the next was much easier than giving up on a guy I really like. Please let him just call me. OK, I’ve have to go study before I get too far behind. I’ve been a slacker the past few days while engaging in self-pity. Anyone have an opinion on whether I should call him or not?

Corey

Related posts:

1. Does The “2 Day Rule” Still Apply?
2. Dating an Unemployed Person
3. Is Robert The One?

OK, so I just got home from my date with Robert — and it was amazing! He actually took me to my favorite sushi place — without even knowing it! At points, it seemed like he could almost read my mind. He’s cute, smart and seems like a really nice guy. I really don’t want to get my hopes up, but I really think he could be the one! I’m really glad my cheapskate nature drew me to the free weekend at Chemistry.com, or I never would have met him. We talked about travel, movies, food and our families — neither law nor medicine came up once which was really nice. After only one date, I really feel like I got to know him.

After dinner we went to a nice jazz bar for a drink, and I really did enjoy his company. I think I could really like this guy, but I’m waiting for the proverbial other shoe to drop. Maybe he is married. Maybe he is gay. Whenever something good arises, the pessimist in me comes out. Well, I’m going to think positive thoughts. He said he has a busy few days at school coming up, but he would call me soon. He better!

Corey

Related posts:

1. Does It Matter Where You Meet Someone?
2. I’m A Dating Dope
3. When Is It OK For A Girl To Call?

Hi everyone, my name is Corey. I’m a 23 year old girl, and I am just starting my third year of law school at a university somewhere in the Northeast (i’m not going to tell exactly where!). OK, my name isn’t actually Corey — all names on here have been changed to protect the innocent (or guilty, as the case may be). I’ve always wanted to write a blog (as if I don’t have enough writing to do as a 3L), and I couldn’t resist the invitation by DatingDope’s owners to write about my dating travails. I’ve been told I am a nice looking girl, I stay in shape and guys (pigs) are always staring at my boobs — so why am I still single? My dates seem like one disaster after the next, and sometimes I feel that I’ll never meet a decent guy.

I’m not asking for much — just a very smart, successful guy who is also good looking, dresses well, has manners and can look me in the eyes instead of my chest as we talk. OK, maybe that is asking a lot. But I refuse to settle!! My last five dates consisted of an egotistical bastard, a geek with a runny nose, a guy who wanted to talk about his last girlfriend all night, a troglodyte with an IQ hovering around room temperature and a guy who asked me to split the check with him at Bennigans. I don’t know what possessed me to accept these dates when asked, or why I attract such losers. Maybe I’m just a dating dope. Part of the reason I want to post here (in addition to the catharsis it provides) is to elicit suggestions from all of you readers on what I’m doing wrong. I am starting to get desperate here!

I have a date with — we’ll call him Robert — this weekend. He found me on Chemistry.com (I’m a cheapskate, I used it during their “free weekend” last weekend!), and he is a 25 year old medical school student. He definitely seems smart, his pictures appear cute — but I don’t want to get my hopes up. I’ll let everyone know how it goes — wish me luck!

This clip dates back to just after World War 2, and it illustrates how far we’ve come when it comes to dating and relationships. This young man gets a good bit of dating advice — starting with the admonition he should avoid asking out girls who are conceited or easily distracted. These days, that would prove to be quite limiting. Advice comes from the unseen announcer, his slick older brother and his concerned mother. Times certainly were simpler, and his stress builds as he dials her up on the family’s rotary phone. Lucky for him the rapidity of texting had yet to be invented.

Imagine transporting one of these characters from a half century ago into today’s frenetic world along with current dating norms. The lesson depicts him being a bit too shy and getting a rejection, and more amusingly being aggressive in terms of the norms of the day and similarly getting rejected. What was classified as being cocky back then would almost quality as being timid today. When he finally strikes a balance between self-deprecation and a sense of confidence he finally is able to score a date — maybe there are lessons from this clip which are still applicable today. Times may change, but deep down girls still look for the same things.

One thing that is true is that women can’t be as carefree about sex as men can be. This has societal and biological causes, and both parties should be cognizant of this fact. Women who date guys who tend to sleep around with a lot of women probably will not change — at least not immediately. Most importantly, women should not use sex as a motivator or weapon within a relationship. Outside of these general parameters, the details of how intimacy progresses within a relationship is unique to that relationship — what works with one partner might not work with a future one. Having sex early on in a relationship is not a problem in and of itself — the problem usually lay in how the parties behave after the initial sexual encounter. Take a moment and understand that no matter what you read or hear, there are only a few simple rules when it comes to this arena and the rest you must figure out on your own.

Related posts:

1. 3 Milestone Dating Conversations
2. Sleeping With Him On The First Date Can Make You A Crazy Bitch
3. Dating Advice for Women From Steven Ward

The Washington Post recently ran an expose about a new service which offers online daters — mostly male — a turnkey service allowing for dating without any of the antecedent effort. These online dating assistants will craft your profiles, select your best pictures and make contact with your targets initiating winks, IM’s and emails. These services range in price, but one salient one has packages quoted at $600 a month for 3 dates and $1000/month for a guarantee of at least 6 dates a month. The employees of the online dating assistant firm — like all true salesmen — are paid commission only for dates successfully arranged. Many are surely gagging at this concept and wondering how one is supposed to step into the shoes created by another once you meet your date in person.

