Value for money: 4/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 4/5 Member quality: 4/5

• The design and layout are clean and simple. The colors complement the site’s logo.
• There are two main kinds of search. You can use the one that reflects your priorities.
• You really have to sign up to get the full experience. Without paying a fee your contact with other members is heavily restricted.
• The site lacks some standard features (e.g. live chat, forums) that could help users get to know more about their prospective dates.

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If you want to get up and running on the online dating scene in no time at all, Match.com is a good choice. Unlike many of its competitors, this dating site has a very short registration form. Of course, once you are a member of Match.com, you may spend a lot of time building your profile, but it’s nice to be able to begin without devoting a whole afternoon to typing and mouse-clicking.

In the profile questionnaire, you specify your physical attributes and your personal preferences. This will allow you to be better matched up with the site’s other members. Every day, you will receive your personal “daily 5.” These members are the top 5 “matches” generated according to the information you have shared with the site. Of course, you don’t have to rely on these mechanical results. You can simply use the search function to try to locate the girl or guy of your dreams.

Searching can be done in two ways. First, you can search by standard criteria. This means that you specify things like if you are looking for a girl or a guy, what age range interests you, location, and whether or not matches must have a photo uploaded. The second type of search makes use of a matching word. You type in a word or phrase that reflects the kinds of things you’re after–for example, if you are athletic, you can search for the words “exercise” or “gym” to find likeminded souls. I found the matching word search is more helpful, as it makes it easy to quickly get right at the prime requirements of your ideal match, without having to sift through a lot of people you’re never going to be interested in.

Other features

A great feature of Match.com is that you can look for someone who has been looking for “you”. How does it work? Basically there are pre-established searches you can select which aim to look for people who have been looking for persons matching your description. So you don’t have to wait for that other person to find you–you can easily him or her. In many cases, this kind of functionality will allow you to cut the search process short. And I’m sure the other person will be surprised to find his or her dream match also interested in him or her.

Basic membership to Match.com is free. Full membership comes at a cost. What that cost is can vary considerably based on how many months you want to pay for at once. It could be as much as $40 for a single month’s membership, whereas if you pay for six months at once you will effectively reduce that monthly cost to $21. One problem with Match.com is that you don’t really get much for your free membership. You only get to flirt through “winks”. If you want any greater ability to communicate with members, you need to subscribe. Subscription allows you to send and receive messages. Isn’t that what you’re really on the site for, anyway? If you were just looking for photos of people to stare at, you could buy a celebrity gossip magazine. Subscription to the site also allows you to see who has been checking you out. I think it would be better if you could see who has become interested in you without having to subscribe—I think it’d be in the site’s interest as well as the user’s.

Site layout

The layout and design are clean, and the site colors reflect those of the logo. The focus here is placed squarely on the members and not on the web design. However, there are some fairly standard features that are obviously lacking. Aside from “winks” and email, there are no other ways of interacting with other members from within the site. There are no forums and no live chat function that will allow you to make the experience more “real” before you physically meet that special someone.

Match.com is like a speed-dating site without the chitchat and face-to-face interaction. In a short period of time, you can get to see thousands of photos and read the personality profiles of dozens of possible matches. It is up to you if you want to pursue any of them further. In real life, you can invite someone on a second date to delve more deeply into their personality; on Match.com, you have to pay for the privilege.

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What’s so great about falling in love, anyway?

The best thing about being in love for me is that it brings color and excitement to life. Most of us have had that feeling before, and it’s something that can give you a million reasons to live. Being in love makes you live outside of yourself, living and pleasing another individual to find your own happiness. Love also teaches us how to be more giving and make sacrifices. More than often we will go out of our way just to make our special someone happy. In their happiness, we accomplish our own happiness as well.

Love is also known to have the power to change the most unchangeable of people. We hear many stories about so and so being like this in the past and suddenly changing for the better. I used to know a guy who was the real scrubby type; he had no concern of how he looked or acted in front of others, whatsoever. This changed when he fell in love. We would usually see him all cleaned up, a lot more courteous to people, and other things.

I also know a guy who never had a romantic bone in his body. He was typically one of the boys; someone you would never think of falling in love. He did change, and this change came from someone he just met a few months back.