It is reminiscent of the plot line of the classic movie The Truth About Cats And Dogs where a male caller develops a relationship with a female radio show host — which doesn’t translate in real life. The Washington Post piece mentions that many “high powered” types have long had their personal assistants or secretaries arrange Internet dates for them, and they see nothing wrong with this service allowing for effective time management. Others think that online dating is artificial even when the participants don’t employ “stand-ins”. One wonders if the scenario has ever happened where one online dating assistant representing a guy runs into another one representing the girl. That would give new meaning to the phrase “i’ll have my people call your people”.

Related posts:

1. At What Point Do You Take Down Your Online Dating Profile?
2. Are White Lies OK in Your Online Dating Profiile?
3. Daters Are Quite Valuable

The amusing part is that these ads are most typically targeted for the user. If your profile indicates that you are a single 20-something guy, then you will receive a constant stream of these dating ad sites with hotties invitingly beckoning you to join so they can meet you. Alternatively, if you sign up as a 55 year old female, then those dating ads will disappear only to be replaced by ads for wrinkle cream and crochet patterns. In what Facebook users considered to be a serious invasion of privacy, outside marketers would view profiles and specifically craft ads with pictures meant to appeal directly to you. If the girls were real that might be ok, but seeing they are fake that advertising approach is just plain creepy.

Related posts:

1. Facebook Is Your Dating Oracle
2. Trystana launches

IAC, operators of the Internet’s largest dating site Match.com, is taking over the management and administration of Yahoo’s dating section — formerly titled Yahoo Personals. The terms of the deal are rumored to entail a multi-year arrangement, but the economics of the transaction were not disclosed. This extends Match.com’s already huge reach within the online dating world, and according to Match.com CEO Greg Blatt, this partnership represents a “great deal” for his company. He also expounded upon the necessity of a large user base — the more users translates to the better odds of a user finding a good match. As a dating site grows it consequently becomes more effective.

Match.com is fighting off tough rivals in this ultra-competitive space including standby eHarmony and a new advertising blitz by Zoosk.com. Out of all of IAC’s many sites, Match.com has proven to be one of the most successful in terms of both economics and popularity. Dating sites provide a quantifiable and utilitarian service for its users, and current statistics show that singles under the age of 30 have a 25% likelihood of going on at least one date a month which was arranged online. Time will tell if Match.com is able to remain on top of the Internet dating mountain — history has shown that the throne within this difficult industry is hard to maintain.

Related posts:

1. Trystana launches
2. DateHookup.com review
3. No, She’s Not Real: Fake Facebook Dating Ads

Vampires are now all the rage, and many have questions when it comes to the best ways to date one. Stephen Moore, star of HBO’s True Blood, recently volunteered some advice within this arena. Speaking to a group surrounding him at the recent Hollywood shindig celebrating the premiere show of the new season, Moore conveys to women desiring to attract a vampire that they should keep their neck exposed — and eat their greens and carrots. The carrots are especially important when it comes to night vision — an ability obviously necessary if one is to adopt a vampire mate’s nocturnal lifestyle.

Moore knows what he speaks seeing he was able to attract his hot co-star, Anna Paquin, in real life. The happy couple is reportedly engaged, although no wedding date has been set. Reporters will probably be tipped off to a pending wedding reception should a local Hollywood blood bank be robbed. From True Blood to Twilight, the vampire era is officially in full swing world wide. Of course, a multiplicity of dating sites have arisen to cater to vampires — including VampireLestat.com, GothScene.com and VampireSocial.com — enabling those who like to bite to easily hook up with those who like to be bitten. Just remember to practice safe blood-drinking — if there is such a thing.

Related posts:

1. Strange Dating Custom In Japan

There are many ways to get a date, but this rather scatterbrained woman takes the cake. It all started when one of her neighbors called the police to complain about her loud music. The cops arrived and advised her to turn it down — to which she immediately complied. However, after the cops left she couldn’t help but ponder how cute one of them was, and she proceeded to embark upon one of the worst plans to get a date ever used in the history of courtship. She dialed 911 and stated that her emergency was that she had a crush on the cop and was wondering if the dispatcher had his name — or could possibly send him back over to her house.

The officer actually did return to her house, but he was neither flattered nor impressed. He proceeded to arrest her thus costing her $371 in bail and subjecting her to potential penalties including a $6000 fine and up to a year in jail. She conveyed her humiliation when she was forced to explain her actions to a judge, and this Youtube clip will ensure that she remains an object of ridicule for many years to come. People have gotten into trouble for calling 911 for all sorts of silly reasons including Burger King taking too long making their Whopper and imagined UFO sightings — but this call certainly will be the butt of jokes for quite a long time.

Related posts:

1. Sleeping With Him On The First Date Can Make You A Crazy Bitch