Love can’t be measured, but it can definitely be seen or felt. It is also so powerful that it not only affects the people directly involved, but the people around them as well.

Have you ever lost your best friend to another person because they were in love? It does hurt, but if you think more about it, you couldn’t really complain about it since you can see for yourself that your friend is having the time of his life.

When in love, you find more of yourself through another person. You find satisfaction in being with them, pleasing them, doing things together. The challenge of love is trying to have two totally different people live in unison with each other. If this is accomplished, then you have sacrificed yourself, your whole being, your whole humanity, all for someone else. This starts to evolve as you start to learn how to live for others, as it becomes a lifetime commitment for you.

When you start to have a family, you learn how to live for your children, and as they grow older, your responsibilities grow even more. It gets difficult, but it’s very satisfying when accomplished. This is what love teaches us, self sacrifice.

As you go back to history, you will notice that millions of men and women have died in the name of love. Some people have died for the love of their country; others have died for their love in their beliefs. Some people have given up their lives for the people they love. This is the greatest thing we can learn from love.

The best thing about it is that, it is not something you think about before you do, but something more of an impulse, a feeling, an emotion. This is much more powerful than all the teaching taught in the history of mankind.

I can say that the best thing about being in love is that it expands our humanity. It makes us complete, and that is what being human is really about. Not living for your own existence, but being a part of something much bigger. “I” becomes “you,” your erroneous zones of selfishness and greed start to deteriorate as you learn how to live for others. This is the best thing that love has to offer. And the wonderful thing about it is that loves comes back to you, inspiring you to love and give more. It’s a process that leads to the perfection of the human spirit.

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Value for money: 5/5 Features: 4/5 Design: 5/5 Member quality: 4/5

• Fun way of looking for love.
• The site has interesting and unique names for its features.
• You can’t contact people who are too different from you.

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OkCupid.com has a tongue-in-cheek approach to romance. You can enjoy not only the probable fulfilment of your quest for that special someone but also a wide variety of other features. It seems that even before cupid’s arrow hits the bullseye, the dating site’s users can spend time enjoying browsing through the pages. Not only are members able to flirt with other members, they can also take some fun personality tests while waiting for a response. Browsing profiles is no chore, either. When you visit a profile, you get to know how “matched” you are to a person–as a friend/romantic partner or even as an enemy. There are also little cutesy icons that represent the profile owner’s personality.

Other site features

OkCupid works not only with a mythological bow but with a search engine that filters the persons you want to match up with. You can choose gender, age, height, location, ethnicity, and more. This is so that you can find your ideal girl or guy within your preferences and within a sane subset of profiles. Even the people you “woo” are limited to just three a day. In other sites, you wink at your prospect instead of wooing them. THe curious names that features have is indicative of how creative OkCupid is. But what makes the site creative may also make it a little less than user-friendly. A help section for “site” terms could help. I mean, how would newbies know that “stalkers” actually refer to those people who have viewed their profiles? What if they think that these are real stalkers to beware of? The site could be discouraging people from contacting potential matches. It is like rejecting that nice guy who you keep seeing around your area thinking that he is some perv trying to attack you when you are alone.

The humorous way in which dating is handled in OkCupid makes it one of the most popular free dating sites onlnie. It gets millions of hits. So, your choice of possible matches is definitely not limited. You may expect to encounter more people with a sense of humor than on some other sites, though.

Site layout

The layout is content-appropriate. The site is definitely portrayed as a fun way of looking for love or friendship during a time when people are more pessimistic or skeptical about finding something wonderful. You can email friends or potential lovers while amusing yourself with the overall look that makes up OkCupid. However, those who are looking for live chat and forums will be very disappointed. You will have to make do with the profiles themselves and email when getting to know a person. Of course, the risk here is that they can carefully compose something that they do not really believe in. Live chats are more spontaneous and therefore, more revealing. Still, you can still find your soulmate by taking a look at the match/friend/enemy percentages provided. The service is also one hundred percent free so you can keep looking for as long as you like. There is no monthly fee that can limit your time for looking at that one special person. I sure didn’t mind browsing and taking personality tests. OkCupid can double as an entertainment venue, after all. You can also get to know more about people based on the tests, as they have them posted in their profiles.

Oh yeah, another great feature of OkCupid is that you can make sure people you don’t like don’t get to contact you at all. Of course this is not a hundred percent accurate but will depend on what people put in their profiles. A person must match you at least fifty percent to be able to contact you. This is a relief because you wouldn’t want to be stuck with people who would just delay your chances of finding “the one.”

All in all, OkCupid offers a lot for a free site. This dating site may not help you get married but it sure aims to find you someone close to what you are looking for.

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Why would not keeping secrets be a misconception? For one thing, every person is entitled to some kind of private life. In the initial stages of my relationship, I strongly believed in not keeping secrets. Unfortunately, that belief caused a strain on how we dealt with one another. I ended up forcing him to tell me everything instead of letting him tell me things out of his own free will.

When it comes to open communication, it’s important to let your loved one tell you things in their own time. Relevant revelations will come as you get to know each other more. There are some personal matters, which may take time to be told. Secrets will always be there, but in the end, it is still up to you whether to reveal them or not.

Keeping and revealing secrets is a tricky matter

Although everyone is entitled to a private life, being in a relationship requires a special level of intimacy. The secrets you reveal should be beneficial to how your relationship will develop. You don’t need to tell everything, but you certainly need to tell about things that matter to your loved one. Secrets that usually fall into this category relate to your past career choices, family dynamics, and past financial issues. The ex’s your current beau doesn’t know personally don’t need to be revealed. But if you have dated one of his friends prior to knowing him, then it’s definitely worth telling.

Of course, any human being is entitled to a private life. There isn’t a need to reveal everything about yourself to your loved one. There certainly are some secrets best kept. Such secrets usually involve issues only affecting yourself but have no direct consequences on your current relationship. The past can be kept in the past, as long as it isn’t haunting your present. Otherwise, not revealing haunting past secrets can risk your future together.

More personal secrets don’t have a strict rule in terms of their revelation. These kinds of secrets are eventually revealed when the relationship is given enough time to develop. Personal secrets involving acts we’re ashamed of can either be forgotten or forgiven (by your significant other). If you’ve reached the stage where you’re both perfectly comfortable with one another, then talking about mistakes in the past won’t be so difficult. Talking about such matters will further develop what you already have. In fact, your significant other might find it meaningful to hear these secrets. He or she will be able to learn more about you and have a better appreciation of who you are now.

In the end, keeping secrets should not get in the way of a relationship going to the next level. When revealed at the right time, secrets can make your relationship more meaningful. But if a secret is told too early, then you might have risked your future. However, certain secrets make good tests to determining if your significant other is willing to accept you for who you really are. There are parts of our past or even present that we might be embarrassed of. But if these kinds of secrets are revealed and your loved one still accepts you, then you know the two of you are on the right track.

Keeping too many secrets is another big no-no in a relationship. Sure, we have a right to a private life, but just make sure you’re not so private your lover doesn’t know who you are any more. Be consistent with what you tell them, so it won’t lead to having doubts about you and your relationship.

Trust is a tricky matter to deal with at first. But as long as you are cautious and confident in one another, then love can certainly do the rest.

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Value for money: 5/5 Features: 5/5 Design: 4/5 Member quality: 5/5

• Layout facilitates easy site navigation
• Added features guarantee opportunities for interaction among members
• Half a million Christian subscribers worldwide
• Free, private, and safe

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With the abundance of social networks and dating sites on the Internet today, the first thing I had to ask myself was, “Why should I join another one? In particular, why BigChurch?” In a moment of genuine epiphany, I recalled 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers (NIV).” Sure, there are a lot of nice women out there, but nothing compares to the joy of finding someone with the same faith and values as my own. BigChurch is aptly named with around 500,000 subscribers looking for partners to share a life in Christ with. The population of the largest single church in the country is not even a fourth of that! Becoming “fishers of men”—or in my case, women—is less likely to be a frustrating experience when you know that the fish are all going to be of a species you like the taste of.

Site layout

The layout of the website is simple, which makes it easy even for a newbie to navigate. It helps that advertising is kept to a minimum and that they are placed at strategic locations on the page, so I don’t confuse the ads with BigChurch’s features. I must say that when it comes to looks, the site still has some room for improvement to encourage members to log in more often. However, for someone like me, who is serious about finding a potential partner through the dating site, the goal itself is enough to motivate me to engage in the site’s activities on a regular basis. After all, active members, such as those who upload pictures and post blog entries, show up more often on the homepage than those who simply lurk and search.

Other features

One of the things I like about BigChurch is that it provides even the most timid person more opportunities to interact. I, for one, am not very good at self-promotion, so I feel a little uncomfortable about using up to 20 photo uploads for my profile. To get into a little more action, I can create or respond to polls, write articles for the BigChurch Magazine, and ask or answer questions posted on the advice line. For more confident and social members, there is more to like about the site’s features. While most dating sites have instant messaging features, BigChurch raises the notch a little higher by enabling live voice and video chats. There are various ways of activating the IM feature, but I use the one that runs on my browser since I am not very fond of downloading software. There is also a standalone IM which comes with an HTML version, which I would recommend to those with slower-running hard drives. As soon as I log in to BigChurch, I get to see who’s online from the homepage, and when I’m using the chat service, I can filter it to show only those who match my Dove settings.

The Dove setting is a brief description of a member’s background and lifestyle derived from his or her profile. For instance, if my Dove preferences are set to women looking for a dating relationship or marriage, who live within 50 miles from where I am, my IM service will show only those that match my preferences. Unlike regular dating sites that sometimes make me feel like they’re saying, “You’re on your own, buddy,” BigChurch makes its presence felt each time I’m online. If I find a thumbnail photo of a member interesting, I can simply point the arrow at the thumbnail, and a snippet of her profile plus our compatibility score appears. Compatibility scores are based on how well you match each other’s relationship goals and other major requirements, such as education, body type, race, and denomination, among other factors. That’s not all. The profile snippet also shows the number of miles between our cities. So if you’re not one for long-distance love affairs, it’s easy to rule them out. One thing that I haven’t quite figured out yet is how the site can ensure that a member is indeed a Christian, but I think that you will be able to verify that for yourself after establishing a connection. After all, no dating site should take away the excitement one experiences out of getting to know another person.

To sum it up, I must say that it’s not BigChurch that answers your prayers, but it certainly helps speed up the process. If you’re unconvinced, check it out for yourself. With a standard membership that will not cost you a penny, you can browse profiles of equally great individuals and chat with them. Get your free membership today.

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TRYSTANA: ONLINE DATING

TRYSTANA INC., LAUNCHES NEW SITE FOR SINGLES WHO ARE TIRED OF DATING SITES CONTAINING HORDES OF UNINTERESTED AND INACTIVE USERS

Trystana is an all new online dating platform, offering an easy-to-use and free-of-charge dating service with some very special twists:

TRYSTANA MINT: Many dating sites claim to have hundreds of thousands of users, when in reality only 5-10% of these people actually use the site on a regular basis. As a reaction to the dilemma of inactive users, Trystana created The Mint System, a pioneering program that rewards active Trystana users with an online currency called Mint. The more Mint a user has, the higher their profile will appear on Trystana searches, and the more likely they will be to find love. Mint is earned quite simply by logging in regularly to Trystana, inviting friends to Trystana via email and Facebook, filling out profile information, and uploading a user photo – everything an active user would normally do. Trystana is committed to offering a singles service to and for people that are truly interested in being involved with the singles community.

DATING LOCAL: A frequent complaint of dating site users is that they are often matched with potential partners that live in distant cities. As a reaction to the problem of distance, Trystana has pioneered a system whereby users can select a search range of 5-150 Km, ensuring that the partner they choose lives within a reasonable distance.

FACEBOOK: Although signing up only takes two minutes via the website www.trystana.com, there is also Trystana’s Facebook page, http://facebook.trystana.com, which is seamlessly integrated with the main Trystana site, meaning that users can register simply by adding the Trystana application to their Facebook account. Users can then check for suitable partners through Trystana while they use Facebook.

Registration with Trystana is fast and simple. Facebook users can simply add the Trystana application to their Facebook account, http://facebook.trystana.com, and they will be immediately signed up for an account. Users can also sign up through Trystana’s website.

As always, we’re interested in your feedback. Try it out then come back here and let us know what you think!

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The first step in becoming part of the dating world is making the choice as to what kind of dater you wish to be. If you opt to be an exclusive dater, it’s best to eye those who make the same choice. Sometimes, guys don’t explicitly tell you what kind of dater they are. For an exclusive dater, it’s best to heed the warning signs and listen to your instincts to determine what kind of dater he opts to be.

When it comes to non-exclusive daters, it is best not to expect any serious commitment during your early dating stages. Being an exclusive dater who has dated a non-exclusive type, such expectations only frustrate you and may cause strain on a potential relationship (or friendship, if things don’t go well dating-wise). Just enjoy the company you get from dating and simply let events fall into their natural place. Non-exclusive daters, in my experience, usually don’t end up in my long-term relationships but can and do make amazing friends.

Are you a non-exclusive dater, or are you willing to date one?

The world of non-exclusive daters is diverse and complicated. Having choices in the dating scene has its benefits; not only do you get to know more people better, but you also get to know a bit more about yourself. You’re able to answer a number of questions about yourself such as, “What kind of person am I to a wide range of people?”, “What kind of people do I have the best dates with?”, “What kind of people do I easily have a connection with?”

Non-exclusive dating also has its share of complications. Such complications only arise when people you date aren’t aware you’re dating someone else. When they hear it from someone else and not from you, then they get the feeling you’re hiding something from them. Mistrust early on in dating is more of a deal breaker than an ice breaker.

First dates are usually the best time to introduce yourself as an exclusive or non-exclusive dater. As long as you strongly believe in your choice and keep your date informed how you play in the field, your date will be able to respond accordingly to your choice. I definitely appreciated it more when my dates told me that I wasn’t the only one in their schedule. This allowed me to get to know them more as people, and reminded me not to take dating so seriously.

By not so seriously, I don’t mean to take for granted who you date. Dating should also be a fun experience for all parties involved, so don’t take it personally if a non-exclusive dater adds you to his or her list. Look at dating as an opportunity to get to know a wide range of people and expand your network–not solely for the sake of finding someone compatible with you.

Non-exclusive daters should also keep in mind that dating a number of people is not a practical choice in the long-term. Dating is done in order to find the right companion, and you eventually need to narrow down your choices. The non-exclusive daters I’ve met had eventually found the one girl they could have a long-term relationship with. Although dating is a fun and exciting ride, it eventually comes to a stop.

Keep in mind that although there are people who will respect the non-exclusive dating path, the people you date are doing so for a reason. Never lose sight of what you’re after. Also think about the feelings of those involved. Dating a number of people is acceptable; just make sure they all know your dating reputation and that you can manage your schedule around all of them.

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Value for money: 5/5 Features: 3/5 Design: 2/5 Member quality: 2/5

• This free dating site is a more “adult” version of Facebook.
• The design is inconsistent as each profile strives to be unique and reflective of the user’s personality.
• DateHookup is not for those looking for serious relationships.
• This site does not generate matches. You find your match through reading profiles and participating in forums.

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This site seems like a dream come true for those who want no commitments whatsoever. DateHookup.com does not only provide contacts that are game for flings, but it is also free. This means that you do not have to provide your credit card number. So, the user is totally uncommitted, not even having to commit important financial information to the site. You may even think of DateHookup.com as a sort of dating social network in the most accurate sense. It is like Facebook for those whose aim is mainly to find someone to hook up with. The homepage even operates in a similar manner. Check your personalized homepage out. There, you will see the latest activity in your area. So, you will see which guys or girls are doing the stuff that you also like doing. You will also find out where they are getting busy.

Site layout

For those who are familiar with friendship networking sites such as Facebook, the layout is easy to navigate. Just as relationships that usually form through the dating site are not that serious, the layout is informal – quite suitable. Older guys and girls who are looking for hookups may find the color and layout scheme too “teenybopper”, though. Users’ profiles are customized to the colors and font preferred. This means that the site’s developers are more interested in permitting the expression of individuality rather than consistency. Informal and inconsistent, the DateHookup site may prove to be a little untidy. Still, it works for those who just want to have their personalities posted along with their flirtiest photos. Each user can even feature his or her favorite song on his or her profile. The user’s friends are also featured on the page. So, you don’t just get to know the user himself or herself but also friends who may have the same interests.

The match up that DateHookup.com offers is no-nonsense. Users browse for possible hookups by looking at profiles that resemble those of mainstream social networks’. They get to read about the person according to what the person chooses to share. So, some may actually look for something a little deeper than a few dates here and there. Still, the match-ups are not really based on anything scientific. But hey, even in real life it is like that. You first see someone and find that person attractive. Then, once you have gone on a few dates, you get to know each other better, if that is what you are looking for. For most of DateHookup’s users though, the personality part may just be important to find someone they will have fun with. They can even pick someone who is the opposite of their personality, if that is their choice.

Forums

DateHookup also has features that allow the users to get to know some of the other members before the hookup itself. Forums provide the users a means of communication. There, they can find someone that interests them. True to the hookup focus of the site, there are even forums dedicated to dating and sex. The conversation can be very personal and even quite graphic. So, members can find those who are game for plain hookups by the way they participate in the said forums. In the same forums though, you will still find people who are actually looking for more than just a hookup. They are probably just covering more ground in terms of finding their special someone.

Overall, DateHookup is recommended to people who want to have fun. Don’t expect your soulmate here; you might get hurt. If you want to play the field or to be a little less serious sometimes, I definitely recommend this site for you. The site is not designed to provide matches. The users have to search and browse for the matches themselves. It is like a bar, but with more people in it who would like to take you home. Oh yeah, and it’s free. So no need to buy anyone drinks before actually dating them.

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While dating scams are, of course, serious business (not to mention a real evil to look out for), it’s fun to have a laugh at them too.

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The thing with money

Fights over money are usually rooted in one of two realities about today’s society. The first is that men are expected to be providers, particularly as they grow older. Fights often begin when guys are unable or unwilling to deliver on this expectation.

Another source of conflict is not even romantic, but economic. We can all agree that the recession has influenced our finances-—whether related or not to our relationships. Reality teaches us that love isn’t what makes the world go around: money does. It’s essential for survival, and if we’re concerned about survival, then love often takes a back seat. Fights stem from our frustrations with money and we take it out on our loved ones. One argument my boyfriend and I had once simply started because we had no other person to take out our financial frustrations on.

How then do we avoid these kinds of fights?

Unfortunately, the answer to that question doesn’t involve avoiding fights. Fights are inevitable in any relationship but shouldn’t be seen as threatening. As long as fights are kept a minimum, then your situation can be considered normal. Fights sometimes come from one person keeping a problem inside too long and the other misunderstanding where it comes from. It is important that you both maintain regular communication about important issues like money, so that these fights eventually just become disagreements.

Communicating regularly about money won’t be a walk in the park. For starters, guys don’t like admitting they have money problems. It took my boyfriend a year before he started being open about not having enough money. At one point, his situation got so bad that he didn’t have enough to buy lunch regularly. I only found it through his actions or whenever I would insist on going out to eat. It’s best to keep in mind this attitude of men; they won’t automatically tell you their money problems. It’s up to the ladies to see figuring it out. Once you’ve picked up that something’s up financially, bring it up gently. Remind him that you’ll be there for him and that you’ll do what you can to help him out.

Once you’re both more open in talking about financial matters, you’re ready to take conquering money battles to the next level. Whether you’re married or simply have dated long enough, it’s essential for both of you to set financial goals. Talk about your common passions and work together toward acquiring something related to that. This reminds me of a good friend of mine. She and her boyfriend are both avid fans of scuba diving, so they both save up for adventurous trips in well-known diving hot spots. This only goes to show that common goals don’t just ease the burden on your bank account-—it gives you and your loved one a rewarding and shared experience.

It’s also important to set some money aside to surprise your significant other. Everyone loves a good treat, and letting him or her know you don’t mind splurging to please will definitely improve your chances of having fewer disagreements.

Reflecting over the money issue also makes us realize that maybe in the end, it’s the money you’re really fighting with and not one another. Keep in mind that money is something you can always have when you work hard for it. But your loved one is someone unique in this world. Don’t let money get in the way of a great relationship.

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